What Should You Be When You Grow Up?

Taylor Swift moved to Nashville when she was 13 to focus on her music career. Michael Jackson was a prodigy at age five. And even Albert Einstein displayed early excitement around becoming a scientist after his dad gave him his first compass as a young boy — apparently, as soon as that happened, he couldn’t stop thinking about magnetic fields and the force they have on the world.

But most of us have no idea what we want to do in life — even in our 20s and 30s! So how come some of the “lucky ones” feel such a strong gravity towards a career at a young age, when the rest of us are stuck with extreme anxiety for decades?

After a few years of thinking through my own journey to what I now consider my “dream job,” I’ve realized that the answer might actually be right in front of you.

Let me explain.

Like the majority of my friends growing up, I changed my mind about what I wanted to do in life every couple of years. At first it was a veterinarian, then an inventor, writer/author, orthopedist, geneticist, broadcast journalist, advertising creative, photographer and nanotechnologist. Now if those careers aren’t all over the board, then I don’t know what is!

Ultimately, by the time I got to college, I settled on the fact that I should go to Silicon Valley and participate in the Internet boom. I figured that would at least lead me somewhere interesting.

To get my feet wet with the tech world, I even started two companies in college: Median Media, a media consulting company that connected tech startups with the college crowd; and FundHole, or as I now like to call it, the original Kickstarter. (Terrible name, I know, but at least the idea was on point… just 5 years too early! Dangit.)

Once I graduated from school, I fast-tracked it to San Francisco to work at places like Apple and Google. And while I loved the tech world (and still do), I still didn’t think I had found my dream job yet. I felt incomplete.

Some of you may have read my story about starting Brit + Co already, but just to paraphrase, it took me a good six months of NOT working to find what I loved to work on. I naturally gravitated towards all the things that interested me most before I realized how they could intertwine to become a business.

And suddenly, it all made sense!

Brit + Co would be a company based on creativity — something I am not only personally passionate about continuously building within myself, but also something I thrive on helping others ignite within themselves.

It would be a media property, and I would not only get to write and edit, but also oversee creative teams like design, photography and video. I would get to tell stories in all kinds of mediums.

I would use all the latest modern technologies to make this a digital media company in order to quickly grow faster than my competition. I’d leverage my inherent understanding of web/mobile, social networks, viral growth, data analytics and more to do so.

One slant on our brand voice would be that we cover innovation — new products and technologies that matter to our core demographic of women.

My early vision was that we would also one day create our own product innovations. It’s something we haven’t done yet, but that I’m still excited about down the road. (Stay tuned!)

And of course, I made the bold and extremely vulnerable decision to use my face and name in the brand. Let it be known that I did NOT choose to do this because I wanted to be some sort of celebrity. It was because I truly felt that today’s brands did not actually connect with their audiences of the Social Media Generation. Having a real, authentic face and name behind a brand means that you are putting your own reputation on the line. It is still sometimes very uncomfortable for me, but I have never regretted adding such humanness and reality to Brit + Co.

Being “the brand” has also meant that I’ve had to learn to become skilled at live TV performances, public speaking, modeling and more.

And finally, when creating Brit + Co, of course I decided that my title would be Founder and CEO. For better or for worse, I would be running this company and would have full responsibility for its success or failure.

Okay, so how does that story relate back to the point of this post — helping you better determine what you should be in life?

If you don’t have the flexibility to take six months off work to see where your natural inclinations lead you, then try looking back at your past.

Here’s the same story synopsis from my thoughts of founding Brit + Co, this time interlaced with proof points from my childhood on why I should have known this was the dream job for me:

Trader Joe’s carries much more than groceries – from skincare goodies to alcohol, you can find some pretty neat stuff between their aisles. You’re going to want to make a beeline to their home goods section ASAP though, because TJ’s just dropped a delightful $4 tomato-scented candle that’s being compared to bougie brands like Loewe and Maison Margiela!

