6 Expert-Approved Tips for Making Long-Distance Love Totally Doable

Thanks to technology, it’s easier than ever to stay connected to an S.O., no matter where you are. It might even be how you meet them in the first place. And yet, you still hear the same advice any time you bring up the idea of dating someone long-distance: “Don’t do it.”

Sure, a long-distance relationship means you might miss out on an extra-creative last-minute date night (adorable), or evenings where you stay in making each other romantic home-cooked meals (double adorable). But, according to dating and relationships coach Lindsay Chrisler, you shouldn’t be afraid to go for it just because it’s a challenge.

“Falling in love doesn’t happen every day, so if you meet someone who you see potential with, don’t write them off because they live far away,” she says. “I hate 100 percent black-and-white advice about love, because you have so many options to make it work.” (And for the record, she’s done long-distance successfully herself.)

In fact, Lindsay says there’s a key advantage that long-distance couples have over everyone else: You have no choice but to keep your own lives. “The natural instinct for everybody when they fall in love is to consume the other person and share one life,” she says. So, if there’s literally already space between you, you’re less likely to fall into that love buzz-killing trap.

The fun, warm-and-fuzzy, totally-crazy-about-this-person phase of the relationship also has the potential to stay turned on longer. “When you’re living together [or in the same city], you see each other by default, and there’s not as much choosing or desire there because they’re always around,” says Lindsay. But with long-distance, you actively have to tell them you miss them and care about them, and work more to connect. “The relationship actually gets more intimate, and you get to know each other in a different way,” she explains. But how do you make it last?

How to Make Long-Distance Relationships Work

1. You better both love talking. Lindsay says one of the biggest keys to a long-distance relationship is communication… literally. “If the chemistry is amazing, that’s great, but can this person talk? Because you’re not going to have physical intimacy and touch, you’re going to need communication, either verbal or written or Facetime.”

Of course, you can also go for some more unconventional date ideas beyond just long conversations. Lindsay suggests writing letters or watching movies together over Skype. But you might not even feel the need to get that creative. “Long-distance is really so romantic,” she says.

2. Be self-aware, and manage your own emotions. Long-distance relationships can come with a lot of anxiety and loneliness. “You want to have something to help you manage those feelings of fear,” Lindsay advises. It’s not fair to put all that on your S.O., but you don’t have to do it alone. She suggests turning to friends, therapists or professionals (like, say, your friendly neighborhood relationships expert) for support.

3. Never fight over text. It’s so easy to misconstrue meaning over text message or be accidentally passive-aggressive. “You’re going to be so reliant on texting, but everyone’s got to be really self-aware of how they’re feeling and how they’re doing, and be open,” says Lindsay. If you’re feeling lonely and not talking about it, that might come out in weird, mean ways that lead to a fight. Instead, talk about what you’re actually feeling — which is probably lonely and scared of being apart.

If you start to feel that happening, immediately stop texting and move the conversation to Facetime or Skype. “When you’re ‘in-person’ everything gets more present in reality and real,” says Lindsay. “You can go into your head for a long, long time when they’re not right there, and that’s the biggest trouble spot — being way too in your own head, and not actually in the relationship.” Also: Drunk texts can be just as damaging as they are when you’re single. Just don’t do it.

4. When you do get to spend time together, it’s still OK to take breaks. And don’t feel bad about it. They might need a break from being cooped up with you more than usual too. “There’s all this pressure to spend every moment together if you’re seeing each other just for the weekend, but if you’re feeling overwhelmed or irritable, go take space,” says Lindsay. “Go for a walk, see a friend, touch back to your old life. That space will allow the relationship to stay good, and you need to take it even if the time is limited.”

