How to Help Your BFF Through a Breakup

Mara Santilli
Nov 14, 2018

Has your bestie just ended things with his or her S.O.? You already know the right flavor of ice cream to bring over, but it can be tough to know what to do next. And no matter where your friend is in the breakup process, she or he needs your support more than ever, so you want to get it right. We asked communication and dating experts to help us out with their recommendations for building up your friend while they’re going through a split. Grab two spoons and scroll on for their top tips.

1. Nail their communication (or non-communication) style. If you don’t know exactly what to say to a friend post-breakup, just ask, says Deborah Tannen, a professor of linguistics at Georgetown University and author of You’re the Only One I Can Tell: Inside the Language of Women’s Friendships. “We don’t all have the same communication style. Some people prefer directness [and some prefer] indirectness in communication,” she explains. Find out whether your friend would like to vent via text or over the phone, or if they’d rather meet for a coffee to chat. Some friends, Tannen says, may even want to avoid the subject of the split altogether. If that’s their style, she says, respect it and don’t push the topic.

2. Don’t bad mouth the ex. Whatever you do, skip the name-calling. “You never know if your friend will go back to their ex, so it is always important to weigh our words when we are talking about people that they care about,” says Ezgi Ceren Isik, the in-house expert at the dating app Once, which matches you with one compatible user per day to encourage a more authentic connection between pairs. “Avoid using very harsh language that can’t be taken back or easily forgotten,” she adds. The only exception? If you have a serious problem with the former S.O. and it’s a close friend. “If you feel comfortable enough, feel free to say something, but be honest with your reasons and whether you’re biased in some way. What we think is right for our friends may not actually be right for them,” says Nicole Sbordone , a licensed clinical social worker and author of Surviving Female Friendships: The Good, The Bad and The Ugly. But most of the time, it’s best to put aside your own feelings and focus on listening to your friend’s. “Talk about how they can learn from this experience and move on,” Sbordone says.

3. Give them some TLC. Experts say one of the critical pieces of healing from a breakup is showing yourself as much love and gentleness as possible, so help your friend help themselves. Invite your bestie to join in on any part of your regular self-care routine, like meditation, a spa day, a spin class, or weekend brunch. “Self-care will not only help by easing their emotional pain, but it also keeps them focused on the future,” says Sal Raichbach, a psychologist at Ambrosia Treatment Center. And consider sweating it out: Raichbach says that research shows that mild exercise every day improves symptoms of depression and anxiety.

4. Whisk your friend away. Taking your friend along on any kind of getaway — particularly one where they can get some perspective by being in nature — can be a great way to show that you’re there for them, says Frowsa Booker-Drew, owner of Soulstice Consultancy and author of Rules of Engagement: Making Connections Last. “Sometimes providing presence is critical when our friends are going through storms in their lives,” she says. “It isn’t more advice that’s needed; it’s knowing that someone loves you and is allowing you space to just be present with no expectations.”

5. Hold them accountable. Sometimes helping a friend through the ups and downs of a breakup means being the bad guy. (Someone needs to be the voice of reason when it comes to 2am texts or Insta-stalking their former flame’s rebound on Instagram.) Jane Reardon, a licensed therapist in LA and founder of the app Rx Breakup, a guide to moving past a relationship, prescribes “30 days of self-love and no contact with your ex” as a breakup remedy. “In order to have clarity about what went wrong with the relationship, figure out if things are truly fixable, and what your feelings really are, space is necessary. Otherwise, you can end up in a vicious cycle of limbo and confusion, and that will not help you move on,” Reardon says. So be a true friend: Help your BFF give themselves the space they need.

6. Just be there. “Don’t underestimate the value of just being there for them, just showing up,” Tannen says. “Call briefly, and keep offering to do things; it could be a text, photo, or phone conversation. But those little things show the person you care.”

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3 Key Things Super Compatible Couples Never Argue About, According To Experts

By now, you may be able to recognize signs of gaslighting or other toxicbehaviors, but do you know how to take everything you've learned and become a super compatible couple? According to experts, there are a few key things super compatible couples rarely argue about — even with whatever faults each person brings to the relationship table. While the topics these couples avoid may not surprise you, the reason why they're able to avoid them might. But first, let's talk about what makes couples more compatible than others.

Dr. Brooke Keels, Ph.D., LPC-MHSP, LPC-Supervisor, Chief Clinical Officer at Lighthouse Recovery, has this to say: "Couples are compatible when they share similar values, goals, and know the best way to communicate with each other." Notice she didn't say these couples are just alike.

More so, she explains that "it's about how well they handle differences, whether they can support each other through tough times, and how they connect emotionally." Dr. Keels adds, "when there’s respect, trust, and a good balance of give-and-take between them?" Dr. Keels believes this gives couples a better chance "to be in sync."

Scroll down to see the topics you'll rarely hear compatible couples arguing about!

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1. Long-term goals like marriage aren't often a cause for concern.

Have you ever dated someone that made you wonder what you saw in them once you pay attention to certain red flags? You may have found yourself arguing with them about everything from religion to reproductive health, leaving you feeling dizzy afterwards. But Dr. Keels says compatible couples are more likely to be aligned on "whether they want the same things out of life."

Her examples include:

  • Relocating for careers
  • Family planning
  • Finding somewhere to settle down in general (i.e. apartment, condo, different state, close to family, etc.,)

"This common ground lessens the chance of fighting over these big topics," Dr. Keels reiterates.

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2. There's a lesser chance arguments about weekend activities occur.

We're no strangers to indecisive moments where we couldn't agree about what to do on the weekends with our partners, but Dr. Keels says compatible couples don't always run into this issue. "When you enjoy similar activities or have overlapping hobbies, you're more like to find ways to unwind together, rather than feeling disconnected or frustrated by each other's choices," she adds.

