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The Moments That Sparked My Body Insecurity

I can't remember how old I was, but the first time I heard variations of, "She's so little. Are you sure you're feeding her," was from church and family members. Meant as harmless jokes, they caused me to become hyper aware of my body in a way I'd never been before.

I knew people looked different, but my innocence made me believe it didn't matter. Adults were the ones who taught me it did, and if you didn't look 'just right'? Well, you'd eventually hear hushed whispers about it. From that point on, I stopped being picky with my food and tried to eat more than I usually did. But, guess whose body remained the same?

The more I ate and the more my body didn't change, the more I started to resent it for not looking the way I thought a well-fed child's body should look.

Introduction To Puberty

By the time I'd reached 3rd grade, I started hearing whispers about girls who were going through puberty. There was a ton of excitement about getting your period, but mostly everyone talked about how bodies started to 'fill out.' I was disappointed when 'the change' didn't happen for me that year, but I kept hope alive. Needless to say, I didn't gain weight in elementary school even though my friends' bodies were changing.The only signs of puberty I had were the first signs of underarm and pubic hair.

I didn't get my period until after the first day of sixth grade. It was relatively uneventful because I wasn't in pain and didn't see the second one until months later. As the months passed, my periods came and went. But, my body still looked unappealing to me. It didn't help that the guys in school were looking at girls who were more curvaceous either. I had major side character energy in school (or so I thought) and it was awful IMO. It's not that I wasn't liked, but the guys I thought were worth going after had their sights set on girls who didn't look like me.

By the time I made it to my junior year in high school, I stopped worrying about my appearance as much. I'd stopped really focusing on boys and started having fun with new friends. That was the best year in high school because my elective was a journalism class where I became the entertainment editor for the school newspaper. As far as my body insecurity? I barely thought twice about it because I felt I had more to offer than looks.

The Slow Journey To Accepting My Body

By the time I was in my early twenties, it was beyond clear that the body I had was the one given to me. I was tired of wishing I wasn't so slender and decided to start accepting my body for how it looked. I wish I could say I was 100% okay with my body after writing down a ton of affirmations to look at daily, but I wasn't.

I didn't start making peace with being slender until after I turned 28 (right after this photo was taken), and it started to feel good to stop worrying about why I wasn't a certain size. I'd wake up and be more concerned about wearing things that made me feel good instead of fixating on why my body was so small. Honestly, I didn't even flinch the day I found out I was pregnant because I figured I wouldn't gain much weight.

Pregnancy + Postpartum Body Changes

I should've prefaced that last sentence by saying I was convinced I'd still be small during pregnancy because my mom was small — like me — until her second pregnancy. Along with other people, I thought I'd have a round basketball in my stomach and that would be it. But, the day my stepdad rushed my fiancé and I to the hospital so I could give birth is the day I realized I'd gone from 117 pounds to 157.

I was blissfully unaware that my body had changed that much, and it was shocking because I couldn't fit into my carefully curated pre-pregnancy wardrobe. Not only was my postpartum body sore, but it also felt like I'd sprouted extra inches around my waist, hips, and thighs. I went from wanting those things to hating them when they started showing up.

I was devastated because I felt like I'd just learned how to accept my body, only to find new changes waiting for me to welcome into the picture. Also, everything was so soft and squishy — unlike the days where my slender frame felt like it had just enough to cover my bones.

Sadly, I lashed out at my fiancé a ton because I felt uncomfortable in my body — even though he couldn't see anything wrong with it. I was convinced he was trying to do damage control every time he tried to reassure me because I was dealing with major body insecurity.

I didn't start to truly see myself until I started going back to therapy and chose to accept my body as it is. This didn't happen overnight either. I wrote a ton of affirmations on sticky notes to place on my bathroom mirror, and recounted all the miraculous changes my body's gone through over the years. I also started giving myself grace for all the times I wasn't so kind to my body and made myself live in that space until it didn't feel like I had imposter syndrome anymore.

