How To *Actually* Feel Better After A Mental Health Day

Chloe Williams​
May 01, 2023
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More times than we can count, we've gotten to the end of a mental health day or a day off work and felt more stressed than we were at the beginning. This is because we spent the entire day doing chores or way too much time scrolling through TikTok.

In honor of Mental Health Awareness Month throughout May, we wanted to help brainstorm ideas for any upcoming days off. That way, you can spend them in a way that will actually leave you feeling better than before. We broke down the ideas into three categories depending on the kind of rest you need most.

  • Physical Rest: If you're worn down and just need to give your body a break, you might just need some physical rest to give your body time to recover.
  • Mental Rest: This kind of rest can mean multiple things. You can take part in activities that require no brain power whatsoever or activities that just require a part of the brain you don't use at work.
  • Social Rest: If you're an introvert, or you just feel overwhelmed by people, find some activities you enjoy that you can do alone.
What counts as rest will be different for every person and season of life. The kind of rest you need might even change! Do your utmost to spend the day in an enjoyable way instead of doing chores or things that you *have* to do, but if you absolutely must get stuff done, brainstorm an easier way to do them. Can you order groceries instead of going to the store? Add a laundry service to your budget so you don't have to spend the time doing it yourself?
Before your mental health day, make a list of ideas for spending your time and what boundaries you've set in place. If you like structure, you can create a fun and cute itinerary, or you can just add a bunch of ideas to pick from in the moment. Keep reading for some fun ideas.

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Take A Bubble Bath

We will recommend bubble baths forever and ever. They're so relaxing and are the perfect thing for any spa day. Use up a bath bomb with your favorite scents, or add in some Epsom salts to help alleviate any aches you might have around your body.

Our favorite thing to do when we take a bath is to set up our favorite movie or feel-good show, make a snack, and grab some affordable wine. Talk about pampering! We always feel way more relaxed after a bubble bath.

Sit Outside And Read

If you don't want to sit inside for the entirety of your mental health day, sit outside with a new book. That way, you don't have to leave the neighborhood if you still want to stay home for the afternoon, but you'll also be able to get some fresh air.

Binge Watch Your Favorite Show

If you are absolutely exhausted and really do need to just lay down all day, we totally understand. It's nothing to feel guilty about — it's important to listen to your body! Make yourself a delicious lemonade or some homemade salsa, wrap up in a blanket, and curl up in front of a show or a movie that you haven't had time to watch in the last few weeks. Some days you just need to veg.

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Do Your Entire Beauty Routine

While a skin-care routine doesn't have to take you a full hour, it can be fun to spend the time getting every single detail right and really pampering yourself. Spend time overlining your lips, perfecting your siren eyes, and getting your foundation (or tinted moisturizer) looking just right — even if you're not leaving the house! It'll let you use your hands but is definitely something you can do without a lot of thought.

Make The Perfect Latte

Espresso, oat milk, and syrups come together to create coffee drinks we will never get enough of. If you enjoy the process of making drinks, spend the time creating an Apple Crisp Macchiato or Iced Vietnamese Coffee, even if it takes you longer to make than to drink it. Or you can go out for coffee if there's a cafe that you never have the time to visit — you might get to see some familiar faces, too!

Do A Craft

If you work a job that requires analytical skills (or you just like doing creative DIYs), then making something with your hands and the creative side of your brain will give the rest of your brain a break. Put on your favorite Meg Ryan movieor our Coastal Grandmother Spotify playlist!

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Journal

Break out your newest gratitude journal and check out some of our journal prompts for growth and creativity to figure out how you're feeling or just get some of your thoughts out on paper. You can share with other people once your social battery recharges, or keep them to yourself.

Make A Delicious Meal

Make a yummy meal for one if you enjoy cooking, and it relaxes you. It can be something fancy like a date-night meal with multiple courses, setting up an afternoon tea, or Nutella Brownies that allow you to spend time mixing, stirring, and (most importantly) taste testing.

Do Things You Enjoy, But Do Them Alone

We highly recommend doing your favorite activities — whether it is walking around the park, going out to eat, or shopping — stag. You don't need to rely on anyone else to have a great time, and this is a great way to enjoy your day without zapping your social battery.

How are you going to spend your next mental health day? Let us know in the comments and check out our Pinterest and newsletter for more self-care inspo!

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6 Ways To Magically Attract New Friends (And Keep The Ones You Have)

If you're finding it hard to make friends as an adult, or maintain friendships from different life stages, you're definitely not alone. According to Dr. Deborah Gilboa, MD, Scientific Advisor for Azar, and a recent study from Azar and Talker, it's not abnormal to feel heightened levels of loneliness. In fact, that study suggests Gen Z feels lonely every day.

"Loneliness feels isolating because it goes beyond just lacking company; it’s a lack of meaningful connection," she says over email. "Social contact without meaning can worsen loneliness as it increases the individual’s perception of isolation and lack of belonging. The antidote is true social connection."

But how can we find that real social connection and community? I talked to Dr. Gilboa, JustAnswer Mental Health Expert Jennifer Kelman, and NYC Psychologist Dr. Alexandra Stratyner PhD, for some insight into behaviors that attract friends. Here are some behaviors that will simply make you irresistible — and will help you identify good friends in others!

Keep reading for some advice on how to attract friends — and easy ways to be a better friend to the people you love.

