The Definitive Guide to Pairing Your Holiday Party Dress With the Perfect Lipstick

Pulling together the ultimate after-dark ensemble is no easy feat, even for those of us with minimalist style sensibilities. Sure, there’s always the all-black option, but girl, life’s too short to rock the same outfit on repeat. Translation: That little bit of extra effort is well worth it. But once you’ve gotten a killer getup squared away, there’s your beauty routine to consider. While a knotted ponytail or volumized topknot will look fire with whatever you toss on, your lipstick choice requires careful consideration. Okay, so it isn’t rocket science, but an on-point pout can totally make an outfit. To take all the guesswork out of the equation (so you can get out the door and on to the good stuff, like showing off those killer dance moves), we’ve put together 11 flawless dress and lipstick pairings that have you covered for every occasion.

1. Zara Flowing Frilly Floral Dress ($70) + Tom Ford Lip Color in Smoke Red ($53): A little bit sweet, a little bit sassy is exactly how we like it. Team this dramatic duo with fishnets and pointed-toe ankle boots for an after-hours look that straight-up slays.

2. Topshop Drape Front Midi Dress ($100) + Giorgio Armani Beauty Lip Maestro in 500 ($38): To say this emerald stunner is #goals would be an understatement. Amp up the va-va-voom factor with silver pumps, sleek drop earrings and a dramatic smokey eye. Siren red lips can easily take your look OTT with a dress this bold, so pair it with a pretty pink lip to achieve a sophisticated aesthetic.

3. H&M Satin Dress With Lace ($70) + Marc Jacobs Beauty Le Marc Lip Crème Lipstick in Boy Gorgeous 222 ($30): Put that LBD back in the closet and embrace a pretty-in-pink ensemble for an upcoming dinner date with bae. Play with proportion by pairing a slinky slip dress with a dramatic faux fur topper, then round out the look with ballet-beautiful lace-up heels and a swipe of berry lipstick.

4. Zara Contrast Sparkly Dress ($40) + Anastasia Beverly Hills Liquid Lipstick in Dusty Rose ($20): This fanciful frock was practically made for sipping Champagne and shakin’ it out on the dance floor, which is good news for your jam-packed holiday schedule. For an impactful look, pair it with a classic red pout, or if you’re playing up your minimalist side, opt for a muted shade of dusty rose for an au naturale glow.

5. Mango Off-Shoulder Dress ($50) + Kjaer Weis Adore Lipstick ($56): A little color coordination never hurt anyone — and in this case, it’s a straight shot to obtaining street-style-star status. The only thing missing from this winning combination? Sculptural kicks and a modern geo clutch.

6. Mango Floral Wrap Dress ($80) + Yves Saint Laurent Rouge Pur Couture Lipstick Collection in Melon D’Or ($37): Moody color and come-hither separates aren’t the only way to achieve a decidedly dramatic look. Dance your way to style glory in this sweeping wrap dress and a pair of embellished block heels. A shimmery melon-colored lip lends an air of cool-girl flair to the getup, and solidifies your status as an Instababe in the making.

7. Warehouse Crepe Tie Shoulder Dress ($70) + Estée Lauder Pure Color Envy Sculpting Lipstick in Infamous ($32): When it comes to GNO, you don’t mess around. Case in point: this bow-embellished scene-stealer that will blow the competition out of the water. Let the bold hue speak for itself, and opt for a natural-looking pink lip and neutral-colored shadow.

8. & Other Stories Lace Dress ($145) + MAC Red Lipstick in Red Rock ($17): A red-hot dress is always a good idea, especially in terms of date-night dressing. Make jaws drop when you strut into the room in this look-at-me number that’s both ladylike and diva-approved. On the lipstick front, rock a shade of red that closely resembles the duds you’re donning for a flawless look.

9. Topshop Plunge Floral Jacquard Dress ($140) + NARS Audacious Lipstick in Janet ($32): A daring cropped plunge dress that’s OMG-worthy is exactly what the doctor ordered. Between dinner at that buzzy new address to schmoozing on a rooftop under the stars, you won’t run out of opportunities to bust this beauty out. With velvet heels and a playful magenta lip in the equation, you’ll have no problem owning the title of queen of the night.