At the time of writing this, my son is three and I'm finally able to look in the mirror without criticizing myself — and I have the fourth trimester to thank for that. My postpartum body expanded in ways I never thought was possible, and it's shown me that change is only bad when I try to hold tight to other people's expectations.

How I Maintain Love For My Postpartum Body

Technically I haven't been postpartum in a while, but I always refer to my body this way because it serves as a reminder that it's been a long journey towards acceptance. The ways I continue to pour into myself vary from day to day, but here's the gist of what helps:

1. Daily Affirmations
2. Words Of Encouragement From My Partner
3. Reminders That My Body Knew What To Do To Carry A Child For 9 Months
4. Wearing Clothes I Genuinely Feel Good In
5. Replacing Negative Thoughts With Positive Ones
6. Giving Myself Grace For All The Moments I Hated My Body
7. Daily Gratitude Practice
8. Accepting That My Body Will Ebb & Flow Over The Years
9. Solo Dance Parties In My Bra & Underwear (I'm so serious, ha!)
10. Touching The Expanded Parts Of My Body & Saying "Hi")
    

Use A Gentle Cleanser

Since your skin is more sensitive during your period, it’s important to use a face wash that will help to get rid of grime without stripping your skin of its natural oils. If you’re looking for a gentle and affordable cleanser that does the job, I've used CeraVe’s Foaming Facial Cleanser for years. Not only does it contain multiple ceramides that help to restore your skin barrier, it also contains niacinamide – an ingredient known to help reduce excess oil production in the skin.

Hydration Is Key

Have you ever noticed your skin looking more dull or lifeless whenever your period comes around? This is because low estrogen levels during the menstruation part of your cycle makes your skin more prone to water loss, which causes dehydration and dryness. During this time, you can counteract this effect by incorporating a hydrating serum or moisturizer into your skincare routine. I recommend The Inkey List Hyaluronic Acid Serum. Its titular ingredient, hyaluronic acid, acts like a sponge by attracting water on the skin and retaining it, which will keep your skin feeling plump, smooth, and hydrated. But what makes this serum really stand out is its other active ingredient – Matrixyl 3000 peptide – that, when combined with hyaluronic acid, can help build firmer, youthful-looking skin over time.

Niacinamide Is Your Best Friend

Earlier, I mentioned how niacinamide is primarily used as an ingredient in skincare products to help balance your skin’s oil production. However, if you look at the ingredient label on the packaging for most of these recommended products, niacinamide will probably be listed – and for a good reason. This power-packed ingredient is a form of vitamin B3 that can help boost skin hydration, reduce redness and uneven skin tone, and combat damage that can cause visible signs of aging. I would suggest using a serum with niacinamide as one of its main ingredients — like the Good Molecules Niacinamide Serum — because it is formulated with higher concentrations of this ingredient that can penetrate deep into the skin.

Use Spot Treatments Or Pimple Patches On Problem Areas

As tempting as it is to use your fingers or a comedone extractor to pop any zit that appears during your period, trust me when I tell you…don’t do it! Not only will picking further inflame your skin, you can also spread acne-causing bacteria across your skin that will make your breakouts even worse. If you’re an avid pimple-popper like myself, save yourself the trouble and cover your spots with hydrocolloid pimple patches to help them heal. My favorite patches are the Peace Out Acne Healing Dots; they're formulated with salicylic acid and aloe vera leaf extract, which help to reduce irritation and minimize breakouts.

If You Need To, Use An Exfoliating Peel Or Toner – But Don’t Overdo It

Even if you’re taking every step possible to take extra care of your skin during that time of the month, sometimes your skin can feel more gritty and grimy than usual. Exfoliating cleansers, scrubs and serums are often advertised for everyday use, but if you’re not careful, you can end up with angry and irritated skin.

If you absolutely have to exfoliate, play it safe by using a mask or a toner once or twice a week. For a mask, I recommend trying the Versed Doctor’s Visit Instant Resurfacing Mask, and for a toner, I suggest using the Peach Slices Acne Exfoliating Toner. Both products contain a combination of AHAs (alpha hydroxy acids) and BHAs (beta hydroxy acids) that remove dead skin cells from the surface while also clearing and preventing breakouts.

