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Mid-Century Modern Decor

Mango Wood Contemporary Pillar Candle Holder ($15)

The mid-century style is recognizable for simplistic yet organic shapes, and these sleek candle holders stylishly adhere to that.

Raawii Strøm Vase ($89)

For a burst of color, opt for this shapely blue vase.

Joybird Flynn Mirror ($305, was $470)

The rounded corners on this mirror bring elements of comfort into your mid-century-inspired space.

Gold Starburst Atomic Clock ($130)

Toeing the line between mid-mod and art deco, this gold starburst wall clock is the ultimate decor accessory for a retro vibe.

Kate & Laurel All Things Decor Sylvie Mid-Century Modern Pattern Framed Canvas ($110)

Don't forget to dress up those walls with some wall art! This colorful design is sophisticated, but simultaneously playful.

West Elm Pure Ceramic Footed Decorative Bowl ($75, was $94)

Continuing with the organic form, this display bowl can be used to hold fresh fruits, or utilized as an elevated front door catch-all.

Wideboy Alarm Clock ($59)

This wide alarm clock will sit on your bedside table in mid-century fashion. The bold numbers followed by thin clock hands recall the appliances made in the vintage era.

Sputnik Ball Candle Holder ($59)

You might have seen this starry shape once or twice before, without knowing its form originates from the 1957 Sputnik spacecraft launch! Since then, the sputnik has become a bold symbol not only of the space race, but of mid-century design as a whole.

World Market Multicolor Woven Check Pillow ($32, was $40)

Just because mid-century modern leans heavily on wooden pieces doesn't mean you can't have a little fun with color! The structured pattern on this pillow plays well with more rounded, organic lines.

Mid-Century Modern Wall Shelf with Arched Wood Design ($70+)

The lined arch detail takes this shelf to anything *but* boring. It's the perfect size to flaunt all your favorite knick-knacks, or a small bouquet of flowers.

Mid-Century Modern Furniture

Set of 2 Betterhood Rattan Nightstands ($130)

This duo of nightstands infuse your bedroom with all the mid-century details – from rattan shelves to tapered feet.

IKEA Ekenäset Armchair ($279)

We love the subdued color on this chair's upholstering. It adds enough flair to your space, but will match swimmingly with your existing style.

Urban Outfitters Mason Storage Cabinet ($1,300, was $1,700)

This smooth arched cabinet would work amazingly in a mid-century modern kitchen space, offering plenty of storage that you can see, thanks to its glass windows.

Tilton Round Mint Green Geo Pedestal Outdoor Accent Table ($72, was $80)

Have fun with accents – this mint green table is the ultimate way to start.

Saracina Home 2 Door Mid-Century Modern Wood Storage TV Stand ($360)

The tilted legs and low-sitting silhouette of this TV stand give it that mid-century definition. Use it to stack books on, store homewares, and style more mid-century decor!

Room & Board Gibson Coffee Table ($1,300)

Your mid-century coffee table is not a mid-century coffee table unless it has curves. This triangular pick from Room & Board is simple yet eye-catching!

Urban Outfitters Hugo Side Table / Nightstand ($199)

The rounded hutches in this side table design make a perfect play on negative space, adding desirable dimension.

Anthro Living Home Velvet Hagen Dining Chair ($468)

The velvet material these dining chairs are constructed from introduce more elegance, ideal for a cozy mid-cench dining room!

Threshold Johannson Mid-Century Modern 4 Shelf Bookcase ($170, was $200)

Mid-century styles thrive on function. This shelved bookcase provides an ample amount of space to store books, papers, and pictures!

SAYGOER Small Oval Coffee Table ($80)

The contrast between this table's legs and tabletop allow you to match the piece with the rest of your mid-century modern furniture!

Mid-Century Modern Lighting

Anthro Living Electra Table Lamp ($161, was $248)

This warm-hued lamp brings in some friendly flair to your mid-century bedroom or living space!

Terrain Globe Table Lamp ($128)

The grained wood combined with an alluring, spherical lampshade makes this light super sleek.

IKEA Dejsa Table Lamp ($55)

The mushroom lamp is heavily trending, but for good reason. This one emulates fungi in the most amusing way, opting for a neutral color palette that's easy to pair with other decor pieces.

