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How much did the city of Fort Lauderdale pay Arie and the remaining contestants on The Bachelor to say how much they looooooove Fort Lauderdale? I mean, there’s nothing wrong with Fort Lauderdale but (I can say this because I was born in Florida) do they know it’s in Florida? As Krystal drama builds to a fever pitch and more women are banished to a lifetime of wondering if they’ll get the call for The Bachelor Winter Games, I’m starting to get used to Arie, even if I would’ve preferred to watch another dude’s journey to find love. And as I spend less and less time pointing at many of the women and asking, “Who’s that?” I’m grateful that we don’t have 13 women left named Lauren. Praise.

Arie takes Chelsea yachting and it’s a great opportunity to take a bathroom break or make a whole meal, because this is a very unpleasant person who was too boring to be this season’s villain. “I’m on a dreamboat but I’m also with a dreamboat.” Woof. Later at dinner, she opens up about the difficult relationship with her child’s father, and such revelations always merit roses and make-outs, so we’re stuck with Chelsea for the time being.

Approximately 10-50 of the women go on a bowling date with Arie. There’s no catch here. On a season where the women have learned to be survivalists and smashed into each other with cars, they’re not doing, like, crazy bowling. We just get to watch them bowl! Maquel is back in the mix after attending her grandfather’s funeral, which gives us one more person for Krystal to annoy. And, boy, does Krystal get competitive. She takes a lot of pride in being on the winning team in a straightforward bowling challenge and fake-graciously kisses the losers, who are supposed to not be able to attend the afterparty. When Arie decides to let the losing team attend a longer afterparty, Krystal goes just short of table-flipping and calls Arie a liar on the bus ride back to the hotel. She decides not to go to the party.

Arie falls for her tantrum and goes to visit her. She pouts and wines and, to Arie’s credit, he doesn’t quite fall for it and lets her know that this is telling of what kind of relationship they’d have. SHOULD’VE THOUGHT ABOUT THAT BEFORE YOU INTRODUCED HER TO YOUR PARENTS, but better late than never, dude. He tells her not to come to the party. Of course, after he has good one on one time with Kendall and Bekah, Krystal comes down to join the party while Arie is otherwise occupied. The other ladies won’t stand for it, with Bekah calling out Krystal as a hypocrite for changing her mind when she’s mad at Arie for doing the same. Young’n with the logic! Krystal leaves again and the last surviving Lauren, Lauren B., is shaken up by the incident but still has a solid enough one-on-one to land a rose.

Leave it to Arkansas firecracker Tia to get everything back on track. Arie takes her on the most Florida date ever: an Everglades airboat tour to look at gators. YES. I mean, it’s kind of weird that you took the down-home country girl on the trashy date, but also kind of awesome? When Arie sees an alligator, he says it reminds him of how “love is scary.” Dang, Arie. You are so dumb and adorable. Tia and Arie have a pretty decent date with the only snag being that she’s pretty religious and he’s… maybe an atheist? She says it isn’t a deal-breaker and they make out, so I’m maybe ready to call the whole thing for Tia.

Before the rose ceremony, Krystal dominates the conversation, aside from Kendall asking Arie if he’d ever consider eating human flesh. She overhears the others complaining about her and makes an insincere attempt to defuse the situation, leading to more fights. Finally, she speaks to Arie and pouts her way through a sort-of apology that includes a confession that her mother worked in a bowling alley and the whole setting was triggering. Huhhh. Arie doesn’t seem particularly moved by it, but because eliminating major conflict this early wouldn’t be great for ratings, Krystal gets a rose, leaving Ashley, Marikh, and Maquel heartbroken. I’m totally blaming this one on you, Chris Harrison.

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I don’t want to say that I didn’t appreciate The O.C. when it aired in real time in 2003, because I really did. I knew from the moment those haunting Phantom Planet lyrics started playing from my TV screen that I had something special. I knew from the moment that Ryan Atwood and Marissa Cooper locked eyes for the first time that I was about to witness a teen drama love story unlike any other one I’d seen. If I sound extra, it’s because I mean to be! As an awkward middle schooler, The O.C.‘s quippy dialogue and emotional scenes gave me an outlet for my adolescent emotions, and its top-notch soundtracks set the stage for teary nights in my room.

I recently embarked on my first binge-watch of the first season as an adult, and I was fascinated by the extent to which a little grown-up perspective changed my colorful Orange County world. Once totally enamored with Marissa and Summer’s wardrobes, I was now more concerned with the subtle relationship dynamics playing out on screen (okay, the fashion is still pretty incredible). Once too in love with Seth to see his flaws, I was now tuned into the way his social faux pas and self-absorption made him kind of a bad catch. The O.C. has plenty to teach tweens and adults, but here are just 10 of the life lessons I learned from my recent rewatch of the show's first season.

Life Lessons From "The O.C."

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1. A homemade breakfast can cure anything that ails you — and is pretty much guaranteed to make you more popular in any situation

A major tension in the first few episodes is the conflict between Sandy and Kirsten Cohen about whether or not Ryan should be allowed to stay in that beautiful pool house on a more permanent basis. True to form, Sandy the “Crusader for Justice” wants to give the kid from Chino a shot, while Kirsten thinks he’d be better off in foster care. While Ryan’s homemade breakfast doesn’t mark the final conclusion to this conflict, it definitely eases tensions between him and Kirsten. It just goes to show — there are few things that perfectly scrambled eggs can’t fix!

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2. Hiding from a problem is typically not the best solution

As any group of high schoolers — or, at least, any group of high schoolers with easy access to empty mansions — would do, Seth and Marissa decide that the best way to avoid having Ryan sent to foster care is to hide him in one of Kirsten and Caleb’s model homes. Great idea, right? Wrong! I’ll spare you the dramatic details of the fight, the fire, and the awkward revelations about the history between Marissa’s dad and Kirsten, but suffice to say that hiding from potential consequences is rarely the answer...even if you are planning to do it in a mansion.

