This Is the One Word That Will Help You Survive a Breakup

Kat Armstrong
Mar 29, 2017

Is there anything harder than a breakup?

We’ve all been there at least once. We work hard at learning to love ourselves again after a devastating breakup and try to keep our mental health in check. Sometimes, the breakup is hard because everyone loves your partner, but there are ways we can get over every breakup. Now, science has found one simple word that can help you survive even the most difficult of breakups, and it’s not one you’d think.

According to a study published in the journal Science, the best way to focus and get back to feeling good is by using this one little word: you. Using research, the study found that when people engaged with others and focused on other people (you), they were able to better process both positive and negative emotions. But how did they track it?

When processing their negative feelings, participants were asked to describe their breakups without talking in the first person. All of the participants used the generalized term “you” to describe their feelings and were better able to process the negative aspects of the breakup. To put it simply, when asked about negative feelings, instead of saying “I feel sad,” they would say, “When you are feeling sad.” This process helped participants shed the negativity by not keeping it internalized and generalizing the feelings, helping them understand that everyone can feel that way.

So if you’re suffering from heartache, reshape your thoughts to the generalized “you,” and you’ll be able to feel better faster.

It’s just science.

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(h/t HelloGiggles; Photos via Drew Angerer/Getty)

24 Cozy 'Gilmore Girls' Gifts For Anyone Who'd Rather Be In Stars Hollow

If there's one thing about Gilmore Girls fans you can count on, it's their passion. They love the quirky one liners, memorable moments, and are usually either Team Jess or Team Logan (sorry Dean...). Give any Gilmore Girls lover in your life the chance to transport themselves to Stars Hollow this holiday season — without having to make the trek to Washington, Connecticut or the Warner Bros. stage in Hollywood. These Gilmore Girls gift ideas are fun, thoughtful, and very cozy, which are also three hallmarks of the series itself! From a coffee mug that Luke Danes would approve of to the perfect gifts for Taylor Swift fans, this Gilmore Girlsgift guide will make you say "Oy with the poodles already!"

Keep reading for 24 Gilmore Girls-themed gift ideas for 2024.

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The Third Gilmore Girl: A Memoir

Get all the behind the scenes info you could ever dream of when you pick up Kelly Bishop's new memoir!

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Loungefly Gilmore Girls Icons Mini Backpack

I was absolutely gagged the first time I saw this backpack. Tiny pizza slices, both the Luke's Diner and Chilton logos, AND the gazebo? I need this, like, right now.

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Sunday Best Peggy Sweater

Consider this white cable knit sweaterthe Rory Gilmore sweater for the season. I cannot stop wearing mine. It's super soft and the perfect medium weight (meaning you won't be cold but you also won't feel weighed down). It's also not itchy at all. I love wearing it with jeans, or tucked into trousers or a skirt.

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Cotton Baseball Hat

For a more subtle nod to the fashion on the show, a blue baseball cap gives major Luke Danes vibes without having to walk around wearing Gilmore Girls merchandise. Wear it with a crewneck and oversized coat now (hello '90s "It" girl!) and a tee shirt come spring.

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Channel your inner Rory with the Book of the Month subscription service. The cool part about someone else picking out the books is that you'll find titles — and authors — you didn't even know to look for.

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Espresso Martini Statement Earrings

It wouldn't be an episode of Gilmore Girls without a cup of coffee, or a martini at one of Richard and Emily's Friday night dinners. Combine the two iconic beverages with these statement earrings! They're bold, they're quirky, and they'll be the talk of all your holiday parties.

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Stars Hollow "Autumn Festival" Travel Poster

Nothing screams Stars Hollow like a festival, and this autumnal poster celebrates the best parts of small town life. Whether you choose to display it in a gallery wall or on a bookshelf, you'll feel like you're coming home every time you look at it.

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Luke's Diner Mug

With a Luke's Diner mug, you can pretend you really are in Stars Hollow. Bonus points if you're also having a big stack of pancakes!

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Gilmore Iced Coffee Glass Cup

If you're more of an iced coffee fan, even in the winter (I wonder what Luke would have to say about that?), grab a glass with a super cute design. Not only do I love that Rory and Lorelai are featured in the design, but the color palette is beautiful, too!

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Gina White Poodle

Getting your little into the Gilmore Girls spirit? They definitely need a lovable stuffed dog. Again I say, "Oy with the poodles already!"

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Colorful Bandana

For another low-key nod to the ultimate BFF's, grab a bandana in your favorite color (like this one that uses untreated, non-GMO cotton!). In true Y2K fashion, Sookie and Lorelai wear bandanas throughout the show, so this is a super fun way to incorporate their style into your own closet this winter.

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Dragonfly Necklace

A delicate dragonfly necklace is a beautiful layering piece that will add summer cheer to the dreariest of winter days and remind you of Dragonfly Inn at the same time. The fact that dragonflies represent new beginnings is just the cherry on top.