5. Know when to commit. “This is hard with any couple,” Lindsay admits. “The three-month mark, when there is a deeper commitment starting to be asked for, that’s when fears start setting in, and the realities set in of the things you might not like about the other person that you’re either going to have to accept, or let them go.” When it’s long-distance, it might take longer to get there (even as long as a year), but don’t shy away from the conversation if you’re feeling it. “Be really honest with each other and put it out on the table, and see if you’re on the same page. The key point is to keep telling each other the truth,” Lindsay stresses. And she also points out that emotional openness and honesty in a relationship isn’t usually something you’re taught; you have to learn by doing it.

6. Don’t rush into big changes. Committing to each other doesn’t mean you both have to move to the same city ASAP and start living together. “It’s a transition, so it’s going to be awkward and weird. That’s normal,” Lindsay assures us. “I like the idea of thinking of it as an experiment. Like, decide to live in the same city for three months, and see how that goes. And then if that feels good, move in together, and so on.” It can be scary to uproot your life or ask someone to uproot theirs, but making or giving into hard demands about where to take the relationship next isn’t going to help. “Everyone wants a guarantee, but there is no guarantee,” she says. “Take the next phases one step at a time. You get information every step of the way, and deal with more fear every step of the way, but they build on each other for a really great relationship if you go slow and stay honest with each other.”

And if after all that, you’re still on the fence? Lindsay’s got your back. You can schedule a free video consultation to get her take and support on your specific situation.

How do you make long-distance relationships work? Tweet us your tips @BritandCo!

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Fans of Fourth Wing are on pins and needles because Rebecca Yarros just announced she's finished writing the third book in the Empyrean series! It's us, we're fans — along with over half of BookTok.

We can't believe we're getting closer to reading more about Violet Sorrengail's journey, but we know you have a ton of burning questions about the release date for Book No. 3.

We may not have all the answers, but we've done a little digging to share as much as we can because who doesn't want to know what Rebecca Yarros has been up to?

I'm new to the Empyrean series. Are "Fourth Wing" and "Iron Flame" really worth reading?

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I'm not going to lie to you. The editorial team, including myself, are extremely biased about Fourth Wingand Iron Flame. From my perspective, I think these are great books for anyone who had the pleasure of growing up during the great Harry Potter era and moved on to watchingGame of Thrones and House of Dragons.

Did she announce the name of book no. 3?

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YES! Book No. 3 is titled Oynx Storm.

Knowing what we do about the manifestation of Violet's powers, I think this could hint she's going to play an even larger role in the series. According to a fan theory shared on TikTok(via Empyrean Riders), it's believed that Violet and Xaden Riorson are actually gods. Stay with me here.

Empyrean Riders noted that Violet's last name means heavenly and that she's able to control time thanks to her connection to the young dragon Andarna (I love her so much!). That sounds pretty god-like to me.

And when asked which two Taylor Swift songs describe Onyx Storm, Rebecca Yarros chose "Who's Afraid of Little Old Me?" from The Tortured Poets Department and "So It Goes..." from Reputation. "Who's Afraid of Little Old Me?" is one of Taylor's most powerful songs and definitely translates the idea that Violet's powers are going to be stronger than ever, while "So It Goes..." is equal parts suspense and seduction, and is TOTALLY about "all the pieces fall right into place" to get together with the right person.

There's so much more to unpack so I suggest grabbing a yummy snack while you fall down the rabbit hole. All I'm sure of is that Onyx Storm is going to leave our emotions in shambles just like Fourth Wing and Iron Flame did.

When did Rebecca Yarros announce she's done writing book no. 3 in the series?

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On June 17, Rebecca Yarros shared this image of her laptop to indicate she'd finished the third book in the Empyrean series.

She wrote, "(Pic from one of the very many locations in which this book was written)," towards the end of the caption before adding a few relevant hashtags to it.

When will Onxy Storm be available for purchase?

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Rebecca Yarros exclusively told Good Morning America that fans can expect the book to hit shelves January 21, 2025! That gives us a little over six months to prepare our emotions for what's sure to be a storm of a book.