While it varies from couple to couple, you and your partner may enjoy the following:

  • Buying tickets to watch the latest college basketball or football game
  • Going to a 'Paint and Sip' class for fun
  • Having a mini outdoor picnic
  • Visiting a national park if it's on your couple's bucket list
  • Spending a day at a local arcade

The possibilities are endless, but all that matters is that "this mutual understanding makes spending time together feel natural and fun," according to Dr. Keels.

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3. Communication styles aren't causing a daily disruption.

Some people have a more direct way of communicating while others may be passive or even passive-aggressive. Less arguments aren't happening because compatible couples communicate the same however. "When they both understand each other's communication style — whether it's direct or more subtle — it helps avoid misunderstandings and frustration."

Here's a couple of examples:

  • If you're having a bad day that has nothing to do with your partner, they don't take it personal when you prefer some alone time.
  • If your partner says something they perceived to be a joke, but you didn't, you're less likely to immediately accuse them of being insensitive. Instead, there's a higher chance of asking what they mean by something and expressing why you didn't like it instead of arguing.

Compatible couples "know how to express their feelings and needs in a way that the other person can easily understand" which makes "it easier to resolve issues calmly," according to Dr. Keels.

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Are couples better (or more compatible) because they don't have a lot of arguments?

Well, no. That's actually a stretch because everyone has arguments. "Even compatible couples can argue about everyday things like chores or schedules. No matter how well they get along or how "in sync" they are, little annoyances can still pop up here and there, and cause some tension between them," Dr. Keels shares. "The difference," she points out, "is that they're usually better at handling these moments and keeping them from turning into bigger problems."

The other thing she's seen couples argue about is money. "It's such a common stress point because everyone has different habits and priorities when it comes to spending or saving," she says. But, guess what? "Compatible couples tend to approach the conversation with more understanding and a willingness to find a compromise," she continues.

If you feel like you and your partner aren't on the same page, it may not be time to break up just yet. We've learned that that it can take time to effectively communicate with a romantic partner or understand them. Compatibility is great, but it's not an indicator that a relationship will be smooth sailing!

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How can I have healthier disagreements with my partner?

Like we said, getting to a point where you and your partner aren't consistently hurting each other's feelings during disagreements takes time as well as skill. No one's born knowing all the answers so don't think your relationship is over because you're still figuring things out.

Dr. Keels says one way you and your partner can work on the kind of disagreements you're having is by "knowing how to communicate/compromise." Look, we heard your sigh and know it's probably the antithesis of how you feel. We struggled with compromising, but you don't get far in life thinking that everyone else has to bend to your will all the time.

"Even if they don’t see eye to eye all the time, healthy couples listen to each other's perspectives, and look for solutions that work for both of them. It’s not about 'winning' the argument and getting to say who's right, but finding common ground so they can move forward together," adds Dr. Keels.

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Also, "staying respectful event when things get heated or when you're upset" is a way to have a productive arguments, according to Dr. Keels. What happens is that "healthy couples avoid yelling or saying hurting things during disagreements," she says. This means no cursing or raising voices to the point your next door neighbors feel they have to call the police to do a wellness check on you.

"Instead, they just focus on the real problem and stay calm, which helps them work through the issue without hurting each other and the relationship," Dr. Keels says. And in the event you and your partner can't find common ground in a given moment? She highly suggests you "take breaks or pause when things get too heated."

Couples who do this "know when to step away and cool off before continuing the conversation," she adds. There are times where it's difficult to have a proper conversation when you're anxious or angry, so it's always better to revisit the topic.

Dr. Keels agrees and says, "This gives them a chance to cool down first so they can properly think things through, and think of a solution that works for both of them without saying anything they might regret."

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23 Celebrities Turning 40 This Year (I’m Not Ready)

Lordy, lordy, these celebrities are officially turning 40 in 2025! While we all logically know we each get older every year, there's something shocking when your favorite child star (I'm looking at you Raven-Symoné) hits this kind of major milestone. From Olympic athletes to reality legends, you won't believe who's "over the hill" in 2025.

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Amanda Seyfried

Birthday: December 3, 1985

She's a mouse, duh! All jokes aside, this actress is honestly in her prime. Look out for her in The Housemaid alongside Sydney Sweeney and Brandon Sklenar!

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Anna Kendrick

Birthday: August 9, 1985

Real ones know her as Jessica from Twilight, but this Pitch Perfectsinger is always a star in our book! She just directed and starred in Woman of the Hour, now streaming on Netflix. Honestly though, we can't wait to see her highly-anticipated sequel A Simple Favor 2with Blake Lively.

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Ashley Tisdale

Birthday: July 2, 1985

Bop, bop, bop straight to the top—er, or to 40! Your fave Disney Channel diva, the Sharpay Evans herself is officially turning 40 this year! While we loved her back in the DCOM days, Ashley Tisdale is a mom and entrepreneur we love to look up to now!

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Audrina Patridge

Birthday: May 9, 1985

The Hills are alive...and they're turning 40. I thought Audrina was THAT girl back in the day — and TBH she still is! She's a mother of one now, and her daughter Kirra is TOO cute!

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Billy Magnussen

Birthday: April 20, 1985

If you haven't seen Billy Magnussen in Made for Love, do yourself a favor and go watch it ASAP. He plays a love-obsessed tech mogul that gives Cristin Milioti everything she could ever want...but is it right? Seriously, it's such a fantastic, weird show. And if you don't recognize him from that, you may know him from Into the Woods or The Many Saints of Newark (that one's for you, Sopranos fans).

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Bruno Mars

Birthday: October 8, 1985

He might have 24 karat magic in the air...but he's got 40 years on the cal! Singer Bruno Mars has so many hits (and they're all about to be stuck in your head in 3...2...1...). Celebrate the "Versace on the Floor" singer's 40th by playing all your fave songs of his this year!

