5 Relationship Lessons I Learned from Moving With My Husband

Sep 25, 2018

I read once that moving has been proven one of the most stressful things that we humans are lucky enough to navigate. Having (just barely) survived one such move, I can confidently confirm that this is accurate. Much like our bodies do with childbirth — so I’m told, at least — I think that evolution has programmed us to forget all of the frustrations that come with moving from one home to another so that we don’t get stuck in one place for too long. But, oh, do those frustrations exist. The tasks required in order to successfully execute a move are almost laughable when you say (or write) them one after another. First, you have to decide that it seems like a reasonable time to uproot your life. Then, you get to look your bank account straight in the eye and figure out how much you can afford to spend on the process. Find time in your already busy schedule to tour new places to live. Put down a comical amount of cash in order to secure a place. Pack all of your belongings in boxes. Then take all of your belongings out of boxes. Oh, and could you continue living your life and doing all the things at the same time? Great.

Like many millennials, I’ve been through this process a handful of times already, but for the first time ever, I experienced my most recent move with a trusty partner in crime by my side: my husband. After making the challenging decision to leave the apartment where we got engaged (in the tiny spot between the coffee table and the TV), we debated our next move for the better part of a year. Should we continue paying astronomical New York City rental prices? Was it time to try a new city? Were we ready to actually be adults and buy? Ultimately, we opted to stay in New York… as long as we could find a bigger place. Fast forward a few weeks, and I’m sitting on the floor of our new, bigger apartment. We have about five boxes left to open. My husband’s clothes are still packed in garbage bags all over the bedroom. There’s an IKEA coffee table waiting to be put together and plenty of things waiting to be hung on our empty walls. But when I reflect on this process — beginning on the day almost 12 months ago that we started talking about moving — I think less about all of the work that still needs to be done and more about what I’ve learned about relationships, thanks, of course, to my husband. Here’s what I’m taking away (outside of some additional square footage and an in-unit washer/dryer).

1. Good decisions take time. When the idea of leaving our old apartment first came up in October 2017, I figured we would be on to our next chapter within a few months. At the latest, I assumed we would be in a new home by April. I’m a doer by nature, and even though there were high stakes hanging in the balance, my first instinct back then was to make a decision about where we would go based on whatever information we had available and just… do it. But my husband is a much slower, more deliberate thinker about these things than I am, so collectively we spent the next 10 months (ugh) figuring out what to do next. It was uncomfortable and decidedly un-pretty, and I know the people around us thought we were crazy. Still, when everything came together a few weeks ago, I knew that the choice to stay in New York was the right one. Making collective decisions can be a challenge, but with a little patience, I’ve learned that you can work in lockstep with your partner in awesome ways.

2. Listening is key. Yes, we all know that good listening skills are key in a successful relationship, but I don’t know that they’ve ever been more crucial in my relationship than in the last few weeks. Our ability to openly and patiently listen to each other’s concerns — about where we were moving, how one of us was packing the breakables in a box, and why it made more sense to stack the pots in a lower cabinet in our new place — has been tested, but (for the most part, at least) we’ve been able to understand the other’s point of view and compromise where necessary.

3. It’s okay to divide and conquer. Honestly, the phrase “stay in your lane” is coming to mind, but that somehow feels less appropriate for marriage! What I’ve realized throughout the last few weeks of our move, especially, is that my relationship works best when both my husband and I can show up in a situation and put our individual talents and abilities to work. I’m really great at planning ahead and figuring out how to attack a task in a big-picture way, so I took the lead on getting our old apartment boxed up and organizing logistics for moving day. My husband, on the other hand, is great with details, so he handled switching over our utilities and other specifics. At first, it felt like this divide and conquer strategy was somehow taking away from our teamwork, but I’ve learned that it actually is teamwork!

4. When in doubt, laugh. As you already know if you’ve done it, moving is exhausting, and it can drive you to that point where you’re not sure if you’re ready to laugh or cry. Obviously, laughter is always preferable to tears, but I think this is especially true when an S.O. is involved. It’s easy to get frustrated with each other and pick small fights when you’re both tired and would really much rather be binge-watching on the couch than sorting through your closet, but finding a reason to laugh with — or even at! — each other really helps. My husband and I have laughed at a lot of things that really weren’t very funny over the last few weeks, but it helped us maintain a united front, and it’s a good reminder of how important silliness is in a relationship.

5. Know when it’s time to ask for help. I tend to be pretty stubborn about asking other people to lend a hand with… well, pretty much anything. Taking on a big move has forced me to get a little humble. Whether asking my husband to help me lift a mattress so I could straighten out a dust ruffle (the most ladylike thing I’ve ever typed, by the way) or admitting that I totally messed up that IKEA table, I’ve had to get more comfortable with the fact that I can’t do everything by myself. Part of being in a relationship is, of course, learning to rely on another person to support you, but it’s a lot easier to pretend you don’t actually need support when it’s business as usual. Shaking things up with a move has been a good reminder that there’s nothing wrong with leaning on bae for help now and then.

