Why Jonathan Van Ness Wants to Redefine Self-Care As Tuning In, Not Numbing Out


Why Jonathan Van Ness Wants to Redefine Self-Care As Tuning In, Not Numbing Out

Today's creative human truly needs no introduction — from Queer Eye fame to social advocacy across the board, Jonathan Van Ness is a true force for change, good and, of course, beauty. In this edition of Creative Crushin', JVN shares with us his revelation about redefining self-care as tuning in instead of numbing out, and how his five fur babies have helped ground him in being more present, especially during the pandemic.

Anjelika Temple here, co-founder of Brit + Co, and fellow fan of taking time to tune wayyyy in. I was lucky enough to connect with JVN thanks to his partnership with Purina, and feel like I had several epiphany moments in our 18 Zoom minutes together. Read on to learn more about JVN's journey, why he considers advocacy a form of self-care, and the trials and tribulations of pet parenthood ;)

Anjelika Temple: To kick things off, where did you grow up? What was your career path like before the Queer Eye Reboot?

Jonathan Van Ness: Sure, I'm from Quincy, Illinois, then I briefly went to college, that didn't go well, and then I went to hair school. Fell in love with doing hair, and then I did hair full-time until I did Gay of Thrones, which was my first web series. And was still doing hair full-time throughout the first four years of that. I booked Queer Eye in 2017, it came out in 2018 and my life has changed so much since Queer Eye has come out, and it's almost going to be three years since it's been out, which is really surreal.

Anj: Was there a particular spark moment when you realized that you had struck a chord? You have a different take on skincare and self care, and it's more than just what you put on your face and in your hair and so on. What was it like when you realized that your point of view was really resonating with people?

JVN: I think I had my first experience a little bit with Gay of Thrones, but then the whole time that we were filming season one and two of Queer Eye, it hadn't come out yet, and so I wasn't sure how we would be received or how I would be received, or if it was really sparking. I think pretty soon after it came out in the first season, I was like, "Oh my gosh." I think I did feel like it was sparking and it was resonating, and it's really just been such an honor to be able to be someone who can advocate and give visibility for people that come from experiences like mine.

Anj: How would you define your personal mission and purpose? I know that it's always going to be evolving, so how about in this moment?

JVN: Right now, really, I feel like my mission is to... I want other non-binary HIV positive recovering addicts to know that they can achieve their wildest dreams, and that they can be valued and have worth and contribute. They can contribute and they can really believe that dreams come true. I think outside of that, I just want to get a world with more love and more compassion, and that's so much of what I'm focusing on.

Anj: I love that. I know that for you self-care is about so much more than skincare, beauty and hair. Talk to us about your definition of self-care.

JVN: You know, I used to think that self-care was more about kind of numbing out, and now I'm realizing that my advocacy is self-care, using my voice to stand up for trans and non binary people, using my voice to stand up for black people, using my voice to stand up for the HIV social safety net or lack thereof. I mean, using my voice to talk about all of those things, whether it's on my platform, in my private life — that is self-care. But also, so is yoga, and so can be watching The Undoing last night, because I was up until 11. I couldn't turn it off. And also, so is playing with my cats. So really, so much can be self-care. It's a matter of shifting your perspective, but I think my biggest revelation this year... Well, that's not my biggest, but one of my biggest revelations is that it's not numbing out. It's actually tuning in.

Anj: I think that's so true, the idea of tuning in. It's better for everybody, around you, for yourself, just in everything you do. So on that note, let's talk about your fur family and partnership with Purina. Tell me more about your pets and what you've got planned for the holidays.

JVN: Yes. So I've got five babies. I've got four cats and a dog. I've got Larry who is seven, then I've got Liza who's two and a half, and then Matilda and Lady G are just over a year. And then I've got my dog Pablo, who we think is about two years old, but we just adopted him in June. He's a Texan and he's a feisty little pepper and we love him so much. And yeah, really what we're planning on doing is staying away from people and hanging with each other.