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There's no shame in realizing you're feeling lonely, but it's also important to identify when that loneliness morphs into isolation. "Even though many might be experiencing the same feelings, that doesn't mean they are reaching out for support," Kelman says. "Many are not feeling enough strength to reach out to others or feel like they are being a burden so they reason alone with their feelings."

"It's also become more evident as our reliance on digital communication has grown, sometimes leaving us more connected online but feeling less understood and less connected in more meaningful, in-person ways," Dr. Stratyner adds. And then there's the social expectation of it all. "Many people tend to hide their loneliness because they feel shame or embarrassment about it. This can make it even harder to open up and connect with others who might be feeling the same way. The more we keep these feelings to ourselves, the more it reinforces the isolation, even though we all experience it in varying forms."

"It is hard to see light when things feel dark, and many go inward to deal with their feelings," Kelman points out. "Many are so burdened by their feelings that they might not feel capable to care for those around them or to show up and be present for others."

And just like Dr. Gilboa says, we're looking for true connection, not just surface-level friendships. But how can we make true social connection? Here's what they suggest.

1. A good friend shows care and empathy for the people around them.

If you care for the people around you, there's a very good chance others will want to be your friend. "People that show empathy toward others are very attractive qualities as it shows that one has the capacity to care for others and be present for them," Kelman says. "Those that are gregarious and selfless can be quite appealing as well. Those that are self-involved tend to repel others rather than attract."

Focusing on others instead of yourself can be easier said than done, but the it's definitely worth it. "People are drawn to those who show genuine care and understanding," Dr. Stratyner agrees.

​2. A good friend is reliable and trustworthy.

Our inner circle is going to be made up of people who know us inside and out, but it's unlikely someone will reach that level of emotional intimacy unless you really trust them. "In friendship people rate reliability, honesty and trustworthiness more highly [than romantic relationships]," Dr. Gilboa says.

​3. People are attracted to humor.

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I'm sure we can all think of someone who never fails to make us laugh. And being the funny friend can mean a lot of things: you know how to poke fun at yourself or you don't take things too seriously (unless they need to be taken seriously, of course). But that doesn't mean making other people the butt of mean jokes.

"A good sense of humor helps foster a positive, lighthearted atmosphere, making interactions feel enjoyable and memorable," Stratyner says. "Plus, everyone loves to laugh."

​4. You need to be a good listener.

No one wants to be talked at and never listened to. After all, we do have two ears and one mouth! But simply nodding your head and zoning out won't cut it. "People appreciate feeling truly heard," Dr. Stratyner says. "This demonstrates respect, interest, and a willingness to connect on a deeper level."

"Be a great listener without asserting your own views or agenda," Kelman adds. "Be available, vulnerable and present. Ask those around you how they are and truly listen to how they feel. Be open and direct and most of all, be a constant. Nothing better than knowing that you will be there for all things."

So engage with what your friends are saying and, even better, remember it later!

5. A good friend is generous.

Is there a better time to talk about generosity than Thanksgiving? Be generous with your time, resources, and your heart — but don't worry, that doesn't mean you have to let someone else steam roll you. After all, a good friend also won't take advantage of you!

"Giving to others and the community are wonderful traits and habits that are very attractive to others and may draw people in," Kelman says. "People want to be around people that give and are easy-going in their interactions with individuals and the world around them."

​6. New friends are attracted to positivity.

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When things feel dark, new friends will be attracted to someone who can make the world feel a little lighter. "People are often attracted to those who can find the silver lining, stay hopeful, and spread good vibes, especially in challenging situations," Dr. Stratyner says.

That's not to say you can never have bad days or process things like disappointment and grief. It just means you aren't ruled by them. (Listen, as an Enneagram 4, I'm talking to myself!)

Ok, you might be thinking, this is great but what do I do with this information? Here are some easy, actionable steps to take if you want to make new friends.

1. Understand why you're feeling lonely will help you address the real problem.

"First is to get an understanding of the loneliness and where it is coming from...finding community too soon may cause an increase in loneliness even while being surrounded by others," Kelman recommends.

You can't reach a solution if you don't know what the real problem is. I realized since I work from home, I need to do better about leaving the apartment, and my favorite way to spend an afternoon is coworking with a friend at a coffee shop.

​2. Finding new hobbies will connect you with similar people.

I met some of my best friends through a big movie group, which means when I have a meme or a piece of news to fangirl over, I know exactly who to contact. "Find activities that ignite you, find like minded individuals with whom to connect," Kelman adds. "Join a book club, pick up a new sport or hobby, but again, trying to immerse yourself too soon may not have any impact on the lonely feelings."

"The antidote to loneliness is social connection — true connection that paves the way for belonging," Dr. Gilboah says. "Talking to people to learn what interests and values are shared will open the door for the types of relationships that become community."

​3. Don't be afraid to put yourself out there.

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Listen. If you only ever order takeout and watch Netflix, you'll simply never make new connections. You gotta get after it! "Look for community events, clubs, or hobby groups that align with your interests, whether book clubs, sports leagues, or volunteering opportunities," Dr. Stratyner says. "Being around people with shared passions makes it easier to start conversations and find common ground."

​4. And don't be afraid to reach out first.

For some reason, we've decided that reaching out first (or double texting) means we're needy and insufferable. This is simply not the case because who doesn't want to know they were thought of!! Plus, there's a good chance that if you're overthinking every little detail, other people are too.

"Reach out, even in small ways, to those around us who may be feeling the same," says Dr. Gilboah. "Loneliness often leads to rumination - the act of dwelling on or spiraling downward through negative thoughts. Ruminating can cause further isolation and distracts us from the people and stimuli around us."

