Why Seeing the Bride Before the Wedding Is Bad Luck + Other Wedding Superstitions

There’s nothing like a wedding to bring out love superstitions and old wives’ tales. No doubt you’ve heard at least a few of these over the years, or maybe they’re just pouring in now since you got engaged. With so many wedding traditions and superstitions, even the most laid-back bride can start to feel stifled — especially if she hates the color blue. We’ve researched the origins of some of the most common wedding superstitions to get to the bottom of it all. Read on and decide for yourself whether you want to tempt the evil spirits (apparently they’re all over weddings!) or try to catch a little extra luck. Either way, now you’ll be able to counter anyone who insists you have to wear a veil or do the bouquet toss.

1. Something Old, New, Borrowed and Blue: This one comes from an Olde English rhyme, which originally ended with “and a sixpenny in your shoe.” Something old symbolizes the bride’s past and her family, which she carries with her into the marriage. Something new symbolizes the future: the new life the bride and groom will create together. Something borrowed symbolizes borrowed happiness; on her wedding day, the bride is supposed to wear something borrowed from a happily married friend or relative, in hopes of also having a happy marriage. Something blue comes from ancient Israeli brides who wore blue ribbons in their hair on their wedding days to show their love and fidelity to their new husbands. The sixpence in the shoe is supposed to bring a lifetime of luck to the bride.

2. Wearing a Veil:There are two origin stories for the veil, and wildly different in their purposes: The first dates back to ancient Rome and the fear that a bride who didn’t wear a veil would be plagued by evil spirits who were jealous of her happiness. So the veil was a disguise to keep them away from her. The other origin story is much less dramatic and ties in to the superstition about the groom seeing the bride before the wedding.

3. Married in Black, You’ll Wish Yourself Back:Non-white wedding dresses are hot on the runways this year, but they go completely against the old superstitious rhyme, which goes “Married in white, you have chosen all right. Married in green, ashamed to be seen. Married in red, you will wish yourself dead. Married in blue, you will always be true. Married in yellow, ashamed of your fellow. Married in Black, you will wish yourself black. Married in pink, of you he will think.” Sheesh, talk about rules! These stem from Victorian era ideas about courtship and femininity, which were highly regimented and, yes, every color had a meaning. Queen Victoria popularized the white wedding dress, and thanks to her and the Victorians’ ideas about color, it’s still the most common wedding dress color today.

4. Seeing Each Other Before the Wedding:This one is has to do with the fact that ancient marriages were arranged by the families of the bride and groom, usually without any say at all from the couple. In fact, the couple didn’t even meet until the wedding! The groom wasn’t supposed to see the bride until the last possible second — just in case he didn’t like what he saw. By the time the veil (the second reason for the veil) was lifted, it was too late for him to cut and run.

5. Jumping the Broom: A common tradition in African-American weddings, couples literally jump over a broom at the end of their marriage ceremony. This has roots in slavery, when slaves couldn’t legally marry each other, so jumping over the broom signified to the community that a couple was spiritually married, if not legally. But according to some traditions, jumping over the broom was also useful in making sure neither the bride nor groom was possessed by, you guessed it, an evil spirit! The spirit wouldn’t be able to jump over the broom — they would have to count all the bristles. So if a bride and groom could jump the broom, all was well.

6. Knives as Wedding Gifts: Knives are supposed to be bad luck, as they symbolize a broken or severed relationship — talk about a loaded gift. You may want to hold off on putting knives on your registry. Or, if you really want that fantastic set to add to your kitchen or someone gifts them to you out of the blue, pay the giver one penny for the knives. That way, it’s technically not a gift, since you paid for it.

7. Matching Bridesmaid Dresses: Consider yourself lucky that today, the bridesmaids only match each other. Back in the really old days, they matched the bride. This was to confuse anyone — those pesky evil spirits again, old lovers or disapproving family members — who may object to the marriage and try to waylay the bride. It was harder to target her when everyone around looked just like her. The same applied to the groom, which is why the groom and his groomsmen wear matching outfits too.

