How You Dress Can Actually Make You Smarter

There’s no doubt that what you wear can change your state of mind. Getting super foxy for a winter first date can make anyone feel hot, no matter how cold it is outside. Rocking athleisure wear can make you feel ready for anything, from hitting the gym to grabbing brunch with your pals. Crawling into your comfy PJs at the end of a busy day can be the most gratifying and relaxing thing EVER. But beyond how clothes make us feel, they may actually change the way we think.

A study in Social Psychological & Personality Sciencecalled The Cognitive Consequences of Formal Clothing (now, that’s a catchy title) found that dressing in more formal clothes than your friends, classmates or co-workers tends to make you think more abstractly, holistically and creatively. California State University, Northridge’s Abraham M. Rutchick led the study (and four additional follow-up studies with differing variables), which asked 60 American undergraduates to rate how formal they felt they looked compared to their peers. Then, it had each one complete a questionnaire that tested their thinking.

The results were interesting, to say the least, with those who rated their clothing as more formal leaning more towards “abstract” answers, whereas others tended to choose more “concrete” answers. “The formality of clothing might not only influence the way others perceive a person, and how people perceive themselves,” says Rutchick, “but could influence decision making in important ways through its influence on processing style.”

So wearing formal clothes won’t exactly make you smarter, but it may in fact change how you think. If you’re in a course of study or profession that requires more concrete thinking (for instance, those who deal with details, formulae and anything exact), you may want to dress down or somewhat casually in order to put yourself in the right head space. However, if you’re looking to get more creative and think outside of the box, then accessorizing your outfit might actually be the ticket to success.

Looks like it’s time to go shopping!

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A lot of people pride themselves on being optimists, and TBH, if you canstay positivewith everything that’s going on in the world today, major props to you. For most people who consider themselves the glass-half-full type, it’s a lifestyle. They try to look at everything that comes their way, from relationship troubles to work mistakes, with a positive spin. But a recent study investigated whether optimists still stay more positive than pessimists when things get really tough, and what they found was pretty surprising.


Scientists analyzed nine previous studies to see how both optimists and pessimists brace themselves for receiving important and potentially negative news, like medical test results. They found that even though people who identify as optimists tend to be more positive in general, they too start assuming the worst as the moment of truth about something important nears. It’s easy to understand this instinct, since some people tend to believe that preparing yourself for the worst will ultimately make it less shocking if it happens. On the other hand, some people would rather stay positive whenever possible, since it’s easier to fight off stress and anxiety when you have a sunny outlook. Here, we’ve gathered some of our favorite expert tips for staying optimistic when you’re dealing with some super hard stuff.

How To Stay Positive

1.Learn to reframe negativity. “The trick to positivity is not avoiding pessimism,” says Elaine Taylor-Klaus, a certified professional coach. “It’s really about how quickly you can redirect your focus from negative to positive. Critical thinkers are going to see problems to be solved, but the ability to ‘reframe’ the conversation is the really important skill for people to practice.” She recommends getting into the habit of acknowledging negative thoughts and then asking, “What else is possible here?” This can guide you back into a positive mindset more quickly.

“Bottom line: Negativity happens,” she says. “Positivity is a choice, and the quicker you learn to reframe, the more time you’ll spend in a positive space. Then, over time, the more likely you are to turn directly to a positive interpretation of events.”

2. Ask yourself if this will matter a month or year from now. Sometimes things seem crucial AF in the moment, but might be inconsequential even just a few days after that. Just think about high school drama. “When we can leave the past behind and even know in the present moment that this feeling won’t last, it can help to remind us that time heals and life goes on,” explainsSharon Stokes, life-fulfillment coach.

3.Give back. Volunteering is an amazing way to change your entire perspective, saysLyssa Menard, a clinical health psychologist, founder of Strategies for Changeand assistant professor at Northwestern University’s medical school. “There are many organizations that don’t require an ongoing commitment, so sign up for an event that’s meaningful. Research shows that giving to others is one of the quickest routes toward happiness. While happiness and positivity are different, they’re correlated,” Lyssa says.

4. Role play to be more objective. Playing a little mind trick on yourself can work wonders, says Lori Scherwin of Strategize That, a career coaching service. “We’re often better at helping others than ourselves,” she notes. “Make the situation more objective and less personal to you. For example, consider if it were anyone else in the situation (like your best friend, partner or colleague). How would you see the same ‘problem?’ What advice might you give them to get out of it?” she asks. This will help you shift from being super hard on yourself to more objective, and most likely, more positive.