As part of my partnership with Purina, I've been learning how to focus more on quality time with my pets. With integrating the dog with the cats, we really had to make a conscientious play time with the cats every day where the dog's not a part of it, and we wear them out. It takes about 30 minutes to an hour, but if we won't do that, they get aggressively mad at each other, not really getting along with the dog very well because it was such a shift for them.

Now they're less stressed, they're visibly more relaxed in the house with each other, and that's really been from I think... I think so many times we think like, "Oh, cats are low maintenance, just scoop the poop and they're fine," but the more I've been able to really get them on a consistent schedule with playing different games, different enrichment activities, whether that's keeping a delivery box, making some of the games that we played, they are just better adjusted. They don't wake me up at four in the morning anymore, meowing ;)

Anj: Pandemic pets are definitely a thing, and a lot of us turn to our animals to help us feel less anxiety, but obviously, they feel anxiety and stress too. Any stress relief tips for pets and humans alike?

JVN: I think really for both of us, it's kind of the same. It's about taking the expectations off. When we think about expectations, they are really the cause of a lot of suffering, and we've got to have healthy boundaries for ourselves and for our pets and people around us. I'm not saying have no expectations, but I think when we're trying to compare this year to previous times, when the holidays can already be stressful and things could already be a lot, we're in uncharted territory now, and I think just taking the expectations off of how something has to be… It's about being patient and compassionate with ourselves and with our puppies, our kittens, our family members, trying to find some compassion for each other. It can be really helpful and healing.

Anj: On that note, how do you strike the balance between your own mental health and the cultural pressure to always be ahead? How do you reset?

JVN: Sometimes, I think I just deal with it easier at times than others. I mean honestly, I think lately I've been feeling really challenged by it, and it's been more challenging lately, but I think that that's part of life and we're going to have moments of growth and moments of discomfort, and it is what it is, and really, I can't change other people's reactions. I can change how I react in situations, so I really am just trying to take that pressure down and take the compassion up. And that's easier said than done, because it's so easy to spiral in negativity, but when I catch myself, I'm just trying to gently, like, "Can you stop? Can you come back over, above that non self destructive line please?" With really self destructive behaviors, ones that are going to really hurt me, I've been able to do that.

Anj: Okay, now totally switching gears to your beauty expertise and how you take care of that gorgeous face yours! What is your skincare routine like at the moment?

JVN: Basically I am a cleanser person. Then after cleanser, eye cream, then a serum. I rub all that in, then I do my moisturizer everywhere, let that soak in, then I cover that with my oil, let that soak in, then I do my sunscreen on top of that. If I'm doing makeup for media, then I'll put that on after all of that. I really only use Biossance for skincare when it comes to those daily things, then I'll bring the moisturizer a little bit on my lips, and then I seal it in with BITE Beauty. Then when it comes to makeup, I like Cover FX and Algenist. I use Algenist Primer, Cover FX concealer. Sometimes I'll use a little bit of Cover FX bronzer on my hairline. Right now, less makeup than I was doing for sure, and probably more masks. More baths, more masks and that's very much kind of what my daily is.

Anj: Now moving to trends; What are a couple recent style and beauty trends that you love?

JVN: I think people are just having fun right now. The really DIY at-home short haircuts, like I'm into Antony's hair growing back out after his buzz, all the boys that quarantine buzz their hair off and now it's kind of mediumly coming back is fun. Maggie Rogers just cut her hair off and it looks amazing, so yeah, I just think bold, fun, new looks are always fun for quarantine, because f*ck it.

Anj: Last question. If you could give your younger self a pep-talk, or get them out of a rut, what would it sound like?

JVN: Love yourself. Don't do hardcore drugs, but then I wouldn't have turned out how I am, so maybe don't butterfly effect yourself. I don't know. You know what I really think it is, and what I would really say to myself? Not everyone is going to like you, not everyone's going to agree with you, but if you know where your heart is and you know what you're putting out, then you really can only do your best, and it's okay to do your best. That's what I would say.