What’s your favorite part about moving? Least favorite part? Tweet us @BritandCo.

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Here's A New Look At Florence Pugh's Return As Yelena Belova

Marvel movies are known for their heroes and their hopeful outlook on the world. But in 2025, we're getting a brand new team: the Thunderbolts. This team is made up of antiheroes and former villains, and it's sure to be the wackiest and strangest, as well as one of the most memorable, superhero movies we've seen in recent years.

Keep reading for the latest news on Thunderbolts* before it hits theaters in 2025.

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Thunderbolts* comes out this May, and the cast just showed off some brand new footage at the D23 convention — and thanks to the new 'Celebrating 85 Years' spot, we have the first look too!

We get a look at Bucky Barnes, The Red Guardian, John Walker, and Ghost. Plus, Yelena Belova, of course. This heartbreaking detail about Yelena's new look connects Florence Pugh's Yelena to Scarlett Johansson's Natashaand I'm WEEPING.

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And at D23 Brazil, we got a brand new look at my new favorite team. "There’s something in this film, in terms of superpowers and superheroes, that shows that our superpowers lie in how ‘broken’ we are," David Harbour said at the event. "As if our superpowers came from our relationships.”

What is the plot of Thunderbolts?

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Thunderbolts* Plot

Consider Thunderbolts* to be The Avengers' edgy younger sibling. The movie follows Yelena Belova (who we know off the bat is a "depressed assassin" thanks to a Marvel Studios press release). She's joined by Bucky Barnes, The Red Guardian, and John Walker. Based on a leak, it looks like we'll see this group of misfits team up against Valentina Allegra de Fontaine after she sends them on a deadly mission.

Thunderbolts* Release Date

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Thunderbolts* Release Date

Thunderbolts* hits theaters May 2, 2025.

Who's on the Thunderbolts team?

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Thunderbolts* Cast

Thunderbolts* stars Florence Pugh, Geraldine Viswanathan, Lewis Pullman, Hannah John-Kamen, Wyatt Russell, Julia Louis-Dreyfus, Sebastian Stan, and David Harbour.

This is a huge cast, and Viswanathan just revealed how crazy the first day of filming was. “My first day didn’t feel real," she tells Vanity Fair. "I felt this extra pressure of, ‘Know your lines, babe. You can’t really play around like you usually do.’"

Historically, sci-fi fans haven't been kind to actresses in their favorite projects (remember when Star Wars fans bullied Kelly Marie Tran off social media?). But Viswanathan is already thinking ahead. “If it’s overwhelming, I’ll log off. But I like discourse around pop culture,” she says. “[Thunderbolts*] felt a little bit edgier and fresher, more existential and dark.”

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The rest of the cast also enjoyed working together. “Everyone is going to f—kin’ love me! It’s really, really, really fun to be with a group of actors that you have a good time with," Wyatt Russell says at Comic Con (via Variety), while David Harbour adds, “Florence Pugh [is] just electric to work with. There’s warmth and humor, but there’s also a lot of pathos.”

“This is why we can't stop laughing together, because we genuinely just had such a wonderful time with each other and we've loved working with one another," Pugh tells People. “I feel like this is something that we've never seen before from Marvel...it's a very open and honest and truthful idea. And I'm just really excited for people to watch it.”

Are you excited for this brand new chapter in the MCU? I really feel like Thunderbolts* will usher in a whole new generation of fans and I, for one, CANNOT WAIT! Let us know your thoughts on Facebook.

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40 Bougie Gifts Your Sister Will Totally Obsess Over

Your sister deserves the world — you know it, I know it, and she definitely knows it. But what do you give someone who deserves the world when there's so much to sift through? If finding the perfect gift for your sister feels like a herculean feat, join the club! I've got an older sister whose priorities have shifted after getting married and having kids, so I'm always on the hunt for the best present to get her. Fortunately, I've found all the best gifts for her that she'll actually use — and I'm ready to share them with you, too!

From the best of beauty finds to some self-care goodness, these top-notch gifts were carefully considered because this little sister knows Christmas is better when your sibling keeps you in mind!

The Best Beauty Gifts

Sephora

T3 Aire 360 Ceramic Air Styler Blowout Kit

Your sister's wash day routine won't be the same once you introduce her to this blowout kit. Before I got boho braids, I decided to use it to dry my natural hair and it literally cut my blowdrying time in half! I have thick coils so it usually takes a while for me to gently stretch my hair without damaging it, but not anymore!

This kit includes:

Aire 360 Base
2 Curling Attachments (Left and Right)
Oval Brush Attachment
SoftAire® Drying Concentrator
Storage Tote

I personally love the drying concentrator and the oval brush attachment because they give me the softest blowout I've ever had!

