Super Effective Ways to Stop Comparing Yourself to Other Women

Let’s get real for a hot minute: Even the most confident woman has doubts about herself from time to time. Whether you’re in awe of your fave writer’s ability to turn her home decor blog into a booming biz or a friend’s job as a fashion editor, or you just can’t stop staring at your coworker’s perfectly put-together monochromatic outfit or runway-worthy hairstyle, comparing yourself to others from time to time is a totally normal thing to do. The problem? Doing it in a way that stacks you up against them can make you feel pretty crappy about yourself. To better understand how to kick the habit, we talked with some successful women to find out how they stop comparisons in their tracks. Read on for the deets.

Build Self-Esteem

Dr. Lauren Hazzouri — the licensed psychologist behind Hey Lauren — gets right to it, citing the secret to stopping comparisons as self-esteem, which she defines as “the recognition that WE are our value.” She elaborates, “We are our unique contribution to the world. It’s hard to become all that we are when we’re focused on what we are not. Being a first-rate version of ourselves takes more courage than being a second-rate version of someone else. To me, the problem lies in focusing too much on getting good at doing, rather than getting good at BEING.”

Hazzouri also reminds us that confidence and self-esteem aren’t actually the same thing: “Confidence is a feeling of self-assurance that arises from the appreciation of one’s abilities or qualities, while self-esteem is confidence in one’s own value.” Truly believing that no one has more value, she says, will help you embrace your own.

Stay Grounded

Feeling grounded can be a game-changer when it comes to sticking with work goals, developing healthy relationships, and taking care of yourself. “Even though it is easy to get discouraged when surveying the landscape of other women’s lives, I have a recipe for peace,” says Appleseed Communications founder Ashley Crouch. “I stay grounded with my morning routine of prayer, affirmation, and journaling, which reminds me of MY worth and my mission. I focus only on what I can control in my sphere of influence and approaching the day from a place of abundance, and I express gratitude for every step of my journey.”

To spread the grounding goodness even further, Crouch actually created a celebration tribe of fellow women to cheer on and support each other’s wins and an e-course that helps women overcome negative self-talk. You go, girl!

Set and Stick to Small Goals for Focus

“You never know what it took for someone else to achieve their goals: It could be hard work, a helping hand, or simply luck,” Studio 15 Founder and CEO Jia Wertz reminds us. “By comparing yourself to them, you’re hindering yourself and not giving yourself credit for all the hard work you put in every day, which can be debilitating.”

Wertz says that the secret to success is hidden in your daily routine. “Commit to doing 5-10 tasks daily that work toward your goal, and you’ll be well on your way to achieving it,” she advises. “For example, if you want to get funding for your business, email five investors every day for a month, etc. And remember, success comes at different times and in different ways for everyone.”

Write Down and Celebrate *Your* Wins

“When you surround yourself with talented women, it’s hard to not compare,” Reflektive’s Dani Fankhauser admits. ”However, direct comparisons don’t take into account the seasons of life, ups and downs, and the vastly different paths each of us has taken.” She went on to tell us, “One way I’ve come to see a more accurate picture of my own accomplishments is by writing down three ‘wins’ at the end of the day. I force myself to think of at least three, whether one of them is ‘major product release’ or ‘sent pitch to potential partner.’ This helps balance what I’ve done (and may not be able to publicly brag about) and what I’m seeing in my Facebook feed.” So smart!

Amity Kapadia, the founder of RocketBaby, agrees that celebrating wins is the way to go when it comes to stopping yourself from making comparisons. “As the founder of an early-stage company, it can be tempting to dip into the comparison pool, but daily positive affirmations combined with celebrating victories and hard work is so much more rewarding! Take time to appreciate the small wins,” she wisely tells us. “They add up faster than you think.”

Stay True to Your Personal Journey

“All women face challenges in their lives that can hinder confidence and productivity — and to be honest, I’ve compared myself to others who appear to be very successful,” confides Helya Mohammadian, the founder of Slick Chicks. “But I try to remember that we can’t use other people to measure success or failure. Plus, all that time and energy spent worrying about what someone else is doing will only hold you back from building your business or career! I try to focus on my own personal goals and what I am doing to achieve them. I believe we all have a purpose and a mission in this life, whether it’s big or small. That’s what keeps me going.”

