Confused About Gender Fluidity? It’s More Common Than You Might Realize

The first time many of us heard the term ‘gender fluid’ was with the rise of Australian actor Ruby Rose and her breakthrough US performance on season three of Orange Is the New Black. With her androgynous character, Stella, people became curious about the star, and in 2015 Rose told Elle she was gender fluid, preferring feminine pronouns (she/her).

Rose has explained she doesn’t consider herself a man or a woman, but that she enjoys playing with her physical appearance on any given day. Pop star Miley Cyrus feels the same way, telling UK media personality Lorainne in 2017 that she feels like she’s not really a ‘girl.’

“I ask him [fiancé Liam Hemsworth] sometimes, ‘Do you like being a boy?’” she said in the interview. “‘And he’s like, ‘I don’t really think about it.’ And that’s crazy to me, because I think about being a girl all the time. I’m always like, ‘It’s weird that I’m a girl, because I just don’t feel like a girl, and I don’t feel like a boy. I just feel like nothing.’”

In her TEDx Talk, “Beyond the Gender Binary,” Dr. Margaret Nichols, the Executive Director of the Institute for Personal Growth, says that in a few years, everyone will know a transgender child or person.

“What’s happening is that the culture has changed,” she says in the talk. “And the culture has changed so much that…transgender people are feeling comfortable coming out at younger and younger ages.”

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But is someone who is gender fluid trans?

“To understand gender fluidity, you have to understand the concept of the “gender spectrum” or “gender continuum,” Nichols tells Brit + Co in an interview. “Although we are used to thinking of gender as a binary — males and females — the truth is more complex, even in cisgendered people. For example, a cisfemale actually has some cells in her body with XY chromosomes. A cismale has some XX cells.”

“While most people are comfortable assigning themselves to one of two boxes, gender fluid people consider themselves neither, or both,” Nichols continues. “Some gender fluid [folks] consider themselves ‘in between’ while others feel that some days they are more ‘boylike’ and other days more ‘girllike.’ The gender fluid child on the reboot of Roseanne is a good example: he does not consider himself transgender, but some days he wants to wear pants and other days skirts. Gender fluid people vary in their gender expression, not their gender identity.”

So, it’s less about what gender you may or may not feel, but more about how you express yourself within cultural gender norms rooted in specific gender binaries. And while we may expect certain behaviors from men and women, western gender ideals are changing, softening our ideas on fluidity and what it means to be a man or woman.

“In all Western countries, acceptance of varied gender expression has increased, especially in the last 20 years,” Nichols explains. “In the 1980’s, for example, a little boy wearing dresses would have been labeled mentally ill; in the 21st century, there is a book, My Princess Boy, written about a little boy who wears dresses, and the author (his mom, Cheryl Kilodavis) has a foundation to help encourage free gender expression in schools.”

While this concept may be new to many Westerners, gender fluidity has a long and meaningful history around the world. For centuries, Hijras have been a visible part of South East Asian cultures. The term is one that covers all people who may be eunuchs, intersex, trans, gender queer, gender fluid and nonbinary, mostly living in India, Bangladesh, Nepal and Pakistan. There is even evidence that Hijra have been active in Indian culture since the time of theKama Sutra over two thousand years ago.

In 2014, Hijra were given official third gender status in India, removing much of the modern stigma associated with the gender non-conforming members of this group of people. The law followed Nepal and Pakistan in making the third gender option available on all government documents for the world’s second-largest population. While the term is still negative among many in India, Hijra are reclaiming their status after British colonizers passed a law in 1897 making eunuchs (and other Hijra) criminals.

Throughout history, and around the world, gender variations have been accepted (and sometimes highly regarded), and colonialism is at least partly to blame. As scholars have pointed out, gender restrictions were historically used in part as a tool by colonizers to control the populations they were taking over. Nevertheless, gender fluidity has quietly thrived for centuries.

Navajo people believe in four distinct genders (male, female and those that have transitioned from one to the other), and the Mojave people offered ceremonies into adulthood outside gender binaries for children who did not fit into cultural traditional male or female roles. Many indigenous populations continue to recognize “two-spirit,” a third gender that fits outside the male/female binary.

In 2016, The Guardian declared Millennials “the gender fluid generation,” citing their own loose study of how young people today define their gender. With nearly 1,000 respondents from 65 countries, The Guardian found that the gender binary is becoming less important to young people growing up today, and as Dr. Nichols suggests, gender fluidity, like other forms of gender expression, is something we shouldn’t even worry about.

“There is really nothing threatening here,” she explains. “Most gender fluid people simply want to express themselves freely. Gender fluid people make life more varied, interesting and colorful.” And, she says, at the end of the day, many of us express ourselves more fluidly than we might even imagine.

“I think most people, if they are honest, can see a little gender fluidity within themselves. Gender fluid people are just a little more extreme than the rest of us.”

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You like to travel in a pack, have your creativity stand out, and look stylish on Halloween. You could dress up as a Harry Potter character (we vote Luna Lovegood!) or choose a group costume and go as the cast of Grease, but this year, you want something even more… inspired. Stay creative and adventurous with one of these 52 teen Halloween costume ideas.

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French Girl

Oh French girls, you are always so effortlessly chic.

Whether you're a couple or a dynamic duo, these costumes are for you!

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Operation Costume

Remember that old board game you used to love as a kid? This costume is the perfect way to bring back the childhood classic and is guaranteed to be the most fun of any costume around.

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Olympic Gymnast

Go for the gold with this athletic costume that includes warm-up pants, because let's be real — it would be a little uncomfortable (and cold) to wear a leotard around all night.

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Double Stuffed Oreos

What's better than showing your love for your bae on Halloween? Well, each of you dressing up as one half of an Oreo, for starters.

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Harry Potter and Hermione Granger

Looks like a treacherous night in the Forbidden Forest!