Calista Tools

Calista Tools The Classic Volume Duo

If your sister already has the perfect curling iron and blow dryer, you can still gift her something that boosts her hair. Calista Tools' Classic Volume Duo includes a pro heated round brush and the embellish flex spray to create the same look she'd get with the T3 Aire 360 Ceramic Air Styler Blowout Kitfor a fraction of the price.

Kora Organics

Kora Organics Turmeric Brightening Trio

Give your sister the gift of powerful antioxidants in skincare form this year! Kora Organics has so many products that boosts skin's glow — trust me — so this brightening trio is a great place to start for anyone.

The set includes:

Turmeric Glow Foaming Cleanser: It's pH-friendly and works to clean skin without stripping it of moisture. Your sister will appreciate the Turmeric, Noni, Aloe and natural sugar complex that effortlessly works together.
Turmeric Brightening & Exfoliating Mask: Your sister can use this daily because it'll gently smooth and detoxify her skin.
Turmeric Glow Moisturizer: Your sister's skin will crave the benefits of this moisturizer because it'll add a healthy glow to her skin while making it a little tougher. External impurities don't stand a chance!

EADEM LLC

EADEM The Even Skin Set

Has your sister been complaining about her stubborn dark spots? She'll love if you surprise her with EADEM's Even Skin Set! She'll get the following:

Dew Dream: A yummy cleansing balm that removes all makeup and other icky things from skin
Cashmere Peel: A gentle exfoliant that specifically targets dark spots
Milk Marvel: A creamy serum especially created for BIPOC skin that struggles with dark spots
Cloud Cushion: A ultra hydrating moisturizer that 'cushions' skin

Fur

Fur Full Frontal Set

Has your sister been looking for the perfect bikini waxafter-care? Tell her to get intimate with Fur's Full Frontal Set! It's dedicated to providing the softest skin that doesn't suffer from inflammation and ingrown hairs which sounds like my kind of party. All products have been gynecologically tested, so they're 100% safe!

The set includes:

Fur Oil
Ingrown Concentrate
Stubble Cream

Supergoop!

Supergoop! Endless Glow SPF Set

Don't tell me it's 2024 and your sister still hasn't found a sunscreen she loves. *Sigh* Okay, lean in closer so I can hold your hand while I talk about the Supergoop! Endless Glow SPF Set. Besides being TSA-friendly, this gift will add an extra glow to your sister's visage and I know she'll love that.

She'll get:

Glow Screen Sunrise SPF 40
Glow Stick SPF 50
Soothing Oil

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Tower 28 Mini Lil Softies Tinted Lip Treatment

I've been wearing Tower 28's 'Ube Vanilla' shade in their Tinted Lip Treatment and I can't get enough. This means your sister deserves to know about this miniature set! Unlike other lip oilsand treatments, this formula isn't sticky whatsoever! It has shea butter, jojoba oil, and lysine in it to provide a super kissable pout.

P.S. I've noticed that my lips are visibly softer and haven't been peeling or cracking as much since I've been wearing this!

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Beautyblender Power Pocket Puff

Celebrity Makeup Artist Natalie Dresher has nothing but rave reviews about this cute pocket puff! She says, "My absolute favorite tool for on the go mattification (is that a word? Or did I just coin that?). A must have for those going out for special events, it’s compact and fits in the tiniest of purses."

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LYS Beauty Mini Higher Standard Cream Glow Blush Set

Why commit to just one blush when you can have three? At least that's what I think you'll say to your sister when she opens this cute gift. I love that it's by a black-owned brand, but I'm even more excited that these blushes are vegan. They have kaolin clay, avocado oil, and vitamin E in them which has all the makings of a smooth, hydrating finish.

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Armani Beauty Eye Tint Long-Lasting Liquid Eyeshadow

Dresher says, "One swipe and your eyeshadow is done with these Armani Beauty eye tints. They are user friendly and even the most beginner makeup user can figure out how to apply these! I love shade 67S Sparkle because it looks great on all skin tones making it a universal shade."

Stila Cosmetics

Stila Cosmetics Meet the Icons 4-Piece Set

You think your sister's iconic, right? I sure think my sister is so I''d love to add this to the running list of gifts I'm choosing for her. Everything is, once again, TSA-friendly, so your sister can take everything with her at all times.

She'll love getting:

Stay All Day Waterproof Liquid Eye Liner in Intense Black
Full-size Huge Extreme Lash Mascara (Jet Black)
Full-size Convertible Color Dual Lip & Cheek Cream in Lillium (Nude Pink)
Travel-size Shimmer & Glow Liquid Eye Shadow in best-loved shade, Kitten (Shimmering Nude Pink)

Lilac St.

Gold In My Veins Press-On Nails

I've been wearing these press-on nails for the past two weeks because they're the best I've ever worn. I personally think you should gift your glamorous sister these cuties before Christmas because she'll want to have something nice on her nails when she goes to take holiday pictures.

Cult Gaia

Cult Gaia Mast Eau De Parfum

If your sister has been looking for a new fragrance that she and others will love, I'm sure she'll fall in love with Cult Gaia's new scent, 'Mast.' It's a mix of Italian Bergamot and tropical coconut — two blends that make me want to spray on every piece of clothing I have!.

