13 Breakup Texts & Conversation Starters To Help You Navigate Messy Relationships

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Through all of the happy moments and memories you make with a partner, it's easy to forget that relationships require work. Whether you've been dating for years, or you're just starting to date, problems will arise naturally, and it's important to know how to navigate them. Depending on the nature of your relationship, it can be a real challenge to find the right thing to say when messy situations come up. You might draft countless breakup texts, set aside time to practice what you'll say out loud, or even journal about your relationship problems. Though these things can help, you may still feel confounded on how to move forward, even after consulting friends, parents, and coworkers on the issue at hand. Maybe you still haven't nailed down the whole communication thing. Well, what if you consulted AI?

Yes, AI. We know it sounds silly, but the artificial intelligence tool has already proved it can do so much, like assisting in creative brainstorms, and fueling fun projects, like how to craft your dream living spaces. Beyond the creative side, we simply got curious about how AI's problem-solving capabilities could apply to day-to-day situations – hence the scripts below. What if you just don't know how to approach things? AI could offer some help.

Though these scripts can deliver a seemingly perfect response, it's important that you consider them as a small step you can then build upon when you're communicating in real life. Prioritize being genuine and honest throughout any conversation you may be having, and offer respect where it's due.

Ideally, the following situations – from breakups to confrontations – wouldn't have to happen exclusively over text. Consider the following scripts as drafts that you can edit yourself and tailor to your specific situation. Admittedly, a few of the generated responses made us LOL, but they also hold up to what we'd say in real life, if we had to initiate a serious convo or craft a zinger text.

Scenario: My new boyfriend is only texting me back once or twice a day. It's obvious he's not as committed to the relationship as I am. What can I say to him if I'm ready to break up?

AI Breakup Text Idea: "Hey, I've been feeling like our relationship isn't quite going as we both expected it to. I know I've been really committed to this relationship, and I'm sad to say that I don't feel like you're giving it the same level of commitment. I think it's best that we break up so that we can both focus on finding someone who is more dedicated to being in a relationship. I wish you all the best."

This script does a great job at establishing and communicating personal expectations and standards for a relationship. If you're putting in your all while your partner isn't meeting you halfway, why put energy into the situation? We also like that this response is clear and kind, leaving things on amicable terms.

Scenario: I'm starting to realize that a long-distance relationship isn't for me. I'm not happy, and I feel like my partner is drifting away. What should I say?

AI Breakup Text Suggestion: "Hey, I think it's time for us to face the facts: our long-distance relationship isn't working. I'm not happy and I can tell you're drifting away. I wish you all the best, and I hope you find someone who can make you happy. Take care."

Though concise and to the point, using this script alone may feel insufficient. Of course, the way you approach a long-distance breakup may depend on how long you and your partner have been together, and you should adjust the conversation accordingly, offering more context.

It's great that this generated response acknowledges the problem at heart: that the relationship isn't working. Why isn't it working? What could make it work better? These are definitely important points to consider.

Scenario: My partner lied about their political views and I found out when I looked through their family's Facebook pages. Give me a script for what I should say to them.

AI Text Suggestion: "I noticed on your family's Facebook pages that you have different political views than what you told me. I want to understand why you felt the need to hide this information from me. Is there something that's preventing you from being open about your political views with me?"

It's always a good idea to open up a dialogue and communicate through any problems you may face in your relationships. We like that this generated script leaves things open with a question. Asking your partner questions can give you insight into their true feelings and overall perspective, and also let them know that you're interested and invested in the issue.

Scenario: My new partner and I had a miscommunication the other night, and I had no clue how to address it. Write me a script on how to talk to my partner about a miscommunication.

AI Text Suggestion: "Hey, I wanted to talk to you about something that happened the other night. It seems like there was a miscommunication between us, and I wanted to talk it through. Can we take a few minutes to talk about it now? I want to make sure that I understand what happened and that we can work through it together. Would you be open to talking it through?"

It's entirely normal to feel intimidated with confronting a new partner. When you have time to discuss, make sure that you both have each other's full attention and respect so you can really understand each other's perspectives. This script is great because the response highlights you wanting to truly understand what went down. Having a full understanding of the incident, in addition to your partner's thought processes, will provide so much clarity. Approach this situation with humility and understanding, and you're golden.

Scenario: I went through my partner's phone and caught them texting another girl when we were together. Give me a script of what to say to them to break up.

AI Breakup Text Prompt: "I'm sorry, but I can't be with someone who isn't honest and trustworthy. I noticed you were texting another girl when we were together, and that's not okay with me. I think it's best for us to go our separate ways and I wish you all the best."

Establishing personal boundaries is super important, especially if you have to break upfor unfavorable reasons. We know how intensely this situation can hurt, and it's totally okay to be emotional. If possible, maintain a calm approach to the conversation you have with the cheating partner, and insist that behavior is something you will not tolerate.

Scenario: I assumed the person I'm dating was dating me exclusively, but they've been seeing other people on the side. Give me a script for what I should say to them.

AI Breakup Text Prompt: "I'm really disappointed to hear that you've been seeing other people while we've been dating. I thought we were exclusive, and it's hurtful to find out that you weren't taking our relationship as seriously as I was. I think it would be best if we stopped seeing each other."

We like that this prompt expresses disappointment towards the other partner's behavior, because it could potentially help them realize their behavior was wrong – but, this situation is also a little bit tricky, because you had to make an assumption about the nature of your new relationship. To avoid confusion and miscommunication altogether, you could also try out the following script:

Scenario: I'm ready to take my relationship to the next level. How can I ask my partner about dating exclusively?

AI Text Prompt: "I've really enjoyed getting to know you and I'm feeling a very strong connection between us. I'm wondering if you'd be up for taking things to the next level and making our relationship exclusive. What do you think?"

Clarity is so important, especially when navigating a new relationship, so asking up front so there's no confusion is the best way to go.