Glamoutfit CEO Hanh Nguyen chimes in with similar sentiments. “Remind yourself that everyone’s journey is different. Also, everyone has their own struggle! Most of the time, when comparing yourself to others, you only see the shiny part of their life and not their struggle.”

Don’t Lose Sight of the Source

Marissa Hastings, the founder of Your Breast Self, believes that comparing ourselves to others is “just a relic of our evolutionary past” and thinks we should each look at it more objectively.

Demonstrating how to talk yourself through it, she says, “Okay, the pressure I’m putting on myself to have a body (or career, or whatever) like hers isn’t a legitimate thing. It’s just my silly brain not knowing any better. Noted. I can learn from this and work on teaching myself to approach this differently next time.” Hastings advises that taking a step back can help you personally identify with comparisons, making it easier to put a stop to them.

Embrace Your Uniqueness

Casey Erin Clark is a professional actor in New York City, which means her job is literally to compete with thousands of other actresses who share similar physical qualities like height, build, and hair color — all for a small handful of jobs! “I’ve always struggled with comparing myself to others,” she confesses. “The work of my acting career has been to own what is unique about me (my voice and my spirit) to just tell the story in the room, instead of trying to figure out what they want me to be, fit myself in a box, and then beat myself up if I don’t book the job.”

While learning to embrace the cool things that set her apart, Clark uncovered a passion for helping other women uncover their own voices. Now she also does voice and speech coaching through Vital Voice Training, which she co-founded. As if that weren’t badass enough, she also has some empowering advice: “We always tell our clients that when they start comparing themselves to others (or to the impossible standards that society has for women in general) to go back to their core values and what makes them unique to tell their stories with bravery! No one else has YOUR story.”

Own Your Story and Expertise

Echoing Clark’s thoughts on the importance of celebrating your uniqueness, business and career coach Harper Spero tells us that she overcame comparisons by owning everything that makes her special. “When I first launched my business, I spent hours on other coaches’ websites comparing myself to them. It was so bad that I couldn’t launch my website because I was making so many tweaks to the site based on what I saw other people doing.”

How was Spero finally able to move forward? “I quickly realized how much it didn’t serve me to do that. Yes, there are coaches who have similar services and styles to mine, but I needed to represent ME. I encourage women to celebrate their special qualities and story instead of spending time just focusing on how other people may perceive them.” Right on!

Have you had trouble with comparing yourself to others? What helped you get over it? Tweet us your stories and tips for success @BritandCo!

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There are tons of things on sale for Prime Day this year, but you don't have to miss out on the savings if you're not necessarily planning to splurge on big-ticket items. Cleaning products and everyday essentials are going for the exact same discount as that fancy espresso machine you've been eyeing, and sometimes more! Prime Day offers the perfect chance for you to stock up on more practical purchases – from paper towels to vitamins – for less-than-typical prices. In case you need help completing your Prime Day checklist, let this post serve as the ultimate guide to the cleaning products, health + wellness essentials, and other miscellaneous home goods that are often left behind.

Cleaning Products

Amazon

Glad Tall Kitchen Drawstring Trash Bags

$15, was $23

Taking out the trash surely isn't the most glamorous of all household chores, but it is necessary. These expertly-designed Glad bags make the task more manageable with unparalleled durability and stretch, two layers of leak protection, and a fresh Febreze scent. Stock up for 35% off during Prime Day.

Amazon

Blueland Toilet Bowl Cleaner Starter Set

$23, was $29

These plastic-free tabs make cleaning your toilet bowl as easy as 'drop and flush.' The fizzy formula dissolves to remove every type of blemish from rust and mineral deposits to limescale and hard water. You'll enjoy the 100% natural lemon-cedar fragrance after every cleaning sesh!

