Male Entitlement Is Causing Mass Violence, and Women Are Being Blamed

Kylie Cheung
May 22, 2018

On Friday, tragedy struck yet again in the form of the 22nd school shooting this year. 17-year-old Dimitrios Pagourtzis, the alleged shooter, killed 10 people at Santa Fe High School in Texas with a firearm he stole from his father. One of his possible motives, according to the mother of one of the victims, sounds all too familiar: Pagourtzis had been rejected by one of his female classmates. He had allegedly been “harassing” the victim, Shana Fisher, to be in a relationship with him.

“I know he had pestered her to go out with him,” Fisher’s father told the Daily Mail last week. “She kept telling him no. For one, he supposedly already had a girlfriend. And two, she just didn’t have feelings for the boy.”

Fisher’s mother told CBS affiliate KENS5, “this guy kept harassing her about wanting to be with her, like wanting to be in a relationship.” She told the Associated Press that Shana Fisher “finally stood up to him and embarrassed him.” She seemed to connect the shooting to Shana spurning Pagourtzis’ advances, saying, “a week later, he opens fire on everyone he didn’t like.”

Authorities are still investigating the motives behind the shooting. But one thing is for certain, considering the pattern of violence by men stemming from rejection or being denied access to women’s bodies: Hypermasculinity and male entitlement to female attention are costing women and all people across genders their lives — and judging by responses to these acts of violence, widespread misogyny has yielded a fundamental misunderstanding of who’s to blame for these recurring, almost systemic episodes of mass violence.

One tweet by writer Rebecca Tucker highlights a sharp disparity in cultural understandings of why the Santa Fe shooting happened. Sharing an article entitled, “Texas shooting victim ‘rejected gunman’s advances,'” Turner questioned why Pagourtzis’ alleged pursuit of Fisher had been characterized as “four months of aggressive advances,” instead of “girl murdered after enduring 120 days of harassment’ no.”

Prior to the Santa Fe shooting, in February, 19-year-old Nikolas Cruz shot 17 dead at a high school in Parkland, Fla. In addition to voicing support for racist ideologies, Cruz had also allegedly been abusive toward his ex-girlfriend. He had been expelled by Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School after engaging in a fight with her new boyfriend, and had also been accused of stalking another female student. And yet, in addition to mass, youth-led calls for common-sense gun control as the appropriate solution to the Parkland shooting, others rallied under the motto, “Walk Up, Not Out.”

The “Walk Up” movement essentially blames the Parkland shooting on bullying, due to sympathetic perceptions of Cruz as an “outcast.” The right also notably branded Parkland survivor Emma Gonzales and her peers as bullies, shortly after the teenagers began organizing for gun law reform.

“Walk Up” has drawn criticism for perpetuating racist double standards and ignoring how the efforts of some of Cruz’s peers to befriend him did not prevent the shooting. And yet, it also reflects a greater pattern of victim-blaming toward women and female victims of gun violence.

Violence against women and misogyny can often be predictors of who goes on to commit acts of mass violence. When we tell women they can prevent mass shootings by “being nicer” to men, or by accepting the advances of potentially dangerous men whom they aren’t attracted to, we’re essentially reducing them to human shields for society.

In telling young women to just “be nicer” to men, lest a man they reject go on to lead a mass shooting, we place the pressure to prevent violence not on lawmakers with the power to promote safety through legislation, but on women, who are more likely to be victimized by gun violence. Women and girls have no obligation to engage with men they aren’t interested in; the epidemic of mass shootings isn’t the fault of female cruelty, but a culture in which male entitlement to women’s bodies is so prevalent that far too many men can’t handle being told “no.”

This violence doesn’t just take the form of school shootings, nor is it limited to the US. In April, 25-year-old Alek Minassian killed 10 in Toronto by driving a van through a predominantly female crowd. Prior to the attack, Minassian shared a Facebook post declaring support for the “incel rebellion.” The incel movement — “incel” being short for “involuntary celibate” — calls for punishing women and the men whom women choose to have sex with in retaliation for being denied the sex that incels feel entitled to.

Four years before the Santa Fe shooting, a 22-year-old man named Elliot Rodger killed seven in a shooting spree in which he attempted to target a sorority at the University of California, Santa Barbara. Prior to the shooting spree, Rodger released a Youtube video and manifesto in which he repeatedly stated that his motive for the killing spree was to punish women for sexually rejecting him throughout his life. It’s worth noting that most who knew Rodger have disputed that he ever put in the effort to get to know or have relationships with women: rather, it seemed he felt rejected by women solely because of his feelings of entitlement to sexual favors and relationships with them, without any effort on his end.

Prior to the shooting, Rodger had a record of disturbing treatment of women, as well as men — and in particular, men of color — whom women chose over him. Some who knew him claim he spilled drinks on women who didn’t smile back at him, attempted to attack a group of girls at a party, and once stalked and harassed a couple he saw at a coffee shop. His manifesto proposed locking girls and women up in concentration camps.

Rodger may be an extreme, but there’s no denying a correlation between male entitlement to women’s bodies and gun violence, which targets women but ultimately affects men and women alike. Prior to the Parkland shooting, the perpetrator of the 2017 Las Vegas shooting that killed 49 had a record of domestic abuse toward his wife; so, too, did the man who shot three dead at a Planned Parenthood in Colorado in 2015.

Frankly, there’s no shortage of shooters with records of violence against women, and, in particular, violence against women who reject or deny them sex. Domestic violence victims are five times more likely to be killed if their abusers have access to guns. More than 1,600 women are killed by men, and 760 Americans are killed by ex-spouses or intimate partners with guns, annually. Many of these cases of domestic violence involving guns result in collateral damage that claims the lives of others, not just the women being targeted.

The solution to mass gun violence can’t be that women must perform sexual favors or enter into relationships with any man who asks this of them. Nor is it that women should live in terror of rejecting or offending the wrong man so that we as a society can avoid yet another mass shooting. Legislative action from our representatives is one critical step forward that we as a nation must take. But so, too, is recognition of the violence perpetuated by misogyny.

Male entitlement to women’s bodies far too often lies at the root of mass tragedies. And until we acknowledge the extent to which this entitlement — enabled, of course, by easy access to firearms — is spreading violence and hurting men and women alike, the tragedies will continue.

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Donna Kelce Just Spilled On Taylor Swift's Thanksgiving Plans & TBH, We're Not Surprised

The most notable news from our resident popstar BFF Taylor Swift (aside from her record-breaking Eras Tour movie, The Tortured Poets Department, and Reputation (Taylor's Version), of course) is her most recent boyfriend update. Kansas City Chiefs player Travis Kelce and Taylor Swift were first linked after Travis tried to give the singer his phone number during one of her concerts last year. And after a few NFL games, getaway car rides, and restaurant takeovers later, it looks like this relationship isn't going anywhere anytime soon.

Here's a timeline on everything we know about Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce's relationship!

A Timeline Of Taylor Swift And Travis Kelce's Relationship

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September, 24 2023 - Taylor Swift Started Attending Kansas City Chiefs Games

Taylor Swift started attending Kansas City Chiefs games in 2023, seemingly after an indirect invite from Travis Kelce himself. When Taylor played her Eras Tour at Arrowhead Stadium (the Chiefs' home stadium), Travis tried to give her a friendship with his number on it.

“I was disappointed that she doesn’t talk before or after her shows because she has to save her voice for the 44 songs that she sings,” Travis told his brother after Jason during an episode of their New Heights podcast. “I was a little butt hurt I didn’t get to hand her one of the bracelets I made for her.”

Considering Taylor Swift has now gone to many Chiefs games — and nearly broken the internet — we're pretty sure he's not upset anymore!

On September 24, 2023, Taylor Swift watched the NFL game with Travis' mom, Donna. After the football game — in which Taylor sat with Donna, and created (another) pop culture phenomenon with a single photo — not only did Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce leave the Arrowhead Stadium locker room together, but they also drove away in Travis' convertible as a pair!

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October 1, 2023 - Taylor Brought Some Friends To Watch The Chiefs

On October 1, 2023, Taylor was joined by all-star BFFs Sabrina Carpenter, Blake Lively, Ryan Reynolds, Sophie Turner, and Hugh Jackman to watch the Chiefs play against the New York Jets. While Travis Kelce and Taylor Swift didn't leave the stadium together after THIS game was over, the fact that Taylor was surrounded by so many of her friends felt like they were there to support something quite special. 💓

We'd be remiss not to mention a few easter eggs from this game while we're at it! This romance feels so much like a callback to Taylor's 1989 era, where she spent a lot of 2013 to 2015 hanging with her friends in the coolest NYC spots. Plus, she's wearing all black (and some edgy accessories on her shorts) while we all speculate on what she's up to and who she's dating, which is not too dissimilar from her Reputation era. 👀

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October 12, 2023 - Taylor Swift Makes A Good First Impression

We know Taylor always tries to make a good impression (hello "Mirrorball!"), but it turns out, she also makes a good impression without even trying.

The first time Taylor met Travis Kelce's dad, Ed, he noticed how genuine she was when she started helping around the suite. “She gets up to go get a drink or something, and she starts picking up empty bottles, cans, plates that are scattered around," he toldPeople. “And I'm just thinking, 'I don't think she got the diva memo. She didn't get the spoiled musician. She doesn't know how to pull that off.' And that really to me said a whole lot.”

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October 14, 2023 - Taylor Swift And Travis Kelce Were On SNL

Yes, Taylor Swift And Travis Kelce were both on the October 14 episode of Saturday Night Live in 2023. The couple attended the SNL afterparty together and fans were very quick to spot how much the football player took care of the singer. He opened doors for her, made sure she was okay, and reportedly even told a bodyguard that he could step aside. When I first saw the images, they looked so much like a rom-com cover to me that I thought they were photoshopped!

Then on the following Sunday night, Travis and Taylor were seen in New York City again as they made their way into a restaurant (once again holding hands!). It might be important for Swifties to note that both of Taylor's outfits are black, edgy, and very Reputation-coded... I can't wait to see what she has up her sleeve!

