Rockstar Linda Perry on Why She’s Always Backing the Underdog

The next time you’re jamming to feminist anthems on Spotify, know that you’re probably listening to a track that was touched by Linda Perry. Perry is the brains behind some of the most kickass tunes of our time, from “Beautiful” by Christina Aguilera to “Superwoman” by Alicia Keys. After starting off her hustle in the band 4 Non Blondes and subsequently pursuing a solo career, Perry has written hit songs for some of the most notable artists in the world, a talent that led to her induction into the Songwriters Hall of Fame in 2015. Today, Perry is turning her focus to supporting up-and-coming artists from the ground up with her new label We Are Hear. In partnership with Intuit’s Backing You campaign, she’s also helping kickstart the career of an outstanding artist named Willa Amai who’s already set to blow up the music industry at just 13 years old (you probably heard her incredible rendition of Daft Punk’s “Harder, Better, Faster, Stronger” during a QuickBooks commercial that aired during this year’s Grammy Awards). We chatted with Perry about how the music industry is changing, including why labels need to start backing the underdog and why it’s time for the people behind the music to have their turn in the spotlight.

Brit + Co: As someone who has worn many hats in the music industry (as a band member, solo artist, songwriter, and producer), how do you feel the role of music artist has changed since your first hit exploded with 4 Non Blondes?

Linda Perry: The role of the artist? Well, that’s an ongoing scenario; it keeps changing because the business keeps changing. That’s basically why me and my partner Kerry started a company called We Are Hear — because we wanted to help fulfill other artists’ vision. We consider ourselves a creative energy brand where we see what [the artist] wants to do, and we’re behind you to help motivate you, to help fulfill the vision, and to be supportive, to develop — and that doesn’t happen anymore. Right now, the artists are basically being thrown in with these huge companies. They throw them out there and if it doesn’t stick, that’s it, they move onto the next one.

B+C: Can you talk a little about the growing number of independent workers in the music industry?

LP: Well, there have always been a lot of independent workers. Remember the ’80s? The ’80s were really awesome. There were really great bands and the industry was booming, and then the ’90s showed up. The people in the ’90s, they didn’t want to be on labels; they wanted to be cool and they wanted to be underground and independent like Nirvana, Sound Garden, and all those guys. The indie labels rose because they were the ones who were signing these acts, and the labels were still trying to make a living off of Men at Work or whatever and that sound was going out. You’ve got all these indie labels like Sub Pop, Caroline, whatever, that are coming up, and they have this huge success with all these major bands. Then what happened [was] the big labels went and bought up the indies.

That’s kind of happening again right now. The difference today is that there is more support for these indie artists and small businesses like We Are Hear. A perfect example is QuickBooks. We don’t have the time to do all this accounting and invoicing because when you’re a small business all hands are on deck and you’re working, you’re pushing, you’re moving fast because you don’t have that many people. And so software like QuickBooks comes in and it helps us manage our invoices, and does all this stuff for us that we normally would probably[…] screw up. We’re not a big business, so we can’t afford having these suits in a luxurious office counting change and not paying anybody because it takes forever for those guys. The funny part is that those guys have money but they take forever to pay out. So when my band or someone plays for me on an album or anything, we pop it in QuickBooks, type up the invoice, and they get paid right away. And people are really liking that about it, so, you know, the indies are better right now because there’s better support.

B+C: So you think it’s easier for independent artists to succeed today than it was previously?

LP: Oh absolutely, I do believe so. Well, also you have all the social media, you have all that. You can poop on your YouTube channel and get signed. I don’t get it, I don’t, trust me, I’m not a fan of that. I’m a fan of real artists, having a purpose with your music, having a purpose with your company, having direction. And everything we do is to serve what we love, and that’s music. So it’s very important. We started We Are Hear because I don’t want to be microwave popcorn — I don’t want to throw out a band that’s just good for one shot and then you’re on to the next one. It just doesn’t feel good, and I’m an artist, my partner Kerry, he’s an artist, and we want to support the artist. We want to support the underdog.

B+C: So was supporting the underdog the driving motivation when you decided to start your own label?

LP: Oh yeah. We had many, many conversations about how the labels are not developing artists anymore, they are not embracing the art. I’ve had so many people that I’ve worked with come to me and say “I hate my record, I didn’t want to do this, the label made me do it,” and I say, you know what, it’s your fault. The label won’t do anything that you won’t let them do.

So Kerry and I want to be a place kids can come and get inspired, and we will help them if we believe in them (of course, we have to believe in them and feel like there’s talent there), but we manage artists, we manage songwriters, we’re a creative team — I mean, we kick ass. Honestly, we’re really kicking ass.

B+C: One of the first major projects for We Are Hear was producing and releasing the soundtrack album for Served Like a Girl, a documentary film that brings awareness to the very real struggles of female veterans. What made you decide to take on this specific project?