Urban Outfitters Aldona Marble Table Lamp ($169)

Think of this marble pick as the more elevated version of the above lamp – perfect for a clean home office.

Retro Design Mushroom Lamp ($66)

Go bold with this all-orange mushroom lamp that'll illuminate your home with super warm light.

Mid-Century Modern Rugs

Ruggable 5'x7' Modern Chartreuse Rug ($219)

The abstract pattern on this rug will go great with mid-century modern basics, amping up the color!

Amelia Hazy Swirls Area Rug ($164, was $235)

With this rug, you can cover your floors in the adorable arched rainbow motif that's so prominent in mid-mod design.

Poly & Bark Berat 6'x9' Rug ($169)

This rug design provides a great balance between straight and wavy lines, all working together to coat your living room or bedroom floors in abstraction.

Joybird Rumi 6'x9' Rug ($658, was $1,013)

The scattered shapes on this piece surprisingly form a cohesive look, with enough color to add visual interest to your home decor.

Balta Rugs Caserio Mid-Century Modern Abstract Rug ($185, was $206)

The overlapping arches on this comfy floorpiece are outlined in a dark gray that further accentuates its mid-century details.

Outdoor Furniture (Up To 60% Off)

Charmain Polyethylene (PE) Wicker Seating with Cushions ($310, was $370)

Sesame Naples Steel Pergola with Canopy ($488, was $699)

A canopy is a great way to make your outdoor space feel warm and inviting. This pergola/canopy combo is a mix of modern and boho, workin with just about any other furniture you may have on your porch or patio.

Area Rugs (Up To 80% Off)

Adelia Performance Blue/Orange Rug ($87, was $385)

The colors on this rug are EVERYTHING. Area rugs are often an expensive investment, so this is definitely a deal you don't wanna miss!

Living Room Seating (Up To 60% Off)

Atherine 6-Piece Upholstered Sectional ($700, was $820)

The Atherine Sectional is sleek and sophisticated while still looking cozy and sittable. Can definitely picture a nap or two on those cushy cushions!

Lighting (Up To 65% Off)

Drinkard 3-Light Dimmable Vanity Light ($50, was $180)

This vanity light is a simple way to upgrade and modernize your bathroom. The chic design is simple enough to go with any vanity, but stylish enough to make a statement.

Mattresses And More (Up To 70% Off)

Wayfair Sleep™ Medium Cooling Gel Memory Foam Mattress ($324, was $370)

A mattress that helps cool you down without having to blast your ceiling fan? Count me in.

Bathroom Furniture (Up To 65% Off)

Karine Free-Standing Double Bathroom Vanity With Marble Vanity Top ($817, was $3,562)

The vanity being aesthetically appealing is honestly the second-best thing about the Karine Bathroom Vanity — the deal is insane enough for us to buy it regardless, TBH.

Bedroom Furniture (Up To 60% Off)

Briaroaks Queen Upholstered Platform 3-Piece Bedroom Set ($460, was $800)

If you move a lot in your sleep, a tufted headboard may be your new BFF. Of course this looks lovely, but the padding is sure to save you a lot of headaches...literally.

Kitchen & Dining Furniture (Up To 65% Off)

Gillham Iron Dining Table ($157, was $498)

Honestly? Pack up the whole room — we'll take it. (Really, though, this table is a gorgeous addition for any dining room situation)

Home Office Furniture (Up To 60% Off)

Tisha Corner Bookcase ($96, was $145)

Shelving and storage doesn't have to just be utilitarian — it can be beautiful, too! We love how this bookcase combines form and function.

1. We thought our first love was perfect and would argue with anyone who wanted us to take things slow with them.

I'll never forget the first time I fell in love at 19. I thought my ex was the "wind beneath my wings" because he had a great sense of humor and was creative like me. I told myself he was the person I was going to marry so I was offended when my parents didn't think he was mature enough to be in a serious relationship. If this sounds familiar, pull up a chair because Menon explains why we tend to idealize our first love.

"Your first love is your first experience with romantic love too, hence you typically see it with rose-colored glasses. The overwhelming emotion is often infatuation, which tends to overshadow the more critical and analytical part of our brain," she says. Sadly, this sounds like something my parents told me before but I couldn't fathom how true it was as a teen.