5. Make changes to things that are within your control. Spending time worrying about something that you can’t change isn’t really worth the effort. Instead, “Focus on areas where you have agency,” suggests Holly Burton, a career coach for women in male-dominated industries. “You may be stuck in a role you don’t love at work, but you could probably work a few extra hours a week and take on a project that interests you. You could also schedule some proactive meetings with your boss to make an action plan to develop the skills you need to make a lateral move,” she says. In most situations, whether they’re career-related or not, it’s possible to take actions to make things better for yourself.

6. Practice radical acceptance. Some professional coaches suggest trying out the idea of radical acceptance, which is basically accepting the things you cannot change, even if they’re not right or you don’t agree with them.

7.Try this gratitude challenge. First, journal about one event each day for seven days that made you feel happy and/or thankful and include the specifics of why it made you feel that way, going deep into the details. Second, send one random thank you email or text to someone each day, either personally or professionally. This message should include what they did and why it’s worthy of the shout out. Detailed gratitude journals are proven to improve your life satisfaction, so try to stick to a gratitude practice, even in the good times!

What do you do when you’re trying to stay optimistic? Have you tried any of these techniques? Tell us about it @BritandCo!

This article has been updated.

The chokehold Trader Joe's has on me is atrocious. They truly can do no wrong with their wide array of snacks and sweet treats, and I really appreciate that my TJ's grocery hauls are typically way cheaper than if I did my shopping elsewhere. Trader Joe's is packed to the brim with delicious, life-changing finds under $10. So, if you're balling on a budget (but still want to make room for a lil' 'treat yourself' time), look no further than this list of my absolute favorite finds!

Let's dive into the best Trader Joe's buys you can add to your cart for under $10!

Trader Joe's

Organic Joe Medium Roast Ground Coffee

For just $6.99, Trader Joe's medium roast coffee tastes divine. No matter how you brew it, I promise you'll be thoroughly impressed.

Trader Joe's

Non-Dairy Oat Creamer Gingerbread

Trader Joe's collection of $1.99 non-dairy creamers are all delicious, but this limited-time seasonal offering is the literal cream of the crop.

Trader Joe's

Teeny Tiny Pecan Pies

Nothing says 'bougie' quite like finger foods do. Take the sweet route with this grouping of $4.99 tiny pecan pies!

Trader Joe's

Shaved Parmesan, Romano & Asiago Cheeses

I love topping salads, pastas, and soups with this $3.49 blend of shredded cheeses. Once it gets melty is where the fun really begins.

Trader Joe's

Cheesy Herby Biscuits

Biscuits are undoubtedly a considerably fancy thing to make yourself, but luckily you don't have to put in all that effort just to please a crowd, thanks to this $4.99 box o' biscuits!

Trader Joe's

Butter with Brown Sugar & Maple Syrup

This $2.99 butter infused with brown sugar and maple syrup will instantly elevate any piece of toast or baking project you've got going on.

Trader Joe's

Dark Chocolate Ganache Mini Sheet Cake

I'm simply obsessed with these $4.99 sheet cakes from Trader Joe's. They come in all kinds of flavors, but who can ever resist chocolate?! This is an easy (yet impressive) grab-and-go buy to bring to the office for your team or to share with the fam at home after a long week.

Trader Joe's

Truffle Dip

In my mind, truffle equates to some real fancy stuff. So, I was pleasantly surprised to see that this creamy dip was just $5.49!

Trader Joe's

Steamed Vegetable Soup Dumplings

I will live and die on the hill that Trader Joe's soup dumplings are some of the best ready-made options around. This $3.49 box is my go-to if I simply don't feel like cooking dinner (which happens more than I'd like to admit), but still want something warm that's gonna fill me up.

Trader Joe's

Sliced Black Truffle Monterey Jack Cheese

Another fun truffle find! Kick your grilled cheeses up a notch for just $4.99.

Trader Joe's

Creamy Spinach & Artichoke Dip

This is another one of my TJ's must-haves. If I don't buy this $3.79 box every single time I go, I at least buy it every other visit. Yummm.

Trader Joe's

Coffee Bean Blast Ice Cream

They are not kidding when they say this ice cream is a true coffee blast. It's so full on flavor, luxuriously creamy, and for just $4.49 a pint, I think that's pretty dang good.

Trader Joe's

Chocolate Brooklyn Babka

This rich babka bread is laced with lotsa chocolate. You can get the loaf for $5.99, but beware: it's gonna go fast.

