Lauren Baer Is the LGBTQ+ Mom Running for Congress for Her Daughter

Kylie Cheung
Oct 09, 2018

Women Who Run highlights female political candidates on both sides of the aisle who are poised to change the face of local, state, and federal government for the better.

Hot off the heels of a competitive primary win, Lauren Baer, an attorney and former State Department official under the Obama administration, is running to represent Florida’s 18th district this November. And according to Baer, she has “teamwork” and the support of her “rockstar” wife to thank for getting this far.

In a year when more women than ever are running for office and for Congress, specifically, Baer’s campaign is shattering barriers. Not only is she the mother of a not-quite-two-year-old daughter, but if elected, Baer would also be the first LGBTQ+ Congressperson from Florida, and the first member of Congress in a same-sex marriage with a child.

“Don’t get me wrong, it doesn’t pass me by that there is something precedent-setting about being an openly gay woman who’s married and has a child, running for office,” Baer says. But she doesn’t necessarily think of her campaign in terms of being the first this or that. Baer says she remains focused on all the issues that matter to her district, while her identity as an LGBTQ+ woman sharpens her determination to be an advocate for all Americans who feel marginalized.

Baer says it was her daughter, who was just two weeks old when Donald Trump won the 2016 presidential election, who inspired her to run for office, and take the plunge from her background in policy into the world of politics.

“My wife and I thought she was being born into one world, and then the morning of Nov. 9th, we found out she was being born into a world that was very different,” Baer says. “That got me thinking incredibly deeply about how to create impact in the age of Donald Trump, and my responsibility to create the kind of world that I want my daughter to live in.”

B+C What inspired you to run for office?

Baer: I never imagined that I would run for office. I’m a lawyer, I spent six years as an official in the State Department during the Obama administration, and I always thought of myself as someone of the world of policy, but not politics.

My daughter, Serena, was born two weeks before Trump won the 2016 presidential election. I wondered what I would do at a time when I thought our values and institutions were really under threat, and I decided that I was going to get in the arena and fight this year.

B+C: What does a day on the campaign trail look like for you?

Baer: Well, no day is the same! Every day is an adventure when you are campaigning and simultaneously a mom to a not-quite-two-year-old and at the same time, trying to take care of [my] own mother who is very sick. For me, a typical day might start getting up at 6 am, when my wife and I make absolutely every effort to be dressed and ready before our daughter wakes up, because if we aren’t ready by then there’s no hope for us pulling ourselves together before she wakes up.

We try to have breakfast as a family, and by a little bit after 8 we’ll be out the door taking my daughter where she’s cared for. And these days, I try to visit my mother in the hospital before I go into my campaign office. I might start the morning with some meetings with my team, meetings with community leaders, or might have a lunch event, and in the afternoon, we might go out canvassing. Usually, if I can, I try to squeeze in some time between 5 and 7 at night to have dinner with my family, help give my daughter a bath, put her to bed. Then it’s usually out on the campaign trail again after she’s asleep at 7. So, maybe that’s a Democratic club meeting or event at a community center. And these days I’ve been closing out my evenings at 9:30, 11 at night to circle back to the hospital, see if my dad needs anything, give my mom a kiss good night, and make my way home, try to clear my inbox, try to get my head on the pillow before midnight — and then we start the day all over again.

B+C: Have you faced any criticism or challenges on the campaign trail as the mother of a young child?

Baer: I recognize fully that it’s unusual to be running for office as a mother, particularly as the mother of a very young child. My daughter is almost two years old now, but she was less than a year old when I started running for office. I’ll be totally honest with you: I found that people didn’t so much question my ability to run for office while having a child, but they did make certain assumptions about the support structure I had around me. Namely, people assumed that because I was running for office and had a very young child, that my wife must be a stay-at-home parent, which she is not.

My wife is a rockstar in her own right, a powerful attorney, and she’s the one who’s our primary breadwinner right now. I think that speaks a lot to assumptions we make overall about the type of support that candidates have around them, and the barrier women have running for office — it’s an incredibly challenging thing to do when you also have a spouse who is working full-time, when you also have other familial obligations outside of your campaign, and that’s part of the reason that I’ve been so committed not only to running a good campaign, but also to talking openly about the barriers faced by all women — mothers included — running for office, so we can start to see more diverse and representative candidates and government officials going forward.

I have been very cognizant about not only running a good strong campaign, but also being very open about the kinds of barriers that have traditionally kept all sorts of women from running for office.

B+C: What did it take to win your primary?

Baer: It took a heck of a lot of teamwork. And a really big team. I think there is this mythical idea in our country of what it takes to run for office and win, in the sense that it is all about being a charismatic individual with great policy ideas, and a lot of appeal on the stump. Certainly charisma and strong policy ideas help, but a lot of winning an election is just the hard work of building a really great network of supporters from the grassroots to the grass-tops, and engaging your community.

And so, my team, for almost a year before the primary, was out there working to bring volunteers to our campaign, get the support of local political leaders, state-wide officials, big federal advocacy groups, and get us all on the same page with respect to the importance of winning this district, and then doing the hard and un-glamorous work of knocking tens of thousands of doors, tens of thousands of phone calls, raising the money to get your message out.

All of that is done not immediately, not over night, not from having a sexy social media profile or a lot of followers on Twitter. It’s done from being in the community and getting people who understand what you’re fighting for and want to fight with you.

B+C: What are some of the issues you would focus on if elected?

Baer: Well, there are a couple of issues which are incredibly important for our community. Foremost among them is the issue of health care and ensuring we are working toward universal health care for everyone, and we’re working to bring costs of care down and quality of care up.

The next thing I would say is the environment, which is critically important in my district. We have a crisis right now where there is toxic algae covering 90 percent of Lake Okeechobee, and that’s flowing out through the Saint Lucie River, which is the lifeblood of our community here. And we’ve got a representative who, during his time in Congress, has taken votes that have lifted environmental protections instead of helping our community.