Scenario: I asked my partner about finally making things official, and they said no. Write me a script on how to address this.

AI Conversation Starter: "I understand that you said no when I asked about making things official. I'm disappointed, but I respect your decision and will respect your boundaries. I'm still interested in what we have and I want to continue building our relationship. Can we talk about what this means for us, and how we can make it work? I want to be honest with you - I care about you and I'd like to take this relationship to the next level. I'm open to hearing your thoughts and feelings. Let's talk about it."

If you asked about making things official and got rejected, it's okay to be upset. You likely really enjoy being around this person, and it hurts when they don't feel the same. Even through the emotional turmoil, you should still respect the other's boundaries, which is why this script works well. Where this response could possibly fall short is its insistent nature. If you have to ask multiple times about taking things to the next level and the answer is still no, it may be time to accept the future.

Scenario: I met someone really great online, and they planned a date for us, but they ghosted me. What should I say to them?

AI Text Prompt: "Hey there, It's been a while since we planned our date, and I haven't heard from you. I'm feeling a bit confused and disappointed. I was really looking forward to getting to know you. Is everything okay? I understand that things come up, but I would appreciate it if you could communicate with me instead of just disappearing like that. I hope to hear from you soon."

We like that this response expresses the feelings you may feel when you get ghosted. It's not a fun time, and can leave you feeling really discarded. This script offers the chance for the other person to respond to your question, which can be a good starting point for a true and honest talk. Remember that they're a person too – they might be feeling nervous or scared to commit, even if it is just one date!

Scenario: I notice the person I'm dating gets angry a lot, which is something I don't like in a partner. Give me a script on what to say to break up with them.

AI Text Prompt: "Hi, I've been giving this a lot of thought lately and I think it's time that we take a step back and end our relationship. I appreciate the time we have spent together, but I have noticed that you have been getting angry a lot, and this is something I don't feel comfortable with in a partner. I hope you understand my decision and I wish you the best. Take care."

Though you don't always need to explain yourself, providing a reason for why you may not be ready to commit fully to the relationship may help the other person realize their own qualities and faults. Of course, you're human too, so take this time to reflect on yourself and how you approach relationships.

Scenario: My ex is hung up on me, says they can't move on, and keeps texting me. What should I say back?

AI Prompt: "I understand that it is hard for you to move on, but I think it's important that we both take the time needed to heal. I think it's best if we don't keep in contact for a while, so we can both focus on ourselves. I hope you can find peace."

We like this generated response because it proposes that you and your ex need some true time away from each other. You broke up for a reason! If they can't move on and are finding their way to you through text or social media, it may be time to hit that block button. This response still maintains kindness which is helpful in mature problem solving. Then again, this person crossed your personal boundaries, so you don't always owe them your nicest self.

Scenario: My best friend has been cheating on her partner behind their back. I am the only one who knows. Write me a script on what to say to her to address this.

AI Text Prompt: "Hey [best friend], I hope you're doing well. I wanted to talk to you about something that's been on my mind.

I know you're in a relationship, and I'm sure you're committed to making it work. But I need to tell you something that I think you deserve to know. I'm worried that you're cheating on your partner behind their back. I don't want to accuse you of anything, but I think it's important that you know what I've seen and heard. I don't want to be a part of anything that could hurt your relationship, and I want to make sure that you're being honest with both yourself and your partner.

I care about you and I want to be there for you. Please let me know if you need to talk about anything."

We like that this generated script has zero accusations up front, but still opens up the conversation about your bestie's behaviors. You only want the best for your friend, so expressing worry from a respectful distance is a good starting point. Of course, situations will vary, so it's important to retain honesty the whole time. This prompt also avoids you inserting yourself in a relationship that's not yours. Whether your friend addresses the problem with her partner is unfortunately up to her only.

Scenaro: It's time to break up with a friend who isn't matching my efforts in the relationship.

AI Breakup Text Prompt: “Hey, I hope you're doing okay. I don't really know how to say this, but I think it's time for us to go our separate ways. I still care about you a lot and I'm going to miss all the fun times we've had together, but I think it's time for us to move on. I wish you all the best in your future endeavors. Take care.”

This generated response is pretty vague, so we really don't recommend hitting send on this one. Think through what might be drawing you and your friend away from your friendship, then directly address those reasons in your conversation. If you've been close friends for a while, leaving the friendship without explanation can leave your friend feeling lost and confused, leading to more problems.

All outputs were generated by the OpenAI API Playground.

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Sometimes we're looking for love in all the wrong places — and sometimes we're just looking for love in all the wrong ways. That's where your rising sign can come in. In this week's Ask An Astrologer column with Lumi Pelinku, our reader feels like they just can't find their footing romantically. Luckily, Lumi has the best relationship advice — and it all starts with your rising sign! Here's how you can use your own rising sign to level up your romantic life!

Juan Pablo Serrano

Dear Lumi: Will I ever be worthy of being loved romantically? I have never been in a relationship, and I’m scared I will never be. I have so much love to give, but I don’t think I’ll ever have the chance to show it.

Bean, Illinois

  • Sun sign: Virgo
  • Rising sign: Cancer
  • Moon sign: Gemini

Yuri Manei

Dear Virgo: I understand where you're coming from, as many people feel this way these days. Here’s a little personal story from my journey: In my early 20s, I was pretty inexperienced in love and pressured by societal expectations to settle down by 30. Sigh...

I went to great lengths to attract a partner, even dabbling in spells and misleading manifestation techniques. Please tread carefully if you're trying this. Instead of finding true love, I drew a series of “ghosts” and situationships. I felt I had so much love to offer, but it all led to emptiness and eventually a toxic relationship with someone I thought was my soulmate, but turned out to be my karmic partner. There’s more to this story, but let’s save it for another time.

The end of that relationship led me to discover the essence of self-love and self-acceptance, eventually stepping into my own worth. Astrology has become a guiding light for me in that regard — and can be for you, too.