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October 19, 2023 - Travis Apparently Plans To Visit Taylor On Her International Tour

At this point, ET had reported that Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce were "all in" on their relationship, according to an inside source. They told the outlet that Travis intended to head to Buenos Aires, Argentina while he was on a bye-week for the Kansas City Chiefs. We hope he was able to give her those friendship bracelets this time! 😘

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October 22, 2023 - Taylor Swift Is Improving Travis Kelce's Game

After a 31-17 win on October 22, 2023, Kansas City Chiefs coach Andy Reid acknowledged Taylor's influence on Travis' game during a press conference. He noted that Travis' performance is only improving and that “Taylor can stay around all she wants.”

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The October 22 game also appeared to be the couple's official hard launch. Chiefs wide reciever Mecole Hardman Jr.'s girlfriend Chariah Gordon posted a series of photos with Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce after the game — including this one where Taylor's kissing Travis on the cheek! Swoon!

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October 31, 2023 - Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce Celebrate Halloween Together

On an episode of Jason Kelce's New Heights podcast, Travis said he loves the idea of a dinner party on Halloween night. "Like a Halloween dinner party. Everybody comes in costumes and we have a party," he says in the conversation.

But he also refuses to admit what costume he picked. "I'm gonna let mine be a surprise," he says. "I'll make sure everybody sees it, and we'll talk about it after Halloween."

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Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce's relationship only continues to get deeper in October 2023, especially since a source told ET Online that Taylor could be the one for Travis: "Everyone close to Travis loves that he is happy. He is on the path to finding that special person in Taylor."

However, given the frenzy around Taylor, and the media coverage of their relationship in general, Travis' family is also fairly concerned for their safety. (And after hundreds of fans showed up uninvited to see Taylor attend a private wedding, we kind of are too, TBH).

"They're so appreciative of their fans, but hope to keep some aspects of their relationship private going forward," the source continued. "This level of stardom is something new to Travis, and although he can handle it, he is still getting used to it. Safety is a major concern among everyone, especially given how passionate fans feel about their relationship."

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November 5, 2023 - Taylor Swift (Virtually) Celebrates Travis Kelce's New Record

After the Kansas City Chiefs game on November 5, 2023, People posted on Instagram celebrating Travis Kelce's new title as the KC Chiefs' leading receiver with 10,941 receiving yards. Taylor Swift liked the post, and considering she's very strategic and intentional about her Instagram activity, Swifites were very excited.

"Me giggling cuz TS liked this post," one user commented. "It’s an interesting time for Taylor & Kelce" another said. "They are both at supremely high career success points. What joy!"

On November 9, 2023, a source told US Weeklythat Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce “actually spend a lot of one-on-one time together and have developed a very real connection," plus the fact that "they have very detailed plans coming up on how to stay together while she’s on tour and he has games.”

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November 11, 2023 - Taylor Swift And Travis Kelce Have A Rom-Com Moment

On November 11, 2023, Taylor changed the lyrics of her song "Karma" from "Karma is the guy on the screen coming straight home to me" to "Karma is the guy on the Chiefs coming straight home to me" (a move that seemed somewhat spontaneous considering how surprised her backup dancers were!).

Travis revealed on the November 15 episode of the New Heights podcast that he had a "little bit of a clue" she'd change the lyrics. 👀

"Definitely when I heard it come out of her mouth, [it] still shocked me," he said. "I was like...'Oh, she really just said that, alright.'" He was so shocked in fact, that he didn't even realize Taylor's dad was trying to high five him. "Mr. Swift, I apologize big guy," he continued. "I never miss a high five too, big high five guy!"

And, after the show, Taylor went straight up to Travis standing outside a VIP tent and the coupleshared a kiss. It felt like it was straight out of a rom-com — a pop star running up to a star football player and surprising him with a kiss! The crowd at the concert went wild, but the internet also couldn't stop talking about it!

"This is sooooo adorable," one X user said. "Her little run. His hands behind his back like he’s waiting for his prom date or something. Ughhh they’re both in deep."

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November 20, 2023 - Travis Kelce Spills On His Relationship In WSJ Magazine

Travis Kelce once again broke the internet with his WSJ Magazine cover story. In it, he talks about football, his family, and (of course) Taylor Swift. “I’ve never been a man of words. Being around her, seeing how smart Taylor is, has been f—king mind-blowing," he says. “Obviously I’ve never dated anyone with that kind of aura about them…But at the same time, I’m not running away from any of it…She’s just living, enjoying life. When she acts like that I better not be the one acting all strange.”

Even Kelce's mom had something to add! “I can tell you this,” she says in the interview. “He’s happier than I’ve seen him in a long time… God bless him, he shot for the stars!”

Fans were also hoping to find out if Taylor and Travis were spending Thanksgiving together. Via Page Six, Taylor was set to fly back from her Eras Tour shows in Rio de Janeiro to spend the holidays in the states before heading back for another show on November 24. TMZreported that the couple "plans to be together for the holidays," which included lining their schedules up to spend as much time together as they can.

Taylor celebrated another one of Travis' milestones on Instagram, when she liked a post from the Kansas City Chiefs. "Fastest tight end to 11k receiving yards AND the only player in franchise history to do it," the post says. According to a Daily Mail source, as soon as Taylor Swift's Eras Tour wrapped up its 2023 dates, she moved into Travis' private Kansas City mansion (which he reportedly bought for them to spend time together) for the duration of her break — which included her birthday and Christmas.

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December 3, 2023 - Taylor Shows Up To The Chiefs Game Looking Festive

Taylor Swift hung out in the box seats with Brittany Mahomes in Green Bay, Wisconsin during the Kansas City Chiefs game against the Green Bay Packers.

Not only is Taylor Swift's jacket KC Chiefs red, but it was also totally Christmas appropriate! "Travis' friends think this is the real deal for him,” an insider told Peopleat the end of November 2023. “They're still a little shocked by all of it — that he's dating the Taylor Swift, but they've seen how down to earth she is with his friends and family.”

But before Taylor donned her Elmo-approved red coat, the couple was already in the Christmas spirit. They showed up to Miracle, a pop-up bar in Kansas City, on December 1, for the Chiefs' holiday party. It appears they were wearing some festive sweatshirts (as well as Taylor's signature red lip). I hope they also got to have some more chicken with "seemingly ranch".

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December 6, 2023 - Taylor Talks Travis In Her TIME Person Of The Year Article

There's been pleeeeenty of speculation about when Taylor and Travis actually started dating. Was it that first Chiefs game? Were they just friends still? Was it before that game? While only the lovebirds know their true timeline, Taylor gave us a peek behind the curtain in her TIME MagazinePerson of the Year article.

According to Tay herself, the pair started hanging out immediately after Travis first mentioned her on his New Heightspodcast. She said, “We started hanging out right after that. So we actually had a significant amount of time that no one knew, which I’m grateful for, because we got to get to know each other. By the time I went to that first game, we were a couple. I think some people think that they saw our first date at that game? We would never be psychotic enough to hard launch a first date.”

Swift continued by explaining that she and Travis "show up for each other" and that they're "just proud of each other." BRB, sobbing.

On December 8, 2023, an insider told Life & Style Mag that Travis is planning something special for Taylor's 34th birthday on December 13. “Travis has something special planned,” they say. “He’s arranged a very intimate romantic dinner just for the two of them, and is also trying to pull off a semi-surprise party with the help of some of her closest friends."

The insider also says Travis could use the evening to propose to Taylor, which we would TOTALLY be in favor of.

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December 10, 2023 - Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce Share Some Swoon-Worthy PDA

After the KC Chiefs and Buffalo Bills game on December 10, 2023, Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce went out with the team to celebrate. They wound up back at the Miracle pop-up bar! The evening was sure to lift Travis' spirits after the Chiefs' loss, and I, for one, need to make Taylor's Christmapolitan drink ASAP.

Thanks to the Chiefs' barber, @patty_cuts, we also have a pic of Taylor and Travis embracing each other at the bar! If you ask me, this deserves to be a movie poster, because I feel like we're living in a real-life rom-com. And apparently, one of their friends agrees!

"We had an amazing time," Chetarah Jackson (a friend of Travis' who sat with Taylor in the suite at the game) told ET. "Taylor and Travis are so in love. It was so cute seeing them together and I can see them getting married."

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December 17, 2023 - Taylor Swift Gets Cozy At The Chiefs x Patriots Game

Taylor Swift showed up to the KC Chiefs vs. New England Patriots game looking both comfy and cute in a Chiefs sweatshirt and beanie. In addition to Alana Haim and Brittany Mahomes, Taylor's dad, Scott Swift, also showed up to the game, which ended up being a big deal because he wore KC Chiefs gear after he's been a lifelong Philadelphia Eagles fan! 👀

Scott wasn't the only one having fun with the couple! Kaleigh Teller (Miles Teller's wife and a good friend of Taylor Swift) recently liked a TikTok speculating Travis got Taylor a very special birthday present: the ring Taylor wore during her party. It appears to be an opal stone surrounded by blue topaz, and if that's true, it has so much meaning because Travis' birthstone is opal and Taylor's is blue topaz! Thoughtful gifts are our absolute favorites... and it looks like they're Travis' too.

Travis also told People that even though he had a game on Christmas Day (his brother Jason does, too), the holiday "will be a fun one."

"My brother sent me a text and said he’s going to be celebrating afterwards," Travis continued. He also confirmed that he's planning on celebrating Christmas after the 25th too — hopefully with Taylor!

According to Page Six, Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce also spent the rest of the holidays together.

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December 22, 2023 - Patrick Mahomes Talks Taylor And Travis 👀

Patrick Mahomes hopped on CBS Morningsin December and gave his inside scoop on Taylor and Travis. While noting how comfortable Taylor is with "Chiefs Kingdom," Patrick also took a moment to recognize her many achievements.

