The Best Shapewear to Wear With Summer’s Trickiest Wedding Guest Dresses

Bridal Dresses

Reformation Pike Satin Dress

This dress is sleek, chic, and so perfect for fall and winter wedding vibes. Whether you're going out on a classy dinner with your girlfriends on a bachelorette trip, or you're getting ready for the toast at your rehearsal dinner, I love this satin bridal look! It's honestly the definition of "simplicity is elegance"!

BHLDN Pearl Drop-Waist Mini Dress

Maybe I'm biased because BHLDN is where I got my wedding dress, but they truly have some of the most classy and fun options out there that also aren't exorbitant in price. This dress is under $500, and would make for the perfect Bachelorette party dress! It's chic, on-trend, and so fun with the short, tulle skirt and pearl detailing.

Lilysilk The Vivi Knit Dress

Coworkers throwing you a bridal shower? This demure little number is perfect for those more modest bridal moments. You still get a fun, flirty, off-the-shoulder moment, but the tea length skirt adds a buttoned-up vibe that's perfectly appropriate. While this looks great with a pair of strappy heels, I could also see this knit number looking amazing with some tall brown boots in the fall!

Abercrombie Off-The-Shoulder Long-Sleeve Mini Dress

Having an intimate courthouse elopement? Looking for a lowkey afterparty dress? Whatever the occasion, this Abercrombie option fits the bill! I love the elegant off-the-shoulder sleeves — it gives you a great way to show off your jewelry. Plus, the mini dress will let you dance all night long to celebrate your officiated love!

Dôen Jessica Dress

This dress is that is giving vintage bridal in a unique, not-so-typical way. The contrasting black lace juxtaposes the white really well, and makes it less overtly bridal, so you can definitely wear it again! Add a vintage satin drawstring bag to really go with the throwback look!

Dôen Donetta Dress

The bridal dress of my dreams! It reaches all of the categories you could want: midi, silk, and has a beautiful bridal bow! Can't you just imagine this with a fur coat overtop for the fall and winter?! It would be truly heavenly. Wear this one for an intimate bridal event, or even a rehearsal dinner.

Reformation X Kacey Musgraves Dress

Kacey Musgraves just gets it. Her collab with Reformation was absolutely amazing, and when I saw this dress I immediately knew it would be perfect for anything bridal related. From the puff sleeves, to the lace, to the bows on the sides — it's perfection! I could 100% see this one looking incredible as a courthouse wedding option!

Abercrombie Sequin Squareneck Mini Dress

Having a GNO to celebrate your upcoming nuptials? This sequin mini dress is the perfect way to say, "Buy me a shot — I'm getting married." Whether you're having a summer soiree or a winter night on the town, it's versatile enough to match all of your bachelorette party needs!

House of CB Mesh Dress

If you're wanting a sexier option for a Bachelorette dress then this one is definitely for you! It has a more form-fitting cut with the mesh fabric and corseted bodice. Honestly, this is a 10/10 for me — I just know it's gonna look so good as we head into the fall and winter seasons!

Abercrombie & Fitch Strapless Dress

She's chic, she's beauty, and she's grace. I love the elevated and luxurious look of this bridal outfit — AND, it's on sale! To say I'm obsessed would be an understatement. This dress with a dainty clutch and slingback heel would be perfection for a reception dress!

Reformation Tetty Dress

Can I get a little commotion for the dress? This Reformation mini will have you ending your reception with a bang! The long, mesh sleeves paired with the feathered bottom makes for SUCH a fun afterparty bridal outfit! Plus, you won't have to worry about sweating too much on the dance floor with the mini skirt and the lighter sleeves. Win-win!

Dynamite Clothing Tweed Dress

I'm convinced every bride needs a tweed, mini dress for bridal season — they go well for so many different occasions. I even own one right now just because I find them so cute and wearable. For this dress, I would style with ballet flats, and a sweater over the shoulders for very French look! I can totally picture this at your bridal shower brunch where all your mom's BFFs can't stop complimenting you!

Reformation Fitz Two Piece

This is casual piece that makes you want to be a bride for just a bit longer... If I were to get married again, then this would be high up on my list since it's a two piece. You can wear it separately or together to really embrace the whole "white" and "bridal" theme no matter the setting!

Reformation Jeany Silk Dress

Another great contender for a rehearsal dinner or reception dress from Reformation! This pairing with the fur coat and mesh, black heels is divine! It' giving the most wonderful White Christmas vibes that would be so ideal with anyone having a winter wedding. Grab this chic, classy bridal outfit ASAP!