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Beauty appointments are at the top of my self-care list, but you there's one question that's always sat in the back of my mind. Do I have bad habits that are annoying to my hairdresser or am I a "good" client? This could stem from being listening to retail horror storiesand fighting the urge to gasp in horror at customers' behavior.

No matter what it is, it's apparent hairdressers aren't a fan of everything you and I may do before, during, and after our appointments. Out of curiosity, I asked the following hairstylists about their biggest pet peeves:

Learn which bad habits you should stop doing if you want to stay in your hairdresser's good graces!

1. Coming To Your Appointment After Being At The Gym

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I'm thoroughly surprised that people do this because I know how sweaty I get after a workout. But Jorge's had clients who've done this and it's not a good look, according to her. "Yes your service begins with a wash, but seriously," she asks. I don't think you need a reminder, but you might want to take a shower after your gym or pilates session out of courtesy for your hairdresser!

2. Arriving Late To Your Appointment 

Most hairdressers have have a grace period for clients because they understand things happen, but that's not your cue to take advantage of their kindness. For Durante, "being late is the primary issue." Want to know why? He says it's because this "backs up all the appointments and creates a domino effect of issues that can often be hard to catch up on."

3. Acting Like An Armchair Stylist 

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Hair appointments should be collaborative, yes, but not to the point where your hairdresser feels like you're trying to do their job for them. Jorge says, "The most nerve-wrecking thing a client can do while they are in the chair is constantly second guess what the stylist is doing or changing their minds about their service. Clients need to trust their stylist and not back seat drive every snip."

If you're guilty of doing this, try to be mindful of how this makes your hairdresser feels. They're providing a service, but they're still human.

Jorge also says, "Sometimes, I just want to give the client the scissors and let them cut their own hair. J/K.."

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It's something Durante doesn't care for either. "We always encourage our clients to give as many details as possible with how they want their hair to be cut, colored, and/or styles, but directing the service and telling the hairstylist exactly how to do their hair in step-by-step format is unnecessary when seeing a professional," he states.

Should you be afraid to talk to your hairdresser? Not at all, but it's unhelpful if you think you're more equipped to do your hair while sitting in their chair. "We appreciate a client's direction as it is their look, but critiquing and instructing us on how to reach the end goal is beyond frustrating. Quite frankly, we have spent years handling requests and know exactly how to achieve your desired look based on the tools we've gathered throughout the years," Durante adds.

5. Waiting To Share Your Dissatisfaction

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Another annoying behavior stems from something we've all done at least once. Durante says, "When completing a cut or color based on an inspiration photo, the client says they "wanted to go a different direction" - but only tells us once the service is completed."

At this stage in life, I realize the importance of communicating with my hairdresser throughout my appointment. People can't read minds so it's something to think about if you typically wait until your service is over to complain.

6. Covering Your Hair Once It's Been Styled

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According to Jorge, it's annoying when "after receiving a hair cut and styling, the client wears a hat or covers their hair." I'm always excited after a hair appointment because it's a chance to enjoy and show off my new refreshed look, but I guess some people feel the need to "hide" their style.

Her other pet peeves? "Washing their hair with a cheap, sulfate shampoo that ruins their color. Going for a swim after a keratin treatment only to dry their hair afterwards and realize a giant frizz bomb where perfectly straight hair once was."

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Megan Fox and Machine Gun Kelly (MGK) have always been a dramatic duo, but they're taking the drama to new heights right now: they're breaking up, according to TMZ. The Kourtney Kardashian and Travis Barker BFFs announced they were expecting their first child together, making this all way more complicated than a simple split. And Megan Fox just gave birth to their sweet new baby.

Here's everything to know about Machine Gun Kelly and Megan Fox's baby— & their breakup.

Did Megan Fox have her baby?

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Megan Fox and Machine Gun Kelly may not be together, but they have a lot to celebrate now that their daughter made her grand debut! Machine Gun Kelly eagerly announced her arrival on Instagramby sharing a small black and white video of him holding her toes.

No matter where he and Megan stand, the rapper made it clear he's excited their daughter was born safe and sound. The sweetest part of his caption is him calling the newborn a "little celestial seed."

