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Annoying Wedding Guest Habits

Forgetting (Or Outright Refusing) To RSVP

We've all heard about wedding guests who choose not to RSVP to a wedding, and even worse — those who don't RSVP and bring others along for the ride when they unexpectedly show up. In Dreizen's opinion, this a major nuisance. "Bringing a plus one that hasn't been invited (or worse a plus MULTIPLE) is top of the list for unacceptable wedding guest habits. Weddings are expensive and well planned events and rolling up with people who weren't invited, weren't included in food counts, chair counts and more is super not okay," she says.

One way the bride and groom can get around this is to be firm about their RSVP expectations. The Gilchrist Collection says, "Be firm when crafting your guest list — no RSVP means there's no meal or table setting, no wedding favor, and you haven't factored them into any evening catering arrangements."

Let's say that you did RSVP to a couple's wedding, but find out that you won't be able to attend for a personal reason. It's likely that they'll be understanding, but need to know ahead of time. "Again, weddings are highly planned and exhaustingly executed events, so RSVPs are not just suggestions or nice-to-haves — they're an imperative element needed to properly organize a wedding. Additionally, if you cannot attend last minute please communicate this to the couple or someone who is representing them," says Dreizen.

Being Rude To Other Guests Or Hospitality Staff

Face palm... Clearly this shouldn't happen, but I know it does.

Dreizen explains, "I find the most unforgivable offenses being rude to other guests or those working the wedding. As a Professional Wedding Officiant I was once approached by someone's very cantankerous aunt who berated me for the couple hiring me. She battered me with questions as to why they would chose me to marry them, made rude comments about their ceremony selections and generally left a bad taste in my mouth. Respect the couples choices for their wedding, and save your snark for the car ride home."

Dreizen says, "Being rude or belligerent to other guests or the hospitality staff is another unacceptable wedding guest habit. Treating people with respect and kindness is always in fashion and always out is being rude, cruel or abusive, whether alcohol is involved or not."

This goes back to being kind to everyone at a wedding no matter if they're a guest or have been hired by the couple to help create a beautiful experience. Maybe we just follow this age old rule: if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it at all, folks.

Wearing A White Dress That Steals the Bride's Shine

This isn't like the 'no white after Labor Day' rule that a lot of us grew up hearing. Jenny says the rule of thumb when deciding what to wear is not to really stress about it, "...as long as you avoid an all white dress or jeans (assuming the dress code doesn't specifically ask for either!)."

Complaining About The Dress Code

"Knowing exactly how to dress for an ever evolving vocabulary of wedding attires can be tough, and I don't believe that if you put in solid effort a wedding couple will ever worry too much about what you're wearing-- they've got bigger fish to fry...," Jenny says.

That being said, don't show up in shorts and sneakers when the dress code specifically requests formal or black-tie wear. Also, don't complain about what other people are wearing just because you chose to break the rules. I know not everyone cares about getting dressed up, but the least you can do is respect the couple's dress code requirements especially if they decided to invite you.

Hot Take: Allowing Kids To Scream Or Cry Uncontrollably

I love kids, and think they can be absolutely wonderful, but...a wedding ceremony may not be the best place for them to be. Kids are generally just more emotionally impulsive than we are, so when they feel an outburst coming on, it's coming on whether you like it or not. While adults often know how to sit still for 45 minutes to an hour, that's a lot to ask of a little person.

If you couldn't find a sitter, or kids were welcomed guests, make sure to take control of the crying. Go to another room, area, or anywhere else during the ceremony and speeches if your child is having a meltdown. Nobody's gonna be mad that your kid's sad — they're gonna be mad that you didn't do anything about it.

Getting Overly Drunk

We get it. You're looking for a reason to celebrate and love the open bar option. But, you should proceed with caution if you know you're prone to certain outbursts when you drink. This could look like crying uncontrollably, becoming angry, or even getting sick to your stomach while you're on the dance floor.

For brides and grooms who are afraid of this happening, Gilchrist Collectionsuggests making sure plenty of mocktails are available for guests. They also suggest, "Opting for a sober wedding can also positively impact your budget and avoid potential fallout from intoxicated guests spelling disaster!"

Posting Pics From The Wedding Before The Newlyweds

We know you want to share a weekend or event recap with your followers on social media, but don't post anything from the wedding before the married couple actually does — particularly if there's a "no cellphones" policy. Nobody's trying to take away from your good time, but the newlyweds like spent a lot of time and effort to coordinate this event and they may just want the rest of the world to see their vision first.

However, if a couple is cool with it, post on!

Requesting Songs A Couple Doesn't Want Played During Their Reception

Some couples try to be mindful that they're grandparents may not want to know they can chant all the lyrics to Cardi B and Megan Thee Stallion's "WAP." OR sometimes they're just annoyed with certain songs that seem cliché. Whatever the reason is actually doesn't matter — if the couple said no, just don't do it.

It's not the time to be a prankster by requesting a song that's on their "no play" list. If you do want to play something, check in with the newlyweds to gauge their moods!