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Chace Crawford

Birthday: July 18, 1985

Hey Upper East Siders, have you heard? Our very own Nate Archibald — I mean, Chace Crawford is turning 40 this July! But that's not stopping our heartthrob from getting hotter! He continues to star in Amazon Prime's The Boys...and in all of Miles and Keleigh Teller's TikTok videos! XOXO, Gossip Girl.

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Chrissy Teigen

Birthday: November 30, 1985

This model and mother of four has kept us laughing for years — and now that she's turning 40, we're sure she'll bring even more of that Chrissy Teigen realness our way! Fingers crossed she gives us more cook books, more quips, and more cute snaps of her adorable kids this year!

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Ciara

Birthday: October 25, 1985

Ciara is That Girl, and then some. She's served body for YEARS, and 40 isn't gonna stop her from serving even more. The WAG extraordinaire welcomed her fourth child to the world in December 2023, and we honestly can't get enough of her beautiful, blended family with Russell Wilson!

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Dave Franco

Birthday: June 12, 1985

Dave Franco and Alison Brie are everything to me, so I'm excited to see how these two ring in his 40th birthday together! There's just something about the two of them that's both down-to-earth and downright stunning at the same time. Here's to them both getting even hotter in their 40s!

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Derek Hough

Birthday: May 17, 1985

Dancer extraordinaire, Derek Hough is officially joining the "over the hill" club this year! He's danced through life up to now, and we're sure his 40s will be no different!

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Frankie Muniz

Birthday: December 5, 1985

Agent Cody Banks is turning 40. I repeat: Agent Cody Banks is turning 40! I was totally in my spy era when that movie came out, so I was sure I'd be the perfect sidekick to his spying escapades. Bubble gum, bubble gum in a dish, anyone?

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Hayley Duff

Birthday: February 19, 1985

Material girl, Hayley Duff is entering her 40s era! Big sister to Hilary, these two were inseparable back in the day. I mean, how many times did I listen to their cover of "Material Girls"?! (The limit did not exist)

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Jonathan Groff

Birthday: March 26, 1985

Broadway baby, Jonathan Groff is turning 40! After just winning the Tony Award for "Best Actor in a Musical" last year for his performance in Merrily We Roll Along last year, it's safe to say JGroff just keeps getting better with age! He's starred in stage (Spring Awakening) and screen (Frozen, Mindhunter) alike, and we can't wait to see what he does next!

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Kaley Cuoco

Birthday: November 30, 1985

Funny lady Kaley Cuoco is joining the 40 club! She wowed everyone for years in The Big Bang Theory, only to continue her incredible career in hit shows like The Flight Attendant and Based on a True Story. She recently welcomed a new baby AND got engaged to Tom Pelphrey. Here's to 40 being even better!

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Keira Knightley

Birthday: March 26, 1985

Love Actuallystar Keira Knightley has been an It Girl for YEARS. Right now, everyone can't stop raving about her new Netflix show, Black Doves — but TBH, we're still rewatching her iconic period drama, Pride & Prejudice. BRB while I look for a page boy hat like hers to style in 2025!

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Lana Del Rey

Birthday: June 21, 1985

Brush away that summertime sadness — our favorite Cancer turns 40 this year! Queen of the Sad Girls Club, Lana Del Rey took the 2010s (and Tumblr) by storm, making her mark on the world with her music. Now, she's BFFs with Taylor Swift — oh, and she recently got married! Mazel!

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Lily Allen

Birthday: May 2, 1985

Discovering Lily Allen in my youth was perfect for my little "not like other girls" heart back in the day. Her music was edgy and eclectic and so very British. I couldn't get enough of it! She's clearly maintained her cool factor throughout the years too — just look at her gorgeous Brooklyn home!

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Michael Phelps

Birthday: June 30, 1985

When you think of the Olympics, it's likely you think about Michael Phelps. The swimming icon won medals, broke records, and cemented himself as a national treasure. Now, the father of four is a mental health advocate who speaks up about his own struggles with depression in order to help others understand (and work on) their own journeys.

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Michelle Trachtenberg

Birthday: October 11, 1985

Upper East Siders, I'm back with another 40-year-old to gossip about. Georgina Sparks — AKA Michelle Trachtenberg — is over the hill, but we're so not over her! This actress starred in all our fave movies and shows, from Ice Princess to Buffy the Vampire Slayer.

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Raven-Symoné

Birthday: December 10, 1985

I'm getting a vision...and it's Raven-Symoné turning 40 this December! The Disney Channel star has graced our screens since she was very little, so it's crazy to think that she's old enough to literally turn 40. The actress married Miranda Maday in 2020, and the two seem very happy together — yay!

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Troian Bellisario

Birthday: October 28, 1985

This pretty little liar is officially turning 40 in October! We loved watching Spencer try to crack the case back in the ABC Family days, and now she's teasing a return to Suits — another beloved binge watch!

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Whitney Port

Birthday: March 4, 1985

Seriously, the fact that more than one star of The Hills is turning 40 this year has me SHOOK. Whitney Port, Lauren Conrad's BFF, turns 40 this March! Can we get a reunion soon, please?!

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8 Simple Ways To Keep The "Spark" In Your Marriage, According To A Relationship Therapist

Life comes at you fast when you're in love, while you're juggling career goals, pets, babies, friends, family, and whatever else folded in to your very, very filled cup. One minute you and your spouse can't enough of each other, but then time passes and you might start to feel like you're roommates. "Ugh, what is that about," is a question I used to ask when my own relationship's spark felt like tiny embers amongst our ever-growing responsibilities. Licensed psychotherapist Lucas Saiter, LMHC, owner and director of Manhattan Therapy NYC, says, "It's crucial for couples to acknowledge periods of disconnection without judgement."