LP: Well, again, I’m a big fan of the underdog. You’ll find me hanging out with the underdogs always. That was a project that when it was brought to me, there was very little money behind it, and we’re talking about more than 55,000 women out on the street right now are veterans. And these women, some of them do three terms for seven or eight years, and when they come back they go to the VA and they’re turned away, and they tell them that there are no benefits for women and they go to welfare. Now, mind you, not that the benefits for men are outstandingly great, but at least they’re getting something — women don’t get anything. So I wanted to be a part of that because I wanted that to be known, I wanted to get that out there. So that’s why we got behind that project: to help spread the word.

B+C: You’re written some extremely popular feminist anthems during your career — including “What’s Up(4 Non Blondes), “Beautiful (Christina Aguilera), “Superwoman(Alicia Keys), and “Shine (Pat Benatar), a song you wrote and produced specifically as an anthem to accompany the Women’s March on Washington. What are your thoughts about the fusion of music and protest, especially in today’s political and social climate?

LP: I don’t know how many people are going to be a fan of what I’m about to say, but listen: With the good there comes bad, with the bad comes good. Right now, we’re with the bad comes the good, and we just have to stay focused because we have a very serious situation happening in this country and in the world. What we need to focus on is that through this, people are awake — they’re coming together, they’re unifying, they’re joining hands. It’s becoming a very, very powerful situation out there, and punk rock is going to come back, the Patti Smiths and Ani DiFrancos. People are going to start getting more political with their songs, and just be more free. I mean, to me, it’s equivalent to Vietnam and the ’60s. It’s like right now we are having a very big [moment] of people joining forces and saying “no f***ing way, not on my f***ing dime anymore.” That’s what we have to support as a country.

B+C: Can you talk a little about your partnership with Intuit on the Backing You campaign?

LP: Honestly, this is going to sound very cheesy, but I love these guys. I mean, we have this artist Willa and we played this showcase and they freaked out on Willa and they approached us and said, we have this commercial — we’ve been looking for this voice. Willa, she’s 13 now and 12 when I found her — and I didn’t even find her, a friend of my wife’s asked me to come see if I thought this girl had any talent — and she literally played me half a song and I just had a feeling about her. Then I told her to call me in February, and that she needed to write some songs. So she called me, and we just started working together, but not working together [in the traditional sense] — she’s 13, you can’t push a 13-year-old. You just have to open up the house and let them see what they’re capable of doing, and that’s what we’ve been doing. She’s just been writing.

But anyway, when we did this, QuickBooks came to us and they brought this commercial and we were like, YES! [We couldn’t get over] the fact that we [already] used QuickBooks and we love it. I’m terrible — I don’t even know what two plus two is — don’t even put any checks in my hand [or] put any numbers in my brain… I’m a musician one hundred percent, all the way. One thing about QuickBooks is that they are backing [the independent artists]. So we’re supporting the artist and QuickBooks is supporting us. I mean, I love them. I can’t say enough about them.

B+C: As a part of the Intuit campaign, you also released a documentary-style commercial during the Grammy Awards called “Backing the Small Businesses Behind the Music” featuring Willa Amai.

LP: Basically the whole thing is about “Backing You,” and so Willa — she’s not a big artist, she’s just starting out, and she’s amazing. It’s a behind-the-scenes. We always see what happens to the artist when they win their Grammys and they have their big houses and their fancy cars and their makeup line. We rarely [see] what happens before that, and so the whole commercial and the campaign [features] the engineer sitting at the microphone, the person bringing the food, the photographer taking a picture of Willa. Then it goes to the creative director that turns it into a poster, then it goes into the hand of the girl that puts the poster on the wall. It goes from her singing the song acapella, in front of a microphone into the speakers, into the control room. So you can get an idea of the team behind the scenes.

There is a team that’s working with everyone — these artists don’t just happen. It’s not like little magic elves sprinkle dust on them and then all of a sudden they are on the radio. There’s a massive team and a lot of work that goes into it, and I loved it. When they told us this, it was so brilliant to me. So that’s what the commercial is about. And, I mean, it looks really great, they did an amazing job, and I think it’s very inventive and I feel it’s really going to change a lot —the perspective of music.

B+C: As a notable songwriter who’s been in the business for years, has your creative process changed at all?

LP: With age, you just change, you know? I don’t even have a choice, it’s just happening. So it is true, the older you get, the wiser you get, and you start seeing things a little clearer. When I was younger, I had a lot of ego, but not the right kind of ego; it was ego to defend and control. Now my ego is of confidence, and I let go more because I’m confident — I don’t need to hold on because I know what I do. So having that kind of perspective really opens up my creative tunnel, and I’m on fire right now. I mean, I’m doing some incredible things, my energy is clear, and I’m focused. I think I’m just getting really good at what I do, and I feel like if my career were ten steps of a ladder, I feel like right now I’m on four, and I have so much farther to go. It feels good.

B+C: What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever received in your career?

