This Guy Is Grabbing Coffee With ALL of His Facebook Friends

Why do people want to share their relationship status with others?

My sister used to ask me this question when I was in my 20's, and I always looked at her like she had two heads growing. I couldn't fathom the idea that people wouldn't want to talk about their relationship online because it felt like everyone was doing it. I mean, a study from Pew Research Center shows 8 in 10 people on social media see relationship posts, so it clearly wasn't outrageous to think it was normal.

But, that still doesn't answer why people are drawn to sharing cute little updates about their partner or relationship. Luckily, Bray has a good indication of what drives people to give others a sneak peek into their lives. "People share their relationship status for all kinds of reasons. Some want to mark their territory — nothing says 'back off' quite like a cute couple selfie! Others are just excited and proud of their partner and want to share the joy," she says. That stems from people's "need for a sense of belonging or to receive positive reinforcement from others," she adds.

But, this doesn't necessarily make people weird. It's just human nature that makes us act the way we do. "We as humans are just hard wired to seek connection, and broadcasting our connections, makes us feel more accepted and secure in our social lives."

Should couples have conversations about their social media expectations?

I don't care how hot you think someone is, you're going to have to learn how to communicate with them. It's true even if your chemistry is off-the-charts because healthy relationships don't fall out of the sky. They're built via honesty, respect, forgiveness, and other important factors.

Before assuming your partner is or isn't okay with you posting about your relationship, Bray is 100% convinced you should talk things through. "Social media is still in the wild west of relationship etiquette, and without discussions, assumptions about 'correct' behavior can run wild," she hints. For example, you could be happily posting about your partner only for someone to point out that they're not following you on social media.

"Some people are super private, while others practically live their lives online. Misunderstandings happen when expectations aren't laid out so talking about it can prevent messiness in the long run," Bray observes.

If two people have gone on a couple of dates, should one of them be upset if the other isn't publicly talking about them?

So, you swiped right on Tinder or Bumble, and you had a few amazing dates with one of your matches. Before you start publicly declaring your love for them, Bray wants you to reconsider. "Hold on! It's just a few dates! Let’s pump the brakes. The early stages of dating is not the time to make grand social declarations," she declares. As someone who tried to 'date' people from Tinder, those first few dates aren't a guarantee that you've found the love of your life.

"Posting someone on social media can feel like a big step to some people so expecting that level of public commitment too soon might be too much pressure. If you’re already thinking, 'Why haven’t they posted about me yet?' after two dates, it might be a good time to check in with yourself about where those expectations are coming from," advises Bray.

I've recovered from my former, "Is he the one" obsession so also take it from me — see where things go first and then refer back to question #2!

Is it a red flag if someone doesn't post their partner on social media?

It would be so much fun if we personally had Dustin Poynter, the flag guy, from TikTok helping point us in the right direction — but this is one of those things that errs on the subjective side. Though Bray doesn't feel it's necessarily healthier to keep your relationship private, she thinks "context matters." "Some people are just more private or feel weird about social media in general," she says.

But, that doesn't mean certain behaviors don't warrant a few eyebrow raises. She notes," If someone is super active on social—like posting about their dog’s morning routine and every cupcake they’ve ever had—but doesn't ever mention their partner, it could create a need for a deeper conversation." Before you feel justified about grilling your partner — as satisfactory as that may feel — take a second to breathe.

Bray would prefer you work to understand "why they don't post, rather than assuming your partner is keep you a secret." If you discover the latter to be true, follow your instincts and let that person go because you don't deserve that!

Do you think it's healthier for couples to keep certain aspects of their relationship private?

Everyone has a different view of what makes a romantic relationship healthy, so this is one of those things Bray says, "absolutely depends on the couple" because some "genuinely enjoy sharing their lives online." You've probably seen your share of couples who make cute content together whether they're married or not. I'd be lying if I said I don't specifically keep up with a few whose content makes me smile.

But, other couples may not be interested in sharing their relationship online because they "want to be private and keep the relationship free from the judgements or opinions of others," according to Bray. That's not to say they have something to hide, though. Instead, think of it as a personal preference.