As the Clinical Director at Southern California Sunrise Recovery Center, Cavins has seen this play out before too. He says, "In your first relationship, there is a tendency to put your partner on a pedestal. The excitement of new love can create a powerful emotional fog that makes it hard to see flaws clearly."

Essentially, this "excitement of having a boyfriend, girlfriend, or partner supersedes" our ability to questions things we normally wouldn't put up with, according to Menon.

2. We tried to ignore the how many times our first loves disagreed with our values or goals.

While some couples are able to make their relationship work despite having a different outlook on life, sometimes it can be a sign that things aren't going to work long-term. Cavins says, "One major red flag is disregarding differences in values or goals for the future. For instance, you wish to become a parent someday while your spouse swears this will never happen— or vice versa. Early on, you might dismiss these differences, believing love will conquer all. However, these mismatched priorities can lead to resentment and challenges over time."

Honestly, I probably should've ran whenever my ex would mock my belief in God only for us to have to attend his mother and stepfather's church whenever I visited. There was so much confusion there, but I tried to dismiss it as something he needed time to work out.

Menon adds, "If this relationship makes you feel like you'e standing in quick sand - where you are trying to move forward but often feel held back in your individual aspirations, it may not be the right fit for you."

3. We thought it was 'cute' when our first loves made suggestions about which friends to avoid or what clothes to wear.

Cavins says, "Excessively possessive behaviors are another red flag that people often ignore easily when they fall in love for the first time. People tend to justify such behaviors by citing that it's due to love or protective instincts." I'm all for being in a relationship where your partner's able to see different sides of a picture, but controlling behavior shouldn't come with that. What might that look like?

Cavins says, "Your partner may frequently check in on you, offer opinions on who you should spend time with, or subtly pressure you into making choices that suit them." For example, your partner could start off making suggestions about your style that slowly morph into them controlling everything you wear. Somehow I went from being a self-professed 'girly-girl' to trying to emulate the style of 'sneakerheads' in a short amount of time. Though I love wearing everything from New Balance to Niké sneakers now, it's in a way that feels cohesive with my style.

You may have brushed this kind of behavior off because, again, you thought it meant your first love wanted the best for you. "It is understandable that such behavior hypothetically may come off as pleasant or affirming; however, they often signal an unhealthy dynamic of control rather than mutual respect," says

4. We always gave in when our first loves forced us to be affectionate.

*Sigh* I'm shaking my head for my younger self because there were many times I didn't advocate for myself in my first romantic relationship. I'd often give in to affectionate or intimate moments despite wanting personal space so I wouldn't be seen as 'boring' or uninterested in my ex. Menon says, "Given the infatuation, your first relationship can feel all-consuming and often is codependent. Hence, this may result in you overlooking that your partner does not respect your boundaries or desire for personal space."

Partly because the excitement of the relationship makes you want to spend all of your time together, until you don't. And then, it is often too late to correct a maladaptive historical pattern.

4. We always made excuses for why our partners would shower us with affection only to ignore us days later.

Let's be clear, 'love bombing' feels confusing and awful. No one should make you feel like you're the center of their universe only to ignore your calls or texts days later. But, this probably happened while you were with your first love. Cavins says, "There's a tendency for people to brush off their first love's emotional unavailability. When, for example, a partner is not responsive and not engaging in intimate discussions or does not express their feelings, some may rationalize this as them being 'just not ready.'" If that were the case, this person wouldn't have made you feel like being with you is something they truly wanted.

Of that, Cavins believes "it's important to recognize these behaviors early" because "they can result in a one-side emotional investment that leaves one party feeling unfulfilled in the long run." Sadly, my first love would have days where he was super sweet to me only to feel like I was smothering him with attention. This is also the same person who begged me to remain in our romantic relationship when he went to basic training although I felt it would be better if we chose to be friends. Imagine my surprise (and hurt) when he told me we should have an open relationship months after getting stationed for the first time.

I should've known better because he was never 100% on board with the idea of marriage until after he graduated from basic training. Cavins calls this "emotional disconnectedness." His further explanation is this is "when the initial chemistry between the partners subsides that emotional attachment matters." To avoid this, he feels "identifying and addressing any of these is critical in a case where you are looking to create a strong and healthy bond."

5. We ignored the ways our former partner blamed us whenever they got in trouble with their parents or an authority figure.

