It’s Tatted Girl Summer – Everything You Need To Know About Stick And Poke Tattoos + Ink Ideas For Your Skin

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Analog is in. Take film cameras for one – everyone’s fallen in love with the nostalgic aesthetics and tactile processes that bring us closer to the days of vintage. Stick and poke tattoos are another way we’re channeling the good ol’ days. They’re done by hand instead of machine, and we’re just hooked on the hand-poked, (hu)man-powered ink.

Stick and poke tattoos actually go back a long way, with many cultures using the artform for religious purposes. The purpose behind tats has wildly pivoted to primarily aesthetic reasons – I got it tatted because it looked cool type vibes. I’m guilty!

My introduction to stick and poke was via my besties using sewing needles and India ink on each other in our teenage bedrooms, behind closed doors, of course. The punky DIY-route wasn’t always the safest, but damn, did I feel cool! I’m by no means recommending this method – besides, there are *tons* of practicing stick and poke tattoo professionals out there that do their thing 100% safely. Here’s the low-down on stick and poke tattoos, plus some ideas to inspire you for your next inky venture!

How long do stick and poke tattoos last?

On average, stick and poke tattoos can last as short as 5 to 10 years, or as long as forever, and your tat’s longevity really depends on how it's done, where it is on your body, and the care it gets. Tattoos in areas that are more prone to friction or sun exposure are likely to fade faster. It also depends on your artist’s skill level, as there’s a sweet spot on the skin for sticking and poking where the ink will stay the most embedded.

"Handpoked (or stick and poke) tattoos last forever as long as they’re done correctly," handpoke artist Mackenzie Bosse said. She's been tattooing since she was 16, and now at 19, is leading her own professional studio. "If they’re done incorrectly, there can be inconsistencies, which lead to the ink fading or the tattoos healing poorly. Another issue could be not applying the ink properly or deep enough in the skin, which results in fading. Some other issues I’ve seen is blowouts (expansion of ink in the skin) from someone pushing too hard, or tattooing too much ink in a certain area."

Do stick and poke tattoos fade?

Yes, stick and poke tattoos fade, but designs made with a machine fade, too. Some stick and pokes will fade quicker than others if they were done incorrectly or unprofessionally. It also depends on the care you give your handpoked tattoo. According to tattooer, mixed media artist, and energy worker Lauren Collins, sun protection is *crucial* in preserving your tat.

"Just the same as protecting any other tattoo… [use] sunscreen sunscreen sunscreen," Collins said. "UVA rays are the biggest threat to the longevity of your tattoos, as they are able to penetrate into the skin’s dermis layer, where the tattoo ink is placed during a tattoo session. These sun rays then begin to break down the ink and disperse it, causing your tattoo to look blotchy or faded over time."

Do stick and pokes hurt?

The concept of “hurt” is a little different in the world of ink. The thing is, everyone has varying levels of pain tolerance, and the sensation depends on the area of your body you’re getting the tattoo. One thing to consider is that machine-made tattoos work at a higher rate of “poking” than stick and pokes – sometimes with more than one needle.

"In my experience as a tattooer, I've had many clients compare handpoked tattoos to the sensation of acupuncture," Collins offered. "Generally, it tends to be a pretty gentle process as long as your tattoo artist is placing the ink into the correct layer of skin. Often, artists' processes tend to be described as light or heavy-handed, so the sensation of getting a tattoo really depends on how your artist works, and the level of your pain tolerance."

Stick and pokes are done at a way slower pace with a single needle. Ultimately, it’s up to you if you'd rather take it slow. There’s always *some* discomfort associated with tats, but if pain is a concern (which is often the case for tattoos that cover more area), some artists offer numbing cream before going in.