"As long as both partners are on the same page and it’s not a source of tension, it’s all about finding the balance that works for them. If it starts to feel like a performance for likes rather than genuine connection, though, that’s where it can become problematic," Bray reminds.

How can someone bring up their partner's posting habits without sounding accusatory?

You may feel eager about posting about your partner while they're less enthusiastic and this could make you feel upset. It's easy to jump to conclusions when you're already upset, but Bray feels "tone is everything." Ironically, she suggests something I've heard in therapy sessions and that's "to be curious, not confrontational." Hopefully this stopped you in your tracks if you were ready to give your partner a piece of your mind.

"You can say something like, 'Hey, I’ve noticed we haven’t shared much about each other on social media? What’s your take on sharing stuff about us online?' It’s important to frame it as a mutual exploration of rather than a demand for a public declaration," Bray points out.

What would you tell someone who wants to emulate couples who consistently post content together?

We've all seen couples who we think have the cutest relationship, even though we've never met them before. As much as you may admire a couple, Bray thinks it's a "slipper slope" if you want to try to recreate their online moments. "I’d encourage someone to focus more on what makes their own relationship feel fulfilling, rather than chasing #couplesgoals," she encourages.

However, this isn't a sign that you're not supposed to ever share anything about your partner or relationship! "If posting together feels fun and real, go for it! But if it starts feeling like a performance or that you are in competition with other couples, it's probably good to take a step back," she warns.

Also, keep in mind that social media doesn't show you every single moment of couples' lives so don't worry about trying to look picture perfect based on a 30 second to 30 minute video.

Caribbean

San Juan, Puerto Rico

Beyond beautiful beaches like Condado Beach or Isla Verde, picturesque San Juan, Puerto Rico is absolutely worth a visit. Dollar Flight Club found flights from Atlanta starting at $138 and Los Angeles at $149. Budget guesthouses start at $70/night; mid-range hotels average $150 to $200/night. Walk through Old San Juan's cobblestone streets, visit the San Juan Bautista Cathedral, and explore the historic fort Castillo San Felipe del Morro (shown above) for free or under $10. Enjoy local flavors for $8–$15 per meal, with upscale options starting at just $25, including traditional foods like roast pork (lechón asado), arroz con gandules (rice with pigeon peas), pasteles (similar to tamales), and tembleque (coconut dessert) at one of the many restaurants in bustling San Juan.

Aruba

Known as "One Happy Island," Aruba is perfect for relaxing on the beach and exploring the natural beauty of this Dutch island. Snorkel in crystal-clear waters (Eagle and Palm Beaches are free) or hike through Arikok National Park's rugged landscapes (cost for entry just $10–$20). NYC to Aruba flights are as low as $280, according to Dollar Flight Club. Hostels and guesthouses start at $90 to $120/night; mid-range resorts average $200 to $250. The capital, Oranjestad, is picture-perfect with colorful Dutch architecture and delicious local food shacks offer authentic meals for just $10 to $15.

Cancún, Mexico

Free access to white sand beaches and natural swimming caverns make Cancun an adventure for the books. Explore the underwater art museum near Isla Mujeres, cultural landmarks like Chichén Itzá, and an incredible art scene in Tulum, plus Playa del Carmen for unforgettable nightlife. Denver to Cancún flights start at just $211. Budget hotels and hostels start at $40 to $70 per night, with mid-range options costing $100 to $150. The ADO buses are a cheap and convenient way to explore, with fares from $5 to $10. Local buses within Cancún are just under $1! Street food is highly affordable too, with tacos or tamales priced at $2 to $5 each.

St. Lucia

Flights from cities like New York to St. Lucia are $255 roundtrip. All-inclusive resorts like Bay Gardens Hotel, Rodney Bay Village are affordable stays near shops and restaurants with rates starting at $208 per night. Famous for its iconic Pitons, twin volcanic peaks that rise from the sea, St. Lucia is also a paradise for travelers who love hiking, zip-lining, and snorkeling in coral reefs. Soak in the therapeutic mud baths of Soufrière, or explore the island's tropical rainforests. The Tet Paul Nature Trail ($10 entry fee) offers stunning panoramic views of the island.