Scroll on to discover more about Trader Joe’s new Tomato Leaf candle.

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On shelves now, Trader Joe’s Tomato Leaf candle smells like – you guessed it – fragrant tomato leaves. Some shoppers have said it comes across as “verdant and fresh” while others say it’s “slightly sweeter.” So far, the aroma has been divisive among TJ’s fans, but smelling it myself, I think it smells exactly like tomato leaves with a hint of refreshing sweetness – making it a perfect scent to ease you into springtime!

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This iteration of the Trader Joe’s Tomato Leaf candle is technically a remake of the same scent they released several years ago, but stopped stocking because the glass jars it was cased in posed a safety hazard (ahem, exploding). But fret not – this new container is made of metal, so you shouldn’t expect any glass malfunctions. Plus, it boasts the same precise scent – nothing’s changed in that department!

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Trader Joe’s fan account @traderjoesobsessed shared the new find with their Instagram followers, and plenty of customers sounded off with excitement.

“Omg yes this is the best one!!!!” one person said.

“This is their greatest candle to date imo,” another person wrote.

“I was actually talking about this a couple days ago with my boyfriend and then magically it appeared!!” someone else commented. “Glad it’s in a tin option even though the glass was beautiful!”

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The Trader Joe’s Reddit page also had some thoughts about the new scent:

“I love this friggin candle,” one person said. “It really took me by surprise.”

“I’m so excited!!” another rejoiced. “This is my all time favorite candle scent of any line ever!”

While some Trader Joe’s shoppers praised it, others had some strong opinions.

“Soapy with a hint of tomato,” someone else noted. “I personally really like it, but I like green, fresher-smelling candles. I hate bakery or sweet candle scents.”

“I love this candle and everyone I know hates it and I’m not allowed to light it when I have my friends over 😆😆,” another said. “It’s SO divisive!!”

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Across both Instagram and Reddit, several shoppers compared the new Trader Joe’s Tomato Leaf candle to brands that are so bougie. Some comparisons that were made include the Loewe Tomato Leaves candle, Maison Margiela's From The Garden perfume, and the Roma Heirloom Tomato Candle from Flamingo Estate. The Trader Joe’s Tomato Leaf candle costs just $4 for 5.3 ounces worth of candle, so you could absolutely get a similar luxe effect for way less.

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The Trader Joe’s Tomato Leaf candle is crafted from a blend of soy wax, coconut oil, and beeswax. It also comes complete with a lead-free cotton wick to ensure a clean burn. Totally fresh and definitely unique, I’d say it’s worth the money – especially for a fresh feel during spring!

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Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner keep making headlines — and apparently Jen's boyfriend, John Miller, may not be too happy about it. A source spoke to Page Sixabout John's reaction to everything, and all signs point to potential trouble in paradise. After giving her an ultimatum, could this be the end of our recent Jen and Ben sightings? Here's what we know.

Scroll to find out what's going on with Ben Affleck, Jennifer Garner, and John Miller...

A source recent spoke to Page Six, giving everyone a behind-the-scenes look at on what's really going on between Ben Affleck, Jennifer Garner, and John Miller right now. While this trio isn't exactly in a love triangle, there are some complicated emotions flying at the moment.

The source explained that John "has always been supportive of Ben and Jen’s co-parenting relationship, but feels Ben crossed the line." This comes after the recent — and very cozy — paintball pictures of the ex-spouses.

“John knows there’s nothing going on between Jen and Ben," the source continued. "But he doesn’t think those photos are a good look and feels it’s disrespectful to their relationship.”

Apparently, John “gave Jen an ultimatum” recently, explaining that “he doesn’t want to see anything like that again or he has no choice but to walk away.” Yikes!

According to PEOPLE, Jennifer Garner and John Miller have been linked together since 2018 — with a brief break apart around 2021. However, a source told PEOPLE that Jen was "very happy" with John back in December, and that she "sees him almost every day," intimating that things were just fine between the couple.

