19 She Sheds to Fuel Your Daydreams

With spring in full bloom, She Sheds (AKA the anti-man cave) are back and racking up likes like never before on Pinterest and Instagram. It’s not hard to imagine why: These garden sheds, art studios and study rooms are gorgeous getaways every woman wishes she had, all in the convenience of her own backyard. Whether you prefer shabby chic cottages or modern minimalist sheds, we’ve got you covered. Here are 19 She Sheds to ogle over, daydream about or inspire you to build your own!

1. Garden Retreat: With a greenhouse-inspired wonder like this, you can surround yourself with nature without losing out on the comfort of a cushiony daybed. Save serious bucks by using salvaged materials — this shabby chic garden retreat is decked out with old windows and doors. (via Better Homes and Gardens)

2. Beach Cottage: This dreamy coastline cottage is the stuff daydreams are made of. To get the look of this sandy She Shed, stick to an all white paint job and lots of windows to enjoy the beachside view. Now you can live your daydream anytime — just string up your hammock, grab a book and relax the day away. (via Vtwonen)

3. Glass House: Turn a greenhouse into an actual living room fitted with sofas, armchairs, coffee tables and even a friggin’ fireplace. Just imagine how cozy you’d feel seeing the ember glow fill up your glass getaway at night (and how cool it’d look from the outside). Plus, it’ll be super useful during the colder months when all you want to do is snuggle up by the fire. (via Philadelphia Magazine)

4. Minimalistic Triangular Cottage: Contrary to what you’d expect from a “small, dark wooden box,” every bit of this 128-square foot space screams refined, modern architecture. This annex-turned-cottage makes for an ideal backyard getaway or guest house. Though its design is relatively simple, its black exterior makes quite the statement. Opt for a similarly dark exterior to keep your cottage chic and far from looking shabby. (via Bolig Magasinet)

5. Office Garden Studio: If you’re a money-conscious entrepreneur looking for an office space without breaking the bank, this garden studio is the answer to your problems. The rooftop garden on this compact studio isn’t just sustainable, the studio’s streamlined design practically defines forward-thinking, modern architecture. For those of you looking to brighten up your She Shed without dishing out the dollars, plant a sustainable rooftop green space to create a cheery, inviting atmosphere. (via Backyard Room)

6. Artist’s Studio: This room, reminiscent of a Monopoly house, is modeled after an archetypal Swedish building. Simplicity is key with this design, as it opts for a bare plywood interior and relies on the natural light from its large skylights. Save on costs, complicated blueprint designs and time painting by opting for a similarly minimalistic look. (via Dwell)

7. Shepherd’s Hut: The ideal She Shed for the world traveler comes in the form of this shepherd’s hut turned summer house. If you’re looking to channel serious gypsy vibes but don’t have a caravan, don’t fret. Simply fill your summer house with eclectic travel-themed trinkets — thrifted suitcases and maps will capture the bohemian traveler’s aesthetic with old world charm. (via Anguskirk / Flickr Creative Commons)

8. Habitable Polyhedron: Think outside the box like architect Manuel Villa did for his habitable polyhedron. Its “truncated cubic-octahedron” shape challenges conventional architecture and makes for an intriguing space to use as a personal getaway or a lounge area for friends and get-togethers. To keep a small space like this from becoming too stifling, opt for big windows or glass doors to bring in natural light. (via Manuel Villa / ArchDaily)

9. Playhouse With Screen Windows: Among the things you do when renovating an old shed — aside from adding a fresh coat of paint and modern accents like this shed’s gold fixtures — is ensuring your space is well-ventilated. It can seem a little daunting, especially with so many different window types to choose from. But after this shed’s designer Joni Lay chose to go with simple screen mesh windows, she hasn’t looked back. Pro Tip: Make sure to find one that’s weather proof to keep the air flow in the room, but the rain out! (via Home Depot Blog)

