Arianna Huffington Wants Everyone to Put Their Phones Away — Here’s How to Do It

We love technology (read: our phones) — we really, truly do. From helping us with our side hustles to bridging distances in our relationships, technology enhances our lives in incredibly valuable ways. But that doesn’t mean we don’t need to escape the very real social media stresses sometimes. There’s a fine line between constructive and destructive when it comes to how we use tech, and we’re constantly deciding where to realistically and healthily draw that line. Thankfully, it looks like we’re in good company. Arianna Huffington, Thrive Global Founder and CEO (she also founded the digital news site Huffington Post, maybe you’ve heard of it?), just launched the THRIVE app in partnership with Samsung in an effort to combat our increasing technology burnout.

The THRIVE app gives you “the tools to set boundaries with technology so you can connect more deeply with yourself and others… it allows users to improve, not limit, their relationship with technology through the activation of several modes that tailor how you take a break and monitor your mobile use.” You can block apps, notifications, texts, and calls, set an auto-reply letting others know you’re taking time away from your phone, set goals for how much you use specific apps, and set time boundaries for apps, all customizable and flexible to fit your personal tech goals.

We chatted with Huffington to find out her favorite features of the app, where she sees our relationship with technology heading, and her personal journey with getting to a healthier place with technology.

Brit + Co: What spurred you to create the THRIVE app? Why do you think it’s important we set tech boundaries for ourselves now?

Arianna Huffington: There’s been a mountain of science in recent years about the ever-widening array of negative consequences from our addiction to our phones. I’m most concerned about the connections between heavy phone use and depression, anxiety, and a heightened risk of suicide, especially among young people.

There’s also the opportunity cost of all this time spent on our phones — that’s time we’re not connecting with other people, with our children, or just with ourselves, or able to do focused and uninterrupted work. As Thích Nhất Hạnh, the renowned Vietnamese Buddhist monk, put it, “It has never been easier to run away from ourselves.” In one recent study, nearly 40 percent reported missing out on experiencing a life moment because they were distracted with their phones. Another study found that when two people are talking, the mere presence of a phone — either between them or even in the periphery of their vision — changes the conversation to one that’s lighter and less intimate. And this is when neither of the people even touch the phone.

We’re at an inflection point in our relationship with technology. 2017 was the year we woke up and began to see what the technology we’ve been swimming in has been doing to us. But 2018 must be the year we take back control, setting proper boundaries and ultimately creating a healthier, more mature relationship with technology. It’s only going to get harder the longer we wait, and the technology designed to mine our attention will only get more sophisticated.

B+C: On a personal level, what does technology burnout mean to you? And when you look around, what do you see as the most common side effects of this?

AH: What burnout meant in my own life was several stitches and a broken cheekbone, which happened when I collapsed from burnout and exhaustion in 2007. But there are all kinds of side effects, and, given that we’re in a global epidemic of burnout, most of them are incredibly common: feeling exhausted all the time, stressed, like there’s never enough time in the day, like you don’t have enough time to spend with people that are important to you, like you don’t have time to unplug and recharge. People feel like they’re in perpetual fight-or-flight mode, or just getting through each day. That’s just surviving, not thriving.

B+C: So how does Thrive help eliminate these dangers? What do you hope Thrive can offer people who are looking to positively change their relationship to tech?

AH: Thrive helps you take control of your technology — and your life — by giving you tools that make it easy to take a break from your phone. We believe that being able to control your time more effectively will allow you to connect more deeply with yourself, your family and friends, and the world around you.

B+C: What are your favorite features of the app? Are there certain features you get a lot of use out of?

AH: I love all the features, but to me, the bi-directionality of Thrive Mode is particularly important. It allows you to go into Thrive Mode and know that anyone who tries to reach you is notified when you’ll be available again. And, of course, everybody you choose to be on your VIP list always gets through. This allows you to more fully unplug, without the anxiety that you’re missing something important or creating downstream problems for yourself when you come back online. This is incredibly important for creating new expectations, so we can change the cultural norms that we all have to be always on and respond to text messages within five minutes.

I also love the App Control dashboard, which allows you to set goals for how much time you want to spend using certain apps — it’s a lot easier to do this in a considered way before you’re two hours deep in an Instagram hole — and it gives you a detailed analysis of how you’re spending your phone time. When you see how you’re using your time, it can be shocking — and it’s easier to then set goals to use it in a healthier way.