And then, beyond that I would say we have to look at social security, Medicare, and the implications of the Republican tax bill, which increased our deficit by $1.5 trillion, and is now putting those programs, which hard-working Americans paid into for the entirety of their lives, on the line.

B+C: Ever since Parkland, gun violence has been a contentious issue in Florida. How would you handle this issue if elected?

Baer: This has been a huge issue in Florida, even before Parkland, and Parkland brought gun violence home. It made it clear that it could have been our kids, our schools, and I have been absolutely awed by the strength and resilience and the activism of the young people in our community, dozens of whom have been motivated by what happened at Stoneman Douglas high school, to join our campaign, volunteer, because they understand that if they want to see change in our country, they can’t just march and have to vote.

I’ve been an incredibly strong advocate for common-sense gun safety regulations, the kind of policies that the majority of Americans agree on: things like universal background checks, getting guns out of the hands of domestic abusers and making sure we have weapons of war off our streets, so our kids can be safe in their schools and our communities, our places of worship. And we have, in our sitting Congress member, someone who has made quite a few promises about taking action on gun reform, with absolutely no follow-through, while at the same time receiving tens of thousands of donations from the NRA. And the folks in our community, young and old alike, are sick and tired of the inaction from Congress as a whole, and our representative in particular, and they’re saying enough is enough.

B+C: You have years of experience working in foreign policy for the Obama administration. Do you plan to draw on this experience if elected and if so, how?

Baer: Right now, I think we are seeing in our country the effects of a reckless and dangerous administration, a president who is conducting foreign policy on Twitter without the guidance, insight or wisdom of experts, who know what they’re doing. And in the process, he is systematically undermining the alliances and international institutions that have kept our country safe since World War II. At the end of the day, the most important thing is the safety and security and prosperity of the American people, and that means we need smart, sensible foreign policy in these dangerous and tricky times. So I think now, more than ever, it’s important we’re electing people like myself with real foreign policy experience, people who have seen and understand the inner workings of government and diplomacy, and will know how to do the tough bipartisan work of ensuring we maintain American leadership around the world, and keep our country safe.

B+C: You’re running to be the first LGBTQ+ person Florida sends to Congress, as well as the first mother in a same-sex marriage. This is obviously really exciting — has this affected your mindset on the campaign trail?

Baer: When I wake up, I don’t think about setting precedents. I think about the issues, doing the hard work that needs to be done in order to make Washington work for the people of my district. By and large when I got on the campaign trail, people don’t want to talk to me about my sexuality, but about health care, the environment, our economy and why it isn’t working for working people.

But don’t get me wrong, I am concerned every day about making sure that I’m a strong advocate — not only for the LGBT community, but for all Americans who have ever felt left out, or left behind, or marginalized. We have seen in the past 1.5 years, so many groups whose rights have been put at risk, so many ways in which this administration has undermined the American promise of liberty and justice and equality for all. And for me, being an LGBT candidate means being out there and being a fighter for each and every American.

B+C: This year, women like you are running for office in unprecedented numbers. What advice do you have for young women who see what’s going on and want to get involved in politics?

Baer: My advice for younger women would be, don’t wait for an invitation. If you feel the instinct, the motivation, the desire to get involved in politics, help your community, engage in our public discourse, just do it. For far too long, women have been marginalized in so many spheres, but particularly the sphere of government, because they haven’t been asked to take a seat at the table. And I think what we’re seeing this year is women finally saying, “We don’t need to wait for that invitation. It is our time. We have the skills, we have the ability, we have the insight, we have the empathy, and we are willing to do the hard work that needs to be done for our country to get our government working again, and get our country on the right track.”

So to any young girl, any young woman, who is out there and motivated to go make change, my advice would be just go do it.

B+C: How can people across the country support your campaign?

Baer: We personally love people to support our campaign by learning more, visiting our website. For regular updates, you can follow us on social media, we’re on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram.

We love for folks to volunteer, and you can do that even remotely from the comfort of your homes around the country for our campaign through phone banking. And I’d also like to emphasize our campaign is powered by small dollar contributions. I made the decision not to accept any money from corporate PACs because I don’t believe corporate money has a role to play in politics. And that means we rely on the financial backing and support of people in our district in Florida, and around the country who recognize the importance of this race, who believe in what we’re fighting for, and are willing to support us.

Are *you* registered to vote? Get registered now!

(Photo via Lauren Baer. Design by San Trieu/Brit+Co)

14 Shots You’ll Actually Want To Take This New Year’s Eve

If there’s any holiday where you’re encouraged to take shots, it’s New Year’s Eve. But, that doesn’t mean you should limit your NYE party beverages to champagne. These sparkly, glittery and all-around enticing shots are sure to please and won’t induce any bad-idea hangovers from too manytequila drinks. You can let your resolution ideas start when the calendar reads 2025. Meanwhile, cheers to enjoying these shots you’ll actually want to make (and take) this New Year’s Eve.

The 14 Best New Year's Eve Shots To Throw Back For 2025!

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Apple Cider Shooter

That caramel vodka you bought on a whim once can finally be put to good use with this spiked apple cider shooter. Whip it up as a shot or a large punch that will last all night long. (via Brit + Co)

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Root Beer Float Shooter

This soda shop classic gets an adult upgrade with ROOT, a traditional alcoholic Native American tea. And tea is healthy, right? ;) (via Brit + Co)

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Rainbow Shots

Meet your new party trick! All five of these shots come out of one shaker. Prepare to amaze your guests with your bartending skills this NYE. (via Brit + Co)

Sprinkle Bakes

Champagne Chantilly Shooters

Be sure to add these cake-inspired shooters to your after-holiday to-do list to start 2016 with a little bit of deliciousness. (via Sprinkle Bakes)

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Champagne Jell-O Shots

Turn your champagne into a shot! If you’re hosting a large party, these are a way more affordable option than a case of champagne. (via Feast + West)

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Blackberry Gin Shooters

This shooter is *almost* too pretty to drink. Plus, we can all pretend that the blackberries are doing you some good. (via Dine and Dish)

