I Gave Up My To-Do List for a Week + Here’s What Happened

A full-time small business owner, part-time freelance writer and fitness instructor, I’m *constantly* re-arranging a lengthy to-do list for GSD. My Google calendar serves as a fool-proof backup, with its color-coded blocks to ensure that I’m constantly moving along according to a self-set game plan. But despite the work that I’ve put into over the last couple of years developing a system that incorporates expert to-do list tips, there are still times when keeping up is exhausting and feels downright depressing. Since I like to try helpful hacks that promise increased efficiency, I was super intrigued when I came across Silicon Valley entrepreneur, engineer and investor Mark Andreesen’s Anti-To-Do List concept — instead of crossing off pre-planned tasks, you record all of the things you achieved in the day, after the fact. I was blown away when Mark spoke to my hardworking and tight-knit team about startups and productivity at my last job (and I’ve read many of his blog posts since), so I was extra excited to test out one of his ideas for a week. Here’s what I learned.

Changing things up can feel seriously scary

My first couple of days without my regular to-do list gave me what felt like minor panic attacks. It didn’t take me long to realize how seriously accustomed I am to deleting/moving/editing the items on my list, all of which are broken down by day, priority and type of work. Because the Anti-To-Do List calls for completely ditching a written roster of to-dos, I was forced to call on calendar alerts, memory and my inbox to keep track of what I needed to do. Within the first 20 minutes of giving up my list, I was already at a loss for where to start.

Because my typical day includes calls, screen sharing sessions, places I need to be and specific chunks of time dedicated to different types of work, I continued to feel seriously off-kilter without my categorized cheat sheet. It got a little bit easier by the end of the week (admittedly, I started relying on my calendar even more), but the feeling of missing/relying on my documented list truly never went away.

My daily to-do lists are pretty unrealistic

My to-do list is a pretty wild dump of literally everything on my radar, from personal stuff that can be done whenever to project work or assignments with hard deadlines. Like most people, I try really hard to get through as many tasks as I can, which means that each day has a pretty long list of items that need attention. To-do list lines I can’t address by the time I wrap a work day get pushed further down the list — usually with feelings of disappointment, even after putting in more hours than I originally intended to.

I was forced to write down what I actually got through after each full day (while working efficiently and at full capacity). I realized that I have a tendency to overload my daily list with a totally unrealistic number of tasks. I could pinpoint that my stress stems from where I start my mornings, as my too-high expectations were unreasonable from the start and set me up for feelings of failure. This was a really valuable lesson to learn!

Noting progress can serve as major motivation

“Celebrating wins” is something that people talk about a lot when it comes to progress. Though I wholeheartedly believe that it’s important for a person to mark milestones when it comes to working toward a goal, I realized that I’ve 100-percent failed at putting this into practice for myself. Holy smokes.

When it comes to creating an Anti-To-Do List, Mark says, “What you do is this: Every time you do something — anything — useful during the day, write it down in your Anti-To-Do List on the card. And then at the end of the day, take a look at today’s card and its Anti-To-Do List and marvel at all the things you actually got done that day.”

Once I did this, it wasn’t hard at all to see how many things I should’ve felt good about! I was forced to come to grips with the fact that I *never* stop to pat myself on the back for the number of important tasks and projects I’m able to get through during a work day, mostly because all I see at the end of each is the tasks that remain on my list. I think this might be part of the reason that I often feel stressed even after my laptop is closed for the night — it’s as if my work is never done, even after I’ve had a truly productive day. Pausing to let the good stuff sink in can be a major motivator and is just as important as setting sights on what’s next!

I can’t quit my standard to-do list

I REALLY wanted to like this Anti-To-Do List experiment. In fact, I really hoped I’d uncover a new way of outlining and accomplishing my tasks that felt more freeing. But since I’m being honest, I totally have to admit that running my day without written lines of what I need to do isn’t for me.

I can’t ignore the fact that I work better when I can scan and edit my task list throughout the day, which erases any fear that I might be missing something. Going without it gave me real feelings of anxiety that sucked up energy I’d rather use on my actual work. I also like having my list available to document anything urgent that pops up during the day —something I’m sure I won’t change about the way I work.

Despite the fact that I’m set on keeping a written roster of stuff to get done, I do plan to incorporate a few key lessons learned into my workflow. This means being more realistic when outlining what I can do during a normal work day, hopefully leading to a better work-life balance and fewer feelings of disappointment. I also want to work on consciously stopping to note my progress, milestones and wins. To make it easier to see them, I’ve switched from using notepad to Asana, a slick (and pretty!) tool that makes it easy to see everything that’s been checked off in a day, week or month. I think the mix of both lists will give me a really good holistic view of what I’m doing while helping me move forward!

Would you try the Anti-To-Do List? How do you keep track of everything you’re working on and accomplishing? Tell us all about it @BritandCo!

