11 Things to Do in Your 20s That Will Benefit You for a Lifetime

At the end of 2015, I started to take stock of everything that was going on in my life. On the surface, it all looked very together — the twenty-something equivalent of having it all. I was doing well in my career, I had a boatload of friends, I knew just about everyone in town and I liked the feeling of hominess I’d created. Dating wasn’t stressing me out (like it usually does), and I was seeing my family more often than I’d been able to in the past. It all sounds as fabulous as a blowout birthday party.

But, eh, it did not feel fabulous. My life felt really off-kilter. How did I know? I was not happy most of the time. Stress made me snap. It was sort of like carrying a weighted backpack around with me everywhere, which I was never allowed to take off. The tiny seeds of a festering problem were so imperceptible, I couldn’t put my finger on ‘em for months. But as the new year rolled around, I started making a color-coded list of things I wanted to accomplish in 2016 in various avenues of my life — health, personal, social, career, so on and so forth. This isn’t entirely unusual. But this time, the sheer length of the list was.

I discovered just how much I’d been leaving undone. BIG THINGS. It’s easy to put things off in your 20s, right? You feel like you have LOADS of time. You pull into Procrastination Station, kick your shoes off and decide stay for a while. You’ve been to college. You spent years buried in your textbooks. You pounded the pavement and found your career. You deserve a rest!

The problem is when you’re taking the wrong kind of break — the type that means you’re stagnating. This year, at 24, I’m keenly aware of the movement of time. It happened suddenly, just as I realized how much I was leaving undone and unaccomplished. I also decided that 2016 would be my year to really grow and get my life in order (not just seem like Ms. Pulled Together). To get myself on the proper path, I enlisted a couple of great psychologists to guide me in goal-setting, pointing me in the direction of what we should all actually be focusing on now and throughout the rest of our 20s. Here’s what we came up with.

Do you have a doctor who’s watching your back? Now that you’re an adult, it’s time to zero in on a primary-care physician who will be your adult care provider, says Karla Ivankovich, PhD, an adjunct professor of psychology at the University of Illinois, Springfield, and a co-host of “Life and Love” on iHeartRadio. Ask your slightly older friends if they like their docs, or if you’re still seeing a pediatrician for your sinus infections (happens), you can ask for a referral. You don’t want to blindly trust a stranger if something devastating happens. Ivankovich says you should make annual or regular appointments with your healthcare providers to begin developing those long-term relationships.

Start with your PCP, a dentist and an eye doctor, but don’t limit yourself. I just made a list of personal health goals for the year and imagined who could help me achieve those goals, like a dermatologist to finally nix the adult acne, a cognitive behavioral therapist to help me avoid eating traps that lead to digestive symptoms and a dietician to help me plan healthier meals.

It’s easy to mindlessly date in your 20s. In fact, some people even enjoy it! Enjoy, yes, but while you’re doing so, take advantage of your single time to define your dealbreakers, says Ivankovich. “Even as young as you are, you already have preferences in the characteristics you want in a partner,” she says. “Make a list of dealbreakers, but then ask yourself, why is this a red flag for me?”

Ivankovich says that some preferences are passed on from parents or even friends. It’s time to meditate on what you want in an eventual life-long partner, not what someone else wants. Then, date accordingly — which is also not a one-and-done endeavor. What I wanted two years ago (handsome, charming emotional rollercoaster) is not what I want today (emotionally stable, mature pragmatist). If it’s not working with a string of guys with common personality traits, take stock. Maybe what you need is not as flashy as what you want.

Ah, two “com” words will make this one easy to remember, right? According to Ivankovich, there should be two central goals of your early adult relationships: Communicate your needs, and compromise so you’re both as happy as possible. “People tire quite easily of the person who will only adhere to the ‘my way or the highway’ attitude,” she insists. “The ability to compromise allows you to understand that someone has needs that are just as important as yours.” Relationships are about fulfilling needs — but not just yours. If you focus on making the other person happy, too, your probability of personal happiness skyrockets.