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Butternut Rum Lifesaver

A shot that tastes like candy is a sweet way to start your year off right. (via A Year of Cocktails)

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Tipsy Spritzer Shots

Not every shot needs to be super strong. If you’re looking for something you can enjoy throughout the night, this sweet, bubbly and tart “spritzer” shot is low in alcohol content and big on flavor. (via Holly’s Cheat Day)

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Sparkling Jello Jigglers

Swap out champagne for the grape juice in this recipe to make a fancy, adult version of a JELL-O jiggler. Sprinkles and edible gold stars required. (via Bubbly Nation Creations)

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Champagne Jello Shots

Awww, Jello Shots are all grown up in this festive recipe. They have a nice flavor that won’t leave you wincing afterwards. (via Broma Bakery)

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White Chocolate Champagne Cheesecake Shooters

This shot is delicious enough to be dessert. Top yours with edible glitter sprinkles to get even more festive. (via The First Year)

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Cranberry Kamikaze Shots

NYE calls for a fancier drink than a go-to beer or wine. Ring in the new year with cranberry kamikaze shots that look pretty and taste delicious (via Cookin' Canuck)

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Banana Split Shooters

This shot requires five ingredients that'll send your taste buds soaring. I mean, what could be better than taking a shot of something that tastes like dessert? (via Tablespoon)

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Sparkling Cider Jello Shots (Non-Alcoholic)

If you want to be extra careful not to induce a hangover when you wake up in 2024, your best bet are these sparkling cider jello shots. They're made with unflavored gelatin, distilled water, cider and your choice of berries, cherries, or gummies! (via Something Swanky)

Looking for more NYE recipe or drink ideas? Check out Brit + Co on Pinterest and check out our New Year's Eve dinner ideas for more inspiration.This post has been updated.

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10 Booze-Free Ways To Ring In The New Year

When it comes to New Year's Eve celebrations, the first thought that probably springs to mind is boozing it up with an NYE cocktail. And while there's nothing wrong with sipping some bubbly (if that's your inclination), those of us who prefer to keep thingsnon-alc may feel like there are no New Year's-appropriate activities for our preferences. We say that nothing could be further from the truth! Whether you're pregnant, abstaining, or just taking a break from the booze, here are 10 fun ideas for ringing in 2025, the sober way.

Attend A Silent Disco

A few years ago, just as the sober-curious movement was gaining steam, companies like Daybreaker brought 6 a.m. sober dance parties to the masses. In a similar vein are remote silent discos – events where you put your headphones on and dance it out to the music of world-class DJs right in the comfort of your own home (or in person, if you feel like venturing out).

A quick Google search will reveal that there are tons of options to shake it off on New Year's Eve, whether remotely or in-person in your city. Because silent discos have an alternative vibe, they're much more sober-friendly than traditional clubs and dance parties.

Make A Tea Bar

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If you've ever been to a party where they had aProsecco bar or something similar, you know how fun themed bars can be. Why not make a NA equivalent with a tea bar? We're not just talking about hot water and tea bags... include exciting staples like bubble tea, kombucha, Southern-style sweet iced tea, and more!

Do A Goal-Setting Ritual

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Not in the mood to party this year? Celebrate the New Year with some introspection by doing a goal-setting ritual. You can design the ritual in whatever manner you like, but we recommend something along the lines of:

  • Light a candle and sit quietly for a few minutes.
  • Whip out your journal and take inventory of the last year: What were your best memories? What are you grateful for? Where do you think you could've improved?
  • In your journal (we have some killer prompts to start you off), mindfully list out your goals for 2025. They don't have to be New Year's resolutions, exactly, but include small steps you can take in the new year to help you achieve your goals!

Make A 2025 Scrapbook

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Before New Year's Eve, head to your local craft store and pick up some supplies for making an old-fashioned scrapbook. Print out some photos from your most treasured memories of the year (we like printing with Walgreens), and gather any magazines you purchased or journal entries you wrote.

You can also look up some news headlines that made an impact on you, and print out the article as well as photos of any notable celebs or politicians who made the news. On New Year's eve, put together a scrapbook of what made 2024, 2024.

Good, bad, or otherwise, the year was one to remember — so create a momento that will help you re-live the past year in the years to come.

Plan A Costume Party

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Believe it or not, masquerade balls, dressing up in costumes, and concealing one's identity have a long history in the historical celebrations of Christmastime. So we think a New Year's costume party is a fully appropriate idea for a sober New Year's Eve.

Who needs booze to have fun when you can dress up as whoever you want for a night of merriment and mystery?

Karaoke It Up

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Another fun party pastime that's fun with or without booze? Singing! Grab some friends for a sober karaoke night either at your house or a private karaoke room. The singing's bound to be better than it would be if you were imbibing... who knows, maybe you'll steal the show with your rendition of "I'm Just Ken."

Cook A Fancy Meal

Whether you're spending the evening with your S/O or your BFF, cook a fancydinner for two. New Year's Eve is the perfect time to get fancy with food, so use this opportunity to ring in 2025 with only the finest cuisine. Don't forget to make a mocktail to go with!

Host A Game Night

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Bring all your besties over and host a board game night that's sure to be one for the books. Have everyone bring their favorite game – from Cards Against Humanity to Codenames – for a riotous evening that will remind you that you absolutely don't need booze to have a rowdy night of laughter!

Play 2024 Trivia

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Before New Year's Eve, compile a long list of trivia questions about 2024. Alternatively, have a friend do it for you, or do a quick Google search... there are a lot of trivia quizzes out there. On the big night, gather your squad together to see how much you remember about 2024. The results may surprise you!

Host A Murder-Mystery Dinner

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Murder-mystery dinners are still one of the best ways to facilitate a heart-racing and mind-boggling party. Pick up one of the many murder mystery dinner kits out there and have your besties over for a night of thinking on your toes — to be fair, it's probably best to skip the booze for this idea anyway, for the sake of your mental acuity.

Are you planning a sober New Year's Eve party this year? Tweet us @BritandCo to share your plans, and don't forget to subscribe to our newsletter for more booze-free hacks and party ideas!

