This Series About Friendships Will Make You Want to Immediately Call Your BFF

Childhood besties, work wives, workout buddies — regardless of how and when you make them, friendships can become some of the most important and rewarding relationships in your life. In The Atlantic‘s series, The Friendship Files, senior editor Julie Beck interviews different sets of friends — including those who met through an app, former contestants of The Great British Bake Off, and pen pals going on 20 years — to hear the stories of how they met and how their relationship grew over time. Says Beck, “Everybody is so warm and generous and interesting when they talk about their friends.” We talked to Beck about what makes friendships unique, what she’s learned so far, and who she’d love to interview. Read on, and then give your BFF a call.

Brit + Co: How did this series start?

Julie Beck: I’ve covered friendships a lot for The Atlantic before, in terms of psychological research, and it actually came about because I was thinking about friendship swiping apps, like Bumble BFF. I was thinking, “Do people actually use these? Do people actually make friends on those?” So I went looking for some friends who had met on one of those apps to interview and just to hear their story. Once I talked to them, I had this great interview, and I thought this could be expanded to talk about a lot of different types of friendships. So I started gathering more folks to talk to, and we launched the series on February 15.

B+C: You’ve interviewed lots of types of friends. Is there a common thread that binds people together?

JB: I think what’s so interesting about friendships to me, is that it really is the genre of important relationships in our life that has the least amount of rules or the least amount of cultural narrative ingrained around it. We understand family comes from legal or blood ties, [and for] romantic relationships, there’s choice involved in that, but there’s still a script that we all kind of know for how that relationship is culturally understood. Even if you don’t [choose to follow it], to a degree, you are consciously against acting against that script. That narrative is always present in one way or another. With friendship, there really isn’t one. People meet in all different kinds of ways, they connect in all different kinds of ways. The mechanisms by which they get close to each other are always different, and I think that’s what makes it so interesting, so variable, and why I think that this hopefully could go on for quite awhile. People really have to create their friendships on their own and move those relationships forward in their own way.

Researchers will say the thing about friends is that we choose each other. It’s a voluntary relationship. And that has its pros and cons. There’s a lot of research that suggests that as people get busy in middle age, and their careers ramp up and their family obligations ramp up, that friends can also fall by the wayside because it is a flexible relationship. If we’re dating and I don’t see you for three months, that’s kind of weird. But if we’re friends and I don’t see you for three months, that doesn’t mean we’re not friends anymore. That flexibility allows friendship to fit into whatever shape your life is taking at the moment.

B+C: Have you seen differences in friendships based on what stage people met each other?

JB: I think the research will say that a lot of people make most of their friends in their youth, and I’ve definitely talked to people where that’s the case. I’ve talked to people who have fallen out of touch with their friends in middle age and then reconnected later, and some of that is just someone making the initiative to reach out to the other person. But I’ve also talked to people who have forged really close friendships late in life, new friendships. I’ve talked to some people last week — a bunch of veterans from the Vietnam War who were all friends in their platoon when they were over there, and they really lost touch immediately when they got back to the States. Fifteen to 20 years went by, and then someone sent out a letter to all the other ones and they got back together. They started having these reunions, bringing their spouses, their kids, their grandkids. And now they have this really rich interconnected network of all of their families and that’s something that took hold for them later in life. I think it’s really dependent on the effort that people want to put into these relationships.

B+C: What have you learned about your own friendships?

JB: It’s just reinforcing for me that if you want to keep these relationships in your life, and if you want to make sure they’re rich throughout your life, it has to be a choice. You have to put in the work the same way you might have to put in the work for a romantic relationship or to stay close to your family if you don’t live near them.

Sometimes it’s hard in adulthood when you are busy or there isn’t a built-in structure for making friends like there is in high school or college when you’re sequestered with all these peers who could become your friends. But then hopefully as you get older, you learn, and you learn strategies and ways to put more of an effort. The voluntary nature is what makes it unique and endlessly diverse.

B+C: If you could interview any two friends, who would it be and why?

JB: I think if I were to ever get to interview Oprah and Gayle, that would have to be the series finale. There’s been a huge focus on women’s friendships in our culture recently, but even before it was this zeitgeisty thing, Oprah and Gayle have always been so open and emphatic about the importance of their relationship. And I mean, really, where would I go from there?