According to him, you can start "by having an open conversation about feeling disconnected" which is a "positive step" in the desired direction. But, he wants this to happen during "a calm moment" instead of "during a conflict or when there are distractions."

The ultimate goal is for "each partner" to feel like they have "the opportunity to express their feelings openly and honestly, using 'I' statements to avoid blaming, while the other partner actively listens without interrupting or getting defensive," according to him.

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Your marriage isn't doomed because you feel like it's gotten off track. Saiter says, "Rekindling the spark in a marriage goes beyond physical intimacy; it's about creating emotional closeness and shared experiences. Couples can focus on deep, meaningful conversations that go beyond the day-to-day logistics."

1. If you don't cook often, surprise your spouse with their favorite dinner recipe.

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Saiter says you or your spouse "can make time for small gestures of kindness and thoughtfulness, like cooking" each other's "favorite meal." We don't know everything, but we're aware that home-cooked meals mean a lot to some people. Eating out is fun, but seeing someone put time and effort into a meal for you feels more personal.

2. Allow your partner to sleep in while you handle bank runs, grocery shopping, and other chores.

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One of the other ways to each other's heart is "...running errands to show love and appreciation," according to Saiter. This can look like letting your partner rest while you handle early morning visits to the bank or grocery store before traffic picks up on the weekend.

Setting aside time for shared hobbies or interests can also be incredibly rejuvenating. For instance, taking a class together, whether it’s cooking, dancing, or photography, can help in discovering new aspects of each other and create fun, shared memories.

3. Sign up for a dance or photography class together.

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If you've been thinking about taking a cooking, wine, dance, or photography class together, now's the time to do so! Saiter says, "Setting aside time for shared hobbies or interests can also be incredibly rejuvenating." Before you roll your eyes because you think you and your spouse don't have anything in common anymore, take a step back to remember what it was like when you were dating.

You probably went on different dates like going to the bowling alley, visiting a pumpkin patch, or even taking a candle class together for fun. Doing this again "can help in discovering new aspects of each other and create fun, shared memories," according to Saiter.

4. Verbally share why you're grateful for each other.

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Yes, it's time for you and your spouse to remember why you chose to exchange vows. "...practicing gratitude by regularly expressing appreciation for each other's qualities and contributions can strengthen the emotional bond and bring back the warmth and closeness," Saiter says.

You can tell your partner you appreciate the times they've sensed something was wrong and knew just what to say to cheer you up. Also, you could simply thank them for remembering to take out the trash without you having to ask.

There's no rulebook that says expressing thanks for each other has to be elaborate and drawn out. It's just something to help you remember how much you see each other.

5. Set aside time to hold hands or cuddle everyday.

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If you or your spouse are experiencing a drop in your libido, physical intimacy be hard to navigate. Saiter says, "Overcoming a 'dry spell' requires open communication and a willingness to explore underlying issues." As difficult as it may be, don't be afraid to express concerns because "there are many feelings and unsaid wants underneath the 'dry spell,'" he adds.

Doing something as simple as "prioritizing physical, non-sexual touch" is one way way Saiter believes can help you and your spouse become close again. You do things like "holding hands, cuddling, or sharing a long hug," to add a little spark back to what you had.

6. Pencil in date nights.

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How many times have your or spouse asked, "Who has time for date night?" Wait, we don't want to know because chances are one of you have said it one too many times to count. Saiter says, "Planning regular date nights or weekends away can also help break the routine and create a sense of adventure in the relationship."

Communicating and being open to trying new things in the bedroom, like role-playing, using toys, or trying new positions, can also reignite the spark and make things exciting again.

You can also try revisiting places or activities that were significant earlier in your relationship to evoke nostalgic, passionate feelings and remind you both of your deep connection.

7. Let your adventurous side show in the bedroom.

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If one of you are comfortable initiating sex again, let your fun side call the shots. However, Saiter wants to make sure you're "communicating" before surprising your spouse. "...being open to trying new things in the bedroom, like role-playing, using toys, or trying new positions" is one of the ways he thinks you can reconnect behind closed doors. It's all about finding safe ways to "reignite the spark and make things exciting again," he shares!

8. Revisit the place you fell in love with your spouse.

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If you remember the exact time and place you knew your spouse was the one, Saiter suggests revisiting it to "evoke nostalgic, passionate feelings and remind you both of your deep connection." Whether it was at your local pizza parlor, the park, or even at a place like Disney World, find your why again.

My spouse and I are doing great after incorporating these tips, but how can we stay consistent?

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Saiter says, "Life gets busy, but it’s crucial to carve out time for each other. Treat it like any other important appointment—block off time in your schedule for date nights, family dinners, or just time relaxing together." Maybe you think it should sound so simple, but it is. Like Saiter says, you have to prioritize your marriage just like you do everything and everyone else.

Ways to help you do so are limiting "distractions by putting away phones and other devices" to "talk about your dreams, unwind together or simply enjoy each other's company," he adds. Still struggling?

"It might also be helpful to look over your daily responsibilities together to make sure the workload at home is shared fairly. Building a strong and fulfilling relationship takes effort and commitment. By prioritizing your partner, communicating openly, and making time for each other, you can strengthen your bond and reignite the spark," Saiter suggests.

All in all, Saiter believes "seeking couples counseling can be a great step toward getting the conversation flowing," if you and your spouse are still having trouble finding the spark in your marriage.

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You're Wasting Your Money If You Haven't Tried These 20 Amazing Trader Joe's Finds

While there are plenty of things at Trader Joe's you absolutely should not spend your money on, there's an equal amount of finds worth adding to your cart every single time. As an avid TJ-er, I can proudly say all of these 20 Trader Joe's products make the cut for being the best around. From savory to sweet finds and even some tasty beverages on the list, you're bound to find something that'll kickstart your cravings.

Scroll on for the 20 best Trader Joe's items you can shop right now!

