How to Hit Reset on a Relationship

Remember your first date? He picked you up at 7pm, sharp. You went to the bathroom and texted your friends because you were nervous and didn’t know what to talk about. Your first kiss was one for the (Nicholas Sparks) books. No matter how magical and Taylor Swift song-worthy the beginning of your relationship is, the honeymoon stage comes to an end at some time or another. Maybe you’ve gotten into a monotonous routine — or maybe you’re harboring some pent-up resentment. Most relationships need a reset every once in a while, so we talked with Theresa Herring, a licensed marriage and family therapist, who has some tips for starting fresh with your boo.

All relationships have ebbs and flows. “It’s not uncommon for couples to slip into a relationship rut,” Herring said. “People get sidetracked by the day-to-day grind and stop prioritizing the relationship.” When you feel yourself needing a reset, don’t panic. In fact, the need to refocus on your relationship can actually be a good thing. “Rather than being the death knell of a relationship, think of it was a wake-up call,” she said. “It’s time to re-prioritize the relationship, and focus on connecting with your partner.” Here are four ways Herring recommends to help you reconnect as a couple.

1. Define what you want in your relationship. “If you don’t have a direction, you’ll likely continue going around in circles,” Herring said. In order to see results, set measurable and specific goals for what you want your relationship to look like. For example, if you want to feel more adventurous together, plan a trip. If you want to spend more quality time together, resolve to turn off your phones on dates.

2. Create good habits. “When it comes to relationships, it’s the everyday habits that matter most,” Herring said. “Set aside time to check in with your partner every day.” That means putting your phone down and focusing solely on your partner. A great way to complement this check-in is by actively listening, which forces you to listen to understand, rather than to respond. If you choose to check in each day, you will form habits that will help you and your partner feel more connected.

3. Respond to your partner’s attempts to connect. It might sound silly, but a great way to re-connect with your boo is to simply respond to them. When they say something to you, say something back. If your partner reaches for your hand, reach back. “When we acknowledge our partner’s attempts to connect, we are saying that they matter and the relationship is important to us,” Herring said. “This is crucial to having a happy, healthy relationship.”

4. Consider therapy. Therapy can really be for everyone — not just people or couples who are struggling. Therapy can be a way to talk about and address any concerns early on, before they get to the point of being relationship dealbreakers. Licensed marriage and family therapists have great techniques for improving connection and communication and can help hold you and your partner accountable for improvement.

How do you and your boo hit the relationship reset button? Let us know @BritandCo!

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By now, you may be able to recognize signs of gaslighting or other toxicbehaviors, but do you know how to take everything you've learned and become a super compatible couple? According to experts, there are a few key things super compatible couples rarely argue about — even with whatever faults each person brings to the relationship table. While the topics these couples avoid may not surprise you, the reason why they're able to avoid them might. But first, let's talk about what makes couples more compatible than others.

Dr. Brooke Keels, Ph.D., LPC-MHSP, LPC-Supervisor, Chief Clinical Officer at Lighthouse Recovery, has this to say: "Couples are compatible when they share similar values, goals, and know the best way to communicate with each other." Notice she didn't say these couples are just alike.

More so, she explains that "it's about how well they handle differences, whether they can support each other through tough times, and how they connect emotionally." Dr. Keels adds, "when there’s respect, trust, and a good balance of give-and-take between them?" Dr. Keels believes this gives couples a better chance "to be in sync."

Scroll down to see the topics you'll rarely hear compatible couples arguing about!

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1. Long-term goals like marriage aren't often a cause for concern.

Have you ever dated someone that made you wonder what you saw in them once you pay attention to certain red flags? You may have found yourself arguing with them about everything from religion to reproductive health, leaving you feeling dizzy afterwards. But Dr. Keels says compatible couples are more likely to be aligned on "whether they want the same things out of life."

Her examples include:

  • Relocating for careers
  • Family planning
  • Finding somewhere to settle down in general (i.e. apartment, condo, different state, close to family, etc.,)

"This common ground lessens the chance of fighting over these big topics," Dr. Keels reiterates.

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2. There's a lesser chance arguments about weekend activities occur.

We're no strangers to indecisive moments where we couldn't agree about what to do on the weekends with our partners, but Dr. Keels says compatible couples don't always run into this issue. "When you enjoy similar activities or have overlapping hobbies, you're more like to find ways to unwind together, rather than feeling disconnected or frustrated by each other's choices," she adds.

While it varies from couple to couple, you and your partner may enjoy the following:

  • Buying tickets to watch the latest college basketball or football game
  • Going to a 'Paint and Sip' class for fun
  • Having a mini outdoor picnic
  • Visiting a national park if it's on your couple's bucket list
  • Spending a day at a local arcade

The possibilities are endless, but all that matters is that "this mutual understanding makes spending time together feel natural and fun," according to Dr. Keels.

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3. Communication styles aren't causing a daily disruption.

Some people have a more direct way of communicating while others may be passive or even passive-aggressive. Less arguments aren't happening because compatible couples communicate the same however. "When they both understand each other's communication style — whether it's direct or more subtle — it helps avoid misunderstandings and frustration."

Here's a couple of examples:

  • If you're having a bad day that has nothing to do with your partner, they don't take it personal when you prefer some alone time.
  • If your partner says something they perceived to be a joke, but you didn't, you're less likely to immediately accuse them of being insensitive. Instead, there's a higher chance of asking what they mean by something and expressing why you didn't like it instead of arguing.