Tips for Getting A Stick and Poke Tattoo

Before getting your stick and poke:

  • Research your artist. Do they execute their art well? Is their pricing realistic for you? Even once you arrive at your appointment, assess the vibes and check in with yourself if you feel safe in their studio – and if they’re using clean, single-use tools. "Just because handpoking can often be seen practiced in many unsafe ways does not mean that all processes are performed unsafely," Collins said. "Most importantly, make sure your artist has knowledge about blood-borne pathogens, cross-contamination, keeps a clean studio, and uses proper safety precautions and sanitation procedures throughout the duration of your tattoo."
  • Stay hydrated. Drinking plenty of water before, during, and after your appointment will prepare you for long sits (if your tattoo is bigger), make you feel physically better, plus being hydrated helps your skin receive the ink well. Eating a healthy meal prior to your appointment can also stabilize and prepare your body for tattooing.
  • Wear comfy clothing. You’re going to be sitting still for a bit while you get a stick and poke tattoo, so you might as well be comfortable. This step is also important if you’re getting inked in a complicated spot like your stomach or rib cage, so you don’t aggravate the tattoo with tight-fitting bras or tanks.
  • Arrive on time. Respecting your tattoo artist’s time is integral to having a seamless process – it gives you both time to chat through the basics before getting started, plus it’s just generally respectful.
  • Know that you are in control. It's your body we're dealing with here, and you should have full autonomy to call out things you're uncomfortable with during your session. "It’s of the utmost importance that you receive care, respect, and understanding from your artist in your tattoo session," Collins said. "I have heard far too many people tell me stories about not receiving this level of care in past sessions, and those experiences are exactly what this new wave of tattooers are trying to improve upon within the tattoo community. You are important, and so is your voice."

After getting your stick and poke:

  • Aftercare. Follow the aftercare instructions your artist provides. It will help your art last longer and heal smoothly, resulting in a clearer design! Every artist is different in their aftercare recommendations, but the process usually entails washing the area with unscented soap and moisturizing with fragrance-free lotion. "Be mindful of your tattoo," Bosse said. "While tattoos heal, they still run the risk of infection, so avoid dirty places like pools, lakes, baths, and beaches. Make sure to wash it with unscented soap (my fave is Dove bar soap) and use unscented moisturizer if needed."
  • Stay out of the sun. The fresh skin your tattoo’s sitting on is prone to harmful UV rays that can degrade the ink, so it’s better you avoid direct sunlight until your tattoo is healed.

Stick and Poke Tattoo Ideas

No matter how you get tatted, you’re still electing to get art permanently embedded into your skin. Making sure you absolutely *love* your ink before sitting in the chair will make the tattoo investment and experience entirely worth it. There’s something for everyone in the tattoo world – from tiny tats to larger, intricate pieces, here are a few we think you’ll love enough to put on your bod!

Decorative Wrist and Hand

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Adorn your wrists and hands with delicate details, similar to this celestial design. If you're not game for going all-out, pick 1 to 2 smaller details to place in the area.

Floral Outline

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Just because I love floral art – this handpoked design is the ultimate inspo for a simple, outlined tat. If you're feeling playful, working with (and around) moles or birthmarks for your stick and poke makes the piece more personal.

Self-Love Stick and Poke

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For a small reminder to give yourself the love and grace you deserve, heart-shaped tats, or generally symbolic ones are a fitting option.

Tiny Tulip

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Tiny tats like this one are super delicate and feminine.

Geometric Stars

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Handpoked tattoos lend themselves to a pointillism-inspired effect, seen here on an eye-catching geometric design.

Foliage

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The delicate line work on this leafy tat is concise, and forms a gorgeous decorative addition. Shara, the artist that did this lovely piece, is still currently booking for the end of May and early June 2023 in Los Angeles – look into getting inked here!

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With warmer weather heading our way, showing off more skin is inevitable. And what better way to make your spring debut than with a stylish new ankle tattoo? Be it a dot-work sun, shaded waves, or even a simple smiley face, ahead you’ll find 7 tiny tattoo ideas to consider for your next ink sesh.


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Single Star Tattoo

Solidify your spot as the star in your life by getting a star tattooed on one of your ankles. Just think — you can debut it while wearing one of your new going out tops this spring!