​Let’s Talk About Your Rising Sign & How It Defines Your Relationship Standards

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In astrology, examining your rising sign can offer profound insights. With Cancer rising, your soul yearns for deep, emotional connections. Creating a biological or soul family may bring you joy and fulfillment. Opposite Cancer is Capricorn, which governs the 7th house of your birth chart — the area that reveals the type of partners you need and what you should embody to feel complete, whether you’re with someone or not. A Capricorn-ruled 7th house suggests that a structured, secure, and straightforward partner will align with your needs. If you find yourself in a relationship that feels stagnant or uncertain from the start, it’s a sign that you’re not embodying Capricorn’s qualities, and it might be time to move on.

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Your natural tendency to give and care deeply for others stems from a place of genuine concern and desire to ensure everyone’s well-being. However, it’s crucial for you to seek security from within. Feeling at home in your skin and living in the moment are great starting points.

Avoid individuals who offer unrequited love or broken promises. You may have an intuitive sense that you might overlook — trust it. By becoming more aware of your physical and emotional responses to others, you can discern between genuine connections and energy-draining situations. Establishing a practice of quiet reflection and observation can facilitate understanding the root of your heightened emotions.

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The core message here is to build security within yourself and extend grace and understanding to yourself throughout your journey. It’s perfectly okay to be single right now; you're worthy of attracting a partner who will cherish all of you. To find the love of your life, you must first love yourself — not in a self-centered way, but by honoring your own needs and boundaries. Saying no to situations and people not aligning with your sensitive soul will make you stronger than you realize. The Universe will respond with an endearing relationship by practicing this because you’ve learned to honor yourself.

With Love and Stars,

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​How Your Rising Sign Cultivates Self-Acceptance and Attracts the Love You Need

Alexander Mass

Like an outfit, your rising sign showcases your personality, identity, and perception of the world. What if I tell you that the rising sign can also attract the love you need in your journey? Think of your rising sign as your energy and how you embody it. It's the mirror we carry, and by our energy, we can keep it clean and pristine or murky and distorted. Sometimes, we cannot stand what we see in ourselves, and that channeled energy emanates outward, creating distortion-filled experiences. When this happens, you lose your 'main character' energy, which results in you leaving your life to chance rather than writing your chapters. When you embody complete self-acceptance and happiness within yourself, these are the key ingredients in powering up your rising sign and your 7th house.

As you begin to feel at peace, love, and harmony to the best of your ability, this will attract what you desire in your life and in love. The world will respond and reflect back all that we project. It’s that simple. Our rising sign is responsible for this active energy, and learning how to master it, will be the key to help you understand the nature of your personality while also attracting your dreams. The ascendant is the portal of your experiences, good and bad. Now that we understand the gist of the rising sign, let's explore your rising sign and how you can tap into your main character energy.

​Love Alchemy: How Your Rising Sign Shapes Relationships

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Aries Rising

Aries Rising radiates a bold, adventurous energy, often attracting equally spirited partners. To attract the love of their life, they should embrace their assertiveness and passion. By channeling the competitive energy of their 7th house (Libra), they can cultivate harmony in relationships without sacrificing their individuality. Self-acceptance means recognizing their fierce independence while being open to collaboration and compromise. The dynamic energy of Mars empowers them to attract a partner who admires their fiery spirit yet values partnership.

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Taurus Rising

Grounded and sensual, Taurus Rising can attract lasting love through their nurturing nature. Their 7th house energy in Scorpio encourages depth and intensity in relationships. To manifest their ideal partner, Taurus Rising must embrace their inner beauty and the pleasure of self-care. By embodying their desire for stability and security, they can project an aura of comfort and reliability, making them irresistible to those seeking genuine connections. Venus, their ruling planet, enhances their allure, helping them draw the right kind of love.

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Gemini Rising

With a quick wit and charm, Gemini Rising attracts partners through intellectual stimulation. Their 7th house in Sagittarius encourages exploration and adventure. To attract their soulmate, they should openly embrace their duality and communicate their needs and desires. Their self-acceptance journey involves acknowledging their inquisitiveness while finding ways to ground themselves in relationships. Mercury, their ruling planet, sharpens their communication skills, enabling them to draw in a partner who shares their passion for life and learning.

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Cancer Rising

Cancer Rising embodies warmth and nurturing energy, making them deeply appealing to potential partners. Their 7th house in Capricorn requires a balance between emotional depth and practical commitment. To attract a lasting love, Cancer Rising should accept their need for security while being open to vulnerability. Utilizing their emotional intelligence to discern their connections creates a safe space for love to flourish. The Moon, their ruling planet, enhances their intuition and empathy, helping them attract a partner who values their nurturing nature and ambition.

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Leo Rising

Confident and charismatic, Leo Rising draws people in with their radiant energy. Their 7th house in Aquarius encourages them to seek uniqueness in relationships. To draw in the love they need, Leo Rising must embody self-love while giving space for individuality. By embracing their creativity and leading with generosity, the Sun, their ruling planet, inspires them to attract a partner who appreciates their vibrant spirit and shares their vision for a progressive, loving partnership.

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Virgo Rising

Practical and detail-oriented, Virgo Rising has a unique charm that attracts partners seeking stability and support. Their 7th house in Pisces invites them to explore relationships' emotional and spiritual aspects. Virgo Rising should love their imperfections and the beauty of vulnerability to attract an epic partnership. By cultivating self-acceptance and finding joy in the little things, Mercury, their ruling planet, helps them draw in a partner who appreciates their grounded nature while encouraging emotional exploration.

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Libra Rising

Charming and harmonious, Libra Rising attracts partners through their innate ability to create beauty and balance. Their 7th house in Aries prompts them to be more assertive in love. Libra Rising must embrace the desire for partnership to attract their ideal partner while also recognizing the importance of self-identity. Being bold in expressing their needs will ignite their main character energy, as Venus, their ruling planet, empowers them to draw in a partner who values connection and independence.