We all want our careers to be our passions, right? You may not know exactly what you’re doing in your early 20s, but you should not stop trying things while you’re sorting yourself out mentally, says Art Markman, PhD, a professor of psychology at the University of Texas, Austin. “Waiting to find a passion assumes that you have to find a passion first and then develop skills,” he says. “However, many people learn to love the things they spend time doing. So, it can often be worth diving into projects, and then discovering what you like about them.” Write the novel idea down. Sign up for the ethics class. Join the soccer league. Volunteer at the animal shelter. Your passion might be buried in something you’ve never even tried. Find it, so you can start dreaming up ways to leverage all your skills and build a career around it.

You might not know where you’re headed, but you can start assembling a roadmap for success by focusing on one simple thing, says Markman. “I think the most important thing to remember is that most of success is about knowledge,” he explains.

The longer you delay developing bases of expertise, the longer it will take you to acquire the kind of expertise you need to succeed in your career — so waiting until you find something you are passionate about before developing expertise delays the time when you can be effective in your career.” Take opportunities as they arise in your career or current field. Attend the conferences for your job and go on the business trips with an attitude of stockpiling knowledge. You’re there, so learn! Don’t just show up. Immerse yourself in ideas; you never know when you might need the information you consume now down the road.

If you’re not totally happy in your career in your 20s, you may have chosen the wrong one. But it’s not too late. “Far too many millennials are choosing careers that their parents are encouraging,” Ivankovich says. “While parents have good intentions, children end up in jobs that are less than appealing to them. In these scenarios, many will end up seeking a different path or a passion later on.” Taking risks or going back to school is easier to do before you have a family, and you’ll have more years of happiness as a result of making a change sooner rather than later. So, evaluate — at the end of every year, or sooner if it makes sense.

Have you ever felt like you must always put a smile on, be down for every adventure and act like life’s a giant party at all times? It’s being captured on Instagram, after all, and you want to seem pleasing. “It seems that millennials are always encouraged to put their best face forward, which often encourages deceit,” Ivankovich says.

“Not everyone is smiling and elated at all moments of the day, like social media would have us believe.” Life is not play-acting. Try to respect the truth of your life, your moods, your activities, says Ivankovich. “Friends and family are looking for the true you, not the one you want society to see in hopes of getting liked, favorited or retweeted,” she says. Drop the front.

And that means earning it, Ivankovich insists. “Believe in yourself, but understand that commanding respect is very different than demanding respect,” she explains. “Hard work should earn recognition, but develop a sense of humility, rather than expecting others will applaud you because you walked into the door.” Go above and beyond, knowing your self-worth and respecting others’. Plan the party for your mom’s 50th out of appreciation — don’t just attend. Lead the project without expectation of a reward, and allow your boss to notice your efforts. People will start admiring who you are, not tossing compliments at what you do — which is better by far, and will reap long-term benefits.

According to Markman, your brain is at its best right now, so take advantage of it. “People in their early 20s are at their cognitive peak, which means that it is easier to learn new skills at that age than it will be later. As you get older, your success is based on what you know, so developing a base of knowledge in your 20s is a great way to maximize your chances at success later.” Read novels. Find mentors. Ask questions. Attend events that will broaden you. I recently went to an astronomy lecture and a business talk on success. I’m headed to a mental health conference this spring. Although everything is not immediately relevant to me, the more I explore, the more I am able to see the world a little differently.

Honestly, there’s no time like your 20s to take off on a travel adventure. Even if you can’t afford to jetset right now, Ivankovich says you should make that trip to Thailand a goal, which you can prepare for immediately. “Make a list of five places you want to see in your lifetime, and then explore what each one of those cultures has to offer,” she says. “Ask yourself what you’ll have to do to enjoy a vacation to that destination, and begin working on that.”