Compatible couples "know how to express their feelings and needs in a way that the other person can easily understand" which makes "it easier to resolve issues calmly," according to Dr. Keels.

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Are couples better (or more compatible) because they don't have a lot of arguments?

Well, no. That's actually a stretch because everyone has arguments. "Even compatible couples can argue about everyday things like chores or schedules. No matter how well they get along or how "in sync" they are, little annoyances can still pop up here and there, and cause some tension between them," Dr. Keels shares. "The difference," she points out, "is that they're usually better at handling these moments and keeping them from turning into bigger problems."

The other thing she's seen couples argue about is money. "It's such a common stress point because everyone has different habits and priorities when it comes to spending or saving," she says. But, guess what? "Compatible couples tend to approach the conversation with more understanding and a willingness to find a compromise," she continues.

If you feel like you and your partner aren't on the same page, it may not be time to break up just yet. We've learned that that it can take time to effectively communicate with a romantic partner or understand them. Compatibility is great, but it's not an indicator that a relationship will be smooth sailing!

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How can I have healthier disagreements with my partner?

Like we said, getting to a point where you and your partner aren't consistently hurting each other's feelings during disagreements takes time as well as skill. No one's born knowing all the answers so don't think your relationship is over because you're still figuring things out.

Dr. Keels says one way you and your partner can work on the kind of disagreements you're having is by "knowing how to communicate/compromise." Look, we heard your sigh and know it's probably the antithesis of how you feel. We struggled with compromising, but you don't get far in life thinking that everyone else has to bend to your will all the time.

"Even if they don’t see eye to eye all the time, healthy couples listen to each other's perspectives, and look for solutions that work for both of them. It’s not about 'winning' the argument and getting to say who's right, but finding common ground so they can move forward together," adds Dr. Keels.

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Also, "staying respectful event when things get heated or when you're upset" is a way to have a productive arguments, according to Dr. Keels. What happens is that "healthy couples avoid yelling or saying hurting things during disagreements," she says. This means no cursing or raising voices to the point your next door neighbors feel they have to call the police to do a wellness check on you.

"Instead, they just focus on the real problem and stay calm, which helps them work through the issue without hurting each other and the relationship," Dr. Keels says. And in the event you and your partner can't find common ground in a given moment? She highly suggests you "take breaks or pause when things get too heated."

Couples who do this "know when to step away and cool off before continuing the conversation," she adds. There are times where it's difficult to have a proper conversation when you're anxious or angry, so it's always better to revisit the topic.

Dr. Keels agrees and says, "This gives them a chance to cool down first so they can properly think things through, and think of a solution that works for both of them without saying anything they might regret."

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Trader Joe’s, though very tempting with their vast array of sweet treats, is truly a secret weapon for eating healthy and sustaining a healthy diet. TJ’s aisles are packed full of nutritious (yet delicious) options, all of which are often easy to prepare and even easier to devour. Whether you’re focusing on fueling your workouts with protein, cutting back on sugar, or simply eating more whole foods in 2025, Trader Joe’s has plenty of affordable, wholesome finds to keep your diet inspired.

Below, find the best Trader Joe’s products that make sticking to your 2025 resolutions a breeze!

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Creamy Dreamy Hummus

Hummus is an instant snack hack if you're trying to eat a high-protein diet – this $3 one from TJ's boasts a "thick, rich, and exquisitely creamy" texture. Slap it on a wrap or dip in some veggie sticks to give your meal a nice boost.

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Vegetable Root Chips

These veggie root chips make a deliciously healthy swap for your traditional potato chips as they're packed with fiber and plenty of color to enjoy!

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Organic Super Bread

Though you might not guess it at first glance, this loaf contains whole wheat flour, organic rye flour, organic rolled oats, organic millet, organic pumpkin seeds, organic flax seeds, organic sunflower seeds, organic carrots, organic dried apple, and organic dried banana – that's a mouthful! If your 2025 goal is to eat more whole foods without sacrificing a ton of familiar foods, this is the bread for you!

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Cut Sweet Potatoes

These 'taters come already cut, so all you gotta do is toss 'em in some olive oil and spices, bake on a sheet pan, pair it with a protein, and voila! Dinner is served.

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Organic Dried Ataulfo Mango Slices

These mango slices make a great healthy snack to enjoy on the go. They taste just like candy, except without all the excess processed sugar.

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Solid White Albacore Tuna

Protein fiends already know what's up with canned tuna. It's the perfect base for tuna salads, wraps, and bakes. Plus, one can goes for just $2 at TJ's – stock up!

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Caesar Broccoli Bake Kit

This pre-made kit makes getting a side dish on the table super easy and healthy. It comes with all the fixings, like Caesar dressing, crouton crumbs, and Parmesan cheese.

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10 Minute Farro

Traditionally, farro takes anywhere from 30 to 45 minutes to fully cook. This bag of Trader Joe's farro defies all tradition and is ready in just 10 minutes! The whole grain is really rich in protein and fiber, so you know you'll be eating healthy when you choose to chow down.

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Vanilla Bean Whole Milk Greek Yogurt

Greek yogurt is *the* breakfast hack to rule all breakfast hacks. It's high in protein, plus is typically packed with plenty of probiotics to keep your gut real healthy. Enjoy a heaping scoop with some fresh (or frozen) fruit, granola, and honey to get a tasty start to the day.