​5. Be present when you're finally with people.

When you do make special connections, it's super important to make sure you're offering your full attention. "Showing up emotionally and physically makes them feel valued and heard, strengthening your bond," Dr. Stratyner says. She also recommends checking in to remind them you're there, and genuinely celebrating their wins (which, separately, is definitely a sign of being a girls' girl). "If a friend is going through a tough time, offer to help in any way you can," she adds. "Sometimes, simply acknowledging their struggle and offering your time can make all the difference."

"The best news about friendship is that Gen Z values authenticity above just about any other factor in friendship," Dr. Gilboah says. "Gathering the courage to be your true self and [mixing] that with empathetic listening will make you a sought after friend."

What's your favorite way to get to know new friends? Here are 10 Thought-Provoking Questions To Know Close Friends More Intimately!

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Your December Horoscope Is Extra Merry For These 4 Signs!

As we enter December, we enter a month filled with new possibilities and discoveries, thanks to Sagittarius Season. This cosmic period encourages us to be open-minded, adventurous, and focused on expanding our horizons — what better energy to carry through the holidays? However, don’t expect everything to go smoothly. Mercury is in retrograde throughout the month, allowing us to reflect on past decisions, revisit old conversations, and untangle any lingering doubts.

But don’t worry — there are silver linings ahead! The Universe supports us in finding our way forward, helping us piece together a path that aligns with our true intentions. Ready to see what the stars have in store? Keep reading for detailed insights into your Sun, moon, and rising signs, and prepare to make the most of December’s cosmic twists and turns.

Read to get your exciting December horoscope for 2024!

​Key Dates For Sagittarius Season In December 2024

  • 12/1 New Moon in Sagittarius
  • 12/6 Mars Retrograde
  • 12/7 Venus enters Aquarius
  • 12/15 Full Moon in Gemini, Mercury Direct
  • 12/21 Sun enters Capricorn
  • 12/29 Chiron Direct

​What To Expect In Your December Horoscope For 2024

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The month begins with a magical New Moon in Sagittarius on December 1, perfectly aligning with the heart of the Scorpion star Antares. This cosmic event is primed for manifestation, offering us the energy to overcome obstacles. While Mercury retrograde continues its backspin until mid-month, this New Moon will complement the retrograde's reflective nature. You can use this time to create vision boards, journal your wishes, or meditate on areas where you've been looking for answers. This lunation will help illuminate blind spots and provide the clarity you need moving forward.

Be patient—your ideas may not take form immediately but will unfold later this month. Trust the process, and hold firm to your vision.

As we move into December 6, Mars will retrograde in Leo, inviting us to hit the brakes and reassess how we use our energy, particularly in love, creativity, and career. This retrograde will last until February 23, 2025, so take this opportunity to reflect on your passion projects, relationships, and personal goals. Rather than pushing ahead, take a step back, strategize, and refine your approach.

On December 7, Venus enters the electric sign of Aquarius, bringing a fresh, unconventional vibe to our relationship. Love feels more exciting and spontaneous during this time, perfect for embracing new forms of connection or exploring unique romantic experiences. Whether through group activities, online communities, or quirky encounters, Venus in Aquarius encourages us to keep things fun and unpredictable.

The Full Moon in Gemini on December 15 will bring a flood of emotions, especially around communication. This lunation makes a dreamy aspect to Neptune, making it a perfect time for creative expression—whether through writing, art, or other forms of imaginative work. However, be mindful of confusing or exaggerated exchanges. If you feel unsure, trust your intuition, but avoid making major emotional decisions. On the same day, Mercury goes direct, bringing much-needed clarity to areas that have felt stalled. Communications, travel plans, and crucial discussions will flow more smoothly, allowing you to make headway on projects or clear up lingering misunderstandings.

The Sun moves into Capricorn on December 21, shifting towards focus and ambition. This transit will bring a surge of energy to tackle work, career, and personal goals. However, the holidays may bring extra stress, especially around family dynamics. Remember to give yourself grace and be patient with your progress. You're moving toward your goals one step at a time.

Finally, December closes with Chiron Direct on December 29, signaling a time to accelerate your healing journey. This cosmic shift asks you to reflect on your growth over the past year and make strides toward emotional healing. As you spend time with family and loved ones, use this moment to restore and rejuvenate. Self-care practices, journaling, and honest conversations will help you move forward with a deeper sense of self-acceptance.

​Which Zodiac Signs Will Be Lucky This December 2024?

December is shaping up to be an auspicious month for Sagittarius, Aquarius, Leo, and Libra. For Sagittarius, the central theme is personal growth and new beginnings, as the New Moon in your sign sets the stage for new opportunities, empowering you to take bold steps toward your dreams. Aquarius will also shine with Venus in your sign, boosting your confidence, creativity, and charm — perfect for attracting positive attention and aligning with your long-term goals. Leo, with its focus on self-love and creative pursuits, will find joy in romantic connections and social endeavors, bringing new energy and excitement into your life. Finally, Libra’s month is filled with fun and collaboration, as Venus enhances your love life and social sphere, while the New Moon brings opportunities to communicate and expand your horizons. With a blend of personal and social growth, these four signs are set for a month of luck, transformation, and fresh opportunities. Read below for your sun, moon, and rising December 2024 horoscope.