10. Backyard Room With French Doors: When choosing a door for your backyard room, it’s important to consider your priorities. If you need to keep your shed well-lit and roomy-feeling, you might benefit from installing French doors like this shed. Sure, they’re a little fancy — but they’ll make your room appear more spacious while letting in tons of natural light. (via House to Home)

11. Craft Room Decor: Whether it’s art, music or fitness, your shed’s decor should say it loud and proud. Consider decor that will enhance the space’s purpose, such as this artist’s studio. The paintings mounted on easels help identify the artistic side of this domain. Decorating your space to fit its purpose will help inspire the work you’re trying to create. (via Interior Design Ideas)

12. Garden Playhouse: Believe it or not, this playhouse was constructed without any building plans. You’ll need a spare hand or two, but it’s a simple enough construct that it’s doable for any amateur carpenter. If this garden playhouse is everything you imagined your She Shed to be, know that it’s a project you can actually take on. (via Lazy Sunday Cooking)

13. Yoga Studio: Achieving transcendence has never been easier. Just go to your backyard, and escape into your very own zen den. This shed turned personal yoga studio is the She Shed all yogis need. Optimize the calming atmosphere by sticking to a neutral palette for your yoga or meditation practice. (via Lowes)

14. Garage Playspace: If you’re not using it to park your car, kick off your spring cleaning with an upgrade to your old and dingy garage. Swap out the vertical door for folding or French doors to really transform your “storage room” into this refined play space. Add hardwood floors and in just a weekend, you can have a spankin’ new She Shed. (via Menter Byrne Architects)

15. Planter’s Pad: If you’ve got a green thumb, you’ll love this She Shed planting station. Throw together a simple wooden framework, then dress it up with curtains and an aluminum roof to provide shade and privacy in your gardener’s haven. (via Better Homes and Gardens)

16. Cozy Shed: This charming She Shed looks like it came straight out of a vacay catalog, especially with the windows full of books. To capture its dreamy aesthetic, opt for an all-white paint job and billowy curtains. Make it even more inviting by decorating your shed with greenery, whether it’s a windowsill full of flowers or an entrance adorned with potted plants. (via Ella Claire)

17. Garden Studio: This backyard room extends its space to include a patio. Adding deck space to your shed will maximize the lounge area if you’re likely to entertain large groups of people. No more worrying about guests walking all over your lawn or plants. (via Houzz)

18. The Garden Room: A well-placed She Shed under a shady tree will allow you to surrender yourself to serenity, like in this garden hideaway. The shade will automatically bring down the temperature of your space and create a calming atmosphere that distinguishes itself from the rest of your house. (via All Roads North)

19. Cozy She Cave: If you’re looking to kick up the comfy factor — but a carpet seems too much of a hassle to maintain — try cozying up your space with an ultra plush rug. Whether you opt for patterned neutrals, bold print or a bright solid, whatever rug you pick will ultimately help define your space while adding a little warmth to your room. (via Studio Shed)

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Are you a member of the type-all-day crowd? Whether you’re tapping away highly complex code or churning out clever quips in the way of content, it’s more likely than not that you spend the bulk of your workday sitting at a desk. But did you know that it is way better for your healthand productivity to stand at your desk?

Sure, standing all day can have its downsides as well but, one good thing to remember when trying out a standing desk for the first time is that a cushioned bar stool is often your best friend. Whether you're picking a pre-made one or you'd like to DIY it so that you can customize it to your space, these standing desks will help you get more work down and improve your posture at the same time.

VIVO Desk Converter Dual Monitor and Laptop Workstation ($120+, was $140+)

Any desk can be a standing desk when you add this adjustable workstation. There's room for your monitor or laptop on the upper shelf, and keyboard on the lower shelf, plus you can pick from a variety of colors to best fit your office.

Upper Square Albin Height Adjustable Standing Desk ($160, was $411)

Ergonomic and adjustable, this desk has a contemporary and minimalist look that works for any modern office. The shallow shelf below the desktop is great for pens and notebooks to jot down your best ideas.