Trader Joe's

Bourbon Vanilla Bean Paste

This bourbon-y vanilla bean paste is so fun to use for cookies, muffins, cupcakes, and the like. It has a perfect smoky, woody finish (but still sweet), plus a little goes a very long way. Snag it at your local TJ's for $4.99.

Trader Joe's

Speculoos Cookie Butter

I fear I could eat this entire jar of cookie butter in one sitting. It always tastes expertly crafted and undeniably sweet. I love putting it on toast, ice cream, and even in my morning coffee. The jar sells at $3.99!

Trader Joe's

Candy Cane Green Tea

This $2.79 green tea has become a wintertime staple for me since I discovered it at Trader Joe's last year. I've already bought 3 boxes to stock up for the season.

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It's fun to learn more about ourselves and to feel understood — that's why we take personality tests so incessantly. And since we live in an age of increased self-awareness, we can apply those tests to so many things, like our Hogwarts house and makeup preferences. Clearly, knowing thyself has taken on a whole new meaning lately, and we love the things that these tests can tell us — but did you ever wonder how your personality might affect your dreams? In a new study, Best Mattress Brand set out to discover whether specific types of people had particular types of dreams. Read on for their fascinating results.

The test explored each component of the Myers-Briggs types, which can be broken down into eight characteristics:

Extraversion or Introversion: This is the way you focus your energy. Extroverts focus on the outside world, and Introverts focus on their inner world.

Sensing or Intuition: This is the way you process information. Sensing individuals focus on the facts, and Intuitive individuals interpret the facts.

Thinking or Feeling: This is the way you make decisions. Thinkers process decisions logically, and Feelers make decisions with context and emotion in mind.

Judging or Perceiving: This is the lens through which you interpret the world. Judgers prefer decisive action, while Perceivers like to keep their options open.

Together, your individual combination of these eight traits creates your personality type. Given these traits as variables, the study surveyed 1,000 people on their Myers Briggs traits and their sleep habits.

As you'd imagine, there were a lot of discrepancies between Introverts and Extroverts. Interestingly enough, Extroverts are 17.7 percent more satisfied with their levels of energy during waking hours than their introverted counterparts. Perhaps it's because of their dream habits: Extroverts also have 8.3 percent fewer nightmares than Introverts. Extroverts also dream about traveling 13.9 percent more often than Introverts do.

What about the content of these dreams? If you're Intuitive, you're 16.8 percent more likely to dream about being killed than Sensers are. ­Apparently, Intuitive individuals' dreams are more violent across the board: They also dream about getting attacked and “punching something with no effect" more often.

There's also a substantial difference between Thinkers and Feelers when it comes to dreams. The more emotional Feelers dream about getting pregnant more often than Thinkers do, and they dream about their friends more often too. Perhaps Thinkers are just thinking too hard; they talk in their sleep almost 10 percent more than Feelers do.

The Judgers and Perceivers have their differences as well; in fact, Perceivers have night terrors 10.2 percent more often than Judgers, probably due to the fact that they experience reality so deeply.

Does your personality type match up with these findings? Let us know @BritandCo.

(Photo via Brit + Co)

This post has been updated.

When you connect with a fictional character, and that character dies within their story, it's actually very normal to experience real feelings of grief. Author Oscar Wilde wrote that one of his "greatest tragedies" was the death of the fictional Lucien de Rubempré. He was so upset about it, in fact, that "it haunts me in my moments of pleasure. I remember it when I laugh." And that was in 1899!

If you're a TV fan, you probably know this pain first hand because we've had to say goodbye to a ton of characters in the last few years. After Outer Banks lost one of its beloved characters on November 7, fans flooded social media, proclaiming they felt like they'd lost someone from their own real life. And based on this Reddit thread of the TV deaths that "totally destroyed you emotionally,"OBX fans are definitely not alone. Do you agree with these picks? (Spoilers ahead! But you knew that.)

Keep reading for the most upsetting TV deaths we're still recovering from.

JJ Maybank from 'Outer Banks'

Jackson Lee Davis/Netflix

Okay, considering this one's the most recent, I have to lead with it. Rudy Pankow's JJ died in the final episode of Outer Banks season 4, which was extra devastating for viewers hoping to see a happy ending with Madison Bailey's Kiara. One viewer told me "it feels almost like the show died along with him." Woof.

Marissa Cooper in 'The OC'

Warner Bros. TV

The OC's Marissa and Ryan are one of the ultimate 'ships of the early-2000s...so watching her die in his arms at the end of season 3 almost made me stop believing in love.