LP: That’s so easy, because it’s always right here, right in front of me right now. When I was in 4 Non Blondes, every time I asked a question, the producer of the record company would say “Can’t you just be an artist? You don’t need to know that right now.” And I just wanted to know why my guitar sounded so thin, when it sounded so fat in the live room, and I was just curious. So I left the band and then I was chatting with this producer Bill Bottrell, and I asked him a bunch of questions when I was working on this solo album called In Flight. I asked so many questions that he literally picked me up and put me in a seat, and he said: “this is your EQ, these are your highs, your lows, your mids, over here are compressors, these are your effects.” And I’m like “oh my god, what is all this?!” And he said, “Turn the knob until it sounds good to your ear.” I’ve been turning knobs my whole career. In my life, it’s just what I do. I turn knobs until it sounds good or feels good.

Have you watched the Backing You commercial featuring Linda Perry and up-and-coming artist Willa Amai yet? Tweet us your thoughts by mentioning @BritandCo.

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I'll admit, I'm one of the people who begins listening to Christmas music in September — if not earlier. And while I always have "December" by Gabrielle Aplin & Hannah Grace and everything Nat King Cole has ever sung on repeat, there are some tunes even I can't stand. And I know I'm not the only one, which is why I scoured the internet for the absolute worst Christmas songs ever recorded. Feel free to hate-listen while you hate-watch the worst Christmas movies!

Here are the worst Christmas songs nobody wants to listen to.

The 25 Worst Christmas Songs Of All Time

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1. "Christmas Shoes" by Newsong.

This heartbreaking song is about a kid trying to buy shoes for his dying mother, and it traumatized children everywhere. "The song about the Christmas shoes is the worst," @VonHush wrote on Reddit, while another user agrees, "It does really suck."

2. "Last Christmas" by Wham!

According to one Reddit user, their "least favorite [Christmas song] is motherf—king Last Christmas." This is also my dad's least favorite Christmas song, and he always has a visceral reaction when it comes on the radio. What's with the drama, gents? Regardless of whether you love or hate this, I'll always stand by Taylor Swift's cover.

3. "Grandma Got Run Over By A Reindeer" by Elmo & Patsy

This is one of my least favorite Christmas songs because I'd rather sing about peace and joy, not envision my grandmother getting mowed down by Rudolph.

4. "It's the Holiday Season" by Andy Williams

It might be time to celebrate the holidays, but this song really doesn't inspire holiday cheer for some listeners. "The lyrics really grind on my nerves," @ fresnosmokey says on Reddit. "'Woopdie doo and dickory dock and don't forget to hang up your sock.' WFT is that? Were they under pressure to put out a Christmas song as quickly as possible? Because that's just plain lazy writing."

5. "White Winter Hymnal" by Pentatonix

Okay, this is a hot take because people love this cover of the Fleet Foxes original, but it's always given me such an eerie feeling. The song isn't necessarily about death in a literal sense, but "with scarves of red tied 'round their throats / To keep their little heads from falling in the snow" and "You would fall and turn the white snow red / As strawberries in the summertime" literally send shivers down my spine.

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6. "Do They Know It's Christmastime" by Band Aid

While this is an update addition to any playlist, one X user considers this one of the worst Christmas songs ever. "[It's] just so smug and patronizing."

7. "Mary Did You Know?" by Michael English

I haven't been able to listen to this song the same ever since I saw someone point out that yes, Mary did know. The angel told her! Touché.

8. "8 Days Of Christmas" by Destiny's Child

While we can always expect covers of old school Christmas songs, some people are really not a fan of changing up a classic. Take "8 Days Of Christmas" for example. "What arrogance compels you to just change a classic and then gurgle on about all the stuff you want?" @disco54 says on Reddit.

9. "Do You Hear What I Hear?" by Harry Simeone Chorale

And with so many new & incredible songs to enjoy, some of the older tunes are harder to listen to. “'do you hear what I hear' is so so slow and I just can’t enjoy it anymore," one X user says.

10. "Mistletoe" by Justin Bieber

Sorry y'all, I just missed the Bieber fever, which means this is a skip for me. The use of "shawty" haunts me to this day.

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11. "Santa Baby" by Eartha Kitt

Some people consider it a classic, others consider it like nails on a chalk board. "Not sure how controversial this is but I hate Santa Baby," one Reddit user says. "It has very little redeeming qualities for me and I will put on a non Christmas station when it comes on."

12. "Little Drummer Boy" by the Austrian Trapp Family

This song is both so long and so repetitive that it makes it hard to enjoy listening to the entire thing.

13. "The Twelve Days Of Christmas" by...Anyone

I consider this one of the worst Christmas songs simply because of how long it is. I start zoning out around "5 golden rings."

14. "I Want A Hippopotamus For Christmas" by Gayla Peevey

I've always considered this song a silly addition to my Christmas playlist, but I have found myself skipping it recently in favor of more classic carols. "'i want a hippopotamus for christmas' is the worst," @polivtical says on X. "only to be tied with 'all i want for christmas is my two front teeth'. both should be considered torture."