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Minnie and Mickey Mouse

Who's the leader of the club that's made for you and me? M-I-C-K-E-Y-M-O-U-S-E!

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Rainbow and a Pot of Gold

You and your friend will undoubtedly have a blast rocking these looks!

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Doug and Patty Mayonnaise

This iconic cartoon duo is surprisingly easy to bring to life.

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La Croix Cans

No matter which flavor of La Croix is your BAE, we can all agree that the sparkling water is life.

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Mean Girls

Here's a little Mean Girls inspo for Halloween, because a classic like this never gets old.

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Alvin and the Chipmunks

This group costumeis cute, comfortable and, most importantly, school-appropriate.

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Landmark Cities

You see London, you see France, you see Lady Liberty's underpants.

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Fruit Salad

Grab a few of your friends and decorate shirts to look like fruits, and you have yourself a DIY fruit salad.

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Ghostbusters

This is totally the year to rock a Ghostbusters costume! All-female cast? Represent!

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Spice Girls

Though we're all about bringing back Sporty, Scary, Baby, Posh, and Ginger, go the clever route and simply dress up as your favorite spices.

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Group Sushi Costume

Yum! Why not grab a few friends and dress up as your favorite roll? Sushi roll, that is.

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Minions

When in doubt, you can always turn to animated movies for a little inspo.

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Inside Out

We're feeling all kinds of emotions about this Pixar film-inspired group look. HBU?

Pop Culture Costumes

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Chuckie from Rugrats

“Things never turn out like they do in the movies." (via Brit + Co)

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Kim Possible

She's just a normal high school cheerleader who happens to fight villains in her spare time. Her style is easy to replicate using items you can actually reuse after Halloween.

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Ariel from The Little Mermaid

“I wanna be where the people are."

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Mary Poppins

This Halloween, why not throw it back and dress up like the classic English nanny?

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Wonder Woman

Diana Prince does it all: She's a peaceful diplomat and a raging warrior. In the 2017 movie starring Gal Gadot, they revamped her retro outfit into a fiercely sexy yet strong ensemble that enhances her inner strength.

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Sleeping Beauty

“They say if you dream a thing more than once, it's sure to come true."

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Aladdin and Jasmine

“I can show you the world!" Or the Google Maps directions to the Halloween party.

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Daenerys Targaryen

The silver-haired queen on Game of Thrones continues onward, never veering from her path toward glory as the ruler of the seven kingdoms. Talk about making a #lifegoal and sticking to it.

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Rosie the Riveter

Here's to our girlies on the front lines, still rockin' out and #RESIST-ing! Show your support for the feminist movement as this iconic lady boss.

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Tinkerbell

Always the sassy one, that Tink.

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Dorothy from The Wizard of Oz

To bring the costume to the next level, pair with accessories such as frilly white socks and a basket to hold your flowers or dog.

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Pokemon

The gang's all here — let's catch 'em all. Pika pika!

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Batgirl

Batgirl here, ready to fight some crime.

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Snow White

She's kind, friendly, patient, and stylish! And even though Snow really only goes for her lovely primary-colored dress, we thought it would be the most fun to DIY her classic red, blue, and yellow ensemble.

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Katniss

To re-create this look, you'll need a serious stance, leather jacket, T-shirt, dark pants (cargos would work, too), boots, a bow and arrow, eyes of fire and, of course, a mockingjay pin.

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Kimmy Schmidt

Take a break from your Netflix binge and get in touch with your Kimmy Schmidt side. Hashbrown no filter.

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Anna and Elsa fromFrozen

Sisters who ice skate together, stay together.

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Rey

This really is the perfect disguise for any gal who has the desire to channel her inner warrior.

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Sansa Skirt

Winter is coming, and this red-headed Stark from Game of Thrones is *not* messing around.

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Sally from Nightmare Before Christmas

Being a little older is knowing that Sally from Nightmare Before Christmas is THAT girl.

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Captain Hook

Captain Hook is another iconic character that deserves his shine on Halloween.

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Queen of Hearts Costume

It's time to rule all the hearts of Halloween with this cute outfit.

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Cat in the Hat Costume

If your teen grew up hearing you read ​The Cat in the Hat​, they'll love dressing up as our favorite mischievous character. 

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Robin Hood Costume

Robin Hood is universal and makes for a good Halloween costume!

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Daphne from Scooby Doo

Daphne was an amazing character who knew she was stylish, smart and supportive of her friends antics. If that sounds like your teen, this is the costume for her!

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Carmen Sandiego

Where in the world is Carmen Sandiego? Probably somewhere solving a mystery while others only catch a quick view of her long red coat.

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Lava Girl

We had to include Lava Girl on this list. How could we not?

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Violet from The Incredibles

Sometimes the best things aren't always on display - like Violet's immense power!

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La La Land

This costume is v. easy to put together, and once you have it on, you'll be ready to dance and sing your way through Halloween.

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Big Bird

Combining our love of feathers with Sesame Street? Yes, please. Plus, that Big Bird face is just too much (in a good way).

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Cookie Monster

An all-time classic and the best possible outfit for the gal who wants to have an excuse to pretty much wear a Snuggie all day.

Quirky Costumes

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Avocado Toast

Everyone loooooves it because, TBH, what's not to love about avocados and bread?

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The Cat's Meow

Calling all cat ladies: We have the purrrfect Halloween costume for you. Enter the OG cat costume, a look that's beyond easy to throw together in a pinch.

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Scarecrow

Can we get a round of applause for overalls coming back into style in time for Halloween?

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Jellyfish

The mystical creatures that live in the ocean will forever win over our Halloween hearts.

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Retro Devil

Get ready for some devil meets *major* Sandy from Grease vibes.

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Inflatable Dinosaur Costume

Halloween doesn't have to be super serious all the time. Keep things lighthearted and silly with this inflatable dinosaur costume.