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3. Share your dreams with the people you love

While Seth is open with Ryan early in the season about his dream to sail alone to Tahiti, it’s unclear whether or not he’s been as clear with his parents about it. This comes back to bite him in the you-know-where later in the season (and into The O.C. season 2), when he decides to flee Newport in pursuit of his lone journey. Don’t you think it would’ve been handy for people to know his dreams so they could support him in a more meaningful way?

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4. Be open about your exes

Oh, where do I begin with this one? There are countless instances in this series where untold secrets about a previous relationship rear their ugly head at very inopportune times for the people involved, but let’s call Ryan, Marissa, and Theresa Exhibit A. If Ryan had been honest with new flame Marissa about his romantic past in Chino from the get-go, he would have avoided an extremely uncomfortable Thanksgiving encounter...and who knows what else? If you’ve had a tendency to be cagey about your exes with a current bae, watching Ryan’s example should make you want to be more honest.

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5. People are rarely as intimidating as you think they are

For years, Seth was so enamored with Summer that all he could do was pine for her and secretly bestow her name on his boat, but when they finally met and start flirting, he learns that he’s not the only student at The Harbor School who sleeps with a toy horse next to their bed. (Princess Sparkle and Captain Oats are still so meant to be.) Think of how much less time our boy Cohen would have spent feeling sorry for himself if he’d thought for even one second that Summer was potentially his own kind of dork.

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6. It’s important to know when to bring in an expert

Marissa got in way over her head in The O.C. when she tried to tackle Oliver’s health issues on her own, and while she probably needed a real grown up, even adults can learn from the cautionary tale that played out in the penthouse of that fancy hotel. It’s important to learn what you can handle and what’s above your pay grade. There’s no shame in admitting that you can’t get through something on your own. Rather, there’s only shame in knowing that a problem exists and that you didn’t seek the help that’s really needed.

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7. Making a choice is almost always necessary, even if it seems like you can have it all

Teenagers everywhere swooned at the thought of being in Seth’s shoes (Chuck Taylors, obviously) and having twoseemingly perfect suitors vying for their attention. Remember those awesome Chrismukkah gifts Seth got from both Summer and Anna? Well, it seemed too good to be true at the time…and it was, because in the end, Seth had to make a choice, and his inability to do so in the first place really damaged his credibility.

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8. When people show you who they are, believe them the first time

Sandy and Kirsten spend a lot of time in The O.C. season 1 trying to put their faith in Caleb, even though he continually proved he couldn't be trusted. While it’s nice to give people the benefit of the doubt, this dysfunctional family dynamic should serve as a reminder to all of us that people’s actions speak a whole lot louder than their words.

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9. It takes a lot longer to rebuild trust than it does to destroy it

Ryan is basically the poster child for trust issues, and every time he’s let down by one of his friends (ahem, Marissa), we get a front row seat to the inevitably long process of the aforementioned disappointing friend trying to win him back. Life would be much easier — and TV much less interesting, I guess — if we didn’t tamper with people’s trust in the first place.

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10. Appreciate family members and all of their quirks

No relationship better demonstrates this truth in The O.C. than that between the Cohen family and The Nana. By the time Sandy’s mother has arrived in Newport, we’ve already been treated to tons of family folklore about how intimidating and, well, mean she is. So when we find out later in the episode (spoiler alert!) that she actually has cancer, it’s like a punch to the gut for us too. This particular emotional roller coaster should serve as a lesson to us all that it’s important to appreciate the good, the bad, and the ugly in our family members because our time with them isn’t guaranteed.

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Offering a clean slate of stunning earthy decor is a gorgeous five-bedroom home in LA's Los Feliz hood, tucked in the hills with pine trees and wildlife near the iconic Griffith Park. The home is on the market so it's not yet lived in, which makes it the perfect inspiration for creating a cohesive and modern look that's also clutter-free.

"We’re so sick of all white everything and this house is the perfect antithesis of that," said Sam O'Connor of O'Connor Estates, who helped stage the home after it was beautifully renovated by Ruby and Mike Rubin, design principals at Rubin Studio. "The overall aesthetic is warm and earthy but with the perfect use of color throughout," says Sam.

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With a mix of rustic reds, rich greens, and vibrant blues, the home feels inviting and ready for a lucky someone to plant their roots. Budget aside, the inspiration here is worth noting for your 2025 decor and sources come from places like All Modern, Nordic Knots, and HD Buttercup along with vintage pieces too.

"The inspiration for styling was 1970’s Brazilian interiors… Bold, casual and elevated," says Sarah S. Brady, founder of Platform Home. She used an antique rug in the entry from LA's Rose Bowl Flea Market and a large portrait by artist Ali Silverstein.

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Rubin Studio used a Sea Ranch-inspired cedar exterior, and natural materials with interesting textures throughout the home like corks, rough cement tiles, tiles with saturated colors, and cedar, teak, and white oak woods.

Green lovers can take cues from this living room, with saturated green tiles, a Willow Modular Sofa in sage from HD Buttercup, and a Moroccan rug with pops of contrasting yellow by Raha Roho.

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“Going into 2025 we have been seeing a lot of darker tones of browns and deep mauves, including upholstery with interesting texture and rich in tone, plus millwork with darker stains or paint" says Ruby Rubin. Rubin Studios added in custom details with more warmth and character.

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"We created new functional spaces and isolated moments in the walk-through pantry, kitchen, dining room bookshelf, and wet bar," says Mike Rubin of the custom millwork.

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Sam and Claire highlighted the warm earthy tones throughout. "We feel the house is a piece of art and we didn’t want to distract from that. The new dining area is now one of our favorite areas of the home!” Sam says.