15. "All I Want For Christmas Is My Two Front Teeth" by Spike Jones and His City Slickers (or Alvin and The Chipmunks)

This makes the worst Christmas song list purely because of the above tweet. Enough said.

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16. "Crabs for Christmas" by David DeBoy

Just the title of this Christmas song (which is apparently about someone asking Santa for a crab feast for Christmas) has me questioning whether it's good. One Reddit user jokes it's the reason they moved out of Maryland.

17. "I'll Be Home For Christmas" by Camila Cabello

Camila's viral performance (and everyone instantly meme-ing the way she pronounces "Christmas") means I can't listen to this song the same way ever again.

18. "Wonderful Christmastime" by Paul McCartney

Wow, some of y'all really hate this song. Why?! Despite the fact it's upbeat and cute, a lot of people really don't like it.

19. "I Never Knew the Meaning of Christmas" by NSYNC

Did we really need another Christmas pop song? Especially one that tells single people they don't know the meaning of Christmas if they're not coupled up? Yikes.

20. "Dominick The Donkey" by Lou Monte

Some people simply don't want to listen to a donkey bray while they're enjoying their Christmas Eve dinner. And you know what? I get it.

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21. "It's Beginning To Look A Lot Like Christmas" by Michael Bublé

Hot take! So many people love Michael Bublé's Christmas music, but one X user says they refuse to listen to "anything with Michael Bublé." I'll admit, I'll always choose the Frank Sinatra version over Michael.

22. "We Wish You A Merry Christmas" by Bing Crosby

While we do wish you a Merry Christmas a happy holiday, this song ain't it for Christmas music lovers — especially the figgy pudding lyric. "I've never had figgy pudding, but if it tastes anything like Fig Newtons, then I sure don't see how it's worth overstaying your welcome," @newbuzzcola says on X.

23. "I Saw Mommy Kissing Santa Claus" by The Jackson 5

Even though this is technically a classic, it's still not that enjoyable to listen to IMO. And it took me way too long to realize Santa's actually just the dad in costume.

24. "Christmas Time is Here Again" by The Beatles

The Beatles might be certified stars, but this song is just too repetitive. "This may be the worst song ever created," @knowpium says on X. Here's hoping it's not in the new Beatles movies.

25. Everything by Manheim Steamroller

Unfortunately, we'll have to add Manheim Steamroller's entire holiday catalogue to the worst Christmas songs list because, in the words of one Reddit user, "F—k everything about Mannheim Steamroller." Wow.

What do you think the worst Christmas songs ever are? Did we miss one? Let us know in the comments!

If you've been on the internet at all this week, you've probably heard about some totally invasive paparazzi leaking Sydney Sweeney's backyard bikini pics — and her incredible clap back to all the trolls body shaming her in the comments. After the actress showed off her resilience & her muscles in a training video from her new Christy Martin biopic (and celeb BFF's like Glen Powell weighed in), she took things to the next level by posting some spicier selfies from a rooftop in NYC.

Sydney Sweeney's latest spicy selfies prove she couldn't care less about her bikini body shamers.

Sydney Sweeney (almost) bares all in new Instagram selfies.

"rain rain go away," Sydney Sweeney says in a new Instagram post, which already has 3.4 million likes. The carousel of photos includes Syd standing on a rooftop in New York City (where it has been raining recently) wearing jeans and a brown-and-cream colored Miu Miu cardigan. The Housemaid actress also clutches a brown leather Miu Miu purse boasting plenty of charms.

I have to call out one of my favorite comments on the post, which comes from Sydney's hairstylist Glen "Coco" Oropeza and says, “It’s 68 degrees, and there’s a 30% chance that it’s already raining,” referencing one of the most iconic lines from Mean Girls (which is what his Instagram username references too!)

"hopefully your sunshine will push those clouds the f out 😍," another user commented, hyping up Sydney's positive response to all those internet trolls.

And her friends totally have her back.

Sydney's post came four days after she responded to body shamers with an intense training video from her new Christy Martin biopic — and more than one past costar supported her in the comments.

Isabela Merced, who starred with Sydney in Madame Web, said "The thing is these people would never say it in person. Too scared. But if they ever did? best believe it’s hands 😘, while Syd's Anyone But You star Glen Powell commented, "You’re such a bad—ss. This movie is gonna be 🔥."

Sydney and Glen got super close on the Anyone But You set, and formed such a strong connection that they fooled the entire internet into thinking they were having an affair. But in real life, they're just BFF's!

"I wanted to make sure that we were actively having a conversation with the audience as we were promoting this film," Sydney told The New York Times. "Because at the end of the day, they’re the ones who created the entire narrative."

"Once [the movie] did become a success, a lot of the interviews were just questions about [the rumors], so I don’t know if we necessarily were planning on ever talking about the strategy behind any of it," Sydney added in her 2025 Vanity Fair Hollywood story. "We just had very specific questions and when you say no to a question, people think that you’re a b—ch, so."