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Rainbow's End Trail Mix Bars

Healthy snacks can be really hard to track down at TJ's, especially since they have so many sinful goodies on their shelves. Luckily, these trail mix bars exist, bringing a yummy medley of oats, nuts, raisins, and chocolatey bits to satisfy that sweet tooth without weighing you down during the day!

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Carb Savvy Tortillas

If you're set on watching your intake of carbs, these tortillas are a must-have. They contain 21% of your daily recommended value of fiber (6 grams each) according to TJ's, and make an excellent addition to wraps, quesadillas, or just as a snack.

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Organic Brown Rice Cake Thins

These rice cakes may be thinner than most, but they still boast an enjoyably dense texture, perfect for layering on some peanut butter and banana for an easy, fulfilling snack.

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Pulled Chicken Salsa Verde

This fully-cooked chicken is ideal for people seeking a convenient, time-saving meal. The salsa verde flavoring instantly qualifies them for delicious tacos, quesadillas, burritos, burrito bowls, nachos – the list goes on! Just pop it in the microwave for 4 minutes, and boom – time to eat!

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Perfect Bar Peanut Butter Protein Bar

This protein bar is called the Perfect Bar because it's literally perfect. The sweetness is at just the right level, the texture is so satisfying, and the high protein content (17 grams) fills you up easily if you're seeking a substantial mid-day snack.

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Classic Greek Salad

With this ready-made salad kit, you won't have to think too hard at all about what you're having for a healthy lunch. Feel free to grab 5 at a time, because you will be hooked. Add some chicken or salmon on top to bulk it up with extra protein!

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Stir Fry Veggie Blend

Why pick up 5 or more individual ingredients for stir fry when you can just grab this $3 bag, cook it, and call it a day? We highly recommend cheffing this up with TJ's Soyaki sauce and your protein of choice.

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High Protein Organic Tofu

One serving of this tofu contains 14 grams of protein, which is higher than what you can typically find elsewhere. Plus, it's certifiably organic, so it's always gonna be clean eating-friendly.

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Organic Tricolor Quinoa

Quinoa makes an impressive grain base for bowls and salads. This one boasts a healthy mix of white, red, and black quinoa for some good variety!

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Crunchy Curls

These 100% vegan bites are the ultimate movie snack and are way healthier than your average bag of theater popcorn. They're made with lentil flour and potato starch for a superb texture every time.

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Organic Brown Rice & Quinoa Fusilli Pasta

This organic, gluten-free pasta delivers 4 grams of protein and 2 grams of fiber per serving, making each meal nutritious as ever.

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Happy (almost) New Year to you, and may 2025 cultivate your hopes and dreams! We begin January 2025 with punchy-yet-inspiring cosmic events that can help you start your year on the right foot. All thanks to Capricorn Season, we will unearth determination and ambition but take things slow as the motivation planet, Mars, continues its retrograde motion. Burnout will ensue, and this isn’t an ideal period to force your ideas or goals. Take this as an opportunity to practice patience. Slow and steady is a perfect approach. Have trust in the Universe. Let’s explore how the stars will orchestrate our paths this month. Keep reading for extended intel into your sun, moon, and rising signs, and prepare to take on January confidently.

Here's everything you need to know about your January horoscope for 2025!

​What to Expect in Your January Horoscope for 2025

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January starts with the love planet Venus, phasing into the sign of dreamy and ethereal Pisces on January 2. Love will be dreamy—and it can unleash the hopeless romantic in all of us. This can ascend or dissolve your love story as this energy reveals the importance of compassion and mutual understanding in relationships. Selfless acts can only take you so far, and keeping your energy in check would be in your best interest. Any feelings of exhaustion and uncertainty are the sign of observing your relationship. Make room for adjustments as needed. Speaking of relationships, Mars, the other love planet that rules sex, backspins into the sign of Cancer on January 6. Remember that Mars retrograde is still underway, and it's extending lessons that involve patience and steadiness. With Venus and Mars in the water signs, we cannot help but feel aligned with our hearts and souls. Impulsivity and emotional extremities are a no-go. Take a step back and hold space for unresolved feelings. This period is essential for us to find safety and solace in love.

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Luckily, our thoughts and ideas will begin to make sense as Mercury, the messenger planet, enters Capricorn on January 8. Our messages will be clear and concise. So, if you have been feeling a bit misty and unable to form your ideas since last month’s Mercury retrograde, expect the fog to begin to lift. You have the green light to brainstorm ideas or develop plans.

Something magical is about to begin. The North Node (AKA the point of destiny) officially shifts into the sign of watery Pisces on January 11. The last time the north node was in this position was in 2006! Think back to this time in your life and observe your standing that involves healing and self-compassion. For these next 18 months, this will be our chance to begin taking stock of being truthful and understanding of others. It’s time to align with your truth while making peace from the past.

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Mid-month, the Full Moon takes place in the sign of Cancer alongside Mars in a close degree on January 13. This interchange can bring up feelings of impatience and frustration involving stagnant results. Remember that slow and steady wins the race. Full Moons are an incredible outlet for rest and letting go of things beyond your control. This Full Moon will be a wake-up call and a test of your will to be at peace with yourself no matter where you are in your journey.

Expect to feel a breath of fresh air or a burst in your bubble as the Sun enters Aquarius on January 19. Tangible results will shape you as you observe your position in society and friendships. Luckily, Pluto, in alignment with the Sun, will enable you to look at the bigger picture involving your aspirations and how you can optimize your energy for your greater well-being. It's time to either clear out or evolve your connections. The messenger planet, Mercury, then progresses into Aquarius on January 27, building traction with our future goals. Ideas may stir quickly these next few weeks, and you may have difficulty keeping up. Jot your ideas down and look back at your notes later. Your messages will take form once Mars goes direct next month.