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Jolly Rancher Costume

A jolly rancher costume is too cheeky to pass up.

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Hershey's Kiss

If your teen wants to join in on the metallic trend in a hilarious way, have her dress up as a Hershey's Kiss.

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Glenda the Good Witch from Wizard of Oz

If your teen never needs an excuse to wear something pink or sparkly, have her dress as Glenda the Good Witch from The Wizard of Oz!

What other teen Halloween costume ideas would you like to learn to make? Tell us on Twitter or join our newsletter for more inspiration or explore our creative online classes.

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Loud budgeting may be popular on TikTok, but conversations about money can still be awkward. I've been in romantic relationship for a little over a decade and we're just at a point where we've become aligned on finances. So imagine having random conversations with your family or friends that begin with, "I know I've never really asked before, but is it okay if I can borrow [insert x amount of $] until I can pay you back?" The nature of your platonic and familial relationships will totally determine whether you receive positive or negative responses.

As helpful as money can be, it can fracture even the closest relationships. Why? Well, psychologist Veronica West of My Thriving Mind, head of advice for Wells Fargo Emily Irwin; and Founder of Her First $100K money expert Tori Dunlap have a few ideas!

Keep reading for a few sneaky ways money can ruin your friendships:


1. Talking About Money Can Expose Hidden Feelings

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It's impossible to know how someone feels every second of the day, but we probably all think we have a good understanding of the people we're close to. But people are capable of hiding how they feel about something or burying their discomfort until certain situations 'expose' them. Why does it seem like money has a way of doing this?

Both Irwin and Dunlap agree that "money is taboo," leading people to avoid conversations about it. "Data tells us that we are more likely to talk about any other taboo topic—sex, politics, religion, even death—before we’ll talk about money," says Dunlap. West agrees and says, "Money is like that one friend who’s incredibly helpful but totally untrustworthy—everyone likes what they bring to the table, but no one wants to talk about them directly." Did you think of someone specific? It's okay because I did too!

The problem is that money can make "hidden insecurities come out, old sibling rivalries rear their heads," and more, according to West. "Even something like 'who paid for what' can suddenly become a life-or death conversation," she says. It's strange because Irwin says a Wells Fargo study shows that "many Americans across all ages are worried about money," proving we're all thinking about it, despite our avoidance issues.

2. And Money Can Also Create Unease In Conversations

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"When we don’t have open conversations about money, we’re left to navigate it on our own, which can keep us feeling underpaid, overworked, or unsure about our financial situation," Dunlap points out. She feels "discussing money requires a huge amount of vulnerability" which "isn't easy for everyone." You may have seen how other topics are swept under the rug by family members or friends based on reasons they're not ready to talk about.

Though Irwin believes saying something like saying, "'Here's what's keeping me up at night' or 'here's what my goals are' could strengthen connections," Dunlap knows that "shame, comparison, or fear of judgement" can cause people to remain tight-lipped about their finances.

If you've experienced a weird moment because of money or had to be the unfortunate witness of an awkward conversation, my apologies. It's not fun no matter who's involved because, unfortunately, "money carries layers of emotions, like pride and insecurity, that turn simple conversations into potential minefields," says West.

Dunlap says there's a silver lining if people are willing to be open, however. "The key is respecting each person’s comfort level, and encouraging openness if they're willing to meet you there. It’s not going to be perfect at first, but by starting to share more about your own financial experiences, you can start to break the cycle of shame and fear around money. You might be surprised at how quickly others are willing to open up too."

3. Making Assumptions About Other’s Money Status And Financial Situation Can Lead To Disrespecting Boundaries

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No one's saying you should never lend friends money, but being mindful about the decision is worth noting. West feels "it's complicated" while Dunlap believes the issue "can be tricky." There's a chance a low-key loan becomes an expectation that you should dish out money every time someone needs help, even if you're trying to maintain your own bills. "Lending money to a friend is like sharing your Netflix password—simple in theory, but one wrong move, and things get weird," West forewarns.

Dunlap also says, "When you lend money to someone close to you, there's always the chance that you won’t get it back. You want to be mentally prepared for that! Otherwise, it can strain your finances and your relationship. The emotional toll can be just as heavy, as unpaid loans can lead to resentment or awkwardness." It's not unusual to hear about certain friends being unreliable in more ways than one after you've let them borrow something. Unfortunately, Irwin indicates this happens because some people "don't expect to give something back that they've borrowed."

Because of this, Dunlap thinks "it's best to avoid loans if possible." Should you decide to move forward with helping out a friend who's in a bind, make sure you're both in agreement about repayment and what to expect moving forward. West says "having clear terms" or "gifting a small amount if you can afford it" is like "buying their friendship insurance." The latter is something Dunlap agrees with because it "helps prevent resentment if they can't pay you back as planned." Plus, she feels it also "keeps the loan within an amount you're okay with potentially losing."

4. Lending Money Is A Slippery Slope That Can Lead To Distrust And Resentment

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It's amazing how money can lead to a friendship breakup if boundaries aren't created or respected. "Money is a sneaky little devil who can push everyone’s buttons. It can cause resentment if one person feels taken advantage of or someone’s 'casual loan' becomes an epic saga of unpaid IOUs," West says. Not only that, but Dunlap knows "money can strain relationships between friends and family by highlighting differences in how we value it, expect to use it, or feel about sharing it."

Friends and family members shouldn't take each other's kindness for granted, but human nature is fickle at times. That's not an indicator that someone you love is a "bad" person, but they may feel like you owe them your time and money. However, Irwin says this isn't "de facto that that person is entitled." Still, Dunlap is more than aware how this can play out. "For example, it can lead to resentment if one person is always the one picking up the tab, while another might feel uncomfortable or indebted because they’ve been helped financially," she says.

