Lori Gottlieb Teaches Brit + Anj Therapy 101

Lori Gottlieb is a psychotherapist, journalist, and author of the New York Times bestselling book Maybe You Should Talk to Someone. This week, she sits down with Brit and Anj to school them on all things therapy. What are the biggest misconceptions? Who is therapy right for? What should you expect from your first session? And what are the long-term benefits of therapy?

"I think some misconceptions about therapy are that someone is just going to sit there and nod their head or empathize with you or that it is going to be all about the past. And really it's about the present."

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Experiencing rough patches with your partner can make you wonder, "Am I in a codependent relationship?" — especially when those arguments revolve around feeling like you're responsible for their problems. It's something I've asked myself several times throughout my relationship before my S.O. and I chose to go to couples therapy. (It happens, and it helps!).

It's obvious that therapy speak has become popularized (and sometimes weaponized) on social media, but it's better to rely on a licensed professional's insights than always take matters into your own hands. That's where licensed mental health counselor Jessica Lamar, Psy.D, LMHC, LPC, CPTT comes in. She has all the info you need to recognize the difference between a healthy relationship and a codependent, how to recognize if you or your partner have codependency tendencies, and more.

What are signs of a healthy relationship?

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Before we jump into how to recognize you're in a codependent relationship, I think it's important to talk about what a healthy one looks like.

Lamar says, "Healthy relationships are all about mutual respect and support," before outlining the five components they're made of.

  1. Strong Communication: You feel comfortable talking openly and honestly with each other, even about difficult topics. You listen actively and try to understand each other's perspectives.
  2. Trust and Respect: You trust each other's judgment and intentions. You value each other's opinions and feelings, even if they differ from your own.
  3. Healthy Boundaries: You both have a sense of independence and individuality while still being committed to the relationship. You respect each other's need for time with friends and family and for personal pursuits.
  4. Support and Encouragement: You celebrate each other's successes and offer encouragement during challenges. You support each other’s goals and dreams while also maintaining your own individual identities and interests.
  5. Healthy Conflict Resolution: Disagreements are inevitable, but healthy relationships approach them in a calm and respectful manner. You focus on finding solutions together rather than blaming or criticizing each other.
I've learned there's a huge difference between saying we want a healthy relationship and actually doing the work to build and maintain one. Learning how to effectively communicate with my partner and work towards healthy conflict resolution hasn't been easy, but I can say our bond has gotten deeper as a result."Healthy relationships involve shared decision-making, the ability to resolve conflicts constructively, and a balance between togetherness and personal space. Importantly, there is no fear of expressing thoughts and feelings, and both partners feel emotionally and physically safe," continues Lamar.

What are codependent relationships?

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Now that we know more about healthy relationships, it's time to peel back the layers of codependency. It can be confusing if you're seeing the term on social media without fully understanding what it means.

One thing Lamar says is that "All relationships require some level of give and take, but when there is an imbalance, that may be a sign of codependency." The question is what does that mean exactly?

"A person with codependent tendencies is someone deeply impacted by another person's actions and can become fixated on trying to control their behavior," she explains. Ironically, this is actually really common in relationships. She further explained that an estimated 10% to 20% of people have codependent traits, but it's not easy to figure out how much it affects people due to other factors.

"...it often overlaps with other mental health conditions and varies widely among different populations. This makes it difficult to compare studies. Also, codependency can exist on a spectrum from mild to severe. Someone might exhibit some codependent traits without meeting the criteria for a full-blown issue," Lamar says.

However, she did say codependency is more common in the following scenarios:

  • People who have experienced early-life trauma
  • People in relationships with someone struggling with addiction
  • People who have specific personality traits like anxiety or low self-esteem

As with anything where we feel like we're oversharing or going the extra mile to offer reassurance, this can cause us to feel more stress than we should. Lamar agrees and says, "It's important to recognize that these relationships often feel one-sided and can lead to burnout, resentment, and emotional distress. Codependency can also develop in various relationships, romantic or not."

How can two people recognize if they're in a codependent relationship?

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So, how do you know if you're in a codependent relationship or not? Like my therapist once told me, patterns tell the truth whether we want them to or not.

"These may include a lack of boundaries, where one person is consistently giving more than they are receiving. One partner may feel a persistent need to fix or rescue the other, leading to an imbalance of power and responsibility," Lamar points out.