FEZIBO Brasa Electric Standing Desk with Upper Double Drawer ($300, was $400)

This desk comes with different tabletop space and color options to maximize your workspace. The monitor stand, storage cubicle, and two side drawers offer plenty of room to store your desktop knick knacks, without cluttering up the room.

FlexiSpot E1 Standard Standing Desk ($200, was $300)

Have the best of both worlds with a standing desk that you can lower when you'd rather sit. The bamboo is durable and sustainable (not to mention it looks amazing), and the height adjustment is smooth enough that nothing will fall off.

SIDUCAL Mobile Stand Up Desk, Adjustable Laptop Desk with Wheels ($80, was $100)

If you live somewhere small, or you don't enjoy staying in the same place all day, try a standing desk that you can take with you around your home thank to its wheels.

Sit-Stand Cart Mobile Height Adjustable Standing Desk ($107, was $123)

The cool thing about this desk is that the lower portion sits flat or tilts upward so that you can type at an angle that works best for your wrists. It also comes with cord hooks underneath the desk for helpful organization.

OUTFINE Dual Motor Height Adjustable Standing Desk ($219)

This might look like your basic standing desk, but the cupholder and hook (both of which are detachable, by the way) take it to the next level. 

Intension Design Tripod Standing Desk Pro ($400)

Since this option is a tripod, you can fold it up and store it behind a door or under your bed. This works great for anyone who needs a desk but doesn't have room to keep a permanent one in their space.

Judsen Height Adjustable Standing Desk ($128, was $145)

Not only does this pick let you sit or stand, but it also comes with its own bookshelf so you can keep your favorite books nearby.

Klvied Adjustable Standing Desk ($70)

This sitting and standing desk hybrid works like a TV tray, so when you feel like sitting, you can work from your bed or the couch. Yes, please!

Seville Classics Airlift Mobile Height Adjustable Laptop Stand ($51)

If you have a large sitting desk, opt for a smaller laptop stand that you can use whenever you feel like it. That way you can stand during work hours, without committing to a whole other desk.

Beadien Height Adjustable Standing Desk ($112, was $219)

Don't worry if you've never worked from a rolling desk before — two of the wheels lock so that you don't have to worry about accidentally pushing the desk around.

Plenty Of Workspace, Without The Floor Space

When you get a tabletop that attaches the wall, and stools that fit right underneath, you don't have to worry about taking up tons of floor space. Making it a wrap-around desk that sits in the corner also maximizes space in your room. (via A Beautiful Mess)

Ikea Galant Stand Up Desk

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This basically looks like a desk on top of another desk on stilts. And it kind of is. This is great because it doubles your table space. The craziest thing about this setup? The monitor risers are just upside down plate holders! (via Ikea Hackers)

Standing Desk Accessory

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Transform any desk into a standing desk

If you already have a regular desk in your workspace, DIY a desk accessory instead of a whole new workspace. That way, you can alternate between standing and sitting when you need to. We love that this one prevents you from leaning over and has a lower keypad area, which will help if you have circulation issues in your hands.

TV Cabinet + Galant Legs Desk

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Another Ikea hack, this take pairs the base of a desk with a super low TV cabinet. The results? Fashion and function. If your desk is in the middle of a room like this one is, just don't forget that the desk is wide open — you don't want to push your stuff out the back! (via Spacekat on Github)

Cabinet Door Counter

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Need a really shallow desk for a small space? This hacker took a cabinet door and attached it to the wall. It's wide enough that you can fit your planner, laptop, and desk supplies, but it doesn't stick out too far into your room. Small space win! (via Ikea Hackers)

Elevated Workspace

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Why not elevate your entire workspace? We love the vibe of this craft room, work room, get-everything-done room. Just look at all that under-the-desk storage! If you organize the space into different sections for your different activities, it won't be as confusing as you might think. (via Paper and Ink)