On the other hand, it can show up a little differently in families. She adds, "Issues like unequal inheritance or constant requests for financial help can lead to deep emotional tension. Money can also become a tool for power imbalances, where one person feels in control and the other feels dependent, and that can mess with trust and respect."

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When certain negative patterns show up in relationships, it can make people decide to take a step back from being available. "And once distrust settles in, it’s hard to shake; nobody wants to be 'that friend' who’s forever dodging a Venmo request or getting side-eye from relatives at every family BBQ," West points out. How many times have you built up a wall with the people you love because of repeated unreliability or the expectation that you're supposed to help them whenever they ask? If you didn't hesitate to think of a moment, you're living proof that distrust can affect even the closest relationships.

Dunlap says, "When money becomes a main factor in a relationship, it can overshadow the connection, making it difficult to maintain genuine trust and understanding. You can avoid this by having open conversations with friends and family about your financial situation. Clear communication can help keep the focus on the relationship, not the money."

5. You Can Worry You're Not A Good Friend Or Family Member For Setting Money Boundaries

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Worrying about how other people feel can keep us from setting boundaries. There's a difference between being an empath and a people pleaser, but it's easy to blur the lines. You can absolutely empathize with someone's hardship while knowing you're not in the position to lend the amount they may be looking for. I'm a huge fan of saying that two things can be true at once — because they can.

Irwin says you need to "address the conversation head on" if a friend does ask you for a loan. Your response may depend on if their ask was "emotionally-charged or "in an uncomfortable environment," but Irwin doesn't recommend ignoring it. If you're not in the space to respond, here's what she suggests saying in a "timely" fashion:

  1. "Hey, I need time to think about this. Let me get back to you."
  2. "We can help you, but here are our boundaries."
  3. "We see and understand you, but we're unable to help because we're trying to pay off debt or save for _______."

Yes, Financial Boundaries Are Essential

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Don't think you need to create financial boundaries for yourself and your friends? Think again. West says, "Establishing some ground rules is a lifesaver—think of it adding airbags to the friendship. Setting boundaries early on, like when you’re still in the happy, non-monetary part of the relationship, can protect both sides if things get sticky."

Here's how she advises you proceed with creating boundaries:

  1. Keep it light and be honest; you’re not making a prenuptial agreement here, just letting them know you’d like to avoid “financial fireworks” later.
  2. Say, “I’m your friend, not your ATM.” It’s funny but helps set the tone that your wallet isn’t a free-for-all.
  3. Set a gift cap, such as, "I'm happy to chip in for brunch or a birthday, but let’s not get into home-loan territory.”
  4. If you do lend, draw up a repayment plan. Think of it as adulting with a side of accountability to avoid “accidentally” becoming their financial fairy godmother.
  5. Limit talk of big financial choices unless you’re genuinely invested together. After all, nobody needs to know how much their friend spends on avocado toast or scented candles, let alone home renos.
  6. A little humor and some boundaries go a long way. You’ll save yourself a lot of awkwardness and keep the friendships intact, one “non-loaned” dollar at a time!

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Tori says, "It's so important to have transparent conversations about money, set clear boundaries, and ensure that relationships are prioritized in any money exchange." Here are a few things you can try:

  1. Communicate about your budget with a “gratitude sandwich.” Say you’re invited to an outing—a dinner, or a sports game—that isn’t within your budget right now. You can respond with the “gratitude sandwich.” The “pieces of bread” are positive, and the “meat” is the money thing you’re scared to say. Thank that person for the invite, let them know it’s not within budget right now, and then offer a cheaper alternative, reassuring them that you’d really love to see them. Offering an alternative reminds that person that declining their invitation isn’t about them, and you still care about them. In doing so, you prioritize your budget AND your relationship in the process.When in doubt, remember that no is a complete sentence. You don’t need to overcomplicate things, and sometimes a simple “no” is all you need.
  2. Set expectations early. When planning trips with friends, discuss the budget and how costs will be split upfront. Having these conversations ensures that everyone is on the same page and helps avoid any misunderstandings. It creates a supportive, stress-free environment where everyone can enjoy the experience together without any added worries!

The Final Verdict:

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Once you've weighed your options and considered what you need, you can decide to loan your friend money. However, Irwin wants you to consider being formal about it. "You can absolutely draft a promissory note or loan agreement so that your friend knows how serious you are about your boundaries. If you want, you can also put an interest rate on it," she says.

It's not to hurt your friend's feelings, but it is a boundary you can put in place so they think to themselves, "This is truly a loan because I'm borrowing money with the intent to pay it back," Irwin says. It could change the dynamics of your friendship, but it's more about being "purposeful about the language being used" so you and your friend can both move in the "right direction," according to Irwin.

If the idea of creating a 'loan agreement' sounds icky to you, Dunlap wants you to seriously consider it as "an extra bit of protection." She says all you need to do, again, is "try setting up a simple contract to outline repayment terms" because it "can help both of you stay on the same page and avoid misunderstandings down the road."

Her ultimate piece of advice? "Only lend what you're comfortable giving and potentially losing, and keep open communication to maintain trust and respect in the relationship."

If you set clear financial boundaries and still find that your platonic relationships are weird, we have tips to help you navigate a potential friendship breakup.

Romance reality TV is probably one of the best sectors of the entertainment universe, at least if you ask us. We love our Bachelor nation binge watches and live for our daily Love Island recaps. Watching people fall in love is so, so cute…and more often than not these relationships spill out of our screens and into the real world, where we’re able to keep up with all of our favorite reality stars à la social media. Such is the case for Gabby Windey — former Bachelor contestant and half of The Bachelorette’s starring Season 19 duo — who *just* came out as queer and revealed that she’s been dating comedian and writer Robby Hoffman for three months. Please excuse us while we squeal in excitement for her!