B+C: You’re obviously a fan of technology — Thrive isn’t meant to cut a person off from technology completely or act as a way to show the evils of tech — so how do you find balance in your own life when it comes to your relationship with your phone and technology?

AH: I’m definitely not anti-technology. And you certainly don’t have to be to acknowledge that our relationship with technology is unhealthy. At this point, most of the leaders of the major tech companies have even joined the conversation. And in my own life, I have the same challenges as everybody. One thing I’m deliberate about is making sure I don’t begin and end my day with my phone. At night, I charge my phone outside of my bedroom. Our phones are repositories of everything we need to put away to allow us to sleep — our to-do lists, our inboxes, our anxieties. And in the morning, instead of reaching for my phone right when I wake up, I take a minute to breathe deeply, be grateful, and set my intention for the day.

B+C: Why do you think it’s so hard for us to put our phones away? Basically — why is the THRIVE app so necessary to achieve a more balanced life?

AH: Setting these boundaries isn’t easy, which is why we created the THRIVE App. Our addiction to our devices is no accident — it’s by design, the work of a lot of behavioral scientists, neuroscientists, and computer scientists on the other side of those icons using incredibly sophisticated technology. So with the THRIVE App, we’re using technology to help rebuild those walls and allow people to take control of their time and the technology in their lives.

B+C: In addition to using the THRIVE app, do you have personal boundaries you set to limit your own tech time?

AH: In addition to not sleeping with your phone in your bedroom and not reaching for it first thing in the morning, you can try things like going to lunch without your phone, doing family dinners with no screens, and having device-free meetings. As you notice the benefits — both to your productivity and your relationships — it becomes easier to add more time into your life to unplug and recharge.

B+C:Do you have any advice for people who would like to not only limit their own phone time but ask their loved ones to do the same? It never feels good when a friend is scrolling Instagram while you’re trying to have a conversation!

AH: Yes, that’s called “phubbing,” snubbing someone with your phone. And that brings up a good point, which is that we really need to change cultural norms, which is a big part of Thrive Global and the THRIVE App in particular. Nobody should feel bad or like a stickler for demanding to be treated respectfully. We need to rebuild those norms, and the only way to do it is to do it collectively.

B+C: Do you have any favorite mindfulness apps (or habits in general) you can share that pair well with the THRIVE app to really enhance how you use tech in a constructive, positive way?

AH: I love Headspace, the meditation app. Though if you’re using it at night, just don’t leave your phone by your bed overnight!

What’s your favorite method of disconnecting? Tweet us @BritandCo and tell us how you make time to put your phone down!

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Jennifer Lawrence announced she's pregnant, and we couldn't be happier for her! Though she and her husband, Cooke Maroney, aren't known for being in the public eye too much, it seems like this is one piece of news they don't mind sharing! Sorry, but we haven't been this excited about baby news since Suki Waterhouse and Robert Pattinson became parents — excuse us while we celebrate!

Here's everything we know about baby number 2 so far.

November 17: Jennifer Lawrence Glows On The Red Carpet Again

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Not only is Jennifer Lawrence glowing during her second pregnancy, but she's also showing how stylish moms can be! According to WWD, she wore a gorgeous brown Bottega Veneta gown to the Governors Award event and looked like a goddess on the red carpet. The dress and its gold hardware complemented her skin beautifully along with her matching clutch!

It seems like maternity style gets better every year and it gives this mama hope that the world sees that life doesn't stop just because we have kiddos in tow!

Has Jennifer Lawrence debuted her baby bump yet?

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YES! Jennifer Lawrence's baby bump was the star of the Zurawski v Texas premiere (via PEOPLE). She wore a structured white dress with a black belt around her waist that accentuated her cute baby bump and appeared to be glowing.

According to Deadline, she's one of the executive producers of Zurawski v Texas, a documentary that sheds light on the "restrictive abortion laws" that put women's lives in danger in Texas. Alongside producers Hilary and Chelsea Clinton, Jennifer's involvement in the documentary as a pregnant woman makes a pivotal statement during a time where mothers' mortalities aren't always considered during their pregnancies.

When did Jennifer Lawrence announce her second pregnancy?

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Leave it to Vogue to get the exclusive scoop about Jennifer being pregnant again! According to the publication, an official "representative for the actor confirmed" the news yesterday, October 20. So exciting!

When is Jennifer Lawrence's second baby due?