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I am 100 percent on board with this green bed in velvet from All Modern. Paired with a jute rug, oak flooring, and mid-century banquette, it's the perfect starter kit for a dreamy bedroom. Vintage art and an iconic Zig Zag chair add personality to already gorgeous design.

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Rubin Studios used a collection of natural honed stone including Jade Quartzite, Quartzite Nero, Calacatta Viola, and Red Travertine that make moments like these interesting, bold, and beautiful throughout.

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The earthy tile and Nickey Kehoe rug continues the green theme from master bedroom to master bath.

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The slate floors, custom millwork, and green tile on the main floor flawlessly complements the trees and views of the home.

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The guest bedroom pairs warm amber tones with natural linens and a jute rug with organic pattern.

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This rosy bathroom is the perfect extension of some of the neutral and warmer tones in the house.

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Here's where olive green meets a burgundy red tile (in the bathroom coming up) to warm up the neutral base.

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Floor-to-ceiling tile makes a beautiful statement in a small bathroom.

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The burgundy marble stone is a stunning complement to the tile above.

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And then there's the rich cobalt blue to surprise and delight with a rug from Nordic Knots. This is the perfect chill spot with wet bar for entertaining. Sign us up!

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It seems like a lifetime ago that we were watching season 23 Bachelor star Colton Underwood roam the Portugal countryside after being rejected by the one woman he apparently loves. But according to the laws of time and Chris Harrison, it was yesterday. Still, we’ve all seen and been through a lot since then, so let’s start from the beginning — or, as it were, the beginning of the end.

(Warning: This post contains spoilers from the Tuesday, March 12, episode of The Bachelor. If you have not seen the season 23 finale and don’t want to know what happens, stop reading here.)

Unlike with past seasons, the question tonight wasn’t who Colton would pick or even whether he was engaged, since that seemed like a long-shot. Instead, it was whether the woman he had already chosen would choose him back.

Going into Tuesday’s finale, Colton was completely single, having broken up with both Tayshia Adams and Hannah Godwin in order to pursue Cassie Randolph, who left the show after telling him she wasn’t in love with him. In the final moments of Monday’s episode, we saw him approach her door — right before the cameras cut away to host Chris Harrison.

Fortunately, the show jumped immediately back into the action on Tuesday. Cassie answered the door, visibly shocked to see Colton, and agreed to talk outside, where he revealed that he had broken up with Tayshia and Hannah on the off-chance that she would give their relationship another chance. “I’m not telling you that I love you. I want to show you,” he declared.

And just like that, they were seemingly back on track. Cassie said she still had some reservations and didn’t know what she was ready for, which is why she had broken up with him in the first place, but she was clearly moved by his gesture and agreed to travel to Spain to meet his family.

Understandably, though, there was some apprehension on both sides — Cassie’s and his family’s — about the unexpected change in plans. Cassie worried what his family would think of the situation, since she had (very recently) dumped Colton, and his family worried that he was setting himself up to be hurt by her again. (Honestly, same.) They had a lot of questions for her, particularly about what his mom called her “decision to bail,” but to her credit, she answered them honestly, admitting she didn’t know what the future held for them and wasn’t totally on the same page with Colton yet.

Colton, for his part, tried to reassure his parents that she was worth it and he had every hope that she would eventually fall in love with him. But it seemed like he was trying to convince himself and Cassie, too.

Fortunately, he had one more date to get her fully on board. After driving around Mallorca, Spain, for a bit, they arrived at the shore, where they rappelled down an oceanside cliff to get to a picnic, as Colton mused, in voiceover, about taking risks for love, even when there’s no safety net. (A little on the nose, ABC.)

Once they were back on solid ground again, Cassie confessed some of her fears about relationships. (Apparently, she had a college boyfriend who became controlling.) She said she worried she wouldn’t have the freedom to be herself anymore, but Colton said he loved her because she was herself. “More than ever, I feel how much Colton loves me,” she said in a confessional after the fact. “And I think I’m starting to kind of accept it.” Not the most romantic response, but okay.

Later that night, at dinner, Colton pulled out the invitation to the Fantasy Suite. To no one’s surprise, she said yes, and after a few minutes of on-camera kissing, Colton broke the fourth wall, told the crew members he loved them, and then promptly kicked them out — only to emerge a few minutes later to ask them to de-mic him. As the sound engineers walked away, one of them wished Colton good luck, and then he and Cassie disappeared behind closed doors.

At this point in the episode, the show took a break and invited Ben Higgins, Jason Tartick, Chris Randone, and season 23 contestants Onyeka, Demi, and Sydney to discuss what Colton and Cassie may or may not have done in the Fantasy Suite. (Note to Bachelor producers: Please don’t do this in the future.) Thankfully, most of them seemed to agree that the question of Colton’s virginity was not nearly as important as the question of Cassie’s commitment.

Which brings us to the next morning. Colton kept the details of their night together private, saying only that they did what was best for their relationship. And in case you were worried — we were! — that relationship is still going strong.

Colton and Cassie made their first appearance as a couple during the live portion of the finale, and a giggly, giddy Cassie told everyone they’re “super in love.” They’ve even talked about getting engaged. Cassie said nothing’s holding her back now, but Colton said they’re just enjoying dating, so there’s no ring yet, but it sounds like there might be one in the not-too-distant future.

For now, he’s living near her in LA and they’re making plans to travel over the next year. “I feel like the luckiest girl in the world,” she gushed to Chris.

That would have been a good place to end the show, but Chris couldn’t let them go without asking point-blank whether Colton had lost his virginity. He declined to share — honestly, good for him — so Chris ended the interview by introducing a performance from Air Supply, which… made about as much sense as anything else this season. See you next time, friends!