I really love that your sister won't have to fret about parabens, sulfates, BHA, mineral oils or other formaldehydes! I mean, clean beauty is truly the way to go!

Amazon

Scent Beauty Sweet Tooth by Sabrina Carpenter Eau de Parfum

Does your sister love the sweet blend of gourmands and florals? If you answered yes, you absolutely have to gift her Sabrina Carpenter's Sweet Tooth Eau de Parfum. It smells like a decadent blend of cherries, chocolate, vanilla orchid, musk, and a few other things that'll make her smell divine.

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Valentino Born In Roma The Gold Eau de Toilette

Not everyone loves wam or musky scents, including your sister. She may enjoy something that smells 'fresh' which is why Valentino's Born In Roma fragrance will work for her. It'll remind her a little of summer, helping to keep some of seasonal depression away.

Étoile

Étoile Duo Vanity Case

Your sister's going to need somewhere safe to store her new beauty goodies while traveling so make sure you gift her Étoile's Duo Vanity Case. It's eco-friendly, makeup-proof, and includes a portable mirror. Tell her to be careful if she decides to pack a couple of skincare products because oils can stain it.

The Best Self-Care Gifts

Target

Stanley 40 Oz Quencher Tumbler

Staying hydrated is one of the best ways anyone can boost their wellbeing which is why your busy sister needs a Stanley Tumbler. She can't survive on coffee alone — even if she thinks she can! This tumbler is actually in collaboration with e.l.f. Cosmetics so you know the color payoff and water intake are the best things your sister needs to help power through her day.

Amazon

Allura & Arcia Stress Relief & SelfCare Cards

I'm not going to pretend self-care is easy because there are some days you and your sister aren't going to be in the mood. If it seems like your sister has forgotten how to take care of herself and fan the relaxation fans, surprise her with these stress relief cards. She'll be provided with an activity, it's objectives, and ways to implement it in her daily routine!

Skims

Skims Cozy Knit Unisex Robe

It's time for your sister to have an unparalleled spa day at home. Your only job is to gift her this Cozy Knit Unisex Robe from Skims! Not only is this robe super comfy, but it's also leopard print! I'm telling you now, your sister needs this.

Amazon

Good Molecules Yerba Mate Wake Up Eye Gel

My bias is showing with this gift idea, but I'm sharing it anyway! After a while, everyone needs a good eye product to keep dark circles at bay. If your sister is pulling late nights because she's studying or has to wake up with a newborn, she absolutely needs Good Molecules' Yerba Mate Wake Up Eye Gel. It helps bring much needed life back into the under eye area and even plumps the delicate skin back up.

Amazon

The Sleep Guard Pure Silk Sleep Mask

When your sister's done placing her new eye gel on her eyes, make sure she opens the other gift that contains this Pure Silk Sleep Mask. It'll block out light and make sure her eyes stay protected.

Amazon

BEDELITE Satin Pillowcase

While you're at it, throw in a satin pillowcase for good measure. It's good for reducing frizz and breakage, especially if your sister has naturally curly hair or braids!

Amazon

Lucky Bear Spa Headband And Wristlets Set

Your sister's days of getting her hair and the sleeves of her shirt wet are over because you're absolutely getting her this spa set. I would ask, but I already know this is at the top of your gift idea list for her because you can't get enough of it.

The Best Style Gifts

Oomiay

Oomiay Gold Bubble Initial Letter Necklace

Sometimes big sisters aren't a huge fan of flashy jewelry, but that doesn't mean you have to stay away from dainty pieces! Oomiay has so many cute options that will fit her style, like this bubble initial letter necklace! I'm currently wearing one and I only take it off when I have to shower! It's sturdy and fits perfectly in the middle of the chest, making it the only necklace your sister will want to wear.

The Sage Vintage

The Sage Vintage Gold Dainty Custom Charm Bracelet

Does your sister prefer charm bracelets over necklaces? Your best bet is buying her one from The Sage Vintage! You'll be able to customize the charms based on things your sister likes and surprise her with something that feels 100% personalized.

The Best Home & Kitchen Gifts

Target

KitchenAid 5qt 10-Speed Stand Mixer

If your sister is always on cooking or baking duty, save the strength of her arms by investing in a KitchenAid Stand Mixer. She'll lose her mind over the 10 attachments that come with it and the depth of the mixer itself.

P.S. It's by Hearth & Hand Magnolia which may also score you the best sibling award if she loves this brand!

Target

Tabitha Brown 8qt Digital Air Fryer

Wait, an air fryer under $100 exists and it's available at Target? Yes! Tabitha Brown's exclusive collection has so many goodies, but I just know your sister likely doesn't have time to think about making elaborate meals multiple times per week. Ease her mind with this digital fryer that'll let her roast, dehydrate, or even reheat meals!

