8 Ways to Ease into Your Newfound City Life

Although I love most aspects of my life, a few months ago, I finally reached a point where I needed to step away from my infinite loop of work-coffee-email-workout, rinse and repeat. I fell into a monotonous pattern and knew I needed to do something before I hit burnout and exhaustion from stress. I finally listened to the inner voice inside my head that said, “Treat yo’ self, girl — go on a retreat and reset your mind before it’s too late.” So that’s exactly what I did.

The hardest part about planning the trip was taking the leap and actually scheduling it. It never felt like the right time to request vacation and put a hold on my never-ending to-do list. I finally took the plunge and spontaneously booked a solo wellness retreat to Switzerland to find my reset button. By the end of my trip, I felt a revived sense of curiosity in my surroundings and a new wave of productivity and focus in my work and home life. Scroll on for what I learned on my solo adventure and tips on how I unplugged for a week in the Alps.

1. Pick a destination that calls to you. The first step to finding your ideal getaway is asking yourself what you want from your time away. Is it to experience a new culture or detox from your tech-addicted lifestyle? Are you looking for some self-care to feed your mind, body, and soul? I knew I needed a combination of all of the above, so I chose a place that checked off all the boxes and a few more. I picked Zurich to explore a new city and then take a train through the Swiss countryside to Davos, the highest city in Europe. Davos has been a wellness destination for decades due to the health benefits of its high-altitude climate and top-notch ski resorts. Après ski: Yes, please!

2. Do your research on where to stay based on what they offer. Find accommodations that are in line with your personal interests. I stayed at the brand new Hard Rock Hotel Davos because they have unique offerings like the new yoga Rock Om program & music-infused Rock Spa. Yoga is a huge part of my life, and I wanted to make sure it was accessible on my retreat. I didn’t even have to bring a mat; the hotel provides in-room yoga classes on the TV and Manduka yoga gear. Of course, being the Hard Rock, they also have amazing original tracks from DJ Drez to guide your vinyasa practice. If you’re a music fanatic like me, you can also enjoy their Sound of Your Stayprogram, which takes in-room listening up a notch and even offers you the chance to listen to old school vinyl records or test your skills on a real Fender guitar. Quite the amenity trifecta!

The location of where you stay within the city is key to maximizing your activities. I was able to do yoga, hike up the Swiss Alps, hear live music, take a cooking class, and eat and drink to my heart’s content all within steps of my hotel. At the Hard Rock, they invite you to live by their motto during your stay: “Play hard. Relax harder. Repeat,” which I graciously accepted. (Photos via Hard Rock Davos)

3. Get comfortable with riding solo. People asked me if I was worried about being lonely or scared of traveling alone, but it was actually one of the biggest draws to embarking on this journey. I ended up finding a stronger, more confident side of myself because of how self-sufficient I needed to be. I felt empowered after I was able to face my fears of eating out alone and figuring out directions all by myself.

My solo wellness retreat turned out to be an addictive travel experience with a mix of cultural immersion, adventurous activities, and therapeutic treatments that nourished me from the inside out. If you have never traveled alone, I would highly suggest trying it out in your home city before heading out on a bigger adventure. Take yourself on a solo date, go see a movie, or go out to dinner and see how you feel. Solo travel forces you to step out of your comfort zone and view the world on your own terms. If you need some inspiration, check out this Riding Solo Guide.

4. Use the Marie Kondo method when packing. I found that traveling alone means you need to make sure all of your belongings are packed in a manageable and organized way, which is another way of saying pack smart. You have to be reasonable about what travel necessities will truly bring you joy on your trip and not weigh you down. Outside of my wardrobe, my top four must-haves were:

5. Silence notifications and release your expectations. Whether it was Gmail, Slack, texts, WhatsApp, or news alerts, even though I said I wouldn’t, when notifications popped up on my phone, I checked them out of habit. I learned that alone time (sans phone) is healthy and allows you to relax when you’re away from other people’s needs and expectations. If you need to check in back home, schedule designated time each day and let people know when you will be checking email or available for a call, and plan on responding only then.

Take photos but make sure to put away your phone and enjoy the experience. Cliché as it sounds, live in the moment you’re currently living in. I even put “Be Present” on my phone lock screen to remind myself when I picked it up.