"He's lucky enough to be with a great girl and a great woman, and it's been cool to interact with her because she's top tier of her profession — and how she drives and she becomes that, it's really cool to hear about and to see." He followed up by saying, "I'm glad that she's the person that she is, and that's why I think her and Travis match so well."

Clearly, Tay got the BFF stamp of approval!

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December 25, 2023 - Taylor Swift + Family Attend Chiefs vs. Raiders

Taylor and Santa... I mean... Austin Swift hung out at Arrowhead stadium alongside their mom and dad, Andrea and Scott. The family had some holiday fun with the Mahomes family and Papa Kelce, with Austin allegedly tossing snowballs to the fans below. Merry Swiftmas to us all!

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December 31, 2023 - Taylor Swift And Travis Kelce Share An NYE Kiss

After a Chiefs win, Taylor and Travis stepped out in style at a NYE party with their friends and family. Travis wore a Midnights-esque outfit, in head-to-toe brown courduroy — come on, '70s!

Of course, Taylor made the whole place shimmer in a stunning silver sequin dress by Cleo Peppiatt, paired with celestial hair pins and her signature red lip, which was allegedly smudged later on in the night. 😘

We got a peek at the kiss in question on Instagram, originally posted by @krystenrachelle. It's definitely giving, "I want your midnights!" 😍

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January 21, 2024 - Taylor Swift Hangs Out With Jason And Kylie Kelce

After months of attending Travis Kelce's games, Taylor Swift was finally in the box at the same time as Jason Kelce's wife, Kylie, and this is a WAG friendship we are TOTALLY here for.

Despite the media pitting them against each other, the two women were seen laughing and spending time together in the box, which really just leads me to wonder why we're constantly obsessed with women not being friends? "Kylie is so great," a source told People. "Everybody loves her."

The most talked-about moment from the game, however, can be chalked up to Jason Kelce, who jumped out of the box shirtless and started yelling at the top of his lungs. He's since been called the KC Chiefs' “No. 1 hype man,”been compared to Gabriela Montez, and gotten people's hopes up for a very lively best man speech.

Someone also captured Taylor Swift's reaction to Jason's viral moment, and it's just as funny as the moment itself!

Taylor wasn't the only one who knows how to be goofy — Travis Kelce's teammate Patrick Mahomes told People that despite the newfound media frenzy over Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce (and achieving his "dream" of being on SNL), Travis remains just as fun and down-to-earth as he always was.

“Travis has always been Travis,” Patrick told People. “He still will walk through the stadium and treat every single person like they’re his best friend. And he’s going to be like that in the locker room every single day.”

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January 28 - Taylor Swift And Travis Kelce Celebrate A Chiefs Win... And Break The Internet

After the Kansas City Chiefs won a game against the Baltimore Ravens on January 28, the team was headed to the Super Bowl! Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce celebrated with a kiss on the field, and fans have been comparing their total rom-com moment to everyone from One Tree Hill's Lucas and Peyton toA Cinderella Story's Austin and Samever since.

But the biggest moment of the night was when, during their embrace, Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce could be heard saying "I love you." According a post-game video, Travis says, “Tay, I'm going to enjoy with the guys I love you... so much it’s not even funny.” And it appears Taylor responds with “I love you too... I’ve never been so proud, EVER.” Then they go in for a kiss and a bear hug. OMG!

Jason Kelce later went on to add Taylor in with the rest of the family on the New Heights podcast: “We had the whole family down on the field. We had me, Mom, Dad, and Taylor. Everybody was down there.” Stop it right now, Jason!

In addition to a mockneck red sweater, Taylor was decked out in a gold friendship bracelet of her + Travis' initials, as well as #87-themed jewelry to support her BF. I also find it VERY important info that Taylor Swift is a square nail gal (Will this inspire my next manicure? Only time will tell).

I predicted that Taylor would show up the the Super Bowl, despite wrapping up the Tokyo leg of the Eras Tour the day before. I thought this would be a huge moment because, despite being asked to perform multiple times, Taylor has never actually performed at the Super Bowl, so she's never really had a reason to go.

Another popular fan theory is that in the past, this was due to Taylor Swift being a face of Diet Coke (she really is just like us!), while the halftime show has historically had Pepsi as a sponsor.

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February 5, 2024 - Travis Kelce Supports Taylor Swift's The Tortured Poet's Department

After Taylor Swift announced her new album, The Tortured Poets Department, at the 2024 Grammys, Travis Kelce showed support for the new album during a press conference — and he's just as excited about the new music as we are!

"She's unbelievable, she's rewriting history books herself," he said of her fourth Album of the Year win. "I told her I'll have to hold up my end of the bargain and come home with some hardware too...It's been fun to kind of gather the Swifties in the Chiefs' kingdom and open them up to the football world and the sports world."

"I have heard some of [Taylor Swift's new album], yes, and it is unbelievable," he continued. "I can't wait for her to shake up the world when it finally drops."

Travis ALSO responded to the rumors that he's looking to propose to Taylor Swift after a reporter straight up asked whether there'd be more than just a Super Bowl ring if the Chiefs won the Big Game.

"I’m focused on getting this ring, and that’s all that my mind’s focused on right now," Travis said.

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February 11, 2024 - Taylor Swift Attends The Super Bowl And Catches A Nail-Biting Chiefs Win

Taylor Swift was there to witness the Kansas City Chiefs spar off against the San Fransisco 49ers at Super Bowl LVIII in Las Vegas and ultimately see Travis' team win the game in overtime 25-22.

Taylor was spotted in box seats alongside her girl gang, Blake Lively, Ice Spice, and Ashley Avignone. Lana Del Rey joined the squad later in the game, too!

Taylor quickly tossed back a few drinks as the excitement ramped up (iconic if you ask me) in the first half of the game. After the big victory, she swiftly ran to the field to celebrate with Travis.

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“Come here, girl," he said to her. They instantly embraced and shared a long kiss in celebration of the Chiefs win. But that wasn't all!

Taylor tagged along with Travis and his teammates to the official Super Bowl after-party at Zouk Nightclub in Las Vegas. The couple danced and sang, and the club even played a few of Taylor's hits! The couplekissed during "Love Story"and even pointed at each other across the dance floorwhile a remix "You Belong With Me" blasted. Travis Kelce switched up the lyrics, singing "Are you in love with me?" instead of "You belong with me" — to which Taylor raised her glass, smiled, and danced the night away. 🎶 If you ask me, this viral moment is just the latest profession of love between the two.

“I love how he just came very quickly when your song was on,” model Marianne Fonseca tells Taylor Swift in a viral clip. “That was the most romantic thing ever.”

"We met in the middle, and I was like, 'What is my life right now?'" Taylor jokes.

The power duo left the function wearing matching glittery black outfits, holding hands the entire time. To say we're obsessed is a true understatement.

So, what's next for Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce?

Taylor will continue to embark on the international leg of her Eras Tour in Australia starting February 16. Based on everything the couple's been through so far, we don't see them going anywhere.

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February 21, 2024 - Did Travis Kelce go to Australia to see Taylor Swift? Yes!

Our fave couple continues to enjoy their time together. A source told People that they are "really happy" and "having a lot of fun, but they're still seeing where it goes." Travis Kelce also landed in Sydney on February 21 to support Taylor Swift (and our gal Sabrina Carpenter) during the Australian leg of the Eras Tour. Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce spent an afternoon at the Sydney Zoo, but did they act out any scenes from Anyone But You? We can only hope.

Travis Kelce had plenty to say about Taylor Swift in an episode of his podcast New Heights with Jason and Travis Kelce. “They helicoptered us! Well, not us, Taylor,” he says. “This is all because Taylor is the biggest and the best thing possible."

While Travis was almost entirely focused on Taylor during the conversation about Australia, he couldn't help but mention his favorite zoo animals. "The kangaroos were pretty sweet, got to see a red panda up close and personal," he continues. "It’s like a friendly raccoon...saw a tiger sitting up in a tree house, that sh—t was f—king sweet, ain’t gonna lie."

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February 23, 2024 — Taylor Swift Celebrates Travis Kelce At The Eras Tour

During her first concert in Sydney, Australia, Taylor Swift added a few blink-and-you'll-miss-'em details to her show in honor of Travis Kelce. She ended up pointing directly to him during "Willow," when she sings "that's my man," and during "Long Live," when she sings "when they gave us our trophies" (in honor of his Super Bowl win!). She also changed the "Karma" lyrics to "Karma is the guy on the Chiefs coming straight home to me." And when the concert was done? Taylor ran directly to him and gave him a big kiss. Rom-com energy!!

“When she started to come around, it was privately,” defensive backs coach Dave Merritt tells The Sports Shop With Reese & Kmac. “She was coming into the stadiums without people really knowing until the camera put a big spotlight on it.”

"[Taylor Swift] actually affected the team in a positive way," Dave continues. "Everybody was excited that Travis was happy. So when my player, my brother, is happy beside me, that helps me and that encourages me."

And after Travis started dating Taylor, Dave saw even more of a shift! "And so Travis came in there a different man...She won a Super Bowl in her first year in the NFL," he jokes. "How about that?"

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March 13, 2024 — Travis Kelce Talks About The Eras Tour In Singapore

It looks like Taylor Swift and Sabrina Carpenter are in their lover era because both Travis Kelce and Sabrina Carpenter's boyfriend Barry Keoghan showed up to the Eras Tour in Singapore!

"Fun times in Singapore," Travis says on the New Heights podcast he shares with Jason Kelce. "I got to check out the world's largest greenhouse. How about that? I'm a big plant guy. Loved seeing f—king enormous trees. It was cool as f—k, they had the world's biggest waterfall in a greenhouse, too...It was awesome man. Everything was blooming at the same time, it was so f—king unique and so nice."

But Travis ALSO got to go to two Eras Tour concerts ahead of Taylor Swift's latest hiatus (she's on a break until her first Paris concert on May 9th) — and enjoyed the shows just as much as the sights!