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Loud budgeting may be popular on TikTok, but conversations about money can still be awkward. I've been in romantic relationship for a little over a decade and we're just at a point where we've become aligned on finances. So imagine having random conversations with your family or friends that begin with, "I know I've never really asked before, but is it okay if I can borrow [insert x amount of $] until I can pay you back?" The nature of your platonic and familial relationships will totally determine whether you receive positive or negative responses.

As helpful as money can be, it can fracture even the closest relationships. Why? Well, psychologist Veronica West of My Thriving Mind, head of advice for Wells Fargo Emily Irwin; and Founder of Her First $100K money expert Tori Dunlap have a few ideas!

Keep reading for a few sneaky ways money can ruin your friendships:


1. Talking About Money Can Expose Hidden Feelings

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It's impossible to know how someone feels every second of the day, but we probably all think we have a good understanding of the people we're close to. But people are capable of hiding how they feel about something or burying their discomfort until certain situations 'expose' them. Why does it seem like money has a way of doing this?

Both Irwin and Dunlap agree that "money is taboo," leading people to avoid conversations about it. "Data tells us that we are more likely to talk about any other taboo topic—sex, politics, religion, even death—before we’ll talk about money," says Dunlap. West agrees and says, "Money is like that one friend who’s incredibly helpful but totally untrustworthy—everyone likes what they bring to the table, but no one wants to talk about them directly." Did you think of someone specific? It's okay because I did too!

The problem is that money can make "hidden insecurities come out, old sibling rivalries rear their heads," and more, according to West. "Even something like 'who paid for what' can suddenly become a life-or death conversation," she says. It's strange because Irwin says a Wells Fargo study shows that "many Americans across all ages are worried about money," proving we're all thinking about it, despite our avoidance issues.

2. And Money Can Also Create Unease In Conversations

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"When we don’t have open conversations about money, we’re left to navigate it on our own, which can keep us feeling underpaid, overworked, or unsure about our financial situation," Dunlap points out. She feels "discussing money requires a huge amount of vulnerability" which "isn't easy for everyone." You may have seen how other topics are swept under the rug by family members or friends based on reasons they're not ready to talk about.

Though Irwin believes saying something like saying, "'Here's what's keeping me up at night' or 'here's what my goals are' could strengthen connections," Dunlap knows that "shame, comparison, or fear of judgement" can cause people to remain tight-lipped about their finances.

If you've experienced a weird moment because of money or had to be the unfortunate witness of an awkward conversation, my apologies. It's not fun no matter who's involved because, unfortunately, "money carries layers of emotions, like pride and insecurity, that turn simple conversations into potential minefields," says West.

Dunlap says there's a silver lining if people are willing to be open, however. "The key is respecting each person’s comfort level, and encouraging openness if they're willing to meet you there. It’s not going to be perfect at first, but by starting to share more about your own financial experiences, you can start to break the cycle of shame and fear around money. You might be surprised at how quickly others are willing to open up too."

3. Making Assumptions About Other’s Money Status And Financial Situation Can Lead To Disrespecting Boundaries

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No one's saying you should never lend friends money, but being mindful about the decision is worth noting. West feels "it's complicated" while Dunlap believes the issue "can be tricky." There's a chance a low-key loan becomes an expectation that you should dish out money every time someone needs help, even if you're trying to maintain your own bills. "Lending money to a friend is like sharing your Netflix password—simple in theory, but one wrong move, and things get weird," West forewarns.

Dunlap also says, "When you lend money to someone close to you, there's always the chance that you won’t get it back. You want to be mentally prepared for that! Otherwise, it can strain your finances and your relationship. The emotional toll can be just as heavy, as unpaid loans can lead to resentment or awkwardness." It's not unusual to hear about certain friends being unreliable in more ways than one after you've let them borrow something. Unfortunately, Irwin indicates this happens because some people "don't expect to give something back that they've borrowed."

Because of this, Dunlap thinks "it's best to avoid loans if possible." Should you decide to move forward with helping out a friend who's in a bind, make sure you're both in agreement about repayment and what to expect moving forward. West says "having clear terms" or "gifting a small amount if you can afford it" is like "buying their friendship insurance." The latter is something Dunlap agrees with because it "helps prevent resentment if they can't pay you back as planned." Plus, she feels it also "keeps the loan within an amount you're okay with potentially losing."

4. Lending Money Is A Slippery Slope That Can Lead To Distrust And Resentment

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It's amazing how money can lead to a friendship breakup if boundaries aren't created or respected. "Money is a sneaky little devil who can push everyone’s buttons. It can cause resentment if one person feels taken advantage of or someone’s 'casual loan' becomes an epic saga of unpaid IOUs," West says. Not only that, but Dunlap knows "money can strain relationships between friends and family by highlighting differences in how we value it, expect to use it, or feel about sharing it."

Friends and family members shouldn't take each other's kindness for granted, but human nature is fickle at times. That's not an indicator that someone you love is a "bad" person, but they may feel like you owe them your time and money. However, Irwin says this isn't "de facto that that person is entitled." Still, Dunlap is more than aware how this can play out. "For example, it can lead to resentment if one person is always the one picking up the tab, while another might feel uncomfortable or indebted because they’ve been helped financially," she says.

On the other hand, it can show up a little differently in families. She adds, "Issues like unequal inheritance or constant requests for financial help can lead to deep emotional tension. Money can also become a tool for power imbalances, where one person feels in control and the other feels dependent, and that can mess with trust and respect."

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When certain negative patterns show up in relationships, it can make people decide to take a step back from being available. "And once distrust settles in, it’s hard to shake; nobody wants to be 'that friend' who’s forever dodging a Venmo request or getting side-eye from relatives at every family BBQ," West points out. How many times have you built up a wall with the people you love because of repeated unreliability or the expectation that you're supposed to help them whenever they ask? If you didn't hesitate to think of a moment, you're living proof that distrust can affect even the closest relationships.