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Scorpio Rising

Intense and magnetic, Scorpio Rising naturally attracts people with their enigmatic presence. Their 7th house in Taurus urges them to seek relationship stability and loyalty. Scorpio Rising should tap into their emotional depth and learn to communicate openly to attract the love they desire. Valuing their worth is vital to mastering their life path. By engaging in self-love and finding a balance between their passionate nature and a desire for security, Pluto and Mars, their ruling planets, will manifest in attracting a partner who appreciates their intensity and commitment.

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Sagittarius Rising

Adventurous and free-spirited, Sagittarius Rising attracts partners through their love of exploration and philosophy. Their 7th house in Gemini encourages communication and curiosity in relationships. To attract their ideal love, Sagittarius Rising has to tap into their quest for knowledge while remaining open to commitment. By cultivating self-worth and expressing their authentic self, Jupiter, their ruling planet, guides them in drawing in a partner who shares their passion for adventure and intellectual pursuits.

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Capricorn Rising

Disciplined and ambitious, Capricorn Rising manifests partnerships through their drive and determination. Their 7th house in Cancer encourages them to explore emotional depth in relationships. To attract lasting love, Capricorn Rising should tap into their nurturing side and allow themselves to be vulnerable. By practicing self-love while balancing their ambitions with emotional availability, Saturn, their ruling planet, aids them in attracting a partner who admires their strength while valuing emotional connection.

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Aquarius Rising

Innovative and independent, Aquarius Rising draws in partners with their unique perspectives and humanitarian spirit. Their 7th house in Leo invites them to ignite creativity and passion in relationships. Aquarius Rising must acknowledge their desire for freedom while recognizing the value of connection to attract the love they desire. By embodying their authentic and unique self, Uranus, their ruling planet, inspires them to draw in a partner who appreciates their individuality and shares their vision for a better world.

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Pisces Rising

Dreamy and compassionate, Pisces Rising attracts partners through their empathetic and intuitive nature. Their 7th house in Virgo encourages them to seek practicality and service in relationships. To attract true love, it's vital for Pisces Rising to embrace their sensitivity while grounding themselves in reality. By practicing self-love and setting healthy boundaries, Neptune and Jupiter, their ruling planets, will manifest a partner who appreciates their depth and aligns with their desire for meaningful connections.

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Understanding your rising sign can be a powerful tool for self-discovery and personal growth. Exploring your ascendant's unique traits and energies will help you get to know yourself and all its shades and how you navigate love and relationships. This awareness empowers you to embrace your authentic self and enables you to identify patterns that may hold you back. As you align with your rising sign's essence and ruling planet, you can cultivate more happiness and confidence, opening pathways to attract meaningful connections and experiences that resonate with your true essence. Embracing your rising sign invites you to step into your main character energy, allowing you to write your story with intention and authenticity.

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Now that Halloween is officially over, it’s time to lean into all things holiday cheer. My favorite way to get into the Christmas spirit is decorating my space to match all the cookie decorating parties, gift wrapping sessions, and holiday cocktail hours to come this winter. But I’m one to do this on a budget – I often hit the thrift store for Christmas decor. When I’m not there, I’m scouring Amazon for pieces that are cute, but still take it easy on my wallet.

These are the best Amazon Christmas decorations I found that don’t cost an arm and a leg, but rival styles you’d find at more upscale stores like Anthropologie and Nordstrom:

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Peiduo Small LED Light Birch Trees

These tiny trees lit by twinkly LED lights are perfect for topping your mantle or dinner table. I think they add just the right amount of whimsy to your space, no matter how you decorate with them! They're not necessarily Christmas-specific, either. Their simple design allows you to spruce 'em up in all kinds of ways year-round. Similar pieces at Target and Anthropologie range from $21 $68 for one tree, but you can get two trees for just $25 on Amazon right now.

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Plaid Throw Pillow Covers

Plaid – specifically red plaid – is timeless when it comes to Christmas decor. It never fails to make a space extra cozy! These 18x18-inch covers are perfect for throw pillows on your bed and couch alike. You can snag this set of 2 in a few other holiday-ready colorways for just $10, and they'll likely last you a while with the right care.

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    Artgar Real Touch Pine Garland

    If you have a mantle, use it! A mantle is prime real estate for Christmas decorations like stockings, candles, and cards – but none of that is truly complete without a good garland! This 6-foot faux pine garland can easily span your mantle to fill in any negative space and simply make things cozier. It comes with attached LED lights (no wall plug necessary, just a few batteries) as well as pinecone accents to make the garland itself feel fuller. Plus, $30 isn't so bad for a statement piece like this!

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    Vintage Bow Decorative Tray

    This piece reminds me of a tray Pottery Barn Teen and LoveShackFancy sells in their collaborative collection, except it literally costs $60 less. It's not a total dupe, but the one thing it does have in common is bows: the most adorable reference to gifting season! I think this $9 pick could be so cute as a serving platter for Christmas desserts or even as a festive catchall you keep on your coffee table throughout the holidays.

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    Kate Aspen Retro Floral Drinking Glasses

    The intricate design on these green-tinted glasses really has me hooked. They'd look so good with any sort of Christmas party tablescape – as long as you're sipping Christmas cocktails out of them! A similar set of 6 is currently being sold on Quince for $48. This one's only $26.

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    We live in a "post your relationship so we know it's real" landscape, and I'd be lying if I said it hasn't made me wonder if there's a larger conversation to be had about it. Some people don't feel the need to post their romantic partner while others share their relationships in a way that rivals the best celebrity couples.

    Everyone's different, but it's not not unheard of to question your partner's devotion if they're not posting you on Instagram. You may feel justified in your anger because "so and so" are always in cute pictures and videos together on social media — but are your feelings valid? The best person to answer this is licensed therapist Suzette Bray, LMFT. She has over 25 years of specializing in Dialectical Behavior Therapy, and she's seen this topic come up plenty of times during sessions with clients, so grab a pen and paper to take notes!