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On Wednesday, Gabby appeared on The View to share a mysterious update about her dating life. “I have been seeing someone for a couple months,” she said. “And I’ve been keeping it a little private because it is a bigger story and a bigger conversation. Because I’m dating a girl.” She continued, explaining to the speechless (and rather stiff) hosts that her queerness “was always a whisper in me that just got louder and louder” and she “had to navigate through the shame” she’d internalized before coming out. “I don’t want to live and not be living my full truth,” she commented.

Following her announcement, Gabby shared a series of pictures to Instagram with her big news, featuring her girlfriend Robby. “Told you I’m a girls girl!!” she humorously captioned the post. She went on to share an adorable video of her running up to Robby and kissing her post-The View, and it’s safe to say we’re ecstatic for her.

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Robby also shared her own pictures of Gabby to Instagram, tagging her in the comments.

Gabby was a finalist on Clayton Echard’s season of The Bachelor in 2022. She proceeded to co-star in her own season of The Bachelorette alongside Rachel Recchia, getting engaged to Erich Schwer last May after meeting him on her season. Gabby and Erich called off their engagement last November, and she seems to have started seeing Robby a few months later.

We should note that Gabby isn’t the first Bachelor Nation contestant to come out as queer, either. Becca Tilley, who was casted in Seasons 19 and 20 of The Bachelor has been dating pop singer Hayley Kiyoko for five years, sharing her sexuality with the world in 2022. Colton Underwood, another lead in the franchise, also came out as gay in 2021, not to the surprise of comedian and actor Billy Eichner (IYKYK).

The Bachelor franchise has historically been solely focused on heterosexual relationships, only deviating from the norm in Australia. In 2021, The BacheloretteAustralia lead Brooke Blurton became the first openly bisexual lead in the franchise, hosting both men and women in the Bachelor Mansion.

TBH, we’d love to see more representation in The Bachelor franchise. Love is love — and we want to see it all on our screens!

Stay updated on the latest pop culture and celebrity news with Brit + Co.

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If you’re one of those people that prides themselves on delivering the perfect present and finds joy in seeing the giftee's face light up, Anthropologie is going to be your BFF for finding gifts this holiday season! From home decor to apparel and everything in between, Anthropologie delivers unique and eclectic finds that are fun and fashion-forward. It can be challenging sifting through the endless online racks of their treasures, though, so I’ve broken down the best gifts from Anthropologie so all you have to do is press *add to cart*!

Our 25 favorite Anthropologie gifts for 2024 gifting:

Let's jump into the best gifts from Anthropologie for the season! These are perfect for teen girls, Gen-Z-ers, fashion lovers, and those who can't help but hop on the latest trends.

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For the one that plans like it's a full-time job: 2025 17-Month Monogram Planner

Is there ever a better gift than something that'll help them keep their life in order? 2025, we're coming for you.

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For the cozy-chic gal: UGG Classic Mini Boots

These mini UGG boots are so on-trend right now, any cool fashion gal will adore them as a gift.

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Bring street style to their closet: The Oversized Brigitte Satchel by Melie Bianco

This bag fits everything your giftee could possibly need in the day-to-day – and then some.

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For the skincare-obsessed: NuFACE Mini+ Gift Set

This slightly-bougie skincare device tones and lifts your face while targeting signs of aging, like fine lines and wrinkles. It'll be such a luxe upgrade to your giftee's current routine!

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For the girl on the go: New Balance 530 Sneakers

These fashion-forward sneakers work well across a variety of outfits and occasions, like hitting the gym, going on a hot girl walk, or running weekend errands. The cool girl in your life will love pairing them with her favorite matching workout set and a sleek trench coat when it's cold out.

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Being trendy is too easy: Cherry Lips Bag Charm

Bag charms are all the rage right now, so help them hop on the trend with this adorably eye-catching keychain.

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To wear with her cowgirl boots: Worn/West Let's Go For a Walk Trucker Hat

Trucker hats are the perfect head gear for a casual-get up. Styles that make a statement like this one are perfect for the Western fashion lover!

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Seasonal scent for their space: Icon Woody Fresh Balsam & Cedarwood Glass Candle

Anthropologie's candle selection is bomb – you're bound to find a scent your giftee will approve of. We recommend this seasonal woody scent encased in a festive, tree-dotted glass!

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Unique lighter that looks like decor: Nomatiq Flume Electric Lighter

Pick up this electric lighter to coordinate with any candle gift. We promise they've never owned a lighter like this!

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Okay, she's a bookworm: I-SEA Aviator Readers

Whether she's working through her current TBR list or starting off the workweek, these chic readers will help her see clearly. You can snag 'em in a handful of colors and different strengths based on her vision.

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Straight to the point for the shoe lover: Maeve Pointed-Toe Moto Mary Jane Flats

All the cool girls are rocking pointed flats for winter. Bonus points for this pair being metallic!

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Surprise your loved ones with these cheeky gift ideas that are perfect for anyone and everyone! From quirky gadgets to fun, useful finds and playful accessories, these picks are designed to bring a smile to anyone's face. Whether you're shopping for a close friend or that hard-to-please relative, these unique finds add a dash of humor and charm to your holiday gifting. Explore these playful gifts and make this season memorable with presents that everyone will enjoy.

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This calming toy to Help Reduce Anxiety

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This Purrble calming toy has been awarded Amazon’s choice, and will be both fun and soothing for children. It is a high-tech tool and a soft, furry toy that is a cuddly interactive companion that can help children stay calm in moment of stress and anxiety!

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This Puffer Bomber Is So Chic

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Keep your EveryGirl warm and stylish all winter with this beautiful puffer bomber. It comes in a range of classic colors and bright, bold, eye-catching colors so you can find the perfect look.