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Gilmore Girl Eras Shirt

Have you been binging Gilmore Girls during the day and watching Eras Tour TikTok livestreams at night? This T-shirt has your name written all over it. My personal favorite detail is that Kirk is in the debut square.

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Stars Hollow Christmas Festival Sweatshirt

There's nothing like layering a turtleneck, a crewneck, and a bunch of jewelry for a trip to your corner coffee shop, so swap your go-to crewneck for this festive Stars Hollow one! The gazebo is instantly recognizable for Gilmore Girls fans and just looking at the design makes me want to say, "I smell snow."

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Gilmore Girls: Complete Series Collection

One of my favorite Christmas presents in recent years was the full Gilmore Girls DVD set. This 42-disc DVD set has every single episode and even more hours of unaired clips, behind the scenes features, and episode commentaries. I'm geeking out just thinking about it.

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Gilmore Girls: The Official Cookbook

Gilmore Girls recipes are always delicious, and always pretty easy (after all, Lorelai and Rory basically only eat takeout and Luke's!). The official cookbook will let you put your own spin on the food you seen onscreen, and then you can have a truly meta experience by eating your meal while you watch the Gilmores eat theirs.

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Gilmore Girls: Trivia Deck and Episode Guide

Tried-and-true Gilmore Girls fans will love diving into this trivia book. Because this game (which features 200 questions) has an 88-page episode guide and goes through every. Single. Episode. Worth it!

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Gilmore Girls: At Home in Stars Hollow

TBH, I think kids books are great for book lovers of any age. The art and simple storytelling really get my creative juices flowing. At Home In Stars Hollow will make you (or a family member or friend) love Gilmore Girls in a whole new way!

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Stars Hollow Scented Candle

This all-natural soy candle has every scent a Gilmore Girls fan will love: coffee, sweet cream, and vanilla. It's cozy and balances sweet and bitter in a really intoxicating way.

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Lorelai and Rory Gilmore Plush

Okay, I'll be honest. I want these plushes for myself! The design is a hilarious nod to the season one episode "The Lorelais' First Day At Chilton" and even features a tiny coffee mug and tiny book!

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Gilmore Girls Socks

Now that we're in knee-high boot season (which I FINALLY bought), I like to wear super fun, colorful, and chaotic socks. Grab a pack of Gilmore Girls socks to take some Stars Hollow magic with you no matter where you go.

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Gilmore Girls Themed Blind Date with a Book

For this bookish blind date, you'll receive a Rory-themed read, a tea bag, a bookmark, and stickers. You really can't go wrong.

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Stars Hollow Books Tote Bag

Carrying your favorite books in a tote bag with the Stars Hollow Books logo feels like it's meant to be.

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Have I Told You This Already?: Stories I Don't Want to Forget to Remember

Lauren Graham's collection of essays will give you a glimpse behind the curtain as she offers thoughtful stories about life, aging, and the industry.

Which gifts from this Gilmore Girls gift guide will you be buying for your friends (or yourself)? Let us know in the comments!

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Angelina Jolie Finally Opened Up About Her "Extremely Private" Kids & Motherhood

Angelina Jolie has always been mother — but she's also a literal mother to six kids whom she clearly cares about fiercely. Since she first adopted Zahara, Maddox, and Pax to giving birth to Vivienne and Knox, it's always been evident that her children are her entire world. While she rarely talks about her children (especially given her highly contested divorce at the moment), Angelina shared a little slice of her feelings on motherhood, insights on her children, and more with Good Morning America.

Here's what Angelina Jolie had to say about her kids — including which one of them is the most private!

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Angelina opened up about her feelings for her family while chatting about her new movie Maria with Good Morning Americaon November 21, 2024. Host Michael Strahan asked Angie about if there's anything she loves as much as her character loves singing, and she replied that it's her "motherhood."

"It’s my happiness. You can take everything else away from me," she said. "I could — nothing else matters."

When asked about her sons' involvement in Maria, Angelina explained that despite their involvement behind the scenes, they're very uninterested in a life in the spotlight. She said, "None of my children want to be in front of the camera. They're quite private."

Angelina elaborated, "Shiloh's extremely private. They weren't born with privacy, so I hope they can have that."

This interview comes after Angelina and Knox attended the Governor's Awards with her on November 18, 2024. His rare appearance shocked so many — including Brad. Daily Mail reported that Pitt found the timing "suspicious."

The source said, "'She is trying to get under his skin after his recent win and using Knox to do so is odd. Knox wants nothing to do with Hollywood and has no communication with Brad."

Despite the weirdness, the source also said, "He [Brad] believes that, in time, his children will come back into his life."

How many kids does Angelina Jolie have?