8. Rain on the Wedding Day Is Good Luck: Rain signifies cleansing and new life, which is why it’s considered lucky to have rain on your wedding day. Ancient marriages were all about carrying on the family line, so anything that would give the couple luck in starting a family was highly prioritized. This might also explain why the traditional “wedding season” takes place in the spring and summer — times of the year in which the world was in full bloom (and hopefully, the bride would soon be too). (Photo via Getty)

9. Throwing Rice, for Fertility: Yet another symbol of fertility! Grain was traditionally thrown over newlyweds as a symbol of the seeds of their future, which would hopefully sprout and “bear fruit.” Today you can throw anything from rice to sprinkles, but this has remained a popular wedding ritual for many cultures. It’s not so much what is thrown as the act of throwing that counts — so whether your friends and fam throw flower petals or glitter, they’re wishing you a joyful and bountiful future.

10. Crying on the Wedding Day: Invest in that waterproof mascara and let the tears flow, because tears on your wedding day are supposed to mean that you won’t have any to shed during the marriage. Ok, so any married person can tell you that deal is probably too good to be true. But many brides regard wedding day tears as a sign that all tears in the future will be happy ones — get yourself a cute handkerchief and lean in to those last single tears.

11. Carrying the Bride Over the Threshold: Carrying the bride over the threshold of her new home was yet another way of trying to keep her safe from evil spirits, which would lurk in thresholds. Women were also thought to be particularly vulnerable to being possessed through the soles of their feet. Also, no one wanted the bride to trip on her way into the house, as that also signified bad luck. Thus the solution was for the groom to carry his bride.

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Major spoilers for the last two episodes of Only Murders in the Building season 4!!

Only Murders in the Building season 4 has finally unmasked its killer...and it's the one character I never suspected. After last week's reveal that Marshall was Sazz's stunt protégé, stole her script for theOnly Murders movie, and is behind her death as well as Glen's, the Only Murders in the Building season 4 finale opens with Marshall holding Mabel captive — and somehow it only gets crazier from there.

  • In the Only Murders season 4 finale, Charles and Oliver have to rescue Mabel from Marshall.
  • Marshall was Sazz's stunt protégé, then stole Sazz's script and passed it off as his own.
  • The Only Murders in the Building season 4 ending kills off a beloved character.

The 'Only Murders in the Building' Season 4 Ending, Explained

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After learning Marshall is the killer they've been looking for, Charles is determined to save Mabel, especially since he didn't get to save Sazz. Realizing Marshall has scaled the apartment building in the past, Charles and Oliver wind up on the building's ledge so they can get to her window. And just like the rest of the season, Martin Short absolutely steals the show. One of my favorite lines is, "Charles, you're my ride or die. And my strong preference is to ride." Icon!!

Our favorite comedy duo jumps into Mabel's apartment and starts to fend Marshall off with Eva Longoria's Lady Longoria-19 in 1 Multi-Tool, but it doesn't take long for him to gain the upper hand. Right when he's about to kill the trio, they're saved by Jan of all people, who shoots him in the back from the empty apartment across the courtyard...then reveals she's been hiding in Charles' apartment since we last saw her. (Feel free to take a deep breath to help process that information. I did.)

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With the threat taken care of, Mabel, Oliver, and Charles return to the Only Murders in the Building movie set — which Mabel says now has "mercifully low" cringe levels. Seeing Eugene Levy, Eva Longoria, and Zach Galifianakis in their element, and our podcast trio getting to honor Sazz's memory is such a well-earned moment for the season. We also get to see the first page of Sazz's script (which features her monologue from the beginning of the episode), on which she says, "When you take your hero on a journey, get him in all kinds of trouble, but land him home safely? Nothing better than that." It looks like our leads have finally landed safely!

The Only Murders in the Building ending features Oliver and Loretta finally getting married before she leaves to film in New Zealand, and Charles and Mabel joining Oliver at the altar. Loretta's walked down the aisle by her son Dickie and Oliver's son Will, which made me WEEPY. Considering Martin Short as Oliver is one of my favorite casting choices of the 21st Century, I am just so happy to see him happy.

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But, like all the seasons before, the finale takes a turn when Sofia Caccimelio tries to hire the trio to find her husband Nicky, a Caputo crime family member who episode 9 tells us is missing. They deny her request, but considering actress Téa Leoni just joined season 5, it looks like she won't be taking no for an answer.

And in the final moments of the Only Murders in the Building season 4 ending, Mabel, Charles, and Oliver finds Lester dead in the fountain! Lester is such a kind and comforting presence in every episode, I can't believe it! (How could you Hulu, HOW COULD YOU?!).