Do you think these two will make it? Or will Ben actually find his way back in (another) Jen's good graces? Only time will tell I guess!

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Target’s dress selection is already full of stylish gems, but a 25% off sale makes ‘em even better. Right now, Target’s running a deal where you can take 25% off dresses, denim, and shorts with Target Circle! Whether you’re looking for a breezy sundress for spring or a chic pick to wear to work, now’s the perfect time to grab a Target dress (or a few). With deals this good, these Target finds won’t stay in stock for long.

Scroll on for our 15 favorite Target dresses on sale right now!

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A New Day Tank Mini Shift Dress

This serene green dress is cut from a breezy cotton-blend canvas fabric that'll keep you feelin' and lookin' cool all season long.

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Universal Thread Midi A-Line Dress

Don't be afraid to embrace all things colorful this spring – this bright blue midi is just adorable! The smocked bodice enhances its flattering fit, plus, it comes with pockets on the side.

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Universal Thread Flutter Short Sleeve Mini Skater Dress

This fluttery mini is oh-so feminine and even boasts a lovely floral pattern to match all of your outdoor outings! It's fairly casual, so you could easily pair it with heels and sneakers alike.

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Wild Fable Drop Waist Mini Sundress

Butter yellow is one of the most perfect colors for springtime, and this $23 (was $30) Target dress makes rocking the shade easier than ever. The drop waist silhouette makes it even trendier!

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Wild Fable Lace Ruffle Maxi Bodycon Dress

Hello, ruffles! This dreamy maxi dress would make a prime pick for springtime date nights or happy hours.

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Universal Thread Bell Elbow Sleeve Mini A-Line Dress

This comfy dress is still undeniably flattering, even though it has a loose fit. The v-neckline and elbow-length sleeves are super elegant and add flair to each and every look you want to pull this spring! We'd style this number with some Mary Janes or ballet flats to complete the 'fit.

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Wild Fable Maxi Bodycon Dress

We can't resist a denim dress! This $27 (was $36) body-hugging moment would look so cute with platform sandals or even cowgirl boots, like pictured above. The structured design throughout helps shape your figure for such a flattering effect.

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Universal Thread Smocked Knit Maxi A-Line Dress

This easy-wearing knit dress features a soft and stretchy jersey fabric that'll feel like heaven once you put it on. The smocked bodice design helps break up your look and hugs your waist in all the right places.

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Wild Fable Mini Skater Dress

The backless halter moment on this mini lets you show some skin this spring – all while still feeling secure and looking flattering as can be. The mid-weight cotton material it's made of is blended with spandex to ensure wearing it all day long is comfortable.

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Universal Thread Western Shirtdress

With plenty of Western details within the buttons and front pockets, this stunning shirtdress will amp up your country-esque outfits with ease.

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A New Day Knit Mini Ballet Dress

Drawing inspiration from effortless ballerina fashion, this $11 (was $15) mini dress boasts a flattering squared neckline, all in a soft and stretchy jersey fabric that makes dressing up so delightful.

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A New Day Corset Midi A-Line Dress

Gingham is spring's BFF! Flaunt the trendy pattern this season with this adorable midi dress. The vertical seaming gives it a corset effect that's not restricting one bit – just shaping!

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Wild Fable Ruffle Sleeve Eyelet Mini A-Line Dress

This yellow mini with a sweetheart neckline with lace and adorable eyelet and bow accents is beautifully femme, gently accentuating your collarbone and waistline for a fit you'll instantly fall in love with.

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Universal Thread Corset Midi A-Line Dress

We adore the floral pattern on this blue baby. The dainty spaghetti straps feel so fit for spring, too!

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Wild Fable Drop Waist Mini Tennis Dress

Drop waist dresses are everything because they can help elongate your silhouette and flatter your waistline. This all-white number is cut from a lightweight fabric mixed with spandex, so it comes ready with a lil' bit of stretch for added comfort!

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