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Jennifer Lawrence hasn't announced her due date yet, so we can't be quite sure! However, if she's out of her first trimester, Jennifer could have her baby around April 2025!

What have Jennifer Lawrence and Cooke Maroney said about their family?

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It seems Jennifer Lawrence and Cooke Maroney were open to the idea of having another baby as recently as this summer! An unknown source told Entertainment Tonight, "Jennifer and Cooke are doing very well and are super in love. They make each other laugh and have the best time parenting together. They would love to have another kid and expand their family."

When was Jennifer Lawrence's first baby born?

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Jennifer and Cooke's firstborn son, Cy, was born February 2022, which means he's almost three years old!

The actress later explored her feeling about becoming a mom in another Vogueinterview. "It’s so scary to talk about motherhood. Only because it’s so different for everybody. If I say, It was amazing from the start, some people will think, 'It wasn’t amazing for me at first,' and feel bad. Fortunately I have so many girlfriends who were honest. Who were like, It’s scary," she said.

What has Jennifer Lawrence said about being a mom?

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It seems like Jennifer found her stride because she's apparently embraced being a mom. She hasn't said anything recently, but she did speak with Entertainment Tonight last year during the promotion of No Hard Feelings about her parenting habits. "Of course, the urge to stop anything from ever hurting or negatively affecting your baby..." she said.

However, co-star Andrew Barth Feldman had nothing but positive words to share about Jennifer as a mom. "Jen is an amazing mother, for real. That was kind of one of the incredible things about doing this with you is seeing just how much of a priority being a mother is for you and how deeply you care about that over everything," he said.

We can't wait to see how Jennifer's second pregnancy develops and hope she's willing to give us a little sneak peek of how she's prepping to have two young kids!

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For your friend who just can’t resist making a charcuterie board for every occasion to your cooking-crazy uncle, we’ve got the coolest edible gifts for 2024 right here. Gift something deliciously unforgettable – from decadent chocolate truffles to zesty spice mixes, these edible gifts bring joy to every bite. Edible gifts are also perfect for those who host you during the holidays and even coworkers! Get ready to spread some cheer with these edible gifts.

The 24 best edible gifts of 2024:

Below, find our top favorite edible gifts for everyone on your list!

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Graza Olive Oil Variety Pack

Any foodie will instantly recognize Graza's iconic squeezable olive oil bottles. This variety pack includes both their "Drizzle" and "Sizzle" oils that work wonderfully for a wide range of recipes.

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Coop's Original Hot Fudge

This hot fudge is crafted from super wholesome ingredients: pure chocolate, fresh cream, organic sugar cane, natural cocoa powder, and a touch of sea salt all come together for a heavenly (and very chocolatey) experience. Glob it on top of some ice cream to achieve pure dessert-y bliss.

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Tate's Bake Shop Chocolate Chip Cookies

These cookies may be light and crispy, but they're decadent as ever. Snag this 4-pack of bags (with 14 cookies each) to totally nail any sweet tooth's gift this year!

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Flamingo Estate Spicy Extra Virgin Olive Oil

This luxurious olive oil is infused with Guajillo chiles that bring an undeniable kick to whatever you cook with it.

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Hickory Farms Farmhouse Sausage & Cheese Food Gift Basket

Because who doesn't love snacking on meat and cheese? This loaded gift basket will keep them munching and satisfied during the in-between moments around the holidays.

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Compartés Boozy Chocolate Gift Box

This gift box's boozy chocolate flavors range from espresso martini to strawberry champagne. Gift them the entire box or split it up amongst friends for a fun (and alcoholic) stocking stuffer moment!

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Fly By Jing Sichuan Starter Gift Set

This gift set from Fly By Jing includes four different chili crisps and sauces so your giftee can instantly spice up their dishes. We love using the OG Sichuan Chili Crisp on eggs, noodles, chicken, and more.

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Kola Goodies Lilly's Maple Chai Box

This adorable book-shaped gift box is packed with a delicious maple chai drink mix for the perfect cozy beverage, which is simply a necessity around the holidays (and wintertime as a whole).

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Fishwife The Starter Pack

Fishwife's variety of tinned fish can be used across a wide range of different dishes like sandwiches, wraps, salads, pastas, and more. Gift them this set of 7 tins so they can test out different recipes and find their absolute fave!

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Custom Message Shortbread Cookies

Let these sweet treats deliver your holiday wishes for you! You're able to customize the text on each piece of shortbread to bring even more cheer.