    Why do people want to share their relationship status with others?

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    My sister used to ask me this question when I was in my 20's, and I always looked at her like she had two heads growing. I couldn't fathom the idea that people wouldn't want to talk about their relationship online because it felt like everyone was doing it. I mean, a study from Pew Research Center shows 8 in 10 people on social media see relationship posts, so it clearly wasn't outrageous to think it was normal.

    But, that still doesn't answer why people are drawn to sharing cute little updates about their partner or relationship. Luckily, Bray has a good indication of what drives people to give others a sneak peek into their lives. "People share their relationship status for all kinds of reasons. Some want to mark their territory — nothing says 'back off' quite like a cute couple selfie! Others are just excited and proud of their partner and want to share the joy," she says. That stems from people's "need for a sense of belonging or to receive positive reinforcement from others," she adds.

    But, this doesn't necessarily make people weird. It's just human nature that makes us act the way we do. "We as humans are just hard wired to seek connection, and broadcasting our connections, makes us feel more accepted and secure in our social lives."

    Should couples have conversations about their social media expectations?

    Katrin Bolovtsova

    I don't care how hot you think someone is, you're going to have to learn how to communicate with them. It's true even if your chemistry is off-the-charts because healthy relationships don't fall out of the sky. They're built via honesty, respect, forgiveness, and other important factors.

    Before assuming your partner is or isn't okay with you posting about your relationship, Bray is 100% convinced you should talk things through. "Social media is still in the wild west of relationship etiquette, and without discussions, assumptions about 'correct' behavior can run wild," she hints. For example, you could be happily posting about your partner only for someone to point out that they're not following you on social media.

    "Some people are super private, while others practically live their lives online. Misunderstandings happen when expectations aren't laid out so talking about it can prevent messiness in the long run," Bray observes.

    If two people have gone on a couple of dates, should one of them be upset if the other isn't publicly talking about them?

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    So, you swiped right on Tinder or Bumble, and you had a few amazing dates with one of your matches. Before you start publicly declaring your love for them, Bray wants you to reconsider. "Hold on! It's just a few dates! Let’s pump the brakes. The early stages of dating is not the time to make grand social declarations," she declares. As someone who tried to 'date' people from Tinder, those first few dates aren't a guarantee that you've found the love of your life.

    "Posting someone on social media can feel like a big step to some people so expecting that level of public commitment too soon might be too much pressure. If you’re already thinking, 'Why haven’t they posted about me yet?' after two dates, it might be a good time to check in with yourself about where those expectations are coming from," advises Bray.

    I've recovered from my former, "Is he the one" obsession so also take it from me — see where things go first and then refer back to question #2!

    Is it a red flag if someone doesn't post their partner on social media?

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    It would be so much fun if we personally had Dustin Poynter, the flag guy, from TikTok helping point us in the right direction — but this is one of those things that errs on the subjective side. Though Bray doesn't feel it's necessarily healthier to keep your relationship private, she thinks "context matters." "Some people are just more private or feel weird about social media in general," she says.

    But, that doesn't mean certain behaviors don't warrant a few eyebrow raises. She notes," If someone is super active on social—like posting about their dog’s morning routine and every cupcake they’ve ever had—but doesn't ever mention their partner, it could create a need for a deeper conversation." Before you feel justified about grilling your partner — as satisfactory as that may feel — take a second to breathe.

    Bray would prefer you work to understand "why they don't post, rather than assuming your partner is keep you a secret." If you discover the latter to be true, follow your instincts and let that person go because you don't deserve that!

    Do you think it's healthier for couples to keep certain aspects of their relationship private?

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    Everyone has a different view of what makes a romantic relationship healthy, so this is one of those things Bray says, "absolutely depends on the couple" because some "genuinely enjoy sharing their lives online." You've probably seen your share of couples who make cute content together whether they're married or not. I'd be lying if I said I don't specifically keep up with a few whose content makes me smile.

    But, other couples may not be interested in sharing their relationship online because they "want to be private and keep the relationship free from the judgements or opinions of others," according to Bray. That's not to say they have something to hide, though. Instead, think of it as a personal preference.

    "As long as both partners are on the same page and it’s not a source of tension, it’s all about finding the balance that works for them. If it starts to feel like a performance for likes rather than genuine connection, though, that’s where it can become problematic," Bray reminds.

    How can someone bring up their partner's posting habits without sounding accusatory?

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    You may feel eager about posting about your partner while they're less enthusiastic and this could make you feel upset. It's easy to jump to conclusions when you're already upset, but Bray feels "tone is everything." Ironically, she suggests something I've heard in therapy sessions and that's "to be curious, not confrontational." Hopefully this stopped you in your tracks if you were ready to give your partner a piece of your mind.

    "You can say something like, 'Hey, I’ve noticed we haven’t shared much about each other on social media? What’s your take on sharing stuff about us online?' It’s important to frame it as a mutual exploration of rather than a demand for a public declaration," Bray points out.

    What would you tell someone who wants to emulate couples who consistently post content together?

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    We've all seen couples who we think have the cutest relationship, even though we've never met them before. As much as you may admire a couple, Bray thinks it's a "slipper slope" if you want to try to recreate their online moments. "I’d encourage someone to focus more on what makes their own relationship feel fulfilling, rather than chasing #couplesgoals," she encourages.

    However, this isn't a sign that you're not supposed to ever share anything about your partner or relationship! "If posting together feels fun and real, go for it! But if it starts feeling like a performance or that you are in competition with other couples, it's probably good to take a step back," she warns.

    Also, keep in mind that social media doesn't show you every single moment of couples' lives so don't worry about trying to look picture perfect based on a 30 second to 30 minute video.