Best Savory Trader Joe's Items

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Caesar Salad Dip

This girl dinner-ready dip is essential for chips, sandwiches, wraps, flatbreads, and more.

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Steamed Vegetable Soup Dumplings

I buy at least three boxes of these dumplings every time I need to stock up on groceries. They make getting a hearty, fulfilling meal in super easy, since all they require is a few minutes in the microwave.

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Wild Nova Style Smoked Sockeye Salmon

This salmon + cream cheese + a bagel = absolute heaven.

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Blue Cheese Stuffed Chalkidiki Olives

Olives can be very divisive, so I understand if you're not on board with this TJ's pick. For those of you who do love all things briny, these plump bites filled with blue cheese are simply addicting, no matter if you enjoy them on pizza, in a dirty martini, or straight out of the jar.

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Mushroom Risotto

Risotto will always leave a fancy impression, but this frozen version makes it way easier than your traditional cooking method. The texture and flavor are still a whopping 10/10.

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Organic Roasted Vegetable Pizza

Oftentimes, I'll buy a plain cheese pizza and put my own veggies on it, but after discovering this TJ's pizza, there's no need for extra work. It's colorful as can be, which makes me feel a little less guilty about eating the whole thing on my own.

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Creamy Spinach & Artichoke Dip

This heat-and-eat dip is a must-have for house parties! It tastes just like something you'd order at a restaurant, but it's only $4.

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Chicken Breakfast Sausage Patties

I love using these frozen sausage patties to make meal prep breakfast sandwiches alongside some eggs and cheese. The chicken makes each one a little bit leaner, but they still pack a good punch in terms of protein content to keep me full throughout the mornings.

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Almond Chipotle Dip

This dip is essentially TJ's version of Bitchin' Sauce, which, IYKYK. So good. Each bite has a good balance of chipotle pepper powder, smoked paprika, garlic, and tamari, plus you'd never guess it's totally vegan.

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Broccoli & Cheddar Cheese Quiche

There's truly not much I love more than a good frozen quiche. This one heats up perfectly in the oven in just 30 minutes to reveal a flaky crust and a tender, piping hot filling. Trader Joe's makes a few different variations of their frozen quiche, but this broccoli & cheddar one is to die for IMO.

Best Sweet Trader Joe's Items

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Chocolate Brooklyn Babka

This chocolatey, bready dessert is insane. It's sweet and deliciously textured, tasty enough to enjoy any time of day. Plus, it's made by a small, kosher bakery in Brooklyn, New York, so you know you're gettin' the good stuff.

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Dark Chocolate Peanut Butter Cups

I buy a box of these every single time I hit my local TJ's. I fear I finish off every meal with at least one or two of 'em, and always offer a small handful to my friends when they come over! Plus, I'll take dark chocolate over milk chocolate any day.

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Sweetened Green Mango

I am a self-proclaimed expert at hiking snacks, and this bag of dried mango truly takes the cake. It travels well and tastes just as good as it did on the first day I bought it. I could eat the whole bag if left unsupervised!

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Sea Salt Chocolate Chunk Cookies

Chocolate. Chunk. Cookies. Need I say more?! The sea salt elevates each bite perfectly.

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Dark Chocolate Ganache Mini Sheet Cake

This tasty sheet cake is a great grab to bring to small gatherings like book clubs and movie nights. You might want to grab a couple if your group's got a huge sweet tooth!

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Speculoos Cookie Butter

This cookie butter is dee-lish-ious. Delish. I enjoy licking it off a spoon (not sorry!) or also using it as a nice, sweet flavoring for my morning lattes. I also know there's a ton of Speculoos Cookie Butter-specific recipes out there for everything you could imaging baking up, like cookies, cakes, and ice creams.

Best Trader Joe's Beverages

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Non-Dairy Gingerbread Oat Creamer

All of TJ's oat milk creamer flavors are great, but this spicy-sweet seasonal gingerbread one is truly worth the wait every year. It makes me forget entirely about going to Starbucks regularly since I can perfect my own coffees at home.

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Candy Cane Green Tea

This green tea is great for tea drinkers who prefer their mug a little on the sweet side. The balance of peppermint is divine.

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Vanilla Almond Spiced Chai Protein Smoothie

I'm a protein girlie through and through, and opting for something easy like this makes my life so much easier. I'll typically grab one after the gym if I don't have a lot to enjoy at home. It'd also make an excellent addition to espresso drinks or a frozen smoothie!

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Maple Espresso Black Tea Blend

I'd never had a tea with espresso and maple before, but I totally get the hype of the unique flavor combo after trying this tea. It's great to sip on during workday afternoons when you need a lil' caffeine boost, but don't necessarily want an entire coffee.

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OMG, Tom Holland Wants To Start A Family With Zendaya "Sooner Rather Than Later"

If I'm completely honest, there are very few celebrity couples I care about the way I care about Tom Holland and Zendaya. Aside from the fact this couple is like a walking friends-to-lovers plotline IRL, and are both power houses on their own, these two actors and philanthropists are just unstoppable together. And Zendaya also showed up to the 2025 Golden Globes rocking a new ring on THAT finger. These two keep their relationship pretty private, so here's the latest news on it.

Here's everything you need to know about Hollywood It-couple Tom Holland & Zendaya.

Tom Holland And Zendaya's Relationship Timeline

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July 2016 — Tom Holland And Zendaya Join Spider-Man: Homecoming

Tom Holland and Zendaya met and became friends when they were cast in the MCU's Spider-Man: Homecoming. Tom had already made an appearance in Captain America: Civil War, but the new Spider-Man movie was a huge deal for both Marvel fans and the couple themselves! Not only did Tom Holland and Zendaya spend time together on set, but they also hung out at the pool together during their free timeand goofed around during San Diego Comic Con.