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For those of us who have dry skin, the time is here for us to triple our moisturizing efforts unless we want to deal with inevitable patches or itchiness. I've already noticed my combination skin is embracing its flaky and textured era, so I've been slowly stocking up on my favorite thick moisturizers to help calm things down.

Since I'm a busy mom, I've been relying on Amazon Prime delivery to get them shipped straight to my front door. Right now I only have three facial moisturizers I swear by, but I'm also sharing two body products that keep my eczema-prone extremities hydrated.

Keep reading for the luxuriously thick moisturizers you need to add to cart ASAP.

My Favorite Face Moisturizers For Dry Skin

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Kiehl's Ultra Facial Cream

I've been using Kiehl's Ultra Facial Cream for the past 3 years and it's been a miracle for my confused skin. IMO, it's not greasy despite having a richer texture than I'm used to. It actually feels soothing to me and I think that has everything to do with the 4.5 percent Squalene and Glacial Glycoprotein that's in it.

I typically use a hyaluronic acid serum in addition to this, but this facial cream is my go-to moisturizer.

Why Other Customers Love It

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Other customers have a lot to say about this thick moisturizer, but the standout Amazon reviews are:

  • "By profession I'm a cosmetologist so have decades of experience not only with hair products, but also with those concerning skin care. I've tried almost every item on the market and this is my favorite. It isn't heavy, yet provides plenty of moisturization. My face feels so soft! I'm a senior citizen and my skin tends to be dry, but just a little of this smoothes and hydrates it. You don't even need a primer. Makeup glides on."
  • "This is the only moisturizer that doesn’t break out my extremely sensitive skin. I have rosacea and other products burn my skin and make my face even more red. I’ve been using this and it’s the only thing I can use."
  • "This moisturizer feels great on the skin! I have mixed oily and dry skin and it has done so well. I recently switched from Tula to this brand and I have not regretted it. It does not cause breakouts and I feel like my face is hydrated the whole day. i would definitely recommend."
  • "Nice product that gives some sun protection. A little thicker consistency than regular moisturizer but the convenience of not using sunscreen for daily errands. My DIL gave me this once for a birthday & I have been using ever since."

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La Roche-Posay Triple Repair Moisturizing Cream

Okay, this moisturizer is a little pricier than the others I've mentioned, but it's La Roche-Posay! If you're looking at me with a blank stare, I'll do my best to explain. This is hands-down one of the best skincare brands I've come across in my 30s because a handful of their products have a seal of approval from the National Eczema Association.

It has shea butter and niacinamide in it, which are double threats against icky environmental elements that cling to dry skin. Plus, you can use it on your face, body and hands!

Why Other Customers Love It

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Here are some of the best reviews on Amazon about this luxurious moisturizer:

  • "This lotion has literally no fragrance. It leaves my skin feeling soft with a subtle glow without being greasy. It is also extremely hydrating. I have very sensitive skin, and the fact that babies can use it too is what made me decide to try it."
  • "The first application was wild. It’s thick and feels pretty slippery on the surface. But the next morning, I didn’t want to stop touching my face. The flakes became way more manageable and allowed me to continue the retinitis treatment. I’ve been using this for a few weeks, and my skin texture has improved tremendously. It is great that you can use it on your body as well. I lather it on at night and then put a very light layer on under my sunscreen in the morning. It doesn’t make me look greasy if I let it soak in before applying makeup."
  • "It instantly alleviated my dryness, leaving my skin radiant, glowy, and remarkably hydrated. As we transition into the winter months, I’m confident this cream will be a lifesaver against the harsh, windy weather we often experience in the Midwest."
  • "As someone with sensitive and acne-prone skin, this has been a game changer. I can't imagine going without this product since starting tretinoin and tazarotene. I use it as a final step in my routine to seal in moisture and any active ingredients. La Roche-Posay has consistently made sensitive-skin-friendly products. I'm not sure how you may react to the high shea butter content, but my skin doesn't seem to have any issues with it. The thickness is unlike any lotion I've tried. 10/10 would recommend."

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Olay Complete+ Rich Moisturizing Cream

Having sensitive skin isn't a death sentence for your face. It just means your skin is picky and only wants the best products to touch it, so technically it's like having a superpower. If you're still not convinced, let Olay's Complete+ Rich Moisturizing Cream persuade you.