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Eating out as a vegan can be a true challenge, especially if you don’t exactly know that what you’re ordering is 100% vegan. Fast food faves like McDonald’s and Taco Bell are secretly packed with vegan items, and Starbucks is no exception. From oat milk coffees to satisfyingly savory snacks, you’ve actually got plenty of plant-based choices when you pull up at your local Starbucks.

Scroll on to explore every vegan Starbucks drink and food item you can add to your order!

Vegan Starbucks Drinks

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1. Brown Sugar Oatmilk Cortado

This new-to-the-menu espresso drink combines brown sugar syrup and oat milk to balance out the punchy coffee notes.

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2. Latte (Iced + Hot)

You can totally enjoy a latte at Starbucks if you're vegan. Their oat, almond, coconut, and soy milks are vegan, plus many of their syrups qualify as vegan, too, if you want to flavor up your drink. According to this Starbucks supervisor, all of Starbucks "clear" syrups are vegan and dairy-free. Starbucks' regular and white mocha sauces and caramel drizzle are also vegan and dairy-free.

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3. Americano (Iced + Hot)

Starbucks' Americanos are just water and espresso, so you don't have to worry about any dairy being in there. Optionally, you could ask for a splash of non-dairy milk and pumps of your fave syrup.

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4. Brewed Coffee (Iced + Hot)

Same goes for their brewed coffees, including iced coffee. Easily ask your barista to add in some non-dairy milk and a few pumps of syrup if you desire!

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5. Nondairy Salted Caramel Cream Cold Brew

This vegan cold brew drink is crafted with non-dairy cold foam that's flavored with salted caramel – and it's delish!

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6. Nitro Cold Brew

A plain nitro cold brew from Starbucks is fully vegan and dairy-free. You can choose to add a splash of non-dairy milk, if you wish your sip to be a bit smoother and creamier.

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7. Iced Brown Sugar Oatmilk Shaken Espresso

This one's a classic: shots of espresso get shaken up with ice and brown sugar syrup to create a frothy foam, then the drink is topped off with oat milk to cut the bitterness. It's quite a delectable order, even if you're not eating fully vegan.

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8. Starbucks Refreshers

All of Starbucks' fruity Refreshers are vegan. Plus, you can can add lemonade, tea, other flavor inclusions like strawberry and peach to add some extra oomph.

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9. Iced Black Tea

Their refreshing iced black tea is certifiably vegan, too.

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10. Iced Green Tea

If you prefer green tea, Starbucks' offering is vegan-friendly. If you tend to take your tea a bit sweeter, just order it with however many packets of your preferred sweetener, and your barista will add it in.

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11. Lemonade

You truly can't go wrong with a lemonade!

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12. Hot Teas

Starbucks' hot teas are totally vegan, too. If you want to make them fancier, ask for an additional splash of your go-to non-dairy milk!

Vegan Starbucks Foods

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1. Rolled & Steel-Cut Oatmeal

Now onto the food! First up is Starbucks' oatmeal, which you can fancy up with nuts, berries, and brown sugar. Make sure to order it with water to ensure it stays vegan.

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2. Plain Bagel

Surprisingly, Starbucks' bagels are also vegan.

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3. Everything Bagel

The plain and everything bagels will work for any vegan eater.

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4. Avocado Spread

Plus, you can order your bagel with a side of this delicious avocado spread for a nutritious boost!

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5. Spicy Falafel Pocket

This 100% vegan snack pocket is new to the Starbucks menu, but it's already become a fan-favorite amongst vegans and non-vegans alike.

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6. Chipotle Almond Dip

You can order the Spicy Falafel Pocket with a side of this fully-vegan Chipotle Almond Dip (AKA Bitchin’ Sauce). Yum.

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What is it about family sagas that seem to make book clubs more interesting? Maybe it's because we know interpersonal relationships can be a little dysfunctional. It could be that we still don't know how to communicate with the people we love the most. Even if we love our parents and siblings, reading about other families' fictional twists and turns gives us a rush of adrenaline.

So it's no wonder Jenna Bush Hager's January book club pick feels like something we can read without putting down. It's full of complicated relationship dynamics, love, and reconciling one's identity with their past. You can say it's the perfect read to kick off your 2025 reading goals!