Sarah Miller on 'The Last of Us'

Shane Harvey/HBO

Sarah's future is literally so bright when we meet her in The Last of Us. She's spunky and clever, which makes her end one of the saddest TV deaths in recent history. And the fact Joel (Pedro Pascal) screaming "Tommy help me!" was improvised? I need 5-7 business days to process.

Glen Rhee from 'The Walking Dead'

Gene Page/AMC

Viewers of this zombie show will never forget Glen's (Steven Yeun) death-by-baseball-bat, which came in season 7, episode 1. "I couldn't watch that show anymore after that," one Reddit user admitted.

Charlie Pace from 'Lost'

ABC/Disney

The way Dominic Monaghan brought complexity to the character of Charlie — and made everyone fall in love with him — is a really beautiful thing. Even if his death marked the end of an era in the show. "A lot of the LOST deaths were sad, but that one was brutal," another Reddit user adds.

Joyce Summers in 'Buffy the Vampire Slayer'

Warner Bros. TV

The only thing worse than losing your favorite character is seeing them suffer a loss. Case in point: Buffy losing her mom in season 5, episode 16 of Buffy the Vampire Slayer. Despite the fact this episode aired 23 years ago, it's still "TOO SOON"for some.

Lydia James on 'One Tree Hill'

Warner Bros. TV

Speaking of moms, watching Haley deal with her mom's death throughout One Tree Hill season 7 is one of the most heartbreaking arcs on TV. I'm so glad she has Nathan to lean on, but it doesn't make it any easier to watch.

Hodor in 'Game of Thrones'

HBO

Game of Thrones is literally filled with tragedy, so when a character death leaves its fans speechless, that's how you know it was a bold choice! "I cry everytime :(," one Reddit user says.

Catelyn & Robb Stark from 'Game of Thrones'

HBO

Another GOT death we're still reeling from? Catelyn and Robb Stark at the Red Wedding. TBH, everyone from the Red Wedding #iykyk.

Bellamy Blake on 'The 100'

The CW

I'm pretty sure The 100 fans all thought the same thing when we got to the final episode of the show: "What?!" To spend 6 years of watching Bellamy and Clarke flirt (and actors Bob Morley and Eliza Taylor get married IRL) only to see her kill him in the end still infuriates me.

Lexa in 'The 100'

Cate Cameron/The CW

Not to mention the fact The 100 had already killed off Lexa, another one of Clarke's love interests, in season 3. One X user called it one of the "top saddest scenes" in the whole show.

Eddie Munson from 'Stranger Things'

Netflix

Outer Banks isn't the first time Netflix viewers have experienced a devastating TV death — Eddie Munson's sacrifice in the final episode of Stranger Things 4 will go down as one of the saddest deaths ever! "One of the few times that a TV show actually made me shed a tear," says another Redditer.

Michael Cordero Jr. on 'Jane the Virgin'

The CW/Warner Bros. TV

This is my most memorable TV death — and one of the first times I was really upset! When I reached the Jane the Virgin season 3 episode where Michael dies after his LSAT exam, I curled up on my roommate's carpet and cried so hard she thought I'd gotten denied from study abroad. Yes, I was that upset.

Amber Volakis  on 'House'

Fox

While TV deaths are already hard to cope with, they can feel like they affect us even more when they cause drama between other characters — like when Wilson's girlfriend passes away on House. One Reddit user points out how it "was a toughie. More so because of how it affected Wilson and caused a wedge in his friendship with House."

Fry's Dog Seymour Asses in 'Futurama'

Fox/Disney

Okay as painful as human deaths are, pet deaths are just as bad! After "Fry's dog in Futurama" died, one Reddit user "was never the same."

Sybil & Matthew Crawley on 'Downton Abbey'

Joss Barratt/Carnival Films

Downton Abbey proved it wasn't afraid to go there when fan favorite Sybil died after giving birth in season 3.

Matthew Crawley on 'Downton Abbey'

Carnival Films

Oh, did I mention the show also killed Matthew in a car accident during the Christmas special that year? Happy holidays, I guess.

Derek Shepherd on 'Grey's Anatomy'

Richard Cartwright/ABC/Disney

Even people who haven't seen an episode of Grey's Anatomy can tell you McDreamy's death changed the show forever!!

Dr. Green from 'ER'

NBC

And speaking of medical dramas, Anthony Edwards' devastating TV death absolutely wrecked one Reddit user, who says "I’ve never cried at a character death before. I stopped watching after he died." All too relatable.

Every Single Death On 'The Sopranos'

HBO

Y'all know we couldn't make a "Devastating TV Deaths" list and not include The Sopranos. Christopher, Johnny Sack, Cosette — you name it, we probably cried.