It has vitamin B3, vitamin E, and ceramides in it that work together to provide all day hydration. Also, these powerhouse ingredients work together to promote healthy cell turnover so your gorgeous moisture barrier is in tip-top shape. P.S. It's recommended by the Skin Health Alliance.

Why Other Customers Love This Facial Moisturizer

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Check out what these Amazon customers had to say:

  • "I have extremely sensitive skin and this doesn't irritate my skin. I've tried and given up using many products (I'm 71). This cream makes my skin (face and neck) soft and hydrated. I use it several hours before bed and again in the morning. I alternate using it with another face skin care product."
  • "I find this to be every bit as moisturizing, creamy, and long-lasting as any of the more expensive face creams that are all the rage these days. I have tried many of the face serums, creams, and lotions and do not think any of them work any better than this Olay Face Cream."
  • "My mom used Olay products and her skin was immaculate! I started using it in my 30s and switched to other more popular, more expensive brands. I should have never stopped using it. I love this new moisturizer too! It feels amazing and makes my face look so smooth! I'm back Olay!"
  • "Tried this because my husband’s dermatologist has the most beautiful skin. I asked the dr what he used and this was it. After using so many different moisturizers for years I always had red rough skin. Now after all these years the redness is gone!! Its definitely worth giving it a try."

My #1 Favorite Body Moisturizer For Dry Skin 

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Palmer's Shea Formula Body Lotion

Since it's a little colder, I need something that's going to keep my skin moisturized without triggering eczema flareups. One of the top moisturizers that gets the job done is Palmer's Shea Formula Body Lotion.

I personally opt to get the value size of this because it lasts a little over a month for me. Why? Well, a little goes a long way because this dermatologist-approved formula is thick. But once I rub it into my skin, it provides the silkiest shine I've ever seen. Besides shea butter, it has Marula, oatmeal, grapeseed oil, and vitamin E in it to provide the radiance I love so much.

It's usually $16 on Amazon, but it's currently on sale for $13!

Why Other Customers Love It

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According to Amazon, over 5,000 customers have purchased Palmer's Shea Formula body lotion this month. Also, it has a 4.6 rating which means I'm not the only one who loves using it. Here's my favorite 5-star reviews:

  • "As someone who battles dry skin year-round, finding a reliable moisturizer has always been a challenge—until I discovered Palmer's Shea Formula Raw Shea Body Lotion. This lotion has been a game-changer for me, and I'm thrilled to share my experience."
  • "The smell of this is amazing, makes my skin silky and smooth. great everyday lotion & the smell is subtle enough that it doesn’t overwhelm when I put my perfume on. My skin is plenty hydrated using this and I don’t notice any stickiness once it dries down."
  • "So we are on our 4th bottle now. Loving the product? Yassss!"
  • "We live in far Southern Az, where it is extremely dry (except during the monsoon). So we have had to start using skin lotions to make our skin feel better. This stuff is really great! And it lasts quite awhile."

Another Body Moisturizer I Love Using For Dry Skin

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Aveeno Skin Relief Moisturizing Lotion

If I feel like switching things up, I'll buy Aveeno's Skin Relief Moisturizing Lotion. It has a triple oat (oat flour, extract, and oil) and shea formula that work wonders for anyone who knows how it feels to have dry skin you suddenly have to scratch all the time. It's basically tough on things that cause dry skin, but gentle on the sensitivity of it!

Why Other Customers Love It

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This lotion actually has a slightly higher rating than Palmer's and has been purchased over 6,000 times this month. The only reason it's not my first go-to is because I have fond childhood memories of Palmer's. Aside from that, Aveeno is pretty d—n amazing!

Customers are saying:

  • "My derm recommended it, my skin is now so soft, not dry anymore as long as I keep applying daily."
  • "Love this lotion. I am super sensitive with lifelong relatively dry skin, and also super picky about my lotion quality and what I need."
  • "I've tried high end lotions and they have nothing on this stuff! This lotion is incredibly soothing, providing instant relief and long-lasting hydration that keeps my skin feeling soft and smooth all day. The formula is gentle, fragrance-free, and absorbs quickly without leaving any greasy residue, making it perfect for daily use. I’ve noticed a significant improvement in my skin’s texture and overall comfort since I started using it."
  • "I’ve tried so many - This is the Only lotion that keeps the moisture in my skin. I put it on in the morning and my skin is still soft and dewy at night and even the next morning."