Amazon

Dawn Platinum Powerwash Dish Spray

$12, was $18

This powerful dish soap comes in a satisfying spray format, helping to erase hefty grease stains and food residue in a fraction of the time it'd take if you used a traditional liquid dish soap. You can use it beyond dirty dishes too: it works on kitchen counters, laundry stains, and grills.

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Amazon Basics 2-Ply Flex-Sheets Paper Towels

$4, was $5

For an "affordable and effective" clean, opt to order this cheap 2-pack of paper towel rolls that can handle everyday messes in a single tear for Prime Day.

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Clorox Free & Clear Compostable Cleaning Wipes

$14, was $18

These at-home compost-friendly Clorox wipes boast the Safer Choice stamp of approval from the EPA, so they're certifiably safe to use around kids, pets, and food. They work on a variety of surfaces to clean and disinfect whatever they come in contact with. We love using these for a quick and easy clean-up session around the kitchen and bathroom before guests come over!

Amazon

Natural Kitchen Sponges 12-Pack

$14, was $17

You won't need to do a restock on kitchen sponges for a while after snagging this handy 12-pack! They're made of plant-based fibers that not only supply a solid clean, but also prevent excess bacteria growth because of their extra-porous texture. After a sponge has reached the end of its lifespan, you can compost the white cellulose layer!

Amazon

Blueland Laundry Detergent Tablets

$34, was $44

It only takes one of these 100% plastic-free detergent tablets to really freshen up a load of laundry. They're produced with enzymes proven to lift tough stains, plus the formula is completely hypoallergenic, so it's safe to use for kids' and pet laundry. This pack can tackle 120 rounds!

Amazon

Clorox Disinfecting All-Purpose Cleaner

$12, was $15

Though these all-purpose cleaning sprays have zero bleach, they still effectively tackle grease, grime, and soap scum with ease. They provide the powerful clean you're looking for around the kitchen, bathroom, and more – the formula is proven to kill 99.9% of bacteria and viruses, including COVID-19. Snag the trio for only $4 a bottle during Prime Day!

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Windex Glass & Window Cleaner

$3, was $4

Windex is an absolutely undeniable staple for any cleaning lineup. It can wipe away dirt, smudges, fingerprints, and more, leaving a streak-free shine every time. Stock up for just $3 this Prime Day.

Vitamins + Supplements

Amazon

Ritual Multivitamin

$26, was $37

This vegan, sugar-free, gluten-free, dairy-free, nut-free, and soy-free multivitamin formula brings a daily dose vitamins B12, D, E, and K12 along with folate, iron, magnesium, omega-3 fatty acids, and boron. It's verified by the United States Pharmacopeia (USP), a mark that less than 1% of multivitamins have. The capsules are also Non-GMO Project-verified, ensuring no heavy metals, major allergens, or microbes are present.

Amazon

Sugarbear Hair Vitamin Gummies

$24, was $39

These vitamin gummies claim to support healthy hair and nails through 6000 mcg of biotin, vitamins D, E, and B6, plus folate, calcium, zinc, sodium, iodine and a proprietary mix of European elderberry, inositol, MSM, and omega-3 fatty acids. Each plant-based gummy has only 1 gram of sugar and 10 calories to suit a healthy routine. Most users have noticed a difference after 3 months of consistent use!

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OLLY Women's Multivitamin Gummies

$14, was $17

Another exceptional multivitamin, these OLLY gummies contain vitamins A, B, C, D, and E to help fight free radicals, support bone health, and amp up cellular energy production. There's even 500% of your daily value of biotin in each dose to encourage healthy hair, skin, and nails! They can help "fill in the gaps" of your eating habits to deliver all the nutrients your body needs on the daily.

Amazon

Lemme Matcha Superfood Energy Gummies

$24, was $30

These matcha-infused gummies give you a good boost of non-jittery energy when you need it most – think for that classic afternoon slump or post-workweek outing! They're made with organic matcha, vitamin B12, and CoQ10, a "powerful" antioxidant and coenzyme that assists in energy production. Each gummy is vegan, gluten-free, non-GMO, gelatin-free, and has no high fructose corn syrup, artificial sweeteners, or synthetic colors.