Learn more about Jenna Bush Hager's 2025 book club pick and fall in love with one character's journey of self-discovery.

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The Life Cycle of the Common Octopus by Emma Knight

Penn should be excited about advancing her education at the University of Edinburgh, but she can't stop thinking about the secret her parents have been keeping from her. For some reason, she believes she'll uncover it while she's in Scotland because Lord Lennox — her father's friend — is in the area.

Her hunger for the truth leads her to Lord Lennox's estate where she she starts mingling with his family and even discovers love in this moving novel.

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Jenna Bush Hager's Thoughts About The Life Cycle of the Common Octopus

Jenna Bush Hager thinks readers will love The Life Cycle of the Common Octopus because "it's a rich novel" with themes of "friendship and motherhood" (via Instagram). It's so good, she's sure "it will sweep you off your feet (via Instagram).

We hope you enjoy reading about Penn's journey in The Life Cycle of the Common Octopus and encourage you to check out Reese Witherspoon's January book club pick next!

Trader Joe’s loves to keep us on our toes when it comes to their new arrivals. We’re constantly monitoring the aisles to discover all the new TJ’s sweet treats and savory snacks they launch – and these 7 new picks for January 2025 are not to be missed! All of these Trader Joe’s products will run you less than $5, which only makes sealing the deal on your grocery bill easier.

From delicious dips to a very enticing new frozen meal, these are the 7 best new Trader Joe’s finds you absolutely need to try in January 2025.

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1. Teensy Candy Bars

These tiny little candy bar bites ($2.99) resemble Snickers in the best way possible: layers of nougat, caramel, and peanuts are enveloped in a delicious chocolate coating for maximum snackage. We're gonna have to resist eating the whole bag! TJ's even suggests using these bits as decoration for other desserts, like sprinkling some on a scoop of ice cream or baking them into some cookies.

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2. Olive Tapenade Hummus

Trader Joe's array of dips is simply too good to resist, and this newcomer hummus ($3.49) is no exception! It's a tub of "smooth and nutty" hummus topped with a tapenade comprised of black olives, manzanilla olives, capers, and olive oil to give it a salty effect. It's gonna taste so great as a dip for crackers or as a spread on a Mediterranean pita wrap.

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3. Organic Concord Grape Jelly

This squeezable grape jelly ($3.49) is nothing short of nostalgic. Trader Joe's says it's "super smooth, joyously juicy, and potently purple," which immediately has us sold on making PB&Js every day now.

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4. Spicy Chicken Nuggets

Oh, yeah. Bring on the spice with these spicy nuggs ($3.99) that make the perfect easy meal no matter the time of day! Made from all-natural chicken breast and rib meat, breaded with wheat, rice and corn flours, then covered in hot sauce and lightly fried, TJ's has their texture down to a tee. You can easily cook 'em in the air fryer, oven, or microwave before chowing down!

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5. Crispy Potato & Poblano Pepper Tacos

These halved and fried frozen tacos ($4.99) will totally crush your Taco Bell cravings, since they come together super quickly and contain flavors with mind-blowing authenticity! Each taco is filled with a blend of seasoned mashed potatoes and some "ever-so- slightly spicy" poblano peppers that'll work so well with any dipping sauce, from TJ's salsa to their creamy Jalapeño Sauce.

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6. Strawberry Mini Hold The Cone!

Just in time for Valentine's Day, Trader Joe's is debuting a new flavor ($3.99) of their classic Hold The Cone! frozen dessert: strawberry! These tiny, chocolate-covered cones are lined with even more "rich" chocolate on the inside, then packed with strawberry ice cream, which TJ's says is crafted with plenty of strawberry purée.

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7. Caesar Salad Dip

Trader Joe's shoppers have said this new Caesar Salad Dip ($3.69) makes a perfect girl dinner addition– which, if you get it, you get it! The tub starts with a "creamy" base that's then loaded up with Caesar-seasoned sour cream, mayo, anchovy paste, Parmesan, and finely shredded Romaine for the crunch. It's best enjoyed with crackers or veggie sticks to dip, but you could also smatter fried chicken or seared steak in it for some ahh-mazing flavor!

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