Bridal Accessories

Anthropologie Lucy Satin Pearl Bag

I love, love, love this bag. I haven't seen a purse scream "bridal" more than this! It would make for the most amazing day-of bag, or simply your bag to carry for any bridal occasion. Plus, for $110 that's a fairly good deal for how much wear you'll get out of it.

Cuyana Mini Bow Bag

Looking for something a little less showy as the pearl option? I love this understated option from Cuyana! The bow top and gold chain combo are so gorgeous together! Plus, pebbled Italian leather is gonna last you way longer than you big day!

Reformation Natasha Heels

For any bridal events, I would opt for these heels, because they are simple, clean-cute, super bridal, and very easy to wear with almost any outfit option! They are so reminiscent of 90s vintage heels that I'm constantly searching for on Ebay. I might purchase these just for a good date-night heel.

Dolce Vita Reyes Mary Jane

Looking for some flats to pair with your bridal outfits? These Dolce Vitas are perfection! The square toe and Mary Jane style are so on-trend! Plus, the profile is simple enough to go with just about every look you could throw together!

ViBi VENEZiA Bow Mary Janes

These bow mary janes seem very bridal to me, and they get bonus points for also being great for daily wear too! They're super comfortable, and give the bridal touch with the bows. And guess what?! They can count as you're "something blue"!

1. Singling Out The Bride

Witnessing your best friend, cousin, or sister get married is sure to make you sentimental because you've probably known them since childhood. But, this isn't the time to solely focus on the love you have for the bride.

"Make the toast about the couple as an entity … not just one person. Even if you find yourself a bit in the dark about your best friend's new spouse, or just not really knowing them on that deep of a level in general, that's okay," Drye says. This also applies if you don't like the other person. 👀

She also says you can echo things you've learned about about the new spouse "over the last several months/years" so that you can highlight the newlyweds in a positive way. "The couple is beginning this next phase in their lifelong journey together, and you should think of your toast as a loving send-off to both of them as a package deal."

2. Mentioning Embarrassing Stories

We get it. You've had a front row seat to the bride's shenanigans over the years and keep a mental photo book of every embarrassing moment she's had.

"Avoid overly embarrassing anecdotes, especially those that might make the couple or guests uncomfortable. There is a time and place for funny story-swapping, but this ain't it," Drye says.

Though you may think it's hilarious, talking about the time the bride pooped her pants during a hike isn't something everyone may want to hear. We're sure she's been trying to forget ever since it happened, so leave this between the two of you...and nature.

3. Bringing Up Exes Or Past Situations

The thought that someone might mention the bride's previous relationships — or even flings — make us turn red with second-hand embarrassment! According to Drye, it's a huge no-no during your Maid of Honor speech!

Drye says, "Stay clear of mentioning any of the couple’s past relationships or exes—it’s awkward and unnecessary. The toast should be about the couple and their life together -- not digging up past flames."

Seriously, the bride's parents don't need to know about any hot hookups, nor do they want to be reminded of the one person that continuously broke their child's heart. Let's leave those comments for your next girls' night debrief!

4. Making Inside Jokes

Inside jokes are cool! Most people develop them without even trying, which is what makes them so personal. But that's it — sometimes they're just too personal. "While inside jokes can be funny, they can alienate guests who aren’t in on them," Drye says.

That doesn't mean Drye thinks you can't have a little fun, though. You can mention "one inside joke for the couple," but save overly "cryptic" funny moments for one-on-one conversations.

5. Choosing The Wrong Time To Be A Comedian

There's a reason Drye keeps advising you to steer clear of too many hilarious moments during your Maid of Honor speech. "It's really staggering how many people think that the wedding toast has to be a comedy act! Of course, everyone loves to laugh, but if you're trying hard to be funny ... guess what? You're usually not," she says.

It may sound harsh, but I wish more people had someone to steer them away potentially embarrassing moments like this. You may be known for a being a lot of things, but it's important to also know your own limits.

Drye notes, "If on-cue humor is not your niche, don't force it. Take the opportunity to just do you." There's a reason you were chosen to be the bride's Maid of Honor, so embrace that instead of the amateur hour comedy routine no one asked for.

6. Mentioning Tense Family Dynamics

Weddings can highlight tense family dynamics on their own — that one cousin that's not invited, the overbearing mother-in-law, etc — but your job isn't to verbally point them out. "Don’t bring up family tensions, divorces, or any sensitive issues related to family or friends. This has never, ever served well in the history of wedding toasts," Drye says.

Let's avoid making people uncomfortable, please!

7. Reminiscing About Wild Party Days

TBH, we'd cry if someone brought up our past party days during our weddings. Although we probably have fond memories of them, we don't want our grandparents to know we shotgunned a beer with a stranger on the street that one time.