10. Mango Velvet Dress ($120) + Nu Evolution Lipstick in Femme Fatale ($30): If you’re going to do the LBD thing, you’ve got to do it right — and that means rockin’ it with a bold shade of red lipstick. Take it there with a come-hither cat eye, a statement ring and patent booties FTW.

11. Warehouse Lace Halter Dress ($294) + Charlotte Tilbury “Hot Lips” Lipstick in Hot Emily ($32): Impressing the parents? Time to bring out the big guns. And this elegant lace number will effortlessly rack up the brownie points. DO pair with a cheerful coral lip and heirloom jewelry that’ll take you from sippin’ Champagne to owning the dance floor in easy-breezy fashion.

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As much as I love an ugly Christmas sweater party, a small part of me still cringes at just how wacky they can be. There's a very fine line between 'ugly Christmas sweater' and 'playful holiday get-up' – but I think these fun holiday sweaters strike the perfect balance of the two. They're all colorful, festive, and so much fun to wear to any and every holiday get-together you've got going this year.

Scroll on for our favorite fun holiday sweaters for every party!

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1. The Violette Short-Sleeve Tinsel Sweater by Maeve

With 'tinsel' literally in this sweater's name, you'll be making a shiny statement wherever you wear this piece. It also comes in silver, gold, navy blue, and brown to suit your personal holiday style.

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2. The A&F Madeline Crew Sweater

This femme 'fit boasts a bow that's reminiscent of holiday gifts and all things merry. It only helps that this sweater is super soft to the touch!

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3. Out From Under Catching Feelings Fairisle Print Cropped Pullover

This sweet holiday sweater has an adorable reindeer design along the front, so it's instantly going to fit in for any holiday party. You can also snag the pair of matching shorts to complete the coziness if you'd rather stay in.

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4. BDG Stella Star Graphic Oversized Pullover Sweater

With this sweater, you'll literally be a star. The color palette challenges holiday tradition in the best way, though you could totally make it a better fit for a party with a black mini skirt, tights, and metallic boots.

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5. Maeve Faux-Fur Collar Cropped Cardigan Sweater

Oh, so fancy! This cardi's collar is lined with faux fur to make it feel ultra-luxe. Layer it over your best party dress, and voila!

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6. ASTR the Label Velvet Bow Cardigan

Bring on more bows, please! This tie-up cardigan secures with two oversized velvet bows that speak to the holiday season flawlessly.

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7. Gap Factory Peanuts Relaxed Gap Logo Sweatshirt

Snoopy is truly a holiday icon, especially in his dramatic puffer jacket. Don the famous dog on this cozy sweatshirt – it's so much cuter than an ugly Christmas sweater, plus you'll earn mega compliments (everyone loves Snoop!) wearing it.

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8. Free People Festive Frost Sweater

This fuzzy sweater is downright festive, thanks to the traditional stripes across the top half. We love it because it still leans very 'holiday,' but isn't explicitly so, since the color palette isn't just reds and greens.

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9. Vinyl Icons Martini Embellished Off The Shoulder Graphic Fleece Sweatshirt

Espresso martinis are a hallmark of the holiday season, and you simply can't change our minds on that. Get playful with your holiday sweater selection with this design that evokes a happy hour at any time of day, especially on a holiday break away from school or work!

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10. We The Free Flower Patch Sweater

You'll be able to get a lot of wear out of this sweet red sweater around the holidays! The slouchy fit is ideal for pairing with even more winter layers to stay warm.

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11. American Eagle Whoa So Soft Oversized Grinch Holiday Sweater

With Christmas' favorite villain on it, this super-soft sweater will always be in style around the holidays.

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When it comes to New Year's Eve celebrations, the first thought that probably springs to mind is boozing it up with an NYE cocktail. And while there's nothing wrong with sipping some bubbly (if that's your inclination), those of us who prefer to keep thingsnon-alc may feel like there are no New Year's-appropriate activities for our preferences. We say that nothing could be further from the truth! Whether you're pregnant, abstaining, or just taking a break from the booze, here are 10 fun ideas for ringing in 2025, the sober way.