Dunlap says, "When money becomes a main factor in a relationship, it can overshadow the connection, making it difficult to maintain genuine trust and understanding. You can avoid this by having open conversations with friends and family about your financial situation. Clear communication can help keep the focus on the relationship, not the money."

5. You Can Worry You're Not A Good Friend Or Family Member For Setting Money Boundaries

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Worrying about how other people feel can keep us from setting boundaries. There's a difference between being an empath and a people pleaser, but it's easy to blur the lines. You can absolutely empathize with someone's hardship while knowing you're not in the position to lend the amount they may be looking for. I'm a huge fan of saying that two things can be true at once — because they can.

Irwin says you need to "address the conversation head on" if a friend does ask you for a loan. Your response may depend on if their ask was "emotionally-charged or "in an uncomfortable environment," but Irwin doesn't recommend ignoring it. If you're not in the space to respond, here's what she suggests saying in a "timely" fashion:

  1. "Hey, I need time to think about this. Let me get back to you."
  2. "We can help you, but here are our boundaries."
  3. "We see and understand you, but we're unable to help because we're trying to pay off debt or save for _______."

Yes, Financial Boundaries Are Essential

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Don't think you need to create financial boundaries for yourself and your friends? Think again. West says, "Establishing some ground rules is a lifesaver—think of it adding airbags to the friendship. Setting boundaries early on, like when you’re still in the happy, non-monetary part of the relationship, can protect both sides if things get sticky."

Here's how she advises you proceed with creating boundaries:

  1. Keep it light and be honest; you’re not making a prenuptial agreement here, just letting them know you’d like to avoid “financial fireworks” later.
  2. Say, “I’m your friend, not your ATM.” It’s funny but helps set the tone that your wallet isn’t a free-for-all.
  3. Set a gift cap, such as, "I'm happy to chip in for brunch or a birthday, but let’s not get into home-loan territory.”
  4. If you do lend, draw up a repayment plan. Think of it as adulting with a side of accountability to avoid “accidentally” becoming their financial fairy godmother.
  5. Limit talk of big financial choices unless you’re genuinely invested together. After all, nobody needs to know how much their friend spends on avocado toast or scented candles, let alone home renos.
  6. A little humor and some boundaries go a long way. You’ll save yourself a lot of awkwardness and keep the friendships intact, one “non-loaned” dollar at a time!

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Tori says, "It's so important to have transparent conversations about money, set clear boundaries, and ensure that relationships are prioritized in any money exchange." Here are a few things you can try:

  1. Communicate about your budget with a “gratitude sandwich.” Say you’re invited to an outing—a dinner, or a sports game—that isn’t within your budget right now. You can respond with the “gratitude sandwich.” The “pieces of bread” are positive, and the “meat” is the money thing you’re scared to say. Thank that person for the invite, let them know it’s not within budget right now, and then offer a cheaper alternative, reassuring them that you’d really love to see them. Offering an alternative reminds that person that declining their invitation isn’t about them, and you still care about them. In doing so, you prioritize your budget AND your relationship in the process.When in doubt, remember that no is a complete sentence. You don’t need to overcomplicate things, and sometimes a simple “no” is all you need.
  2. Set expectations early. When planning trips with friends, discuss the budget and how costs will be split upfront. Having these conversations ensures that everyone is on the same page and helps avoid any misunderstandings. It creates a supportive, stress-free environment where everyone can enjoy the experience together without any added worries!

The Final Verdict:

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Once you've weighed your options and considered what you need, you can decide to loan your friend money. However, Irwin wants you to consider being formal about it. "You can absolutely draft a promissory note or loan agreement so that your friend knows how serious you are about your boundaries. If you want, you can also put an interest rate on it," she says.

It's not to hurt your friend's feelings, but it is a boundary you can put in place so they think to themselves, "This is truly a loan because I'm borrowing money with the intent to pay it back," Irwin says. It could change the dynamics of your friendship, but it's more about being "purposeful about the language being used" so you and your friend can both move in the "right direction," according to Irwin.

If the idea of creating a 'loan agreement' sounds icky to you, Dunlap wants you to seriously consider it as "an extra bit of protection." She says all you need to do, again, is "try setting up a simple contract to outline repayment terms" because it "can help both of you stay on the same page and avoid misunderstandings down the road."

Her ultimate piece of advice? "Only lend what you're comfortable giving and potentially losing, and keep open communication to maintain trust and respect in the relationship."

If you set clear financial boundaries and still find that your platonic relationships are weird, we have tips to help you navigate a potential friendship breakup.

Surprise your loved ones with these cheeky gift ideas that are perfect for anyone and everyone! From quirky gadgets to fun, useful finds and playful accessories, these picks are designed to bring a smile to anyone's face. Whether you're shopping for a close friend or that hard-to-please relative, these unique finds add a dash of humor and charm to your holiday gifting. Explore these playful gifts and make this season memorable with presents that everyone will enjoy.

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This calming toy to Help Reduce Anxiety

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This Purrble calming toy has been awarded Amazon’s choice, and will be both fun and soothing for children. It is a high-tech tool and a soft, furry toy that is a cuddly interactive companion that can help children stay calm in moment of stress and anxiety!

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This Puffer Bomber Is So Chic

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Keep your EveryGirl warm and stylish all winter with this beautiful puffer bomber. It comes in a range of classic colors and bright, bold, eye-catching colors so you can find the perfect look.

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Blow Off Some Steam With A Dammit Doll

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When you just can't take it anymore and need to yell and scream, take it out on a Dammit Doll. "The Classic Dammit Doll is engineered to absorb all that negative energy so you can let go and get your happy back on." Verified Purchaser, A. Preston, said, "I have been gifting Dammit Dolls for several years, they never fail to get a smile out of the recipient!"