Amazon

Nature's Bounty Biotin

$7, was $20

For an affordable hair, skin, and nail vitamin, biotin is the way to go. In addition to the physical benefits, it can also help support a healthy nervous system and metabolism.

Amazon

Orgain Organic Vegan Protein Powder

$34, was $42

Our favorite protein powder is on sale for Prime Day at 20% off! One serving contains 21 grams of plant-based protein, 1 gram of sugar, plus 6 grams of prebiotics and fiber and 9 essential amino acids. You can use it across shakes, smoothies, overnight oats, and even baked goods to get your protein fix. It's shoppable in 9 flavors, but our go-to is this vanilla iteration.

Miscellaneous Must-Haves

Amazon

Amazon Basics 24-Pack Rechargeable AA Batteries

$19, was $24

You never know when you're gonna need some extra batteries, so make sure you have some spares handy by stocking up with this 20% off Prime Day deal! These are rechargeable, too, ensuring you never run out of energy.

Amazon

Amazon Elements Baby Wipes

$19, was $22

A whole 810 wipes for $19? Count us in. These gentle, non-flushable baby wipes are formulated without fragrances, alchohol, bronopol, dyes, parabens, and pthalates, ensuring a safe clean for your little one every time.

Amazon

Levoit Air Purifier

$80, was $100

Though t's a bit of a bigger purchase, having an air purifier like this one at home is a super smart investment, especially if you are prone to environmental allergies (or just want to keep your place smelling fresh and clean). This compact model comes complete with a HEPA-grade filter that captures smoke, dust, dander, and more up to 1,095 square feet of space.

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For your friend who just can’t resist making a charcuterie board for every occasion to your cooking-crazy uncle, we’ve got the coolest edible gifts for 2024 right here. Gift something deliciously unforgettable – from decadent chocolate truffles to zesty spice mixes, these edible gifts bring joy to every bite. Edible gifts are also perfect for those who host you during the holidays and even coworkers! Get ready to spread some cheer with these edible gifts.

The 24 best edible gifts of 2024:

Below, find our top favorite edible gifts for everyone on your list!

Amazon

Graza Olive Oil Variety Pack

Any foodie will instantly recognize Graza's iconic squeezable olive oil bottles. This variety pack includes both their "Drizzle" and "Sizzle" oils that work wonderfully for a wide range of recipes.

Amazon

Coop's Original Hot Fudge

This hot fudge is crafted from super wholesome ingredients: pure chocolate, fresh cream, organic sugar cane, natural cocoa powder, and a touch of sea salt all come together for a heavenly (and very chocolatey) experience. Glob it on top of some ice cream to achieve pure dessert-y bliss.

Amazon

Tate's Bake Shop Chocolate Chip Cookies

These cookies may be light and crispy, but they're decadent as ever. Snag this 4-pack of bags (with 14 cookies each) to totally nail any sweet tooth's gift this year!

Flamingo Estate

Flamingo Estate Spicy Extra Virgin Olive Oil

This luxurious olive oil is infused with Guajillo chiles that bring an undeniable kick to whatever you cook with it.

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Hickory Farms Farmhouse Sausage & Cheese Food Gift Basket

Because who doesn't love snacking on meat and cheese? This loaded gift basket will keep them munching and satisfied during the in-between moments around the holidays.

Compartés

Compartés Boozy Chocolate Gift Box

This gift box's boozy chocolate flavors range from espresso martini to strawberry champagne. Gift them the entire box or split it up amongst friends for a fun (and alcoholic) stocking stuffer moment!

Fly By Jing

Fly By Jing Sichuan Starter Gift Set

This gift set from Fly By Jing includes four different chili crisps and sauces so your giftee can instantly spice up their dishes. We love using the OG Sichuan Chili Crisp on eggs, noodles, chicken, and more.

Kola Goodies

Kola Goodies Lilly's Maple Chai Box

This adorable book-shaped gift box is packed with a delicious maple chai drink mix for the perfect cozy beverage, which is simply a necessity around the holidays (and wintertime as a whole).