Attend A Silent Disco

A few years ago, just as the sober-curious movement was gaining steam, companies like Daybreaker brought 6 a.m. sober dance parties to the masses. In a similar vein are remote silent discos – events where you put your headphones on and dance it out to the music of world-class DJs right in the comfort of your own home (or in person, if you feel like venturing out).

A quick Google search will reveal that there are tons of options to shake it off on New Year's Eve, whether remotely or in-person in your city. Because silent discos have an alternative vibe, they're much more sober-friendly than traditional clubs and dance parties.

Make A Tea Bar

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If you've ever been to a party where they had aProsecco bar or something similar, you know how fun themed bars can be. Why not make a NA equivalent with a tea bar? We're not just talking about hot water and tea bags... include exciting staples like bubble tea, kombucha, Southern-style sweet iced tea, and more!

Do A Goal-Setting Ritual

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Not in the mood to party this year? Celebrate the New Year with some introspection by doing a goal-setting ritual. You can design the ritual in whatever manner you like, but we recommend something along the lines of:

  • Light a candle and sit quietly for a few minutes.
  • Whip out your journal and take inventory of the last year: What were your best memories? What are you grateful for? Where do you think you could've improved?
  • In your journal (we have some killer prompts to start you off), mindfully list out your goals for 2025. They don't have to be New Year's resolutions, exactly, but include small steps you can take in the new year to help you achieve your goals!

Make A 2025 Scrapbook

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Before New Year's Eve, head to your local craft store and pick up some supplies for making an old-fashioned scrapbook. Print out some photos from your most treasured memories of the year (we like printing with Walgreens), and gather any magazines you purchased or journal entries you wrote.

You can also look up some news headlines that made an impact on you, and print out the article as well as photos of any notable celebs or politicians who made the news. On New Year's eve, put together a scrapbook of what made 2024, 2024.

Good, bad, or otherwise, the year was one to remember — so create a momento that will help you re-live the past year in the years to come.

Plan A Costume Party

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Believe it or not, masquerade balls, dressing up in costumes, and concealing one's identity have a long history in the historical celebrations of Christmastime. So we think a New Year's costume party is a fully appropriate idea for a sober New Year's Eve.

Who needs booze to have fun when you can dress up as whoever you want for a night of merriment and mystery?

Karaoke It Up

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Another fun party pastime that's fun with or without booze? Singing! Grab some friends for a sober karaoke night either at your house or a private karaoke room. The singing's bound to be better than it would be if you were imbibing... who knows, maybe you'll steal the show with your rendition of "I'm Just Ken."

Cook A Fancy Meal

Whether you're spending the evening with your S/O or your BFF, cook a fancydinner for two. New Year's Eve is the perfect time to get fancy with food, so use this opportunity to ring in 2025 with only the finest cuisine. Don't forget to make a mocktail to go with!

Host A Game Night

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Bring all your besties over and host a board game night that's sure to be one for the books. Have everyone bring their favorite game – from Cards Against Humanity to Codenames – for a riotous evening that will remind you that you absolutely don't need booze to have a rowdy night of laughter!

Play 2024 Trivia

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Before New Year's Eve, compile a long list of trivia questions about 2024. Alternatively, have a friend do it for you, or do a quick Google search... there are a lot of trivia quizzes out there. On the big night, gather your squad together to see how much you remember about 2024. The results may surprise you!

Host A Murder-Mystery Dinner

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Murder-mystery dinners are still one of the best ways to facilitate a heart-racing and mind-boggling party. Pick up one of the many murder mystery dinner kits out there and have your besties over for a night of thinking on your toes — to be fair, it's probably best to skip the booze for this idea anyway, for the sake of your mental acuity.