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Blow Off Some Steam With A Dammit Doll

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When you just can't take it anymore and need to yell and scream, take it out on a Dammit Doll. "The Classic Dammit Doll is engineered to absorb all that negative energy so you can let go and get your happy back on." Verified Purchaser, A. Preston, said, "I have been gifting Dammit Dolls for several years, they never fail to get a smile out of the recipient!"

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A Form of Shart

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This gift is just so hilarious, it had to make the list. If you have a friend who enjoys a good giggle, this is the one!

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Fidget Putty Is Perfect For Concentration

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Forget the fidget spinner, it's all about the fidget putty. This clever product contains over 500 ferrite stones that mould together like putty. It can help to calm an anxious mind or keep you focused.

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Advent Calendar But Make It Makeup

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Bring back all of the childhood feels with this advent calendar stocked for the makeup guru who likes to sample new high-end products and fragrances.

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Mini Karaoke Machine

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Bring the party home with this Mini Karaoke Machine. This portable Bluetooth speaker for kids comes complete with two wireless microphones, perfect for family singalongs or as a unique gift for the little songbird in your life.

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These Slippers Are Perfect for Cold Weather

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These UGG Slippers are made from ultra-cozy dyed sheep fur and feature a cushiony insole and rubber outsoles. They will keep your giftee’s feet warm inside but are also a total delight to look at.

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Remove Sebum and Blackheads With This Tool

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This adorable tool was made to clean out your pores with just a few sweeps. The Tako pore scrubber pulls out impurities to leave your skin looking and feeling clean and bright.

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The Not-So Piggy Bank

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This piggy bank is lacking a piggy but serves adults and children alike. You can put in whatever amount you'd like and take out any amount you like (hence the ATM.) Genius!

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Put Your Phone on DND and Enjoy Some Quiet Time

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Bring back the art of conversation with this card game designed to spark meaningful discussions. Featuring over 300 questions, it's perfect for fall camping trips or cozy nights in with friends and family. Whether you want to reconnect or have fun, this game is a great way to spend those crisp autumn evenings.

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The Top Selling Pillows On Amazon

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Want a hotel feel every night? These Beckham Hotel Collection Pillows are the answer we're all looking for. They outsell every other pillow on Amazon by a landslide and are made with a cooling gel fiber to keep you from overheating. You'll sleep like royalty.

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Shoe Spray to Spray the Stink Away

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Enjoy a fresh pair of shoes every time you put them on and avoid the embarrassment of taking off your shoes that have a stench when at someone’s house. The shoe spray gets rid of the nasty odors that may happen over time so you can feel confident in your walk.

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This Organizer Bin With a Genius Design

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If you've little ones with a million toys that are always making a mess, then you know the struggle that comes with getting them to tidy up. This organizer bin is a game-changer, perfect for small toys since not only does it have large storage space, but it also doubles as a playing mat so that when your kids are done playing, everything can cleaned up at once, saving you the hassle and stress.

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A Portable Photo Printer To Make Prints Anywhere

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Just when we thought we had enough photos on our phones, the HP Sprocket Photo Printer stepped in to display our shots physically. The portable photo printer boasts Bluetooth connectivity and can print images at 2 x 3in, roughly the size of a credit card. The best part? It can also apply effects, filters, and more.

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This Desk Lamp For Lighting But in the Cutest Way

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Light up your space with the desk lamp in the shape of a bird, making it a cute gift for a child or adult. It adds the essence of nature inside.

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Cowboy Hat-Wearing Duck Lamp

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It doesn't get more unique for a gift than this cute little cowboy hat-wearing duck table lamp! This little guy includes a USB port for rechargeable ambiance and touch control for personalized dim light.

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This Comfortable Bath Pillow Takes Relaxation to Bliss

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Indulge in the ultimate bath relaxation with the LuxSetp pillow, a #1 best-seller, complete with a plush cushion and neck roll. It is designed for supreme head and shoulder support while soaking and is crafted from breathable, quick-dry mesh. Attaching it to their tub is a breeze, with six handy suction cups included.

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The Stanley Stainless Steel Tumbler Is a Fan Favorite

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Don't miss out on gifting the popular Stanley Stainless Steel Tumbler, which will be a hit this holiday season. This double-wall vacuum-insulated tumbler is available in almost two dozen colors and four sizes.

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Go Solo

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The Solo Stove has been all over the news lately, thanks to Snoop Dogg's hilarious commercial. The Stove was made to fit perfectly on backyard tables, offering the lucky recipient with the perfect place to roast marshmallows or a just fun spot to enjoy a bit of backyard rest and relaxation.

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Wrap Up In Warm in These Essentials

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This season, gift comfort with these teddy slippers. You won't believe how quickly they will mold to feet. Perfect for winter evenings of fireside lounging.

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Comfy Couch Blanket

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This is an easy and fail-proof gift to give someone you don't know well. A fuzzy blanket for comfy movie nights and an easy way to add style to their living space!

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Nostalgic Glow From This Tetris Lamp

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Light up a gamer's world in more ways than one. This Tetris lamp isn't just about illumination; it's a tactile experience, a puzzle in itself. Let them design their own luminous masterpiece. Beyond being a practical gift, it’s a journey down memory lane, evoking nostalgia and delight.

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They'll Feel Pampered With This Laneige Holiday Gift Set

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After trying the popular Laneige lip mask, we fully understand the hype. This gift set has all of the star favorites from your favorite moisturizing brand, from a cream moisturizer to their coveted, best-selling lip mask. There are a few different sets to choose from, making it easy to tailor to your gift recipient.

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Astronaut Galaxy Night Light

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This SunTime Star Projector Galaxy Night Light is a mesmerizing gift that transforms any room into a starry galaxy, perfect for kids and adults who love a touch of celestial wonder.

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Handprint Kit

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With this CHERRY CHEERS Family Handprint Kit, you can create a personalized keepsake wooden frame, an endless gift set that captures family moments in a unique and fun way.