She said, "There will be politics, new adventures, old enemies and of course, dragons." There's no way she could forget the dragons because I'd willingly riot over them. They deserve to have their stories told forever.

As luck would have it, Cosmopolitan received an exciting first look at what's to come in Onyx Storm. The excerpt begins with Violet realizing the Venin have found their way into Basgiath War College and are wreaking havoc. Alongside Rhiannon, Sawyer, and Ridoc, she races to stop the Venin from releasing Jack Barlowe from his prison cell.

However, Violet's shocked when she discovered one of the "dark wielders" has a long silver braid that closely resembles her own. Before she can fully react, the woman disappears. According to Screen Rant, there are possible theories about why Violet saw her and what this means for her growing power.

Towards the end of the excerpt, Violet discovers the Venin want to capture her too. Also, Xaden makes his long-awaited appearance and it's clear their playful banter in the face of danger hasn't changed. That he hasn't fully changed into the Venin Violet's used to seeing.

I officially can't wait to read the rest of the book in January!

Has Rebecca Yarros revealed the cover for Onyx Storm?

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Onyx Storm

Yes!

TODAY received an exclusive look at the cover for Onyx Storm and it doesn't disappoint! Unlike its predecessors, it appears Rebecca Yarros is hinting that darker events will take place.

Fans of the Empyrean series aren't the only ones who are excited to see what fate has in store for our favorite characters though. In a statement to TODAY, Rebecca revealed how elated she is to be working on the series again. "It's amazing to be back with these characters again. She also said, ""I can't wait for readers to see what Violet, Xaden, and the rest of the quadrant have in store for them in Onyx Storm!"

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Kate Winslet is THE Hollywood actress to me. Not only has she starred in box office smashes like Titanic and Avatar: Way of Water, but she's proven her acting chops in breakout indie flicks and provided mothers and daughters everywhere with eternal Christmas movie nights thanks to The Holiday. But the actress' consistently viral kindness, her dedication to embracing her natural beauty, and her sophistication don't mean she always feels confident. Kate Winslet just spilled on the one movie from her career that had her "sh—ing" herself, and I just had to dive in.

Here's what Kate Winslet had to say about her scariest movie experience ever.

  • Kate Winslet made a name for herself with Titanic, Sense & Sensibility, and The Holiday.
  • However those movies aren't the film she wants fans to ask about!
  • The actress spills on the movies she's proud of, and the one job that had her "sh—ing myself."

Talking to Vanity Fair for her newest film Lee, Kate Winslet revealed one project she wishes fans asked about more is Iris. The 2001 film stars Kate as a young Iris Murdoch against Judi Dench's older counterpart. And for Kate, nothing was more terrifying than working with such a wonderful actress.

"People don’t really ask me about Iris. It’s such a delicate film," she says. "It was the first thing I had done after having my daughter. Going to work with a baby, I’m playing Iris Murdoch, looking to Judi Dench’s older Iris Murdoch — I was sh—ting myself."

Considering how nervous I get when I meet my heroes, I can only imagine what it was like to meet Dame Judi Dench. Talk about a dream! Another film Kate loves is Revolutionary Road, and not just because she got to reunite with Leonardo DiCaprio.

"The thing that people say is, 'You got to work with Leo again.' Then they go off on the whole Leo tangent, which I totally understand," she says of the film, which follows an ambitious couple who find themselves trapped in the reality of 1950s suburbia. "But Revolutionary Road — f—king hell, it just knocked us all sideways. Unbelievably difficult material. I was very proud of that film and what Leo and I were able to create as Frank and April. It was so brutal."

The process for getting Lee into the world sounds equally brutal, considering Kate started working on it over a decade ago. As producer, Kate tells Vanity Fair she doesn't mind the fact she's done more for the film than if she only had an acting credit. "That has felt very necessary for this film. But it’s also just really important to me," she says. "It’s important to me that people know that it’s out there and might feel compelled to go and see it."