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As you start making your holiday prep list and checking it twice, don't forget to gift yourself something nice while you're at it! With all of the festivities during the holiday season, you'll want a couple of dresses that not only help complete your best outfit ideas, but make you feel like a million bucks. That's why I've rounded up 45 of the most stunning holiday dresses, ranging from more casual options to super fancy ones! So take a look — I'm sure you'll leave with plenty of styles saved to your cart. 😘

New Year's Eve Dresses

Hill House The Sequin Ellie Nap Dress

Ever since the OG Nap Dress took the world by storm, Hill House continues to up their game. The Sequin Ellie Nap Dress is absolutely stunning, and so on-brand for that upcoming New Year's function.

Mac Duggal Long-Sleeve Gem-Embellished Velvet Mini Dress

This long-sleeve mini dress has a ton of beautiful gem embellishments that make it such a fun piece to prance around in for New Year's.

Free People Glitter & Gold Midi Dress

This dress is definitely on the bolder side, making it a great choice for a fancier party. The plunging neckline and side-slit detail make it a total-standout outfit.

Mac Duggal Metallic Cocktail Dress

Ooh, this dress is so fun! The rich gold color and the deep dip at the back are just too good.

Wild Fable Tube Sequin Fringe Mini Bodycon Dress

Sequins + fringe = a very good time.

Express Endless Rose Sleeveless Sequin Tweed Mini Dress

Who knew tweed could be so festive?! Loving this sparkly take on a classic pattern!

Maje Paris Short Velvet Dress with Rhinestones

Opt for this cheekier holiday dress silhouette for the fancier New Year's get-togethers.

City Chic Glowing Sequin Long Sleeve Sweater Dress

Sequins on New Year's Eve are always a good idea!

Tuckernuck Black Feather Mod Ellie Dress

Feathers may not feel like the holidays to some, but I think they're fabulously festive! This little black dress is destined for many, many parties IMO!

Trina Turk Creosote Dress

This 60s mod number is giving Audrey Hepburn, IMO!

Joyfolie Caterina Dress

Wanna go boho chic? This Joyfolie dress is perfect for all your festive whimsical wear needs!

Club L London New Money Mini Dress

This is giving Brynn from Real Housewives of New Yorkin alllllll the best ways.

Ivy City Co. Confetti Dress

I just know Reese Witherspoon would slay in this dress from Ivy City Co. The sequin + color combo is perfect for ringing in the new year!

Trina Turk Colossal Dress

Remember those sequin purses of the 2000s? This is like those, but better.

bebe One Shoulder Sequin Sash Dress

You'll absolutely make the whole place shimmer in this one-shoulder dress!

Club L London Friya Ruched Midi Dress

This asymmetrical dress really brings the heat during these colder months!

Christmas Dresses

Madewell Midi Slip Dress

Slip dresses are all the rage right now, and this one doesn't disappoint. You can even throw on a cardigan overtop this holiday dress to make it a little more modest for a family get-together.

DÔEN Celestine Dress

The Celestine dress is a modern, more grown-up take on the holiday dresses of our youths. From the cap sleeves to the velvet material, you'll feel nostalgic and current all at once with this sultry red look.

Old Navy Shine Mini Dress

This dotted long-sleeve dress is so fun with its frilly tiering, and works well for every holiday occasion – not just Christmas!

Out From Under Sweet Dreams Long Sleeve Mini Dress

The frills and ties on this holiday dress remind me of Christmas presents, which is exactly the cheerful vibe everyone needs for the occasion.

Nine West Long Sleeve Shift Mini Dress

Balloon sleeves and a shift silhouette make this holiday dress a flattering option that will become a wardrobe staple! The bow on the back and the wine coloring just scream holidays.

Hill House The Norah Nap Dress

This little green dress from Hill House is versatile enough to dress up or down, plus it's gonna keep you comfy through all the festivities – food and family included.

NIA Coeur Knit Dress

I'm obsessed with the rosette trend, and this eye-catching red dress makes perfect use of it. For colder occasions, this dress would be iconic with a bolero or shrug sweater.

Mango Long Sleeve Rib Sweater Dress

This sweater dress is unbelievably cozy, plus the ribbed texture and flexible fabric allow you to not feel constricted all night!

Anthropologie Strapless Tiered Tulle Dress

Doesn't this poofy dress just give off such Blair Waldorf vibes? I'm all here for it!