Remember what she said about relationships being give or take? It turns out there's a such thing as doing too much giving or caring to the point of thinking you have the power to eliminate every single problem someone has. Also, you or your partner may have been doing certain things just to keep the peace in your relationship.

Ultimately Lamar says, "If the happiness or stability of the relationship depends overwhelmingly on one person’s actions or emotional state, it’s a strong indicator of codependency."

Are there steps couples can take to change the nature of their codependent relationship?

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We're not here to scare you into thinking you have to break up with your partner if you recognize any of these signs though. There's actually hope for you to create a healthier dynamic, according to Lamar. They look like:

  • Establishing Boundaries: Clearly defining and respecting each other’s personal boundaries is crucial.
  • Developing Individual Interests: Encouraging and supporting each other in pursuing individual hobbies and interests can help maintain a sense of self.
  • Improving Communication: Open and honest communication about needs, feelings, and concerns helps to build mutual respect and understanding.
  • Seeking Therapy: Couples therapy or individual counseling can provide a safe space to explore and address underlying issues contributing to codependency.
  • Practicing Self-Care: Both partners should prioritize their own well-being, ensuring they are mentally and emotionally healthy.

She wants you to remember that "It's important to remember that change takes time and effort. Be patient and celebrate each other's progress."

Take it from someone who's been in a relationship for a decade — time and effort can make a difference if both people are committed to becoming healthier versions of themselves.

When should couples separate if they're in a codependent relationship?

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But, I know not all relationships have a fairytale ending. Some of them venture into harmful territory where a separation or breakup is not only inevitable, but also recommended. "Separation may be advised when efforts to address codependency are unsuccessful, and the relationship continues to be detrimental to one or both individuals' well-being," Lamar mentions.

The signs that it's time to end your codependent relationship are:

  • Abusive Behavior: If there's any physical, emotional, or verbal abuse, separation might be crucial for safety and well-being.
  • No Improvement: If one of the partners is not willing to work on the relationship or change codependent behaviors, separation might be necessary.
  • Constant Unhappiness: If the relationship is causing constant unhappiness and one or both partners feel drained, it might be time to prioritize individual well-being.
The silver lining, Lamar explains, is that a separation can be temporary. She said you can look at this as, "...an opportunity to heal and grow individually before potentially rebuilding the relationship on a healthier foundation."
No matter what you decide, make sure you're taking time to thoroughly think about your next steps. "It's essential to approach this decision with care, ideally with the guidance of a mental health professional, to ensure that it is made thoughtfully and with both parties' well-being in mind," notes Lamar.

If you feel like you're in a codependent relationship, it's best to seek the advice of a licensed therapist that can help you identify patterns that may be unique to you and your partner.

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Foodies – you know 'em, and you love 'em. They're the ones that always bring food to the function, making sure everyone's well-fed. They're constantly breaking a sweat in the kitchen when they're whipping up those elaborate dinner recipes that you just can't stop craving. This season, return the favor of those curated dinner parties and lively happy hours by giving your favorite foodie one of these unique foodie gifts. From kitchen accessories to home goods, apparel to cookbooks, your food-loving pal is going to love these tasteful picks.

Our favorite foodie gift ideas for 2024:

Lisa Says Gah!

Lisa Says Gah! Holiday Nail Art Stickers

Winter nails will never be the same after they get a tasty treatment from these food-themed nail stickers. We're obsessing over the martini glasses!

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More Is More: Get Loose in the Kitchen: A Cookbook by Molly Baz

This bold book by cool cookin' girl, Molly Baz, encourages risk-taking in the kitchen and a pure "cooking for fun" mentality, which we could all use a heaping serving of, no?

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The Pasta Tarot: A 78-Card Deck for Delicious Divination

Your local astrology-loving foodie will instantly want to noodle with this super fun deck. The cards' themes are rooted in the authors' queer Italian American identities, offering an insightful and unique take on tarot.

Marianna Fierro

Marianna Fierro Olives Print

For the big brine fan, behold this bold olive art print. Bonus points for gifting this pick with a frame for them to hang in the kitchen!

Areaware

Little Puzzle Thing Rainbow Jelly Puzzle

Though you could snag this 12x12-inch puzzle in French fry form, we just can't get enough of this vintage-esque rainbow jelly!

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Salt, Fat, Acid, Heat: Mastering the Elements of Good Cooking by Samin Nosrat

Salt, fat, acid, and heat are the four main building blocks of creating an excellent dish. If your foodie friend is seeking more guidance, Samin Nosrat lays out the process simply and deliciously.