He also explained that Travis Barker helped welcome their daughter through music, adding, "We composed the score of the birth. What an epic journey. Praise God."

We also love positive the comments on the announcement post are! Even MTV couldn't resist commenting by writing, "congratulations ♥️."

And get this, Megan's birth was aided by music. "We composed the score of the birth. What an epic journey. Praise God," Kelly told E! News. If you're wondering whose music they were listening to, it's none other than Travis Barker!

Did Machine Gun Kelly and Megan Fox break up?

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TMZ reported Megan Fox and Machine Gun Kelly broke up on Tuesday, December 10, 2024. The pair allegedly split on Thanksgiving weekend in Vail, Colorado given "upsetting material" Megan found on MGK's phone. Apparently they haven't been together since the breakup, with MGK going as far as to leave their trip early.

Megan announced she was pregnant on Instagram a month before they allegedly broke up, on November 11, 2024. According to PEOPLE, MGK was "basically telling everyone he knows" about the baby, and that the pair is "doing well" in general. Now, it seems like the tables have really turned in the latter regard.

However, an exclusive source told PEOPLE, "Their relationship has always been bumpy. They love each other but don't have compatible personalities." The source explained that Megan and MGK are "both hot-heads, dramatic and stubborn," noting that they've "worked things out" when they broke up in the past. "When they're good together, they're great," they said. "They will very likely get back together."

PEOPLE reported that Megan and MGK announced their engagement on Instagram on January 12, 2022. However, the Jennifer's Body star only features her pregnancy announcement on Instagram now — and while MGK doesn't have a post on his grid either, you can still see his video of her engagement ring here!

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Breakoutsalways seem to pop up at the worst possible times, but the right pimple patch can make them disappear just as quickly! Whether you need something to wear during the day or are looking for an effective overnight pimple patch, there’s an option for every skincare need out there. These top-rated pimple patches work their magic to absorb gunk, calm redness, and speed up healing – so you can get back to clear, glowing skin!

Scroll on to discover the 6 very best pimple patches shoppers love for clearing up pesky breakouts quickly.

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Hero Cosmetics Mighty Patches

These gentle pimple patches are wildly effective at calming down breakouts – especially whiteheads. They stick to clean skin really well, enough to last you all day or night without budging! A pack of 36 patches is just $13, plus you can easily cut each one into halves or quarters so they last longer.

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Promising review: "These have been a total game-changer for me! They've helped clear up my blemishes so much, I’m obsessed! I put them on overnight and wake up to almost completely clear skin—my zits are barely noticeable. They blend in perfectly and are just the right size. These are total miracle workers, and I’ll definitely be using them from now on!"

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COSRX Master Patches

This $7 pack of pimple patches from COSRX comes with three different sizes (10 small, 5 medium, and 9 large) to suit every kind of zit. The hydrocolloid included in each patch helps create a moist environment on your skin, which makes the pimple healing process even faster.

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Promising review: "I buy these so often because theyre so good and a really great value. They're not the thinnest or the most transparent, but theyre good enough and absolutely get the job done. I love that they come in various sizes, and sometimes i cut the big ones in half to get more use. I have sensitive skin and these patches don't irritate me at all."

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PanOxyl PM Overnight Spot Patches

Heralded for their effective, yet affordable acne solutions, PanOxyl's pimple patches live up to the hype. Patch a breakout up with these babies, and you nix the risk of added dirt and grime getting into your skin, limit potential picking, and keep the area clean for faster healing. Just $8 gets you 40 patches!

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Promising review: "The PanOxyl PM Overnight Spot Patches work so well—I just wish teenage me had them instead of relying on questionable DIY remedies. These actually reduce blemishes overnight and are now an essential in my skincare stash. If only they could also erase my awkward high school photos… 😂"

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Rael Miracle Pimple Patches

These pimple patches from Rael are epic because they're nearly invisible, with a clear, matte finish. They're designed with tapered edges that really grip the skin and blend in seamlessly. One pack of 96 patches is $15 (was $18) right now!