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A Form of Shart

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This gift is just so hilarious, it had to make the list. If you have a friend who enjoys a good giggle, this is the one!

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Fidget Putty Is Perfect For Concentration

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Forget the fidget spinner, it's all about the fidget putty. This clever product contains over 500 ferrite stones that mould together like putty. It can help to calm an anxious mind or keep you focused.

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Advent Calendar But Make It Makeup

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Bring back all of the childhood feels with this advent calendar stocked for the makeup guru who likes to sample new high-end products and fragrances.

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Mini Karaoke Machine

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Bring the party home with this Mini Karaoke Machine. This portable Bluetooth speaker for kids comes complete with two wireless microphones, perfect for family singalongs or as a unique gift for the little songbird in your life.

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These Slippers Are Perfect for Cold Weather

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These UGG Slippers are made from ultra-cozy dyed sheep fur and feature a cushiony insole and rubber outsoles. They will keep your giftee’s feet warm inside but are also a total delight to look at.

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Remove Sebum and Blackheads With This Tool

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This adorable tool was made to clean out your pores with just a few sweeps. The Tako pore scrubber pulls out impurities to leave your skin looking and feeling clean and bright.

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The Not-So Piggy Bank

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This piggy bank is lacking a piggy but serves adults and children alike. You can put in whatever amount you'd like and take out any amount you like (hence the ATM.) Genius!

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Put Your Phone on DND and Enjoy Some Quiet Time

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Bring back the art of conversation with this card game designed to spark meaningful discussions. Featuring over 300 questions, it's perfect for fall camping trips or cozy nights in with friends and family. Whether you want to reconnect or have fun, this game is a great way to spend those crisp autumn evenings.

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The Top Selling Pillows On Amazon

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Want a hotel feel every night? These Beckham Hotel Collection Pillows are the answer we're all looking for. They outsell every other pillow on Amazon by a landslide and are made with a cooling gel fiber to keep you from overheating. You'll sleep like royalty.

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Shoe Spray to Spray the Stink Away

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Enjoy a fresh pair of shoes every time you put them on and avoid the embarrassment of taking off your shoes that have a stench when at someone’s house. The shoe spray gets rid of the nasty odors that may happen over time so you can feel confident in your walk.

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This Organizer Bin With a Genius Design

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If you've little ones with a million toys that are always making a mess, then you know the struggle that comes with getting them to tidy up. This organizer bin is a game-changer, perfect for small toys since not only does it have large storage space, but it also doubles as a playing mat so that when your kids are done playing, everything can cleaned up at once, saving you the hassle and stress.

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A Portable Photo Printer To Make Prints Anywhere

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Just when we thought we had enough photos on our phones, the HP Sprocket Photo Printer stepped in to display our shots physically. The portable photo printer boasts Bluetooth connectivity and can print images at 2 x 3in, roughly the size of a credit card. The best part? It can also apply effects, filters, and more.

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This Desk Lamp For Lighting But in the Cutest Way

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Light up your space with the desk lamp in the shape of a bird, making it a cute gift for a child or adult. It adds the essence of nature inside.

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Cowboy Hat-Wearing Duck Lamp

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It doesn't get more unique for a gift than this cute little cowboy hat-wearing duck table lamp! This little guy includes a USB port for rechargeable ambiance and touch control for personalized dim light.

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This Comfortable Bath Pillow Takes Relaxation to Bliss

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Indulge in the ultimate bath relaxation with the LuxSetp pillow, a #1 best-seller, complete with a plush cushion and neck roll. It is designed for supreme head and shoulder support while soaking and is crafted from breathable, quick-dry mesh. Attaching it to their tub is a breeze, with six handy suction cups included.

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The Stanley Stainless Steel Tumbler Is a Fan Favorite

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Don't miss out on gifting the popular Stanley Stainless Steel Tumbler, which will be a hit this holiday season. This double-wall vacuum-insulated tumbler is available in almost two dozen colors and four sizes.

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Go Solo

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The Solo Stove has been all over the news lately, thanks to Snoop Dogg's hilarious commercial. The Stove was made to fit perfectly on backyard tables, offering the lucky recipient with the perfect place to roast marshmallows or a just fun spot to enjoy a bit of backyard rest and relaxation.

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Wrap Up In Warm in These Essentials

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This season, gift comfort with these teddy slippers. You won't believe how quickly they will mold to feet. Perfect for winter evenings of fireside lounging.

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Comfy Couch Blanket

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This is an easy and fail-proof gift to give someone you don't know well. A fuzzy blanket for comfy movie nights and an easy way to add style to their living space!

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Nostalgic Glow From This Tetris Lamp

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Light up a gamer's world in more ways than one. This Tetris lamp isn't just about illumination; it's a tactile experience, a puzzle in itself. Let them design their own luminous masterpiece. Beyond being a practical gift, it’s a journey down memory lane, evoking nostalgia and delight.

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They'll Feel Pampered With This Laneige Holiday Gift Set

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After trying the popular Laneige lip mask, we fully understand the hype. This gift set has all of the star favorites from your favorite moisturizing brand, from a cream moisturizer to their coveted, best-selling lip mask. There are a few different sets to choose from, making it easy to tailor to your gift recipient.

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Astronaut Galaxy Night Light

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This SunTime Star Projector Galaxy Night Light is a mesmerizing gift that transforms any room into a starry galaxy, perfect for kids and adults who love a touch of celestial wonder.

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Handprint Kit

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With this CHERRY CHEERS Family Handprint Kit, you can create a personalized keepsake wooden frame, an endless gift set that captures family moments in a unique and fun way.