Dusen Dusen

Dusen Dusen Oven Mitt

Bet they've never had a standout oven mitt like this one! It's 100% cotton and 100% eye-catching. When kitchen gear gifts can double as decor like this, you've nailed gift-giving.

Boy Smells

Boy Smells Banana Pudding Candle

This dessert-inspired home scent is so good, you may just wanna eat it. Seriously – it smells like something's baking, even though all you did was strike a match.

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Jellycat Amuseable Happy Boiled Egg

We owe a lot to eggs – omelets, deviled eggs, cakes, cookies – the list goes on and on. This soft, palm-sized plush is an adorable tribute to the great egg!

Amazon

Brainstream Al Dente Singing Floating Pasta Timer

This pasta timer (AKA Mr. Al Dente) sings whenever your pot of pasta's done cooking. It may be a more gimmicky foodie gift, but it can really spare you from throwing noodles at the wall.

Anastasia Inciardi

Anastasia Inciardi Prints Sticker Sheet

These snacky stickers are the ultimate water bottle or laptop decoration for the famed foodie in your life.

Amazon

Maldon Sea Salt Flakes

Maldon salt has unknowingly become the top salt choice for the Cool Kids™️ in the kitchen. The chunky flakes are perfectly balanced in flavor. Sprinkle some on a batch of chocolate chip cookies, and you'll never go back. ​

Amazon

What's for Dessert: Simple Recipes for Dessert People: A Baking Book by Claire Saffitz

Take it from baking queen Claire Saffitz for tips on creating a sweet little treat.

Hedley & Bennett

Hedley & Bennett Smock

If they practically live in the kitchen, an apron or smock is a must for eliminating stains and messes. This one comes in a ton of different colors to suit any chef in your life!

Pon the Store

Pon the Store Cocktail Napkins

For the foodie who can't resist a good cocktail, these printed napkins make for the perfect complement to a drink – plus, they set the tone for a night full of sippin'.

Material Kitchen

Material Kitchen The Salt Sphere

This super sleek sphere serves to store salt and other essential seasonings.

Williams Sonoma

Staub Ceramic Stoneware Petite Tomato Cocotte

Tomato confit will get even tastier once it's made inside this tomato-y piece of cookware.

Match South

Match South Waffle House Candle

This double-wicked candle emits the smells of warm spices and syrup, eliciting nothing other than the sweet nostalgia of going to Waffle House. Burns well with freshly-cooked waffles, of course!

Uncommon Goods

Taiyaki Maker

With this iron mold, they can bring the iconic Japanese street food, taiyaki, to brunches and breakfasts.

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Over the last few years, we’ve seen climate change-related events increase at an alarming rate and have witnessed their life-threatening impacts. According to the Environmental Protection Agency, rising temperatures and more frequent extreme weather episodes like hurricanes, fires, and droughts are just some indicators of climate change.

There’s no doubt that climate change has touched such integral parts of the human experience. Weather events have forced people from their homes, contributing to large-scale migrations that not every country may be prepared for. In some parts of the world, rising temperatures have made it downright dangerous to travel for leisure. Crops that not only fuel our bodies (like Georgia peaches and red jalapeños that make up Sriracha) but also local economies, have simply gone kaput due to intense heat waves.

Whether you’ve been directly affected by a climate disaster or live with a general awareness about the planet’s environmental conditions, just know it’s normal to feel fearful about climate change and its consequences. This feeling can be described as "climate anxiety," and it’s more common than you’d think.

What is climate anxiety?

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Climate anxiety is, essentially, feeling distressed in response to climate change and its effects on our lives, the environment, and humanity at large. It’s not only correlated with feeling anxious, though. Climate anxiety can bring about emotions such as worry, despair, hopelessness, shame, fear, grief, anger, existentialism, and impending doom.

According to Merritt Juliano JD LCSW, feelings of climate anxiety can range from minor to severe.

“Climate anxiety can lead to daily feelings of upset and distress, severe cognitive changes such as intrusive thoughts, difficulty sleeping, difficulty connecting with others, angry outbursts, and an overall preoccupation with the planetary health crisis,” said Juliano. “This can lead to difficulty enjoying life, and an overall deterioration in one’s emotional, psychological and social well-being.”