6. Splurge on one thing and treat yourself. Schedule a massage, book a fancy dinner, take a full-day tour, or buy tickets to a show. Even if you’re working with a small budget, find one thing that you want to splurge on. Make it something you’ll really enjoy and remember as a special experience. I chose to embark on a day full of melting at the Rock Spa. From their music-centric spa menu offerings to their hydrotherapy pools, I had four hours of complete bliss. I went back and forth from a color changing sauna to an ice shower to an essential oil steam room. I can honestly say that day, I did live my very best life. (Photo via Hard Rock Davos)

7. Put yourself out there and try new things. Embrace the local community, immerse yourself in their culture, and try something new. Traveling solo gives you the freedom to experiment and truly find your likes and dislikes without having to worry about anyone else. I made friends with the lovely staff of the Hard Rock and got their top recommendations of things to try. Their concierge helped me book a Swiss Chocolate making class where I got to try different chocolates and even mix my own. It sparked a new interest in me to take up cooking and baking classes!

When you put yourself in new situations, you open yourself up to meeting new people and learning new things about yourself. You’ll meet other boss babes as deeply interested in self-growth as you! It’s time for you to find your own version of your wellness retreat. Take a break from the day-to-day grind and unplug. Listen to your body and replenish your mind with some downtime. Whether you follow my lead and travel to Davos for a week filled with high altitude hiking, yoga, and spa treatments galore, or find your own dreamy solo trip, it’s needed and you deserve it. Get it, girl!

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A vacay is a great way to escape the day-to-day. But when organizing a cross-country road trip or Euro excursion with your BFFs can itself feels like yet another chore, solo travel could be your best bet for a hassle-free getaway. While it may seem intimidating up front (Who will I talk to? Who will I do stuff with?), there are plenty of reasons why you need to nail this once-in-a-lifetime adventure on your own. Sarah Reid, the author of Lonely Planet‘s recently released The Solo Travel Handbook, shares her tips on how to master the art of exploring new countries and cultures — companionless. Scroll down below to get Reid’s expert advice for top regions to consider based on her own travel experiences, then pack your bags and go!

1. South America: Reid has a special place in her heart for our neighboring continent to the south. “Some of my best friends today are travelers I met during a backpacking trip through South America more than six years ago,” she says. Many of those companions stemmed from the impressive group of hostels across the continent: “South America has one of the best hostel networks in the world, and with most travelers sticking to the ‘Gringo Trail,’ you’ll see plenty of familiar faces — and potential travel buddies — along the way.”

2. Vietnam: For any foodie who enjoys a little pampering on the side, this is the place to be. “I love wandering produce markets on my own with my camera before submitting to an afternoon of pampering at a spa,” shares Reid. Of course, having a friend to enjoy it with can make the experience more fun, and the travel pro reassures us that this country is filled with opportunities to meet people. “When you feel like company, there’s always a cooking class, cycling tour, or backpacker bar to be found,” she encourages.

3. Berlin, Germany: Up for a big night out? Curious to see what Europe after dark is all about? Berlin has got you covered. “With one of the world’s most diverse and friendliest nightlife scenes, Berlin is one of the world’s best destinations for a big night out,” Reid asserts. “If you pick the right hostel, you’ll have ready-made friends to go out with too.” But even if falling asleep by 9pm is more your thing, don’t worry: There are still ample experiences for you to enjoy. “During the day, there are some fantastic walking tours offered in Berlin, which offer another great opportunity to meet other travelers,” reassures Reid.

4. Ubud, Bali: While the Lonely Planet author notes that parts of Bali can be more attractive to couples or partygoers, “it’s a different story in the island’s cultural heart.” According to Reid, Ubud has “long attracted soul-searching solo travelers with its temples, wellness culture, and friendly, welcoming vibe.” Consider booking a yoga retreat for a more structured Bali experience.

5. East Africa: If a safari has been on your bucket list for some time, an overland tour across the region of East Africa is a seamless way for solo travels to mark it off their lists. “The last tour I did with Intrepid Travel (Gorillas and Game Parks) was full of single travelers,” Reid informs us, “and opting for an organized tour takes the stress out of visiting regions that you may not feel comfortable navigating on your own.”

6. Singapore: If you make your way to Asia, be sure to pay a visit to this solo-friendly stopover city-state. “Thanks to its super-efficient metro system, Singapore is such an easy city to get around, and I never feel ‘alone’ eating in its fantastic hawker centers,” affirms Reid. “From cool new cafes to cutting-edge exhibitions, there’s always something new to see — and most locals speak English.”

7. Rome, Italy: The pizza, the pasta, the views — there’s so much to fall in love with in this culture-packed destination. “It’s impossible to get bored with your own company,” Reid agrees. Plus, all the foot traffic keeps the area pretty safe: “The streets are typically packed with locals and tourists by night too, so solo travelers should feel pretty comfortable wandering around on their own at dinnertime.”