Fishwife

Fishwife The Starter Pack

Fishwife's variety of tinned fish can be used across a wide range of different dishes like sandwiches, wraps, salads, pastas, and more. Gift them this set of 7 tins so they can test out different recipes and find their absolute fave!

Uncommon Goods

Custom Message Shortbread Cookies

Let these sweet treats deliver your holiday wishes for you! You're able to customize the text on each piece of shortbread to bring even more cheer.

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Ever dream of globetrotting the world while getting paid? That's not a rhetorical question. Now you can turn your wanderlust into real cash with Ramada by Wyndham. The global hotel brand is on the hunt for its next "CEO," AKA Chief Eats Officer, a dream role for anyone who loves food and travel and well, a paycheck. One lucky adventurer will be paid $15,000 to travel to Ramada’s most coveted destinations, curate a list of must-eats, and share their travel highlights on social media. Learn how to enter below!

Decameron Club Caribbean Runaway Bay, Ramada Jamaica

From Thailand to Turkey and Seoul to Santa Barbara, the CEO trip will include up to seven global destinations in a three-week itinerary next spring. With hotels in 75 countries around the world, Ramada by Wyndham is perfect for travelers looking for that bucket-list experience!

Hunan, China, Ramada by Wyndham Chenzhou Dongjiang Lake

For a chance to be the next “CEO,” travel and food enthusiasts can visit Ramada.com/CEO by October 22 and submit a short, 1-3 minute video through TikTok (tag @RamadabyWyndham, #RamadaCEO) or email makemeceo@ramada.com that shows your passion for travel and discovering amazing eats.

Prize Details:

  • $15,000 reward, including a $10,000 travel stipend to cover airfare and travel expenses, plus $5,000 cash
  • Paid hotel accommodations for up to 21 nights at Ramada properties around the world
  • A Wyndham Rewards® Diamond membership for one year

Ramada Resort by Wyndham, Bodrum, Türkiye

How to Apply

To apply, post a public video on TikTok explaining why you are the best candidate for the job, tagging @RamadabyWyndham, using the hashtag #RamadaCEO, and following @RamadabyWyndham on TikTok.

Your TikTok account must be publicly viewable for the duration of the contest (through November 2024). Alternatively, you can email your video submission to makemeceo@ramada.com.

All video submissions must be between one and three minutes in length and should include your country of residence.

If applying via email, be sure to provide the handles for your active and public personal social media accounts.

All entries must be submitted and received by 11:59 p.m. ET on October 22, 2024.

Additional Qualifications Include:

  • Applicants must be a legal resident of the 50 United States or Canada (excluding Quebec).
  • Availability to travel for up to three weeks between April 1, 2025, and June 30, 2025.
  • Active and proficient on various social media platforms (TikTok and Instagram preferred).
  • At least 21 years old with a valid passport through December 2025.
  • Self-confessed travel lover and foodie.
  • Comfortable working remotely and on deadline.

Ramada by Wyndham will select the winning CEO on or around the week of November 14, 2024. No purchase is necessary to enter. For more details, including official rules, visit www.ramada.com/ceo. Good luck!

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If you're finding it hard to make friends as an adult, or maintain friendships from different life stages, you're definitely not alone. According to Dr. Deborah Gilboa, MD, Scientific Advisor for Azar, and a recent study from Azar and Talker, it's not abnormal to feel heightened levels of loneliness. In fact, that study suggests Gen Z feels lonely every day.

"Loneliness feels isolating because it goes beyond just lacking company; it’s a lack of meaningful connection," she says over email. "Social contact without meaning can worsen loneliness as it increases the individual’s perception of isolation and lack of belonging. The antidote is true social connection."

But how can we find that real social connection and community? I talked to Dr. Gilboa, JustAnswer Mental Health Expert Jennifer Kelman, and NYC Psychologist Dr. Alexandra Stratyner PhD, for some insight into behaviors that attract friends. Here are some behaviors that will simply make you irresistible — and will help you identify good friends in others!

Keep reading for some advice on how to attract friends — and easy ways to be a better friend to the people you love.