These feelings are most commonly attributed to environmental factors, but Janice Overbeck, director and producer at 2050 Pictures, notes that it might not be the sole cause.

“People like to be in control of themselves and their futures – it gives a sense of assurance," said Overbeck. “By feeling like large, world-changing issues are out of control, people can be left to feel small, lost, and at times, hopeless. These feelings can quickly spiral into despair and overall lack of enthusiasm for life with the future being so unknown.”

How does climate anxiety affect us?

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Society's collective, growing anxiety about climate change has prompted individuals to look to the future with quite an existential lens. The question about having kids versus not is a huge consideration for many young people, according to Lea Flego, MA, LMFT, but the ‘right’ answer isn’t so black-and-white:

“Reducing the population does decrease the demands on natural resources, which is positive for the planet we call home,” said Flego. “However, raising children with eco-friendly values contributes to a generation with raised consciousness around climate issues and a stronger motivation to take action that disrupts the human-driven practices contributing to climate change and implement strategies to restore and protect the environment.”

More than anything, climate anxiety can call into question how we really live within our current industrial society. Though we may have good intentions for the planet, it can be challenging to maintain a climate-friendly lifestyle on our own. Oftentimes, sustainable choices can be expensive and inaccessible, especially for those living in middle to lower socioeconomic populations. Honestly, a lot of our environmental impact is left up to the ‘big guy,’ or a handful of larger corporations that contribute to carbon emissions and landfill waste, making it harder for a single person to feel like they can realistically make a difference.

“I feel that climate anxiety is less around individual guilt, and more tied to a concern for the way society is handling it,” said Overbeck. “This system that we have in place makes it difficult for the average person to make fully climate-conscious decisions.”

Julia Baum, MSEd, BFA, LMHC notes that though climate anxiety isn’t an “official diagnosis,” nor included in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Health Disorders, Fifth Edition (DSM-5), “there is growing awareness and discussion about climate anxiety in the mental health field.” Feelings of climate anxiety can certainly exacerbate existing mental health issues, such as obsessive compulsive disorder, depression, and post-traumatic stress disorder. If these mental health conditions compound on one another, it can hinder individuals from living to their full potential.

“[Climate distress] can lead to difficulty enjoying life, and an overall deterioration in one’s emotional, psychological and social well-being,” said Juliano. “At the extreme end, one may struggle with suicidal thoughts, and lack of concern for paying bills, rent, or saving money based on the belief that it doesn’t matter ‘if the world is ending.’”

Despite the dread of it all, the experts we’ve spoken to generally denounce believing the idea that ‘it doesn't matter.’ Seeing that climate anxiety can have serious impacts on our mental state and quality of life, doing the best we can with what we have is a much more effective (and accepted) approach for addressing climate anxiety – and, good news for you, there is real purpose to be found, even if you’re feeling climate-anxious.

“Anxiety tends to be unhealthy when your outlook on climate change and its projected impacts is rigid or extreme,” said Baum. “We need to find a way to take meaningful action within the areas we can influence and find a way to psychologically adjust to what we cannot, as difficult as that may be, to avoid additional suffering.”

7 Tips For Dealing With Climate Anxiety

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If you’re dealing with climate anxiety, here are 7 tips on how to address and manage it.

1. Speak with a therapist.

There are many effective treatments for tackling general anxiety, such as therapy sessions, mindfulness practices, and support groups. These methods can *also* help you develop helpful thought patterns surrounding climate change.

“Climate change does affect us all, but if it is taking a significant toll on your mental health and general outlook on life, you owe it to yourself to discuss these concerns with a professional who can help,” said Overbeck. “By taking hold of your mental health, you are regaining a sense of control in your life that is needed to begin feeling better.”

Matter of fact, as climate anxiety becomes more common, more therapists are being trained and certified as eco-therapists, according to Flego. Eco-therapists are well-versed in climate complications, their impacts on mental health, as well as treatments that might work better for addressing climate anxiety.

“As a therapist, I address climate anxiety by first providing a space to share the thoughts and feelings related to climate change and validate them,” said Flego. “I also teach coping skills for managing feelings of anxiety and engage my clients in activities that explore and strengthen their connection to nature and adopt behaviors that align with eco-conscious values.”

2. Find your place in a like-minded community.

Meeting others that have the same outlook as you can be helpful. Maybe they’re struggling with the same feelings, too!