"I got to see two amazing shows of the Eras Tour," Travis continues. "The last of the leg that Taylor has until she's back at it here in a couple months. Yeah outside of that, got to eat some lovely Singapore food and just catch the views. Everything over there just seems so nice."

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March 20, 2024 — Travis Kelce Can't Stop Watching Love Is Blind

After a crazy year of the Eras Tour and the Super Bowl, Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce are focusing on their time together! "They’re focused on rest and recuperation and relaxing at home and having low-key and chill time together,” a source tells Us Weekly. “They are enjoying movie nights in her home theater, catching up on films and shows they’ve missed.”

We're always wondering what our favorite stars are binge watching right now, and apparently, Travis Kelce watchlist includes Love Is Blind. "You gotta watch Love Is Blind," he tells his brother Jason Kelce on a recent episode of New Heights. "It is the worst trash ever — it's worse than Catching Kelce — but it is so f—king good." (Jason's not so convinced).

But considering Travis almost seems like he's loving the show against his will, it's making me wonder if he's watching it with Taylor Swift — or if Taylor's the one who got him to watch it in the first place. I could totally see Travis and Taylor curled up on the couch with a plate of chai cookies, a blanket, and Netflix. Cozy!

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March 20, 2024 — Travis Kelce Says He "Can't Wait" To Have Kids

On that same episode of New Heights, Travis Kelce also let it slip he may be ready for kids sooner than later. When the Super Bowl winner was talking about NBA player Victor Wembanyama, Travis joked he was so talented he must have been engineered.

“You can’t tell me that dude wasn’t made in a f—king lab over there in France," Travis says. “Can’t wait til I f—kin’ make one.”

“Don’t do this," Jason jokes. "Do not give any of these other conspiracy theorists anything else to latch onto, please.” Oops, it might be too late Jason!

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March 24, 2024 — Taylor Swift And Travis Kelce Go On A Lunch Date

After a busy winter, Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce finally took some R+R and went on a big trip together! “They vacationed in the Bahamas for several days," a source tells PEOPLE. "It was a much-needed break for both of them. They very much enjoyed it. They are so happy together.”

After their Bahamas vacation, Taylor and Travis grabbed a Sunday lunch in Malibu. They both looked super cute and springy with Taylor wearing a bright blue sweater, a tan skort, and loafers, while Travis wore an oatmeal-colored pullover, hat, and a friendship bracelet.

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April 1, 2024 — Travis Kelce And Taylor Swift's Relationship Has Been "Amazing"

On April 1, Kylie Kelce told the Today show just how happy their family is for the couple. “Ultimately, if Travis is happy, we’re happy,” Kylie says. “We are always cheering on Uncle Trav, it’s such a treat to be able to do that on and off the field...It’s been amazing.”

"I'm the happiest I've ever been," Travis Kelce tells People. "I'm a guy that some people say is glass half full, half empty, and my glass is all the way full. It's all the way full...I'm oozing life right now."

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April 2, 2024 — Travis Kelce Confirms He'll Be At The Eras Tour In Europe

Swifties might be gearing up for The Tortured Poets Department, but Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce are still thinking about this year's stint of the Eras Tour!

“We are both very career-driven," he tells Entertainment Tonight. "I think we both love what we do and any chance that I can show my support to her — knowing that she has shown me all the support in the world throughout the season — it’s just been an amazing experience getting to know Tay."

Travis hasn't confirmed which concerts he'll show up to, but he does say the London shows are "can't-miss" concerts. "I think she’s at Wembley [Stadium] eight times?" he says. "Which is mind-blowing that she can do that many shows in one stadium and fill that thing up."

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April 10, 2024 — Travis Kelce Doesn't "Know How" He Managed To Date Taylor Swift

On a spring episode of his New Heights podcast, Travis Kelce admits he's still shocked he's dating Taylor Swift. "I don't know how I did it because she wasn't into sports," he says. "So I don't know how the f—k I did it." But considering Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce are two of the biggest people in the entire world, I am more than happy they found each other!

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April 15, 2024 — Taylor Swift And Travis Kelce Attend Coachella

The first weekend of Coachella was full of incredible performances from Lana Del Rey and Sabrina Carpenter (plus a very cute moment from Justin and Hailey Bieber) but it also gave Taylor Swift the opportunity to enjoy a concert from the audience! The Tortured Poets Department singer showed up to support Jack Antonoff and Bleachers, and even hung out with the band afterwards.

Taylor and Travis also attended Ice Spice's set and the rapper (who's featured on Midnights) performed her remix of "Karma"! That means Taylor finally got the full Swiftie experience, dancing to her music in the audience, and I love that for her.

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April 16, 2024 — Patrick Mahomes Says Taylor Swift Picked Up A Few Things From The NFL

In his TIME100 interview, Patrick Mahomes says Taylor Swift has learned a lot about football. “Even when she’s taking her downtime, she’s working on something," he says. "Shooting a music video or singing a song or writing a song. You can see it by how she talks. Even when she’s talking about football, when she’s learning it, you can see her business mind putting it together. It’s almost like she’s trying to become a coach. ‘Why can’t you try this, this, and this?’ She’s asking the right questions.”

“I’ve met a lot of famous people now in my life,” Patrick continues. “Taylor’s probably the most down-to-earth person that’s been on that stage for that long.”

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April 19, 2024 — Taylor Swift Releases The Tortured Poets Department

We all knew Taylor Swift's new album would reference Joe Alwyn, and I'll admit I was surprised just how much of it referenced Matty Healy. But the most pleasant surprise (in addition to some tracks Rory Gilmore would love) is that at least two of the songs are clearly about Travis Kelce! "So High School" and "The Alchemy" both use football metaphors to emphasize how exciting and youthful her relationship with Travis makes her feel. I'm obsessed!!
And on their latest date, Taylor Swift & Travis Kelce are cozied up in an LA restaurant booth. I don't know about y'all, but nothing screams '00s rom-com like hanging out in your favorite restaurant after a football game or a concert (both of which are very on brand for this couple).

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April 22, 2024 — Taylor Swift & Travis Kelce Could Attend The Met Gala

Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce have reportedly been invited to the 2024 Met Gala and I would love for this to be their red carpet debut (and for it to end up being a song on TS12?!) We'll have to wait until May 6 to find out!

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April 27, 2024 — Taylor Swift And Travis Kelce Take Vegas

While in Vegas for the 15 and Mahomies Foundation Golf Classic, Travis Kelce and Taylor Swift spent plenty of quality time together. They can be seen laughing and holding hands — and offered up four exclusive tickets to the Eras Tour for the auction! And when the gala ended, Travis went to the Wynn’s XS nightclub for a party into the early hours of Sunday morning.

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May 15, 2024 — Taylor Swift And Travis Kelce Explore Italy

During a break from the Eras Tour, Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce took some time to relax and see the sights near Lake Como, Italy. And they also shared a kiss on a boat a few days later!

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May 18, 2024 — Travis Kelce Says His "Life Could Be No Better"

At the 2024 Kelce Jam music festival presented by Jim Beam on May 18, Travis got up in front of the Azura Amphitheater and explained how much he's loving life right now. “Throughout all my years in [Kansas City], life could be no better than right the f—k now,” he says (via Page Six).

“It’s alive and popping in Kansas City and I know you guys feel that s–t too,” he continues. “I’ve been so thankful that you guys show up and show out every single time when we play at Arrowhead [Stadium] that we’re going to keep bringing Kelce Jam to you in the offseasons, baby.”

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May 19, 2024 — Taylor Swift And Travis Kelce Might Attend The Monaco Grand Prix

In between Eras Tour shows, Taylor Swift will reportedly reunite with Travis Kelce in Europe and head to the Monaco Grand Prix, via the US Sun. Travis and his teammate Patrick Mahomes are investors in the Alpine Formula One team, so showing up to the Prix only makes sense! Plus, it gives TayVis the opportunity to explore the beautiful European country on the coast, full of castles and gardens. It's giving Princess Diaries!!

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June 22, 2024 — Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce Go Instagram Official

Taylor Swift's Eras Tour in London was QUITE the show. Not only did Travis show up onstage, but Taylor and Travis finally went Instagram official — and with the Prince of Wales no less! "Happy Bday M8!" Taylor captioned a selfie featuring Travis, Prince William, Prince George, and Princess Charlotte. "London shows are off to a splendid start."

This is the first time Taylor has posted a boyfriend on her Instagram grid since 2016, and I am totally here for it!

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June 28, 2024 — Jason Kelce Spills On Taylor And Travis

We know that Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce are still enjoying their relationship thanks to a recent interview with Jason Kelce! "Yeah, there's no question," he said when asked about the relationship at the end of June. "I mean, it has more than changed Travis's [life]."

"We just want to be supportive of him and their relationship and everything that they've got going on, because it's so wonderful right now," he continues. We love this family!

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August 15, 2024 – Taylor And Travis Are "Very Affectionate," Even When They're Apart

A source close to Taylor and Travis dished about the inside details of their relationship to Entertainment Tonight, noting that "their connection is unlike anything that they've ever experienced before."

The source told ET that even though Taylor's in Europe for the Eras Tour and Travis is training for the start of NFL season, the two lovebirds still find time to text, FaceTime, and send each other gifts. That's commitment, baby!

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September 3, 2024 — Travis Kelce Reveals Taylor Swift Is Super Interested In Football

Taylor's interest in football has only increased since the beginning of her relationship with Travis Kelce, and is having fun drafting plays for him! “She’s a little biased and just creates plays for me. We’ll see if they can make it to Coach Reid’s office," Travis reveals on the Rich Eisen Show.

“She had just been so open to learning the game, she didn’t know much about the rules or anything…I think she was just curious about the profession,” he continues. “I know none of the plays have gotten to Coach Reid yet, but if they ever do I’ll make sure everyone knows it was her creation."