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This month concludes with the New Moon in Aquarius, which is in a beautiful alignment with Mercury and Pluto, on January 29. This stellar combination will breathe new life and infinite possibilities involving long-term vision. Witness a strength in your voice and will to step forward in complete confidence. This lunation extends this desired support as you let go of old baggage related to past regret or misunderstanding. Don't you think it's finally time to let go? Begin to manifest your dreams and note what has been holding you back from success in the past. Visualize your future and observe if your current surroundings support this next step in your path.

Key Dates For Your January Horoscope & Capricorn Season In 2025

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  • Jan 2—Venus enters Pisces
  • Jan 6—Mars enters Cancer (retrograde)
  • Jan 8—Mercury enters Capricorn
  • January 11—North Node phases into Pisces
  • Jan 13—Full Moon in Cancer
  • Jan 19—Sun enters Aquarius
  • Jan 27—Mercury enters Aquarius
  • Jan 29—New Moon in Aquarius

​Which Four Zodiac Signs Will Experience Changes This January 2025?

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January 2025 will bring incredible changes for four zodiac signs, each experiencing transformative opportunities. Pisces will feel supportive in love while tapping into healing, especially with Venus entering their sign and the North Node shifting into Pisces. The nodal shift offers 18 months of destined-filled moments in alignment with their personal growth and empowerment. Cancer will navigate deep emotional reflections as Mars retrogrades and the Full Moon illuminates the need to learn patience for their emotional healing. January is a time to restore and rejuvenate Cancers. Aquarius will thrive under the Sun and New Moon in their sign this month, unlocking new possibilities and long-term vision, empowering them to manifest their dreams with renewed confidence. Lastly, Capricorn will see its plans become a sharper focus as Mercury enters their sign, granting clarity and momentum for practical advancements in their goals. These signs are set to experience significant shifts, aligning them with their true path in the year ahead.

​Read Your Sun, Moon, & Rising Signs For Your January Horoscope

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Aries (March 21 – April 20)

Theme: Clear the Air

Aries, you're about to enter a complete awakening in how you identify with family and friends. Reviewing your heart and genuine connections with Venus in the twelfth house this month will be of utmost priority. Love will feel hazy, and to find clarity, you must clear out your subconscious and face the uncertainties head-on. With the other love planet, Mars, retrograding your fourth house of home and family, your inner security begins to shake up, and this may be that time for you to explore uncomfortable discussions with loved ones. Talk to a therapist or a coach to help you find an outlet to clear the air involving past misunderstandings. Your work life will speed up as Mercury enters Capricorn in your tenth house. This period will be crucial for building confidence and certainty in your position with the public or your superiors. Develop your pitch and back it up with thorough research. Present your piece later this month when the New Moon in Aquarius powers up your networking sector. The North Node shifting in your twelfth house brings powerful experiences involving your inner life and dreams. These next 18 months will help you build up to a better version of yourself—your spiritual life will level up. Begin writing or developing a sacred practice involving meditation or art. A masterpiece awaits as you prioritize serenity and a quiet space in your daily life. The Full Moon in Cancer in your fourth house will close a chapter with your inner security and beliefs surrounding your family. Review your place in your domestic life or roots. It may be time to move or begin a home renovation. This lunation will reveal the core of your true happiness and the best approach for your family’s wellbeing. By the end of the month, the Sun, Mercury, and the New Moon in Aquarius in your eleventh house will feel like a breath of fresh air as you feel renewed and optimistic about your long-term aspirations. Attend a networking event or begin a group project—you will experience an a-ha moment. It's an auspicious time to discuss with those rooting for your success.

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Taurus (April 21 – May 21)

Theme: Experience Your Wildest Dreams

Taurus, this month will be filled with infinite opportunities, but it will require you to take a chance. Venus, the planet that rules your sign, will beautify your eleventh house of networking and social connections. If you feel called to go public or begin collaborative ventures, you will start to live your wildest dreams as you share your vision! Mars continuing its backspin in your third house will create a snag with communication—but don’t worry, you're more than equipped to power through this challenge. In matters of engagement or expressing ideas, it has to be heart-centered and meaningful. Go with your gut and let down your guard to get your message across. The messenger planet, Mercury in Capricorn in your ninth house, extends publishing or travel opportunities. These next few weeks are all about taking chances and to dream bigger. Don’t settle. Here is the most exciting part of the month as the North Node in Pisces will reside in your eleventh house for the next 18 months. Friendships and social connections will be the focal point in your journey. It will also be serendipitous as you begin to give back to society. Take part in charitable organizations or begin non-profit work—and you will start to witness your dreams taking form. Mid-month, the Full Moon in Cancer in your third house closes the chapter involving an old skill or idea you once thought was a part of your dream. It's either time to complete this endeavor or make peace with letting go. This lunation can also be an excellent opportunity to have unresolved discussions with siblings or immediate family members—talk it out. For the last half of January, the Sun, Mercury, and the New Moon power up your tenth house of career and public image. This is a period to blossom and begin believing in your long-term goal. Discuss your ideas with superiors or take note of how you wish to live out your future dreams—take charge.