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Bunny Tattoo

Getting a bunny tattoo during spring somehow feels seasonally appropriate. It doesn't matter that Easter is gone either. All you need to convince you that your dainty ankle tattoo is the thought that you're happily hopping from one chapter of your life to the next.

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A Nod to Youth

Get this cute nostalgic tattoo to remind you to enjoy your life in the midst of crushing your goals! No seriously — get out and enjoy the sun!

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What's My Age Again?

Blink-182 made the most nostalgic song in the early 2000s that works well for an ankle tattoo that displays the year you were born. If you're super committed to being a millennial or a part of Gen Z, this idea is perfect for you.

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Shine a Spotlight On Playing

Can you tell we're encouraging you to spend more time playing again? It may be fun to make money from your side hustle, but we dare you to fall in love with playing just because it's fun.

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Karmic Cycles

Need a reminder that "what goes around, comes around?" Look no further than a small ankle tattoo that hints at karmic cycles.

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Light as a Feather

Lastly, make it a point to be light as feather! We're not talking about how you walk either.

It's time to start breaking up with the way you let stress overwhelm you this spring.

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If there's one thing about Gilmore Girls fans you can count on, it's their passion. They love the quirky one liners, memorable moments, and are usually either Team Jess or Team Logan (sorry Dean...). Give any Gilmore Girls lover in your life the chance to transport themselves to Stars Hollow this holiday season — without having to make the trek to Washington, Connecticut or the Warner Bros. stage in Hollywood. These Gilmore Girls gift ideas are fun, thoughtful, and very cozy, which are also three hallmarks of the series itself! From a coffee mug that Luke Danes would approve of to the perfect gifts for Taylor Swift fans, this Gilmore Girlsgift guide will make you say "Oy with the poodles already!"

Keep reading for 24 Gilmore Girls-themed gift ideas for 2024.

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The Third Gilmore Girl: A Memoir

Get all the behind the scenes info you could ever dream of when you pick up Kelly Bishop's new memoir!

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Loungefly Gilmore Girls Icons Mini Backpack

I was absolutely gagged the first time I saw this backpack. Tiny pizza slices, both the Luke's Diner and Chilton logos, AND the gazebo? I need this, like, right now.

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Sunday Best Peggy Sweater

Consider this white cable knit sweaterthe Rory Gilmore sweater for the season. I cannot stop wearing mine. It's super soft and the perfect medium weight (meaning you won't be cold but you also won't feel weighed down). It's also not itchy at all. I love wearing it with jeans, or tucked into trousers or a skirt.

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Cotton Baseball Hat

For a more subtle nod to the fashion on the show, a blue baseball cap gives major Luke Danes vibes without having to walk around wearing Gilmore Girls merchandise. Wear it with a crewneck and oversized coat now (hello '90s "It" girl!) and a tee shirt come spring.

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Book of the Month

Channel your inner Rory with the Book of the Month subscription service. The cool part about someone else picking out the books is that you'll find titles — and authors — you didn't even know to look for.

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Espresso Martini Statement Earrings

It wouldn't be an episode of Gilmore Girls without a cup of coffee, or a martini at one of Richard and Emily's Friday night dinners. Combine the two iconic beverages with these statement earrings! They're bold, they're quirky, and they'll be the talk of all your holiday parties.

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Stars Hollow "Autumn Festival" Travel Poster

Nothing screams Stars Hollow like a festival, and this autumnal poster celebrates the best parts of small town life. Whether you choose to display it in a gallery wall or on a bookshelf, you'll feel like you're coming home every time you look at it.

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Luke's Diner Mug

With a Luke's Diner mug, you can pretend you really are in Stars Hollow. Bonus points if you're also having a big stack of pancakes!

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Gilmore Iced Coffee Glass Cup

If you're more of an iced coffee fan, even in the winter (I wonder what Luke would have to say about that?), grab a glass with a super cute design. Not only do I love that Rory and Lorelai are featured in the design, but the color palette is beautiful, too!

