Finding the right person can feel really tough, no matter what season of life you're in. But when it's about to be "cuffing season" (you know, where everyone couples up every fall right before the holidays), the search can feel more urgent than ever. But it's okay — our favorite astrologist, Lumi Pelinku, has some ideas for how one Libra can find love in what feels like a hopeless place right now. Here's what she has to say in our latest Ask An Astrologer column!
Dear Lumi: I'm a Libra and keep attracting the wrong type. What are some signs I should focus on for a more fulfilling fall romance based on astrological compatibility?
Dear Libra: This is a common question that I'm often asked — and even pondered about when I dated in the past! I want to point out that filtering out astrological signs just to level up chances is a limiting path to pursue when dating. You can look to sun sign compatibility as a fun way to connect with potential partners. For those intellectual connections, air signs like Gemini and Aquarius can be fantastic matches for you. If you're looking for that fiery passion, fire signs such as Aries, Leo, and Sagittarius might light up your world. But remember, there's depth beyond just sun signs. Exploring your Venus sign has been eye-opening for me and the clients I have worked with — it gives deeper insights into how we love and connect.
The main objective is highlighting how you can energetically attract your future partner by mastering your astrological sign. As you are single, let's explore what you can do to make it a self-love season. Celebrating yourself and investing time in leveling up your self-acceptance will lead you to your love sooner than you know.
Also, before we dive into how you can master your Libra energy, you can look to your Venus sign to help you understand how you can power up your confidence and even understand your love story better – the good and the bad. If you don't know your Venus sign, use a birth chart generator to find out.
Libra's Lessons in Love
You are a soul that naturally gravitates towards love and relationships. This path is one that you are meant to fulfill. I cannot stress enough (as a Libra Moon person myself) that balance and complete self-acceptance must be found in your life to attract better relationships — especially for your relationship-oriented sign.
You must be thinking, "Now, how is that achievable?"
Your body knows best, and by analyzing your energetic flow, you will notice what is tipping the balance. Do you feel at ease or an adrenaline rush when meeting people? When getting to know or spending time with possible contenders, do you tend to imagine walking down the aisle with this person or start compiling a collage of wedding dresses or venues on Pinterest?
Honestly, I'm guilty here — I used to fantasize like this A LOT, and it only added higher levels of anxiety, thinking that these feelings were "butterflies," but that rush I felt was just a warning to watch out. If you tend to jump to conclusions or dive headfirst into relationships that aren't good for you, start becoming more present and work with your intuition. This alone will help you analyze your connection(s) and see if it's a genuine love, or infatuation.
Libra, Take Off The Rose-Colored Glasses
Individuals with a Libra sun, moon, or rising tend to lament about failed relationships or the lack thereof — even in friendships. As a Venus-ruled sign, you embody love, complete care for people, and a desire to avoid conflict. People-pleasing and losing yourself in relationships tend to happen when you are not addressing the red flags head-on. Libras also may fall victim to wearing rose-colored glasses and seeing their romantic prospect as perfect. In relationships, they try to paint the red flags green, leading them to complete heartache and loss.
They fall hard and want nothing more than to meet their better half. I promise you it is possible, but a major lesson is in store for Libras. The aim is to become whole, balanced, and at peace with the idea of being alone. Don't worry — this doesn't mean you will be alone forever, but this is the Universe's game that Libra has to play to attract an epic connection. Also, learning how to assert your boundaries at the beginning of relationships so that you can see if your prospect honors your needs is crucial in filtering out your match. Libras are natural romantics; however, it is best to be wholly aligned with authenticity and fairness when dating.
Libra, Step Into Self-Acceptance To Manifest Your Love
To find fulfillment and happiness, you must be entirely in love with yourself and avoid settling in your life. At this point in your journey, avoid lowering your standards to be in a relationship. Enjoy your life and see the beauty and love around you.
For a Libra like yourself, finding self-acceptance is about personal growth and creating the foundation for a fulfilling relationship with a future partner. Here are some tailored steps that could help you on this journey:
- Celebrate Your Unique Qualities: Embrace what makes you distinctly you — your charm, your knack for bringing harmony, and your deep appreciation for beauty. These qualities are what make you magnetic and attractive.
- Set Boundaries With Grace: Your natural inclination to please others can sometimes lead to neglecting your needs. Establishing clear boundaries allows you to honor your values and priorities, which in turn attracts partners who respect and value you.
- Boost Your Confidence: Confidence is incredibly attractive. Engage in activities that build your self-assurance — whether it's pursuing your passions, achieving personal goals, or simply embracing your unique strengths.
- Nurture Inner Harmony: Connect with activities that bring you joy and peace, whether you lose yourself in creativity, enjoy quiet moments in nature, or practice mindfulness. When you're centered and content within yourself, you naturally radiate positivity.
- Cherish Meaningful Connections: Relationships matter deeply to you. Invest time and energy in nurturing your connections with friends and family; these bonds provide invaluable support and love.
- Clarify Your Relationship Vision: Reflect on what you truly desire in a partner and a relationship. Understanding your needs and aspirations helps you attract someone who aligns with your vision for the future.
- Practice Self-Love Daily: Cultivate habits that promote self-love and self-care, whether it's through affirmations, self-reflection, or treating yourself to little moments of indulgence. When you cherish yourself, others will see and cherish you too.
Remember, the journey to self-acceptance is ongoing, but every step you take brings you closer to manifesting a relationship that resonates with your true self. You've got this!
With Love and Stars,
Lumi
Looking for your own astrological advice? Be sure to Ask Lumi here!
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