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September 11, 2024 — Taylor Swift Thanks Travis Kelce In Her VMA's Acceptance Speech

While accepting the award for Video of the Year for "Fortnight," Taylor Swift thanked Travis Kelce for always making set days more fun. "This video, it seems very sad when you watch it, but it actually was, like, the most fun video to make," she says. "And something that I'll always remember is when I would finish a take and I'd say ‘cut,’ and we'd be done with that take, I would always just hear, like, someone cheering from across the studio where we were shooting it, and that one person was my boyfriend, Travis."

"Everything this man touches turns to happiness and fun and magic," she continues. "So, I want to thank him for adding that to our shoot because I’ll always remember that."

This is a huge deal because it's the first time Taylor has publicly confirmed her relationship with Travis Kelce! We've always known they were meant to be :').

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October 14, 2024 — Taylor Swift & Travis Kelce Watch A Baseball Game

Taylor and Travis attended the Cleveland Guardians vs. New York Yankees championship game — and this image just makes me giggle because I've disassociated at every single baseball game I've attended, and it looks like Taylor's doing the same.

There's always an air of intrigue when it comes to our favorite celebrity relationships, but according to one DeuxMoi source, Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce have no secrets between them. "Taylor has had Travis's phone in her hand on multiple occasions and it appears she has his passcode too," they write. "He's not going to be accepting texts from an ex. People really try to paint him out to be an idiot."

November 2, 2024 — Travis Kelce Shows Up To The Eras Tour

Taylor Swift performed her last US concert the weekend of November 2, ahead of her final Eras Tour show on December 8, and Travis Kelce had the sweetest surprise waiting for her: himself! He reportedly showed up without Taylor knowing, and a source told Page Six the popstar was "shocked" — as was her family! You can actually see Andrea standing with her mouth openbefore hugging him!

"Andrea and Austin didn’t think Travis was going to be able to make it,” the source says. “They were shocked when he showed up. It was an amazing surprise and they were thrilled he was able to be there for such an important occasion.”

November 14, 2024 — Donna Kelce Reveals Whether Taylor Swift Will Spend Thanksgiving With The Family

As we're all prepping the best Thanksgiving appetizers and sides, Donna Kelce just spilled on her family's plans for the holiday. "I am going to be at a football game. Travis is playing the day after Thanksgiving,” she said on TODAY. As for whether Taylor will be with the family? "I don't think so. She's kind of busy right now. She still has her tour to do."

So, what's the relationship between Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce?

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According to Taylor herself (via an interview with Time), the pair started seeing each other right after Travis "called her out" on his New Heightspodcast in July.

Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce's relationship continues to get more serious. “They share a strong work ethic and have a huge appreciation for life and their careers, strong family bond and values," the insider tells People.

An insider also shared that during Taylor's break from the Eras Tour (during September and October), she enjoyed catching up with all of her friends and “had fun spending time with Travis.“ We cannot get enough of this couple!

How old is Taylor Swift and how old is Travis Kelce?

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Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce were both born in 1989. Travis just turned 34 on October 5, and since Taylor Swift's birthday is December 13, she's 34 now, too!

After Travis and Taylor left Arrowhead Stadium together, some Swifties noticed Travis was wearing a blue and white set, and wondered whether it served as a 1989 (Taylor's Version) double release Easter egg.

Check back here for the latest update on Taylor Swift And Travis Kelce!

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5 Money Mistakes That Can Destroy Your Friendships, According To Experts

Loud budgeting may be popular on TikTok, but conversations about money can still be awkward. I've been in romantic relationship for a little over a decade and we're just at a point where we've become aligned on finances. So imagine having random conversations with your family or friends that begin with, "I know I've never really asked before, but is it okay if I can borrow [insert x amount of $] until I can pay you back?" The nature of your platonic and familial relationships will totally determine whether you receive positive or negative responses.

As helpful as money can be, it can fracture even the closest relationships. Why? Well, psychologist Veronica West of My Thriving Mind, head of advice for Wells Fargo Emily Irwin; and Founder of Her First $100K money expert Tori Dunlap have a few ideas!

Keep reading for a few sneaky ways money can ruin your friendships:


1. Talking About Money Can Expose Hidden Feelings

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It's impossible to know how someone feels every second of the day, but we probably all think we have a good understanding of the people we're close to. But people are capable of hiding how they feel about something or burying their discomfort until certain situations 'expose' them. Why does it seem like money has a way of doing this?

Both Irwin and Dunlap agree that "money is taboo," leading people to avoid conversations about it. "Data tells us that we are more likely to talk about any other taboo topic—sex, politics, religion, even death—before we’ll talk about money," says Dunlap. West agrees and says, "Money is like that one friend who’s incredibly helpful but totally untrustworthy—everyone likes what they bring to the table, but no one wants to talk about them directly." Did you think of someone specific? It's okay because I did too!

The problem is that money can make "hidden insecurities come out, old sibling rivalries rear their heads," and more, according to West. "Even something like 'who paid for what' can suddenly become a life-or death conversation," she says. It's strange because Irwin says a Wells Fargo study shows that "many Americans across all ages are worried about money," proving we're all thinking about it, despite our avoidance issues.

2. And Money Can Also Create Unease In Conversations

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"When we don’t have open conversations about money, we’re left to navigate it on our own, which can keep us feeling underpaid, overworked, or unsure about our financial situation," Dunlap points out. She feels "discussing money requires a huge amount of vulnerability" which "isn't easy for everyone." You may have seen how other topics are swept under the rug by family members or friends based on reasons they're not ready to talk about.

Though Irwin believes saying something like saying, "'Here's what's keeping me up at night' or 'here's what my goals are' could strengthen connections," Dunlap knows that "shame, comparison, or fear of judgement" can cause people to remain tight-lipped about their finances.

If you've experienced a weird moment because of money or had to be the unfortunate witness of an awkward conversation, my apologies. It's not fun no matter who's involved because, unfortunately, "money carries layers of emotions, like pride and insecurity, that turn simple conversations into potential minefields," says West.

Dunlap says there's a silver lining if people are willing to be open, however. "The key is respecting each person’s comfort level, and encouraging openness if they're willing to meet you there. It’s not going to be perfect at first, but by starting to share more about your own financial experiences, you can start to break the cycle of shame and fear around money. You might be surprised at how quickly others are willing to open up too."

3. Making Assumptions About Other’s Money Status And Financial Situation Can Lead To Disrespecting Boundaries

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No one's saying you should never lend friends money, but being mindful about the decision is worth noting. West feels "it's complicated" while Dunlap believes the issue "can be tricky." There's a chance a low-key loan becomes an expectation that you should dish out money every time someone needs help, even if you're trying to maintain your own bills. "Lending money to a friend is like sharing your Netflix password—simple in theory, but one wrong move, and things get weird," West forewarns.

Dunlap also says, "When you lend money to someone close to you, there's always the chance that you won’t get it back. You want to be mentally prepared for that! Otherwise, it can strain your finances and your relationship. The emotional toll can be just as heavy, as unpaid loans can lead to resentment or awkwardness." It's not unusual to hear about certain friends being unreliable in more ways than one after you've let them borrow something. Unfortunately, Irwin indicates this happens because some people "don't expect to give something back that they've borrowed."

Because of this, Dunlap thinks "it's best to avoid loans if possible." Should you decide to move forward with helping out a friend who's in a bind, make sure you're both in agreement about repayment and what to expect moving forward. West says "having clear terms" or "gifting a small amount if you can afford it" is like "buying their friendship insurance." The latter is something Dunlap agrees with because it "helps prevent resentment if they can't pay you back as planned." Plus, she feels it also "keeps the loan within an amount you're okay with potentially losing."

4. Lending Money Is A Slippery Slope That Can Lead To Distrust And Resentment

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It's amazing how money can lead to a friendship breakup if boundaries aren't created or respected. "Money is a sneaky little devil who can push everyone’s buttons. It can cause resentment if one person feels taken advantage of or someone’s 'casual loan' becomes an epic saga of unpaid IOUs," West says. Not only that, but Dunlap knows "money can strain relationships between friends and family by highlighting differences in how we value it, expect to use it, or feel about sharing it."

Friends and family members shouldn't take each other's kindness for granted, but human nature is fickle at times. That's not an indicator that someone you love is a "bad" person, but they may feel like you owe them your time and money. However, Irwin says this isn't "de facto that that person is entitled." Still, Dunlap is more than aware how this can play out. "For example, it can lead to resentment if one person is always the one picking up the tab, while another might feel uncomfortable or indebted because they’ve been helped financially," she says.

On the other hand, it can show up a little differently in families. She adds, "Issues like unequal inheritance or constant requests for financial help can lead to deep emotional tension. Money can also become a tool for power imbalances, where one person feels in control and the other feels dependent, and that can mess with trust and respect."

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When certain negative patterns show up in relationships, it can make people decide to take a step back from being available. "And once distrust settles in, it’s hard to shake; nobody wants to be 'that friend' who’s forever dodging a Venmo request or getting side-eye from relatives at every family BBQ," West points out. How many times have you built up a wall with the people you love because of repeated unreliability or the expectation that you're supposed to help them whenever they ask? If you didn't hesitate to think of a moment, you're living proof that distrust can affect even the closest relationships.

Dunlap says, "When money becomes a main factor in a relationship, it can overshadow the connection, making it difficult to maintain genuine trust and understanding. You can avoid this by having open conversations with friends and family about your financial situation. Clear communication can help keep the focus on the relationship, not the money."

5. You Can Worry You're Not A Good Friend Or Family Member For Setting Money Boundaries

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Worrying about how other people feel can keep us from setting boundaries. There's a difference between being an empath and a people pleaser, but it's easy to blur the lines. You can absolutely empathize with someone's hardship while knowing you're not in the position to lend the amount they may be looking for. I'm a huge fan of saying that two things can be true at once — because they can.

Irwin says you need to "address the conversation head on" if a friend does ask you for a loan. Your response may depend on if their ask was "emotionally-charged or "in an uncomfortable environment," but Irwin doesn't recommend ignoring it. If you're not in the space to respond, here's what she suggests saying in a "timely" fashion:

  1. "Hey, I need time to think about this. Let me get back to you."
  2. "We can help you, but here are our boundaries."
  3. "We see and understand you, but we're unable to help because we're trying to pay off debt or save for _______."