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This Heated Neck Stretcher For the Whole Body

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Since it is connected, your body will feel better using the heated neck stretcher. Gift a loved one this gift for muscle relaxation and therapeutic heat done right at home.

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This Camera Bundle for Pro-Level Shots

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This bundle includes the Canon EOS Rebel T7 camera, which is compact but can capture high-quality photos and videos. It comes with additional accessories, including extra camera lenses, filters, a tripod, and more tools that’ll give them more freedom to experiment with different photography styles.

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Give Their Plants a Personality with these Magnets

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For the plant lovers among you, these magnets are the perfect gift. With three expressions and three adorable animals, they add a playful touch that’ll bring a smile to your recipient’s face. Take it from this reviewer: “These are such a unique and inexpensive gift for the plant enthusiast in your life. Turn a simple plant into an adorable conversation item. They will make you smile when watering your houseplants.”

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This Book Nook for DIY Enthusiasts

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Available in four beautiful designs, this book nook is not only a wooden puzzle that’s very fun and fulfilling to assemble, but it also culminates into a beautiful and functional display piece for your recipient’s bookshelf.

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Relieve Tension With an Infrared Heat Mat

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This infrared heat mat delivers far-infrared heat that relieves your sore muscles. It's a great way to stimulate muscle recovery and ease into relaxation.

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A Coloring Book with a Sense of Humor

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The "Things You Want to Say at Work But Can't" coloring book is the perfect gift for that person just trying to get through the work week. It not only offers an outlet for stress relief, but each page has hilarious sayings that are sure to get a much-needed laugh.

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Legacy Journal

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This Legacy Journal by Duncan & Stone is a thoughtful gift that lets grandparents share their stories and wisdom across 85 beautifully designed pages.

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Christmas Snow Globe for Magic Glittery Moments

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Shake the Christmas snow globe and watch as snow starts to fall on the tree and presents inside. It is a beautiful sight that makes for a beautiful gift.

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For the True Crime Lover

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The excellent gift for the Law and Order true crime junkies is this criminal minds brain game is a fun way to test their memory and gives them an excuse to play private investigator.

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This Kit to Crochet the Stress Away

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Whether they want to try their hand at crocheting their clothes or trinkets like book sleeves, mats, and more, this crochet kit includes everything needed, including 21 crochet hooks, 15 skeins of yarn, and 37 additional accessories that’ll come in handy. It’s a therapeutic hobby and the key to making practical yet cute items they’ll love.

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These Solar Wind Chimes For Musical Days and Nights

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Add sound to time spent at home with the solar wind chimes that make for a gift that keeps giving. The sounds of chimes have a calming effect on anyone.

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Every Kitchen Needs One

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High-quality pots and pans aren't easy to find, but this set fits the description. The gorgeous, non-stick, oven-safe, and dishwasher-safe set comes with a detachable handle that can change from pot to pan and back again to offer the ultimate convenience for the home chefs in your life.

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This B5 Balm Soothes Dry Skin

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The hands and body can get seriously cracked and dry during the unforgiving winter. This La Roche-Posay Cicaplast Balm B5 is a must-gift for your friend who needs a soothing balm. Healing and therapeutic, this multi-purpose cream will soothe dry and cracked skin.

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Gift the Joy of Cozy, Warm Sips with a Temperature-Controlled Mug

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For that person who always has a hot drink at hand during the holiday season, this temperature-controlled mug is the most practical and thoughtful gift. It has three heat levels, ensuring that they can savor every sip in perfect peace without worrying about a lukewarm drink.

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The Screaming Goat: For the Office Jokester

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The Screaming Goat figurine, which is complete with a book, is a must-have for the office prankster. The unexpected goat scream will effortlessly lighten the mood and draw laughs on busy days filled with silence and concentration.

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This Smart Notebook Transmits Handwritten Notes

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Pop your notes online, and then here's the magic: zap your Rocketbook reusable notebook in the microwave, and voilà, all 80 pages are fresh again! It's a game-changer for doodlers, busy students, or note-takers in endless meetings. Say goodbye to carrying a pile of heavy notebooks - this journal is about making their life lighter.

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Healing Crystal Candle To Calm Their Bah Humbug Attitude

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Aromatherapy tea light candles filled with crystals to channel positive energy and encourage holiday cheer. Illuminate their home with Amazon's Healing Crystal Candle!

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These Nostalgic And Fashionable Mini Ugg Boots

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These Mini Ugg Boots will put a smile on any fashionista's face. With sheepskin lining and insoles, these boots will keep anyone warm all winter long whether they are inside or outside.

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This Unique Jewelry Wash Makes It Easy to Keep Your Jewelry Sparkling

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Featured as one of Oprah's favorite things, this jewelry wash cleans your jewelry while you wash your hands. It uses safe and effective ingredients to give your jewelry a deep clean while nourishing your skin, and it's formulated to be safe for all metals, gemstones, and jewelry types.

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Chill Out with These Meditation Disks

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These tone therapy meditation disks are meant to be placed on either side of the body to release a full meditative 3-minute healing sound bath that's helped thousands of people with their anxiety.

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Portable Blender

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This Ninja Blast Portable Blender is a cordless, rechargeable device perfect for health-conscious individuals who love their shakes and smoothies on the go.

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Keep your pet entertained for hours with a motion-activated toy

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Every pet owner knows how it feels to want to spend hours playing with their pet but remember that they have other obligations they must attend to. If you think this is you, you can provide your pet with entertainment without having to spend hours playing. Enter this motion-activated toy that dogs will love.

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This Bracelet Doubles As a Charging Cable

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You would never guess that this wristband also serves as a mobile phone charging cable. This fashionable accessory is ideal for anyone consistently on the go and is available in several hues to suit personal style.

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This Toiletry Organizer For Travel

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Anyone who frequently travels will appreciate this Toiletry Organizer. It features separate compartments for everything you need for a successful trip, including makeup, skincare, and hair products.