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There's no shame in realizing you're feeling lonely, but it's also important to identify when that loneliness morphs into isolation. "Even though many might be experiencing the same feelings, that doesn't mean they are reaching out for support," Kelman says. "Many are not feeling enough strength to reach out to others or feel like they are being a burden so they reason alone with their feelings."

"It's also become more evident as our reliance on digital communication has grown, sometimes leaving us more connected online but feeling less understood and less connected in more meaningful, in-person ways," Dr. Stratyner adds. And then there's the social expectation of it all. "Many people tend to hide their loneliness because they feel shame or embarrassment about it. This can make it even harder to open up and connect with others who might be feeling the same way. The more we keep these feelings to ourselves, the more it reinforces the isolation, even though we all experience it in varying forms."

"It is hard to see light when things feel dark, and many go inward to deal with their feelings," Kelman points out. "Many are so burdened by their feelings that they might not feel capable to care for those around them or to show up and be present for others."

And just like Dr. Gilboa says, we're looking for true connection, not just surface-level friendships. But how can we make true social connection? Here's what they suggest.

1. A good friend shows care and empathy for the people around them.

If you care for the people around you, there's a very good chance others will want to be your friend. "People that show empathy toward others are very attractive qualities as it shows that one has the capacity to care for others and be present for them," Kelman says. "Those that are gregarious and selfless can be quite appealing as well. Those that are self-involved tend to repel others rather than attract."

Focusing on others instead of yourself can be easier said than done, but the it's definitely worth it. "People are drawn to those who show genuine care and understanding," Dr. Stratyner agrees.

​2. A good friend is reliable and trustworthy.

Our inner circle is going to be made up of people who know us inside and out, but it's unlikely someone will reach that level of emotional intimacy unless you really trust them. "In friendship people rate reliability, honesty and trustworthiness more highly [than romantic relationships]," Dr. Gilboa says.

​3. People are attracted to humor.

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I'm sure we can all think of someone who never fails to make us laugh. And being the funny friend can mean a lot of things: you know how to poke fun at yourself or you don't take things too seriously (unless they need to be taken seriously, of course). But that doesn't mean making other people the butt of mean jokes.

"A good sense of humor helps foster a positive, lighthearted atmosphere, making interactions feel enjoyable and memorable," Stratyner says. "Plus, everyone loves to laugh."

​4. You need to be a good listener.

No one wants to be talked at and never listened to. After all, we do have two ears and one mouth! But simply nodding your head and zoning out won't cut it. "People appreciate feeling truly heard," Dr. Stratyner says. "This demonstrates respect, interest, and a willingness to connect on a deeper level."

"Be a great listener without asserting your own views or agenda," Kelman adds. "Be available, vulnerable and present. Ask those around you how they are and truly listen to how they feel. Be open and direct and most of all, be a constant. Nothing better than knowing that you will be there for all things."

So engage with what your friends are saying and, even better, remember it later!

5. A good friend is generous.

Is there a better time to talk about generosity than Thanksgiving? Be generous with your time, resources, and your heart — but don't worry, that doesn't mean you have to let someone else steam roll you. After all, a good friend also won't take advantage of you!

"Giving to others and the community are wonderful traits and habits that are very attractive to others and may draw people in," Kelman says. "People want to be around people that give and are easy-going in their interactions with individuals and the world around them."

​6. New friends are attracted to positivity.

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When things feel dark, new friends will be attracted to someone who can make the world feel a little lighter. "People are often attracted to those who can find the silver lining, stay hopeful, and spread good vibes, especially in challenging situations," Dr. Stratyner says.

That's not to say you can never have bad days or process things like disappointment and grief. It just means you aren't ruled by them. (Listen, as an Enneagram 4, I'm talking to myself!)

Ok, you might be thinking, this is great but what do I do with this information? Here are some easy, actionable steps to take if you want to make new friends.

1. Understand why you're feeling lonely will help you address the real problem.

"First is to get an understanding of the loneliness and where it is coming from...finding community too soon may cause an increase in loneliness even while being surrounded by others," Kelman recommends.

