Timing is everything, especially when it comes to having big conversations. Whether you're trying to define the relationship, manage your finances, plan a vacation together, or any of the myriad things in between that two people could decide on together, it's important to make sure you're clear-headed and ready for a dialogue. Thankfully, you don't have to go in blindly, only banking on the internal work you've done to communicate better with those around you — astrology can add a little luck, too!
In this edition of Ask Lumi, our ask an astrologist column, we have someone wants to know when the best time to have a pretty serious conversation with their partner would be. Here's everything to know, based on the stars!
Is there an astrological time period this summer that would be ideal for a serious conversation with my partner about the future of our relationship and whether or not we'll explore having kids?
Dear Starlight,
First, I would love to point out how brave you are in taking this first step in taking charge of your process of communicating more effectively with your partner. Whenever we are in a relationship or marriage, we're constantly integrating and learning each other's language. From a human level, we tend to feel like we are running out of time. Timing is an illusion set that could get our heads spinning and lead to dead ends, including in our relationships and family planning.
Astrologically, you can open up the pathway for you and your partner to thrive – communication-wise and everything else in between. Although you didn't include your sun sign or the big three, this is something that you can do on your own. There is a technique that we use in the astrology world when it comes to navigating relationships. It is known as "synastry," which involves studying your birth chart and your partner's planetary placements. Learning your planetary placements, such as the Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus, etc., will give you a better idea of how you and your partner work together.
Besides knowing your birth chart, you can work with the stars to get answers. With continued practice of observation and reflection, you will have a better sense of the ideal times to gain momentum in your journey. The good news is that you have a few windows of opportunities this summer that can lead you to clarity. Before we read about the best days to have your conversation, let's look at how you can work with the moon to help you attract success.
Work With the Moon
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Whether you're working on becoming an astrology buff, or you're still a novice, I recommend working with a moon journal to chart your feelings daily and recognize the patterns you experience regarding your surroundings each month. The moon is the celestial body that colors our day mood-wise because it changes signs every 2.5 days. Setting a routine by tracking the moon phase and signs will help you understand your unique process in navigating each day – good or bad. The best part is you can revisit a similar scenario the following month. That is why working with a moon journal can help you live each day mindfully and attract better experiences guided by your conscious awareness.
Generally, when the moon increases (AKA waxing), it extends cosmic support and traction that aligns with our goals.
A waxing moon occurs just after a new moon passes. If you haven't already, check out my monthly horoscopes to know when the new moon happens each month. The great news is that when the moon increases, this extends a chance for you to feel things more tangibly and even receive more information about your ponderings. Get that handy moon journal to record your reflections and experiences and keep track of your progress. This method can go beyond the summer and become a continuing practice to attract results. Regarding your marriage, scheduling a sit down with your partner on days when the moon is in relationship-oriented signs such as Taurus and Libra can create a solid space for you to start a conversation regarding your marriage and its direction.
Ideal Dates To Build And Refine Your Love Story
The dates below for June, July, and August support the recommended moon phase and signs for you to discuss matters in measured steps. The Moon in Taurus days can be ideal for examining the structures behind your relationship, while the Moon in Libra days is for negotiating your next steps.
Note that in August 2024, Mercury retrograde will be happening in the sign of Leo, and it can be a challenging time to discuss plans. It is a review period of everything you have built as a couple. Book a vacation or schedule date nights – yep, that was in the plural tense. It will reveal whatever support you need regarding communication while adding spice to your union. Have fun and allow the cosmos to extend its support by you celebrating your love. Pause, don't stress the results, and only focus on rekindling the fires for the latter half of the summer.
- June 29-July 2 – Moon in Taurus
- July 2 – Venus trine Saturn, Mercury ingresses into Leo
- July 10-July 12 – Moon in Libra
- August 8-10 – Moon in Libra, Mercury retrograde in Leo
The Best Day to Refine Your Love Story
Now, for an additional boost of star power to crank up your serious conversation, we can utilize planet Saturn as your guide to getting answers. Saturn is the planet that has to do with the foundation of our lives, and with it being in the sign of Pisces, the sign of the past, and karma, taking a deep dive into your memory archives will be an excellent place to begin your conversation. Include your past and everything you have built together as a couple. Review how your values, structures, and intimacy have evolved. Take note of what needs nurturing since your relationship began.
On July 2, alongside the Moon in Taurus, as listed above, will be your power day to begin the conversation regarding your relationship direction. There are no major planetary retrogrades involving the love planets on this day except Saturn, but rest assured, this planet thrives on slowing things down. It will help you review your relationship's infrastructure and inform you how to proceed. On this day, there is a favorable aspect, such as Venus, the planet of love and values, in a harmonious flow with Saturn. As they are both in the water signs, Cancer and Pisces, it will support the feelings exchanged, open new pathways of exploring how to deepen your love and learn the truth about your intentions regarding family planning. The conversation may be a little fiery as Mercury enters the sign of Leo, so be mindful of prideful exchanges. Lean into the heart behind your intentions.
In conclusion, in relationship matters, embodying your conscious will while working with the stars may involve facing uncomfortable conversations – understandably. Learning each other's love language can be a continuous art, and as you evolve as a couple, you can ease into a new phase of expression. Utilizing the listed star dates while expressing truthfully and embodying an open heart can help the communication channels flow better. However, hold an empathetic space and patience for the results.
My final advice is to analyze your life's present and future workings by working with your moon journal. Review your inner self and the root of your ponderings to shape your future decisions. Reflect on all you have built with your partner in your journey and express gratitude daily. The Universe will reveal the steps for you to reach your dreams.
With Love and Stars,
Lumi
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