Celebs Like Kylie Jenner Are Embracing Therapy. Here’s Why It’s a Good Idea

The first time I called in sick to work for my mental health was in February. I didn’t give my colleagues a reason why; I just sent a short email explaining I didn’t feel well and would be back in the next day.

After I hit “send,” I felt like a fraud. Who cared if I was spending close to an hour each morning talking myself out of bed, or if the past month had been a fog of irritability and apathy? That wasn’t a real sickness, I reasoned — in spite of the fact that it finally had become crippling enough for me to stay home from work.

I’ve gone through this cycle countless times since adolescence. I start to feel depressed or anxious for a few days. The days turn into weeks then months, sometimes stretching out to consume most of a year. Instead of seeking help, I predictably write off my feelings as trivial, because who am I to feel depressed? What real trauma have I ever experienced?

I’m not alone in thinking this way. In general, millennials are more open to talking about mental health than our parents’ generation, but we tend to subscribe to a set of myths that often prevents us from seeking the help we need. Although mental health has made its way into mainstream conversation in recent years and high-profile women like Kylie Jenner, Kesha, and Kerry Washington have opened up about their experiences with therapy, millennial women have not universally embraced the notion of seeking therapy for themselves.

“Even after all these years there is still a stigma around mental health issues, and I think young women today do not want to risk being viewed as weak or vulnerable,” said Mia Adler Ozair, a clinical psychotherapist and certified health coach based in Los Angeles.

While concerns about insurance coverage (or lack thereof) and uncertainty about how to find the right therapist can be roadblocks to seeking help, this year I finally ditched the notion that I was not “damaged enough” to meet with a therapist. In the spring, six weeks after my first mental health sick day, I scheduled my intake appointment. I’ve been meeting with my therapist on a regular basis ever since, and she’s helped me learn to quell anxiety by simply acknowledging feelings, rather than my old MO of relentlessly judging them.

Psychotherapy, also known as talk therapy, encompasses many different approaches. Ozair specializes in cognitive behavioral therapy; my own therapist uses a combination of techniques. I used to think therapy meant lying on a couch and yammering to an indifferent therapist until the hour was up. The reality of my sessions — which have included a mix of traditional talk therapy and somatic therapy, an approach that focuses on the relationship between the mind and body — looks much different. Some days we talk the whole hour, while other days we practice breathing exercises or come up with affirmations.

Allyson Byers, a 26-year-old producer’s assistant living in Los Angeles, said her family’s attitude toward mental health kept her from going to therapy for years. “Why pay someone to hear your problems when you can just talk to your friends?” was their line of reasoning. She worried that if she met with a therapist, she would be taking up time that would be better spent on “someone who was suicidal or having a really deep depression,” she said. Her issues at work felt insignificant.

“Now looking back it sounds so dumb, but at the time I was just like, ‘I don’t need to spend an hour talking to someone about myself.’ It sounded selfish,” Byers said. After going through a “mental breakdown” in a dead-end job followed by an unsuccessful stint on antidepressants, she finally reached out to schedule her first appointment with a therapist in May 2016.

Just as there are numerous philosophies and approaches to therapy, there are also countless therapists to choose from. Finding the right one can feel like dating. Byers started off seeing a therapist who domineered the conversation, and she could hardly get a word in edgewise. She later switched to a therapist who better fit for her personality and needs. I was lucky to click with the first therapist I met, but she made it clear that I was under no obligation to stay with her if I had doubts. The patient always has the right to break things off.

The patient also has the right to give feedback, which was key for me, as someone who has historically been allergic to anything too New Age-y. At the end of our first session, my therapist doled out a series of homework assignments: a book to read on compassion (fair enough), a set of breathing exercises (fine) and a chanting meditation (…excuse me?). I was skeptical.

When I returned the next week, I was honest and told her that while I enjoyed the book and could get on board with breathing exercises, the chanting meditation was too much. So we crossed it off the list. In therapy, I’ve been given the space to try new methods of easing anxiety and practicing mindfulness, alongside the freedom to say “nope!” to techniques I don’t love.

During one particularly tearful session, I admitted to my therapist that I felt ridiculous for coming to see her. My anxiety and professional angst seemed petty. Even at my worst, I was high functioning; I wasn’t so depressed that I was missing weeks of work or blowing off obligations. No doubt I was wasting her time.

Her response was simple but stuck with me: Therapy is a tool for our health, just like any other. When you’re sick, you go to your doctor. And when you’re not living your best life, as it were, you see your therapist.

The patient’s goal in therapy, regardless of the therapist’s approach, is to achieve a baseline of happiness, Ozair explains. But if you’re suffering from depression or anxiety, you may not realize that your “normal” is below this baseline. “The proper help from the right professionals can really make a difference in quality of life and day-to-day experiences,” Ozair said.

Byers echoes that sentiment. She says she’s started feeling better since working with her current therapist at the start of this year, but she has no plans to stop attending her regular sessions.

“I realized how severe my anxiety really was and that you don’t have to live like this, you can actually figure out techniques that will help you live a better life,” she said. “I think [therapy] is super important, even if you are in a place where you’re happy.”