Your sister will probably brag about her weekly dinners once she starts using this, but she can because "that's her business!"

Bola Grills

BOLA Grill Master

If your sister wants to practice grilling without lugging around something heavy, she'll absolutely love the BOLA Grill Master. Though it looks tiny, it's filled with amazing features that will make everyone want to gather at her house for barbecues and even Thanksgiving. From it's cast iron grate to the thermometer that reads up to 900° F, this is a gift that keeps on giving!

Ruggable

Ruggable Frances Vintage Teal Blue Rug

If your sister's favorite rug has been dismantled by her pets or kids, she may have mentioned how she's in the market for something that won't show as many stains. Though it's more of a big ticket item, Ruggable's Frances Vintage Teal Blue Rug was made with your sister in mind.

It's one of those rugs that instantly gives a room personality and gets better with time. It's spill-proof, but she can still wash it if she feels like it needs to be refreshed!

Sweet July

Sweet July Alma Throw

It's cozy season so your sister needs a couple of throw blankets to choose from. I actually can't get enough of Sweet July's Alma design because it's so abstract and goes with any design aesthetic. It's also reversible so she can lighten or darken the mood as she sees fit!

Baloo

Baloo Weighted Blanket

I've recently invested in a weighted blanket and I'm not sure what I was doing before. This takes sleepmaxxing to another level so I'm sure your sister will appreciate it! It's sustainably made, but that. doesn't mean it's not washer friendly! She'll enjoy how easy it is to fall asleep and clean one of the best blankets on the market. Again, trust me!

Amazon

Preston Lane The Deluxe 3-Wick Candle

What's a home decor gift without a scented candle? I'm not sure I want to find out so don't make your sister suffer! Gift her the warm and inviting scents of bergamot, fresh lime, Jasmine, tuberose, sandalwood, and cedar. It'll even match her new throw or weighted blanket.

Target

Threshold Medium Faux Wood Table Lamp

I know your sister spends her nights reading a book instead of binge watching new shows sometimes so make sure she has a cute lamp on her bedside table. I personally have this same lamp on my desk and it's so soothing when I'm working in the morning instead of opening my blinds or turning on a bright overhead light.

The Best Motherhood Gifts

Amazon

OWSUMER New Mom Candle

Do I love uplifting moms? Uh, yes! They deserve so much love and tenderness considering all of the things they have to endure. If your sister has recently joined motherhood or is a seasoned mom who's expecting, this candle will bring a smile to her face. I promise you she'll never forget unwrapping it and knowing you're the one who gifted her this!

Amazon

Unboxme Gifts Cloud Socks

Moms are often getting up and down for various reasons, so make sure your sister has something cozy on her feet like these cloud socks. They'll provide a nice barrier between her feet and the carpet or hardwood floors she has to cross to find a snack or break up a little sibling quarrel.

Amazon

EverFoams Fuzzy Open-Toe Slippers

If she doesn't care for wearing socks around the house, you can always gift your sister these cute slippers. They're open-toe, making them the fuzzy, breathable footwear she'll love padding around in.

Amazon

KeaBabies Pregnancy Journal

I'll never forget when my sister gifted me a pregnancy journal when I was pregnant with my son. I still have it and love reviewing different moments from it. Plus, I always think about how it was such a nice gesture from my sister.

From one former pregnant mama to your eyes and ears, this is something you can give your sister if she's currently expecting. She'll always look at it and remember the moment she unwrapped it.

Amazon

MomCozy Breast Therapy Packs

It doesn't matter if your sister is on team breastfeeding or not, her boobs are going to be sore during and after pregnancy — blame it on the hormones. She'll need something soothing in her bra to help combat any aches and pains so please get her these therapy packs.

Amazon

Fourth Trimester Mama Affirmation Cards

The fourth trimester aka postpartum can be really tough for some moms. If your sister has recently given birth and is struggling, don't be afraid to let one of her gifts be these affirmation cards. She'll need reminders that she's not only doing a great job, but that she deserves to be patient with herself.

Amazon

Got You a Little Something Happy Hour Activity Cards

I so wish I would've discovered these activity cards during my sister's last pregnancy, but all that matters is that they're in my orbit now! In addition to affirmation cards, helping your sister rediscover things she likes post-birth is such a huge way of showing her that you still her as a person outside of motherhood.

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Mia Challis Just Spilled On That 'Outer Banks' Season 4 Turtle Scene

Outer Banks fans got a treat during 2023's Poguelandia event (which took place on February 18 in Huntington Beach, California). While celebrating the release of Outer Banks season 3, the cast took to the stage to announce that we were also getting Outer Banks season 4! As a native Outer Banks-er myself, this is one teen drama I will never be able to get enough of — so keep the seasons coming Netflix!

I'm already thinking about what hijinks the Pogues will get up to in Outer Banks season 4. Here's everything we know about the new TV show, including the cast, the plot, and the Outer Banks season 4 release date! Once you've scrolled through, catch up on The Craziest Outer Banks Theories.