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Gemini (May 22 – June 21)

Theme: Analyze Your Energy

Gemini, this is a month of personal and professional transformation and expansion. Experience a boost in your confidence with Venus in your tenth house of career and public life. You will find luck as you boldly express your worth at work. Present that pitch or launch your passion project. However, with Mars retrograde in your second house of finances, it’s crucial to reassess your financial situation and avoid impulsive spending these next several weeks. Learn how to budget and educate yourself on how you can invest effectively. It's time to build a nest egg. Then, Mercury’s move into your eighth house signals deep introspection around intimacy, shared resources, and personal transformation. It's time to get to the bottom of what holds you back from your desired changes. Investigate and observe your energy around your current situation. You will get answers this month. As the North Node enters Pisces, your career path is illuminated these next 18 months, guiding you toward long-term goals and a more meaningful professional journey. Analyze what makes you feel most elevated. That can put you on the right track. The Full Moon in Cancer brings closure or a shift in your financial situation, helping you let go of outmoded beliefs around money and self-worth. By the end of January, with the Sun, Mercury, and the New Moon entering your ninth house, you’ll be drawn to expand your horizons through travel, higher education, and philosophical pursuits. Mercury’s entry into Aquarius encourages you to communicate your vision for the future. At the same time, the New Moon invites you to set intentions for new beginnings, particularly around your long-term goals. Don't hold back and believe in your vision.

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Cancer (June 22 – July 22)

Theme: Choose Your Path

Cancer, January brings a time of personal growth, relationship reflections, and expansive opportunities. With Venus entering your ninth house, your interconnectedness to life will level up. Broaden your horizons by traveling or exploring new methodologies. Seek new experiences that will open your heart and mind while deepening your sense of purpose. Remember, Mars retrograde in your first house beckons you to pause and reflect on your personal goals and how you present yourself to the world. You may experience delays or rethink your direction in life, which could signal a period of self-discovery and reinvention. Relationships will undergo review as Mercury’s move into your seventh house of relationships highlights communication within your partnerships, especially with close friends, your love partner, or business associates. It’s a good time to clear the air, engage in meaningful conversations, and strengthen connections. The North Node shifting into your ninth house sets the stage for growth and possibilities in the next 18 months. This shift will encourage you to explore new ideas, travel, or pursue higher learning. The Full Moon in your sign brings a decisive moment of personal culmination in your first house, illuminating your identity. Self-reflection and designating a quiet time will help you realize what no longer aligns with your well-being. As the Sun and Mercury enter your eighth house later in the month, your focus pivots to deeper, more transformative areas of life, such as intimacy, shared resources, and emotional healing. The New Moon in Aquarius invites you to set intentions around letting go of old emotional baggage and embracing transformation, particularly in your closest relationships. This lunation will allow you to set a new intention to attract powerful changes--take a chance and visualize your desired outcome.

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Leo (July 23 – August 22)

Theme: Clear Yourself

Leo, this month brings a strong focus on how you prioritize your inner needs and relationships. With Venus entering your eighth house of intimacy, shared resources, and transformation, expect to feel a deepened emotional connection or a shift in your approach to intimacy. Nurture your most significant relationships and explore the hidden aspects of yourself and your partnerships. However, with Mars retrograde in your twelfth house, there’s a strong pull toward inner reflection and revisiting past emotional issues or hidden fears. This period encourages you to confront unresolved emotions and heal old wounds, setting the stage for you to do some soul-searching. Mercury’s move into your sixth house brings attention to your daily life and well-being. It’s a great time to organize your work life, improve your health habits, and focus on being more productive. Clear your workspace or start a health detox to get yourself on track. The North Node’s shift into your eighth house brings a long-term focus on vulnerability, your hidden self, and letting go of old patterns that no longer serve you. These next 18 months, you’ll be inspired to explore deeper emotional connections and make necessary changes in your approach to money. The Full Moon shines a light on your twelfth house, bringing closure to a personal or emotional matter lurking in the background. Release work or cord-cutting from unresolved dealings will help you make room for something better. As the Sun, Mercury, and the New Moon move into your seventh house, your attention turns to relationships. This is an ideal time to focus on your closest connections, whether romantic, professional, or personal, and to work on improving communication and balance within them. The New Moon invites you to set intentions for new beginnings in your relationships and to cultivate more meaningful connections.

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Virgo (August 23 – September 21)

Theme: Find Your Center

Virgo, are you ready to witness a complete revelation? January is a month focused on relationships, creativity, and personal growth. With Venus entering your seventh house of partnerships, a desire for harmony and connection in your close relationships (romantic or professional) are in the works. Aligning with your heart by nurturing someone else will power up your purpose. You can begin by engaging in meaningful, heart-centered communication. Mars retrograde in your eleventh house prompts a reassessment of your social networks, friendships, and aspirations. You may encounter delays or disruptions in group dynamics, encouraging you to reflect on which connections support your growth and which no longer align with your ambitions. Mercury in your fifth house brings a boost to your creativity and self-expression. Whether through art, hobbies, or romance, you’ll be encouraged to explore your passions and embrace a lighter, more playful side of yourself. The North Node shifting into your seventh house emphasizes the importance of partnerships in the next 18 months, guiding you toward relationships that manifest deeper connections. The Full Moon in Cancer shines a light on your eleventh house, cultivating a turning point related to your friendships or collective goals. This is a time to let go of outdated connections or redefine your place within a group. As the Sun, Mercury, and the New Moon enter your sixth house of health and work, your focus shifts to improving daily routines, health habits, and overall productivity. This is a great time to reorganize your schedule, set new goals for your well-being, and streamline your work life. The New Moon in Aquarius invites you to set intentions for fresh starts in managing your day-to-day activities and taking better care of yourself.