8. Portland, OR: If you’re thinking about keeping things local, Portland offers a plethora of things to explore without overwhelming you with options. “Portland is one of those big cities that feel more like small towns, which helps to make for more comfortable solo exploration,” Reid tells us. In terms of when to go, the author recommends waiting for the warmer months to pay this west coast city a visit: “Summer is the best time of the year to soak up its many festivals and cultural offerings, as well as sample over 500 food carts. And don’t forget your hiking boots!”

9. Caye Caulker, Belize: Warning: You may never want to leave this sun-soaked island behind. “I planned to visit for a couple of days and ended up staying for a week!” admits Reid. “Travelers converge to sunbathe and swim at ‘The Split’ during the day, before filtering into seafood restaurants and reggae bars.”

10. Australia’s East Coast: Why not hop in a car and take a scenic road trip far away from domestic America? “Australia’s dazzling east coast is a safe, easy option for solos. Whether you drive on your own, take up rideshare opportunities, or opt for buses, you’ll find excellent hostels and guesthouses along the way,” says Reid. As you prepare to get camera-happy taking photos of the gorgeous coastline, be sure to make note of her tip: “Don’t miss the beautiful surf town of Byron Bay, which has more than a thousand backpacker beds!”

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(Feature image via Mark Read/Lonely Planet; all other images via Getty)

If you're finding it hard to make friends as an adult, or maintain friendships from different life stages, you're definitely not alone. According to Dr. Deborah Gilboa, MD, Scientific Advisor for Azar, and a recent study from Azar and Talker, it's not abnormal to feel heightened levels of loneliness. In fact, that study suggests Gen Z feels lonely every day.

"Loneliness feels isolating because it goes beyond just lacking company; it’s a lack of meaningful connection," she says over email. "Social contact without meaning can worsen loneliness as it increases the individual’s perception of isolation and lack of belonging. The antidote is true social connection."

But how can we find that real social connection and community? I talked to Dr. Gilboa, JustAnswer Mental Health Expert Jennifer Kelman, and NYC Psychologist Dr. Alexandra Stratyner PhD, for some insight into behaviors that attract friends. Here are some behaviors that will simply make you irresistible — and will help you identify good friends in others!

Keep reading for some advice on how to attract friends — and easy ways to be a better friend to the people you love.

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There's no shame in realizing you're feeling lonely, but it's also important to identify when that loneliness morphs into isolation. "Even though many might be experiencing the same feelings, that doesn't mean they are reaching out for support," Kelman says. "Many are not feeling enough strength to reach out to others or feel like they are being a burden so they reason alone with their feelings."

"It's also become more evident as our reliance on digital communication has grown, sometimes leaving us more connected online but feeling less understood and less connected in more meaningful, in-person ways," Dr. Stratyner adds. And then there's the social expectation of it all. "Many people tend to hide their loneliness because they feel shame or embarrassment about it. This can make it even harder to open up and connect with others who might be feeling the same way. The more we keep these feelings to ourselves, the more it reinforces the isolation, even though we all experience it in varying forms."

"It is hard to see light when things feel dark, and many go inward to deal with their feelings," Kelman points out. "Many are so burdened by their feelings that they might not feel capable to care for those around them or to show up and be present for others."

And just like Dr. Gilboa says, we're looking for true connection, not just surface-level friendships. But how can we make true social connection? Here's what they suggest.

​3. People are attracted to humor.

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I'm sure we can all think of someone who never fails to make us laugh. And being the funny friend can mean a lot of things: you know how to poke fun at yourself or you don't take things too seriously (unless they need to be taken seriously, of course). But that doesn't mean making other people the butt of mean jokes.

"A good sense of humor helps foster a positive, lighthearted atmosphere, making interactions feel enjoyable and memorable," Stratyner says. "Plus, everyone loves to laugh."

​6. New friends are attracted to positivity.

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When things feel dark, new friends will be attracted to someone who can make the world feel a little lighter. "People are often attracted to those who can find the silver lining, stay hopeful, and spread good vibes, especially in challenging situations," Dr. Stratyner says.

That's not to say you can never have bad days or process things like disappointment and grief. It just means you aren't ruled by them. (Listen, as an Enneagram 4, I'm talking to myself!)

Ok, you might be thinking, this is great but what do I do with this information? Here are some easy, actionable steps to take if you want to make new friends.

​3. Don't be afraid to put yourself out there.

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Listen. If you only ever order takeout and watch Netflix, you'll simply never make new connections. You gotta get after it! "Look for community events, clubs, or hobby groups that align with your interests, whether book clubs, sports leagues, or volunteering opportunities," Dr. Stratyner says. "Being around people with shared passions makes it easier to start conversations and find common ground."

What's your favorite way to get to know new friends? Here are 10 Thought-Provoking Questions To Know Close Friends More Intimately!