You can start saving the dough while researching what you’d like to see while there. It’s a process. The goal is to keep exploring throughout your lifetime, and discover global destinations that might become second homes. Ivankovich suggests trying to travel, even if you’re a bit of a homebody and you feel unsure. “Your favorite pizza place is your favorite pizza place because, one time, you tried it,” she insists. “Consider what may be your next favorite place.”

Our 20-something decade is both beautiful and tough. We’re gaining all this newfound freedom — and let’s be honest, sometimes it can go to our heads. Ivankovich tells me that our attitude should reflect three things: humility, gratefulness and accountability. Respect those who have gone before you; make your own choices, but soak in their wisdom. Never expect handouts, work hard and take ownership of your decisions. “No one is right all of the time,” Ivankovich says. “Bad decisions are made, but realize that few things can’t be undone.” Work to correct those mistakes with your boss, your friends, yourself, she explains. When you cop to it, you learn from errors and you make fewer of them in the future. Drop the facade of perfection. Be awesomely, humbly human.

As for me, I’m a few months into Project 2016: The Year of Exploration and Personal Development. Verdict: It is the most freeing gift I’ve ever given myself. All my life, I’ve been the girl who has it together. I never asked for that title, but I felt compelled to keep it up nonetheless. It’s exhausting, and I’m here to admit that I am not that girl. None of us are. But that doesn’t mean I can’t be awesome — and I much prefer being the girl who’s simply figuring out how to be the best version of herself.

Got any more life lessons for us? Tweet us @BritandCo and let us know!

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Looks like our Chuck Bass has found his happily ever after. 😌 Ed Westwick, 36, who upholds the Bass namesake inGossip Girl, is now married to actress Amy Jackson. He originally popped the question on a couples-ski-trip-turned-romantic-getaway to Gstaad, Switzerland.

Jackson, 31, posted the news on Instagram, sharing a photo of the duo covered in ski gear, adding an enthused caption: “Hell YES 💍. ”Westwick soon relayed the engagement via an Instagram story of the post, saying “I hit the jackpot xxx.”

And now the couple's family is about to get bigger! Here’s to a lifetime full of love! ❤️ If you’re curious about the pair’s history, read on for a timeline of their sweet relationship.

Ed Westwick + Amy Jackson's Relationship Timeline

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2021

Westwick and Jackson initially met at Silverstone race track through a mutual friend. The three of them chatted during the racing event and Westwick casually (and so cutely) asked Jackson on a date after the fact.

Westwick asked if Jackson and her poodle, Herbert, were up to meet for coffee with him and his Frenchie, Humphrey. Okay, puppy love!

“He knew how to win me over from the get-go… coffee and dogs,” Jackson told Lifestyle Asiafor a cover story last year.

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2022

Westwick and Jackson were spotted in public more frequently as their relationship started to grow, adventurously attending red carpets, events, and vacations hand-in-hand.

The duo shared some wholesome pics of one another on social media, too, and began commenting on each other’s posts more often to put their feelings on display.

The pair made things officially official in July 2022 and made their first debut as a couple at the Red Sea International Film Festival the following winter, according to India Today.

Commenting on the duo’s ability to keep calm and cool in the wake of fame, Westwick told Lifestyle Asia that “I embrace my public life and it’s always great to meet people and take pictures as long as people are polite, which most of the time they are. I also like to, you know, be away at home, walk my dogs, be with my family and enjoy my privacy. Balance is always good.”

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2023

One of the biggest happenings between Westwick and Jackson in 2023 was their couples’ trip to Mumbai in India, where Jackson had briefly lived in 2012 to 2015 to work on a few films.

Jackson reportedly took Westwick on a tour of the city, stopping at famous landmarks like the Taj Mahal and enjoying local fares from nearby restaurants.

The two of them were featured in acover story for Lifestyle Asia in 2023, where they dished more on their relationship and respective careers in acting.

Westwick told Lifestyle Asia that his love shared with Jackson is similar to what his parents had.