    If you feel that your partner doesn't post you enough on social media, talk to them before launching into an angsty rant because your assumptions might not always be right. I wish someone would've shared this advice 10 years ago, but all that matters is knowing you don't have to let being upset about your partner's lack of relationship posts be the reason your day is ruined.

    The problem arises when your partner doesn't seem receptive to talking about your concerns because dismissive or evasive attitudes are a no-no!

    We have more relationship advice if you're looking for more romantic tips and tricks!

    We might not have a royal couple here in the U.S., but as far as I'm concerned, Taylor Swift is the people's princess! Taylor and Travis Kelce are at the absolute top of their games right now (hello Eras Tour and Super Bowl ring!), and they're absolute masters at privacy, meaning they only let us see exactly what they want us to. That’s why when they go on the record about their relationship, it’s a huge deal. (Because let’s be real, it’s always adorable when a couple gushes over each other). Here’s everything this power couple has said about each other — and some other FAQ's like "How did Taylor and Travis meet?" and "What did Travis Kelce say about Taylor Swift?" you might have asked yourself recently.

    Everything Taylor Swift & Travis Kelce Have Publicly Said About Each Other

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    July 26, 2023 — Travis Kelce Expresses Interest In Taylor

    After Taylor's Eras Tour show in Kansas City, Travis told his brother on an episode of New Heights that he had hoped to give her a friendship bracelet displaying his phone number. "I was disappointed that she doesn’t talk before or after her shows because she has to save her voice for the 44 songs that she sings," he joked. "So I was a little butt-hurt I didn’t get to hand her one of the bracelets I made for her."

    “I said what I said,” Travis later told NFL's Andrew Siciliano. “And I meant what I said when I said it.”

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    October 22, 2023 — Taylor Swift & Travis Kelce Basically Hard Launch Their Relationship

    You know what they say: a picture's worth a thousand words. After lots of rumors, dates, and car rides, this kiss on the cheek was all the confirmation I needed that these two are serious!

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    November 11, 2023 — Taylor Swift Changes The Lyrics To "Karma"

    While Travis Kelce was in the audience during the Eras Tour, Taylor changed a "Karma" lyric from "Karma is the guy on the screen coming straight home to me" to "Karma is the guy on the Chiefs coming straight home to me." Yeah, it's safe to assume I freaked the freak out.

    Even though Travis revealed he had a clue Taylor would change the lyrics, he was still super surprised. "Definitely when I heard it come out of her mouth, [it] still shocked me," he said. "I was like...'Oh, she really just said that, alright.'"

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    November 20, 2023 — Travis Kelce Calls Taylor Swift "Mind-Blowing"

    “I’ve never been a man of words. Being around her, seeing how smart Taylor is, has been f—king mind-blowing," Travis Kelce tells the WSJ Magazine. “Obviously I’ve never dated anyone with that kind of aura about them…But at the same time, I’m not running away from any of it…She’s just living, enjoying life. When she acts like that I better not be the one acting all strange.”

    Even Donna Kelce had something to add! “I can tell you this,” she says. “He’s happier than I’ve seen him in a long time… God bless him, he shot for the stars!”

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    December 6, 2023 — Taylor Swift Reveals When She And Travis Actually Started Dating

    Travis wasn't the only person who spilled on their relationship in a cover story! While speaking to TIME, Taylor revealed that the public's perception of their relationship timeline was (and had always been) way off.

    “We actually had a significant amount of time [together] that no one knew, which I’m grateful for, because we got to get to know each other," she said in the interview. "By the time I went to that first game, we were a couple. I think some people think that they saw our first date at that game? We would never be psychotic enough to hard launch a first date.”

    Taylor also mentioned how they "show up for each other" and that they're "just proud of each other."

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    January 28, 2024 — Taylor Swift & Travis Kelce Are Caught Saying "I Love You"

    After Travis Kelce and the KC Chiefs won the Super Bowl, Taylor and Travis had some celebrating to do. The first order of business? Saying those three special words!

    According a post-game video, Travis says, “Tay, I'm going to enjoy with the guys I love you," Travis says in a post-game video, "so much it’s not even funny.” And it appears Taylor responds with, “I love you too... I’ve never been so proud, EVER.”

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    February 5, 2024 — Travis Kelce Says What We're All Thinking

    After Taylor Swift announced The Tortured Poets Departmentwould drop on April 19 (and won Artist of the Year at the Grammys for the fourth time), Travis revealed that he'd already listened to some of the music.

    "She's unbelievable, she's rewriting history books herself," he said during a press conference. "I told her I'll have to hold up my end of the bargain and come home with some hardware too...It's been fun to kind of gather the Swifties in the Chiefs' kingdom and open them up to the football world and the sports world."

    "I have heard some of [Taylor Swift's new album], yes, and it is unbelievable," he continued. "I can't wait for her to shake up the world when it finally drops."

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    March 8, 2024 — Travis Kelce Gushes Over Taylor Swift (Again)

    After spending some 1:1 time together in Australia (and getting hounded by the paparazzi), Travis Kelce had one easy answer for why this couple is so popular: “This is all because Taylor is the biggest and the best thing possible."

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    April 2, 2024 — Travis Kelce Has Never Been Happier

    After a winter and spring full of amazing moments, Travis Kelce revealed just how happy he is with life. "I'm the happiest I've ever been," Travis Kelce told People. "I'm a guy that some people say is glass half full, half empty, and my glass is all the way full. It's all the way full...I'm oozing life right now."

    And when asked about his relationship with Taylor, he hypes up how dedicated they both are to their crafts. "I think we both love what we do and any chance that I can show my support to her — knowing that she has shown me all the support in the world throughout the season — it’s just been an amazing experience getting to know Tay," he says in an interview with Entertainment Tonight.