Opt For A Lightweight Moisturizer

Hormone changes during your menstrual cycle can cause your skin to produce more oil than usual. While it's important to keep your skin hydrated and healthy by using a moisturizer, thick creams and facial oils can clog your pores and lead to an endless cycle of breakouts. Instead, try incorporating a light gel moisturizer without ingredients like silicones, which are known to congest your skin. My current favorite is the Selfless by Hyram Niacinamide and Maracujá Daily Barrier Support Moisturizer, which contains ingredients like maracujá seed oil and murumu seed butter that help to heal the skin barrier while leaving a silky smooth finish.

Don’t Forget Sunscreen

It doesn’t matter if it’s cloudy, cold, raining, or if the sky is falling — sunscreen is a non-negotiable in your skincare routine, especially during your period. Skin sensitivity is at an all-time high during that time of the month, meaning that you’re more likely to get burnt from UVA and UVB rays. Personally, I like to use lightweight sunscreens, like Krave Beauty’s Beet the Sun, that also contain ingredients to support your skin barrier. Beet the Sun not only has an SPF of 40, but it also has beetroot extract, an antioxidant known to have anti-inflammatory and skin-soothing properties.

You Are What You Eat

Skincare isn't a “one size fits all” situation; what works for you and your skin may not be the right routine for others. However, the food we choose to consume has a direct correlation to our physical health. We all know the annoying and uncomfortable symptoms that come with periods, but fortunately there are certain foods that can help. Fiber-rich foods like broccoli, cauliflower and carrots can help reduce inflammation throughout the body, while berries like blueberries, blackberries and cherries are a great source of antioxidants that help protect your body – including your skin – from free radicals that cause premature aging and chronic disease.

How much are Eras Tour tickets normally?

While a variety of the resale tickets on larger platforms are in the thousands, there are plenty of fan-to-fan resales for under $1k! But the good news is Rolling Stone reports ticket prices have actually dropped in the last day and you can find some for under $700.

How many dates are left on the Eras tour?

There are 12 Eras Tour concerts left. She'll be at Miami's Hard Rock Stadium from October 18 until the 20, New Orleans' Caesars Superdome from October 25 until the 27, Indianapolis' Lucas Oil Stadium from November 1 until the 3, and BC Place from December 6 until the 8.

Taylor Swift's Eras Tour Dates For 2024

• Tokyo Dome (Tokyo, Japan); February 7-10
• MCG (Melbourne, Australia); February 16-18
• Accor Stadium (Sydney, Australia); February 23-26
• National Stadium, Singapore (Singapore); March 2-4; March 7-9
• Paris La Défense Arena (Paris, France); May 9-12
• Friends Arena (Stockholm, Sweden); May 17-19
• Estadio da Luz (Lisbon, Portugal); May 24-25
• Estadio Santiago Bernabéu (Madrid, Spain); May 29-30
• Groupama Stadium (Lyon, France); June 2-3
• BT Murrayfield Stadium (Edinburgh, UK); June 7-9
• Anfield Stadium (Liverpool, UK); June 13-15
• Principality Stadium (Cardiff, UK); June 18
• Wembley Stadium (London, UK); June 21-23
• Aviva Stadium (Dublin, Ireland); June 28-30
• Johan Cruijff Arena (Amsterdam, Netherlands); July 4-6
• Stadion Letzigrund Zürich (Zürich, Switzerland); July 9-10
• San Siro Stadium (Milan, Italy); July 13-14
• Veltins-Arena (Gelsenkirchen, Germany); July 17-19
• Volksparkstadion (Hamburg, Germany); July 23-24
• Olumpiastadion (Munich, Germany); July 27-28
• Pge Narodowy (Warsaw, Poland); August 1-3
• Ernst-Happel-Stadion (Vienna, Austria); August 8-10
• Wembley Stadium (London, UK); August 15-17; August 19-20
• Hard Rock Stadium (Miami, FL); October 18-20
• Caesars Superdome (New Orleans, LA); October 25-27
• Lucas Oil Stadium (Indianapolis, IN); November 1-3
• BC Place (Vancouver, BC); December 6-8