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This Heated Neck Stretcher For the Whole Body

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Since it is connected, your body will feel better using the heated neck stretcher. Gift a loved one this gift for muscle relaxation and therapeutic heat done right at home.

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This Camera Bundle for Pro-Level Shots

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This bundle includes the Canon EOS Rebel T7 camera, which is compact but can capture high-quality photos and videos. It comes with additional accessories, including extra camera lenses, filters, a tripod, and more tools that’ll give them more freedom to experiment with different photography styles.

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Give Their Plants a Personality with these Magnets

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For the plant lovers among you, these magnets are the perfect gift. With three expressions and three adorable animals, they add a playful touch that’ll bring a smile to your recipient’s face. Take it from this reviewer: “These are such a unique and inexpensive gift for the plant enthusiast in your life. Turn a simple plant into an adorable conversation item. They will make you smile when watering your houseplants.”

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This Book Nook for DIY Enthusiasts

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Available in four beautiful designs, this book nook is not only a wooden puzzle that’s very fun and fulfilling to assemble, but it also culminates into a beautiful and functional display piece for your recipient’s bookshelf.

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Relieve Tension With an Infrared Heat Mat

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This infrared heat mat delivers far-infrared heat that relieves your sore muscles. It's a great way to stimulate muscle recovery and ease into relaxation.

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A Coloring Book with a Sense of Humor

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The "Things You Want to Say at Work But Can't" coloring book is the perfect gift for that person just trying to get through the work week. It not only offers an outlet for stress relief, but each page has hilarious sayings that are sure to get a much-needed laugh.

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Legacy Journal

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This Legacy Journal by Duncan & Stone is a thoughtful gift that lets grandparents share their stories and wisdom across 85 beautifully designed pages.

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Christmas Snow Globe for Magic Glittery Moments

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Shake the Christmas snow globe and watch as snow starts to fall on the tree and presents inside. It is a beautiful sight that makes for a beautiful gift.

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For the True Crime Lover

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The excellent gift for the Law and Order true crime junkies is this criminal minds brain game is a fun way to test their memory and gives them an excuse to play private investigator.

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This Kit to Crochet the Stress Away

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Whether they want to try their hand at crocheting their clothes or trinkets like book sleeves, mats, and more, this crochet kit includes everything needed, including 21 crochet hooks, 15 skeins of yarn, and 37 additional accessories that’ll come in handy. It’s a therapeutic hobby and the key to making practical yet cute items they’ll love.

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These Solar Wind Chimes For Musical Days and Nights

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Add sound to time spent at home with the solar wind chimes that make for a gift that keeps giving. The sounds of chimes have a calming effect on anyone.

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Every Kitchen Needs One

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High-quality pots and pans aren't easy to find, but this set fits the description. The gorgeous, non-stick, oven-safe, and dishwasher-safe set comes with a detachable handle that can change from pot to pan and back again to offer the ultimate convenience for the home chefs in your life.

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This B5 Balm Soothes Dry Skin

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The hands and body can get seriously cracked and dry during the unforgiving winter. This La Roche-Posay Cicaplast Balm B5 is a must-gift for your friend who needs a soothing balm. Healing and therapeutic, this multi-purpose cream will soothe dry and cracked skin.

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Gift the Joy of Cozy, Warm Sips with a Temperature-Controlled Mug

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For that person who always has a hot drink at hand during the holiday season, this temperature-controlled mug is the most practical and thoughtful gift. It has three heat levels, ensuring that they can savor every sip in perfect peace without worrying about a lukewarm drink.

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The Screaming Goat: For the Office Jokester

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The Screaming Goat figurine, which is complete with a book, is a must-have for the office prankster. The unexpected goat scream will effortlessly lighten the mood and draw laughs on busy days filled with silence and concentration.

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This Smart Notebook Transmits Handwritten Notes

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Pop your notes online, and then here's the magic: zap your Rocketbook reusable notebook in the microwave, and voilà, all 80 pages are fresh again! It's a game-changer for doodlers, busy students, or note-takers in endless meetings. Say goodbye to carrying a pile of heavy notebooks - this journal is about making their life lighter.

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Healing Crystal Candle To Calm Their Bah Humbug Attitude

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Aromatherapy tea light candles filled with crystals to channel positive energy and encourage holiday cheer. Illuminate their home with Amazon's Healing Crystal Candle!

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These Nostalgic And Fashionable Mini Ugg Boots

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These Mini Ugg Boots will put a smile on any fashionista's face. With sheepskin lining and insoles, these boots will keep anyone warm all winter long whether they are inside or outside.

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This Unique Jewelry Wash Makes It Easy to Keep Your Jewelry Sparkling

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Featured as one of Oprah's favorite things, this jewelry wash cleans your jewelry while you wash your hands. It uses safe and effective ingredients to give your jewelry a deep clean while nourishing your skin, and it's formulated to be safe for all metals, gemstones, and jewelry types.

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Chill Out with These Meditation Disks

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These tone therapy meditation disks are meant to be placed on either side of the body to release a full meditative 3-minute healing sound bath that's helped thousands of people with their anxiety.

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Portable Blender

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This Ninja Blast Portable Blender is a cordless, rechargeable device perfect for health-conscious individuals who love their shakes and smoothies on the go.

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Keep your pet entertained for hours with a motion-activated toy

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Every pet owner knows how it feels to want to spend hours playing with their pet but remember that they have other obligations they must attend to. If you think this is you, you can provide your pet with entertainment without having to spend hours playing. Enter this motion-activated toy that dogs will love.

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This Bracelet Doubles As a Charging Cable

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You would never guess that this wristband also serves as a mobile phone charging cable. This fashionable accessory is ideal for anyone consistently on the go and is available in several hues to suit personal style.