Who's the killer in season 4 of Only Murders in the Building?

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The Only Murders in the Building season 4 killer is Marshall P. Pope (whose real name is Rex Bailey), supposed screenwriter on the Only Murders movie. He reveals that his dreams of being a writer were always being squashed, and that Sazz was the first person who was ever kind to him.

But when Sazz shows him the only copy of her Only Murders movie, and he realizes just how good it is, he decides to take things into his own hands. He sends the script to Bev Melon at Paramount, and it ends up getting greenlit immediately (which explains why Charles, Oliver, and Mabel are contacted about the movie so abruptly).

When Sazz finds out, she confronts him and says she's going to tell Charles about the stolen script after his Broadway debut. Desperate and suffering a bit of a meltdown, Rex flies to New York and kills her, then puts her body in the incinerator.

Where can I watch Only Murders in the Building?

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All episodes of Only Murders in the Building season 4 are available to stream on Hulu!

Here's everything you need to know about Only Murders In The Building season 5!

We love Halloween here at Brit + Co, I mean really love it. And we also embrace the celebrations in all of their forms, from IRL blow-out bashes to WFH office parties. If you've got a virtual Halloween party to attend on Zoom with your remote team or friends across the country, here's how to get dolled up for the best costuming and celebrating from a Zoom-y distance. Keep reading for fun ways to dress up with wigs, makeup, and festive tops without having to worry about what you've got on the bottom — basically, the costume version of a mullet. Happy Halloween!

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Pirate

Ahoy, matey! Just grab a red scarf, eyepatch, striped shirt and a fishtail side braid for this classic and super easy costume.

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Flamingo

This makeup is on point. Here's how to DIY this feathery look.

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Unicorn

Fulfill your magical dreams with this DIY unicorn costume.

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Cleopatra

Stand out with a costume that's part-Ancient Egyptian, part-badass babe. With some eyeliner and well-chosen accessories, you'll be able to craft up a Queen-of-Egypt-inspired Halloween costume that's sure to blow your Zoom party guests away.

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Rosie the Riveter

White button down and red polka dot headscarf, easy peasy. For the hair, pin up half of your hair and twist it up into a bun. Then take the rest of your hair and create another bun a little lower on your head. Top the look off with the scarf, and you'll be riveting in no time. :)

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Princess Leia

Best buns on the planet! Create this iconic hairdo with this easy hair hack.

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Elsa

Does Frozen still melt your heart? Be everyone's favorite snow queen with this DIY costume.

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Holly Golightly

Top off your top knot with a tiara, then add a LBD, pearls, coffee and sunnies.

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Angry Bird

We've seen this costume before, but this look is too dang cute to pass up. Especially when all you need is a yellow wig and some craft supplies. Draw out the face onto felt and cut it out, then glue the head piece to a headband. Everything else can be taped to the wig.

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Creepy Clown

Whether you're going for a clown or a mime vibe, this kinda creepy, kinda cute look will achieve all of your Halloween dreams.

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Day of the Dead

Dress up as a Dia de los Muertos sugar skull with this easy DIY tutorial.

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Lady Gaga

It's been quite some time since Gaga donned her signature bow, but we'll never get enough of it. Head to our Hair Bow tutorial here for the full how-to.

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Pumpkin

Okay, this may be really, really basic, but it is a Halloween staple. Plus, it's the one time of year you can wear all orange, all the time. Grab an orange wigand go!

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Queen of Hearts

Ace this Queen of Hearts costume with ared wig or red spray dye!

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Frenchie From Grease

Here's an excuse to break out that cute pink wig in your closet. Add a Pink Ladies jacket and bubble gum and you're ready for beauty school!

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Strawberry Shortcake

You can go with the full Strawberry Shortcake costume or just order a pink wig and bonnet— then add freckles and a pink top and you're Zoom ready!

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Pop Art

If you are looking to really up your costume game and stand out on Zoom, go for this pop art makeup look. Pop on some comic leggings (totally WFH-friendly!) and yellow wig too.

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Vampire

Don a black lip and eye makeup, then use that same eye makeup or black face paint to create a faux widow's peak. Spooky!

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Jem

We are as obsessed with our '80s cartoon characters as we are with wig costumes. For bright pink tresses, Jem is an absolute must!