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Promising review: "They work well! They soften my skin so well, making it look like there’s no pimple there, which i wanted. I love how you can’t even see it on my skin. Also, the sizes, despite only being two, work well enough for me not to care. I tend to use the big ones at night for when I want it to treat my pimple, and use the small ones in the day to hide them as they are less obvious."

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Good Molecules Pimple Patches

These super-thin pimple patches gently remove any impurities that may be sitting on your skin, and they're so seamless that you can layer 'em under makeup! They're suitable for sensitive skin, so they're also easily wearable for everyday use.

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Promising review: "These work really good. Doesn’t take long to bring up the pimple and it turn white. Will definitely purchase more."

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Grace & Stella Pimple Patches

If you're in on the idea of a pimple patch being an accessory, then these are the ones for you! Coming in adorable little colored shapes like hearts, flowers, and clouds, these patches target spots not only with hydrocolloid, but tea tree oil and salicylic acid which help treat and calm breakouts.

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Promising review: "These worked way better than I anticipated. Very satisfying to peel one of these suckers off and see that everything that came out. Worked on all my blemishes, easy to apply, and actually stayed on my face all night or day."

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True crime fans have been all over Ryan Murphy and FX's American Crime Story, an anthology series chronicling everything from O.J. Simpson's trial to the Monica Lewinsky & Bill Clinton sex scandal. And it won't be long before we're able to tune into American Love Story, an anthology series that follows different public romances that gripped the world. Up first: John F. Kennedy Jr. and Carolyn Bessette. And we just got our first casting announcement. Sarah Pidgeon will play Carolyn!

Here's everything we know about Ryan Murphy's American Love Story, starring Sarah Pidgeon and coming to FX soon.

What is American Love Story?

American Love Story is FX's next anthology series based on true love stories the world can't get enough of (hopefully we'll see a Princess Diana season soon!). The first season will follow John F. Kennedy Jr. and Carolyn Bessette, who worked as Calvin Klein's director of publicity and began dating JFK Jr. in 1994. They got married on September 21, 1996.

After some super intense and extensive media & paparazzi attention, their relationship began to feel some tension that ultimately ended in tragedy when John's private plane crashed into the ocean off Martha's Vineyard in 1999. Both John F. Kennedy Jr. and Carolyn Bessette died in the crash, along with Carolyn's sister Lauren.

Who's in the American Love Story cast?

Sarah Pidgeon just joined the American Love Story cast as Carolyn Bessette. And this is literally the perfect casting — I know Sarah has the acting chops to pull off the role, but she also looks just like Carolyn!

Stay tuned for the full cast list, including who will play John F. Kennedy Jr.

Where can I watch American Love Story?

American Love Story is coming to FX soon. Check back here for the official release date!

Is Carolyn Bessette Kennedy alive?

No, sadly Carolyn Bessette Kennedy passed away in a plane crash on July 16, 1999 off the coast of Massachusetts. At John F. Kennedy Jr.'s memorial his uncle Ted Kennedy said, "We dared to think, in that other Irish phrase, that this John Kennedy would live to comb gray hair, with his beloved Carolyn by his side. But like his father, he had every gift but length of years."

"For a thousand days, he was a husband who adored the wife who became his perfect soul mate," Ted continued. "John's father taught us all to reach for the moon and the stars. John did that in all he did -- and he found his shining star when he married Carolyn Bessette."

We'll also be able to see Sarah Pidgeon in the I Know What You Did Last Summer reboot, coming this summer.

Every movie and TV lover needs to tune into Apple TV's The Studio STAT. The show premiered on March 26, so you have plenty of time to catch up on the first two episodes — and see all the insane cameos, because this cast list is actually insane.

Seth Rogen's back with his impeccable comedic timing, as well as a bunch of really famous (and super fun) co-stars. From Catherine O'Hara to Zoë Kravitz, this is sure to be one of the most-anticipated shows to watch this spring! I think this will definitely hold us over while we wait for Platonic season 2.