Jen Lindley on 'Dawson's Creek'

Warner Bros. TV

We fell in love with Michelle Williams on Dawson's Creek — which means when she died (during the series finale no less!!!) we were totally inconsolable.

Danny Matheson in 'Revolution'

NBC

I'll be honest. This is one devastating TV death that totally derailed my interest in the show. RIP Danny, RIP.

Allison Argent in 'Teen Wolf'

MTV

Allison (Crystal Reed) dying in Scott's arms while "Look Out" by James Vincent McMorrow plays in the background? I'm still not over it.

Enzo on 'The Vampire Diaries'

The CW

And finally, I can't NOT include Enzo's death on The Vampire Diaries both because of how difficult it is to watch, and because Bonnie deserved so much better — on every single front.

What do you think the most devastating TV death is? If you're still crying over your fave, check out 21 Feel-Good TV Shows To Watch For Pure Fun.

Who says your Christmas dinner needs to be fancy + formal? Have a little fun with your falalalala! These 23 whimsical serving dishes add a bit of charm to your holiday table. From playful platters and creative charcuterie boards to holiday-themed serving and punch bowls, these serving dishes bring on the festive cheer at all your gatherings, and are conversation starters to boot. Check out these holiday must-haves for your home and for great gift ideas!

Serving dishes and serving plates that'll make your holiday tablescape look amazing:

Terrain

Terrain Scalloped Rim Stoneware Round Serving Platter

Playful scalloped edges are going to make your holiday table feel fresh and trendy — and a little less stuffy.

Anthropologie

Anthropologie Benedita Bow Stoneware Platter

Bows are big this holiday season. Serve up your mains on this pretty bow platter with a bow-shaped serving set.

Casa Amarosa

Casa Amarosa Serving Platter

The color pink is also a holiday favorite this season. Lighten things up with a pretty in pink serving platter.

Wayfair

Hand-Painted Stoneware Footed Bowl

Hand-painted stripes with a bit of a circus vibe puts everyone in the festive holiday spirit.

Pink Antlers

Papa Noel Punch Bowl

Pour your favorite punch into this Santa head for a good jolly laugh.

Neiman Marcus

Nutcracker Stacking Mugs, Set of 4

Dress up dessert and coffee these adorable stacking mugs that make a fun gift for the coffee lover in your life.

Anthropologie

Holifaye Ceramic Stoneware Butter Dish

Can you please pass the butter in this festive holiday dish? So cute.

Mark & Graham

Flamingo Punch Bowl and Ladle Set

Get kitschy this holiday with a personalized flamingo punch bowl.

Amazon

Gold Christmas Tree Candy Dish

Put your favorite Christmas candy out for guests on this gold candy dish.

Amazon

Joy Christmas Charcuterie Board

Oh joy, this charcuterie board can be used to separate fruits, sweets, veggies and meats.

Amazon

Christmas Cardinal Candy Dish

Cardinals are bright addition to your holiday table.

Amazon

Mud Pie Snowflake Tree Chip & Dip Bowls

This snowflake serving dish is perfect for dipping.

Dillard's

Mud Pie Nutcracker Serving Platter

Get in the holiday spirit with this platter for meats and sides.

Madison's Niche

Dog Cracker Dish

Dog lovers will love this cracker dish, perfect for your charcuterie platter.

Target Wreath Cutting Board

Fill up this cutting board with fruits, nuts, and cheeses for a spectacular cheese dish.

Anthropologie

Anthropologie Fir Tree Cheeseboard

A cheeseboard that's also perfect for your holiday cookie party.

Uncommon Goods

Hungry Hedgehog Food Server

Poke your favorite appetizer on a stick in this oh-so-cute hedgehog server.

World Market

World Market Peppermint Serving Bowl

Serve candy, bread rolls, salad — or whatever you please! — on these sweet bowls.

Anthropologie

Terrain Scalloped Glass Serving Stand

Serve dessert and holiday cookies on this adorable stand.

Amazon

Creative Co-Op Stoneware Candy Shaped Plate

Here's another whimsical candy-shaped plate to serve dessert on your holiday table.

Pottery Barn Kids

PB Kids Gingerbread People Ceramic Divided Platter

This platter also works for dips, cut veggies, olives, and more.

Pottery Barn

Pottery Barn Ceramic Gingerbread Train

How fun is this train you'll want to bring out every season? Fill it with bread rolls, crackers, candy canes, greenery and more.

Maison Flâneur

“This Kitchen Is For Dancing” Scalloped Tray

Have a little extra fun in the kitchen with this tray. ;)

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