​Read Your Sun, Moon, & Rising Signs For Your December Horoscope

Aries (March 21 – April 20)

Theme: Prioritize Your Dream

Spread your wings and fly, Aries. The New Moon in Sagittarius encourages you to analyze your personal beliefs. Set a course by learning something new, traveling, or launching your dream project. This is a powerful time to set long-term goals related to growth and discovery. Mars retrograde may slow your creative or romantic pursuits, urging you to reassess your passions and how you express them. For these next couple of months, take this opportunity to review your desires and focus on what truly lights you up — we believe in you! It's time to step out of your comfort zone and claim your place within the groups, as Venus in Aquarius brings exciting connections, making this a great time to nurture friendships and collaborative projects. Mid-month, the Full Moon in Gemini illuminates communication, revealing areas where you need clarity or resolution. Clear the air and allow your heart to lead your discussion. By month's end, your confidence will be tested as the Sun moves into Capricorn, and career and public goals take center stage, inspiring you to take strategic action in your professional life. As you learn to believe in your ability to lead your life, professionally or personally, you'll gain confidence and clarity regarding your next steps.

Taurus (April 21 – May 21)

Theme: Step Out of Your Comfort Zone

It's time to be "comfortably uncomfortable," Taurus. This month attracts transformation and inner review. The New Moon in Sagittarius nudges you to look deeper into matters such as shared resources, intimacy, and vulnerability. This lunation will allow you to truly feel alive again after living on auto-pilot. Or doom-scrolling on social media, wondering about your life's possibilities. What do you want? You can plant a seed of intention regarding your desires and face your fears to make room for the Universe to give your wishes. It's a potent time for letting go of old patterns and welcoming change. These next several weeks may be challenging involving home or with family as the Mars retrograde impacts your emotional security and living situation. Avoid sweeping issues under the rug. Talk it out and find a solution. On the flip side, the love planet Venus lights up your career sector and public life. You're radiant and will attract new opportunities and recognition as you believe in your vision--you got this! By mid-month, the Full Moon in Gemini powers up your finances, helping you reassess your values and long-term financial goals. Be mindful of excessive spending. For the last half of the month, the Sun moves into Capricorn. Your focus shifts to your purpose and long-term goals. Share your vision with those near and dear and receive valuable feedback.

Gemini (May 22 – June 21)

Theme: Live in the Moment

As the social butterfly of the zodiac, this month will open your eyes regarding your connections and identity, Gemini. The New Moon in Sagittarius sparks new beginnings in your personal or professional partnerships, offering fresh opportunities for growth and connection. Make a move if you desire to see changes in your relationship. However, these next several weeks will test your ability to convey messages as Mars retrograde may bring delays or misunderstandings in your communication. To work with this, reflect before speaking. The wonderful part about this retrograde is that you can slow down and methodically express your ideas and energy to others. You'll feel more energized as you discern. The planet Venus phasing into Aquarius enhances your sense of adventure, encouraging you to seek new experiences and expand your knowledge through travel, learning, or philosophical pursuits. If you have been contemplating solo traveling or taking a class—do it. By mid-month, the Full Moon in your sign illuminates your identity, urging you to do some soul-searching. Reflect on who you are and what you truly want moving forward. As the Sun enters Capricorn, things will continue to quiet down as your focus shifts to shared resources and deeper emotional connections. Assess your intimate connections and learn to enjoy living in the moment.

Cancer (June 22 – July 22)

Theme: Clear Your Space

Are you ready to get organized, Cancer? The New Moon in Sagittarius invites you to set intentions around your daily routines and work life, encouraging you to create a more balanced and fulfilling lifestyle. Learn how to utilize your time and invest in your well-being. If you need help getting started, begin by decluttering your workspace. You'll feel a dramatic shift in your body. The Mars retrograde may stir up financial uncertainties in the next few months. Don't worry. You can power up your self-worth and stance with money by reassessing your values and spending habits. Analyze how you manage your resources and make adjustments that align with your long-term security. Here's the fun part: Venus in Aquarius will boost your intimacy sector. So, if you have been feeling distant lately with your SO, now is your chance to cozy up or go for date night. This deepened bond can be the healing balm to help you communicate better and power up your joint financial matters. The Full Moon in Gemini mid-month will help you close the chapter on unwanted habits linked to your subconscious patterns. Start a meditation practice, journal, or a cord-cutting ritual for healing and closure. By month's end, the Sun moves into Capricorn, and partnerships take center stage, shifting the focus on your relationships and how you negotiate. If communication isn't your strong suit, now is your chance to have a heart-to-heart discussion to get answers or reach a solution.

Leo (July 23 – August 22)

Theme: Self-love and Acceptance

Self-love will be your central theme this month, Leo. The New Moon in Sagittarius starts your month with a creative promise and invites you to take on new endeavors, passions, and romantic exchanges. It's a perfect time to set intentions involving what brings you joy in the moment. The Mars retrograde will help you pinpoint your sense of self and assess your appearance and the kind of energy you emit to others. Although it will be "triggering" untapped emotions these next several weeks, be reflective and observe your feelings before expressing them impulsively. Later this month, your primary focus will pivot to partnerships as Venus enters your relationship sector. Be open-minded and listen--it will bring fresh energy into your love life and relationships. Then, the Full Moon in Gemini illuminates your social circles and aspirations, allowing you to evaluate your connections and assess how they align with your vision. It may be a time to let go of these connections or reach out to those you're wondering about. Rekindle or let go. As the month closes, the Sun in Capricorn shifts to your care and well-being. Book a solo spa day, energy healing, or acupuncture treatment. You'll feel more in your body and present.