Yes, Financial Boundaries Are Essential

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Don't think you need to create financial boundaries for yourself and your friends? Think again. West says, "Establishing some ground rules is a lifesaver—think of it adding airbags to the friendship. Setting boundaries early on, like when you’re still in the happy, non-monetary part of the relationship, can protect both sides if things get sticky."

Here's how she advises you proceed with creating boundaries:

  1. Keep it light and be honest; you’re not making a prenuptial agreement here, just letting them know you’d like to avoid “financial fireworks” later.
  2. Say, “I’m your friend, not your ATM.” It’s funny but helps set the tone that your wallet isn’t a free-for-all.
  3. Set a gift cap, such as, "I'm happy to chip in for brunch or a birthday, but let’s not get into home-loan territory.”
  4. If you do lend, draw up a repayment plan. Think of it as adulting with a side of accountability to avoid “accidentally” becoming their financial fairy godmother.
  5. Limit talk of big financial choices unless you’re genuinely invested together. After all, nobody needs to know how much their friend spends on avocado toast or scented candles, let alone home renos.
  6. A little humor and some boundaries go a long way. You’ll save yourself a lot of awkwardness and keep the friendships intact, one “non-loaned” dollar at a time!

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Tori says, "It's so important to have transparent conversations about money, set clear boundaries, and ensure that relationships are prioritized in any money exchange." Here are a few things you can try:

  1. Communicate about your budget with a “gratitude sandwich.” Say you’re invited to an outing—a dinner, or a sports game—that isn’t within your budget right now. You can respond with the “gratitude sandwich.” The “pieces of bread” are positive, and the “meat” is the money thing you’re scared to say. Thank that person for the invite, let them know it’s not within budget right now, and then offer a cheaper alternative, reassuring them that you’d really love to see them. Offering an alternative reminds that person that declining their invitation isn’t about them, and you still care about them. In doing so, you prioritize your budget AND your relationship in the process.When in doubt, remember that no is a complete sentence. You don’t need to overcomplicate things, and sometimes a simple “no” is all you need.
  2. Set expectations early. When planning trips with friends, discuss the budget and how costs will be split upfront. Having these conversations ensures that everyone is on the same page and helps avoid any misunderstandings. It creates a supportive, stress-free environment where everyone can enjoy the experience together without any added worries!

The Final Verdict:

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Once you've weighed your options and considered what you need, you can decide to loan your friend money. However, Irwin wants you to consider being formal about it. "You can absolutely draft a promissory note or loan agreement so that your friend knows how serious you are about your boundaries. If you want, you can also put an interest rate on it," she says.

It's not to hurt your friend's feelings, but it is a boundary you can put in place so they think to themselves, "This is truly a loan because I'm borrowing money with the intent to pay it back," Irwin says. It could change the dynamics of your friendship, but it's more about being "purposeful about the language being used" so you and your friend can both move in the "right direction," according to Irwin.

If the idea of creating a 'loan agreement' sounds icky to you, Dunlap wants you to seriously consider it as "an extra bit of protection." She says all you need to do, again, is "try setting up a simple contract to outline repayment terms" because it "can help both of you stay on the same page and avoid misunderstandings down the road."

Her ultimate piece of advice? "Only lend what you're comfortable giving and potentially losing, and keep open communication to maintain trust and respect in the relationship."

If you set clear financial boundaries and still find that your platonic relationships are weird, we have tips to help you navigate a potential friendship breakup.

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Um, Sofia Richie Gave Her 5-Month-Old Daughter A Phone — And The Texts Are Hilarious

Sofia Richie really is that girl. Her wedding reigns supreme all over Pinterest, her fashion sense is iconic, and her classy attitude is one people can't help but admire. Now, the It Girl is taking on a new adventure, and we couldn't be more excited for her — she's a first-time mom! She and her husband, Elliot Grainge, confirmed the news to Vogue on January 25, and here's everything you need to know (including little one's gender!).

Sofia Richie Grainge's Daughter Is Already Building Her Communication Skills 

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Sofia stopped by the Therapuss podcast to chat with host Jake Shane about motherhood and talked about little Eloise's latest development. According to PEOPLE,, Shane revealed, "Eloise has a little baby phone, that we get to text, or I like to text." Though she can't respond just yet, Sofia told listeners that "whoever is with Eloise gets the phone."

Shane then joked about a mini 'heated' exchange he and Eloise had via text. "I said, ‘Eloise do you mind if me and your mommy talk about how perfect you are on the podcast today?’ And she said, ‘No, keep my name out of your mouth.’ And I said, ‘Eloise, excuse me.’ She said, ‘I hate you.'"

Jokes aside, Sofia is embracing being a mother. She told Shane that her "life makes sense now" because she's "never loved anything more." Also, she doesn't mind admitting she's "obsessed with her" and thinks Eloise is "perfect."

How sweet is this?!

Sofia Richie Grainge Shared A Sneak Peek Of Her Daughter

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Sofia Richie Grainge is soaking up mommy life! She shared the sweetest pics of her family on Instagram and let the world know she wouldn't trade life with them for anything.

She's also keeping true to her word by not fully sharing baby Eloise's face, not that people seem to mind! Lily Collins commented, "😍😍😍😍🥹🥹🥹🥹" while other fans commented on how cute and perfect baby girl is.

All I can is that everyone loves an It Girl turned mom who's fully embracing the family life!

Sofia Richie Grainge Officially Announces Her Daughter's Birth

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On Friday May 24, 2024, Sofia Richie Grainge announced the birth of her daughter on Instagram. She posted a photo of a tiny little foot, captioned, "Eloise Samantha Grainge 🤍5•20•24 best day of my life🤍"

Obviously family, friends, and fans alike are ecstatic about the news! Sofia's sister Nicole Richie commented, "I now have a new favorite EG. sorry Elliot 🐧💕" Other celeb love came from Lily Collins, Emily Ratajkowski, Ashley Tisdale, Katy Perry, and soooo many more!

We're so happy for this new mom, and we're absolutely wishing she, Elliot, and Eloise the best!

How did Sofia Richie and Elliot Grainge find out they were expecting a baby?

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Sofia Richie told Vogue that she found out the exciting news very early on, at just four weeks. She was on a trip to Milan for Fashion Week for the Prada show (you know, just It Girl things) and felt sick throughout. Though she initially brushed it off as jet lag, she came back and took a test, given that she and her husband had been casually trying since April of 2023.

When that faint line came up, she sent Elliot to CVS and pick up more tests. When they all came positive, the excitement ensued! They decided to only share their news with their parents when they hit the eight-week mark. Sofia was very intentional about her decision to keep things private for a while, as pregnancy can be scary and she wanted to protect her space and mental health.

What is the gender of Sofia Richie Grainge's baby?

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This "It"-girl is having... a baby "It"-girl! That's right, Sofia Richie is expected a sweet baby girl. She told Vogue that she had her assistant buy party poppers that revealed the gender to her and Elliot. While both soon-to-be parents expected a boy, Richie's dream was to have a daughter. She says that Elliot is excited to be a girl-dad, especially because he grew up with lots of sisters.

Sofia also said that she's already curated quite a wardrobe for her daughter. She explained that since the moment she found out that she was pregnant, she's gone crazy with the online shopping. The vibe is "cute and girly," and she's been collecting pieces for years that she's excited to pass down to her baby one day!

As for the nursery, Sofia says she's all about pastel pinks — her vision is to bring a little girl's fantasy to life!

What kind of mother did Sofia Richie Grainge say she hopes to be? 

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The girl on all our vision boards has her own vision of how she's approaching motherhood. She explained to Vogue that she wants to be a role model for her daughter and raise her to be a smart and kind person. Manners are kindness are things that she really values and things that she says were instilled in her at a young age.

She wants to be her daughter's best friend in a way, and ultimately help guide her through life. TBH, it's giving Lorelai and Rory, and I'm all here for it! Richie recognizes the importance of balance in parenthood, hoping to strike the right blend of being protective without going overboard. She also wants to refrain from publicizing her child and wants her to have the option to be a private person.

How did Lionel and Nicole Richie react to Sofia Richie's pregnancy?

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The famous singer and Sofia's father, Lionel Richie is clearly excited and seems ready to be a grandfather to another baby! He reposted one of Sofia's Vogue pictures with the caption, "My little girl is having a baby!" Nicole Richie also re-posted one of the photos from the shoot with a heart and crying face emoji. I think it's safe to say this baby is being born into a family rich with love!

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25 Anthropologie Gifts That Are Perfect For The Cool Girl In Your Life

If you’re one of those people that prides themselves on delivering the perfect present and finds joy in seeing the giftee's face light up, Anthropologie is going to be your BFF for finding gifts this holiday season! From home decor to apparel and everything in between, Anthropologie delivers unique and eclectic finds that are fun and fashion-forward. It can be challenging sifting through the endless online racks of their treasures, though, so I’ve broken down the best gifts from Anthropologie so all you have to do is press *add to cart*!

Our 25 favorite Anthropologie gifts for 2024 gifting:

Let's jump into the best gifts from Anthropologie for the season! These are perfect for teen girls, Gen-Z-ers, fashion lovers, and those who can't help but hop on the latest trends.

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For the one that plans like it's a full-time job: 2025 17-Month Monogram Planner

Is there ever a better gift than something that'll help them keep their life in order? 2025, we're coming for you.

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For the cozy-chic gal: UGG Classic Mini Boots

These mini UGG boots are so on-trend right now, any cool fashion gal will adore them as a gift.

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Bring street style to their closet: The Oversized Brigitte Satchel by Melie Bianco

This bag fits everything your giftee could possibly need in the day-to-day – and then some.