Angelina Jolie has six children. She adopted Zahara, Maddox, and Pax, and later gave birth to Vivienne and Shiloh. She shares her children with Brad Pitt, most of whom aren't on good terms with him at the moment.

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Holiday Gifting Made Easy with These 41 'EveryGirl' Essentials

The 'EveryGirl' is the sort of girl who loves the simple, classic, and essential. She loves timeless silhouettes, effortless style, and laid-back elegance. Some love their accessories, some love trying new flavors, and some are all about fashion finds. We've rounded up the top 41 essentials that you need to buy this year for the EveryGirl on your gift list (including yourself).

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This Gorgeous Gold Pendant Is a Staple

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This stunning pendant can be worn and styled all the time with everything in anyone's closet. The necklace is a classic piece that's effortless and easy and offers a little elegance to any 'fit.

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A Cleanser Made With Natural Ingredients

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TikTok users have raved about this cleanser infused with kale and green tea. It helps remove toxins from your skin's surface and pores. Thanks to its gentle formula, it's safe to use with any skin type and can remove makeup at the end of the day.

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You Can Style These Flats With Anything

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Any EveryGirl would be thrilled to be gifted these beautiful flats. The colors are neutral, the shape is elegant, and the soles are comfortable enough that they'll enjoy wearing them all day.

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Finish Any Meal With a Drizzle of This Oil

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This incredible, smooth, flavorful Graza olive oil is a wonderful way to top off all your favorite meals. The EveryGirl in your life who loves to cook and try new recipes is going to love this oil.

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This Electric Kettle Is a Stylish Essential

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Brew up tea, coffee, and other delicious warm drinks with this electric kettle. The kettle heats quickly, holds temperatures for hours at a time, and helps you to relax and unwind at the end of a long day.

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This Scrub Is a Dream for Their Skin

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This salt scrub works to gently but deeply exfoliate, helping to remove dead and dry skin while leaving the skin soft and hydrated after every use. And it smells fantastic, too, which is always a good thing.

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Get a Clean, Fresh Face WIth These Starface Patches

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The famous Starface patches are hydrocolloid-based, helping to soothe redness, dry out breakouts, and even prevent future breakouts. Pop one on overnight and watch it go to work.

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This Bathtub Tray Helps Them Relax

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Give the gift of relaxation with this bathtub tray. The tray has plenty of space and helpful holders for all the bathtime essentials, from glasses to phones to your favorite book and candle.

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This Chunky Choker Is a Bold Spin on a Classic

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This beautiful chunky choker is something entirely unexpected, offering something just a little different and exciting to any outfit. The necklace is timeless, bold, and so fun to style.

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These Hair Clips Won't Mess Up Your Style

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You've heard about the no-bend hair clips, but these clips are even more exciting than the typical options. Your EveryGirl is going to love having these on hand for the pre-party prep.

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This Phone Case Is Classic and Simple

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This protective case is a classic tortoiseshell design that's always in style. The case is rated to protect from short drops so you don't have to worry about your precious, and pricey, phone being destroyed.

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This Stumptown Coffee Is a Winner

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EveryGirls love morning drinks, whether it's coffee, matcha, or something else entirely. This Stumptown coffee was made for the EveryGirl who can't get enough of the delicious, caffeine-packed morning brew.

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This Beautiful Rug Brings a Room Together

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Tie their favorite room together with this gorgeous rug. The fabric is durable and thick but also manages to be soft enough for your feet. This rug won't show dirt or stains easily, which makes it a total win.

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This Pore Cleaning Toner Works Hard

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Give the gift of clean and clear skin with this brilliant toner. This product is gentle but super effective, clearing out pores and leaving skin feeling and looking fresh, bright, and totally clean.

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This Nylon Bag Is an Affordable Version of the Viral Sensation

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Have you seen the much pricier viral crescent bag? This bag is just as good, incredibly high-quality, super stylish, and it's a fraction of the cost. It's essential for the casual EveryGirl who loves fashion.

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This Cream Offers Deep Hydration

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The famous Tatcha cream gives your skin incredible hydration that feels lightweight and won't leave skin greasy. The cream is made to replenish ceramides, protecting the skin as it smoothes.

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The Breville Espresso Machine Was Made for Coffee Lovers

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This is a major gift, but it's perfect for the coffee-obsessed EveryGirl on your list. The machine is easy to use and creates delicious, smooth shots of espresso and foamy lattes or cappuccinos.

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This Body Wash Smells Fantastic

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Body wash might seem like a strange gift, but this Salt & Stone wash is definitely on your EveryGirl's wishlist. The fantastically-scented product is paraben-, sulfate-, and dye-free for gentle cleansing.

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This Square Neck Top Is a Classic

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This top can be styled with all your favorite bottoms, from jeans to skirts. EveryGirls will love that this top is a beautiful mix of comfort and elegance, making the perfect addition to any wardrobe.