Need recommendations for the best face wash to use? We have 10 geared towards each skin type!

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If you're finding it hard to make friends as an adult, or maintain friendships from different life stages, you're definitely not alone. According to Dr. Deborah Gilboa, MD, Scientific Advisor for Azar, and a recent study from Azar and Talker, it's not abnormal to feel heightened levels of loneliness. In fact, that study suggests Gen Z feels lonely every day.

"Loneliness feels isolating because it goes beyond just lacking company; it’s a lack of meaningful connection," she says over email. "Social contact without meaning can worsen loneliness as it increases the individual’s perception of isolation and lack of belonging. The antidote is true social connection."

But how can we find that real social connection and community? I talked to Dr. Gilboa, JustAnswer Mental Health Expert Jennifer Kelman, and NYC Psychologist Dr. Alexandra Stratyner PhD, for some insight into behaviors that attract friends. Here are some behaviors that will simply make you irresistible — and will help you identify good friends in others!

Keep reading for some advice on how to attract friends — and easy ways to be a better friend to the people you love.

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There's no shame in realizing you're feeling lonely, but it's also important to identify when that loneliness morphs into isolation. "Even though many might be experiencing the same feelings, that doesn't mean they are reaching out for support," Kelman says. "Many are not feeling enough strength to reach out to others or feel like they are being a burden so they reason alone with their feelings."

"It's also become more evident as our reliance on digital communication has grown, sometimes leaving us more connected online but feeling less understood and less connected in more meaningful, in-person ways," Dr. Stratyner adds. And then there's the social expectation of it all. "Many people tend to hide their loneliness because they feel shame or embarrassment about it. This can make it even harder to open up and connect with others who might be feeling the same way. The more we keep these feelings to ourselves, the more it reinforces the isolation, even though we all experience it in varying forms."

"It is hard to see light when things feel dark, and many go inward to deal with their feelings," Kelman points out. "Many are so burdened by their feelings that they might not feel capable to care for those around them or to show up and be present for others."

And just like Dr. Gilboa says, we're looking for true connection, not just surface-level friendships. But how can we make true social connection? Here's what they suggest.

1. A good friend shows care and empathy for the people around them.

If you care for the people around you, there's a very good chance others will want to be your friend. "People that show empathy toward others are very attractive qualities as it shows that one has the capacity to care for others and be present for them," Kelman says. "Those that are gregarious and selfless can be quite appealing as well. Those that are self-involved tend to repel others rather than attract."

Focusing on others instead of yourself can be easier said than done, but the it's definitely worth it. "People are drawn to those who show genuine care and understanding," Dr. Stratyner agrees.

​2. A good friend is reliable and trustworthy.

Our inner circle is going to be made up of people who know us inside and out, but it's unlikely someone will reach that level of emotional intimacy unless you really trust them. "In friendship people rate reliability, honesty and trustworthiness more highly [than romantic relationships]," Dr. Gilboa says.

​3. People are attracted to humor.

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I'm sure we can all think of someone who never fails to make us laugh. And being the funny friend can mean a lot of things: you know how to poke fun at yourself or you don't take things too seriously (unless they need to be taken seriously, of course). But that doesn't mean making other people the butt of mean jokes.

"A good sense of humor helps foster a positive, lighthearted atmosphere, making interactions feel enjoyable and memorable," Stratyner says. "Plus, everyone loves to laugh."

​4. You need to be a good listener.

No one wants to be talked at and never listened to. After all, we do have two ears and one mouth! But simply nodding your head and zoning out won't cut it. "People appreciate feeling truly heard," Dr. Stratyner says. "This demonstrates respect, interest, and a willingness to connect on a deeper level."

"Be a great listener without asserting your own views or agenda," Kelman adds. "Be available, vulnerable and present. Ask those around you how they are and truly listen to how they feel. Be open and direct and most of all, be a constant. Nothing better than knowing that you will be there for all things."

So engage with what your friends are saying and, even better, remember it later!

5. A good friend is generous.

Is there a better time to talk about generosity than Thanksgiving? Be generous with your time, resources, and your heart — but don't worry, that doesn't mean you have to let someone else steam roll you. After all, a good friend also won't take advantage of you!

"Giving to others and the community are wonderful traits and habits that are very attractive to others and may draw people in," Kelman says. "People want to be around people that give and are easy-going in their interactions with individuals and the world around them."