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Gina White Poodle

Getting your little into the Gilmore Girls spirit? They definitely need a lovable stuffed dog. Again I say, "Oy with the poodles already!"

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Colorful Bandana

For another low-key nod to the ultimate BFF's, grab a bandana in your favorite color (like this one that uses untreated, non-GMO cotton!). In true Y2K fashion, Sookie and Lorelai wear bandanas throughout the show, so this is a super fun way to incorporate their style into your own closet this winter.

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Dragonfly Necklace

A delicate dragonfly necklace is a beautiful layering piece that will add summer cheer to the dreariest of winter days and remind you of Dragonfly Inn at the same time. The fact that dragonflies represent new beginnings is just the cherry on top.

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Gilmore Girl Eras Shirt

Have you been binging Gilmore Girls during the day and watching Eras Tour TikTok livestreams at night? This T-shirt has your name written all over it. My personal favorite detail is that Kirk is in the debut square.

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Stars Hollow Christmas Festival Sweatshirt

There's nothing like layering a turtleneck, a crewneck, and a bunch of jewelry for a trip to your corner coffee shop, so swap your go-to crewneck for this festive Stars Hollow one! The gazebo is instantly recognizable for Gilmore Girls fans and just looking at the design makes me want to say, "I smell snow."

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Gilmore Girls: Complete Series Collection

One of my favorite Christmas presents in recent years was the full Gilmore Girls DVD set. This 42-disc DVD set has every single episode and even more hours of unaired clips, behind the scenes features, and episode commentaries. I'm geeking out just thinking about it.

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Gilmore Girls: The Official Cookbook

Gilmore Girls recipes are always delicious, and always pretty easy (after all, Lorelai and Rory basically only eat takeout and Luke's!). The official cookbook will let you put your own spin on the food you seen onscreen, and then you can have a truly meta experience by eating your meal while you watch the Gilmores eat theirs.

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Gilmore Girls: Trivia Deck and Episode Guide

Tried-and-true Gilmore Girls fans will love diving into this trivia book. Because this game (which features 200 questions) has an 88-page episode guide and goes through every. Single. Episode. Worth it!

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Gilmore Girls: At Home in Stars Hollow

TBH, I think kids books are great for book lovers of any age. The art and simple storytelling really get my creative juices flowing. At Home In Stars Hollow will make you (or a family member or friend) love Gilmore Girls in a whole new way!

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Stars Hollow Scented Candle

This all-natural soy candle has every scent a Gilmore Girls fan will love: coffee, sweet cream, and vanilla. It's cozy and balances sweet and bitter in a really intoxicating way.

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Lorelai and Rory Gilmore Plush

Okay, I'll be honest. I want these plushes for myself! The design is a hilarious nod to the season one episode "The Lorelais' First Day At Chilton" and even features a tiny coffee mug and tiny book!

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Gilmore Girls Socks

Now that we're in knee-high boot season (which I FINALLY bought), I like to wear super fun, colorful, and chaotic socks. Grab a pack of Gilmore Girls socks to take some Stars Hollow magic with you no matter where you go.

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Gilmore Girls Themed Blind Date with a Book

For this bookish blind date, you'll receive a Rory-themed read, a tea bag, a bookmark, and stickers. You really can't go wrong.

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Stars Hollow Books Tote Bag

Carrying your favorite books in a tote bag with the Stars Hollow Books logo feels like it's meant to be.

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Have I Told You This Already?: Stories I Don't Want to Forget to Remember

Lauren Graham's collection of essays will give you a glimpse behind the curtain as she offers thoughtful stories about life, aging, and the industry.

Which gifts from this Gilmore Girls gift guide will you be buying for your friends (or yourself)? Let us know in the comments!

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As much as we love diving into a spellbinding novel, there's something to be said for the instantaneous inspo that comes from flipping through a stunning art or design book. And let's be honest, sometimes our attention span isn't up for the challenge of conquering a verbose, 500-page tome.