Did your first love have a hard time taking responsibility for things that went wrong by gaslighting you to absorb the blow of their mistakes? If you've furiously nodding, we should start a support group. Cavins says, "A key sign is a lack of personal or relational growth. Healthy relationships encourage mutual development, but if one partner stays stuck in old patterns while the other grows, it can create frustration and distance."

At no point should you be the reason why your first love got in trouble after answering their parents' house phone late at night after telling you to call at a certain time. It's situations like this that should've alerted us to awful behavior, but I can see how easy it is to dismiss things.

What if I'm in love for the first time and recognize these signs?

First, my heart goes out to you for being in a relationship that doesn't feel healthy. It hurts when we realize the person we thought was so great is anything but. The road to letting go of idealization may be long, but you can and will get better. Cavins says, "In the process of self-healing and recovery, the first step that must be taken is self-reflection. Ask yourself all of the necessary questions that arise, such as what this relationship means for you, what your boundaries are, and what this partnership has revealed about you as an individual."

I keep saying this, but relying on journal prompts can help you unpack a lot of things and, thankfully, Cavins agrees. He says, "You could always opt to talk to a specialist or being journaling in order to find some closure and draw meaning from the experience." Also, he wants you to start "making new memories." But, don't be passive about it.

"You will have to engage yourself in activities that will help redirect the focus of your thoughts. This could include joining a new class, engaging in a hobby, or traveling that involves some independence. These experiences can help shift your mindset from loss to growth and reinforce your identity outside of the relationship," says Cavins.

Another important thing you can do is "solicit help from others," according to him. "Calling on people you trust, like friends and family, to talk about these feelings can significantly help in healing," he says. This also helped me navigate life outside of my first real romantic relationship, reminding me that I still had a lot of love in my life that didn't begin or end with my ex.

Here are Menon's tips:

• Let yourself grieve — Let this loss run its course. If you need to feel angry, sad, distraught, nostalgic. Allow yourself the full breadth of this experience. If I ask you right now "don't think a out a yellow monkey", I can bet you just thought of a yellow monkey. We call this "the imp of the mind". When you reject feelings, or thoughts, they come back 10 times more fiercely. To move the feeling along, we must let ourselves experience it.
• Rediscover your identity (So important) — Your first love is often intertwined with self-discovery, and identity formation. Reconsider your goals, interests, values, friendships and hobbies and try to build your own sense of identity and individuality.

I saw my first love again and it feels like we're falling in love all over. Can we have a happy and healthy relationship?

I'm not going to tell you to run even though I told my ex I never wanted to speak or talk to him again. You could easily reconnect with the first person you fell in love with and realize that you're both in a place where you can have something beautiful. However, Cavins and Menon want you to be mindful if you're in this position.

"Reconnection is possible," begins Menon, "if both parties can objectively claim that they have grown emotionally and resolved the issues that held their relationship back." But, "if the reconnection is built on one person growing and the other not, it is likely to fail," she alerts. You'll need to "proceed with caution," she says because "your first love was a nostalgic era in your life that can cloud your judgement." To put it more clearly, she doesn't want you confuse "the fuzzies" with a "true knowing that the two of you can make it work."

Cavins says, "Reconnecting with a first love can trigger a strong wave of emotions, but it is important that such a decision is made with caution and a strong sense of pragmatism. Personal growth is a primary factor. Each party in the relationship must ask themselves how they have grown and evolved as individuals over time. If past patterns of conflict, immaturity, or unhealthy dynamics remain unaddressed, the same issues could resurface."

He wants you to consider these things:

• Are there any active relationships or past engagements that would make it rather difficult? That's because the feelings that come with reigniting old flames are very strong and can alter a person’s life, making it essential to start thinking from all angles before going ahead with it.
• Address previous challenges that caused the breakup in the first place. If the reasons behind the breakup have been resolved or do not exist anymore, then yes, meeting again has its prospects. However, keep in mind that, at times, memories can be selective and unfavorably distort the truth by overplaying the good qualities while avoiding the negative ones.
• Only rekindle things if both individuals are in a healthy emotional state and the decision is grounded in practical, mutual considerations—not just sentimentality or romanticized memories. Clear and honest discussions and an understanding of purpose are vital in ascertaining if rekindling the relationship will be worthwhile for both parties or if it will simply be an act of revisiting unresolved emotions.