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

Theme: Reset Your Happiness

It's time to reset and live the life of your dreams, Virgo. It all begins with you recalibrating your mindset. December brings a mix of personal reflection and career focus. The New Moon in Sagittarius lights up your home and family sector, helping you visualize your ideal living situation and emotional needs. This is your chance to figure out where you feel most at peace. Mars retrograde will help you slow down and confront your unwanted subconscious patterns, hidden fears, and past wounds that impact your sense of self. Clear out and consolidate your best interests. Then, Venus in Aquarius later this month brings serendipitous energy to your work and daily routines as you allow the Universe to guide you. Look for signs or synchronicities, and you'll receive clues on finding harmony and balance in your life. By mid-month, the Full Moon in Gemini clarifies your career path and assesses your professional goals and public image. To live your dreams, take a chance and count on what motivates you. Let go. Finally, as the Sun moves into Capricorn, it extends support to your creative ventures, and you'll feel like you have a second chance to live out your passion.

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

Theme: It's All Fun and Games

Expect a month filled with endless banter, fun, and happiness, Libra. If you have hit a brick wall trying to convey a message lately, this New Moon in Sagittarius initiates a new approach to articulating your message or idea. Expect energizing exchanges with others and set intentions around learning, networking, and expressing your ideas. You'll reach a breakthrough. There will be a slight snag in the next several weeks as Mars retrogrades in your network sector, encouraging you to reflect on your social circles or revamp your social media profile. Permit yourself to take the backseat and note how you feel about the groups or information you have been aligning with. Analyze your energy. Later this month, you're one lucky star, as Venus in Aquarius will level up your romantic endeavors while it energizes your charisma. It's also a potent time to bring fresh energy and excitement to your personal life. Go out and have a date with yourself, schedule date night with your S.O., or take on an activity that brings you infinite joy. Then, later this month, the Full Moon in Gemini illuminates your belief systems, travel, and higher education, pushing you to reflect on your worldview and what you’ve learned this year. Write a gratitude list and see how much you have accomplished. Give thanks. As the Sun enters Capricorn, expect to dial down as the focus turns to home and family, inspiring you to nurture your emotional foundations and create a sense of stability.

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

Theme: Choose Your Path

Are you ready to get serious, Scorpio? December spotlights on your finances, career, and emotional foundations. The New Moon in Sagittarius manifests new opportunities leading to financial growth. This is your time to set goals or make that pitch at work. Consolidate your time and resources and make it happen. Over the next several weeks, the Mars retrograde in your career sector will help you slow down and observe your professional path and public image. The dreams you placed on the back burner will reappear, and you'll face a choice to take it or leave it. Trust. Your inner self and family life will take center stage as Venus in Aquarius brings a refreshing outlook to your dealings with domestic life. Take a well-deserved vacation or spend time with family to nurture deeper connections within the home. Mid-month, the Full Moon in Gemini will help you dig deeper and explore your feelings and past insecurities involving intimacy or shared resources. Prioritize rest to revitalize your energy. You'll feel a shift by month's end when the Sun enters Capricorn. Ideas and information flow seamlessly, and getting involved in a local community or learning something new will circulate inspiration. Prioritize moments of stillness to build steadily toward your long-term endeavors.

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

Theme: Be Magical

Did you know that you're made from star stuff, Sagittarius? This month will be magical, and your dreams will finally take form. The New Moon in your sign shines a spotlight on you, manifesting new beginnings around your identity, self-image, and personal goals. It's a powerful time to set intentions, as your energy magnifies with cosmic support. Become your best version and allow the Universe to take over and grant your wishes. The Mars retrograde these next several weeks will put your magic to the test as it prompts you to rethink your personal beliefs and long-term vision. It’s a time to reflect on what truly resonates with your values and worldview. Remember that life is a continuous journey filled with valuable lessons. You'll feel like you're on cloud nine with Venus in Aquarius, granting you confidence and creative expression. Be curious, try something new, share your ideas with others, and be open-minded to feedback to attract success. Later this month, the Full Moon in Gemini illuminates your one-on-one relationships and their direction. Communicate openheartedly and hold space for your partner to express their true feelings. It will be a revelatory night. Financial goals will then be your priority by the end of the month as the Sun enters Capricorn. Reassess your self-worth and power up your confidence by monitoring your spending habits and approach to money. Remember that you're magical, and with a refined approach, you'll reach your desired outcome.

Capricorn (December 22 - January 19)

Theme: Slow and Steady Wins the Race

Rome wasn't built in a day, Capricorn. This month invites you to dive deep into self-reflection and reinvention. The New Moon in Sagittarius lights up your subconscious realms, and it would be of your highest good to set intentions for inner healing, spiritual growth, and releasing any residual baggage or fears. Begin a sacred practice, meditate, or begin dream journaling for clarity. The driven planet Mars retrograde in your hidden sector these next several weeks will shed light on your shared resources, intimate connections, and emotional boundaries. It will be a testy time with financial issues or lingering power dynamics. Confront these matters by expressing your concerns with your S.O. or being truthful. Vulnerability and humility will be your best friends during this retrograde. Then Venus in Aquarius shifts your focus to your finances, bringing opportunities to reassess your values, increase your income, or realize your worth. Begin an affirmation practice and witness the changes. It's time to flex those mental or physical muscles. The Full Moon in Gemini spotlights your work environment and health routines. Reflect on your daily habits and assess your desired changes for better balance and well-being. The fog begins to lift as the Sun enters your sign, and now you step up, ready to set new personal goals and start a fresh chapter. Success is just around the corner as long as you honor your pace.