Proposing Right After The Wedding Or At The Reception

It may seems romantic to propose to your partner at someone else's wedding, but it doesn't always go over well. We can understand if you asked for permission beforehand — we all remember that Golden Bachelor moment — but some people make impulsive decisions when their adrenaline is pumping and just go for it without thinking about how it affects the couple they're there to celebrate in the first place.

All we can say: just don't.

1. RSVP "no" early

As soon as you receive an invitation, you probably have an idea of whether or not you can or want to attend. Decline ASAP so the host has an opportunity to invite someone else, get a refund on your seat, and plan accordingly. Plus, you don’t want to carry the burden of accepting and dreading the event for weeks. It’s way more emotionally draining, and confusing for the host.

If you do want to attend, but are unsure if you can, check your calendar and let the host know your circumstances. Perhaps your sister is expecting her first baby around the same time as your college roommate’s wedding. Reach out to your friend directly and let them know that you may be able to come, or would like to come, but it’s dependent on another important factor.

Chances are, the host will respect and appreciate your honesty. And remember: for big events like weddings, guests = money, so giving the hosts as much time as possible to make adjustments before their event is imperative.

2. You don't have to explain yourself

This is a bit contradictory to what we just said, but if it’s not an up-in-the-air type of situation, you can just say “no.” Plain and simple. Hosts don’t need a laundry list of reasons you can’t go, and you don’t need to share yours.

3. Declining is *actually* quite respectful

Responding to someone, whether it’s an enthusiastic “yes” or a “no,” is way better than not responding at all – or worse, canceling at the last minute. It shows that you care enough about the person to give them an answer, and that your friendship allows for open communication. With anyone in your life, you should be allowed to ask for what you want, and what you need. If you can’t do this for yourself, do it for Future You.

4. Don't make up excuses

It’s just a no-no. If you fabricate an excuse, it can lead to way worse (and certainly more awkward) situations. For example, if you say you can’t go deep sea fishing this Saturday (when it’s really about not wanting to fish), the person might ask you to go with them another time, evidently putting you on the hook (pun VERY intended) for future excursions.

Alternatively, if you opt for blowing them off and they find out, they’ll probably feel worse and assume your response was personal to them. Whether or not that’s true is besides the point.

Being a bit more honest always goes a long way. Oh, and BTW, refusing an invitation isn’t that deep! Truly. It’s literally fine.

5. How to say "no"

Saying no is all about what you say and how you say it. Aim for a warm, neutral and matter-of-fact tone paired with a short, candid response. Don’t beg for forgiveness (and TBH if you have to do this, they’re probably not a great friend in the first place), give them a vague reason as to why you can’t go, or get defensive if they have questions. Repeat after us: saying no is normal!

BTW – by declining an invite you have to allow others to do the same. So if someone declines an invitation to your birthday party (which we know will be totally amazing), it’s OK.

What is the next Sherman Palladino show?

Following our beloved Gilmore Girls and The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel, Dan and Amy Sherman-Palladino's next series is Étoile, which is set at two world-famous ballet companies in New York City and Paris. When both companies run into some trouble, the decide to swap their most talented stars in a last-ditch effort to save themselves.

And based on the first set leaks from New York City, it looks like Étoile will definitely be packing on the drama. This short clip shows Luke Kirby standing outside Lincoln Center in a serious conversation (probably about the fate of his ballet company, TBH).

"Well, guess that plan for early retirement will have to wait," Dan and Amy said in a joint statement (via The Hollywood Reporter). "Instead, we’ve decided to embark on an international journey with an unbelievable group of players and the most talented ballet dancers in the world. We will sleep when we’re dead."

But this isn't the first time ASP has forayed into the world of ballet! Her ABC Family series Bunheads (which premiered on June 11, 2012) follows Michelle (Sutton Foster) who moves to her hometown of Paradise and starts working at her mother-in-law's dance studio The Paradise Dance Academy. The best part is that the role of Michelle's mother-in-law is played by Emily Gilmore herself, Kelly Bishop!

When does Étoile premiere?

We don't have an official release date yet, but considering THR recently revealed the show will finish filming soon, we're hoping to see Étoile in 2025. Just like Gilmore Girls is the ultimate fall rewatch, maybe Étoile will be the ultimate winter rewatch!

Who's in the Étoile cast?

So far, we know that Étoile will star Luke Kirby, Gideon Glick, Camille Cottin, Simon Callow, Lou de Laâge, and David Alvarez. Yanic Truesdale, who played our favorite Gilmore Girls concierge Michel, has also joined the series as a recurring character! I'm so excited to see Yanic working with Amy Sherman-Palladino again — it's like a Gilmore Girls reunion!

What does Étoile mean?

Étoile translates to "star," and there are so many different connections here! We have the ballet stars themselves, but you also wish upon a star and reach for the stars when you're working towards a dream. If you ask me, Étoile is the perfect name for this series.

How many episodes does Étoile have?

The first season of Étoile will have eight episodes total, but considering Prime Video ordered two seasons, we'll definitely be getting more episodes.