The series stars Seth as Continental Studios' new leader, and finds himself at odds with executives, creators, and even himself as he just tries to make good movies. That sounds pretty timely if you ask me.

Here's everything you need to know about Seth Rogen's The Studio, streaming on Apple TV.

What's The Studio about?

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The Studio follows Matt Remick (Seth Rogen), the head of Continental Studios. The company is desperate to stay relevant while the movie industry is in turmoil, and Matt works with his team to make that happen. But it's Hollywood, so there's clearly no shortage of interesting characters for Matt to juggle, from directors to actors to everyone in between. Can this ultimate movie-lover, Matt, make magic happen for the studio? Or will all the chaos he encounters wind up being the end of his career?

Whatever the answer is, we CAN'T wait to finish this show. Check out The Studio trailer here.

Who's in The Studio cast?

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Maybe the question should be who isn't in The Studio cast because this list is STAR-STUDDED. With Seth Rogen starring as the main character, Matt Remick, he's joined by an incredible cast of costars and guest stars. So far, the list includes:
  • Seth Rogen as Matt Remick: Continental Studios' new head who's trying to balance creativity and business.
  • Catherine O’Hara as Patty Leigh: the studios' former leader.
  • Kathryn Hahn as Maya: Continental Studios' marketing head.
  • Ike Barinholtz as Sal Seperstein: Matt's friend and an executive at the studio.
  • Chase Sui Wonders as Quinn Hackett: Matt's assistant.
  • Bryan Cranston as Griffin Mill: Continental Studios CEO.
  • David Krumholtz as Mitch Weitz: a Hollywood agent.
  • Keyla Monterroso Mejia as Petra: a secretary at the studio.
  • Rebecca Hall as Linda Rosenkratz: the author of Peter Hujar’s Day.
  • Dewayne Perkins as Tyler: a member of Maya's marketing team.
  • Peter Berg as himself.
  • Paul Dano as himself.
  • Martin Scorsese as himself.
  • Nicholas Stoller as himself.
  • Charlize Theron as herself.
  • Greta Lee as herself.
  • Sarah Polley as herself.
  • Zac Efron as himself.
  • Zack Snyder as himself.
  • Ron Howard as himself.
  • Zoë Kravitz as herself.
  • Ramy Youssef as himself.
  • Anthony Mackie as himself.
  • Steve Buscemi as himself.
  • Olivia Wilde as herself.
  • Adam Scott as himself.
  • Johnny Knoxville as himself.
  • Josh Hutcherson as himself.
  • Matthew Belloni as himself.
  • Ted Sarandos as himself.

Where can I watch The Studio?

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New episodes of The Studio drop on Apple TV+ every Wednesday.

How many episodes are there of The Studio?

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The Studio season 1 will have 10 episodes total:

  • Season 1, Episode 1 "The Promotion" premiered March 26, 2025.
  • Season 1, Episode 2 "The Oner" premiered March 26, 2025.
  • Season 1, Episode 3 "The Note" premieres on April 2, 2025.
  • Season 1, Episode 4 "The Missing Reel" premieres on April 9, 2025.
  • Season 1, Episode 5 "The War" premieres on April 16, 2025.
  • Season 1, Episode 6 "The Pediatric Oncologist" premieres on April 23, 2025.
  • Season 1, Episode 7 "Casting" premieres on April 30, 2025.
  • Season 1, Episode 8 "The Golden Globes" premieres on May 7, 2025.
  • Season 1, Episode 9 "CinemaCon" premieres on May 14, 2025.
  • Season 1, Episode 10 "The Presentation" premieres on May 21, 2025.

Was The Studio episode 2 one shot?

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Yes, episode 2, "The Oner," dives into what it looks like to film a scene in one take as Matt and Sal try to help a filmmaker get the perfect shot before the lighting disappears. And it's the perfect example of a oner because the episode is actually shot in one take too!

Where was The Studio filmed?

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The Studio was reportedly filmed in different studios and locations across California, including Sunset Gower Studios, The Lot Studios, and Warner Brothers Studios.

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