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Your January 2025 Horoscope Brings Your Luckiest Month Yet

Happy (almost) New Year to you, and may 2025 cultivate your hopes and dreams! We begin January 2025 with punchy-yet-inspiring cosmic events that can help you start your year on the right foot. All thanks to Capricorn Season, we will unearth determination and ambition but take things slow as the motivation planet, Mars, continues its retrograde motion. Burnout will ensue, and this isn’t an ideal period to force your ideas or goals. Take this as an opportunity to practice patience. Slow and steady is a perfect approach. Have trust in the Universe. Let’s explore how the stars will orchestrate our paths this month. Keep reading for extended intel into your sun, moon, and rising signs, and prepare to take on January confidently.

Here's everything you need to know about your January horoscope for 2025!

​What to Expect in Your January Horoscope for 2025

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January starts with the love planet Venus, phasing into the sign of dreamy and ethereal Pisces on January 2. Love will be dreamy—and it can unleash the hopeless romantic in all of us. This can ascend or dissolve your love story as this energy reveals the importance of compassion and mutual understanding in relationships. Selfless acts can only take you so far, and keeping your energy in check would be in your best interest. Any feelings of exhaustion and uncertainty are the sign of observing your relationship. Make room for adjustments as needed. Speaking of relationships, Mars, the other love planet that rules sex, backspins into the sign of Cancer on January 6. Remember that Mars retrograde is still underway, and it's extending lessons that involve patience and steadiness. With Venus and Mars in the water signs, we cannot help but feel aligned with our hearts and souls. Impulsivity and emotional extremities are a no-go. Take a step back and hold space for unresolved feelings. This period is essential for us to find safety and solace in love.

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Luckily, our thoughts and ideas will begin to make sense as Mercury, the messenger planet, enters Capricorn on January 8. Our messages will be clear and concise. So, if you have been feeling a bit misty and unable to form your ideas since last month’s Mercury retrograde, expect the fog to begin to lift. You have the green light to brainstorm ideas or develop plans.

Something magical is about to begin. The North Node (AKA the point of destiny) officially shifts into the sign of watery Pisces on January 11. The last time the north node was in this position was in 2006! Think back to this time in your life and observe your standing that involves healing and self-compassion. For these next 18 months, this will be our chance to begin taking stock of being truthful and understanding of others. It’s time to align with your truth while making peace from the past.

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Mid-month, the Full Moon takes place in the sign of Cancer alongside Mars in a close degree on January 13. This interchange can bring up feelings of impatience and frustration involving stagnant results. Remember that slow and steady wins the race. Full Moons are an incredible outlet for rest and letting go of things beyond your control. This Full Moon will be a wake-up call and a test of your will to be at peace with yourself no matter where you are in your journey.

Expect to feel a breath of fresh air or a burst in your bubble as the Sun enters Aquarius on January 19. Tangible results will shape you as you observe your position in society and friendships. Luckily, Pluto, in alignment with the Sun, will enable you to look at the bigger picture involving your aspirations and how you can optimize your energy for your greater well-being. It's time to either clear out or evolve your connections. The messenger planet, Mercury, then progresses into Aquarius on January 27, building traction with our future goals. Ideas may stir quickly these next few weeks, and you may have difficulty keeping up. Jot your ideas down and look back at your notes later. Your messages will take form once Mars goes direct next month.

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This month concludes with the New Moon in Aquarius, which is in a beautiful alignment with Mercury and Pluto, on January 29. This stellar combination will breathe new life and infinite possibilities involving long-term vision. Witness a strength in your voice and will to step forward in complete confidence. This lunation extends this desired support as you let go of old baggage related to past regret or misunderstanding. Don't you think it's finally time to let go? Begin to manifest your dreams and note what has been holding you back from success in the past. Visualize your future and observe if your current surroundings support this next step in your path.

Key Dates For Your January Horoscope & Capricorn Season In 2025

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  • Jan 2—Venus enters Pisces
  • Jan 6—Mars enters Cancer (retrograde)
  • Jan 8—Mercury enters Capricorn
  • January 11—North Node phases into Pisces
  • Jan 13—Full Moon in Cancer
  • Jan 19—Sun enters Aquarius
  • Jan 27—Mercury enters Aquarius
  • Jan 29—New Moon in Aquarius

​Which Four Zodiac Signs Will Experience Changes This January 2025?

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January 2025 will bring incredible changes for four zodiac signs, each experiencing transformative opportunities. Pisces will feel supportive in love while tapping into healing, especially with Venus entering their sign and the North Node shifting into Pisces. The nodal shift offers 18 months of destined-filled moments in alignment with their personal growth and empowerment. Cancer will navigate deep emotional reflections as Mars retrogrades and the Full Moon illuminates the need to learn patience for their emotional healing. January is a time to restore and rejuvenate Cancers. Aquarius will thrive under the Sun and New Moon in their sign this month, unlocking new possibilities and long-term vision, empowering them to manifest their dreams with renewed confidence. Lastly, Capricorn will see its plans become a sharper focus as Mercury enters their sign, granting clarity and momentum for practical advancements in their goals. These signs are set to experience significant shifts, aligning them with their true path in the year ahead.