Keep reading for the latest news & updates on Outer Banks season 4.

Who runs over the turtles in Outer Banks?

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The one Outer Banks season 4 scene that has fans freaking out is when the Pogues and Kooks wind up at the same access on their beach day — and a game of chicken literally turns deadly. Topper's new girlfriend Ruthie (played by Mia Challis) drives her Jeep directly at the Pogues, and winds up running over a turtle hatch, killing a baby turtle in the process.

“When I read that in the script, I was as shocked as the viewers," she tells Elite Daily. "I read it four times being like, ‘Wait, a baby turtle? No, surely not.'"

Despite her cold shoulder, Mia thinks Ruthie did end up feeling guilty about the situation. "When she finds out the turtles have died, she thinks, 'What have I done?'" she says. "There is slight remorse. But Ruthie's defense mechanism is to pretend like she doesn't care."

"It's such an emotional scene for Madison Bailey, who plays Kiara," she continues. "They gave her a plastic baby turtle to hold. When that was happening, we were looking down at the turtle and thinking it was so sad. But I had to switch that off and try to get into my Ruthie mindset."

But surprisingly, Mia also reveals filming the emotional scene wasn't as devastating as you might expect: "We were laughing the whole time. When I watched it, I felt awful, but on the actual day of filming, it was quite light and fun."

What happens at the end of Outer Banks season 4?

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Spoiler warning!! The Outer Banks season 4 ending shocked the internet by killing off one of our favorite Pogues: JJ. The decision immediately sent fans into a tailspin, and more than one viewer told me they're heartbroken over the loss. Don't worry though. This Rudy Pankow & Madison Bailey interaction just might heal you.

Is there an Outer Banks season 4 trailer?

Netflix

Yes, you can watch the Outer Banks season 4 trailer here! The trailer really proves the show is returning to its roots by bringing the Pogues back to the OBX.

I have all my fingers and toes crossed we finally get some answers to one question I've had since season 1. I'm convinced that during Kiara's Kook year, when she briefly ditched the boys to become friends with Sarah, that Rafe fell for her, and hasn't left her alone since. This is such a small detail but it would provide so much context for the characters! Either way, it looks like Rafe, JJ, and John B will be fighting this season (again).

When is Outer Banks season 4 coming out?

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Summer vacation is lasting all year long! Outer Banks season 4 will be premiering in two parts: we'll get the first five episodes on October 10, and the second five on November 7.

After Madison Bailey revealed in an Instagramstory that Outer Banks 4 finished filming in June, she confirmed we'd be getting Outer Banks season 4 this fall on August 15 with a hilarious video hyping up John B and Sarah's fictional surf shop (which we'll see in the upcoming season).

What is season 4 of Outer Banks about?

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Outer Banks season 3 ended with an 18-month time jump — meaning the characters will be a year and a half older at the end of Outer Banks season 4 than in previous installments of the show. This definitely works in the series' favor because the characters will be closer to the cast's ages. Plus, being post-grad gives them more flexibility to go treasure hunting without the repercussions of skipping school...like they did the entirety of season 2.

Thanks to some important details at the end of the season finale, we know Kie is working with turtles, JJ bought a charter boat, Pope is going to college, and John B. and Sarah are running a surf shop. But things take a turn for the adventurous when the Pogues are given a new quest to hunt for Blackbeard's treasure. The real Blackbeard loved hiding his treasure on places like Ocracoke Island, which is on the real OBX. I'm super excited for this plotline because it means we'll be back on the Outer Banks for (hopefully) the whole season!

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"It’s not going to be the usual Blackbeard story," according to co-creator Josh Pate, and (spoiler!!) we actually have our first plot details. According to Wrightsville Beach recreation program supervisor Katie Ryan (via Wilmington StarNews) and the shows filming permits, we know that one scene will involve "two people jumping from the pier," while a second "involves individuals finding a body on the beach."

While Outer Banks season 4 promises to be as adventurous as ever, Chase Stokes promises People the show will also go back to its roots. “There was a real want for a lot of the authenticity and the characters in season 1. So I will say that they do a good job this season of that,” he says.

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After the death of Sarah and John B.'s fathers, the show's golden couple will have to figure out what their future looks like. “It really will force them to evaluate everything," he says. "Where they are, what their purpose is, what their intentions are, and what was the actual value of it? Was it worth it, in hindsight? If they could go back and change things, would they?"

"[The Pogues have had] a huge, huge shift in lifestyle in a very, very short period of time," Chase continues. “And I think when you go through that level of trauma, for sure, it'll make you start asking those deeper questions.”

Who's in the Outer Banks season 4 cast?

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We're expecting the main cast to return for Outer Banks season 4, including Chase Stokes as John B., Madelyn Cline as Sarah, Madison Bailey as Kiara, Jonathan Daviss as Pope, Rudy Pankow as JJ, Carlacia Grant as Cleo, Drew Starkey as Rafe, and Austin North as Topper.