​6. New friends are attracted to positivity.

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When things feel dark, new friends will be attracted to someone who can make the world feel a little lighter. "People are often attracted to those who can find the silver lining, stay hopeful, and spread good vibes, especially in challenging situations," Dr. Stratyner says.

That's not to say you can never have bad days or process things like disappointment and grief. It just means you aren't ruled by them. (Listen, as an Enneagram 4, I'm talking to myself!)

Ok, you might be thinking, this is great but what do I do with this information? Here are some easy, actionable steps to take if you want to make new friends.

1. Understand why you're feeling lonely will help you address the real problem.

"First is to get an understanding of the loneliness and where it is coming from...finding community too soon may cause an increase in loneliness even while being surrounded by others," Kelman recommends.

You can't reach a solution if you don't know what the real problem is. I realized since I work from home, I need to do better about leaving the apartment, and my favorite way to spend an afternoon is coworking with a friend at a coffee shop.

​2. Finding new hobbies will connect you with similar people.

I met some of my best friends through a big movie group, which means when I have a meme or a piece of news to fangirl over, I know exactly who to contact. "Find activities that ignite you, find like minded individuals with whom to connect," Kelman adds. "Join a book club, pick up a new sport or hobby, but again, trying to immerse yourself too soon may not have any impact on the lonely feelings."

"The antidote to loneliness is social connection — true connection that paves the way for belonging," Dr. Gilboah says. "Talking to people to learn what interests and values are shared will open the door for the types of relationships that become community."

​3. Don't be afraid to put yourself out there.

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Listen. If you only ever order takeout and watch Netflix, you'll simply never make new connections. You gotta get after it! "Look for community events, clubs, or hobby groups that align with your interests, whether book clubs, sports leagues, or volunteering opportunities," Dr. Stratyner says. "Being around people with shared passions makes it easier to start conversations and find common ground."

​4. And don't be afraid to reach out first.

For some reason, we've decided that reaching out first (or double texting) means we're needy and insufferable. This is simply not the case because who doesn't want to know they were thought of!! Plus, there's a good chance that if you're overthinking every little detail, other people are too.

"Reach out, even in small ways, to those around us who may be feeling the same," says Dr. Gilboah. "Loneliness often leads to rumination - the act of dwelling on or spiraling downward through negative thoughts. Ruminating can cause further isolation and distracts us from the people and stimuli around us."

​5. Be present when you're finally with people.

When you do make special connections, it's super important to make sure you're offering your full attention. "Showing up emotionally and physically makes them feel valued and heard, strengthening your bond," Dr. Stratyner says. She also recommends checking in to remind them you're there, and genuinely celebrating their wins (which, separately, is definitely a sign of being a girls' girl). "If a friend is going through a tough time, offer to help in any way you can," she adds. "Sometimes, simply acknowledging their struggle and offering your time can make all the difference."

"The best news about friendship is that Gen Z values authenticity above just about any other factor in friendship," Dr. Gilboah says. "Gathering the courage to be your true self and [mixing] that with empathetic listening will make you a sought after friend."

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I've officially entered my flannel pajamas era because these 30+ year-old bones get cold. If it's below 63 degrees at home, my teeth start chattering...much to minor annoyance of my very warm-blooded fiancé. Usually I snuggle next to him like he's a bear when I'm that cold, but I can't have my way all the time. So, cute and cozy pajamas it is!

As luck would have it, I have the deets on the best winter options that may find their way to your front door. Let's go down the list, shall we?

The Best Winter Flannel Pajamas To Buy ASAP

  1. The Best Plaid Flannel Pajamas: Wondershop Plaid PJs
  2. The Best Christmas Flannel Pajamas: Koality Holiday PJs
  3. The Best Flannel Shirtdress: Flannel Nightgown
  4. The Best Kids Flannel Pajamas: Pretty Pink PJs

L.L. Bean

L.L. Bean Scotch Plaid Flannel Pajamas

Plaid and the holidays are the first thing that comes to mind when I think about flannel pajamas. This top and pants set set is super soft because of its Portuguese cotton fabric. It''ll almost feel like you're enveloping yourself in a cozy blanket sans any potential mishaps when you need to use the restroom.

Hanna Andersson

Hanna Andersson Holiday Flannel Nightshirt

I love ditching pants when it gets too warm under my weighted blanket, but I think it'll be 10x easier to button up a flannel nightshirt. This lightweight beauty is still going to give you the cozy feel without restricting your legs AND you'll be able to iron it on cool (opposite side only).