Tabletop Bolted to the Wall

Of course you can also turn a tabletop into an extra large shelf right on your wall. If you have the space for it, why not! We love the lower level shelving, most likely made from a TV stand or small dresser, which will give you extra drawer space too. (via Jason Garber on Flickr)

Standing Desk + Drafting Table

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And last, a slightly more advanced take on the standing desk, created by an architect. The desk unfolds into an angled drafting table, doubles as a pretty portable bar, and looks darn good. If you're pretty handy with woodwork and want something that's a bit of a challenge, this is a great project for you. (via Barrett Morgan Design)

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When it comes to New Year's Eve celebrations, the first thought that probably springs to mind is boozing it up with an NYE cocktail. And while there's nothing wrong with sipping some bubbly (if that's your inclination), those of us who prefer to keep thingsnon-alc may feel like there are no New Year's-appropriate activities for our preferences. We say that nothing could be further from the truth! Whether you're pregnant, abstaining, or just taking a break from the booze, here are 10 fun ideas for ringing in 2025, the sober way.

Attend A Silent Disco

A few years ago, just as the sober-curious movement was gaining steam, companies like Daybreaker brought 6 a.m. sober dance parties to the masses. In a similar vein are remote silent discos – events where you put your headphones on and dance it out to the music of world-class DJs right in the comfort of your own home (or in person, if you feel like venturing out).

A quick Google search will reveal that there are tons of options to shake it off on New Year's Eve, whether remotely or in-person in your city. Because silent discos have an alternative vibe, they're much more sober-friendly than traditional clubs and dance parties.

Make A Tea Bar

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If you've ever been to a party where they had aProsecco bar or something similar, you know how fun themed bars can be. Why not make a NA equivalent with a tea bar? We're not just talking about hot water and tea bags... include exciting staples like bubble tea, kombucha, Southern-style sweet iced tea, and more!

Do A Goal-Setting Ritual

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Not in the mood to party this year? Celebrate the New Year with some introspection by doing a goal-setting ritual. You can design the ritual in whatever manner you like, but we recommend something along the lines of:

  • Light a candle and sit quietly for a few minutes.
  • Whip out your journal and take inventory of the last year: What were your best memories? What are you grateful for? Where do you think you could've improved?
  • In your journal (we have some killer prompts to start you off), mindfully list out your goals for 2025. They don't have to be New Year's resolutions, exactly, but include small steps you can take in the new year to help you achieve your goals!

Make A 2025 Scrapbook

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Before New Year's Eve, head to your local craft store and pick up some supplies for making an old-fashioned scrapbook. Print out some photos from your most treasured memories of the year (we like printing with Walgreens), and gather any magazines you purchased or journal entries you wrote.

You can also look up some news headlines that made an impact on you, and print out the article as well as photos of any notable celebs or politicians who made the news. On New Year's eve, put together a scrapbook of what made 2024, 2024.

Good, bad, or otherwise, the year was one to remember — so create a momento that will help you re-live the past year in the years to come.

Plan A Costume Party

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Believe it or not, masquerade balls, dressing up in costumes, and concealing one's identity have a long history in the historical celebrations of Christmastime. So we think a New Year's costume party is a fully appropriate idea for a sober New Year's Eve.

Who needs booze to have fun when you can dress up as whoever you want for a night of merriment and mystery?

Karaoke It Up

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Another fun party pastime that's fun with or without booze? Singing! Grab some friends for a sober karaoke night either at your house or a private karaoke room. The singing's bound to be better than it would be if you were imbibing... who knows, maybe you'll steal the show with your rendition of "I'm Just Ken."

Cook A Fancy Meal

Whether you're spending the evening with your S/O or your BFF, cook a fancydinner for two. New Year's Eve is the perfect time to get fancy with food, so use this opportunity to ring in 2025 with only the finest cuisine. Don't forget to make a mocktail to go with!