Aquarius (January 20 – February 19)

Theme: Find Your Aesthetic

Have you been wishing and hoping for a breakthrough, Aquarius? Well, this month will breathe new life into your social connections, relationships, and long-term goals. A new chapter begins with the New Moon in Sagittarius, which occurs in your friendship and network sector. Set your sights and intentions around expanding your social network, align with those who match your vibe, and share your vision. With Mars retrograde in your relationship sector, partnerships and their progression will slow down. Avoid signing contracts or agreements and review them later. Reflect on your current one-on-one relationships (personal or professional) and analyze how you navigate conflicts. As Venus enters your sign, expect to feel lighter, confident, and inspired to beautify your inner and outer self. Later this month, the Full Moon in Gemini highlights the direction of your story involving your creative endeavors and love life. Evaluate your priorities in these realms and make necessary adjustments that align with your heart and overall happiness. This month concludes with the Sun in Capricorn, helping you turn inward and prioritizing rest, reflection, and spiritual renewal. Pause and analyze your internal landscape and practice cord-cutting or release work for unwanted habits to make room for the Universe to send you opportunities.

Pisces (February 20 – March 21)

Theme: Take A Chance On You

Are you ready to step into your power, Pisces? It may feel like you have been in a forever chrysalis stage. December brings career reflection, personal healing, and social renewal. The New Moon in Sagittarius activates your career sector, highlighting your professional goals, public image, and ambitions. However, this is your moment to realize what you truly want and to believe in yourself. Create a vision board, and set small goals to reach your dreams. It’s a powerful time to manifest your professional path and long-term success. Mars retrograde will inspire you to reassess your daily routines, health habits, and work-life balance for the next several weeks. Although it isn't a time to make a significant decision in the career realm, it will be a preparatory time to strengthen your resolve by improving your well-being rather than just "pushing" through burnout. The great news is that Venus is on your side to beautify your inner self as it takes residence in your subconscious realms over the next few weeks. Explore your path to inner healing, self-love, and rest. Clear out the energetic gunk of the past and see the beauty you hold inside your heart. Later this month, the Full Moon in Gemini clarifies your emotional foundations and what you need to feel secure. Invest time in ancestral healing, inner child work, or speak with elders to find peace and clarity. The Sun entering Capricorn will turn up your social life and future aspirations. You'll feel more in your skin as you engage with new groups and networks. Remember that you're worthy of sharing your gifts with the world.

With 2025 just around the corner, it’s the perfect time to explore how to power up your year ahead. Lumi Pelinku invites you to dive deeper into your journey through an extended reading that can provide tailored insights and inspiration. Click here to book your reading today!

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Not Close With Your Family? Here's How To Have a Joyous And Connected Holiday Season

Last year, some of us celebrated the holidays apart from our families for the first time. COVID has brought with it many changes, some of them arguably positive (like increased flexibility to work from home), some difficult (such as the realization of vastly different political and social views between family and friends), and some horrible (obviously, the health implications of a global pandemic). However, for some of us, celebrating the holidays without family members isn't exclusively due to COVID. In addition to so many of us living in different areas than our families of origin, some of us simply don't have close bonds with the people we grew up around. Sometimes, this can cause loneliness.

If you're not close with your family members, the holidays can be a difficult time. This is doubly true if you don't have a close circle of friends to call upon. But make no mistake, if this sounds like your situation, you're not alone — there are thousands of other people going through the same struggles you are. We sat down with Irad Eichler, founder of Circles, a website that connects people who are sharing similar struggles, like heartbreak, grief, or loneliness. Here are some of Eichler's tips for coping — and even thriving! — during the holiday season when you're not planning on spending it with your family, for one reason or another.

Don't Fall For "Perfect Families" On Social Media

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The first VERY important step to having a joyous holiday season when you're going it alone is to stop believing the narrative that others' family situations are perfect, Eichler says.

"Remember people only post a moment in time, and only the moments when they look their happiest and best."

In addition to the fact that everything you see on social media is curated for the 'gram, it's also important to remember that by focusing on what others have and you lack, you risk failing to see the great things at play in your own life.

"These holiday periods can become a time of focusing on who and what we don't have, rather than who or what we do, and can cause a negative spiral into depressing and dreadful feelings of inadequacy," says Eichler.

Gratitude is the reason for the season, after all. So instead of only seeing the negative, try some gratitude journal prompts to help you focus on what's actually really wonderful about your life right now.

Make An Effort To Deepen New Connections

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While it may seem like everyone has friends and family to spend time with during the holiday season, that doesn't mean no one is available for deepening a blossoming relationship or new friendship.

"Make a list of people you can or would like to connect with, and try to reach out to at least one of them," advises Eichler.

Reaching out doesn't have to mean a big plan or an hour-long conversation. Even a quick text letting a friendly coworker know you're thinking about them can go a long way toward deepening the relationship and moving it in the direction of closer friendship.

Don't have an acquaintance in mind? Then it's time to make new acquaintances. What's more in line with the Christmas spirit than attending a Meetup or event full of people eager to make new friends?

"Join groups with similar interests to yours, such as hiking, baking, or games. Push your boundaries and be brave - you might find new people who have much in common with you."