You can't reach a solution if you don't know what the real problem is. I realized since I work from home, I need to do better about leaving the apartment, and my favorite way to spend an afternoon is coworking with a friend at a coffee shop.

​2. Finding new hobbies will connect you with similar people.

I met some of my best friends through a big movie group, which means when I have a meme or a piece of news to fangirl over, I know exactly who to contact. "Find activities that ignite you, find like minded individuals with whom to connect," Kelman adds. "Join a book club, pick up a new sport or hobby, but again, trying to immerse yourself too soon may not have any impact on the lonely feelings."

"The antidote to loneliness is social connection — true connection that paves the way for belonging," Dr. Gilboah says. "Talking to people to learn what interests and values are shared will open the door for the types of relationships that become community."

​3. Don't be afraid to put yourself out there.

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Listen. If you only ever order takeout and watch Netflix, you'll simply never make new connections. You gotta get after it! "Look for community events, clubs, or hobby groups that align with your interests, whether book clubs, sports leagues, or volunteering opportunities," Dr. Stratyner says. "Being around people with shared passions makes it easier to start conversations and find common ground."

​4. And don't be afraid to reach out first.

For some reason, we've decided that reaching out first (or double texting) means we're needy and insufferable. This is simply not the case because who doesn't want to know they were thought of!! Plus, there's a good chance that if you're overthinking every little detail, other people are too.

"Reach out, even in small ways, to those around us who may be feeling the same," says Dr. Gilboah. "Loneliness often leads to rumination - the act of dwelling on or spiraling downward through negative thoughts. Ruminating can cause further isolation and distracts us from the people and stimuli around us."

​5. Be present when you're finally with people.

When you do make special connections, it's super important to make sure you're offering your full attention. "Showing up emotionally and physically makes them feel valued and heard, strengthening your bond," Dr. Stratyner says. She also recommends checking in to remind them you're there, and genuinely celebrating their wins (which, separately, is definitely a sign of being a girls' girl). "If a friend is going through a tough time, offer to help in any way you can," she adds. "Sometimes, simply acknowledging their struggle and offering your time can make all the difference."

"The best news about friendship is that Gen Z values authenticity above just about any other factor in friendship," Dr. Gilboah says. "Gathering the courage to be your true self and [mixing] that with empathetic listening will make you a sought after friend."

What's your favorite way to get to know new friends? Here are 10 Thought-Provoking Questions To Know Close Friends More Intimately!

I've officially entered my flannel pajamas era because these 30+ year-old bones get cold. If it's below 63 degrees at home, my teeth start chattering...much to minor annoyance of my very warm-blooded fiancé. Usually I snuggle next to him like he's a bear when I'm that cold, but I can't have my way all the time. So, cute and cozy pajamas it is!

As luck would have it, I have the deets on the best winter options that may find their way to your front door. Let's go down the list, shall we?

The Best Winter Flannel Pajamas To Buy ASAP

  1. The Best Plaid Flannel Pajamas: Wondershop Plaid PJs
  2. The Best Christmas Flannel Pajamas: Koality Holiday PJs
  3. The Best Flannel Shirtdress: Flannel Nightgown
  4. The Best Kids Flannel Pajamas: Pretty Pink PJs

L.L. Bean

L.L. Bean Scotch Plaid Flannel Pajamas

Plaid and the holidays are the first thing that comes to mind when I think about flannel pajamas. This top and pants set set is super soft because of its Portuguese cotton fabric. It''ll almost feel like you're enveloping yourself in a cozy blanket sans any potential mishaps when you need to use the restroom.

Hanna Andersson

Hanna Andersson Holiday Flannel Nightshirt

I love ditching pants when it gets too warm under my weighted blanket, but I think it'll be 10x easier to button up a flannel nightshirt. This lightweight beauty is still going to give you the cozy feel without restricting your legs AND you'll be able to iron it on cool (opposite side only).

Old Navy

Old Navy Flannel Pajama Shirt Dress

Again with the flannel shirt dress option? Um, yes. This option is for anyone who loves an orange and purple moment instead of green. Also, the hemline is just a tad longer than the prior one so you won't be as likely to flash anyone when you're putting the finishing touches on your Christmas tree's skirt.