“There was something beautiful. They could always count on each other and had the utmost respect for one other and I think that is the most important thing,” he said.

2023 was also the year that they bought a house together in the countryside. Things were getting more serious!

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2024

That brings us to 2024! Ed Westwick and Amy Jackson got engaged during a ski trip to Switzerland mid-January.

Westwick asked Jackson to marry him on top of the Peak Walk by Tissot, a popular scenic hanging mountain bridge.

Jackson was happily surprised, as the picture of the exact moment shows her with her hands over her mouth. We love!

The couple got married in August and are now prepping for the arrival of their baby, according to People. They shared the sweetest announcement photos on Instagram and were met with tons of congratulatory comments.

Who is Ed Westwick?

Ed Westwick is an English actor best known for his role as Chuck Bass on Gossip Girl, which aired from 2007 to 2012. People named him one of 2008’s Sexiest Men Alive, he won Best TV Villain at the 2008 and 2009 Teen Choice Awards after the show’s success. He’s also in a band called For You, which dropped a single in 2023.

Who is Amy Jackson?

Amy Jackson is an award-winning English model and actress well-known for her acting within Indian cinema. She made her US acting debut with DC Comics’ Supergirl in 2017. Her modeling career was kickstarted after winning the Miss Teen World title in 2009.

Jackson is a mom to a 4-year-old child that she shares with her ex, George Panayiotou.

How long have Ed Westwick and Amy Jackson been together?

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Ed Westwick and Amy Jackson have been together for almost 2 years. They met in 2021, but didn’t make things official until the summer of 2022.

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Nothing says reality TV like drama, intrigue, and betrayal. At least, according to The Traitors! The hit TV show is back for season 3 and the star-studded cast is so good, I'm sure this will be the best season yet. Host Alan Cumming returns, along with 21 reality TV stars who will be competing for up to $250 thousand.

But according to the official synopsis, "hidden amongst the Faithful contestants are the Traitors, whose goal is to eliminate the Faithful and claim the prize for themselves. Under the cover of darkness, the Traitors ‘murder’ contestants one by one, but if the Faithful can banish all the Traitors before the end of the game, they’ll split the incredible prize." Here's everything you need to know about The Traitors season 3.

  • The Traitors season 3 coming back to Peacock with Alan Cumming as host.
  • The show will premiere in January 2025.
  • The Traitors cast includes Dylan Efron, Dorinda Medley, Chrishell Stause, Tom Sandoval, and Gabby Windey.

When can I watch The Traitors season 3?

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The Traitors Season 3 Release Date

The Traitors season 3 premieres on Peacock on January 9, 2025. Season 1 premiered in January 2023, while season 2 premiered in January 2024, so the timeline makes sense!

Who is on Traitors season 3?

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The Traitors Season 3 Cast

The Traitors season 3 cast includes Bachelor in Paradise's Wells Adams, actor Sam Asghari,The Real Housewives of Dubai's Chanel Ayan, RuPaul's Drag Race's Bob the Drag Queen, Real Housewives of New Jersey's Dolores Catania, Survivor's Jeremy Collins, Real Housewives of Potomac's Robyn Dixon, Dylan Efron, Total Divas' Nikki Garcia, The Biggest Loser's Bob Harper, Big Brother's Britney Haynes, Survivor's "Boston" Rob Mariano,Real Housewives of New York City's Dorinda Medley, Summer House's Ciara Miller, Royal Lord Ivar Mountbatten, Big Brother's Danielle Reyes, Vanderpump Rules' Tom Sandoval, Selling Sunset's Chrishell Stause, Survivor's Tony Vlachos, Survivor's Carolyn Wiger and The Bachelorette's Gabby Windey.

What is The Traitors about?