Host A Game Night

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Bring all your besties over and host a board game night that's sure to be one for the books. Have everyone bring their favorite game – from Cards Against Humanity to Codenames – for a riotous evening that will remind you that you absolutely don't need booze to have a rowdy night of laughter!

Play 2024 Trivia

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Before New Year's Eve, compile a long list of trivia questions about 2024. Alternatively, have a friend do it for you, or do a quick Google search... there are a lot of trivia quizzes out there. On the big night, gather your squad together to see how much you remember about 2024. The results may surprise you!

Host A Murder-Mystery Dinner

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Murder-mystery dinners are still one of the best ways to facilitate a heart-racing and mind-boggling party. Pick up one of the many murder mystery dinner kits out there and have your besties over for a night of thinking on your toes — to be fair, it's probably best to skip the booze for this idea anyway, for the sake of your mental acuity.

Are you planning a sober New Year's Eve party this year? Tweet us @BritandCo to share your plans, and don't forget to subscribe to our newsletter for more booze-free hacks and party ideas!

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No matter how badly you want to hop on your New Year's resolutions, make new recipes, and get your DIY on, having a messy desk can slow you down or derail your productivity completely. If you're struggling with a mess that just won't seem to go away, you're definitely not alone. Keep reading for some DIY hacks that will clear off your workspace and give you room to breathe.

You Have Too Many Papers

Figure Out A Filing System

If you've got way too many paper piles, consider a DIY filing system that will keep things organized and clear up the space where the papers were taking up. Plus, if you go through the papers, you can probably throw more of them away than you realize.

DIY Ottoman Filing System

This filing system is cute and colorful, and it's multi-purpose. Use the ottoman as extra seating or a footstool when you need it.

Colorful File Organizer

Add some painted caps to a pot lid organizer and you've got one of the easiest DIY file organizers ever!

Go Digital Where You Can

Maybe your bank offers virtual credit card statements, or you don't need a subscription to that magazine because you only check their site anyway. Switching what you can to digital will save you space and help the planet at the same time. And if you're already feeling like your digital space is filling up, you can declutter your digital life too!

You've Got Stuff From All Over The House

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If you constantly find yourself dealing with mugs, books, or laundry on your desk, trust us, we've been there. Take some advice from the KonMari method and make sure that every single thing you own has a specific place.

Clip On Desk Organizers

When you don't have much space left at your workstation, move your storage off-desk. Grip clips are the secret to making your pencils and tape look like they're floating.

Zip Lock Container Organizers

This DIY is great because Ziploc containers (or other Tupperware) are something that a lot of us already have.

Label Everything

It can be difficult to keep things organized if you don't remember where things go. Consider making labels or color coding your organization so you never forget what's supposed to go in a particular spot.

Washi Tape Cord Labels

Whether you're organizing cords or just trying to keep track of which notebook is which, Washi tape is a great way to create a cute label for less.

You're Also Using Your Desk As A Vanity

Divide By Category

It can be tricky to separate all your necessities when you're using your desk for multiple purposes. That's where dividing your supplies can come in handy. If your desk has drawers, use half for makeup and keep folders and office supplies in the other half. Or if you only have a desktop, keep your beauty and office supplies on different ends.

DIY Vanity Kit

This finished product is so cute, you won't believe it's a DIY! This is great because it has room for tall objects and short, wide ones, both containing and grouping your items.

Marbled Jewelry Trays

You know those tiny rings you're always worried you'll lose? Yeah, this is the place for those.

You're Feeling Cluttered

Find Them A New Home

Sometimes if there's just too much stuff surrounding you when you're trying to work, that's all you can focus on. If your space is feeling claustrophobic, try moving some of the clutter off your desk to another area.

Ladder Shelf

Keep your knickknacks nearby with a shelf that you can put right beside your desk. We love that you can paint it to match your space.

Gold Dipped Baskets

Great for blankets, magazines, craft supplies, and more, these baskets are cute and easy to make.