United States

The Florida Keys

All-inclusive resorts like Bungalows Key Largo, an adults-only resort located on the Florida Key’s Northernmost Island, Key Largo, (just 63 miles south of Miami), offer a tropical escape without the hassle of a passport. Find bougainvillea-draped verandas, oversized soaking tubs, outdoor garden showers, and Huffy beach cruisers to explore the island. Their Romance Package includes a Waterfront or Garden View Bungalow, chocolate-covered strawberries at your arrival, a bottle of sparkling wine, and rose petals to set the mood.;) You also get a $200 spa credit toward soothing treatments at Zen Garden Spa and a $200 credit for in-house water sports, like kayak races or Tiki boat cruises. For an extra fee, you can take a Valentine's Day Sunset Dinner Cruise on a luxury catamaran with food and music and fun.

Moab

Located between Arches National Park and Canyonlands National Park, Moab, Utah was listed on U.S. News & World Report's cheap places to travel in 2025 and for good reason. Hike among the iconic sandstone arches, bike rugged trails like Slickrock, or raft and kayak along the Colorado River for an affordable escape that feels like you'd landed on Mars. Towering 2,000 feet above the Colorado River, catch a breathtaking panorama of Canyonlands’ sculpted pinnacles and buttes at Dead Horse Point State Park, one of the most photographed places in the world. Downtown Moab features a waterfront, charming shops, local art, and delicious eateries. Stay in safari-like tents from Under Canopy for about $200/night in June or book a campground for a more rugged experience.

Gulf Shores, Alabama

This coastal gem is known for its white sandy beaches and warm Gulf waters, and it's an affordable destination for families, couples, and solo travelers. Sun-soak and swim along the iconic Gulf State Park Pier, explore free and affordable activities like hiking scenic trails or kayaking through serene backwaters. Savor delicious Southern seafood on the cheap at places like beachfront The Hangout and The Original Oyster House Boardwalk. Dolphin cruises, paddle boarding, and fun waterparks are also on the itinerary at this affordable hotspot.

Bar Harbor, Maine

Also on U.S. News's cheap places to visit is this charming coastal town and a gateway to Acadia National Park. Hike Cadillac Mountain to catch a stunning sunrise, bike along the scenic carriage roads, or kayak through the sparkling waters of Frenchman Bay. Stroll the Shore Path for breathtaking ocean views, and don’t missBar Island, accessible during low tide. Indulge in fresh lobster at local seafood shacks like Rose Eden Lobster or explore the quaint shops and storybook charm of downtown. Whale watching tours (running around $30-$70) are also a must!

Europe

Bratislava, Slovakia

Traveling to Bratislava, the capital of Slovakia, is ideal for budget-minded travelers. The city offers affordable accommodations, from budget-friendly hotels to cozy guesthouses for less than $150 per night. Stroll along the banks of the Danube River, and explore Old Town, which looks straight out of a Disney princess movie. Use the Bratislava Card to visit more than 20 museums and sites, including the famous Bratislava Castle for panoramic views of the city. Public transport is cheap and reliable, making it easy to explore too. Savor hearty Slovak dishes like halušky and goulash on the cheap at local eateries, and visit free attractions like St. Martin’s Cathedral.

Canary Islands, Spain

The best time to visit the Canary Islands, a Spanish archipelago off the coast of northwestern Africa, is October through March for warm weather and fewer crowds, and when average airline prices will run you about $300, according to Dollar Flight Club. (Look for midweek flights when prices often drop significantly.) Tenerife, the largest island, offers famous beaches and some of the best stargazing in the world. Explore the colonial architecture ofLa Laguna and La Orotava, or enjoy fresh seafood in the quiet fishing village of Garachico. The island’s volcanic interior provides stunning landscapes perfect for hiking, while Santa Cruz offers a taste of modern art and architecture. Whale watching in late fall can be enjoyed with tours like Whale Wise Eco Tours, which use solar-powered boats.