​Read Your Sun, Moon, & Rising Signs For Your January Horoscope

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Aries (March 21 – April 20)

Theme: Clear the Air

Aries, you're about to enter a complete awakening in how you identify with family and friends. Reviewing your heart and genuine connections with Venus in the twelfth house this month will be of utmost priority. Love will feel hazy, and to find clarity, you must clear out your subconscious and face the uncertainties head-on. With the other love planet, Mars, retrograding your fourth house of home and family, your inner security begins to shake up, and this may be that time for you to explore uncomfortable discussions with loved ones. Talk to a therapist or a coach to help you find an outlet to clear the air involving past misunderstandings. Your work life will speed up as Mercury enters Capricorn in your tenth house. This period will be crucial for building confidence and certainty in your position with the public or your superiors. Develop your pitch and back it up with thorough research. Present your piece later this month when the New Moon in Aquarius powers up your networking sector. The North Node shifting in your twelfth house brings powerful experiences involving your inner life and dreams. These next 18 months will help you build up to a better version of yourself—your spiritual life will level up. Begin writing or developing a sacred practice involving meditation or art. A masterpiece awaits as you prioritize serenity and a quiet space in your daily life. The Full Moon in Cancer in your fourth house will close a chapter with your inner security and beliefs surrounding your family. Review your place in your domestic life or roots. It may be time to move or begin a home renovation. This lunation will reveal the core of your true happiness and the best approach for your family’s wellbeing. By the end of the month, the Sun, Mercury, and the New Moon in Aquarius in your eleventh house will feel like a breath of fresh air as you feel renewed and optimistic about your long-term aspirations. Attend a networking event or begin a group project—you will experience an a-ha moment. It's an auspicious time to discuss with those rooting for your success.

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Taurus (April 21 – May 21)

Theme: Experience Your Wildest Dreams

Taurus, this month will be filled with infinite opportunities, but it will require you to take a chance. Venus, the planet that rules your sign, will beautify your eleventh house of networking and social connections. If you feel called to go public or begin collaborative ventures, you will start to live your wildest dreams as you share your vision! Mars continuing its backspin in your third house will create a snag with communication—but don’t worry, you're more than equipped to power through this challenge. In matters of engagement or expressing ideas, it has to be heart-centered and meaningful. Go with your gut and let down your guard to get your message across. The messenger planet, Mercury in Capricorn in your ninth house, extends publishing or travel opportunities. These next few weeks are all about taking chances and to dream bigger. Don’t settle. Here is the most exciting part of the month as the North Node in Pisces will reside in your eleventh house for the next 18 months. Friendships and social connections will be the focal point in your journey. It will also be serendipitous as you begin to give back to society. Take part in charitable organizations or begin non-profit work—and you will start to witness your dreams taking form. Mid-month, the Full Moon in Cancer in your third house closes the chapter involving an old skill or idea you once thought was a part of your dream. It's either time to complete this endeavor or make peace with letting go. This lunation can also be an excellent opportunity to have unresolved discussions with siblings or immediate family members—talk it out. For the last half of January, the Sun, Mercury, and the New Moon power up your tenth house of career and public image. This is a period to blossom and begin believing in your long-term goal. Discuss your ideas with superiors or take note of how you wish to live out your future dreams—take charge.

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Gemini (May 22 – June 21)

Theme: Analyze Your Energy

Gemini, this is a month of personal and professional transformation and expansion. Experience a boost in your confidence with Venus in your tenth house of career and public life. You will find luck as you boldly express your worth at work. Present that pitch or launch your passion project. However, with Mars retrograde in your second house of finances, it’s crucial to reassess your financial situation and avoid impulsive spending these next several weeks. Learn how to budget and educate yourself on how you can invest effectively. It's time to build a nest egg. Then, Mercury’s move into your eighth house signals deep introspection around intimacy, shared resources, and personal transformation. It's time to get to the bottom of what holds you back from your desired changes. Investigate and observe your energy around your current situation. You will get answers this month. As the North Node enters Pisces, your career path is illuminated these next 18 months, guiding you toward long-term goals and a more meaningful professional journey. Analyze what makes you feel most elevated. That can put you on the right track. The Full Moon in Cancer brings closure or a shift in your financial situation, helping you let go of outmoded beliefs around money and self-worth. By the end of January, with the Sun, Mercury, and the New Moon entering your ninth house, you’ll be drawn to expand your horizons through travel, higher education, and philosophical pursuits. Mercury’s entry into Aquarius encourages you to communicate your vision for the future. At the same time, the New Moon invites you to set intentions for new beginnings, particularly around your long-term goals. Don't hold back and believe in your vision.

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Cancer (June 22 – July 22)

Theme: Choose Your Path

Cancer, January brings a time of personal growth, relationship reflections, and expansive opportunities. With Venus entering your ninth house, your interconnectedness to life will level up. Broaden your horizons by traveling or exploring new methodologies. Seek new experiences that will open your heart and mind while deepening your sense of purpose. Remember, Mars retrograde in your first house beckons you to pause and reflect on your personal goals and how you present yourself to the world. You may experience delays or rethink your direction in life, which could signal a period of self-discovery and reinvention. Relationships will undergo review as Mercury’s move into your seventh house of relationships highlights communication within your partnerships, especially with close friends, your love partner, or business associates. It’s a good time to clear the air, engage in meaningful conversations, and strengthen connections. The North Node shifting into your ninth house sets the stage for growth and possibilities in the next 18 months. This shift will encourage you to explore new ideas, travel, or pursue higher learning. The Full Moon in your sign brings a decisive moment of personal culmination in your first house, illuminating your identity. Self-reflection and designating a quiet time will help you realize what no longer aligns with your well-being. As the Sun and Mercury enter your eighth house later in the month, your focus pivots to deeper, more transformative areas of life, such as intimacy, shared resources, and emotional healing. The New Moon in Aquarius invites you to set intentions around letting go of old emotional baggage and embracing transformation, particularly in your closest relationships. This lunation will allow you to set a new intention to attract powerful changes--take a chance and visualize your desired outcome.

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Leo (July 23 – August 22)

Theme: Clear Yourself

Leo, this month brings a strong focus on how you prioritize your inner needs and relationships. With Venus entering your eighth house of intimacy, shared resources, and transformation, expect to feel a deepened emotional connection or a shift in your approach to intimacy. Nurture your most significant relationships and explore the hidden aspects of yourself and your partnerships. However, with Mars retrograde in your twelfth house, there’s a strong pull toward inner reflection and revisiting past emotional issues or hidden fears. This period encourages you to confront unresolved emotions and heal old wounds, setting the stage for you to do some soul-searching. Mercury’s move into your sixth house brings attention to your daily life and well-being. It’s a great time to organize your work life, improve your health habits, and focus on being more productive. Clear your workspace or start a health detox to get yourself on track. The North Node’s shift into your eighth house brings a long-term focus on vulnerability, your hidden self, and letting go of old patterns that no longer serve you. These next 18 months, you’ll be inspired to explore deeper emotional connections and make necessary changes in your approach to money. The Full Moon shines a light on your twelfth house, bringing closure to a personal or emotional matter lurking in the background. Release work or cord-cutting from unresolved dealings will help you make room for something better. As the Sun, Mercury, and the New Moon move into your seventh house, your attention turns to relationships. This is an ideal time to focus on your closest connections, whether romantic, professional, or personal, and to work on improving communication and balance within them. The New Moon invites you to set intentions for new beginnings in your relationships and to cultivate more meaningful connections.