Hang Things On The Wall

If your office doesn't have room for more furniture, find a way to display your photos and trinkets on your wall above your desk or in another part of the room that won't take up floorspace.

Accessory Organzier

This multi-purpose shelf is great for organizing and keeping things off your desk. You'll never lose your keys again!

Stylish DIY Shelf

Organizing never looked this cute, and it's totally customizable based on what kind of storage you need.

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As fun as Trader Joe’s snacks and desserts are, there’s one aisle you definitely should not skip – and that’s their plant section. Trader Joe’s is constantly stocking up on blooms like orchids and monsteras, all of which are easy to take care of once they make it home from the store.

Any houseplant lover knows the easiest of all easy houseplants is the famed pothos. I can water mine (I have about 5 pothos plants) once every two weeks, and they will. not. die. Right now, Trader Joe’s is selling pothos for cheap – but not just any pothos. They currently come along with a stunning hanging pot that you’ll instantly want to put up in your home.

Scroll on to discover more about this unique Trader Joe’s plant find!

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That’s right – Trader Joe’s shelves now include disco ball hanging planters. I repeat: disco ball hanging planters! The sphere-shaped pot is covered in reflective disco tiles that’ll certainly make your living room feel like a dance club. The best part is that pothos plants naturally look amazing when they’re grown hanging, so you can watch this baby flourish all year long.

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TJ’s fan account @traderjoesobsessed recently spotted the disco ball hanging planters at their local Trader Joe’s and shared the new find with their Instagram followers. Tons of them chimed in about their excitement for the product in the comments!

“I need this now😍,” one person commented.

“The way I gasped when I saw this 😍🪩,” another said.

“I bought one today and totally love it👍,” someone else commented.

“I suddenly need to buy more plants,” one more person wrote.

Several shoppers in the comment section noted that they were able to track down the disco ball hanging planters pretty easily, while others reported that they haven’t seen them in their stores quite yet. This is your sign to keep an eye out on your next TJ’s trip!

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@traderjoesobsessed reports that the disco ball hanging planters go for $12.99 in stores. Their affordable price makes them such a great gift for yourself or a loved one, plus the sparkles on the disco ball are perfect for livening up your space for a New Year’s refresh.

Run to TJ’s soon – I know I will!

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By now, you may be able to recognize signs of gaslighting or other toxicbehaviors, but do you know how to take everything you've learned and become a super compatible couple? According to experts, there are a few key things super compatible couples rarely argue about — even with whatever faults each person brings to the relationship table. While the topics these couples avoid may not surprise you, the reason why they're able to avoid them might. But first, let's talk about what makes couples more compatible than others.

Dr. Brooke Keels, Ph.D., LPC-MHSP, LPC-Supervisor, Chief Clinical Officer at Lighthouse Recovery, has this to say: "Couples are compatible when they share similar values, goals, and know the best way to communicate with each other." Notice she didn't say these couples are just alike.

More so, she explains that "it's about how well they handle differences, whether they can support each other through tough times, and how they connect emotionally." Dr. Keels adds, "when there’s respect, trust, and a good balance of give-and-take between them?" Dr. Keels believes this gives couples a better chance "to be in sync."

Scroll down to see the topics you'll rarely hear compatible couples arguing about!

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1. Long-term goals like marriage aren't often a cause for concern.

Have you ever dated someone that made you wonder what you saw in them once you pay attention to certain red flags? You may have found yourself arguing with them about everything from religion to reproductive health, leaving you feeling dizzy afterwards. But Dr. Keels says compatible couples are more likely to be aligned on "whether they want the same things out of life."

Her examples include:

  • Relocating for careers
  • Family planning
  • Finding somewhere to settle down in general (i.e. apartment, condo, different state, close to family, etc.,)

"This common ground lessens the chance of fighting over these big topics," Dr. Keels reiterates.

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2. There's a lesser chance arguments about weekend activities occur.