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Unlock a World of Unusual Knowledge With This Book

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‘The Book of Unusual’ is a best-seller on Amazon, and its name is the only gag aspect. Filled with intriguing trivia across entertainment, politics, art, and more, it's a wealth of unusual and fascinating information, perfect for the curious mind.

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This Drawing Tablet is For Beginners of Graphic Design

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Beginner-friendly, this drawing tablet has ample drawing space so that creating digital artwork is easy and comfortable. It has various levels of pressure sensitivity for accurate drawings, and there are eight customizable keys on the side that your recipient can set up with convenient shortcuts.

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A Set of Kawaii Erasable Gel Pens That Is Just Adorable!

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According to Wikipedia, "kawaii" (rhymes with Hawaii) is the "culture of cuteness in Japan." That explains how popular Hello Kitty and Pikachu are. The Pig, Bear, Cat, and Mouse that make up this Set Of 4 Erasable Gel Pens can certainly be described as Kawaii. See, listicles can be educational! Only .55 cents!

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This Adult Sensory Toy for Relief

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Get out your stresses of the day with the adult sensory toy. It makes for a terrific gift, even if just for play. Build funky structures with the magnets.

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An Oasis Of Relaxation With This Shower Bomb

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Transform your daily shower into a spa retreat with this Shower Bomb, the ideal gift for those who appreciate moments of relaxation and rejuvenation. This Shower Bomb infuses your shower with soothing scents and a refreshing ambiance, turning your routine into a wellness experience. Whether it's for a self-care enthusiast, a fitness fanatic, or someone who simply enjoys the gift of serene moments, this Shower Bomb is the ultimate gift that ensures your shower becomes an oasis of relaxation.

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Everyone Needs These Apple Air Tags

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Your family and friends will love these popular Apple Air Tags that can track personal belongings ranging from cell phones and wallets to keys and wireless headphones.

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The Ultimate Chill Onsie

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These are the perfect PJs or loungewear for a homebody. It doesn't get more comfortable than hanging at home in a onsie.

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Glass Teapot For Two

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Brewing the perfect cup of tea with this exquisite glass teapot for your folks. It makes a splendid gift for tea-loving parents who enjoy sharing this delightful beverage together.

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This Lip Sleeping Mask Nourishes Overnight

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This LANEIGE Lip Sleeping Mask is essential for nourishing lips overnight. This product blew up after Sydney Sweeney campaigned with the brand, hyping it on socials, and then it started flying off the shelves.

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This 3-in-1 Charging Station Is a Great Secret Santa Gift

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This compact 3-in-1 Wireless Charging Station is a great Secret Santa gift as it can charge various tech essentials and easily fits any tabletop.

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These Classic Athletic Socks

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There is no stocking stuffer better than Classic Socks. These athletic unisex socks come in white and black color options and can be worn during leisure or physical activities.

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These Satin Bed Sheets Enhance Comfort in the Bedroom

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Slide into luxury with DECOLURE's satin bed sheets. Their silky texture is a dream against your skin. This lightweight, wrinkle-resistant set, complete with a fitted sheet, flat sheet, and two pillowcases, comes in various sizes and colors to suit any taste.

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Streak-Free Cleaning with These Microfiber Glasses Cleaner

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This Microfiber Glasses Cleaner is ideal for effectively cleansing lenses while avoiding scratches. They are an excellent substitute for wearing a shirt to wipe glasses and serve as a practical present for those wearing spectacles.

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An Adorable Note Dispenser for Your Office Buddy

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Add a touch of whimsy to any desk with this adorable cat-themed note dispenser. Beyond its endearing design, this little feline friend serves a practical purpose by effortlessly dispensing post-it notes. It's not just a desk accessory; it's a charming companion that brings both the cuteness factor and functionality to the workspace.

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Boost Productivity Anywhere with This Work From Anywhere Kit

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This Work from Anywhere Kit is ideal for remote workers or digital nomads. With 17 essential items, it transforms any location into an efficient workspace inspired by the latest TikTok trends.

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This Mini Waterproof Bluetooth Speaker

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This Mini Bluetooth Speaker is perfect for travel and outdoor use. It can even be used in the shower to deliver high-quality sound without distortion for the ultimate listening experience.

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For the Traveling Soldier

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You can't go wrong with gifting the best makeup bag on the entire planet! This traveling organizer unfolds to reveal four separate storage compartments and even has space for makeup brushes so they don't get crushed in transit. The 360-degree swivel hook makes it easy to hang up in a hotel room or the car for easy access anytime.

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Customizable Door Mat Is a Cute Addition to the Home

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Gifting this Customizable Door Mat will turn a house into a home and bring a smile to their face every time they see it. It definitely adds a personal touch when welcoming guests this holiday season.

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This Star Map Showcases the Sky on Their Special Day

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If you’re looking for a one-of-a-kind way to show someone how much you care, this customizable star map is perfect. This artwork will show the constellations in the sky on any date you choose; how cool! You can customize the phrase, names, date, location, and font, so it’s a thoughtful and chic decor item.

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A Tray to Enjoy a Romantic Breakfast in Bed

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Let your parents know you want them to enjoy their time with a bedtable tray. It holds lots of food and coffee so they can stay in bed for hours.

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Dad Will Love This Beard Trimmer

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Get your dad to chop off those extra hairs so he doesn’t look like Santa, and see how much he will love this Beard Trimmer.

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These Best-Selling Earbuds Are Quality Sound On a Budget

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The TOZO earbuds feature Bluetooth 5.0 and a water-resistant design. They're the savvy pick over pricier brands, boasting a stellar 4.3-star rating from 357K+ reviews. Users are raving about the impressive 30 hours of playtime.

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