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Libra (September 22 – October 22)

Theme: Treat Your Body Like A Temple

Time to level up your health, work, and personal creativity, Libra. With Venus, your ruler planet, entering your sixth house of daily routines, health, and work, you’ll strongly desire to bring more beauty and balance into your everyday life. It will be a game changer as you focus on improving your well-being, beautifying your workspace, and creating healthier habits. With Mars continuing its retrograde in your tenth house of career and status, you may experience setbacks or delays in your professional life. Give yourself permission to pause and assess your long-term goals and approach to success, especially in your career and public endeavors. Mercury’s move into your fourth house highlights communication within your home and family life. Addressing any unresolved matters at home or making important decisions regarding your living situation would be ideal. The North Node shifting into your sixth house emphasizes the need to adjust your daily routines, health, and work life over the next 18 months. Focus on making practical and realistic changes that promote balance for your long-term well-being. The Full Moon in Cancer brings a moment of culmination in your tenth house, offering answers to where you stand with your career and its direction. This is a time to reflect on your career achievements and assess whether you’re on the right path. As the Sun, Mercury, and the New Moon illuminate in your fifth house of romance and self-expression, your attention shifts to play, passion, and enjoying life’s pleasures. As the New Moon in Aquarius lights up your romantic sector, it will set the stage for you to begin a new chapter in your love story while igniting your creativity. Book a date night or start a new passion project--the creativity will flow as you prioritize your happiness.

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Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

Theme: Explore Your Inner Child

Expect something new to emerge, Scorpio. January allows you to explore creative expression, personal growth, and home-focused reflection. Luckily, Venus enters your fifth house of love and joyful excursions--and you will feel a second wind to indulge your inner child. Let your hair down and set aside self-criticism no matter where you are in your journey. This is a great time to pursue creative hobbies, self-care, or deepen romantic connections. As Mars continues its backspin in your ninth house of higher learning and personal beliefs, it will bring delays in making sense of the bigger picture. You could find yourself overthinking everything. Just be and take note of what truly inspires you. Mercury's move into your third house brings attention to how you're conveying your message, learning, and your local environment. Engage in small talk, network with neighbors, or focus on local connections while learning something new. You will experience a breakthrough and understanding in time. Something more exciting is in store for you as the North Node’s shift into your fifth house opens doors to explore creativity, self-expression, and your love life these next 18 months. You’ll be drawn to explore your passions and feel things at a deeper yet joyful level. The Full Moon in Cancer highlights your ninth house and turns the tides in matters related to travel, education, or belief systems. You may gain clarity or conclude a long-term goal or pursuit. It's okay to let go and take a different path. As the Sun, Mercury, and the New Moon enter your fourth house of home and family, your attention shifts to your emotional foundations. This is a time to focus on your living situation and find tangible solutions to improve it. The New Moon in Aquarius invites you to set intentions for creating a more stable, nurturing home environment or making changes that support your emotional well-being.

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Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

Theme: Time to Master Adulting

Things are about to get serious this month, Sagittarius. You're ready to fine-tune dealings involving your home life, values, and self-worth. With the love planet Venus entering your fourth house of home and family, you will create a more harmonious, beautiful, and nurturing living space for you and your loved ones. This is an excellent time to make your home feel more comfortable and emotionally sound, whether through redecorating, spending quality time with family, or strengthening your emotional connections. Mars continuing its backspin in your eighth house of merged resources, intimacy, and hidden realms of life will help you check off what you can do to improve these matters. There could be delays or unfinished business related to joint finances, inheritances, or emotional bonds. Hold still and reassess, especially in your intimate connections. Mercury’s move into your second house of money encourages you to focus on your finances, possessions, and what you value most. Work with a financial advisor or learn ways to increase your material security. The North Node shifting into your fourth house emphasizes a long-term focus on your home, family, and emotional well-being over the next 18 months. Stability and taking charge of future investment opportunities in your personal life will be your priority. The Full Moon in Cancer highlights your eighth house, closing a chapter in intimacy-related matters while attracting transformative experiences. Release old emotional baggage or address financial matters that require closure. As the Sun, Mercury, and the New Moon enter your third house of communication, set intentions that involve expanding your mind and engaging more actively with your local environment to attract your soul tribe.

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Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

Theme: Getting Close and Personal

How comfortable are you expressing your feelings, Capricorn? This month, you're in for major changes in your relationships, and talking will be your superpower or kryptonite. With Venus entering your third house of communication, learning, and social connections, you cannot help but be charming and will begin to connect with others on a deeper level. It’s a great time to engage in meaningful conversations, nurture relationships with siblings or neighbors, and explore new ideas. Mars retrograde in your seventh house of partnerships helps you slow down and reflect on your close connections, both personal and professional. You may go through misunderstandings or delays in these areas. Make things right if any blunders occur. Mercury’s move into your first house shines a spotlight on your confidence and ability to share your ideas. Focus on your desires and goals and express your intentions to the world--you got this! The North Node shifting into your third house these next 18 months will empower your voice and ability to grasp new ideas. Becoming comfortable with developing a new skill, learning opportunity, or project. The Full Moon in Cancer brings clarity to your seventh house of relationships. Let go of the past or unhealthy dynamics in your partnerships. It's time to decide whether to stay or go. As the Sun, Mercury, and New Moon enter your second house of finances and personal values, your intentions for fresh starts in your financial situation or approach to building long-term stability will be your central focus. This is your opportunity to cross off any lingering doubts and gain traction for your next steps.