NIA Terra Dress

This shiny satin number is the perfect amount of flirty.

J.Crew Tie-Strap Midi Dress

While red is usually the go-to color to wear to Christmas parties, this jem-toned green is such a show-stopper. The satin finish on the material it's made out of speaks to its overall elegance.

Rumored Sweet Talker Mini Dress

The kicker on this holiday dress is absolutely the plunging open back. It ties with an adorable bow that drapes down for a sultry look. If your next Christmas party is among friends and strangers rather than family and kids, this this the pick for you.

Express Nana's Short Puff Sleeves Seraphine Rose Detail Mini Dress

This cherry red holiday dress swarms you in delicate puff sleeves and a comfy A-line skirt. The best part is the rose that sits along the waist.

Hanukkah Dresses

Tuckernuck Navy Blythe Dress

This dark blue dress is clearly bougie, and I need it now.

Elliatt Cassini One-Shoulder Dress

This one-shoulder dress is giving ice queen. but in the best way.

Kimchi Blue Jill Velvet Mini Dress

This cozy velvet design can be worn for a variety of winter activities, thanks to its icy green-blue hue. Wear it with some tights and a pair of comfortable ballet flats!

Elliatt Corsage Satin Bow Minidress

This beautiful dress features a can't-miss bow detail that makes you look like the ultimate present!

Banana Republic Terccia Hammered Satin Dress

The simple silhouette of this satin dress complements every body type, leaving you feeling as confident for your holiday celebrations you can possibly be.

Lulus Royal Blue Satin Pleated Halter Midi Dress

The sleek woven satin on this dress makes it look super luxurious. Isn't that halter neckline *so* stylish?

Vince Camuto Sequin Sleeveless Dress

The sequins on this dress make it such a fun, sparkly choice for flaunting at a Hanukkah party!

Company Holiday Party Dresses

Black Tweed Stacie Dress

Work parties are always a love-hate sort of thing, but this timeless tweed dress will eliminate any stress. The structured look is perfectly appropriate for any holiday work event!

Abercrombie Emerson Chiffon Long-Sleeve Midi Dress

This dress is beautifully festive without being too over-the-top. The modest length makes it work party-approved!

Mac Duggal Bow-Front Empire-Waist Dress

Equal parts feminine, balletcore, and flirty, this party dress is a super fun pick for all your holiday parties and cocktail parties alike. If you live somewhere colder, this pick will be just as cute layered on top of some colored tights with a thick cardi!

Maje Paris Shiny Knit Short Dress

The structured cap sleeves that sit on the shoulders of this holiday dress mean business – perfect for a work party.

Knox Rose Tank Satin Wrap Dress

This satin wrap dress is affordable but looks luxurious thanks to its stunning, waist-hugging silhouette!

Tuckernuck Black Blanche Dress

Anything that gives Blair Waldorf vibes has me in a chokehold! This holiday dress is so classy and can easily be worn year after year.

Banana Republic Rosie Off-Shoulder Sweater Dress

I don't think it gets much more chic than this. The off-the-shoulder knit design of this dress is just *chef's kiss*.

Staud Black and Ivory Faridah Dress

The frilly ivory trim on this dress is *so* cute! The length of the hem is what makes it appropriate for a work event.

Nina Leonard 2-pc. Ruffle Bolero Dot-Chiffon Dress Set

This 2-piece set comes with a bolero and shift dress, giving you some simple and stylish options to mix & match!

Thanksgiving Dresses

Ribbed Mini Sweater Dress

This oversized sweater dress will keep you warm and cozy at every holiday function. The ribbed stitch elevates the overall look and makes it even better for formal occasions.

A New Day Turtleneck Long Sleeve Cozy Sweater Dress

This turtleneck dress from A New Day is the perfect cozy pick for any holiday get-together. The cable-knit design only adds to the overall wintery look.

Kimchi Blue Sydney Off-The-Shoulder Mini Dress

The warm color palette, along with some floral designs, make this one perfect holiday dress for Thanksgiving!

Lulus Burgundy Mock Neck Long Sleeve Sweater Dress

You just can't go wrong with a chic sweater dress in the perfect holiday color. The long balloon sleeves and mock neck on this deep red design will keep you warm and looking stylish.