Target

Wondershop Plaid Flannel Pajamas

I just had to include a pair of red and white flannel pajamas because they scream "Christmas" without any of the obvious decor designs. I love that they're a part of a matching family set so you can schedule a pajama-themed sleepover on Christmas Eve.

The best flannel pajamas for the person who's already started decorating for Christmas

P.J. Salvage

P.J. Salvage Koality Holiday Flannel PJ Set

Have you ever seen a bunch of koalas get ready for Christmas? Not to worry because this flannel pajamas set is ready to change that for you. They're literally all over the top and tie-waist bottoms in all their festive glory. There's a koala climbing a decorated Christmas tree and a mom plus her baby hanging out in a cute wreath! What's not to love?

Bed Head

Bed Head PJs Hit The Slopes Portuguese Flannel Pajamas

Keep it traditional and celebrate the evergreen vibes of the holidays. These pajamas are especially for those who usually hit the slopes but can't this year. You'll feel like you're close to the holiday activity you love the most without completely having any FOMO feelings.

Pajamagram

Pajamagram Apres Ski Flannel Pajamas

If you do plan to go skiing this year outside of The Sims 4 Seasons Expansion Pack — yes, I know you're still binging that game — here's a cute pair of flannel pajamas you have to wear at least once. Just look at the cute gondola lifts!

The best flannel pajamas if you're a cat mom who loves Christmas

PrintFresh

PrintFresh Flannel Nightgown

I have a special appreciation for the cat distribution system and the lucky moms who find their feline matches because I know how personalized it is. If you and your fur baby are locked in, you absolutely deserve to walk around your space in this jolly big cat nightgown.

The best flannel pajamas for the "I'm just a girl" crowd

P.J. Salvage

P.J. Salvage Ribbons & Bows Flannel PJ Set

If you've memorized No Doubt's "Just a Girl," and love belting it during karaoke night, you'll appreciate this cute ribbons & bows PJ set. The labels are and bows are outlined in red to offset the Pepto-Bismol pink base.

The best flannel pajamas for leopard print lovers

Victoria's Secret

Victoria's Secret Flannel Long Pajama Set

You don't have to wear leopard print in public if you won't want to, but don't be shy about wearing this set at home. You'll feel sultry with your glass of wine, charcuterie board, and remote in your hand.

Aerie

Aerie Off-Duty Flannel Trouser PJ Pants

You could also skip the matching moment and wear your favorite oversized t-shirt with these flannel pants. They're equally cozy and won't feel overpowering if you don't like that much pattern.

The best flannel pajamas to wear if pants make you feel itchy at night

Macy's

Adore Me Plus Size PJ Set

If you're not a fan of pants or nightgowns, these plus size pajamas will get you right! The shorts have an elastic waist so you'll have plenty of breathing room. Also, the entire set is made of cotton and satin which sounds like a great time if you ask me.

The best flannel pajamas if you crave the simple things in life

J.Crew

J.Crew Flannel Pajamas

It's not fair for my minimalist girls to not have a pair of flannel pajamas to choose from so this is for you. They're 100% cotton, have an elastic waist, and are machine-washable! Did I mention they're also loose-fitting if you're uninterested in your pajamas hugging your body? Oh yeah, these are for you.

The best flannel pajamas for kids

GAP Factory

babyGAP 100% Recycled Flannel Pajamas

Call it my mom instincts, but I can't forget kids! These cute plaid flannel pajamas are a great option for them to wear on Christmas Eve and the morning they get to open their presents. They're made of a soft jersey knit that'll keep up with a kid's moves, including bounding down the stairs or doing somersaults off the couch because they're excited for the holidays.

Petite Plume

Petite Plume Kid's Flannel Pajama Set

There's at least one princess in the family and it may be your little sister, niece, or daughter. No matter who she is, she'll appreciate these pretty pink flannel pajamas. They're free of harsh chemicals and are flame-resistant in case little one likes to sit close to the fireplace.

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