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November 2016 — Tom Holland And Zendaya Are On The Cover Of The Hollywood Reporter

Tom Holland and Zendaya basically broke the internet when they graced the cover of The Hollywood Reporter's Nov. 2016 issue. The shoot was filled with plenty of classic Hollywood throwbacks, but I have always *loved* the blue dress Z wears on the cover. "Over the moon with my first cover," Tom writes on Instagram. "So grateful that I got to share it with the one and only @zendaya. Thanks mate for helping me out."

"Honored to share it with the very best...Spider-Man himself @tomholland2013," Zendaya says in her post. "Thank you for this beautiful cover @THR."

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May 7, 2017 — Tom Holland And Zendaya Attend The MTV Movie And TV Awards

At the 2017 MTV Movie And TV Awards, Tom Holland and Zendaya premiered a clip from Spider-Man: Homecoming...and Tom did a flip onstage and then asked Zendaya to homecoming.

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July 13, 2017 — Tom Holland And Zendaya Are Reportedly Dating

In July 2017, a source seemingly confirmed what many fans had been wondering for months: that Tom Holland and Zendaya had been dating. Considering the two other sets of Spider-Man leads (Tobey Maguire and Kirsten Dunst and Emma Stone and Andrew Garfield) both dated, it felt like this was one relationship that was bound to happen.

"They started seeing each other while they were filming Spider-Man," the insider tells People. "They've been super careful to keep it private and out of the public eye but they've gone on vacations with each other and try and spend as much time as possible with one another."

"They're both really ambitious and they challenge each other — but, most importantly, they make each other crack up," says another insider. "They seem to have a really similar sense of humor and love joking around together."

Tom Holland and Zendaya actually took to Twitter (now X) to tackle the rumors. "Wait wait...my favorite is when it says we go on vacations together HA! I haven't been on a vacation in years!" Zendaya says, to which Tomreplies, "Does the press tour count[?]"

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August 8, 2017 — Zendaya Shuts Down Dating Rumors

"We are friends," Zendaya tells Variety. "He's a great dude. He's literally one of my best friends. This past how many months we've had to do press tours together. There's very few people that will understand what that's like at 20 years old."

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May 8, 2018 — Tom Holland Supports Zendaya's Iconic Met Gala Appearance

Zendaya showed up to the 2018 Met Gala (which had the theme Heavenly Bodies) as Joan of Arc, and it's quickly become one of her most iconic and recognizable carpet looks. Tom loved it just as much as we did and wrote on Instagram, "All hail the queen. Killing it mate."

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July 2019 — Tom Holland And Zendaya Have A Very Chaotic Press Tour For Spider-Man: Far From Home

For Spider-Man: Far From Home in 2019, Tom Holland, Zendaya, and Jacob Batalon did dozens of junkets together, and many of the interviews have gone viral — like Tom and Jacob finally meeting their favorite Watch Mojo hostandthe cast playing games with Jimmy Kimmel. Junkets are always fun to watch, and this one is no exception!

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July 2, 2021 — Tom Holland And Zendaya Are Seen Kissing

After years of denying they were dating, Tom Holland and Zendaya really and truly broke the internet when pictures of them kissing in a car showed up on social media. This was such a vital moment that I remember exactly where I was when I found out.

"THEY ARE END GAME DREAM COUPLE," one X user tweeted. "I don't know if I want to be Tom Holland to kiss Zendaya or be Zendaya to kiss Tom Holland," another user joked.

Tom Holland and Zendaya were later seen attending a friend's wedding...and sitting very close to each other.

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September 1, 2021 — Tom Holland And Zendaya Make Their Relationship Instagram Official

On Zendaya's 25th birthday, Tom Holland posted the sweetest picture from the Spider-Man makeup trailer on Instagram. "My MJ, have the happiest of birthdays," he says in the caption. "Gimme a call when [you're] up xxx."

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November 17, 2021 — Tom Holland And Zendaya Open Up About Their Relationship

In an interview with GQ, Tom Holland opened up about his relationship with Zendaya and how their relationship to fame has impacted everything. "One of the downsides of our fame is that privacy isn’t really in our control anymore, and a moment that you think is between two people that love each other very much is now a moment that is shared with the entire world,” he says of their July 2 kiss. “I’ve always been really adamant to keep my private life private, because I share so much of my life with the world anyway...We sort of felt robbed of our privacy.”

“It was quite strange and weird and confusing and invasive,” Zendaya agrees. “I think loving someone is a sacred thing and a special thing and something that you want to deal with and go through and experience and enjoy amongst the two people that love each other."

“Our relationship is something that we are incredibly protective of and we want to keep as sacred as possible," Tom later told The Hollywood Reporter. "We don’t think that we owe it to anyone, it’s our thing, and it has nothing to do with our careers.”

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December 15, 2021 — Zendaya Posts A Tribute To Tom Holland As Spider-Man

Before Spider-Man: No Way Home hit theaters, Zendaya posted a pair of photos featuring Tom in his superhero costume on set, and in a costume as a kid. "My Spider-Man," the caption reads. "I’m so proud of you, some things never change and good thing♥️." Adorable!

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February 22, 2022 — Tom Holland Says He'd Love To Be In Euphoria

Zendaya shattered records when she became the youngest person to win the Emmy for Outstanding Lead Actress in a Drama Series for Rue in Euphoria. Tom also made headlines related to Euphoria when he said he'd be interested in making a cameo in the series. "I would be in Euphoria. I think I would be a really good Maddy," he jokes during a BuzzFeed puppy interview. "I'm a big Euphoria fan. I love the show and I love season 2. I visited a lot while they were shooting it and I really, really enjoyed it...I would love to guest star or just be an extra in it. Or maybe I am and you just don't know."