Have social stigmas ever held you back from seeking therapy? Talk to us @BritandCo.

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Emily in Paris season 4 was the buzziest season yet, and for good reason. Emily's in Rome, Camille was never pregnant, and Gabriel's hair went from très hot to tragique. In addition to the viral response to Gabriel's new hair, season 4 left me pretty sad because after four years of waiting for Emily and Gabriel to get together, they almost immediately break up — and actor Lucas Bravo is just as confused as we are.

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“The ‘sexy chef’ was very much part of me in Season 1 and we grew apart season after season because of the choices he makes and because of the direction they make him take,” Lucas Bravo told IndieWire while promoting Mélanie Laurent’s Freedom. “As they made him kind of unaware of his surroundings, of the dynamic, always victimizing and always being completely lost in translation and oblivious to anything that is happening around him and being manipulated by everyone, it kind of became not fun for me to shoot or to see a character I love so much and brought me so much, being slowly turned into guacamole. I really grew apart from him.”

Honestly it makes me really sad that a character we all love so much is becoming unrecognizable. But at the same time, it makes me feel a little bit better, because we're not the only ones who feel like Gabriel has changed. And while Lucas has done what he can to bring those early-series aspects of Gabriel back, he says "there is only so much I can do in the limits of a script.”

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“I tried for seasons to bring nuances but we don’t have much liberty on set," he continues. “It makes me question if I want to be part of Season 5…because my contract ends at Season 4. I really want to see if Gabriel gets back to his fun, cheeky, playful, alive self. Because three seasons playing melancholic, sad, depressed, and lost is not fun anymore. It’s a comedy, everybody is having fun around me, everybody is jumping around, and I’m just slowly sinking into god knows what.”

Say what now?! If Lucas Bravo leaves Emily in Paris, I truly don't know what I'd do. Gabriel is my favorite character on the show! (Or at least, early Gabriel was.) Seeing him move from 30, flirty, and thriving to someone who's consistently in the middle of an existential crisis doesn't make sense within the world of the show. And even though Lucas thinks the show has a "lack of risk," he still loves everyone involved.

“I love the show. It started everything for me. I love the show and the people in it," he says. "With saying that, I feel like I am not being nice or grateful, but when you love something you want it to be…you want the best version of it. I’m not going to lie, I’ve been frustrated with the direction by character is taking. But we’ll see where it goes. The show is not over.”

Just like the show's iconic costumes are all about expression and fun, here's hoping Emily in Paris is able to bring some life back into our favorite chef. Because if not, it sounds like we could be nearing the end of the show's most popular would-they-won't-they relationship. Fix this Netflix, I beg you!

What do you think of Lucas Bravo's dilemma? Do you miss season 1 Gabriel? Let us know in the comments and check out the latest Emily in Paris season 5 news.

Paris Hilton and Nicole Richie created reality TV gold when The Simple Life debuted in 2003. Their antics were outlandish, but we couldn't help repeating their iconic phrases like "That's hot" or "Sanasa" during random moments in our own lives.

It's no secret the two didn't really act that way, but their 'characters' left a huge mark on a generation of millennials. "I knew what I was doing but the whole world didn’t, so it was kind of frustrating to me to be perceived in that way because it’s not who I am at all," Paris told People.

Even though she may have felt judged, it seems that Paris Hilton realizes how many people actually loved The Simple Life because she and Nicole Richie are teaming up to film a reunion special that'll debut on Peacock as we speak! Here's everything we know so far!

When did speculations about 'The Simple Life' reboot begin?

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Peacock first shared a video clip on Instagram that hinted something special involving Paris Hilton and Nicole Richie is coming in May. A nostalgic TV set with a black and white screen can be seen while our favorite duo's voices can be hearing saying, "Sanasa, Sanasa."

Peacock captioned the post, "New Era. Same Besties. Coming soon to Peacock," and fans could barely contain their excitement. Even celebs like Naomi Campbell and Katy Perry commented on these hot vibes.

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Then Paris Hilton took to her own Instagram to share more about what fans could expect. She said, "As some of you may know, we are doing a reunion special to celebrate 20 years of our show The Simple Life and it's been so much fun."

Actress Selma Blair shared how much she's looking forward to this by commenting that she's "living for this."

So are we!

What was 'The Simple Life' about?

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The Simple Life showed Paris Hilton and Nicole Richie as they basically traded their wealthy lifestyles for 'everyday' living. Cameras followed them from fast food jobs to dealing with getting out of sticky situations they'd supposedly never experienced. Needless to say, it was hilarious, iconic, and instant reality TV gold.

How long was 'The Simple Life' on air?

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The Simple Life was on air from 2003 to 2007 with five successful seasons. It seemed like it wasn't going to be hit at first, but it defied expectations. By how much you ask?

According to reporting from The Cut, somewhere around 13 million viewers tuned in to watch Paris Hilton and Nicole Richie's oddball take on daily life. That's a pretty huge deal if you ask us!

When will 'Paris & Nicole: The Encore' debut?

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Paris & Nicole: The Encore will premiere on Peacock December 12! The two were previously seen at a Sonic drive-thru yesterday so it can be assumed filming is underway (via People)!