Fiona Palomo will star as Sofia alongside J. Anthony Crane as Chandler Groff, Pollyanna McIntosh as Dalia, Brianna Brown as Hollis Robinson, Rigo Sanchez as Lightner, Mia Challis as Ruthie, and Cullen Moss as Shoupe.

Since Charles Esten's Ward ends up (spoiler!) dying at the end of season 3, he probably won't make a return — unless the show ventures into ghost territory. Honestly, I wouldn't even be surprised. But even if he's not on set, he recently reunited with Madelyn Cline and Drew Starkey!

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"That thing where you’re playing your 4th Annual WARDJAMMER...and your amazing friends who also happen to be your @obx son and daughter surprise you by showing up and hanging out all night and even coming on stage to sing 'Left Hand Free,'" Charles writes on Instagram. "What an absolute joy to wrap my arms around these two! The bond is real and my heart is grateful."

Where is Outer Banks season 4 filming?

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Outer Banks season 4 has been seen filming around Charleston, South Carolina and Wilmington, North Carolina, which is where other titles like Dawson's Creek,The Summer I Turned Pretty, andOne Tree Hill have all filmed! Because OBX has never filming in Wilmington before, it makes me think the Pogues will truly go on an adventure we've never seen.

The First Look At Outer Banks Season 4

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After Netflix's Tudum event showed off the Pogues' new style (and confirmed that all of them will be returning, thank goodness), we got a brand new look at some Outer Banks season 4 scenes thanks to Netflix's 2024 preview. It's a brief clip, but we hear just how excited the Pogues are to go after a treasure they've "spent [their] whole lives hearing about" (same, TBH) — and get to see them lounging around on a day off. Treasure hunting is hard work, after all!

This first look gives us an idea of what we can expect from this upcoming installment because while season 1 had the golden overtone of our favorite 2000s dramas, season 2 featured warmer orange tones, and season 3 featured cooler blues and greens, it looks like Outer Banks season 4 is youthful, bright, and colorful. And thanks to this clip, we also know for a fact we'll see Madison Bailey, Rudy Pankow, Jonathan Daviss, Madelyn Cline, Chase Stokes, and Carlacia Grant come back to their iconic roles.

Is Outer Banks season 4 the last season?

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Netflix hasn't officially announced whether we'll be getting an Outer Banks season 5 or 6 yet, but creators Jonas and Josh Pate have enough story for another two seasons. "We’re going to fill in some gaps in the 18 months," Josh tells TUDUM. "We felt like we needed to migrate them out of school. We think about the first three [seasons] as a trilogy and then we’re starting over on [another sort of] trilogy now. We just needed to clear the decks. We’re going to have new villains, a new treasure hunt, a new life situation."

I'm excited to see what kind of roots the characters put down in Outer Banks season 4 — and how they flourish as the story continues!

What did you think about Outer Banks season 4? Check out our interview with costume designer Emmie Holmes and The Best New TV Shows Coming In 2024 before you rewatch OBX season 4 again ;).

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Matthew McConaughey Recreated The 'How To Lose A Guy In 10 Days' Poster & Now I Need To Rewatch

Matthew McConaughey is back as Benjamin Barry! Well, kind of. There's nothing that really beats the thrill, the nostalgia, and the magic of early 2000s rom-coms. Running around New York City in the age of print media with no iPhones? Yeah, that sounds like magic to me. And one of the best rom-coms in question is, without a doubt, How To Lose A Guy In 10 Days.

Despite the fact Matthew's Ben is a Duke fan, the look on his face when he sees Kate Hudson's Andie in that yellow dress always makes me swoon...no matter how many times I watch. Well, if you love the movie (and that "You're So Vain" karaoke scene) as much as I do, then you HAVE to see Matthew and his wife Camila's take on the movie poster — if just for the shock value.

Keep reading to see Matthew McConaughey and Camila Alves McConaughey's hilarious new interpretation of the How To Lose A Guy In 10 Days poster.

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Matthew & Camila Alves McConaughey recreate the How To Lose A Guy In 10 Days poster.

Y2K rom-com posters usually feature the central couple in outfits that represent their characters, like The Proposal's Sandra Bullock & Ryan Reynolds in their office 'fits and 13 Going on 30's Jennifer Garner in a youthful yet sophisticated nightgown-jacket combo. The How To Lose A Guy In 10 Days poster features Andie and Ben in their iconic company ball outfits. Kate Hudson's yellow dress has been immortalized in film history, and for their organic tequila brand's (Pantalones) latest ad, Matthew and Camila are recreating the poster — and, apparently, baring it all.

While Camila wears a yellow dress inspired by Kate's, Matthew takes a different approach by appearing in the ad pantless! They also rename the poster How to Lose Your Pants in 10 Ways, perhaps proving Pantalones is a surefire way to have a good time.

In addition to the movie poster, the brand also released some cocktail recipes inspired by the movie, like Love Fern Margarita, Benny Boo Boo, You're So Vain, and Yellow Dress. I'm going to need to add these to my Friendsgiving movie night menu STAT!