“In times of fear and change, community can be an important part of feeling safe and heard,” said Overbeck. “Spending time with like-minded people can make one feel less alone in their concerns.”

3. Engage in activism.

Taking action in your community can help you regain a sense of agency over climate-friendly policies or actions that benefit the earth. You could attend a trash cleanup, go to a community garden, or write to your local policymakers about climate change.

4. Talk about your feelings.

Confiding in friends, family, or even just journaling on your own can help you sort out your internal feelings about climate change, and the anxiety it may cause. In talks, you could consider your current outlook on the environment and the actions you can take to become more aligned with your true values. Just remember:

“There are no universal rules or ethics,” said Baum. “There are no correct or incorrect answers. The individual is responsible for choosing, and the positive, negative, and neutral consequences that ensue are theirs as well.”

5. Take a break from the news.

Overbeck recognizes that the news can be discouraging. Sometimes it’s okay to unplug from it! If you find doing that difficult, and you have to keep reading, she offers some advice:

“Consider checking whether the news you consume is fully negative when climate change is discussed. Does this article give any positive updates being reported? This does not mean that climate news will be fully solution-oriented and positive, but finding a balance between the two can be an important way to stay on top of the facts while learning ways you can feel hopeful.”

6. Spend time in nature.

Spending time in nature is *so* grounding, and can help you remember why you love the Earth in the first place. Venturing out and witnessing the planet’s beauty can also serve as a reminder that there’s still good things to see out there. Go for a hike! Hop on your bike! There's a whole world waiting for you.

7. Focus on what you *can* control.

“You are here on this planet given a certain amount of time to experience it to the fullest,” said Overbeck. “Allow yourself to achieve your goals, explore our world, and do your best to make a difference for the better.”

And it’s true. We can only do the best with what we know to do. There’s so much life to live, and allowing climate anxiety to creep in on its greatest moments can take away from the joy you were meant to experience.

“No one can predict how the planetary health crisis will unfold,” said Juliano. “Where there is uncertainty, there is always hope. The challenge for humanity at this time is to learn how to live with uncertainty. Given the uncertainty, how then do we wish to live?”

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Have you ever read a book that changed your life? Whether it helps you empathize with other people better or it simply gets you to read a genre you never thought you would, new books hold so much power. That was my experience reading Emily Henry's People We Meet On Vacation the first time. I had never loved rom-coms before I was introduced to Emily Henry, and suddenly my world became so much more fun and romantic than it was before. And on July 9, the author announced her newest book Funny Story would be getting the movie treatment! Here's everything we know about the upcoming adaptation.

  • Emily Henry published Funny Story in April 2024, and the movie adaptation was announced in July.
  • The book follows Miles and Daphne, who decide to fake date after getting invited to their exes' wedding.
  • Emily Henry herself is writing the screenplay!

Who's in the Funny Story cast?

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We don't have an official cast for the Funny Story movie yet, but my pick for Daphne is Lily Collins. And for Miles? Like most of the internet, I'm hoping we see Dylan O'Brien as Miles! He has the earnest, free spirit that make Miles so special — and he's totally down to do the movie if he gets the chance.

"I'm a fan of Emily Henry's, I've had friends who've turned me on to her books and I know a lot of them are now just beginning to get brought to the screen," he says on an episode of the Silence on Set podcast. "[Starring in Funny Story] is certainly not a no for me, I love the rom-com space, I've always wanted to do a rom-com and I feel like we're finally entering a little bit of a Renaissance with that...[But] I have no emails. Unless I've missed one."

Is there a Funny Story movie?

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Yes, we're getting a movie inspired by Emily Henry's Funny Story! The story follows children's librarian Daphne, who is stuck in her ex's hometown when he breaks off their engagement to get together with his childhood best friend Petra. With nowhere left to turn, Daphne moves in with Petra's ex Miles. Their friendship starts on shaky ground, but it doesn't take long for Daphne and Miles to come up with a plan to get back at their exes — if they don't fall for each other first.

Who's writing the script for Funny Story?

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Emily Henry is writing the script for the Funny Story movie! She knows the material better than anyone so this script is going to capture the magic of the book perfectly.

Who else is involved?

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While Funny Story doesn't have a director yet, we do know that Lyrical Media’s Alexander Black & Natalie Sellers and Ryder Picture Company's Aaron Ryder & Andrew Swett will produce.

When did Funny Story by Emily Henry come out?

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Funny Story was released on April 23, 2024.