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Virgo (August 23 – September 21)

Theme: Find Your Center

Virgo, are you ready to witness a complete revelation? January is a month focused on relationships, creativity, and personal growth. With Venus entering your seventh house of partnerships, a desire for harmony and connection in your close relationships (romantic or professional) are in the works. Aligning with your heart by nurturing someone else will power up your purpose. You can begin by engaging in meaningful, heart-centered communication. Mars retrograde in your eleventh house prompts a reassessment of your social networks, friendships, and aspirations. You may encounter delays or disruptions in group dynamics, encouraging you to reflect on which connections support your growth and which no longer align with your ambitions. Mercury in your fifth house brings a boost to your creativity and self-expression. Whether through art, hobbies, or romance, you’ll be encouraged to explore your passions and embrace a lighter, more playful side of yourself. The North Node shifting into your seventh house emphasizes the importance of partnerships in the next 18 months, guiding you toward relationships that manifest deeper connections. The Full Moon in Cancer shines a light on your eleventh house, cultivating a turning point related to your friendships or collective goals. This is a time to let go of outdated connections or redefine your place within a group. As the Sun, Mercury, and the New Moon enter your sixth house of health and work, your focus shifts to improving daily routines, health habits, and overall productivity. This is a great time to reorganize your schedule, set new goals for your well-being, and streamline your work life. The New Moon in Aquarius invites you to set intentions for fresh starts in managing your day-to-day activities and taking better care of yourself.

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Libra (September 22 – October 22)

Theme: Treat Your Body Like A Temple

Time to level up your health, work, and personal creativity, Libra. With Venus, your ruler planet, entering your sixth house of daily routines, health, and work, you’ll strongly desire to bring more beauty and balance into your everyday life. It will be a game changer as you focus on improving your well-being, beautifying your workspace, and creating healthier habits. With Mars continuing its retrograde in your tenth house of career and status, you may experience setbacks or delays in your professional life. Give yourself permission to pause and assess your long-term goals and approach to success, especially in your career and public endeavors. Mercury’s move into your fourth house highlights communication within your home and family life. Addressing any unresolved matters at home or making important decisions regarding your living situation would be ideal. The North Node shifting into your sixth house emphasizes the need to adjust your daily routines, health, and work life over the next 18 months. Focus on making practical and realistic changes that promote balance for your long-term well-being. The Full Moon in Cancer brings a moment of culmination in your tenth house, offering answers to where you stand with your career and its direction. This is a time to reflect on your career achievements and assess whether you’re on the right path. As the Sun, Mercury, and the New Moon illuminate in your fifth house of romance and self-expression, your attention shifts to play, passion, and enjoying life’s pleasures. As the New Moon in Aquarius lights up your romantic sector, it will set the stage for you to begin a new chapter in your love story while igniting your creativity. Book a date night or start a new passion project--the creativity will flow as you prioritize your happiness.

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Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

Theme: Explore Your Inner Child

Expect something new to emerge, Scorpio. January allows you to explore creative expression, personal growth, and home-focused reflection. Luckily, Venus enters your fifth house of love and joyful excursions--and you will feel a second wind to indulge your inner child. Let your hair down and set aside self-criticism no matter where you are in your journey. This is a great time to pursue creative hobbies, self-care, or deepen romantic connections. As Mars continues its backspin in your ninth house of higher learning and personal beliefs, it will bring delays in making sense of the bigger picture. You could find yourself overthinking everything. Just be and take note of what truly inspires you. Mercury's move into your third house brings attention to how you're conveying your message, learning, and your local environment. Engage in small talk, network with neighbors, or focus on local connections while learning something new. You will experience a breakthrough and understanding in time. Something more exciting is in store for you as the North Node’s shift into your fifth house opens doors to explore creativity, self-expression, and your love life these next 18 months. You’ll be drawn to explore your passions and feel things at a deeper yet joyful level. The Full Moon in Cancer highlights your ninth house and turns the tides in matters related to travel, education, or belief systems. You may gain clarity or conclude a long-term goal or pursuit. It's okay to let go and take a different path. As the Sun, Mercury, and the New Moon enter your fourth house of home and family, your attention shifts to your emotional foundations. This is a time to focus on your living situation and find tangible solutions to improve it. The New Moon in Aquarius invites you to set intentions for creating a more stable, nurturing home environment or making changes that support your emotional well-being.

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Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

Theme: Time to Master Adulting

Things are about to get serious this month, Sagittarius. You're ready to fine-tune dealings involving your home life, values, and self-worth. With the love planet Venus entering your fourth house of home and family, you will create a more harmonious, beautiful, and nurturing living space for you and your loved ones. This is an excellent time to make your home feel more comfortable and emotionally sound, whether through redecorating, spending quality time with family, or strengthening your emotional connections. Mars continuing its backspin in your eighth house of merged resources, intimacy, and hidden realms of life will help you check off what you can do to improve these matters. There could be delays or unfinished business related to joint finances, inheritances, or emotional bonds. Hold still and reassess, especially in your intimate connections. Mercury’s move into your second house of money encourages you to focus on your finances, possessions, and what you value most. Work with a financial advisor or learn ways to increase your material security. The North Node shifting into your fourth house emphasizes a long-term focus on your home, family, and emotional well-being over the next 18 months. Stability and taking charge of future investment opportunities in your personal life will be your priority. The Full Moon in Cancer highlights your eighth house, closing a chapter in intimacy-related matters while attracting transformative experiences. Release old emotional baggage or address financial matters that require closure. As the Sun, Mercury, and the New Moon enter your third house of communication, set intentions that involve expanding your mind and engaging more actively with your local environment to attract your soul tribe.