We're no strangers to indecisive moments where we couldn't agree about what to do on the weekends with our partners, but Dr. Keels says compatible couples don't always run into this issue. "When you enjoy similar activities or have overlapping hobbies, you're more like to find ways to unwind together, rather than feeling disconnected or frustrated by each other's choices," she adds.

While it varies from couple to couple, you and your partner may enjoy the following:

  • Buying tickets to watch the latest college basketball or football game
  • Going to a 'Paint and Sip' class for fun
  • Having a mini outdoor picnic
  • Visiting a national park if it's on your couple's bucket list
  • Spending a day at a local arcade

The possibilities are endless, but all that matters is that "this mutual understanding makes spending time together feel natural and fun," according to Dr. Keels.

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3. Communication styles aren't causing a daily disruption.

Some people have a more direct way of communicating while others may be passive or even passive-aggressive. Less arguments aren't happening because compatible couples communicate the same however. "When they both understand each other's communication style — whether it's direct or more subtle — it helps avoid misunderstandings and frustration."

Here's a couple of examples:

  • If you're having a bad day that has nothing to do with your partner, they don't take it personal when you prefer some alone time.
  • If your partner says something they perceived to be a joke, but you didn't, you're less likely to immediately accuse them of being insensitive. Instead, there's a higher chance of asking what they mean by something and expressing why you didn't like it instead of arguing.

Compatible couples "know how to express their feelings and needs in a way that the other person can easily understand" which makes "it easier to resolve issues calmly," according to Dr. Keels.

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Are couples better (or more compatible) because they don't have a lot of arguments?

Well, no. That's actually a stretch because everyone has arguments. "Even compatible couples can argue about everyday things like chores or schedules. No matter how well they get along or how "in sync" they are, little annoyances can still pop up here and there, and cause some tension between them," Dr. Keels shares. "The difference," she points out, "is that they're usually better at handling these moments and keeping them from turning into bigger problems."

The other thing she's seen couples argue about is money. "It's such a common stress point because everyone has different habits and priorities when it comes to spending or saving," she says. But, guess what? "Compatible couples tend to approach the conversation with more understanding and a willingness to find a compromise," she continues.

If you feel like you and your partner aren't on the same page, it may not be time to break up just yet. We've learned that that it can take time to effectively communicate with a romantic partner or understand them. Compatibility is great, but it's not an indicator that a relationship will be smooth sailing!

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How can I have healthier disagreements with my partner?

Like we said, getting to a point where you and your partner aren't consistently hurting each other's feelings during disagreements takes time as well as skill. No one's born knowing all the answers so don't think your relationship is over because you're still figuring things out.

Dr. Keels says one way you and your partner can work on the kind of disagreements you're having is by "knowing how to communicate/compromise." Look, we heard your sigh and know it's probably the antithesis of how you feel. We struggled with compromising, but you don't get far in life thinking that everyone else has to bend to your will all the time.

"Even if they don’t see eye to eye all the time, healthy couples listen to each other's perspectives, and look for solutions that work for both of them. It’s not about 'winning' the argument and getting to say who's right, but finding common ground so they can move forward together," adds Dr. Keels.

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Also, "staying respectful event when things get heated or when you're upset" is a way to have a productive arguments, according to Dr. Keels. What happens is that "healthy couples avoid yelling or saying hurting things during disagreements," she says. This means no cursing or raising voices to the point your next door neighbors feel they have to call the police to do a wellness check on you.

"Instead, they just focus on the real problem and stay calm, which helps them work through the issue without hurting each other and the relationship," Dr. Keels says. And in the event you and your partner can't find common ground in a given moment? She highly suggests you "take breaks or pause when things get too heated."

Couples who do this "know when to step away and cool off before continuing the conversation," she adds. There are times where it's difficult to have a proper conversation when you're anxious or angry, so it's always better to revisit the topic.

Dr. Keels agrees and says, "This gives them a chance to cool down first so they can properly think things through, and think of a solution that works for both of them without saying anything they might regret."

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