Sporting partial Sonic uniforms, Paris Hilton and Nicole Richie added accent pieces that match their signature flairs. Paris wore a pair of reflective sunglasses, silver sequin heels, and added a pink flip phone to front of her blue apron. Nicole wore gold hoops and a pair of slingback pumps alongside her hotdog mascot costume. That's hot (dog).

How does Paris Hilton and Nicole Richie feel about reuniting for a reunion special?

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Paris Hilton has expressed how much she loves to be sharing the screen with Nicole Richie again. "I'm so excited to be doing this with Nicole on Peacock. Nicole has been my best friend since we're 2 years old, every memory that I have is with her," (via E! News).

Nicole also posted a few throwback moments from The Simple Life on her Instagram, but the most notable one is the video mashup of them singing "Sanasa, Sanasa" over and over. "20 years ago, not only did we become television stars… we became song writers. Happy Anniversary Sill @parishilton#TheSimpleLife#sannnasaaaaa" she wrote in the caption.

What have Paris and Nicole said about their reunion special?

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Paris Hilton and Nicole Richie sat down with W Magazine to let the world know the Paris & Nicole: The Encore show is on its way! Not only that, but fans can expect to see an Opera version of the show they fell in love with two decades ago. Paris said, "The idea of the opera was unexpected" while Nicole chimed in with, "What people need, even though they don't know it yet, is for 'Sanasa' to be an opera.'"

The two besties came up with the idea via a series of texts that started off as ideas between them. Nicole said everything "came up organically" for the two and we can only imagine the memories this brought up for them. OG influencer Paris even talked about how The Simple Life was an "important show in pop culture history" and we couldn't agree more!

Nicole truly wants people to enjoy themselves while watching Paris & Nicole: The Encore and "find the same joy" she had while filming it. According to Paris, she feels what they have is "magic" because "there's just so much history behind it."

It's not every day that you can get to have fun with your best friend while coming up with long-lasting memories that contribute to pop culture, but Paris and Nicole have always danced to the beat of their own drums. Now we'll get to see them in action again!

Watch The Trailer For 'Paris & Nicole: The Encore'

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Friendsgiving season is coming folks! And if you have one on the books, but have no idea what to cook, we have you covered. From deliciously cheesy veggies to a healthy take on everyone's favorite spuds, we're rounding-up easy recipes to make that won't weigh heavy on your pocketbook. Take a look through to see the yummy ensembles you should be whipping up!

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Drop Biscuits

Because everyone needs a carb to soup all those juicy drippings on your plate. This 'The Final Table' winning recipe does the job.

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Smashed Brussel Sprouts

Not crazy about veggies? These greens will change your mind. Topped with cheese, chives, and a nice crisp topping, they're extra yummy (and keto-friendly!)

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Cacio e Pepe Chickpeas

Sure this one is a bit non-traditional, but your vegetarian friends will love it. Plus they make the perfect topping to nearly any dish (who needs croutons when you have these anyways?!).

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Roasted Broccoli

Puts some greens on your plate with this holy-grail recipe. Trust us: It's sooo easy!

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Instant Pot Butternut Squash Polenta

Dust off the ole' Instant Pot will this delectable fall polenta. Filled with butternut squash and lots of parmesan you (and your besties!) will quickly fall in *love*.

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Roasted Sweet Potato

Just when you thought you knew how to roast sweet potatoes, this recipe came along. And boy are we taking notes!

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Slow Cooker Mulled Wine

Be the friend that brings the booze. This autumn-themed mulled wine drink will warm everyone's spirits.

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Fall Quinoa Salad

If you're designated salad duty, take a twist on it by packing it full-on quinia, pomegranate, and a tangy dressing. Yum!

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Cheesy Pasta Bake

When the temperatures drop, your friends will be extra thankful for this soul-warming, cheesy pasta.

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Spinach + Mushroom Gnocchi Casserole

No time? No worries! This freezer-friendly pasta bake complete with pillowy gnocchi, creamy mushrooms and spinach is super easy to create ahead of time, without taking away from any day-of deliciousness.

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Cheddar, Jalapeno, and Chive Biscuits

Upgrade your biscuits with "addicting" flavors of cheddar, chives, and jalapeños. Pro tip: Double the batch to ensure you have more than one for everyone!

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Keto Cheese Ball

Your hostess will thank you extra for showing up with an app to tide guests over until the main meal is served. Packed with yummy baked potato fixings, it's got an extra "kick" to make it comparable to store bought options. Plus it's keto-friendly... you can't go wrong with that!

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Cheesy Keto Asparagus

Keep the keto ideas coming, am I right?! Make this popular Pinterest vegetable dish loaded with garlic and extra cheese. Yes please!

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Yogurt Slow Cooker Mashed Potatoes

Pack a 'lil extra protein into your mashed spuds (with the bonus of making them extra creamy!). Who knew yogurt would soon become your go-to secret ingredient?

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Pumpkin Spice Toffee

And let's not forget about the sweets! Make a batch of this pumpkin spice-flavored treat as a great take-home option for overstuffed guests! (Just be sure to save some extra for yourself!)

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