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Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

Theme: Building From the Ground Up

It's time to pay close attention to your foundations, Aquarius. What makes you feel safe? It's a month of financial reflection and self-discovery. With money-attractor Venus entering your second house of finances, values, and self-worth, your material resources and livelihood will improve. Beginning an abundance practice will lead to results, but it starts with you reflecting on your relationship with money and your long-term financial goals. Mars continuing its backspin in your 6th house of health, work, and daily routines will help you observe areas that need improvement. You might find yourself revisiting old work projects or reconsidering your health habits, especially those that have been put on the back burner. Mercury’s move into your twelfth house lights up your subconscious mind and inner world. This is a period for deep reflection, spiritual exploration, and addressing hidden matters that need healing. The North Node’s shift into your second house emphasizes a long-term focus on building financial goals and discovering what truly matters to you over the next 18 months. This is a time to embrace your values and make practical decisions that support your future growth. The Full Moon in Cancer highlights your sixth house, closing a chapter with your work life or daily responsibilities. It's either time to ask for help or to say no if you cannot handle every task. Release old habits and prioritize self-care practices. As the Sun, Mercury, and the New Moon enter your first house of identity, expect your energy to pick up and confidence! It will be a powerful time to set personal goals and embrace a fresh sense of purpose. Set intentions for new beginnings, whether in how you present yourself to the world or your aspirations.

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Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

Theme: Be the Artist of Your Life

Are you ready to live out your full potential, Pisces? January will be magical, with infinite possibilities and creative promise. You are a magnet as Venus enters your first house of identity and personal appearance. You are a living art as you express your unique self. Nurture and beautify yourself--book a hair appointment or update your makeup palette. Venus brings charm and magnetism, making it a great time to shine in social settings and attract positive attention. Mars retrograde in your fifth house of creativity, romance, and self-expression encourages you to revisit past creative projects, hobbies, or relationships. You may experience sluggishness or need to reassess your approach to love and artistic endeavors. Take your time, and don't rush the process. The social networks will energize Mercury’s move into your eleventh house of friendships, goals, and long-term aspirations. Engage more with your community, revisit past goals, or network to further your dreams. The North Node’s shift into your first house creates big changes in personal growth and self-discovery over the next 18 months. It's a time to step into your true identity while igniting the changes that will help you align more with your authentic path. It's your time to shine. The Full Moon in Cancer shines a light on your fifth house of creativity and romance, bringing closure or acceptance to past dealings. You may experience a creative breakthrough or make an important decision about a romantic connection or artistic endeavor. Trust as you let go. As the Sun, Mercury, and New Moon enter your 12th house of spirituality and dreams, your focus shifts inward and stimulates even more inspiration. Try dream journaling or meditation. Remember to rest. Quiet reflection, spiritual growth, and inner work will be medicinal for your energy. Set intentions for a new phase of self-discovery by planting a seed of your dream life. Your manifestation levels up as you let go of the past.

With 2025 approaching, it’s the perfect time to explore how to power up your year ahead. Lumi Pelinku invites you to dive deeper into your journey through an extended reading that can provide tailored insights and inspiration. Click here to book your reading today!

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So, you've found your 2025 word of the year and are ready for the biggest reset of your life. Now all you have to do is map out how you're going to get there. You could opt for vague ideas that live only in your head, but when has that motivated you to achieve your goals in the past?

If you think we're putting you on the spot, we're not! We're here to encourage you to dream boldly by being detailed about what you actually want. Of course, we have the perfect list of deep questions and journal prompts so you can tap into the life you want to live.

Here are 25 deep questions to ask yourself and journal about to guide you toward your 2025 vision of personal growth and self-improvement:

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Questions About Your Daily Routine

Please don't throw eggs at us! We know you don't want to feel governed by a schedule like you're in grade school, but there are benefits to having something to guide you daily. According to Northwestern Medicine, you can "reduce stress" and even "get better rest" by having a routine.

If you've been promising yourself to improve in these areas, here are 5 questions to ask yourself:

  • How many of hours of sleep do I typically get per night?
  • What distractions can I eliminate before bed so I'm not groggy in the morning? (i.e., no more binge watching my favorite TV shows or scrolling mindlessly on TikTok)?
  • Do I have a morning routine or do I rush through taking a shower, brushing my teeth, and eating breakfast?
  • How do I usually feel when I get to work?
  • Am I okay with setting a reminder for myself to take a break during the work day so I can stretch my legs, eat lunch, or go for a quick walk?

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Questions About Your Self-Care

Making time for your self-care is a part of your daily routine, but we want to dig deeper by sharing questions that'll help you reflect on how you treat yourself.

  • How do I want to feel about myself in 2025?
  • Did I have moments I looked in the mirror and didn't like the way my skin or body looked this year?
  • Have I been prioritizing my mental health?
  • Did I make space for exercising (i.e. walking, yoga, running, etc.)?
  • Did I create healthy boundaries with family, friends, or someone I'm dating?