Check out the latest news on Sydney Sweeney's insane new thriller Eden, with Jude Law, Vanessa Kirby, and Ana de Armas.

We might just be getting into the holiday spirit, but for the Radio City Rockettes, it's been Christmastime since September! In addition to a very enlightening game of This or That, twins Caitlin and Courtney Sullivan gave Brit + Co an inside look at what it's like to be a Rockette — and what they do the rest of the year. Consider this the perfect trivia for your Christmas dinner after you've mastered that Rockette red lip ;).

Here are 12 surprising things about being a Radio City Rockette.

1. Rehearsing for the Christmas season is a full-time job.

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Once the holidays roll around, the Radio City Rockette shows might last 90 minutes, but prepping for the season is a full work week. "The rehearsal season itself is six weeks long, six hours a day, six days a week," Courtney says. "So it is a long process and I feel like the rehearsals itself are like a bonding experience for us."

2. The Radio City Rockettes get some serious bonding time.

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"You spend a lot of time with the girls around you and within Radio City, our dressing rooms too," Courteney says of the Rockette rehearsal schedule. "I feel like that's the time when you really get to form those bonds with your sisters and really create magic that can be seen on stage too."

"Yeah, once we move into Radio City, this becomes your family, truly," Caitlin adds. "We spend every day, day in day out together, we spend the holidays together. So you naturally just become very close with everyone."

Each Rockette dresses up her getting-ready station.

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"Everybody dresses up their station to make it feel very homey," Caitlin says. "I like lots of like decor and festive lights, candles, all that fun stuff."

The women love to have treats in their dressing rooms!

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I'm literally snacking on a chocolate bar as I type this, and I'm not the only one who likes to have sweets on-hand! "I love Christmas cookies," Caitlin says. "We will do something with our dressing room and bring in treats every day. I feel like someone's bringing in something new."

The Radio City Rockettes perform up to 200 shows at Christmas.

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"The Rockettes perform up to 200 shows in a season, and the way that each show feels so special and individual, it's just amazing how you never know who's out in the audience seeing the show for the first time," Courtney says. "And the way the ladies in the line put their best foot forward every single time is so inspiring and made me want to give even more."

"It just really amazes me how dedicated and how hard working all the Rockettes are," Caitlin agrees. "And I think we always knew that, but then once you're in it, you have a whole new level of respect for how hard all these women work."

And each Rockette can perform in up to 4 shows a day!

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"I think sometimes people don't realize we can do up to four shows in the day, which is unreal and amazing," Caitlin says. "That might be a surprise to people when they're coming to a show. They might think we just have that one that day, but we actually might have two, three, or four in the day, which is pretty amazing."

But the Rockettes also find time to goof off.

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The Rockettes might be known for their precision, but Courtney promises their smiles are real! "We are having so much fun," Courtney says. "It's really just an amazing feeling to be on stage and we find times to laugh and joke around, but really obviously give our all to our craft. And I think people don't realize like we are really having an amazing time on and off stage."

The Radio City Rockettes really support one another.

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As you can imagine, a career as a Rockette comes with its challenges, but the ladies on the line always support each other. "I was really proud last year was our first season together and just to complete one full season is such an accomplishment," Courtney says. "I feel like we're ready to take it on again and know like we absolutely can do it. And with the support of everyone around us too, you know, you're going to get through the entire holiday season and you're gonna come out even stronger."

The Radio City Rockettes can work a bunch of jobs during the summer.

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The Rockettes have a busy schedule during Christmas — but that doesn't mean they kick up their feet the rest of the year! "Every person on the line has a very diverse background and they go to different job opportunities throughout the year," Courtney says. "People are pulled in different directions when the holiday season is over. The Rockettes do work year-round [with] different opportunities."

"We're always looking to continue to dance and work on our precision," she continues. "The summer though, our favorite thing is to go to the beach. We're from New Jersey and the Jersey shore is like our home. So if we're not dancing, you can definitely find us relaxing on the sand."

The best thing about performing New York City can also be the most challenging.

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You know how, when people talk about New York, they say, "If you can make it here, you can make it anywhere?" That's because it's hard to live here y'all!

"This is just the city that never sleeps," Caitlin says. "There are people everywhere. It's always alive. There's just something magical about New York and I love that. And I think that could come with the biggest challenge as well: the city that never sleeps. You feel like you're going, going, going at all times. But that's pretty exciting to do at our age, living out our dreams. I feel like that will never get old."

"I feel like we have no complaints here!" Courtney adds.

Even as a Radio City Rockette, the work is never done.

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"I feel like there's always room for improvement," Courtney says. "Even today, as we're living at our dream, we're continuously working on our technique and our precision and going back to our foundation, I think the work is never done and you can continue to dream and accomplish some of those really major goals."

"Yeah, the work is never done is I think is kind of our motto," Caitlin adds. "Just keep, keep pushing, keep driving and just keep dreaming. And never give up."

The Rockettes are like one big family.