"Stories about wild college parties, bachelorette antics, or any instances involving excessive drinking or risky behavior might be entertaining for a small circle but can come off as cringe for a wedding crowd that includes parents, grandparents, and possibly children," Drye says.

Even if you're the Maid of Honor at a wedding that has a 'no children' policy, leave those memories buried for the time being. In the words of Drye, it's "not a good look" to mention them!

8. Picking At Negative Qualities Of The Bride And Groom

Everyone will send you to a Passive-Aggressives Anonymous meeting if you use your speech to poke at the bride or groom's negative qualities. Their wedding isn't an indicator that anyone thinks they're perfect, but it's also THEIR day. Let's not make them the butt of every joke, okay?

"It's a wedding toast, not a wedding roast. Even in jest, avoid highlighting negative traits or annoying habits of the newlyweds," says Drye. She encourages you to "keep the tone positive and uplighting" by only "highlighting the qualities that make them...incredible persons and friends."

In other words, don't make the bride regret choosing you to be her Maid of Honor.

9. Complaining About Wedding Costs

We know weddings can be pricey and have even talked about how to decline being a bridesmaid to one if you're budgeting. But if you choose to be the bride's maid of honor, you're accepting whatever comes with that. "Comments about how much things cost, who paid for what, or financial situations are tacky and should be avoided," Drye reminds.

You may want to check in with yourself before your speech so that you don't let your personal feelings or situation interfere with your toast.

10. Expressing Too Much Gratitude

There's a reason why awards shows start playing music when the winner's oh-so grateful speech is long-winded. It serves as a polite reminder for them to "wrap it up" so there's not any lags in the program.

"While it’s nice to thank people, it’s best not to go overboard — keep the focus on the couple. You'll quickly lose people's interest if you're just listing names," says Drye.

Remember, keep it short and cute!

11. Using Crude Language

We shouldn't have to mention this, but some people seem to think there's no problem with potty language in front of everyone they meet. Drye says, "Avoid crude jokes, swearing, or anything that could offend older guests or young children. Keep it classy!"

It's only for one day, so you'll survive if you're not saying your favorite curse word every other sentence.

12. Predicting The Couple's Future

This socially accepted thing is actually one of the red flags we should collectively toss to the side. It always starts with, "What are your plans after college" and ends with, "So when are you getting married or having kids?" Everyone's not always up to hear or answer these questions so don't use your speech as a time to make your own predictions about the couple.

"Making predictions, like when they’ll have kids or how their lives will unfold, can feel presumptuous and pressure-filled. (Not to mention the general fact that no one should ever comment on someone else's decision/ability to have/not to have children!)," Drye says.

What you can do is "wish them happiness and a bright future." Basically, leave out the weird specifics!

Talking to Vanity Fair for her newest film Lee, Kate Winslet revealed one project she wishes fans asked about more is Iris. The 2001 film stars Kate as a young Iris Murdoch against Judi Dench's older counterpart. And for Kate, nothing was more terrifying than working with such a wonderful actress.

"People don’t really ask me about Iris. It’s such a delicate film," she says. "It was the first thing I had done after having my daughter. Going to work with a baby, I’m playing Iris Murdoch, looking to Judi Dench’s older Iris Murdoch — I was sh—ting myself."

Considering how nervous I get when I meet my heroes, I can only imagine what it was like to meet Dame Judi Dench. Talk about a dream! Another film Kate loves is Revolutionary Road, and not just because she got to reunite with Leonardo DiCaprio.

"The thing that people say is, 'You got to work with Leo again.' Then they go off on the whole Leo tangent, which I totally understand," she says of the film, which follows an ambitious couple who find themselves trapped in the reality of 1950s suburbia. "But Revolutionary Road — f—king hell, it just knocked us all sideways. Unbelievably difficult material. I was very proud of that film and what Leo and I were able to create as Frank and April. It was so brutal."

The process for getting Lee into the world sounds equally brutal, considering Kate started working on it over a decade ago. As producer, Kate tells Vanity Fair she doesn't mind the fact she's done more for the film than if she only had an acting credit. "That has felt very necessary for this film. But it’s also just really important to me," she says. "It’s important to me that people know that it’s out there and might feel compelled to go and see it."

Because it turns out, commercial success or stardom on its own doesn't actually help your movie get made! "It doesn’t matter who you are," she says. "No one’s going to go, 'Oh, I’ll just back that pony because she was in Titanic.' It doesn’t happen that way, and I never expected that. That’s really important to say."

"I've gotten older and I’ve learned more and felt more confident in myself about whether or not I could actually do it," she adds. "It’s not something I would’ve done had I not felt so passionately about the subject, and Lee was just—she wouldn’t let me go."