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April 20, 2022 — Zendaya Talks About Tom Holland's Support During Euphoria

"I think it's great to have that support and love around you, because you need that," Zendaya tells Entertainment Tonightduring Euphoria's Emmy For Your Consideration event. "This isn't an easy job, so it's good to have that to free you up from it every now and then."

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June 1, 2022 — Zendaya Celebrates Tom Holland's Birthday

For Tom's 26th birthday, Zendaya posted a rare photo of her with Tom, captioning the post, "Happiest of birthdays to the one who makes me the happiest <3."

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March 20, 2023 — Zendaya Wears A Ring With Tom Holland's Initials

I am always in favor of cute, meaningful, and minimalist jewelry, and apparently, Zendaya is too! When Zendaya's nail artist posted a video of the actress' new ballet pink manicure, fans quickly noticed the "TH" ring Z was wearing.

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April 27, 2023 — Tom Holland And Zendaya Go To An Usher Concert

2023 was the year of concerts for everyone, including celebrities! While Zendaya attended CinemaCon to promote Dune 2, she also went to an Usher concert with Tom Holland. "Childhood dreams come true, going to an @usher concert," Zendaya said on her Instagram story (via People).

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May 4, 2023 — Tom Holland And Zendaya Attend An NBA Game

Tom Holland and Zendaya had another date night in May, complete with the perfect athleisure, popcorn, and relaxed smiles.

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January 12, 2024 — Tom Holland Confirms His Relationship With Zendaya Is Still Going Strong

After Zendaya unfollowed everyone on Instagram ahead of her new movie Challengers (Blake Lively pulled a similar move before her film A Simple Favor, as did Taylor Swift before Reputation), rumors started swirling that the pair had called it quits. When asked whether they had broken up, Tom says (via TMZ), "No, absolutely not."

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January 14, 2024 — Tom Holland Says He Loves Watching Spider-Man: Homecoming With Zendaya

During the 2024 Critics Choice Awards, Tom Holland told Extra how much he loves rewatching his first Spider-Man movie, especially when he watches it with Z. "Zendaya and I will, every now and then, watch Spider-Man 1 and reminisce about being 19 and making those movies again," he says. "I love those movies, and I love savoring those moments, so I try not to watch them as often as I would maybe like to because it’s so special. It's such a luxury, such a gift to be able to sit down and sort of relive your youth.”

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January 23, 2024 — Tom Holland Shows Zendaya Some Love

Since Tom Holland and Zendaya are very private, they don't often post about their relationship on social media. But when Zendaya debuted a new look at Paris Fashion Week, Tom Holland couldn't help but post a pic of Z to his Instagram story with three heart-eye emojis. We share the same sentiment, Tom, what a coincidence!

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February 15, 2023 — Tom Holland Supports Zendaya's Dune 2

The London premiere of Dune 2 was very eventful. Zendaya basically broke the internet by wearing a Mugler "Machinenmensch" robot suit (before changing into this chic black dress from Mugler by Casey Cadwallader), a certain actress spoiled her appearance in the movie by showing up to the carpet, and Tom Holland and Zendaya were spotted at the afterparty together. I love the care and attention Tom shows Zendaya (I, too, would be overwhelmed if I was surrounded by paparazzi like in this video of the couple), and I hope they got to unwind after a crazy night!

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February 21, 2024 — Tom Holland Also Supports Zendaya's Challengers

After the new trailer for Challengers dropped, Tom Holland shared it to his Instagram story, promising the movie looks just as good as we're hoping. "You ain't ready for this one!" he says alongside the trailer.

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February 21, 2024 — Zendaya Says Tom Holland Has The Best "Rizz"

When asked who has the best "rizz" (short for charisma) in the Dune 2 cast, Zendaya immediately pivots and makes the answer more personal! "Everybody's kind of got their own [rizz]," she tells Buzzfeed. "I think someone who has beautiful charisma, not on the Dune cast, but...it works for me, is Mr. Tom Holland."

"I'm more shy and kind of quiet, so it takes a little bit more to pull me out of my shell but he's great at just talking to people and getting to know people," she continues. "He's just naturally very good at that. Or as for me, I've definitely had to pull it out of me a little bit. He's got that natural gift."

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March 17, 2024 — Tom Holland And Zendaya Watch A Tennis Game

Ahead of Zendaya's spring movie Challengers (in which she plays a tennis pro-turned-coach opposite Mike Faist and Josh O'Connor), she watched the BNP Paribas Open Men's Final at Indian Wells Tennis Garden. Alongside Tom Holland and her assistant Darnell Appling, who she frequently calls her brother, Zendaya got comfy in a cream-colored tennis skirt, tank top, and zip-up hoodie ensemble. Spring really is here!! My favorite part of the afternoon is when Tom Holland and Zendaya sang along with Whitney Houston's "I Wanna Dance With Somebody."

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April 9, 2024 — Zendaya Raves About Tom Holland

In her Vogue cover story for May 2024, Zendaya talks a lot about how fame has affected both her life and Tom Holland's. “His [career] changed overnight. One day you’re a kid and you’re at the pub with your friends, and then the next day you’re Spider-Man,” she says. “I definitely watched his life kind of change in front of him. But he handled it really beautifully.”

That star power was evident in 2022, when Tom Holland and Zendaya spent the afternoon at the Louvre in Paris...and almost broke the internet. “You just kind of get used to the fact that, 'Oh, I’m also one of these art pieces you’re going to take a picture of. I just gotta be totally cool with it and just live my life,'" Zendaya continues. (She also says that when the museum let them walk around after-hours, "it was like Night at the Museum.”)

This spring, Zendaya can't wait to see Tom Holland in his London production of Romeo & Juliet: "[I] could not be more proud. I’m going to try to see as many shows as I possibly can.”

