Millennials have often been called the "me" generation since they tend to be independent and career-driven. They're simply navigating life in a completely different era than generations before. Nonetheless, some of their everyday habits may unintentionally leave their parents feeling unappreciated, overlooked, or even guilty.
From moving far away from home to prioritizing friendships over family, here are eight common millennial behaviors that can sometimes sting the generation that raised you.
Scroll to see which things millennial do that their boomer parents just don't get...
1. Lack Of Visits
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We all know that life moves at lightning speed nowadays. Between romantic relationships, work, and starting a family, it's easy to let weeks or months fly by without visiting home.
Past generations viewed visits as a cornerstone of family life. Phone calls can suffice, but nothing really compares to seeing your relatives face-to-face.
Even though it can be tough to prioritize visits against your busy schedule, remember that showing up for your parents means a lot, even if it's just a weekly or monthly Sunday dinner.
2. Moving Away
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Moving out is one of the biggest milestones that all young adults look forward to. However, moving out is one thing, and moving away to a brand-new city or state is another.
It can be extremely tough for parents to cope with the sudden distance. They may feel more disconnected from your life than ever before and suffer a sense of loss.
That's why it's important to stay in touch with updates and make your parents feel involved in your journey. Call more, send photos, and even have a weekly video chat. Your bond can stay just as strong with the help of today's technology as long as you hold up your end of the bargain.
3. Prioritizing Your Career
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Millennials (and now Gen Zers) have been taught to hustle. In the wake of a more competitive job market than ever, professionals have to chase career advancement to stay relevant.
Unfortunately, though, the drive to succeed can sometimes come at the cost of family time. This is a tough pill to swallow for many parents, who might've been raised with the belief that family gatherings are non-negotiable.
Plus, if you frequently miss get-togethers or one-on-one visits in favor of your work, your parents may feel unimportant and disappointed in your choices.
We'd be lying if we said that striking a balance between career and family is easy. Nonetheless, the first step is acknowledging your parents' feelings and working to carve out space for them, whether that's meeting up for lunch or squeezing in an after-work phone call.
4. Only Calling When You Need Something
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Speaking of calling home, it's natural to turn to your parents for advice. After all, they've been there for you in the past and will always be your parents.
Yet, if they only hear from you when you need something, that's not fair. Your parents might start to think they're just your safety net as opposed to a priority.
Transactional communication will only make your parents feel as if your love for them is conditional. So, try to reach out for other reasons, like sharing good news or simply checking in on how they're doing.
5. Ignoring Family Traditions
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Family traditions are more than just routines. They foster connection and continuity across generations, creating experiences and stories that you and all of your relatives can share.
If you opt out of these traditions, it may seem like you're stepping away from the memories and history that your parents worked hard to create.
I get it: we all have a certain holiday tradition that maybe drives us nuts. Still, as frustrating as it might be, it's sometimes best to just go along with it. Your parents, sadly, won't be here forever, and you may look back on the tradition fondly once it officially comes to an end.
6. Putting Friends Over Family
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When you truly bond with a great friend group, they can become like your chosen family. Even so, consistently choosing to spend time with your friends over your parents can be really hurtful for them, especially if it becomes a noticeable pattern.
You may inadvertently send the message that your parents aren't a priority but rather something you fit into your schedule when it's convenient. Keep this in mind and try to show up for them, even in small ways.
7. Not Being Financially Independent
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Everyone has the goal of becoming financially independent. Regardless, many people find themselves still relying on their parents for help, and it can create a sense of guilt or frustration that goes unspoken.
Each time you ask for financial assistance, your parents might be reminded of their own challenges and the sacrifices they've made to support you.
Your parents want to see you succeed and become self-sufficient, not because they want to quit lending you a hand, but because they hope you can stand on your own two feet.
In today's economy, it's understandable why so many adults are struggling, so have open conversations about finances with your parents and make it known that you're grateful for their help.
8. Sharing So Much On Social Media
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Finally, do you chronicle your every move and achievement on social media? After sharing all your milestones online, you may forget to tell your parents about your life.
Technology can create a divide between you and your parents, especially if they aren't avid users or able to keep up with your life on their feed.
Don't forget to reach out and update them on your relationship status, career changes, travel plans, and any other major developments before you tell your followers. It'll help your parents feel much more involved.
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