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Just like so many of our favorite TV show and movie casts, the Rockettes love to bond! "The Rockettes truly feel like a sisterhood and we are so lucky that we are real sisters on the line together," Caitlin says, adding that to dance "with your sister is everything we always hoped for."

And those connections make a magical experience like New York at Christmas even more magical. "[To] be welcomed with open arms has been such a dream come true for us," Courtney says. "We just love the holiday season and to celebrate it at Radio City, I feel like I can't imagine anything better."

Read 35 Magical Photos Of Christmas In New York To Inspire Wanderlust for even more holiday cheer!

Life comes at you fast when you're in love, while you're juggling career goals, pets, babies, friends, family, and whatever else folded in to your very, very filled cup. One minute you and your spouse can't enough of each other, but then time passes and you might start to feel like you're roommates. "Ugh, what is that about," is a question I used to ask when my own relationship's spark felt like tiny embers amongst our ever-growing responsibilities. Licensed psychotherapist Lucas Saiter, LMHC, owner and director of Manhattan Therapy NYC, says, "It's crucial for couples to acknowledge periods of disconnection without judgement."

According to him, you can start "by having an open conversation about feeling disconnected" which is a "positive step" in the desired direction. But, he wants this to happen during "a calm moment" instead of "during a conflict or when there are distractions."

The ultimate goal is for "each partner" to feel like they have "the opportunity to express their feelings openly and honestly, using 'I' statements to avoid blaming, while the other partner actively listens without interrupting or getting defensive," according to him.

TK ways to renew your marriage when you're busy checking off your to-do list

Your marriage isn't doomed because you feel like it's gotten off track. Saiter says, "Rekindling the spark in a marriage goes beyond physical intimacy; it's about creating emotional closeness and shared experiences. Couples can focus on deep, meaningful conversations that go beyond the day-to-day logistics."

1. If you don't cook often, surprise your spouse with their favorite dinner recipe.

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Saiter says you or your spouse "can make time for small gestures of kindness and thoughtfulness, like cooking" each other's "favorite meal." We don't know everything, but we're aware that home-cooked meals mean a lot to some people. Eating out is fun, but seeing someone put time and effort into a meal for you feels more personal.

2. Allow your partner to sleep in while you handle bank runs, grocery shopping, and other chores.

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One of the other ways to each other's heart is "...running errands to show love and appreciation," according to Saiter. This can look like letting your partner rest while you handle early morning visits to the bank or grocery store before traffic picks up on the weekend.

Setting aside time for shared hobbies or interests can also be incredibly rejuvenating. For instance, taking a class together, whether it’s cooking, dancing, or photography, can help in discovering new aspects of each other and create fun, shared memories.

3. Sign up for a dance or photography class together.

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If you've been thinking about taking a cooking, wine, dance, or photography class together, now's the time to do so! Saiter says, "Setting aside time for shared hobbies or interests can also be incredibly rejuvenating." Before you roll your eyes because you think you and your spouse don't have anything in common anymore, take a step back to remember what it was like when you were dating.

You probably went on different dates like going to the bowling alley, visiting a pumpkin patch, or even taking a candle class together for fun. Doing this again "can help in discovering new aspects of each other and create fun, shared memories," according to Saiter.

4. Verbally share why you're grateful for each other.

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Yes, it's time for you and your spouse to remember why you chose to exchange vows. "...practicing gratitude by regularly expressing appreciation for each other's qualities and contributions can strengthen the emotional bond and bring back the warmth and closeness," Saiter says.

You can tell your partner you appreciate the times they've sensed something was wrong and knew just what to say to cheer you up. Also, you could simply thank them for remembering to take out the trash without you having to ask.

There's no rulebook that says expressing thanks for each other has to be elaborate and drawn out. It's just something to help you remember how much you see each other.

5. Set aside time to hold hands or cuddle everyday.

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If you or your spouse are experiencing a drop in your libido, physical intimacy be hard to navigate. Saiter says, "Overcoming a 'dry spell' requires open communication and a willingness to explore underlying issues." As difficult as it may be, don't be afraid to express concerns because "there are many feelings and unsaid wants underneath the 'dry spell,'" he adds.

Doing something as simple as "prioritizing physical, non-sexual touch" is one way way Saiter believes can help you and your spouse become close again. You do things like "holding hands, cuddling, or sharing a long hug," to add a little spark back to what you had.

6. Pencil in date nights.

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How many times have your or spouse asked, "Who has time for date night?" Wait, we don't want to know because chances are one of you have said it one too many times to count. Saiter says, "Planning regular date nights or weekends away can also help break the routine and create a sense of adventure in the relationship."

Communicating and being open to trying new things in the bedroom, like role-playing, using toys, or trying new positions, can also reignite the spark and make things exciting again.

You can also try revisiting places or activities that were significant earlier in your relationship to evoke nostalgic, passionate feelings and remind you both of your deep connection.