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This Toiletry Organizer For Travel

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Anyone who frequently travels will appreciate this Toiletry Organizer. It features separate compartments for everything you need for a successful trip, including makeup, skincare, and hair products.

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Unlock a World of Unusual Knowledge With This Book

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‘The Book of Unusual’ is a best-seller on Amazon, and its name is the only gag aspect. Filled with intriguing trivia across entertainment, politics, art, and more, it's a wealth of unusual and fascinating information, perfect for the curious mind.

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This Drawing Tablet is For Beginners of Graphic Design

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Beginner-friendly, this drawing tablet has ample drawing space so that creating digital artwork is easy and comfortable. It has various levels of pressure sensitivity for accurate drawings, and there are eight customizable keys on the side that your recipient can set up with convenient shortcuts.

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A Set of Kawaii Erasable Gel Pens That Is Just Adorable!

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According to Wikipedia, "kawaii" (rhymes with Hawaii) is the "culture of cuteness in Japan." That explains how popular Hello Kitty and Pikachu are. The Pig, Bear, Cat, and Mouse that make up this Set Of 4 Erasable Gel Pens can certainly be described as Kawaii. See, listicles can be educational! Only .55 cents!

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This Adult Sensory Toy for Relief

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Get out your stresses of the day with the adult sensory toy. It makes for a terrific gift, even if just for play. Build funky structures with the magnets.

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An Oasis Of Relaxation With This Shower Bomb

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Transform your daily shower into a spa retreat with this Shower Bomb, the ideal gift for those who appreciate moments of relaxation and rejuvenation. This Shower Bomb infuses your shower with soothing scents and a refreshing ambiance, turning your routine into a wellness experience. Whether it's for a self-care enthusiast, a fitness fanatic, or someone who simply enjoys the gift of serene moments, this Shower Bomb is the ultimate gift that ensures your shower becomes an oasis of relaxation.

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Everyone Needs These Apple Air Tags

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Your family and friends will love these popular Apple Air Tags that can track personal belongings ranging from cell phones and wallets to keys and wireless headphones.

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The Ultimate Chill Onsie

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These are the perfect PJs or loungewear for a homebody. It doesn't get more comfortable than hanging at home in a onsie.

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Glass Teapot For Two

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Brewing the perfect cup of tea with this exquisite glass teapot for your folks. It makes a splendid gift for tea-loving parents who enjoy sharing this delightful beverage together.

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This Lip Sleeping Mask Nourishes Overnight

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This LANEIGE Lip Sleeping Mask is essential for nourishing lips overnight. This product blew up after Sydney Sweeney campaigned with the brand, hyping it on socials, and then it started flying off the shelves.

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This 3-in-1 Charging Station Is a Great Secret Santa Gift

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This compact 3-in-1 Wireless Charging Station is a great Secret Santa gift as it can charge various tech essentials and easily fits any tabletop.

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These Classic Athletic Socks

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There is no stocking stuffer better than Classic Socks. These athletic unisex socks come in white and black color options and can be worn during leisure or physical activities.

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These Satin Bed Sheets Enhance Comfort in the Bedroom

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Slide into luxury with DECOLURE's satin bed sheets. Their silky texture is a dream against your skin. This lightweight, wrinkle-resistant set, complete with a fitted sheet, flat sheet, and two pillowcases, comes in various sizes and colors to suit any taste.

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Streak-Free Cleaning with These Microfiber Glasses Cleaner

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This Microfiber Glasses Cleaner is ideal for effectively cleansing lenses while avoiding scratches. They are an excellent substitute for wearing a shirt to wipe glasses and serve as a practical present for those wearing spectacles.

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An Adorable Note Dispenser for Your Office Buddy

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Add a touch of whimsy to any desk with this adorable cat-themed note dispenser. Beyond its endearing design, this little feline friend serves a practical purpose by effortlessly dispensing post-it notes. It's not just a desk accessory; it's a charming companion that brings both the cuteness factor and functionality to the workspace.

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Boost Productivity Anywhere with This Work From Anywhere Kit

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This Work from Anywhere Kit is ideal for remote workers or digital nomads. With 17 essential items, it transforms any location into an efficient workspace inspired by the latest TikTok trends.

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This Mini Waterproof Bluetooth Speaker

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This Mini Bluetooth Speaker is perfect for travel and outdoor use. It can even be used in the shower to deliver high-quality sound without distortion for the ultimate listening experience.

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For the Traveling Soldier

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You can't go wrong with gifting the best makeup bag on the entire planet! This traveling organizer unfolds to reveal four separate storage compartments and even has space for makeup brushes so they don't get crushed in transit. The 360-degree swivel hook makes it easy to hang up in a hotel room or the car for easy access anytime.

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Customizable Door Mat Is a Cute Addition to the Home

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Gifting this Customizable Door Mat will turn a house into a home and bring a smile to their face every time they see it. It definitely adds a personal touch when welcoming guests this holiday season.

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This Star Map Showcases the Sky on Their Special Day

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If you’re looking for a one-of-a-kind way to show someone how much you care, this customizable star map is perfect. This artwork will show the constellations in the sky on any date you choose; how cool! You can customize the phrase, names, date, location, and font, so it’s a thoughtful and chic decor item.

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A Tray to Enjoy a Romantic Breakfast in Bed

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Let your parents know you want them to enjoy their time with a bedtable tray. It holds lots of food and coffee so they can stay in bed for hours.

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Dad Will Love This Beard Trimmer

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Get your dad to chop off those extra hairs so he doesn’t look like Santa, and see how much he will love this Beard Trimmer.

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These Best-Selling Earbuds Are Quality Sound On a Budget

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The TOZO earbuds feature Bluetooth 5.0 and a water-resistant design. They're the savvy pick over pricier brands, boasting a stellar 4.3-star rating from 357K+ reviews. Users are raving about the impressive 30 hours of playtime.

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