With an explosion of new poetry, design, and coffee table reads on the scene, we thought we'd do the heavy lifting for you and curate our absolute faves. Ahead, see this spring's fresh book releases (plus some essential coffee table reads you may have missed) from the most inspiring and creative minds among us. Whether you're into interior design, poetry, travel or plants, there's a little something for everyone.

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Great Women Artists

Discover artists you may have missed in your male-centric art history classes in this robust survey of over 400 leading female creatives spanning the last 500 years.

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Directions: Really Good Advice For Getting From Here To There

Directions features hand-lettered affirmations and observations from artist Hallie Bateman that are equal parts uplifting, relatable, and humorous. Flipping through the collections feels like you're stumbling across a fortune cookie truth written just for you.

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Ibiza Bohemia (Classics)

Ignite your wanderlust with this breathtaking photo series that captures why this Mediterranean locale has been such a hotspot for escapism.

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Wild Interiors: Beautiful Plants In Beautiful Spaces

Calling all plant people! Hilton Carter brings his trademark green thumb to a beautiful new coffee table read brimming with plant care tips and at-home styling advice for all your greenery.

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Design The Home You Love: Practical Styling Advice To Make The Most Of Your Space

The co-founders behind the interior design service Havenly are publishing their first book this spring that aims to be a budget-friendly guide to identifying your unique style and designing your space accordingly.

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Atlas Of Mid-Century Modern Houses

Nostalgia seekers will love scanning the pages of this visual stunner, which showcases the works of famed architects like Richard Neutra, Marcel Breuer, and hundreds of other design icons.

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Radiant Human: Discovering The Connection Between Color, Identity, and Energy

If you're not already familiar with the rainbow portraiture style that is aura photography, let Lonsdale's new book teach you everything you need to know about this creative practice that captures your energy and disposition through a color-coded index.

The Apricot Memoirs

Guinery's book of poetic musings (printed across apricot-hued pages, of course) serves as an exploration of love, growth, motherhood, and vulnerability that invites the reader to unlock their own creativity.

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Escape

This quintessential art book goes beyond Malin's iconic overhead beach shots and captures unbelievable vacation locales like Aspen, Namibia, Bora Bora, and more to fuel your ideal getaway.

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Jungalow: Decorate Wild The Style Guide

Teach Me Something New guest Justina Blakeney's new book is an interior lovers dream. If you need a push to break free from your minimalist instincts and dive into the world of big, bold pattern, let this book serve as your guide to do it.

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Film For Her

This visual diary features prose, poetry, short stories and photography from the well-known YouTube poet and achieves the feeling that you're sifting through someone's intimate DIY scrapbook. Forewarning, it may just inspire you to be in your feels.

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Poolside with Slim Aarons

Featuring Slim Aarons' signature peek into the lives of wealthy jet-setters, this collection of photographs will be the star of your art book rotation.

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Cherry Bombe: The Cookbook

This essential foodie read captures recipes from some of the most interesting and famous female chefs, bakers, and food stylists of our time.

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Soul of a Nation: Art in the Age of Black Power

Further your art education by discovering previously neglected histories of 20th-century Black artists during one of the most revolutionary eras in American history.

Humans

Humans of New York pioneer Brandon Stanton traveled to more than 40 countries to tell the resonate stories of what it means to be human.

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Flower: Exploring The World In Bloom

Florals for spring? How groundbreaking. But in this new collection, see how floral motifs have been depicted throughout history across art, film, textiles, and more.

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Virgil Abloh. Nike. ICONS.

Bring some color to your bookshelf in a major way with this innovative dive into Virgil Abloh's creative process during his collaboration with Nike. The end result is an ode to design true sneakerheads can't miss.

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The Bright Book: A Creativity Workbook Designed to Help You Shine

Also known as EttaVee, Jessi Raulet brings her signature bold pattern play to life in this creative workbook. Once you're feeling sufficiently inspired by all of the amazing reads above, tap into your own creativity by following the prompts for collaging, journaling, painting, and more.