7. Let your adventurous side show in the bedroom.

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If one of you are comfortable initiating sex again, let your fun side call the shots. However, Saiter wants to make sure you're "communicating" before surprising your spouse. "...being open to trying new things in the bedroom, like role-playing, using toys, or trying new positions" is one of the ways he thinks you can reconnect behind closed doors. It's all about finding safe ways to "reignite the spark and make things exciting again," he shares!

8. Revisit the place you fell in love with your spouse.

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If you remember the exact time and place you knew your spouse was the one, Saiter suggests revisiting it to "evoke nostalgic, passionate feelings and remind you both of your deep connection." Whether it was at your local pizza parlor, the park, or even at a place like Disney World, find your why again.

My spouse and I are doing great after incorporating these tips, but how can we stay consistent?

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Saiter says, "Life gets busy, but it’s crucial to carve out time for each other. Treat it like any other important appointment—block off time in your schedule for date nights, family dinners, or just time relaxing together." Maybe you think it should sound so simple, but it is. Like Saiter says, you have to prioritize your marriage just like you do everything and everyone else.

Ways to help you do so are limiting "distractions by putting away phones and other devices" to "talk about your dreams, unwind together or simply enjoy each other's company," he adds. Still struggling?

"It might also be helpful to look over your daily responsibilities together to make sure the workload at home is shared fairly. Building a strong and fulfilling relationship takes effort and commitment. By prioritizing your partner, communicating openly, and making time for each other, you can strengthen your bond and reignite the spark," Saiter suggests.

All in all, Saiter believes "seeking couples counseling can be a great step toward getting the conversation flowing," if you and your spouse are still having trouble finding the spark in your marriage.

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Picking the perfect name for your baby can feel like a mix of excitement (it's a big deal!) and pressure. You want something you love that feels unique and also has some meaning — but you haven’t even met the little person whose name it will be for the rest of their life?! Plus, you and your partner have to agree on a name, which can make the whole process feel daunting.

Before we even knew we were having a girl, my partner and I struggled to agree on boy names. But naming my daughter was surprisingly easy. That was settled on our first date — Matilda was a name he had always loved and I came to love it too.

If you’re still on the hunt for the one, don’t worry. We’ve got you covered. Here are 75+ baby names set to trend in 2025. According to Baby Center, this year’s big inspirations come from pop culture, sports, and celestial themes. Music-inspired picks like Chappell and Kendrick are climbing the charts, while sports stars Caitlin and Travis are making waves as top contenders in the babe department too. Ready for some fresh baby name ideas? Let’s dive in!

The Top Trending Baby Names

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Andie

This cute name, from the Greek name Andreas, means "strong" or "manly" but I also think it makes a great feminine name (Andie MacDowell, anyone?).

Apple

Apple Martin's debut in Paris may have sparked baby name buzz inspired by the symbol of love, beauty, and wisdom.

Arlette

This combo of French words meaning "lion" and "of God" conveys something fierce, as well as divine protection.

Arthur

Arthur has multiple meanings, including "bear-like" (cute), "of honor," and "strong man."

Aurora

This mystical name means "dawn" in Latin. It also has Sleeping Beauty vibes.

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Beckam

"Beck" means "brook" while "ham" means "home." Either way, it's a strong name from soccer + Spice Girls fame.

Billie

Billie Holiday or Billie Eilish, you've got good role models covered. This British and German name means "protection," and it's short for William or Wilhelmina.

Boden

Bode comes from the Old Saxon word bodo meaning "messenger."

Bodhi

This very spiritual name means "final enlightenment," or your way to Nirvaṇa.

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Caitlin

This popular name, thanks to WNBA player Caitlin Clark, is derived from the Gaelic term caith, meaning "pure."

Carmen

Wine lovers? This name means "garden" or "vineyard."

Casey

"Brave" and "vigilant" are words that make up the gender-neutral name Casey.

Chappell

Chappell was an Old English name meaning “one who works at the chapel," but it can also mean a safe space for friends and family.

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Circe

For those who loved the book Circe, the origins of this name make sense: a feminine name of Greek origin meaning "to secure with rings" and a symbol of feminine strength and individuality.

Cove

This sensory name can mean "bold" and "courageous." It's a great one for coastal lovers!

Crew

The name Crew signifies unity and collective strength.

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Edgar

Edgar comes from the Anglo-Saxon words meaning "rich or prosperous" and "spear."

Eclipse

Astrology lovers might lean into this name that signifies seeking change and ushering in evolution.

Elodie

This French name means "wealthy" or "riches."

Emir

Emir comes from an Arabic word for "commander" or "prince."

Emrys

This gender-neutral Welsh name means "immortal."

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George/Georgia

These classic names comes from the Greek word georgos, or earth worker, and are inspired by the dragon-slaying knight Saint George.

Goldie

Goldie means "gold" and cues visions of the lovable actress Goldie Hawn.

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Hallie

A variant of the name "Hayley," this actually ancient name is short for the word "Hallelujah."