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April 10, 2024 — Challengers Premieres In London

Tom Holland showed up for the London premiere of Challengers, and got to support Zendaya in the sweetest way. In this video captured at the premiere, you can see Tom and Z share a hug and a kiss on the cheek during the evening. Even the smallest gesture can mean a lot during a busy night, and I love how in sync Tom Holland and Zendaya are!

The latest viral clip about Tom Holland and Zendaya also has to do with Challengers. During another Challengers press tour stop, Zendaya's overjoyed to be presented with a bouquet of gardenias. “These are my favorite flowers!” she exclaims. When asked if Tom Holland buys her flowers, she points at the camera and jokes, “I hope he's watching!”

While not every girlfriend necessarily wants a bouquet, every couple definitely has to figure out each other's love languages so they can get to know each other better — and apparently A-listers are the exact same!

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August 31, 2024 — Zendaya And Tom Holland Match On A Day Date

After a summer starring in Romeo and Juliet, Tom Holland took a late-summer stroll with Zendaya in Calabasas, California. They also ended up wearing matching white tanks (Zendaya styled hers with trousers and ballet flats, while Tom opted for cargo-esque joggers and white sneakers) for the ultimate twinning moment.

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October 15, 2024 — Tom Holland Launches A New Company With Unexpected Help From Zendaya

After going sober in 2022, Tom Holland announced on October 15 he was launching a non-alcoholic drink company called Bero. “When I got sober, I started exploring the world of non-alcoholic beers and realized there was space for me to fit in,” Tom says in an interview with Forbes. “My first year sober was really difficult, and had I had Bero, I think it would have been easier.”

“Zendaya hates beer, like, absolutely hates beer," he continues. And when she helped with the taste testing, a joke helped guide the overall brand. "She does not drink beer at all, and the first round of testing she was like, ‘Wow, these are really tasty’, and I was like, ‘Well, that's probably not a good sign.'"

And at the launch event for Bero in New York City, Tom and Zendaya wore matching shades of burgundy! Z stunned in a floor-length leather dress while Tom paired a short sleeve sweater with black trousers.

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October 15, 2024 — Zendaya Reveals Why She'd Never Take A Dance Class With Tom Holland

While speaking to Teen Vogue for her partnership with On, Zendaya reveals she'd probably avoid dance classes with Tom Holland because "he's too good, it would piss me off," she jokes. "I would want to take someone who could be equally as bad as me."

"Kayaking, I would choose Tom because I think that, if I can remember correctly, with the kayak, you have to be in sync with the person," she continues. "And I think it would be hilarious because we are both very controlling and we both want to be in charge. So it would be funny to watch us be like, no, we're going to go this way. No, we're going to go that way. And I think it would be a good story after the fact."

October 31, 2024 — Tom Holland Reveals Googling Zendaya Eases His Anxiety

While appearing on an episode of Samah Dada’s On the Menu podcast, Tom Holland spoke about how protective he gets over Zendaya, which, if you ask me, is pretty clear after that viral video of her getting swarmed by paparazzi — and him physically getting in the middle.

“I’m not on socials, and I delete [the apps] when I’m not using [them],” he tells Samah. “So sometimes I — it’s more of a bit of an anxiety thing...I just give it a little Google, look [through] the news, and I’m like, ‘She’s good. We’re fine.'"

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November 13, 2024 — Zendaya Reveals Working With Tom Holland Is "Like Second Nature"

In Vanity Fair's new Hollywood 2025 issue, Zendaya opened up on what it's like to work with her partner, and reveals "it’s actually strangely comfortable."

"It’s like second nature, if anything," she says. "You feel extra safe with the person you’re acting beside. I love working with him. He’s so talented, and so passionate about what he does. He always gives things one thousand percent, even if he’s absolutely worn down. I really appreciate that about him. It feels pretty normal. That’s how we met. Literally, at a chemistry read."

I'm sure that was one heck of a chemistry read!

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November 24, 2024 — Tom Holland & Zendaya Have A Cozy Date Night

Tom and Zendaya went out for a pint to wrap up the weekend, heading to Foxhole to sample Bero "in the wild," according to Tom himself (via Instagram stories). And the actor ended up sharing a super cute photo of Zendaya in a red top with a gold necklace, a menu, and her cell phone covered in a grippy phone mount that a lot of TikTokers use to attach their phones to the wall. Does this mean there's a backlog of Zendaya TikToks?!

One People sourcealso reports the couple was "very relaxed and very chatty together" at Trident Booksellers & Cafe in Boston during a Friday morning breakfast. Sweet!

December 2, 2024 — Tom Holland & Zendaya Are Reportedly Ready To Settle Down

We all know that Tom and Zendaya are homebodies, and it appears they're only getting cozier the farther they get into their relationship — especially as friends like Robert Pattinson start their own families! “As Tom and Zendaya move closer to having a wedding next year, basically living like a husband and wife already, and continuing to book multiple film projects together, Rob is cheering them on,” a source tells Life & Style. "If things keep going in this direction, Rob is going to figure into their wedding as a best man or groomsman and he absolutely wants the new, little families they are starting to be close going forward."

“For Tom’s part, he’s seen up close how settling down, getting serious and having kids has changed Rob,” they continue. “Tom wants that life for himself and Zendaya, sooner rather than later.”

If Tom and Zendaya really are planning on getting married, and Robert Pattinson ends up in the wedding, I'll cry! And I just know Zendaya's wedding dress is going to be THE look of the decade.

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January 6, 2025 — Tom Holland & Zendaya Spark More Engagement Rumors

Zendaya showed up to the 2025 Golden Globes wearing a brand new diamond ring — and the internet is convinced her and Tom are engaged. When an LA Times reporter asked if the actress was engaged, Z reportedly "smiled coyly and shrugged her shoulders mysteriously."

Keep checking back here for the latest news on Tom Holland and Zendaya's relationship, and see what Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce are up to as well!

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