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Architectural Digest at 100: A Century Of Style

This stunning and informative read is full of glorious designs from past and present. Featuring the homes of top celebrities and architects, it's an inspirational nod to the ever changing landscape of home decor.

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The New York Dog

Rachael Hale has managed to use her powerful photography skills to capture the quintessential nature of dogs in The New York Dog.

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The Colors of Sies Marjan

The Colors of Sies Marjan is a beautiful recollection of the celestial brand of the same name. With memorable collections that wowed crowds during past NYFW seasons, Sander Lak's beautiful explosion of texture and color remain immortalized in this gorgeous coffee table book.

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The New Black Vanguard

Get lost in the pages of The New Black Vanguard. Curated by Cultural Critic Antwaun Sargent, this coffee table is great for the fashion enthusiast who's interested in seeing the world of fashion, beauty and art through a more inclusive lens.

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Latin American Artists: From 1785 To Now

Allow yourself to be transported in time as you view the artwork of more than 300 Latin American artists.

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Glass Houses

Foray into the wondrous build of glass houses. You'll find yourself admiring designs that date back to the 1930s and will love learning how architects create stunning homes with sturdy foundations.

Which coffee table books are you thinking about adding to your collection? Let us know in the comments!

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Angelina Jolie has always been mother — but she's also a literal mother to six kids whom she clearly cares about fiercely. Since she first adopted Zahara, Maddox, and Pax to giving birth to Vivienne and Knox, it's always been evident that her children are her entire world. While she rarely talks about her children (especially given her highly contested divorce at the moment), Angelina shared a little slice of her feelings on motherhood, insights on her children, and more with Good Morning America.

Here's what Angelina Jolie had to say about her kids — including which one of them is the most private!

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Angelina opened up about her feelings for her family while chatting about her new movie Maria with Good Morning Americaon November 21, 2024. Host Michael Strahan asked Angie about if there's anything she loves as much as her character loves singing, and she replied that it's her "motherhood."

"It’s my happiness. You can take everything else away from me," she said. "I could — nothing else matters."

When asked about her sons' involvement in Maria, Angelina explained that despite their involvement behind the scenes, they're very uninterested in a life in the spotlight. She said, "None of my children want to be in front of the camera. They're quite private."

Angelina elaborated, "Shiloh's extremely private. They weren't born with privacy, so I hope they can have that."

This interview comes after Angelina and Knox attended the Governor's Awards with her on November 18, 2024. His rare appearance shocked so many — including Brad. Daily Mail reported that Pitt found the timing "suspicious."

The source said, "'She is trying to get under his skin after his recent win and using Knox to do so is odd. Knox wants nothing to do with Hollywood and has no communication with Brad."

Despite the weirdness, the source also said, "He [Brad] believes that, in time, his children will come back into his life."

How many kids does Angelina Jolie have?

Angelina Jolie has six children. She adopted Zahara, Maddox, and Pax, and later gave birth to Vivienne and Shiloh. She shares her children with Brad Pitt, most of whom aren't on good terms with him at the moment.

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Just how expensive is it to have a baby in 2024? One woman sharing her experience on social media has sparked a much-needed conversation about financial transparency when it comes to starting (or growing) a family.

Josephine Anderson, who posted a video on her Instagram @fosterthevalley, outlined the costs of her uncomplicated vaginal birth, and TBH, it was shocking.

The financial breakdown of her experience (with Cigna for insurance):

  • Routine office visits (including 2 ultrasounds): $1,266
  • Labs: $3,440.81
  • NIPT genetic testing: $15,319.36
  • Anatomy scan: $1,270
  • RhoGam: $360
  • Hospital for mom: $23,722.10
  • Hospital for baby: $7,402.80
  • OBGYN for delivery: $5,000
  • Epidural: $5,720
  • Breastfeeding support: $2,589.78
  • Pediatrician: $209
That all racks up to a whopping total of $66,299.85. After insurance was factored in (her deductible was $3,000 while her max out-of-pocket for in-network expenses was $11,000), the total cost for her uncomplicated vaginal birth was $4,788.98. Forbes Advisor reports the average cost of having a baby in 2024 is $2,854.