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Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

Theme: Getting Close and Personal

How comfortable are you expressing your feelings, Capricorn? This month, you're in for major changes in your relationships, and talking will be your superpower or kryptonite. With Venus entering your third house of communication, learning, and social connections, you cannot help but be charming and will begin to connect with others on a deeper level. It’s a great time to engage in meaningful conversations, nurture relationships with siblings or neighbors, and explore new ideas. Mars retrograde in your seventh house of partnerships helps you slow down and reflect on your close connections, both personal and professional. You may go through misunderstandings or delays in these areas. Make things right if any blunders occur. Mercury’s move into your first house shines a spotlight on your confidence and ability to share your ideas. Focus on your desires and goals and express your intentions to the world--you got this! The North Node shifting into your third house these next 18 months will empower your voice and ability to grasp new ideas. Becoming comfortable with developing a new skill, learning opportunity, or project. The Full Moon in Cancer brings clarity to your seventh house of relationships. Let go of the past or unhealthy dynamics in your partnerships. It's time to decide whether to stay or go. As the Sun, Mercury, and New Moon enter your second house of finances and personal values, your intentions for fresh starts in your financial situation or approach to building long-term stability will be your central focus. This is your opportunity to cross off any lingering doubts and gain traction for your next steps.

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Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

Theme: Building From the Ground Up

It's time to pay close attention to your foundations, Aquarius. What makes you feel safe? It's a month of financial reflection and self-discovery. With money-attractor Venus entering your second house of finances, values, and self-worth, your material resources and livelihood will improve. Beginning an abundance practice will lead to results, but it starts with you reflecting on your relationship with money and your long-term financial goals. Mars continuing its backspin in your 6th house of health, work, and daily routines will help you observe areas that need improvement. You might find yourself revisiting old work projects or reconsidering your health habits, especially those that have been put on the back burner. Mercury’s move into your twelfth house lights up your subconscious mind and inner world. This is a period for deep reflection, spiritual exploration, and addressing hidden matters that need healing. The North Node’s shift into your second house emphasizes a long-term focus on building financial goals and discovering what truly matters to you over the next 18 months. This is a time to embrace your values and make practical decisions that support your future growth. The Full Moon in Cancer highlights your sixth house, closing a chapter with your work life or daily responsibilities. It's either time to ask for help or to say no if you cannot handle every task. Release old habits and prioritize self-care practices. As the Sun, Mercury, and the New Moon enter your first house of identity, expect your energy to pick up and confidence! It will be a powerful time to set personal goals and embrace a fresh sense of purpose. Set intentions for new beginnings, whether in how you present yourself to the world or your aspirations.

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Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

Theme: Be the Artist of Your Life

Are you ready to live out your full potential, Pisces? January will be magical, with infinite possibilities and creative promise. You are a magnet as Venus enters your first house of identity and personal appearance. You are a living art as you express your unique self. Nurture and beautify yourself--book a hair appointment or update your makeup palette. Venus brings charm and magnetism, making it a great time to shine in social settings and attract positive attention. Mars retrograde in your fifth house of creativity, romance, and self-expression encourages you to revisit past creative projects, hobbies, or relationships. You may experience sluggishness or need to reassess your approach to love and artistic endeavors. Take your time, and don't rush the process. The social networks will energize Mercury’s move into your eleventh house of friendships, goals, and long-term aspirations. Engage more with your community, revisit past goals, or network to further your dreams. The North Node’s shift into your first house creates big changes in personal growth and self-discovery over the next 18 months. It's a time to step into your true identity while igniting the changes that will help you align more with your authentic path. It's your time to shine. The Full Moon in Cancer shines a light on your fifth house of creativity and romance, bringing closure or acceptance to past dealings. You may experience a creative breakthrough or make an important decision about a romantic connection or artistic endeavor. Trust as you let go. As the Sun, Mercury, and New Moon enter your 12th house of spirituality and dreams, your focus shifts inward and stimulates even more inspiration. Try dream journaling or meditation. Remember to rest. Quiet reflection, spiritual growth, and inner work will be medicinal for your energy. Set intentions for a new phase of self-discovery by planting a seed of your dream life. Your manifestation levels up as you let go of the past.

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This Unexpected Trader Joe’s Home Decor Find Is Sending Customers Into A Frenzy: “OMG Need.”

As fun as Trader Joe’s snacks and desserts are, there’s one aisle you definitely should not skip – and that’s their plant section. Trader Joe’s is constantly stocking up on blooms like orchids and monsteras, all of which are easy to take care of once they make it home from the store.

Any houseplant lover knows the easiest of all easy houseplants is the famed pothos. I can water mine (I have about 5 pothos plants) once every two weeks, and they will. not. die. Right now, Trader Joe’s is selling pothos for cheap – but not just any pothos. They currently come along with a stunning hanging pot that you’ll instantly want to put up in your home.

Scroll on to discover more about this unique Trader Joe’s plant find!

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That’s right – Trader Joe’s shelves now include disco ball hanging planters. I repeat: disco ball hanging planters! The sphere-shaped pot is covered in reflective disco tiles that’ll certainly make your living room feel like a dance club. The best part is that pothos plants naturally look amazing when they’re grown hanging, so you can watch this baby flourish all year long.

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TJ’s fan account @traderjoesobsessed recently spotted the disco ball hanging planters at their local Trader Joe’s and shared the new find with their Instagram followers. Tons of them chimed in about their excitement for the product in the comments!

“I need this now😍,” one person commented.

“The way I gasped when I saw this 😍🪩,” another said.

“I bought one today and totally love it👍,” someone else commented.

“I suddenly need to buy more plants,” one more person wrote.

Several shoppers in the comment section noted that they were able to track down the disco ball hanging planters pretty easily, while others reported that they haven’t seen them in their stores quite yet. This is your sign to keep an eye out on your next TJ’s trip!