Give Back

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The holiday season is a great time to focus on giving back to your community, and coincidentally, acts of generosity and kindness are known to reduce loneliness and help people feel happier. One study found that knowing a few of your neighbors and doing small acts of kindness for them — such as cheering them up, listening to them, mowing their lawn, providing advice about local business recommendations and job opportunities, and chatting over the fence — was statistically correlated with feeling less lonely and having a lower risk of depression.

Helping out elderly neighbors can be a particularly gratifying way to give back.

"Notice older lonely people in your neighborhood or community who might have no family at all, and offer to help them," says Eichler. "These can become mutually meaningful connections, and help you 'adopt' a grandparent."

Connect With Others Online

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Finally, use the Internet for its highest and best purpose: to connect people. Whether you're using Meetup to find in-person events, digital forums for having conversations about special interests, or programs like Circle for getting support from others in your situation, the opportunities to create new connections are practically endless.

"There are many interest groups that can be found digitally, where or any person can connect with others in the same life stage, going through the same challenges, or who would like to explore the same interests," Eichler states. "Meaningful connections can be formed easily in these circumstances. The Internet enables us to find and connect to people all over the world who fit this, and to whom we can become more easily attached, as we are able to find people with the exact interests that energize us."

If you're struggling with loneliness, you're not alone. Connect with our digital community of makers and creatives here at Brit+Co by following us on IG and signing up for our newsletter!

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18 Sweet Experience Gift Ideas Your Family & Friends Will Cherish Forever

There are so many items cluttering up our homes and lives, and if we're honest, sometimes asking for physical gifts feels like an unnecessary weight to add to the holiday season. All we really need this year is time with the people that our closest to us, and maybe the opportunity to experience something new.

If you're looking for out-of-the-ordinary gift ideas for your friends and family, look no further than these experience gifts. From one-of-a-kind adventures to super easy ideas that will fit into any budget, these experience gifts are sure to make anyone smile.

Experience gift ideas you haven't thought of for 2024:

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Take Them Ice Skating

Ice skating simply makes winter more magical. It also gives us a chance to live out our Ice Princess dreams – but that's beside the point. Even if you don't live somewhere that has an iconic rink like New York City's Rockefeller Center, you can still make it a whole evening with hot chocolate and cozy sweaters.

Buy Them Concert Tickets

Take your best friend or S.O. to their favorite artist's concert for an unforgettable evening. Not only do you get to hear some awesome music, but concerts are always an excuse to get dressed up in a crazy outfit and dance like no one is watching.

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Visit An Aquarium

Something about walking around and looking at animals under the sea makes us feel extra calm, and is great for anyone who wanted to be a mermaid as a kid. Our favorites? Otters, beluga whales, and turtles, but we love regular old fish tanks, too. This is a great way to get a taste of summer while it's dang cold outside!

Give Them A B+C Classes Subscription

If your giftee loves to learn, then they'll get a kick out of a subscription to our online classes. There's something for every stage of life, with classes like painting and freelancing to learning how to combat imposter syndrome.

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Go Hiking Together

This is one experience gift that is super easy and super affordable to pull off. You can hike in every state in the country (granted, your hikes might look different in the mountains than in a coastal town), plus you can pack a picnic of their favorite foods or grab takeout from their favorite local restaurant.

Pack A Beautiful Picnic

Speaking of picnics, they're on our list of favorite date ideas *and* an ideal way to spend any day. You can hire a picnic service (like this one for NY) to set up your table before you get there, but you can also go all-out yourself by packing a basket with their favorite foods, drinks, books, and flowers. If it's too cold (or it's pouring out!), set up your picnic indoors among some candles and a nostalgic movie.

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Book Some Travel

Travel is an experience gift that will rarely disappoint, especially if you're going to a dream destination. There are so many locations all over the world — big cities like London, historical homes like Biltmore, and even filming locations from your favorite TV shows and movies — this is always a good idea. You can also book AirBnB experiences of all kinds for wherever you choose to stay.

Gift A Language Class

With programs like Duolingo and Rosetta Stone, gaining access to other languages is easier than ever right now. It's never too late to pick up something new, whether or not you're living your Emily in Paris dreams. Bon voyage!

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Ride A Hot Air Balloon

See the world from a totally new perspective by going up in a hot air balloon. You can take them at different times of day depending on the view that your giftee loves the most (we're always up for a sunrise adventure), and you can even book one that comes with wine.

Host A Photoshoot

This experience gift idea is totally up to interpretation. Whether your best friend or S.O. wants to be a model for a day with fun props and outfits, or your mom has been asking for a family photoshoot for the last few years, this is the perfect opportunity to gift a photoshoot! You can also turn this experience gift idea on its head and gift your family and friends a photography classthey can do from their home.

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Bookstore

If your sibling, best friend, or S.O. loves books, take them to their favorite bookstore, buy them a coffee, and let them peruse the shelves for one (or more!) books that they want to get their hands on. This is a super simple idea that will certainly make them smile.

Cooking Class

If you've never taken a cooking or baking class before, then it's definitely time to add that to your list. Not only is it a fun activity that also rewards you with food, but it makes for a great experience gift, especially for recipients who love spending time in the kitchen.

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Dinner + Sailing

Rent your own sailing cruise for the evening to get a dining experience that's unlike any other. Eat dinner at sunset or wait until mid-morning for an extra-fun brunch. In addition to a gift idea, this also makes a great date idea. That's a win-win in our book.

Museum

Take your giftee to their favorite museum, and spend an entire day looking at their favorite paintings and sculptures, or reading up on scientific discoveries. This is one gift idea that's great for all ages, and since there are so many different museums across the country, you can have a different experience every time.