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Josephine’s video warranted thousands of comments, most of which were appalled by the costs of her experience:

“This needs to be shared in SexEd classes,” one commenter wrote.

“The US medical system is BROKEN,” another said.

“And people are still confused why more women are choosing to remain child free… we literally can’t afford it,” another user commented.

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Brit + Co spoke with Wendy Colson RN, IBCLC and CEO/Founder of BOOBIE Superfoods to gauge if Josephine’s costs were typical for the care she received. Colson has significant insight into how insurance works not only from an employer’s perspective, but from personal experience as a patient with breast cancer.

“The $4,788.98 net amount she mentions is realistic given that her deductible was $3,000. If she had chosen a plan with a $1,000 deductible – which is a common ceiling for good coverage – the same scenario would have cost her around $2,789,” Colson said. “The video highlights the importance of understanding what you're getting with an insurance plan, especially when you anticipate major life events like childbirth.”

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Colson primarily attributes unanticipated costs for medical care (like in Josephine’s case) to patients that choose their insurance plans with, well, no real plan.

“Many [people] opt for the [plan] with the lowest paycheck deductions without fully evaluating the benefits,” Colson said.

There’s often a tradeoff between paying less per paycheck and receiving your desired benefits: for example, if you elect to contribute less money towards your insurance per paycheck, you may end up paying more out of pocket for things like doctor’s office visits and prescriptions.

“Making an informed choice is key to saving money in the long run,” Colson continued. “In short, it's crucial to consider both the immediate costs (like paycheck deductions) and the potential future costs (like deductibles and copays) when choosing an insurance plan.”

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Another major cost Josephine mentions in her video was 12 weeks of unpaid maternity leave, which cost her a total of $18,000 (in lost income).

Per the passing of the Family and Medical Leave Act (FMLA) in 1993, moms have a legal right to up to 12 weeks of unpaid maternity leave. The U.S. Department of Labor notes that the act was designed to help employees balance their work and family responsibilities, accommodate the legitimate interests of employers, and promote equal employment opportunity for men and women.

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It all sounds great until you realize the time off is indeed unpaid, which doesn't really aid in the amount of money parents end up owing after all is said and done in the pregnancy and childbirth processes.

Only 13 states plus the District of Columbia offer paid maternity leave. When you compare the United States’ laws to that of other industrialized nations, they don’t exactly measure up.

Colson says Sweden’s maternity leave policy is “one of the most generous,” offering 390 days of paid parental leave (shared between parents) and 80% of wages covered for a significant portion of the leave. In Germany, mothers are entitled to 14 weeks of maternity leave plus a tax-free, income-based allowance straight from their insurance provider.

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Though it’s likely that US laws will never be that generous in terms of paid maternity leave, there are a few things you can do to make the blow of medical costs hurt a little less, says Colson.

“My advice is to be your own advocate,” she says. “If you’re planning to have a baby, start by understanding what your state provides in terms of paid leave to avoid surprises after delivery.”

To keep the cost of having your baby (if you’re planning to have one) transparent and free of surprises, Colson recommends:

  • Asking your physician’s office for a detailed breakdown of insurance billing codes, including:
    • Office visits
    • Lab work
    • Epidural (and the anesthesiologist’s separate fee)
    • Hospital admissions
    • Specialist consultations during admission
    • Optional procedures like circumcision, if desired
  • Email the insurance billing codes to your insurance provider, who can help calculate your out-of-pocket costs and deductible

“Having a baby is priceless,” Colson says. “By planning ahead – understanding your insurance options, healthcare costs, and available benefits – you can ensure peace of mind and focus on what truly matters: your growing family.”

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