Old Navy

Old Navy Flannel Pajama Shirt Dress

Again with the flannel shirt dress option? Um, yes. This option is for anyone who loves an orange and purple moment instead of green. Also, the hemline is just a tad longer than the prior one so you won't be as likely to flash anyone when you're putting the finishing touches on your Christmas tree's skirt.

Target

Wondershop Plaid Flannel Pajamas

I just had to include a pair of red and white flannel pajamas because they scream "Christmas" without any of the obvious decor designs. I love that they're a part of a matching family set so you can schedule a pajama-themed sleepover on Christmas Eve.

The best flannel pajamas for the person who's already started decorating for Christmas

P.J. Salvage

P.J. Salvage Koality Holiday Flannel PJ Set

Have you ever seen a bunch of koalas get ready for Christmas? Not to worry because this flannel pajamas set is ready to change that for you. They're literally all over the top and tie-waist bottoms in all their festive glory. There's a koala climbing a decorated Christmas tree and a mom plus her baby hanging out in a cute wreath! What's not to love?

Bed Head

Bed Head PJs Hit The Slopes Portuguese Flannel Pajamas

Keep it traditional and celebrate the evergreen vibes of the holidays. These pajamas are especially for those who usually hit the slopes but can't this year. You'll feel like you're close to the holiday activity you love the most without completely having any FOMO feelings.

Pajamagram

Pajamagram Apres Ski Flannel Pajamas

If you do plan to go skiing this year outside of The Sims 4 Seasons Expansion Pack — yes, I know you're still binging that game — here's a cute pair of flannel pajamas you have to wear at least once. Just look at the cute gondola lifts!

The best flannel pajamas if you're a cat mom who loves Christmas

PrintFresh

PrintFresh Flannel Nightgown

I have a special appreciation for the cat distribution system and the lucky moms who find their feline matches because I know how personalized it is. If you and your fur baby are locked in, you absolutely deserve to walk around your space in this jolly big cat nightgown.

The best flannel pajamas for the "I'm just a girl" crowd

P.J. Salvage

P.J. Salvage Ribbons & Bows Flannel PJ Set

If you've memorized No Doubt's "Just a Girl," and love belting it during karaoke night, you'll appreciate this cute ribbons & bows PJ set. The labels are and bows are outlined in red to offset the Pepto-Bismol pink base.

The best flannel pajamas for leopard print lovers

Victoria's Secret

Victoria's Secret Flannel Long Pajama Set

You don't have to wear leopard print in public if you won't want to, but don't be shy about wearing this set at home. You'll feel sultry with your glass of wine, charcuterie board, and remote in your hand.

Aerie

Aerie Off-Duty Flannel Trouser PJ Pants

You could also skip the matching moment and wear your favorite oversized t-shirt with these flannel pants. They're equally cozy and won't feel overpowering if you don't like that much pattern.

The best flannel pajamas to wear if pants make you feel itchy at night

Macy's

Adore Me Plus Size PJ Set

If you're not a fan of pants or nightgowns, these plus size pajamas will get you right! The shorts have an elastic waist so you'll have plenty of breathing room. Also, the entire set is made of cotton and satin which sounds like a great time if you ask me.

The best flannel pajamas if you crave the simple things in life

J.Crew

J.Crew Flannel Pajamas

It's not fair for my minimalist girls to not have a pair of flannel pajamas to choose from so this is for you. They're 100% cotton, have an elastic waist, and are machine-washable! Did I mention they're also loose-fitting if you're uninterested in your pajamas hugging your body? Oh yeah, these are for you.

The best flannel pajamas for kids

GAP Factory

babyGAP 100% Recycled Flannel Pajamas

Call it my mom instincts, but I can't forget kids! These cute plaid flannel pajamas are a great option for them to wear on Christmas Eve and the morning they get to open their presents. They're made of a soft jersey knit that'll keep up with a kid's moves, including bounding down the stairs or doing somersaults off the couch because they're excited for the holidays.

Petite Plume

Petite Plume Kid's Flannel Pajama Set

There's at least one princess in the family and it may be your little sister, niece, or daughter. No matter who she is, she'll appreciate these pretty pink flannel pajamas. They're free of harsh chemicals and are flame-resistant in case little one likes to sit close to the fireplace.

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