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Questions About Your Career

We almost said, "Here comes the fun part," but that would be unfair for people who consider other areas of their lives more important to chasing a career. If you are focused on pursuing something you're passionate about or simply want to earn a new promotion, here's what you can ask yourself:

  • What are my biggest career accomplishments this year?
  • What skills do I need to sharpen that align with the position I want?
  • How do I respond to constructive criticism?
  • What is my usual response to change or tight deadlines?
  • Do I ask for help when I don't understand a project or concept?

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Questions About Your Home

Your home is anywhere that you live even if you're renting or living with your parents for the time being.

  • How did the energy in my home feel?
  • Did I do anything to make it feel like me?
  • How can I create a relaxing environment in my room that promotes rest and relaxation?
  • Do I want to have a certain aesthetic for my living room, office, etc.?
  • What does having a clean and organized home mean to me?

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Questions About Your Relationships

Have you been making excuses for toxic friends or ignoring red flags? If it's okay, we're going to sit by you and gently suggest it's time for a change. The kind of life you want to live can't be weighed down by old habits of yours or some of the people you've been spending time with, especially if you've been feeling uncomfortable.

  • What kind of friendships do I want to have in 2025?
  • Do I have a reliable support system?
  • What did I love about my romantic relationship this year?
  • Are there certain conversations I need to have with family members, friends, or my partner that I've been avoiding?
  • Do I need to change the way I show up in my platonic or romantic relationships?

Get a jumpstart on transforming your space for 2025 with easy feng shui tips!

The '90s were a great time, according to millennials. It was a time of rollerblading, listening to cassette players, playing Super Mario Bros. on Nintendos, having birthday parties at Chuck E. Cheese, and more. Besides this and other pop culture moments that went viral before social media existed, the '90s gave us classic stores we used to frequent as kids.

Despite meeting their demise as the Y2K age took over, we'll never forget the fun memories (and maximalist vibes) these stores gave us!

Take a walk down memory lane by revisiting our favorite '90s stores that will take you back in time (and make you feel old):

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1. Party City

Our hearts are hurting because we don't understand why one of the most popular decor stores is closing. The brand was apparently facing "financial challenges," according to it's CEO Barry Litwin (via CNN). There were other issues behind the scenes, but everything trickled down to money, or a lack thereof.

It's so shocking because some of us just picked up a few holiday items from Party City this month! It was one of the stores that seemed to have everything we needed before Amazon became the mega wholesaler that it is today.

I guess this means we should've cherished Party City a little more because it's officially gone.

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2. Blockbuster

Long before streaming platforms like Netflix and Peacock existed, people used to spend Friday nights looking at rows of VHS movies to rent. If you were lucky, your parents would stop by Blockbuster before picking up pizza for dinner. It was the ultimate '90s treat…until it wasn’t.

When we want to remember what it felt like visiting Blockbuster, we fast forward to that one scene in I Am Legend where Dr. Robert Neville is going to 'rent' movies. It's a little cringe now that we think about it, but it's the closet memory we have of spending at least 30 minutes picking out the VHS or DVD to watch.

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3. Circuit City

Raise your hand if you remember getting your first CD player or computer from Circuit City. The name alone conjures fun memories of running up and down the aisles pretending we could afford all the fun electronics. We watched desktop computers slowly morph into laptops, which seemed like an exciting time. Also, some of us watched our parents lament the cost of the required Texas Instrument calculators we needed for math class.

Although Circuit City isn't around like it used to be, we'll never forget watching the world change through its eyes.

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4. Virgin Music Store

If you wanted to be a part of the cool crowd, you visited the Virgin music store. We aptly remember the neon sign and memorable displays that beckoned to us. Although we could find some of the same CDs at Circuit City, the store’s design didn’t feel stuffy.

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5. Radio Shack

This one’s personal because we stood in lines with our parents when they bought their first cell phones and DVD players. Also, one of our parents may or may not have purchased a very coveted Bratz convertible that played music from Radio Shack.

Even though it wasn’t the biggest store, it gave us a taste of what the future had for us. Little did we know we’d lose this sweet store though.

6. Border's

As much as we love recommending books from Amazon and local bookshops, we miss when Border’s was around. There’s not much to say about this store besides how grown-up we felt when our parents would let us spend time there while they shopped at their favorite stores in the mall.

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7. KB Toys

Aside from Toys ‘R’ Us, we also remember when K.B. Toys was popular. Not unlike today, there wasn’t such a thing as having too many toy stores. Sometimes we found things at K.B.s that felt like a treat. The cluttered aisles probably annoyed our parents, but we were always happy when we were allowed to pick something out.

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8. Wet Seal

Yes, Wet Seal made the list of stores we loved in the '90s. Unlike Goody’s, it was specifically geared towards pre-teens and teens who wanted to wear the latest fashions. It was one of the the places to discover your style at the time even if it meant leaving piles of clothes for weary store associates to put back (sorry!)

Though we miss it, we hope no one tries to revive it because we’re sure we’d see a few outdated fashion trends.

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9. Esprit

This was another store that screamed 'All American Teen Store.' Unlike Wet Seal, the store's layout and clothing were a little more 'sophisticated.' It spoke to teens who are now adults with a sleeker preppy style. It sounds like a reach, but it's not if you think about it. This store could give you logomania, tenniscore, or something that resembled the outfits from Saved By the Bell at the same time.

10. Goody's

Were you really a '90s kid if your mom didn’t drag you to Goody’s? Shockingly enough, we hardly ever complained because it felt like a huge store we could play in. Plus, it had clothes for everyone.

And if there were a sale during BTS season? You could always count on our moms to leave the store with stuffed shopping bags.

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