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    April 10, 2024 — Even Travis Kelce Doesn't Know Why Taylor Swift Is Dating Him

    During an April episode of New Heights, Travis admitted he doesn't quite understand how he's dating everyone's favorite popstar. "I don't know how I did it because she wasn't into sports," he says. "So I don't know how the f—k I did it."

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    April 19, 2024 — Taylor Swift Finally Releases Songs Rumored To Be About Travis Kelce

    Okay this one might require you to suspend your disbelief for a little bit, but there is NO WAY "The Alchemy" and "So High School" aren't about Travis. Especially after Taylor Swift started mimicking his on-field moves during her concerts!

    With lyrics like "Call the amateurs and cut 'em from the team" to "We've been on a winning streak / He jokes that it's heroin, but this time with an 'E'" in "The Alchemy" (which I think is about how Taylor literally made his game better) and "Truth, dare, spin bottles / You know how to ball, I know Aristotle" is "So High School," you'll never be able to convince me they're about anyone else.

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    April 27, 2024 — Travis Kelce Gave Us A DTR On His Relationship With Taylor Swift

    When Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce arrived at the 15 and Mahomies Foundation Golf Classic in Las Vegas, I don't think Travis intended to confirm his relationship status with the popstar — or to auction off tickets to her concerts!

    “I think I was just talking to my significant other, and we might have one other alternate item that wasn’t on the docket," he says (via People). "Um, has anybody heard of the Eras Tour?” The crowd was super excited, and they raised $80,000!

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    June 1, 2024 — Travis Kelce Comments On Viral Engagement Rumors

    The internet has been talking about Taylor Swift's engagement (or lack thereof) for literal years, and it appears Travis and Taylor's IRL friends are talking about it too. During the Big Slick Celebrity Weekend's onstage comedy sketch Jason Sudeikis asked, "Hey Travis, real talk, OK, just the guys here...When are you going to make an honest woman out of her?"

    "Guys," Travis responded, "you're really pushing it." Good on you Travis.

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    June 22, 2024 — Taylor Swift & Travis Kelce Finally Go Instagram Official

    When Taylor Swift posted a selfie from the London Eras Tour with Prince William, Prince George, and Princess Charlotte, not only was she showing off her new friends but she also went Instagram grid official with Travis (a move she hasn't pulled since 2016!)

    "Happy Bday M8!" Taylor captioned the photo. "London shows are off to a splendid start."

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    September 3, 2024 — Taylor Swift Literally Drafts Plays For The Chiefs

    Travis Kelce nonchalantly revealed that Taylor Swift started drafting plays for him, and I NEED to know if and they use them! “She’s a little biased and just creates plays for me," Travis tells the Rich Eisen Show. “She had just been so open to learning the game, she didn’t know much about the rules or anything…I think she was just curious about the profession...I know none of the plays have gotten to Coach Reid yet, but if they ever do I’ll make sure everyone knows it was her creation."

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    September 11, 2024 — Taylor Swift Calls Travis Kelce Her Boyfriend On Live TV

    During the VMAs, Taylor Swift accepted the award for Video of the Year for "Fortnight," and thanked Travis Kelce for his involvement — and confirmed they were boyfriend and girlfriend!!!

    "Something that I'll always remember is when I would finish a take and I'd say ‘cut,’ and we'd be done with that take, I would always just hear, like, someone cheering from across the studio where we were shooting it, and that one person was my boyfriend, Travis," she says. "Everything this man touches turns to happiness and fun and magic. So, I want to thank him for adding that to our shoot because I’ll always remember that."

    ​How did Taylor and Travis meet?

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    In his WSJ profile, Travis Kelce revealed he had his own assists when it came to connecting with Taylor.

    “There were definitely people she knew that knew who I was, in her corner [who said]: Yo! Did you know he was coming? I had somebody playing Cupid," he said — which he found out when Taylor contacted him. “She told me exactly what was going on and how I got lucky enough to get her to reach out."

    How long have Taylor and Travis been together?

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    Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce have been together since summer or early fall 2023. After Travis' friend "played Cupid" and they started talking, they were basically already a thing by the time she showed up to that first Chiefs' game in September 2023!

    What is the age difference between Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce?

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    Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce are only two months apart. Travis was born on October 5, 1989, and Taylor Swift was bornon December 13, 1989.

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    Zoë Kravitz and Channing Tatum made headlines for their whirlwind romanceafter they met while making Zoë's directorial debutBlink Twice. Fans were so excited to learn they were engaged, but on October 29, multiple sources reported that the couple had broken up — and called off their upcoming wedding. Here's a look back at their relationship timeline.

    Zoë Kravitz And Channing Tatum's Relationship Timeline

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    February 10, 2017 — The Lego Batman Movie Premieres

    Glimmers of their love story began in 2017 when Zoë Kravitz and Channing Tatum lent their voices to the hit animated film, The Lego Batman Movie. Little did they know that this animated connection would pave the way for their real-life love story a few years later.

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    Summer 2021 — Zoë Kravitz And Channing Tatum Work Together Again

    Kravitz was all set to work with Tatum in her directorial debut film P*ssy Island. This creative endeavor brought the two closer, both personally and professionally, setting the stage for a unique partnership. While working on the film, Tatum advised Kravitz not to take on too much, showcasing the supportive and collaborative nature of their relationship. Both stars had nothing but praise for each other's work and creativity.

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    August 2021 — Zoë Kravitz Gets A Fresh Start

    At the start of 2021, Zoë Kravitz divorced her former spouse, eventually sparking rumors a possible romance with Channing Tatum. This marked the potential for the beginning of their exciting journey as a couple, with their personal lives becoming increasingly intertwined. August was a pivotal month for these two, too. Channing Tatum showed his love and support by following various fan-run Instagram accounts dedicated to Zoë Kravitz. It wasn't long before their relationship made its way into the public eye. And hello, did you see that Brooklyn bike ride? It was clear this couple was meant-to-be kinda cute from the beginning!