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Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner may have split back in 2015, but they're spending an awfully lot of time together as of late. Ben's latest divorce from Jennifer Lopez was the split heard 'round the world this summer, after giving us the ever-enigmatic 'Bennifer 2.0' and its whirlwind marriage. However, we would be lying if we didn't say we were so sad when he and our favorite 13 Going On 30star ended things almost a decade ago.

Jen and Ben share three children together, and have found a way to successfully co-parent together. But could they be back on their way to finding something more? These two seem to be out and about together quite a lot lately, and it's got us thinking: could Ben reunite with yet another Jennifer from his past? Here's what's going on!

Everything you need to know about Ben Affleck & Jennifer Garner's latest outings together!

Page Sixreported that Jennifer and Ben were driving out in LA together this weekend, ultimately grabbing bagels and heading back to Ben's place. This outing comes after a source shared with PEOPLE that Jen and Ben are actually spending the holidays together this year.

"Jen truly just wants her kids to be happy. She will continue to make sure that they spend time together as a family and include Ben," the source said. "They have Christmas plans with the kids too. The kids enjoy when they all spend time together."

Christmas isn't the only holiday this former family of five will share this year. They all spent Thanksgiving together as well, and a source told Page Sixthat Ben Affleck "felt blessed" for that time together. Apparently, Ben feels like he "can just be himself" when he's with her. “Even though Ben and Jen have been split for a while now, he feels a certain level of comfort with her," the source said. “Ben has a strong relationship with Jen that will never dissipate because they have a lot of history together and she’s the mother of his kids.”

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Meanwhile, another source shared with PEOPLEthat Jen, Ben, and their kids all worked together at The Midnight Mission's Thanksgiving Street Fair this year. The source said, “They truly enjoy giving back to their community and cherishing quality time together as a family."

Right now, Jen's technically still dating John Miller, according to PEOPLE. However, we'd be remiss not to notice how close the former couple is at the moment. Could there be rekindled feelings? Is this the REAL second chance love story we deserve? Is it really just about the mutual respect these two have for each other — and their family? Definitely keeping an eye on this space to see what happens next!

Regardless of their romantic relationship status, it's honestly so nice to see Ben spending time with his family at the holidays. Thankfully his highly dramatized relationship with Jennifer Lopez didn't seem to harm any goodwill Ben has with his kids and ex-wife, and there's something really lovely about that! So, here's hoping this modern family has a happy, happy holiday season!

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Deep breaths – Daisy Jones And The Six might actually return for Season 2. Even though the Amazon Prime show ended its first season on March 24, fans are demanding more of their favorite band of six, and TBH...we can’t blame them!

The show, which was set to be a limited series with one season, might return for more, according to cast member Josh Whitehouse (Eddie Roundtree). He uploaded a rather cryptic TikTok earlier this year that alluded to a potential second season, but our hopes of seeing a tour were dashed. But, not all hope is lost!

Here's what we know so far.

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Sadly, we won't be getting a Daisy Jones And The Six Tour due to the SAG-AFTRA actors' strike that halted many ongoing and new projects — bummer! Riley Keough took to Instagram to share the gloomy news where Reese Witherspoon commented, "Aghhhh! Still hoping for this live performance.. one day !!"

She's not the only one who's saddened over this news though. Other comments mimicked her sentiments and we can't help but long for what could've been. Let's keep our fingers crossed that someone will give the fans what we want later this year!

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Hm, funny thing happened today 😙🎸🎶🕺🏻🤭 #daisyjonesandthesix

Prior to this, Josh Whitehouse previously captioned an unavailable TikTok video “Just arrived at a rehearsal studio, to, uh, have a band practice with Daisy Jones and the Six. But we already finished the TV show, so why would we be doing that?” Whitehouse questioned.

Taylor Jenkins Reid, the bestselling author and co-producer of Daisy Jones and The Six (who also wrote some of our other favorite books, BTW) has “certainly thought” about a second season.

Reid and Executive Producer Brad Mendelsohn aren’t ruling anything out. “I think we’re in a really fortunate position where we have a story that is final, and has an ending that feels really good,” Reid said in an exclusive interview with Variety. “I would only open that back up if it felt like there was a story here that we have to tell. Have I been thinking about what that is? I certainly have.”

Fans have already flooded social media with demands for more of their favorite ‘70s show.

Daisy Jones and The Six is based on the novel by Jenkins Reid, which is loosely inspired by the tortured IRL romance of Fleetwood Mac’s Stevie Nicks and Lindsey Buckingham. The incredibly talented cast also produced an album, AURORA, which we truly cannot stop listening to.

In a TikTok posted by Sam Claflin (Billy Dunne), some of the Daisy Jones crew could be seen in a studio with guitars and mics in hand.

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This mysterious post followed the album “Special Gift to Our Fans,” which included two singles that initially debuted during the show. The releases were, “It Was Always You,” sung by leading lady Daisy Jones (Riley Keough) and a second rendition of “Aurora,” which was performed by the whole band on Saturday Night Live.