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This Poster Adds Joy to Any Space

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Bring joy to your EveryGirl with this brilliant poster. This print is fun, bright, and made to remind you of the joy and beauty of every day. Add a frame to it for a really lovely, thoughtful gift.

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This Matcha Powder Is Delicious and Smooth

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Gift your EveryGirl a tasty cup of matcha every morning with this Chamberlain powder. Help them save a little money and cultivate an intentional, meaningful morning routine every day.

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Say Goodbye to Pores With This Foundation

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This powder foundation is a brilliant way to get an even skin tone and texture, helping to blur pores and prevent settling into fine lines and wrinkles. It's a must-have for the EveryGirl who prefers minimal makeup looks.

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This Makeup Bag Is Fun and Spacious

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They can store all their favorite minimal makeup products in this beautiful bag. The spacious case is perfect for traveling with the double liner made to protect from spills or breaks inside.

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These Loafers Are Essential

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Amazon Essentials knocked it out of the park with these loafers. The soft, flexible shoes are great for the office or for dressing up those more informal outfits. Choose from a handful of gorgeous, neutral colors.

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This Concealer Is Professional-Quality

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This lightweight, creamy concealer is a long-wearing, crease-resistant formula made to give plenty of coverage without feeling heavy or cakey. It's a great buy for the makeup lover on your list.

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Your EveryGirl Will Love This Highlighter Set

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These highlighters are all over TikTok. Not only do these give you a smooth mark across the page, but they come in a gorgeous set of colors that are neutral and different in the best way.

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This Ribbed Top Is a Classic Style

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This ribbed crop top is long-sleeved for something a little different than what your EveryGirl usually wears. Choose from a handful of colors ranging from neutrals to bold, bright neons.

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This Tote Bag Is So Much Fun

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You might not consider corduroy to be a good material for a tote bag, but this one proves just how great it is. The smiley face bag is durable and spacious, making it a great buy for the EveryGirl in your life.

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This Pour-Over Maker Is Easy to Use

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This beautiful pour-over setup from OXO is simple to use and easy to take with you when you travel. The neutral colors and the sturdy, dishwasher-safe body make it a kitchen staple.

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These Prints Add a Pop of Color

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Bring on the color with this gorgeous set of travel prints. Those who love to travel will love decorating their homes with these beautiful, bright, and eye-catching prints of major cities.

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This Oversized Tee Is Trendy and Classic

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It might sound odd to say this shirt can be both trendy and classic, but it's true. The oversized look is in right now, but this casual graphic tee will remain in style no matter how much fashion changes.

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This Cottagecore Comforter Set Makes Sleeping a Dream

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Your EveryGirl is going to love this stunning cottagecore set. The comforter is cozy, soft, and not too heavy. The style is elegant and adds just a touch of vintage to their home decor.

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Layer Up With This Beautiful Necklace Stack

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This delicate chain stack is an easy way to embrace the layered look that the whole world can't stop talking about. These gorgeous gold chains are affordable and hypoallergenic for sensitive skin.

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This Loungewear Set Is Slimming

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If your EveryGirl loves to lounge, this beautiful set is a must. This loungewear set is super comfortable and makes you look incredibly cool, even when you're just lying on the couch.

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This Oversized Tee Is Always a Good Idea

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Keep your EveryGirl cool and comfortable in this oversized tee. Whether they wear it to work out or style it with a pair of bike shorts, this top is always a good idea for every body type.

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This Set of Sheets Is Made to Last

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The EveryGirl enjoys practical gifts, which is what makes this set of sheets a great option. These are durable, designed to hold up to years of use, and they're incredibly comfy and breathable.

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Enjoy a Peel Without Any Irritation With This Mask

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This Bliss jelly peel is a non-abrasive cleanser that nourishes and hydrates your skin without damaging it. The vegan and cruelty-free product smooths your skin without causing irritation.

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This Large Tote Has All the Space You Need

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Your EveryGirl won't have to worry about running out of space with this canvas tote. The reinforced bottom makes it durable and sturdy, and all the pockets give you storage for days.

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Keep Them Warm in This Oversized Cardigan

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This cardigan is one of those pieces that always looks good, no matter what you add it to. They'll reach for this sweater every day and think of you lovingly as they get warm and cozy.

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This Clock Is Timeless

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Help your EveryGirl to nail their home style with this beautiful, timeless timepiece. This wall clock is gorgeous, understated, and the sort of elegant piece that's going to look amazing in their home office.

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This Mockneck Sweater Is So Stylish

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The oversized fit of this sweater means it's not just stylish but also comfortable. There's plenty of room in this sweater, and the checkered pattern keeps it fun and different from anything else in your EveryGirl's wardrobe.

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