ASOS Ribbed Knit Maxi Dress

The ribbed material on this cream dress is so luxurious! I love that it can be so easily dressed up or down, depending on the occasion.

Ava & Viv One Shoulder Bodycon Dress

This bright magenta holiday dress is oozing with elegance.

Reformation Hermia Dress

The turtleneck neckline and rich gold color make this Reformation dress such a great Thanksgiving day dress! Pair it with sheer tights and knee high boots to pull off a super spirited look.

Old Navy Cami Midi Dress

This waist-defined dress has a beautiful print on it that feels oh-so modern and feminine!

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As fun as Trader Joe’s snacks and desserts are, there’s one aisle you definitely should not skip – and that’s their plant section. Trader Joe’s is constantly stocking up on blooms like orchids and monsteras, all of which are easy to take care of once they make it home from the store.

Any houseplant lover knows the easiest of all easy houseplants is the famed pothos. I can water mine (I have about 5 pothos plants) once every two weeks, and they will. not. die. Right now, Trader Joe’s is selling pothos for cheap – but not just any pothos. They currently come along with a stunning hanging pot that you’ll instantly want to put up in your home.

Scroll on to discover more about this unique Trader Joe’s plant find!

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That’s right – Trader Joe’s shelves now include disco ball hanging planters. I repeat: disco ball hanging planters! The sphere-shaped pot is covered in reflective disco tiles that’ll certainly make your living room feel like a dance club. The best part is that pothos plants naturally look amazing when they’re grown hanging, so you can watch this baby flourish all year long.

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TJ’s fan account @traderjoesobsessed recently spotted the disco ball hanging planters at their local Trader Joe’s and shared the new find with their Instagram followers. Tons of them chimed in about their excitement for the product in the comments!

“I need this now😍,” one person commented.

“The way I gasped when I saw this 😍🪩,” another said.

“I bought one today and totally love it👍,” someone else commented.

“I suddenly need to buy more plants,” one more person wrote.

Several shoppers in the comment section noted that they were able to track down the disco ball hanging planters pretty easily, while others reported that they haven’t seen them in their stores quite yet. This is your sign to keep an eye out on your next TJ’s trip!

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@traderjoesobsessed reports that the disco ball hanging planters go for $12.99 in stores. Their affordable price makes them such a great gift for yourself or a loved one, plus the sparkles on the disco ball are perfect for livening up your space for a New Year’s refresh.

Run to TJ’s soon – I know I will!

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By now, you may be able to recognize signs of gaslighting or other toxicbehaviors, but do you know how to take everything you've learned and become a super compatible couple? According to experts, there are a few key things super compatible couples rarely argue about — even with whatever faults each person brings to the relationship table. While the topics these couples avoid may not surprise you, the reason why they're able to avoid them might. But first, let's talk about what makes couples more compatible than others.

Dr. Brooke Keels, Ph.D., LPC-MHSP, LPC-Supervisor, Chief Clinical Officer at Lighthouse Recovery, has this to say: "Couples are compatible when they share similar values, goals, and know the best way to communicate with each other." Notice she didn't say these couples are just alike.

More so, she explains that "it's about how well they handle differences, whether they can support each other through tough times, and how they connect emotionally." Dr. Keels adds, "when there’s respect, trust, and a good balance of give-and-take between them?" Dr. Keels believes this gives couples a better chance "to be in sync."

Scroll down to see the topics you'll rarely hear compatible couples arguing about!

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1. Long-term goals like marriage aren't often a cause for concern.

Have you ever dated someone that made you wonder what you saw in them once you pay attention to certain red flags? You may have found yourself arguing with them about everything from religion to reproductive health, leaving you feeling dizzy afterwards. But Dr. Keels says compatible couples are more likely to be aligned on "whether they want the same things out of life."

Her examples include:

  • Relocating for careers
  • Family planning
  • Finding somewhere to settle down in general (i.e. apartment, condo, different state, close to family, etc.,)

"This common ground lessens the chance of fighting over these big topics," Dr. Keels reiterates.