Hazel

In Celtic lore, Hazel is associated with "wisdom" and "inspiration."

Holden

This Anglo-Saxon name means "deep valley," and may have originated from places with the same name around England.

Hollis

This gender-neutral name from medieval England translates to "near the holly" or "one who lives by the holly tree." Might be fun to plant a holly tree when they're born!

Hugo

This Germanic name means "mind," "intellect," "thought," and "heart." All good things.

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Isaiah

This masculine Hebrew name means "salvation of the Lord."

Ivy

A simple three-letter name, this name implies fidelity (so v. loyal) and eternal life because of the plant's gorgeous green color.

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Johanna

This name has origins in Hebrew, Greek, and Latin and means "God is gracious."

Jolie

This sweet French names comes from the word joli, which means “pretty” or “agreeable.”

Juniper

Juniper, or Juni for short, represents "hope" and "warmth."

Juno

Hailing from the Latins, Juno means "queen of the gods" and "youthful," and was the inspiration for naming the month of June. Due date, anyone?

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Kai

In Hawaiian, Kai means "sea."

Kendrick

From Old English words meaning "bold" or "brave", Kendrick can mean "bold ruler."

Kira

The feminine form of the name Kir, means "mistress" or "ruler" and the masculine form means "a beam of light."

Kit

Kit actually derives from the names Christopher and Katherine and means “bearing Christ,” or "pure."

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Lorelai

Gilmore Girls fans will love this Germanic name meaning "alluring" and "enchantress" or "sorceress."

Lottie

This English name means "free."

Louise/Louis

The name Louise means "famous warrior" and is the feminine version of the name Louis.

Luna

Meaning "moon" in Spanish, Luna is often associated with mystery, beauty, and femininity.

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Margot

Inspired by our favorite Barbie, this French name means "pearl."

Mateo

This Spanish name, a version of the English Matthew, means "gift of God."

Miller

Miller means someone who grinds grain and operates a mill, but it's also very cute.

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Nash

I also love Dash, but this name of English origin means "by the ash tree."

Nova

Inspired by the astronomical event that causes the sudden appearance of a bright light, this name can mean "new" star.

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Opal

This gem is a symbol of hope, purity, and truth.

Otis

Music lovers, this masculine name means "wealthy" and can be associated with prosperity.

Otto

Otto is a masculine name of German origin that means "wealth" or "prosperity."

Ozzy

Ozzy is a shortened version of names like Oswald or Osborne, and has a connection to a deity or divine entity.

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Palmer

Palmer is a name meaning palm bearer or pilgrim, inspired by Christian pilgrims who traditionally carried the palms.

Paloma

The Spanish word for dove, Paloma is associated with peace, love, and spirituality.

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Raphael

This classic name of Hebrew origin means "God has healed."

Rain

Rain can mean life, growth, and renewal, but it can also represent sadness, loss, and despair. Let's go with the positive association.;)

Remi

Meaning "rower" derived from Latin, this name can also mean "God comforts me."

Riley

"Courageous and "valiant" are words that come to mind for Riley.

Ripley

For The Talented Mr. Ripley (AKA Jude Law) fans, this gender-neutral name means "meadow" or "clearing" and it goes back as far as the 12th century!

Rocky

Cue the Rocky theme song, this name is often associated with strength, resilience, and a steadfast nature.

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Sabrina

The Celtic word "saber" means "water," which may be the origin of this name.

Saoirse (pronounced "SEER-shə" or "SUR-shə")

Made popular in places other than Ireland by Saoirse Ronan, the Irish female name means "freedom" or "liberty".

Santiago

This name combines the Spanish words santo, meaning "saint", and Iago, a variation of the name James.

Scottie

This Scottish name literally means "from Scotland" or "Gaelic speaker".

Sol/Soleil

Sol is the Spanish word for "sun," as is Soleil in French.

Stone

Cool, calm, and collected (like a rock) is the essence of this British name.

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Tate

Happy baby! This English name means "cheerful" and it's gender-neutral.

Teddy

This masculine name of French origin means "wealthy protector" or "God's gift." (I'm seeing a trend here.)

Travis

Our girl's favorite guy is getting baby-name popular with this Old French word meaning "to traverse" or "to cross".

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Van

From the Old Dutch word van, this cool baby name means "from the marsh."

Veda

This girl's name of Sanskrit origin means "knowledge" or "wisdom".

Viviana

This Italian name means "alive" or "full of life." Vivi for short!

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Warren

Warren can mean "to protect" or "guard."

Walton

This masculine name of English origin means "town of walls" or "city of streams or wood."

Wesley

This English name means "western meadow".

Wilder

Wild child? This name means "untamed" or "wild," and also eager or enthusiastic. I can totally picture Wilder climbing everything!

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Zaida

This Arabic name, generally for girls, means "fortunate," "prosperous," and "abundant."

Zara

This pretty name means "blooming flower" or "radiance."

Zephyr

This gender-neutral name comes from the Greek word zephyros, which means "gentle breeze".

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