Let us know who you want to see in the Funny Story movie, and check out news on all The Emily Henry Books Being Turned Into Movies for more!

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Gisele Bündchen is a household name, no matter who her partner is — but it's no secret the supermodel made waves when she split from her football star husband, Tom Brady, in 2022. It's clear she's not holding on to the past, though. After dating Joaquim Valente for the past two years, the couple is officially expecting their first child together! Here's everything we know about Gisele's growing family!

Is Gisele Bündchen pregnant?

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Yes! According to PEOPLE, an inside source told the outlet that the 44-year-old supermodel is officially expecting her third child. This is her first baby with current boyfriend, Joaquim Valente. The source said, "Gisele and Joaquim are happy for this new chapter in their life and they're looking forward to creating a peaceful and loving environment for the whole family."

Recently, a source told PEOPLE that Gisele's “excited to embrace this new chapter openly," and she's “received many positive messages and congratulations" since the news broke. While the source also noted that Gisele "wanted to keep the news private for as long as possible," they also explained that she "feels good" right now. According to them, she seems focused on her health by doing pilates and other exercises, meditating, and eating well! We're glad to hear Gisele's taking care of herself — and her baby — first!

Who is Gisele Bündchen's boyfriend?

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Joaquim Valente is a jiu-jitsu professional at his family-owned studio, Valente Brothers. The 34-year-old continues a decades-long tradition of teaching this martial art to future generations — and his girlfriend!

These two have been linked together since 2022, but didn't start officially dating until June 2023 according to PEOPLE. In 2024, a source also told PEOPLE that this wasn't "a serious love affair," but the tides have clearly turned since then.

In March 2024, Gisele The New York Times, “This is the first time I am seeing someone that was a friend of mine first." She then noted, “It’s very different. It is very honest, and it’s very transparent.” She also was quick to deny that there was any overlap with her ex-husband, stressing that these types of rumors happen "to a lot of women" who "have the courage to leave an unhealthy relationship."

As for the most current state of Gisele and Joaquim's relationship? A source told Page Six, “Their chemistry together has always been there and they have a lot in common. They've been in love for a while." That being said, sources also told Page Sixthat they don't think the pair will get married "anytime soon." Despite Gisele being "thrilled" to welcome another child, her friends tell the outlet that the couple will just "live together for now."

Regardless, we're also thrilled for these two, and we hope their new child brings them so much joy!

How many kids does Gisele Bündchen have?

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Gisele Bündchen and Tom Brady have two children together — Bejamin Rein (14) and Vivian Lake (11). According to Page Six, a source says that these two "really like" Joaquim Valente, as he's been living with them in Miami "for a while." We just know these two will be fabulous siblings to the new little one, given the way they show so much love to their parents!

When did Gisele Bündchen and Tom Brady get divorced?

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Gisele Bündchen and Tom Brady officially divorced in 2022. However, according to Page Six, this all started back in 2020 when Tom wouldn't retire from the NFL — and according to a source from PEOPLE, their problems date back as long as 10 years! Regardless, it's clear Gisele's moved on to a new chapter in her life. Good for her!

Has Tom Brady said anything about Gisele Bündchen's new pregnancy?

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While sources told TMZthat Gisele Bündchen told Tom Brady about her pregnancy before the news broke to the general public, other sources told Page Sixthat he only just found out "very recently" — and apparently, he didn't find out from Gisele. Sources explained to Page Six that the ex-spouses "talk when they have to." So I guess this situation didn't exactly qualify as having to talk...

Still, a source close to the situation explained to Page Six that Tom was "stunned" to find out about the news. “Tom knew that things were serious between Gisele and Joaquin but he never imagined they would be having a child together,” they said. "“It just wasn’t something that was on his radar. So when Gisele broke the news to him he was stunned, to say the least.”

Tom hasn't made an official statement about Gisele's pregnancy, but he did take to Instagram on October 28. The former football star posted an image of the sunset, three hearts, and The Chicks' cover of "Landslide." The Stevie Nicks original is all about the changes life brings, so Tom's seemingly alluding to the changes coming in his own life.

And that same Page Sixsource noted that Tom's “grown used to the idea and he’s happy for Gisele.” They said, “At the end of the day, Tom’s sole focus is on his children and his career. What Gisele decides to do with her own life is really none of his business.”

Whatever happens next, we hope that this modern family navigates this new chapter with grace and love!

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