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The Traitors Season 3 Plot

The Traitors is all about who can out-trick their components in the dreamiest murder mystery game. A variety of celebs gather in a Scottish castle, along with host Alan Cumming, to complete a series of missions and have the chance to win up to $250 thousand. While the Traitors are trying to "murder" the Faithful one by one, the Faithful work to unmask and banish the Traitors. Only one team can win!

How many seasons of Traitors are there?

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There are currently two seasons of The Traitors available to stream on Peacock now. You can stream season 3 starting January 9!

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Out of all the celebrity breakups I wasn't expecting, Camila Cabello and Shawn Mendes definitely tops the list. They were clearly very close, and Shawn even admitted that all of his songs are about Camila, even the ones he released before they dated! (Okay, cute). The couple split at the end of 2021, but after a very buzzy summer following rumors that Sabrina Carpenter's Short 'n Sweet references their love triangle, Shawn Mendes revealed Camila is still one of his closest friends.

  • Camila Cabello and Shawn Mendes dated from 2019-2021, then reportedly reconnected in 2023.
  • Shawn recently opened up about how Camila is "one of my closest best friends."
  • He also reveals she's still the first person he would call in an emergency.

What does Shawn Mendes say about Camila Cabello?

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In a new interview with The New York Times, Shawn Mendes reveals just how much Camila Cabello means to him, and that it “bugs” him that the internet thinks they're “against each other in a weird way.”

"[She's] one of my closest best friends...I have nerves just even speaking about it, just what people would say," he reveals. “But honestly, if something was to happen in my family and if something was to happen to me, she’d probably be the first person I call, to this day...Our relationship is teaching me what love means, in a big way.”

The interview comes after Shawn Mendes spoke on his sexuality (something that, for some reason, has been a topic of conversation on the internet for years), and after the duo was in the spotlight following the release of Sabrina Carpenter's Short 'n Sweet, which seems to reference a love triangle between the three of them. Fans analyzed lyrics like "Oh I leave quite an impression" in "Taste" after Camila Cabello dyed her hair blonde, and "Your car drove itself from L.A. to her thighs" in "Coincidence" when Camila teased a lyric from "June Gloom" that says "If she's so amazing, why are you on this side of town?"

Have Shawn Mendes and Camila broken up?

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This isn't the first time the pair has broken the internet, and one of my favorite moments was when they performed "Señorita" at the AMAs in 2019. The chemistry! The vocals! The audience reactions!

And in November of 2021, the pair made a joint statement (which was posted to their individual Instagram stories) announcing their breakup.

"Hey guys, we’ve decided to end our romantic relationship but our love for one another as humans is stronger than ever,” the statement said. “We started our relationship as best friends and will continue to be best friends. We so appreciate your support from the beginning and moving forward. Camila and Shawn.”

Are Shawn Mendes and Camila Cabello together again?

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Camila Cabello and Shawn Mendes might have broken up, but they're definitely still in each other's lives. And there were rumors in 2023 that they had romantically reconnected. “They’ve practically moved in with each other,” an US Weekly sourcesaid last summer. “They each have their own places, but they’re spending every day they can together and traveling together.”

The pair has been spotted together more and more frequently, at Coachella, then at Taylor Swift's Eras Tour, and even in the middle of New York City. The Us Weekly source also mentions that “it feels like a new relationship.”

However, according to a new source, the pair has broken up again — this time for good. “Shawn and Camila have a lot of history and they tested the waters again after coming back into each other’s lives," the source told The Sun. "In reality, both of them know they aren’t right for each other romantically and now they just want to move on.”

Despite the will-they-won't-they of it all, it seems like Shawn Mendes and Camila Cabello will always be in each other's lives!

When did Shawn Mendes and Camila Cabello date?

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After being friends for years (and that steamy VMAs performance), Shawn Mendes and Camila Cabello dated from 2019-2021.

How old are Shawn Mendes and Camila Cabello?

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Shawn Mendes is 26 years old and was born on August 8, 1998, while 27-year-old Camila Cabello was born on March 3, 1997. There's just a one-year age gap between them!

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