Because it turns out, commercial success or stardom on its own doesn't actually help your movie get made! "It doesn’t matter who you are," she says. "No one’s going to go, 'Oh, I’ll just back that pony because she was in Titanic.' It doesn’t happen that way, and I never expected that. That’s really important to say."

"I've gotten older and I’ve learned more and felt more confident in myself about whether or not I could actually do it," she adds. "It’s not something I would’ve done had I not felt so passionately about the subject, and Lee was just—she wouldn’t let me go."

Let us know your favorite Kate Winslet movies in the comments, and since we've officially entered cozy season, check out Why The Holiday Movie Ending Is The Most Important Scene while you're at it!

Marvel movies are known for their heroes and their hopeful outlook on the world. But in 2025, we're getting a brand new team: the Thunderbolts. This team is made up of antiheroes and former villains, and it's sure to be the wackiest and strangest, as well as one of the most memorable, superhero movies we've seen in recent years.

Keep reading for the latest news on Thunderbolts* before it hits theaters in 2025.

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Thunderbolts* comes out this May, and the cast just showed off some brand new footage at the D23 convention — and thanks to the new 'Celebrating 85 Years' spot, we have the first look too!

We get a look at Bucky Barnes, The Red Guardian, John Walker, and Ghost. Plus, Yelena Belova, of course. This heartbreaking detail about Yelena's new look connects Florence Pugh's Yelena to Scarlett Johansson's Natashaand I'm WEEPING.

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And at D23 Brazil, we got a brand new look at my new favorite team. "There’s something in this film, in terms of superpowers and superheroes, that shows that our superpowers lie in how ‘broken’ we are," David Harbour said at the event. "As if our superpowers came from our relationships.”

What is the plot of Thunderbolts?

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Thunderbolts* Plot

Consider Thunderbolts* to be The Avengers' edgy younger sibling. The movie follows Yelena Belova (who we know off the bat is a "depressed assassin" thanks to a Marvel Studios press release). She's joined by Bucky Barnes, The Red Guardian, and John Walker. Based on a leak, it looks like we'll see this group of misfits team up against Valentina Allegra de Fontaine after she sends them on a deadly mission.

Thunderbolts* Release Date

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Thunderbolts* Release Date

Thunderbolts* hits theaters May 2, 2025.

Who's on the Thunderbolts team?

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Thunderbolts* Cast

Thunderbolts* stars Florence Pugh, Geraldine Viswanathan, Lewis Pullman, Hannah John-Kamen, Wyatt Russell, Julia Louis-Dreyfus, Sebastian Stan, and David Harbour.

This is a huge cast, and Viswanathan just revealed how crazy the first day of filming was. “My first day didn’t feel real," she tells Vanity Fair. "I felt this extra pressure of, ‘Know your lines, babe. You can’t really play around like you usually do.’"

Historically, sci-fi fans haven't been kind to actresses in their favorite projects (remember when Star Wars fans bullied Kelly Marie Tran off social media?). But Viswanathan is already thinking ahead. “If it’s overwhelming, I’ll log off. But I like discourse around pop culture,” she says. “[Thunderbolts*] felt a little bit edgier and fresher, more existential and dark.”

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The rest of the cast also enjoyed working together. “Everyone is going to f—kin’ love me! It’s really, really, really fun to be with a group of actors that you have a good time with," Wyatt Russell says at Comic Con (via Variety), while David Harbour adds, “Florence Pugh [is] just electric to work with. There’s warmth and humor, but there’s also a lot of pathos.”

“This is why we can't stop laughing together, because we genuinely just had such a wonderful time with each other and we've loved working with one another," Pugh tells People. “I feel like this is something that we've never seen before from Marvel...it's a very open and honest and truthful idea. And I'm just really excited for people to watch it.”

Are you excited for this brand new chapter in the MCU? I really feel like Thunderbolts* will usher in a whole new generation of fans and I, for one, CANNOT WAIT! Let us know your thoughts on Facebook.

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