Madeira Island, Portugal

An emerging destination for travelers seeking an off-the-beaten-path experience, Madeira Island, often called the "Pearl of the Atlantic," is a stunning Portuguese archipelago located off the northwest coast of Africa. Best time to visit is in the spring for blooming landscapes. (Use layovers in also affordable Lisbon to save on airfare). Renowned for its year-round mild climate, namesake wine, and breathtaking landscapes, Madeira offers lush trails, dramatic cliffs, and exotic botanical gardens. Stroll charming cobblestone streets in the capital, Funchal, hike Pico Ruivo, swim in natural swimming pools, and savor fresh seafood in this affordable destination. In Lisbon, public transport, including the IG-worthy colorful trams and metro, is inexpensive and a great way to explore iconic landmarks like Belém Tower and Jerónimos Monastery, many of which have free or discounted entry on Sundays. Wander through the colorful Alfama District or relax at scenic viewpoints (miradouros) for free.

Prague, Czech Republic

Prague is a stunning medieval city that rivals most popular European destinations. Travel in March to May or September for fewer tourists and better prices, and check nearby airports like Vienna or Berlin for cheaper fares. The Prague Castle and Charles Bridge are all free and many hotels are cheaper than other European cities. People-watch in cozy cafés with a local delicacy like trdelník, a sugary cake, and take a free walking tour around this beautiful historical city.

Malta

This small island nation, located in the Mediterranean Sea between Sicily and northern Africa, is easy to explore, with affordable stays ranging from guesthouses to charming boutique hotels that cost less than $200 per night. Malta's Explore Card is about $25 for unlimited bus travel for seven days. Visit in spring or fall when prices are low but the weather is still perfect. Wander the ancient streets of Valletta, a UNESCO World Heritage site, or explore the medieval walled city of Mdina. Golden Bay beach and beautiful Spinola Bay are both free, or snorkel in the crystal-clear waters of the Blue Lagoon.

Asia

Bangkok, Thailand

Visit everything from bustling markets and glittering temples to rooftop bars and street food vendors in Bangkok. The Grand Palace is one of Bangkok’s most iconic landmarks for 500 baht (about $15). Inside, find Wat Phra Kaew, home to the Emerald Buddha, a highly revered statue. Damnoen Saduak Floating Market is the most famous floating market near Bangkok, where you can shop for traditional snacks and affordable gifts from boats. Take a boat ride on the Chao Phraya River; ride a tuk-tuk ride along the Khao San Road; and relax in Lumpini Park for a peaceful escape from the hustle and bustle of Bangkok (you can rent a paddleboat, enjoy a picnic, or simply take a stroll while watching locals practice tai chi). Keep an eye out for the giant monitor lizards that roam freely in the park! Visit iconic rooftop bars, like Sky Bar at Lebua State Tower, famous for being featured in the movie The Hangover 2, and Vertigo and Moon Bar, located at the Banyan Tree Hotel with stunning 360-degree views of the city.

Coron, Philippines

Traveling to the Philippines on a budget is both easy and rewarding, offering stunning landscapes and rich culture without breaking the bank. Coron, with its stunning lagoons, shipwreck dives, and affordable island-hopping tours, is a must-visit. Feast on delicious street food like pork skewers and halo-halo for just a few dollars. Visit budget-friendly yet breathtaking spots like El Nido’s lagoons, Siargao Island’s surf spots, and Banaue’s rice terraces too. Affordable accommodations, like hostels and beachside cottages, cater to frugal travelers. Public transport, such as jeepneys and tricycles, ensures low-cost travel between destinations.

Africa

Marrakech, Morocco

Watch for budget airlines from major hubs like Paris or Madrid and travel to this stunning destination with everything from the bustling souks of Marrakech to the serene Sahara Desert. Explore ancient medinas, swoon over the intricate architecture of mosques and palaces, or wander through the blue streets of Chefchaouen. Adventure seekers can trek the Atlas Mountains, while beach lovers can relax in coastal towns like Essaouira. Savor flavorful Moroccan cuisine, such as tagines, couscous, and mint tea. According to Dollar Flight Club, average prices are $310 and the best time to visit is March-April or October-November for ideal temperatures.