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2. There's a lesser chance arguments about weekend activities occur.

We're no strangers to indecisive moments where we couldn't agree about what to do on the weekends with our partners, but Dr. Keels says compatible couples don't always run into this issue. "When you enjoy similar activities or have overlapping hobbies, you're more like to find ways to unwind together, rather than feeling disconnected or frustrated by each other's choices," she adds.

While it varies from couple to couple, you and your partner may enjoy the following:

  • Buying tickets to watch the latest college basketball or football game
  • Going to a 'Paint and Sip' class for fun
  • Having a mini outdoor picnic
  • Visiting a national park if it's on your couple's bucket list
  • Spending a day at a local arcade

The possibilities are endless, but all that matters is that "this mutual understanding makes spending time together feel natural and fun," according to Dr. Keels.

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3. Communication styles aren't causing a daily disruption.

Some people have a more direct way of communicating while others may be passive or even passive-aggressive. Less arguments aren't happening because compatible couples communicate the same however. "When they both understand each other's communication style — whether it's direct or more subtle — it helps avoid misunderstandings and frustration."

Here's a couple of examples:

  • If you're having a bad day that has nothing to do with your partner, they don't take it personal when you prefer some alone time.
  • If your partner says something they perceived to be a joke, but you didn't, you're less likely to immediately accuse them of being insensitive. Instead, there's a higher chance of asking what they mean by something and expressing why you didn't like it instead of arguing.

Compatible couples "know how to express their feelings and needs in a way that the other person can easily understand" which makes "it easier to resolve issues calmly," according to Dr. Keels.

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Are couples better (or more compatible) because they don't have a lot of arguments?

Well, no. That's actually a stretch because everyone has arguments. "Even compatible couples can argue about everyday things like chores or schedules. No matter how well they get along or how "in sync" they are, little annoyances can still pop up here and there, and cause some tension between them," Dr. Keels shares. "The difference," she points out, "is that they're usually better at handling these moments and keeping them from turning into bigger problems."

The other thing she's seen couples argue about is money. "It's such a common stress point because everyone has different habits and priorities when it comes to spending or saving," she says. But, guess what? "Compatible couples tend to approach the conversation with more understanding and a willingness to find a compromise," she continues.

If you feel like you and your partner aren't on the same page, it may not be time to break up just yet. We've learned that that it can take time to effectively communicate with a romantic partner or understand them. Compatibility is great, but it's not an indicator that a relationship will be smooth sailing!

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How can I have healthier disagreements with my partner?

Like we said, getting to a point where you and your partner aren't consistently hurting each other's feelings during disagreements takes time as well as skill. No one's born knowing all the answers so don't think your relationship is over because you're still figuring things out.

Dr. Keels says one way you and your partner can work on the kind of disagreements you're having is by "knowing how to communicate/compromise." Look, we heard your sigh and know it's probably the antithesis of how you feel. We struggled with compromising, but you don't get far in life thinking that everyone else has to bend to your will all the time.

"Even if they don’t see eye to eye all the time, healthy couples listen to each other's perspectives, and look for solutions that work for both of them. It’s not about 'winning' the argument and getting to say who's right, but finding common ground so they can move forward together," adds Dr. Keels.

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Also, "staying respectful event when things get heated or when you're upset" is a way to have a productive arguments, according to Dr. Keels. What happens is that "healthy couples avoid yelling or saying hurting things during disagreements," she says. This means no cursing or raising voices to the point your next door neighbors feel they have to call the police to do a wellness check on you.

"Instead, they just focus on the real problem and stay calm, which helps them work through the issue without hurting each other and the relationship," Dr. Keels says. And in the event you and your partner can't find common ground in a given moment? She highly suggests you "take breaks or pause when things get too heated."

Couples who do this "know when to step away and cool off before continuing the conversation," she adds. There are times where it's difficult to have a proper conversation when you're anxious or angry, so it's always better to revisit the topic.

Dr. Keels agrees and says, "This gives them a chance to cool down first so they can properly think things through, and think of a solution that works for both of them without saying anything they might regret."

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