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@traderjoesobsessed reports that the disco ball hanging planters go for $12.99 in stores. Their affordable price makes them such a great gift for yourself or a loved one, plus the sparkles on the disco ball are perfect for livening up your space for a New Year’s refresh.

Run to TJ’s soon – I know I will!

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3 Key Things Super Compatible Couples Never Argue About, According To Experts

By now, you may be able to recognize signs of gaslighting or other toxicbehaviors, but do you know how to take everything you've learned and become a super compatible couple? According to experts, there are a few key things super compatible couples rarely argue about — even with whatever faults each person brings to the relationship table. While the topics these couples avoid may not surprise you, the reason why they're able to avoid them might. But first, let's talk about what makes couples more compatible than others.

Dr. Brooke Keels, Ph.D., LPC-MHSP, LPC-Supervisor, Chief Clinical Officer at Lighthouse Recovery, has this to say: "Couples are compatible when they share similar values, goals, and know the best way to communicate with each other." Notice she didn't say these couples are just alike.

More so, she explains that "it's about how well they handle differences, whether they can support each other through tough times, and how they connect emotionally." Dr. Keels adds, "when there’s respect, trust, and a good balance of give-and-take between them?" Dr. Keels believes this gives couples a better chance "to be in sync."

Scroll down to see the topics you'll rarely hear compatible couples arguing about!

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1. Long-term goals like marriage aren't often a cause for concern.

Have you ever dated someone that made you wonder what you saw in them once you pay attention to certain red flags? You may have found yourself arguing with them about everything from religion to reproductive health, leaving you feeling dizzy afterwards. But Dr. Keels says compatible couples are more likely to be aligned on "whether they want the same things out of life."

Her examples include:

  • Relocating for careers
  • Family planning
  • Finding somewhere to settle down in general (i.e. apartment, condo, different state, close to family, etc.,)

"This common ground lessens the chance of fighting over these big topics," Dr. Keels reiterates.

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2. There's a lesser chance arguments about weekend activities occur.

We're no strangers to indecisive moments where we couldn't agree about what to do on the weekends with our partners, but Dr. Keels says compatible couples don't always run into this issue. "When you enjoy similar activities or have overlapping hobbies, you're more like to find ways to unwind together, rather than feeling disconnected or frustrated by each other's choices," she adds.

While it varies from couple to couple, you and your partner may enjoy the following:

  • Buying tickets to watch the latest college basketball or football game
  • Going to a 'Paint and Sip' class for fun
  • Having a mini outdoor picnic
  • Visiting a national park if it's on your couple's bucket list
  • Spending a day at a local arcade

The possibilities are endless, but all that matters is that "this mutual understanding makes spending time together feel natural and fun," according to Dr. Keels.

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3. Communication styles aren't causing a daily disruption.

Some people have a more direct way of communicating while others may be passive or even passive-aggressive. Less arguments aren't happening because compatible couples communicate the same however. "When they both understand each other's communication style — whether it's direct or more subtle — it helps avoid misunderstandings and frustration."

Here's a couple of examples:

  • If you're having a bad day that has nothing to do with your partner, they don't take it personal when you prefer some alone time.
  • If your partner says something they perceived to be a joke, but you didn't, you're less likely to immediately accuse them of being insensitive. Instead, there's a higher chance of asking what they mean by something and expressing why you didn't like it instead of arguing.

Compatible couples "know how to express their feelings and needs in a way that the other person can easily understand" which makes "it easier to resolve issues calmly," according to Dr. Keels.

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Are couples better (or more compatible) because they don't have a lot of arguments?

Well, no. That's actually a stretch because everyone has arguments. "Even compatible couples can argue about everyday things like chores or schedules. No matter how well they get along or how "in sync" they are, little annoyances can still pop up here and there, and cause some tension between them," Dr. Keels shares. "The difference," she points out, "is that they're usually better at handling these moments and keeping them from turning into bigger problems."

The other thing she's seen couples argue about is money. "It's such a common stress point because everyone has different habits and priorities when it comes to spending or saving," she says. But, guess what? "Compatible couples tend to approach the conversation with more understanding and a willingness to find a compromise," she continues.

If you feel like you and your partner aren't on the same page, it may not be time to break up just yet. We've learned that that it can take time to effectively communicate with a romantic partner or understand them. Compatibility is great, but it's not an indicator that a relationship will be smooth sailing!

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How can I have healthier disagreements with my partner?

Like we said, getting to a point where you and your partner aren't consistently hurting each other's feelings during disagreements takes time as well as skill. No one's born knowing all the answers so don't think your relationship is over because you're still figuring things out.

Dr. Keels says one way you and your partner can work on the kind of disagreements you're having is by "knowing how to communicate/compromise." Look, we heard your sigh and know it's probably the antithesis of how you feel. We struggled with compromising, but you don't get far in life thinking that everyone else has to bend to your will all the time.

"Even if they don’t see eye to eye all the time, healthy couples listen to each other's perspectives, and look for solutions that work for both of them. It’s not about 'winning' the argument and getting to say who's right, but finding common ground so they can move forward together," adds Dr. Keels.

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Also, "staying respectful event when things get heated or when you're upset" is a way to have a productive arguments, according to Dr. Keels. What happens is that "healthy couples avoid yelling or saying hurting things during disagreements," she says. This means no cursing or raising voices to the point your next door neighbors feel they have to call the police to do a wellness check on you.

"Instead, they just focus on the real problem and stay calm, which helps them work through the issue without hurting each other and the relationship," Dr. Keels says. And in the event you and your partner can't find common ground in a given moment? She highly suggests you "take breaks or pause when things get too heated."

Couples who do this "know when to step away and cool off before continuing the conversation," she adds. There are times where it's difficult to have a proper conversation when you're anxious or angry, so it's always better to revisit the topic.

Dr. Keels agrees and says, "This gives them a chance to cool down first so they can properly think things through, and think of a solution that works for both of them without saying anything they might regret."

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