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For the skincare-obsessed: NuFACE Mini+ Gift Set

This slightly-bougie skincare device tones and lifts your face while targeting signs of aging, like fine lines and wrinkles. It'll be such a luxe upgrade to your giftee's current routine!

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For the girl on the go: New Balance 530 Sneakers

These fashion-forward sneakers work well across a variety of outfits and occasions, like hitting the gym, going on a hot girl walk, or running weekend errands. The cool girl in your life will love pairing them with her favorite matching workout set and a sleek trench coat when it's cold out.

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Being trendy is too easy: Cherry Lips Bag Charm

Bag charms are all the rage right now, so help them hop on the trend with this adorably eye-catching keychain.

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To wear with her cowgirl boots: Worn/West Let's Go For a Walk Trucker Hat

Trucker hats are the perfect head gear for a casual-get up. Styles that make a statement like this one are perfect for the Western fashion lover!

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Seasonal scent for their space: Icon Woody Fresh Balsam & Cedarwood Glass Candle

Anthropologie's candle selection is bomb – you're bound to find a scent your giftee will approve of. We recommend this seasonal woody scent encased in a festive, tree-dotted glass!

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Unique lighter that looks like decor: Nomatiq Flume Electric Lighter

Pick up this electric lighter to coordinate with any candle gift. We promise they've never owned a lighter like this!

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Okay, she's a bookworm: I-SEA Aviator Readers

Whether she's working through her current TBR list or starting off the workweek, these chic readers will help her see clearly. You can snag 'em in a handful of colors and different strengths based on her vision.

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Straight to the point for the shoe lover: Maeve Pointed-Toe Moto Mary Jane Flats

All the cool girls are rocking pointed flats for winter. Bonus points for this pair being metallic!

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Cheeky Gift Ideas That Suit Anyone and Everyone

Surprise your loved ones with these cheeky gift ideas that are perfect for anyone and everyone! From quirky gadgets to fun, useful finds and playful accessories, these picks are designed to bring a smile to anyone's face. Whether you're shopping for a close friend or that hard-to-please relative, these unique finds add a dash of humor and charm to your holiday gifting. Explore these playful gifts and make this season memorable with presents that everyone will enjoy.

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This calming toy to Help Reduce Anxiety

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This Purrble calming toy has been awarded Amazon’s choice, and will be both fun and soothing for children. It is a high-tech tool and a soft, furry toy that is a cuddly interactive companion that can help children stay calm in moment of stress and anxiety!

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This Puffer Bomber Is So Chic

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Keep your EveryGirl warm and stylish all winter with this beautiful puffer bomber. It comes in a range of classic colors and bright, bold, eye-catching colors so you can find the perfect look.

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Blow Off Some Steam With A Dammit Doll

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When you just can't take it anymore and need to yell and scream, take it out on a Dammit Doll. "The Classic Dammit Doll is engineered to absorb all that negative energy so you can let go and get your happy back on." Verified Purchaser, A. Preston, said, "I have been gifting Dammit Dolls for several years, they never fail to get a smile out of the recipient!"

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A Form of Shart

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This gift is just so hilarious, it had to make the list. If you have a friend who enjoys a good giggle, this is the one!

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Fidget Putty Is Perfect For Concentration

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Forget the fidget spinner, it's all about the fidget putty. This clever product contains over 500 ferrite stones that mould together like putty. It can help to calm an anxious mind or keep you focused.

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Advent Calendar But Make It Makeup

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Bring back all of the childhood feels with this advent calendar stocked for the makeup guru who likes to sample new high-end products and fragrances.

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Mini Karaoke Machine

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Bring the party home with this Mini Karaoke Machine. This portable Bluetooth speaker for kids comes complete with two wireless microphones, perfect for family singalongs or as a unique gift for the little songbird in your life.

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These Slippers Are Perfect for Cold Weather

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These UGG Slippers are made from ultra-cozy dyed sheep fur and feature a cushiony insole and rubber outsoles. They will keep your giftee’s feet warm inside but are also a total delight to look at.

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Remove Sebum and Blackheads With This Tool

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This adorable tool was made to clean out your pores with just a few sweeps. The Tako pore scrubber pulls out impurities to leave your skin looking and feeling clean and bright.

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The Not-So Piggy Bank

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This piggy bank is lacking a piggy but serves adults and children alike. You can put in whatever amount you'd like and take out any amount you like (hence the ATM.) Genius!

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Put Your Phone on DND and Enjoy Some Quiet Time

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Bring back the art of conversation with this card game designed to spark meaningful discussions. Featuring over 300 questions, it's perfect for fall camping trips or cozy nights in with friends and family. Whether you want to reconnect or have fun, this game is a great way to spend those crisp autumn evenings.

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The Top Selling Pillows On Amazon

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Want a hotel feel every night? These Beckham Hotel Collection Pillows are the answer we're all looking for. They outsell every other pillow on Amazon by a landslide and are made with a cooling gel fiber to keep you from overheating. You'll sleep like royalty.

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Shoe Spray to Spray the Stink Away

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Enjoy a fresh pair of shoes every time you put them on and avoid the embarrassment of taking off your shoes that have a stench when at someone’s house. The shoe spray gets rid of the nasty odors that may happen over time so you can feel confident in your walk.

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This Organizer Bin With a Genius Design

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If you've little ones with a million toys that are always making a mess, then you know the struggle that comes with getting them to tidy up. This organizer bin is a game-changer, perfect for small toys since not only does it have large storage space, but it also doubles as a playing mat so that when your kids are done playing, everything can cleaned up at once, saving you the hassle and stress.

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A Portable Photo Printer To Make Prints Anywhere

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Just when we thought we had enough photos on our phones, the HP Sprocket Photo Printer stepped in to display our shots physically. The portable photo printer boasts Bluetooth connectivity and can print images at 2 x 3in, roughly the size of a credit card. The best part? It can also apply effects, filters, and more.

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This Desk Lamp For Lighting But in the Cutest Way

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Light up your space with the desk lamp in the shape of a bird, making it a cute gift for a child or adult. It adds the essence of nature inside.

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Cowboy Hat-Wearing Duck Lamp

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It doesn't get more unique for a gift than this cute little cowboy hat-wearing duck table lamp! This little guy includes a USB port for rechargeable ambiance and touch control for personalized dim light.

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This Comfortable Bath Pillow Takes Relaxation to Bliss

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Indulge in the ultimate bath relaxation with the LuxSetp pillow, a #1 best-seller, complete with a plush cushion and neck roll. It is designed for supreme head and shoulder support while soaking and is crafted from breathable, quick-dry mesh. Attaching it to their tub is a breeze, with six handy suction cups included.

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The Stanley Stainless Steel Tumbler Is a Fan Favorite

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Don't miss out on gifting the popular Stanley Stainless Steel Tumbler, which will be a hit this holiday season. This double-wall vacuum-insulated tumbler is available in almost two dozen colors and four sizes.

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Go Solo

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The Solo Stove has been all over the news lately, thanks to Snoop Dogg's hilarious commercial. The Stove was made to fit perfectly on backyard tables, offering the lucky recipient with the perfect place to roast marshmallows or a just fun spot to enjoy a bit of backyard rest and relaxation.

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Wrap Up In Warm in These Essentials

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This season, gift comfort with these teddy slippers. You won't believe how quickly they will mold to feet. Perfect for winter evenings of fireside lounging.

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Comfy Couch Blanket

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This is an easy and fail-proof gift to give someone you don't know well. A fuzzy blanket for comfy movie nights and an easy way to add style to their living space!

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Nostalgic Glow From This Tetris Lamp

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Light up a gamer's world in more ways than one. This Tetris lamp isn't just about illumination; it's a tactile experience, a puzzle in itself. Let them design their own luminous masterpiece. Beyond being a practical gift, it’s a journey down memory lane, evoking nostalgia and delight.

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They'll Feel Pampered With This Laneige Holiday Gift Set

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After trying the popular Laneige lip mask, we fully understand the hype. This gift set has all of the star favorites from your favorite moisturizing brand, from a cream moisturizer to their coveted, best-selling lip mask. There are a few different sets to choose from, making it easy to tailor to your gift recipient.

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Astronaut Galaxy Night Light

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This SunTime Star Projector Galaxy Night Light is a mesmerizing gift that transforms any room into a starry galaxy, perfect for kids and adults who love a touch of celestial wonder.

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Handprint Kit

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With this CHERRY CHEERS Family Handprint Kit, you can create a personalized keepsake wooden frame, an endless gift set that captures family moments in a unique and fun way.

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This Heated Neck Stretcher For the Whole Body

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Since it is connected, your body will feel better using the heated neck stretcher. Gift a loved one this gift for muscle relaxation and therapeutic heat done right at home.

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This Camera Bundle for Pro-Level Shots

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This bundle includes the Canon EOS Rebel T7 camera, which is compact but can capture high-quality photos and videos. It comes with additional accessories, including extra camera lenses, filters, a tripod, and more tools that’ll give them more freedom to experiment with different photography styles.

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Give Their Plants a Personality with these Magnets

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For the plant lovers among you, these magnets are the perfect gift. With three expressions and three adorable animals, they add a playful touch that’ll bring a smile to your recipient’s face. Take it from this reviewer: “These are such a unique and inexpensive gift for the plant enthusiast in your life. Turn a simple plant into an adorable conversation item. They will make you smile when watering your houseplants.”

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This Book Nook for DIY Enthusiasts

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Available in four beautiful designs, this book nook is not only a wooden puzzle that’s very fun and fulfilling to assemble, but it also culminates into a beautiful and functional display piece for your recipient’s bookshelf.

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Relieve Tension With an Infrared Heat Mat

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This infrared heat mat delivers far-infrared heat that relieves your sore muscles. It's a great way to stimulate muscle recovery and ease into relaxation.

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A Coloring Book with a Sense of Humor

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The "Things You Want to Say at Work But Can't" coloring book is the perfect gift for that person just trying to get through the work week. It not only offers an outlet for stress relief, but each page has hilarious sayings that are sure to get a much-needed laugh.