Taylor Swift's Eras Tour Dates For 2023

• State Farm Stadium (Glendale, AZ); March 17 - 18
• Allegiant Stadium (Las Vegas, NV); March 24 - 25
• AT&T Stadium, (Arlington, TX); March 31 - April 2
• Raymond James Stadium (Tampa, FL); April 13 - 15
• NRG Stadium (Houston, TX); April 21 - 23
• Mercedes-Benz Stadium (Atlanta, GA); April 28 - 30
• Nissan Stadium (Nashville, TN); May 5 - 7
• Lincoln Financial Field (Philadelphia, PA); May 12 - 14
• Gillette Stadium (Foxborough, MA); May 19 - 21
• MetLife Stadium (East Rutherford, NJ); May 26 - 28
• Soldier Field (Chicago, IL); June 2 - 4
• Ford Field (Detroit, MI); June 9 - 10
• Acrisure Stadium (Pittsburgh, PA); June 16 - 17
• U.S. Bank Stadium (Minneapolis, MN); June 23 - 24
• Paycor Stadium (Cincinnati, OH); June 30 - July 1
• GEHA Field at Arrowhead Stadium (Kansas City, MI); July 7 - 8
• Empower Field at Mile High (Denver, CO); July 14 - 15
• Lumen Field (Seattle, WA); July 22 - 23
• Levi's Stadium (Santa Clara, CA); July 28 - 29
• Sofi Stadium (Los Angeles, CA); August 3 - 5; August 7 - 9
• Foro Sol (Mexico City, Mexico); August 24-27
• Estadio River Plate (Buenos Aires, Argentina); November 9-11
• Estádio Nilton Santos (Rio de Janeiro, Brazil); November 17-19
• Allianz Parque (So Paulo, Brazil); November 24-26

How long is a Taylor Swift concert?

Taylor Swift's portion of an Eras Tour concert is three hours long, but there are openers too! In total, you'll be in the venue for around five hours. For my concert day (the stadium is over an hour from my home), I started getting ready at 10am, and left around noon to accommodate public transportation, traffic, and lines. I was in my seat at exactly 6:30!

Is Taylor Swift having a concert in Miami?

Yes, the final leg of Taylor Swift's Eras Tour kicks off with her Miami shows on October 18! She'll be at the Hard Rock Stadium in Miami from October 18 until October 20.

Taylor herself posted a video to Instagram with the caption, "Back in the office… 😎" in honor of the concert. We can't wait to see what tricks she has up her sleeve (maybe a Reputation (Taylor's Version)announcement?)

Who is opening Eras Tour 2024?

Sabrina Carpenter opened for Taylor Swift at the Australia shows in February and March 2024, then Paramore opened for the summer shows in Europe. Gracie Abrams is the fall opener in Canada and the final US dates!

How to get Taylor Swift tickets 2024?

There are a few different ways you can get Taylor Swift tickets in 2024! Your price point, the city you want to go to, and the opener you're hoping to see will determine which route you take. Keep reading for a few routes you can take.

Accounts For Last Minute Taylor Swift Tickets

Eras Tour Resell

This Twitter site is without out a doubt my favorite resell account. They've included guidelines to streamline your Taylor Swift concert ticket process and ensure no one gets scammed. They even push to make sure ADA (accessibility seating) is given to the people that need it. This has quickly become a fan favorite way to grab tickets! Eras Tour Resell will post the ticket info, including pricing, date/location, and the account that you can DM. They also make sure to let their followers know when the ticket has sold.

Taylor Swift: The Eras Tour Concert Tickets Resale Group

This Facebook group will make sure your tickets are as close to face value as possible. And thanks to the questionnaire and profile requirements, you shouldn't have to worry about scammers.

Resell Websites

You can also check sites like Ticketmaster, Stub Hub, SeatGeek, and Vivid Seats for last-minute tickets — just make sure you double check the authenticity of the tickets before you cash out! (Unfortunately I am speaking from experience here 😬)