The yellow dress drink in question features lime juice, agave, and Cointreau in addition to the tequila. Plus some edible glitter! Say no more.

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This isn't the first time since the movie's release Matthew McConaughey's referenced the ball. In 2023, for the film's 20th anniversary, both Matthew and Kate (who's wearing yellow! Clever, clever!) hopped on Instagram live to celebrate the film and answer questions.

Fans of the movie will remember the karaoke scene comes after Andie learns about Ben's bet to get her to fall for him, and Ben learns about Andie's article of how to annoy men enough they'll break up with you. Frustrated and a little brokenhearted, the pair fights — and sings "You're So Vain" by Carly Simon. And it turns out, art was imitating life just a little bit.

"Underneath, probably for things that were happening in character and out of character and off-set, we’d gotten under each other’s skin a little bit," Matthew says in the live. "We were legitimately kind of pissed off at each other in a really cool way. Like okay, that worked. But can we inject a little more of the charm and the love and the desire and the lust in there?”

What's your favorite scene from How To Lose A Guy In 10 Days?! Let us know on Instagram and check out The Best Rom-Coms To Watch This Weekend.

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40 Skincare Products That'll Help Maintain That Year-Round Glow

Glowing skin is all about using products that suit your skin type and keep you hydrated. From high-quality moisturizers to innovative serums that lock in moisture, this list offers everything you need to revamp your routine and adapt it to the changing seasons. Get ready for your skin to look and feel its best with these game-changing products.

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An Eye Cream That Works Like Magic

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A Face Mist for a Convenient Refresh

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Keep your skin nourished and hydrated this winter with this refreshing face mist. It soothes irritation while adding a hint of tropical coconut scent. An affordable skincare hack, perfect for dry winter days.

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A Foaming Cleanser for a Deep but Gentle Clean

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A Night Cream That Prevents Signs of Aging

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Brightening Pads That Work for All Skin Types

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A Vitamin C Serum That Combines Multiple Steps

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A Niacinamide Serum to Perfect Your Complexion

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A Cleansing Oil Made With Vitamins and Antioxidants

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A Ceramide Treatment for Dehydrated Skin

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A Hyaluronic Acid Serum That Plumps and Hydrates

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A Gel Moisturizer That Does More Than a Lotion

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A Multi-Peptide Eye Cream That Promotes Collagen Production

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A Liquid Exfoliant That Works on Even Sensitive Skin

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An Enzym Cleanser That Doesn't Irritate Dry Skin

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An Overnight Mask With a Boost of Collagen

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The Famous Snail Mucin Serum

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A Toner for a Glass Like Complexion

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A Retinol Serum for Acne Prone Skin

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A Caffeine Eye Cream for Your Morning Routine

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A Repair Cream That Supports Your Moisture Barrier

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An Aloe Vera Gel for Your Face and Body

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A Prebiotic Moisturizer That Clarifies Your Complexion

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An Ultra-Hydrating Toner Perfect for Redness and Irritation

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Anti-Aging Ceramide Capsules for Your Daily Routine

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A Vitamin E Lotion That Does It All

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A Hyaluronic Acid Serum to Replump and Hydrate

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A Day Cream That Reverses Dullness

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A Glow Serum for Enlarged Pores and Inflamation

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Bronzing Drops That Will Help You Keep Up With the Summer Tan

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A Lip Balm Infused With Hyaluronic Acid

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A Glycolic Acid Face Wash for a Deep Cleanse

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A Facial Tool Set You Won't Regret Buying

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An Overnight Collagen Mask You Can Peel Off in the Morning

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A Lip Mask Infused With Antioxidants

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A Barrier Serum Everyone Should be Using

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A Face Mask That Will Leave Your Skin Glowing

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An Ice Roller to Scuplt and Soothe Your Skin

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A Facial Mist for a Mid-Day Pick-Me-up

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With the cold and dry weather, your skin might need a little boost throughout the day and this facial mist is the perfect product to do so. It's made with a hyaluronic acid and hibiscus formula to boost moisture and add a natural glow.

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An Anti-Aging Serum That Rewinds the Clock

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Depuffing and Brightening Eye Patches

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A Gel Sleeping Mask for Hydrated, Clear Skin

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A Cleanser Made With Natural Ingredients

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This Facial Serum Can Brighten the Skin

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This Primer and Serum Combo Lifts, Perks Up, and Revives Your Skin

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This Toner Will Dramatically Even Skin Tone

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You'll hardly recognize your skin after incorporating this brightening face toner into your routine. Combined with PHA and azelaic acid, this 3% TXA (tranexamic acid) toner hydrates and exfoliates for smoother, more radiant skin in just a few days. One shocking 5-star review reads, "I have brown spots on my face from too much time in the sun as a teenager. Over a period of three weeks, you can hardly notice them, and when I put on my makeup, you don’t even see them. I love this product."

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