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Legacy Journal

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This Legacy Journal by Duncan & Stone is a thoughtful gift that lets grandparents share their stories and wisdom across 85 beautifully designed pages.

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Christmas Snow Globe for Magic Glittery Moments

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Shake the Christmas snow globe and watch as snow starts to fall on the tree and presents inside. It is a beautiful sight that makes for a beautiful gift.

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For the True Crime Lover

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The excellent gift for the Law and Order true crime junkies is this criminal minds brain game is a fun way to test their memory and gives them an excuse to play private investigator.

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This Kit to Crochet the Stress Away

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Whether they want to try their hand at crocheting their clothes or trinkets like book sleeves, mats, and more, this crochet kit includes everything needed, including 21 crochet hooks, 15 skeins of yarn, and 37 additional accessories that’ll come in handy. It’s a therapeutic hobby and the key to making practical yet cute items they’ll love.

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These Solar Wind Chimes For Musical Days and Nights

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Add sound to time spent at home with the solar wind chimes that make for a gift that keeps giving. The sounds of chimes have a calming effect on anyone.

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Every Kitchen Needs One

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High-quality pots and pans aren't easy to find, but this set fits the description. The gorgeous, non-stick, oven-safe, and dishwasher-safe set comes with a detachable handle that can change from pot to pan and back again to offer the ultimate convenience for the home chefs in your life.

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This B5 Balm Soothes Dry Skin

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The hands and body can get seriously cracked and dry during the unforgiving winter. This La Roche-Posay Cicaplast Balm B5 is a must-gift for your friend who needs a soothing balm. Healing and therapeutic, this multi-purpose cream will soothe dry and cracked skin.

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Gift the Joy of Cozy, Warm Sips with a Temperature-Controlled Mug

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For that person who always has a hot drink at hand during the holiday season, this temperature-controlled mug is the most practical and thoughtful gift. It has three heat levels, ensuring that they can savor every sip in perfect peace without worrying about a lukewarm drink.

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The Screaming Goat: For the Office Jokester

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The Screaming Goat figurine, which is complete with a book, is a must-have for the office prankster. The unexpected goat scream will effortlessly lighten the mood and draw laughs on busy days filled with silence and concentration.

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This Smart Notebook Transmits Handwritten Notes

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Pop your notes online, and then here's the magic: zap your Rocketbook reusable notebook in the microwave, and voilà, all 80 pages are fresh again! It's a game-changer for doodlers, busy students, or note-takers in endless meetings. Say goodbye to carrying a pile of heavy notebooks - this journal is about making their life lighter.

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Healing Crystal Candle To Calm Their Bah Humbug Attitude

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Aromatherapy tea light candles filled with crystals to channel positive energy and encourage holiday cheer. Illuminate their home with Amazon's Healing Crystal Candle!

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These Nostalgic And Fashionable Mini Ugg Boots

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These Mini Ugg Boots will put a smile on any fashionista's face. With sheepskin lining and insoles, these boots will keep anyone warm all winter long whether they are inside or outside.

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This Unique Jewelry Wash Makes It Easy to Keep Your Jewelry Sparkling

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Featured as one of Oprah's favorite things, this jewelry wash cleans your jewelry while you wash your hands. It uses safe and effective ingredients to give your jewelry a deep clean while nourishing your skin, and it's formulated to be safe for all metals, gemstones, and jewelry types.

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Chill Out with These Meditation Disks

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These tone therapy meditation disks are meant to be placed on either side of the body to release a full meditative 3-minute healing sound bath that's helped thousands of people with their anxiety.

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Portable Blender

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This Ninja Blast Portable Blender is a cordless, rechargeable device perfect for health-conscious individuals who love their shakes and smoothies on the go.

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Keep your pet entertained for hours with a motion-activated toy

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Every pet owner knows how it feels to want to spend hours playing with their pet but remember that they have other obligations they must attend to. If you think this is you, you can provide your pet with entertainment without having to spend hours playing. Enter this motion-activated toy that dogs will love.

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This Bracelet Doubles As a Charging Cable

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You would never guess that this wristband also serves as a mobile phone charging cable. This fashionable accessory is ideal for anyone consistently on the go and is available in several hues to suit personal style.

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This Toiletry Organizer For Travel

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Anyone who frequently travels will appreciate this Toiletry Organizer. It features separate compartments for everything you need for a successful trip, including makeup, skincare, and hair products.

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Unlock a World of Unusual Knowledge With This Book

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‘The Book of Unusual’ is a best-seller on Amazon, and its name is the only gag aspect. Filled with intriguing trivia across entertainment, politics, art, and more, it's a wealth of unusual and fascinating information, perfect for the curious mind.

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This Drawing Tablet is For Beginners of Graphic Design

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Beginner-friendly, this drawing tablet has ample drawing space so that creating digital artwork is easy and comfortable. It has various levels of pressure sensitivity for accurate drawings, and there are eight customizable keys on the side that your recipient can set up with convenient shortcuts.

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A Set of Kawaii Erasable Gel Pens That Is Just Adorable!

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According to Wikipedia, "kawaii" (rhymes with Hawaii) is the "culture of cuteness in Japan." That explains how popular Hello Kitty and Pikachu are. The Pig, Bear, Cat, and Mouse that make up this Set Of 4 Erasable Gel Pens can certainly be described as Kawaii. See, listicles can be educational! Only .55 cents!

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This Adult Sensory Toy for Relief

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Get out your stresses of the day with the adult sensory toy. It makes for a terrific gift, even if just for play. Build funky structures with the magnets.

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An Oasis Of Relaxation With This Shower Bomb

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Transform your daily shower into a spa retreat with this Shower Bomb, the ideal gift for those who appreciate moments of relaxation and rejuvenation. This Shower Bomb infuses your shower with soothing scents and a refreshing ambiance, turning your routine into a wellness experience. Whether it's for a self-care enthusiast, a fitness fanatic, or someone who simply enjoys the gift of serene moments, this Shower Bomb is the ultimate gift that ensures your shower becomes an oasis of relaxation.

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Everyone Needs These Apple Air Tags

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Your family and friends will love these popular Apple Air Tags that can track personal belongings ranging from cell phones and wallets to keys and wireless headphones.

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The Ultimate Chill Onsie

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These are the perfect PJs or loungewear for a homebody. It doesn't get more comfortable than hanging at home in a onsie.

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Glass Teapot For Two

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Brewing the perfect cup of tea with this exquisite glass teapot for your folks. It makes a splendid gift for tea-loving parents who enjoy sharing this delightful beverage together.

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This Lip Sleeping Mask Nourishes Overnight

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This LANEIGE Lip Sleeping Mask is essential for nourishing lips overnight. This product blew up after Sydney Sweeney campaigned with the brand, hyping it on socials, and then it started flying off the shelves.

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This 3-in-1 Charging Station Is a Great Secret Santa Gift

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This compact 3-in-1 Wireless Charging Station is a great Secret Santa gift as it can charge various tech essentials and easily fits any tabletop.

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These Classic Athletic Socks

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There is no stocking stuffer better than Classic Socks. These athletic unisex socks come in white and black color options and can be worn during leisure or physical activities.

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These Satin Bed Sheets Enhance Comfort in the Bedroom

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Slide into luxury with DECOLURE's satin bed sheets. Their silky texture is a dream against your skin. This lightweight, wrinkle-resistant set, complete with a fitted sheet, flat sheet, and two pillowcases, comes in various sizes and colors to suit any taste.

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Streak-Free Cleaning with These Microfiber Glasses Cleaner

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This Microfiber Glasses Cleaner is ideal for effectively cleansing lenses while avoiding scratches. They are an excellent substitute for wearing a shirt to wipe glasses and serve as a practical present for those wearing spectacles.

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An Adorable Note Dispenser for Your Office Buddy

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Add a touch of whimsy to any desk with this adorable cat-themed note dispenser. Beyond its endearing design, this little feline friend serves a practical purpose by effortlessly dispensing post-it notes. It's not just a desk accessory; it's a charming companion that brings both the cuteness factor and functionality to the workspace.

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Boost Productivity Anywhere with This Work From Anywhere Kit

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This Work from Anywhere Kit is ideal for remote workers or digital nomads. With 17 essential items, it transforms any location into an efficient workspace inspired by the latest TikTok trends.

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This Mini Waterproof Bluetooth Speaker

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This Mini Bluetooth Speaker is perfect for travel and outdoor use. It can even be used in the shower to deliver high-quality sound without distortion for the ultimate listening experience.

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For the Traveling Soldier

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You can't go wrong with gifting the best makeup bag on the entire planet! This traveling organizer unfolds to reveal four separate storage compartments and even has space for makeup brushes so they don't get crushed in transit. The 360-degree swivel hook makes it easy to hang up in a hotel room or the car for easy access anytime.

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Customizable Door Mat Is a Cute Addition to the Home

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Gifting this Customizable Door Mat will turn a house into a home and bring a smile to their face every time they see it. It definitely adds a personal touch when welcoming guests this holiday season.

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This Star Map Showcases the Sky on Their Special Day

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If you’re looking for a one-of-a-kind way to show someone how much you care, this customizable star map is perfect. This artwork will show the constellations in the sky on any date you choose; how cool! You can customize the phrase, names, date, location, and font, so it’s a thoughtful and chic decor item.

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A Tray to Enjoy a Romantic Breakfast in Bed

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Let your parents know you want them to enjoy their time with a bedtable tray. It holds lots of food and coffee so they can stay in bed for hours.

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Dad Will Love This Beard Trimmer

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Get your dad to chop off those extra hairs so he doesn’t look like Santa, and see how much he will love this Beard Trimmer.

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These Best-Selling Earbuds Are Quality Sound On a Budget

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The TOZO earbuds feature Bluetooth 5.0 and a water-resistant design. They're the savvy pick over pricier brands, boasting a stellar 4.3-star rating from 357K+ reviews. Users are raving about the impressive 30 hours of playtime.

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