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A Spa Day

As much as we love doing our own spa day at home, there's no denying that having someone take care of the self-care is really nice from time to time. If gifting a professional massage or facial is in your gift giving budget, just go for it. The relaxation will be well worth it, and your recipient will be thanking you for eternity.From personal experience, we definitely recommend gifting a massage from Hand & Stone, and a facial from Heyday

Escape Room

We're big fans of escape rooms, and we're convinced they're fun for anyone who wants to be a spy for an afternoon. It's great for a couple of people or for a whole group of friends, so you can get all your favorite people in on it. Plus not only is it fun, but having a time limit to solve a problem teach you about your communication styles very quickly.

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Wine Tastings + Vineyard Tours

Take the wine lovers in your life to a nearby vineyard to experience the wine up close and personal with a wine tour. This is a great way to try multiple wines so you can figure out which one is your favorite.

Learn To Fly

Great for adrenaline junkies and adventure seekers, this experience gift idea takes you right up into the air. Learn to fly a plane or a helicopter over landscapes that you don't usually get to see from the air.

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This post has been updated with additional reporting by Meredith Holser.

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8 Ways To Support A Friend Dealing With Family Drama During The Holidays

With the holidays now approaching almost eerily quickly, you might already be feeling slightly uneasy about the family stresses that are bound to be on your plate (along with delicious Christmas cookies, of course). Spending a lot of time face-to-face with family can dig up old arguments or squabbles that everyone may have forgotten during the rest of the year.

Learn the 8 best ways to support your friend while they're in the middle of family drama

You’re not the only one dealing with the drama, though, and while your own family issues might feel somewhat out of your control, there might be more you can do to take the edge off the stress that your friends are feeling in anticipation of holiday gatherings. Keep scrolling for eight expert tips for how to best offer support to your most stress-ridden BFFs.

1. Listen without judging if your friend reveals an ongoing argument about a family will

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Being a good listener is one of the most basic — and yet most important — things you can do as a friend 365 days of the year, but when tensions run high near the holidays, those listening skills become all the more crucial. You might even consider resisting the urge to speak, like, at all. “Be a good listener and don’t give advice,” licensed marriage and family therapist Katie Ziskind says. “Supporting someone doesn’t mean that you have to fix their problem. Instead, truly being supportive means giving a hug when someone is crying and being a caring friend.”

2. Prep your pal to expect drama if your uncle's invited his new girlfriend and ex to dinner

Rather than reassuring your friend that things at family celebrations may not be as bad as they fear, trust what they know about the situation and help them wrap their head around what’s to come. This should minimize the stress for them in the long run. “If you expect it and it happens, situation normal,” certified life coach Susan Golicic tells us. “If you expect it and it doesn’t, well, then, a bonus!”

3. Help your bestie make a plan in case their fight-or-flight mode gets triggered

Going into any situation with a plan almost always feels better than going in unprepared. Per writer, speaker, and healing expert Alisa Zipursky, a helpful plan might include specific check-in times, a code word that indicates your friend needs extra support, and ideas for creating healthy boundaries with family members who make them feel especially triggered. “The idea is to make asking for help as easy as possible,” Zipursky says. “Making sure a proactive plan is in place well before someone enters the stressful situation can help relieve some of the anticipatory anxiety.”

4. Check in often by sending your friend periodic texts 

Licensed counselor Maria Inoa recommends that you prioritize regular touch-base texts over the course of whatever event is causing your friend the most stress. It’s not about solving the conflicts or taking away their pain. Instead, you can focus on offering gentle reminders that you are thinking of them and are available if they need you.

5. Create a new tradition that revolves around you and and your bestie's favorite Christmas movies

If your friend’s family holiday celebrations don’t exactly inspire positive feelings about the occasion, why not help them establish some better associations? Licensed clinical professional counselor Anna Poss suggests planning a “low-stress, fun way to celebrate with each other before or after the actual holiday.” Get a seasonal movie night or cookie swap on the calendar before everyone leaves town to hang with family. Those cozy vibes may help dull the negative, anxious feelings.

6. Write down words of affirmations for them to look at

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Grab some pretty stationery and put your love and support on paper for your BFF. “In the note, remind her how strong, courageous, and capable she is,” licensed psychotherapist and life coach Diane Petrella says. “Let her know how much you love and admire her and how grateful you are for her friendship. Write whatever you think your friend needs to hear to feel supported, grounded, and loved.” Remind her to hide the note in her pocket or bag so she can read it whenever she needs a little extra TLC over the course of the holidays. You can even go one step further and send them home with a care package, per therapistShannon Thomas.

7. Invite your friend to your family celebration

If things have gotten so bad with your bestie’s family that she wants to steer clear of their celebrations entirely, you may want to invite her to join you and your crew instead. Even if she opts to decline your invitation, it will mean a lot to her to know that she has choices. If your friend does take you up on the offer, Mountainside Treatment Center‘s family wellness manager Tina Muller recommends that you try to incorporate some of her favorite traditions into your holiday schedule.

8. Keep your phone nearby if your friend needs to talk about everything that happened

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“Before an event with possible family issues even happens, schedule a time not long after to see the friend,” marriage and family therapist Sarah Epstein suggests. “Now you’ve become the light at the end of the tunnel for them.” Be prepared to be a listening ear over dinner or a workout session so your pal can vent about everything that’s gone on and (hopefully) be ready to move on from there.

How do you and your pals support each other through the not-so-fun parts of the holidays? Tweet us @BritandCo.

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