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    September 13, 2021 — Zoë Kravitz And Channing Tatum Make Their Red Carpet Debut

    The couple made their debut — stepping up and out at the iconic Met Gala, a night filled with glamour and romance. Their joint appearance in multiple after party pictures confirmed their blossoming relationship to the world. Kravitz wore a sexy chain dress, while Tatum looked incredibly handsome in a black tux.

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    November 15, 2022 — Zoë Kravitz Calls Her Relationship With Channing Tatum "Sacred"

    In a GQ interview, Zoë Kravitz opened up about her relationship with Tatum. She shared that they chose to keep their love story relatively low-key, wanting to keep it sacred and private for as long as possible. “He’s just a wonderful human," she says. "He makes me laugh and we both really love art and talking about art and the exploration of why we do what we do. We love to watch a film and break it down and talk about it and challenge each other."

    “You want to keep it sacred and private as long as you can,” Kravitz continues. “So that you don’t have to even think about what the world thinks about it.”

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    January 17, 2023 — Channing Tatum Says He's A "Monogamist"

    Channing Tatum candidly discussed the early days of his relationship with Zoë Kravtiz in Vanity Fair, revealing they briefly lost touch before rekindling their connection on the set of P*ssy Island. He also opened up about his struggles in matters of the heart.

    “Relationships are hard for me,” Channing says. “I am a bit of a monogamist...but heart things, when it comes to people I love, I have a really hard time. I end up trying too hard, you know?”

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    June 2023 — Zoë Kravitz And Channing Tatum Are Taking Things Slowly

    Sources close to the couple revealed to US Weeklythat Zoë Kravitz and Channing Tatum were in no hurry to get engaged, as both had experienced failed marriages before. "They are perfectly happy with where things are and cherish [their] special relationship," the source says. "Having a baby is a very real possibility. But they enjoy taking things slowly."

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    October 31, 2023 — Zoë Kravitz And Channing Tatum Are Engaged!

    After a romantic date night in Paris during Fashion Week, Zoë Kravitz and Channing Tatum are getting married! In October, the lovebirds finally took the next step and got engaged, per PEOPLE, promising a future filled with love and adventure. YAY! We love love!

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    January 26, 2024 — Channing Tatum Supports Zoë Kravitz' New Movie

    Channing recently took to Instagram to show his support of Zoë directing Blink Twice (formerly named P*ssy Island) and even shared a cute BTS video of them looking intently at a scene being filmed. "MISS DIRECTOR LADY HERSELF IN ACTION!!" he says in the caption. "ABSOLUTELY CRUSHING IT. CAN’T WAIT FOR YALL TO SEE."

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    March 4, 2024 — Zoë Kravitz And Channing Tatum Are Doing "Fantastic"

    "Channing and Zoë are doing fantastic and could not be more in love," a source tells ET. "They’re so thrilled about their engagement and to be taking this next step together." The fact that *they're* excited about their engagement makes *me* even more excited for them!

    August 9, 2024 — Zoë Kravitz And Channing Tatum Attend The Blink Twice Premiere

    Look out world because Zoë Kravitz and Channing Tatum have officially stepped out on the red carpet together! They stunned in gorgeous, minimalistic black ensembles at the premiere of Blink Twice and made us wish we could've been specks of dust on what they were wearing.

    Zoë wore a satin Saint Laurent dress and kept the rest of her look simple while Channing took dapper to the next level with a tailored black suit. Honestly, this is one sexy couple whose engagement rumors we hope are true.

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    August 14, 2024 — Lenny Kravitz Is Excited For Zoë's Wedding

    Fans may be surprised to know Zoë Kravtiz and Channing Tatum didn't know each other before she shared her idea for Blink Twice. Spending time together snowballed into the romantic relationship they have today, but wedding bells aren't ringing soon. Though her dad, Lenny Kravitz announced he's excited for the couple's wedding (via Entertainment Tonight), Zoë admitted that she and Channing have talked about it "in passing," (via Esquire).

    Also, you might want to erase the image of Zoë being a mother from your brain because she doesn't think she'll be taking on that role. It's something she used to be scared to admit, but feels more comfortable talking about these days (via Esquire).

    "There’s a lot of pressure on women to have children, and there’s a feeling that if you don’t, you don’t have purpose here. But this movie, it feels like I gave birth," she said.

    October 29, 2024 — Zoë Kravitz And Channing Tatum Have Broken Up

    Multiple sources told People that Channing Tatum and Zoë Kravitz have split after three years together, and called off their wedding. "The split is amicable," one source says. "They realized they're at different stages in life." TMZ also confirmed the breakup.

    “Wedding plans were looming, but neither of them were rushing to the altar,” a source told Us Weekly, adding that their relaxed mindset ended up putting "a lot of pressure" on them. “Ultimately once [Blink Twice] ended, they realized they were on different pages with what they wanted. It fizzled fast after their press tour wrapped.”

    A Page Six source reaffirms that the relationship ended on good terms, and even says the couple has “been in touch” and has “no bad blood” between them. “There was no dramatic falling out between Channing and Zoë. They really just grew apart and decided it was best for them to go their separate ways,” they say. They "both handled the breakup very maturely [but] came to a mutual realization that they were better off friends than romantic partners.”

    Despite the breakup, another Page Six source says that Zoë Kravitz had a blast at a Halloween party. “She was in a good mood and seemed really happy,” they say, remembering that she was “dancing all night and having cocktails...having a great time” and “was so cute and nice.”

    ​What are Channing Tatum & Zoë Kravitz ages?

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    Channing Tatum was born on April 26, 1980, making him 43 years old. Zoë Kravitz (who's 35 years old) was born on December 1, 1988, so there's an 8-year age gap between the two.

    Looking for more celeb news? Be sure to sign up for our email newsletter and if you love Zoë Kravitz and Channing Tatum's relationship, check out the latest news on Tom Holland And Zendaya and Taylor Swift And Travis Kelce!

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