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Cruella de Vil

This fierce villain oozes style, even if she is totally evil. Use spray hair dye on half of your head, then top off the look with red gloves, a faux fur coat, cigarette holder and a little Dalmatian. Oh, and that evil cackle is essential.

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Kitty

Every girl's backup costume is also the perfect Zoom costume. We made our ears by attaching black foam ears to a headband, but you can easily find a readymade option at just about any store this time of year. Get the full Black Cat makeup tutorial right here.

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Witch

Don a black witch hat and follow this makeup tutorial for this spooky cool green witch.

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Black Swan

The hair hack here is that slick top knot and the crowning tiara, though the key to the whole scene is obviously those crazy eyes. Here's a great tutorial right herefor gals who want to go all out.

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Minion

Learn how to get the look of the cutest minion costume ever!

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Katy Perry circa 2014

Or go for any of Katy Perry's Dark Horse video costumes with these Brit + Co DIYs.

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Mad Hatter

This Mad Hatter costume is pretty easy to replicate. Grab a brown jacket from your closet, orange wig and top hat. The thread holster is made by stringing thread spools onto yarn and draping it over the shoulder. The makeup is an understated version inspired by the original, but really easy to recreate. And yes, those are fake eyelashes as eyebrows!

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Mime

You can just stay on mute!

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Pippy Longstocking

Recreate Pippy's completely insane pig tails with this easy DIY trick.

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Barbie

Your co-workers will immediately get the idea once you show up with your pink visor, watercolor swimsuit and bike shorts outfit! They may even get a little jealous!

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Poison Ivy

"That girl is poison" best describes former botanist turned green seductress Poison Ivy. See how you can DIY this costume here!

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Gamora from Guardians of the Galaxy

Maybe you prefer to be a bada**, take no prisoners green goddess like Gamora from the Guardians of the Galaxy franchise. For fun, you can try your hand at method acting by acting like her during your virtual Halloween party. Just try to keep the sarcasm on the lighter side.

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Minions

To make things more fun, you and a few co-workers can dress up as Minions! It's a DIY-costume that's inexpensive and funny.

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The Sanderson Sisters

Hocus Pocus is basically life for the Brit + Co team so it only makes sense to show up to your virtual Halloween party wearing one of the above costumes!

Planning any virtual Halloween gatherings? Share your costumes with us @BritandCo!

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After revealing her breast cancer diagnosis on Pod Meets World in August, Danielle Fishel continues to prove she won't let the disease hold her back. The actress and director took the red carpet for the Wizards Beyond Waverly Place premiere, and she opened up to PEOPLE magazine about how this disease continues to impact her. Here's what she had to say!

At the premiere, Danielle Fishel shared with PEOPLE that she was actually "back and forth" about showing up to the premiere. She said, "I obviously wanted to come tonight because I absolutely love this show. I'm so honored to have been able to direct a couple of episodes of it."

Still, there was something holding her back. She shared, "At the same time, everything I wanted to put on, I was like, 'I can see my scars in that. Oh, I can see my scars in that.'"

Instead of letting that hold her back, though, Danielle decided to push herself. "I was like, 'Why am I going to let that be a factor in deciding to live my life?'" she said. "I got dressed and I had my makeup artist do her magic and I feel fine." Ultimately, she said she was "happy" to be there — which is all you can ask for when you're facing down your fears!

Fishel told PEOPLE that her "whole life has changed" since her diagnosis. She explained that her life consists of "many doctor's appointments," check-ups, and side effects. She said, "It's not fun, but it is what it is. And with all that said, I'm very fortunate and I'm going to live, which is the most important thing."

Back in August, the star explained to Rider Strong and Will Friedle that was diagnosed with DCIS — ductal carcinoma in situ — which she described as "a rare form of breast cancer." Even though she discovered the disease at "technically stage zero," she underwent surgery to remove the cancer, as well as follow-up treatments.

When she announced her diagnosis, Danielle explained that she thought she would "would suffer in silence" and "not tell anyone." However, it's clear she's made the conscious effort to not only lean on her community, share her story, and brave the aftermath — surgery scars included.

Fishel's brave red carpet move comes after another fellow breast cancer survivor, Olivia Munn spoke out earlier in October about how her own scars. Munn bared her scars for a SKIMS campaign, after deciding she didn't wanna cover them up anymore. We're so proud of all these strong women for telling their stories and fully embracing themselves, scars and all!

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