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THE RIVER FT SIMONE WHEN?? 💳 💥💳💥💳💥 also whoever authorized this release I hope you live a long, happy life. #daisyjonesandthesix #djats #daisyjones #billydunne #foryou #daisybilly #daisybilly #booktok #rileykeough #djandthesix #samclaflin #itwasalwaysyou #amazonprime

The rumors of a rumored tour circled ever since the show aired, and cast members shared their thoughts on taking the band from TV to real life.

“You know there’s rumblings…I don't know if we have anything in terms of a full tour, but there might be an opportunity for us to get together in places. So if anyone’s looking forward to something like that I’d say just, eh, keep an eye out,” Will Harrison (Graham Dunne) said in an interview. When asked if he received a call about a tour, Harrison replied, “I would absolutely answer the call in a second.”

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Will Harrison tells @saragoretv about an opportunity for “Daisy Jones & The Six” to play live. Plus, he tells us what he thinks about going on tour. #NewYorkLive #WillHarrison #DaisyJones #daisyjonesandthesixshow #daisyjonesandthesix @daisyjonesandthesix

Since an IRL tour isn't happening any time soon, we'll be on the lookout for a second season of our favorite band.

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suki waterhouse bringing out camila morrone at new york n1 AHHH #sukiwaterhouse #camilamorrone #daisyjonesandthesix #concerts #livemusic #newyork #nyc

You know what's better than a tour? Seeing Suki Waterhouse and Camila Morrone unite onstage again! They both looked so freakin' good with Suki wearing a cropped purple fur coat and metallic boots while Camila wore a pink, fur-trimmed, and shimmery number. As far as we can tell, Suki and Camila looked like they were excited to surprise unsuspecting fans.

Comments on the fun clip ranged from "THIS IS SO IMPORTANT TO ME" to "This makes me want to rewatch Daisy Jones for the 4th time." All I can say is something about seeing Suki and Camila share a carefree moment is making my heart smile.

Tell us, Brit + Co readers, what do you think about Daisy Jones and the Six? Do you think a follow up is in our future?

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The Holiday movie ending might tie the whole story with a perfect bow, but that hasn't stopped fans from hoping for a sequel! (Although, I'm not sure what kind of drama a sequel might bring...and I don't want Iris and Miles OR Amanda and Graham to go through anything else for crying out loud.) The cast has spoken on the idea of a The Holiday sequel more and more in recent years, and good news for any fans of the 2006 movie — the cast is totally open to The Holiday 2!

Here's what The Holiday cast members Kate Winslet, Jude Law, Jack Black, and Cameron Diaz have said about reuniting for a sequel.

'The Holiday' cast would "love" to revisit the characters.

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It's been almost 20 years since The Holiday premiered and star Jude Law is super interested in seeing what the characters' lives look like in the 2020s. “I’d love to see where they’re at. I’d love to see where they were,” he says on Today. “I’m a yes. You need to check in with everyone else...I'll ask Kate."

“I think Graham still has cardigans and glasses, and reads,” he adds in an interview with E! News. “He’s probably worried sick 'bout the girls, right? The daughters will be 28, 29.”

Kate Winslet has also imagined that, post-The Holiday, Iris and Miles would have settled down and started a family. “It would be so fun to see Miles and Iris get back together,” she told Entertainment Tonight at the premiere of Avatar: The Way of Water in 2022. “I kind of imagine, like, how cute would their children be?…Tiny Jack Blacks running around everywhere.”

And as for her onscreen beau Jack Black? Well, he already has the perfect sequel title idea: “Once in a while, I slide into Nancy Meyers’s DMs and say, ‘Holiday 2: Electric Boogaloo. Anyone with me?’” he joked in a Vanity Fair interview last December.

Cameron Diaz spills on why the original film is so special.

I'm so torn on whether I'd want a sequel to The Holiday because a huge part of its charm, and its nostalgia, is that it's like a time capsule for the early 2000s — and specifically a time right before iPhones and social media changed the world forever. It's a comforting movie to put on that really feels like balm for my soul on days my mind feels heavy. Plus the fact the movie is a standalone film makes it feel more special!

"People look at Nancy's movies as a statement, in a way," Cameron Diaz said in a 2020 interview with Vulture. "It's set in the real world, but it's like, 'Who's getting on first class, and flying, and taking this cute little cottage in the middle of England?' Who gets to do that? You always wish that was you."

"When people watch The Holiday, it's just so aspirational," she continues. "They're like, 'One day, I'll be able to do that.' It's almost like a modern-day Prince Charming, but not a helpless princess. It's more like the fully capable princess who could have whatever she wants, but she can't have it until she breaks open her heart and is vulnerable, and lets in the right man. And not just Prince Charming, but the guy who's actually capable of showing up in all the ways she needs him to."

The Holiday shows that the most important part of, not just the holiday season but life in general, is being surrounded by the people we love. It truly feels like a modern storybook fairytale that proves dreams you were too afraid to wish could actually come true. And THAT's the true magic of Christmas.

Would you want to see a sequel to The Holiday or would you rather the movie remain a standalone film? Let us know in the comments and check out 20 Brand New Christmas Movies To Add To Your Calendar!