What Is A Doula, And Should I Get One Before Giving Birth?

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If you've ever asked your immediate circle, "What is a doula?" and have gotten mixed responses, we're here to make sure you have a full understanding of what to expect should you choose to invest in one during your motherhood journey. There are many maternal facets to consider — like breastfeeding — but we don't want you to ever feel like you have to figure everything out by yourself. Truthfully, moms deserve as much support as possible because there's more to giving birth — and raising a child — than cute maternity clothes and sweet Instagram pictures.

I do love both, but I know that having a strong support system makes a world of difference for moms, so I did a bit of digging to help answer the "What is a doula" question. Thanks to Elevance Health, a top-rated health insurer, I connected with their National Medical Director Dr. Tiffany Inglis, MD, and Doula Support Pillar Leader Sharon Lonix of The Doula Network, to talk about the amazing work doulas do to help moms have better birthing experiences.

So, what is a doula?

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Dr. Inglis said, "A doula assists in providing education, emotional, and physical support before, during, and after childbirth. They can also offer pain management techniques during labor." However, she wants to be clear that doulas are not medical professionals who can give you medical advice.

Lonix said, "A doula's job is to act as a barrier between moms and their providers. We're actually trying to develop relationships with them so we're considered a part of a mom's care team team instead of being listed as visitors." She said The Doula Network has professional referrals for the provider so everyone is able to be on the same page should mom need additional resources to navigate pregnancy, labor, and postpartum care.

What are the benefits of having a doula?

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You can easily come across people who've shared their experiences with having a doula present during delivery, but it doesn't always mean you understand how one would fit into your own life. There could be several reasons why this is true for you, but Dr. Inglis explained that the medical industry contributes to that. She said, "We've been focused on physical, social, and behavioral health [in the medial industry]. We haven't always done a great job about diving into other areas of maternal health."

One of the ways Lonix helps moms who have doubts or concerns about working with a doula is to talk to them in person. She said, "We meet a lot of people who know what a doula is but have apprehension about it. The first thing I say to a mom is, 'Well, let’s meet.' A lot of doubt can be eliminated when they see you and feel the care we have for them."

According to a report by Elevance Health, moms who work with a doula have a lower prevalence of c-sections, higher chance of delivering vaginally after receiving a c-section (VBAC), and are shown to have a better postpartum experience.

How can moms find reputable doulas in their area?

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It goes without saying that finding a reputable doula isn't always a stress-free or inexpensive task. In fact, Dr. Inglis said there's a reason for this. "Most doulas have never worked with an insurance company before. They’re not always working with the doctors either," she said. Elevance Health shared that this means only 6% of women in the U.S. receive doula care while another 40% are still unaware that doula care is beneficial. Sadly, this is because only 13 states reimburse for doula services.

However, Dr. Inglis said they are working hard to close the gap. "What we’ve done is build a lot more tools to help push the conversation forward. We try to put more information at people’s fingertips — including video and written content." This education looks like helping moms build a checklist of how to talk to their healthcare providers, how to look for a reputable doula in their areas, and how to see if they're eligible to work with one. "We're trying to empower people to feel like they're allowed to question their providers and ask for the support they want," stressed Dr. Inglis.

How does a doula help a mom and her partner prepare for labor?

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Everyone's labor experience differs from the next person, or even their own prior births if they have more than one child. Lonix said, "It’s a lot of prep work beforehand and some clients are apprehensive if they’ve never done it before." Doulas, she said, are also there to help mom find her voice. " I tell my clients all the time, 'You have the right to tell your provider when you don't like or want something. You can even tell them if you need more clarity about something they've explained," continued Lonix.

When it comes to actual labor, doulas can help moms and their partners understand every aspect of it. "Doulas are there to say, 'Hey, it's okay. Breath' or we can help with body care,'" said Lonix. Something that she personally does is try to make sure a mom's partner will be with her during her prenatal appointments. "I let them know they can ask if it something is normal or not. Dads always take me up on that. During one mom's labor, I actually had to tell one dad 'Let’s take a walk and get some water' because he was nervous about what was going on. At the same time, we [The Doula Network] always try to remind our doulas it's about the clients when they're in the room," she said.

Like Dr. Inglis mentioned earlier, a doula's support can extend to postpartum care. Lonix said, "We can help make sure a client has support after she's given birth. Maybe mom needs a mental health referral. Whatever it is, we try to make sure she has access to it."

The Final Takeaway From Working With a Doula

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Despite the barriers that don't always lead to a clear path between doulas and their clients, Dr. Inglis said she's extremely proud of the work The Doula Network is doing. Aside from that, she wants to highlight something not every mom is aware of. She said, "A lot of moms don't know they can receive benefits that cover everything from transportation to diapers! We're really working hard to create a line of sight for them so people can see that help is available if they need it."

The next time someone you know asks, "What is a doula," share this article with them!

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Margot Robbie has a son! The Barbieactress and her husband Tom Ackerley welcomed their first baby in early November after a very busy year (after all, she announced she'd star opposite Ryan Gosling again in an Ocean's Eleven prequeland boarded a Sims & Monopoly adaptation as producer).

The Sirens producer proved she has impeccable pregnancy style at Wimbledon and a red carpet, and I just know she's going to have amazing mom style too. Here's everything you need to know about this new family of three.

How many kids does Margot Robbie have?

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Margot Robbie and Tom Ackerley have one child, a son! A source confirmed to People that the couple had welcomed their baby boy on November 2.

People also confirmed Margot Robbie is expecting a baby in July, the same day images of the actress showing off her growing baby bump went viral on X (formerly Twitter). In the images, Margot's standing with Tom on a dock, wearing black trousers, a black blazer, and a white tee rolled up to rest above her stomach. Leave it to Margot Robbie to make chic pregnancy wear look effortless!

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Margot Robbie later attended the L.A. premiere of My Old Ass — produced by Robbie and starring Aubrey Plaza — on September 9, 2024. The ever-elegant star rocked a muted, off-the-shoulder bodycon dress (hello, fall style inspo!) and some adorable strappy heels! Her simple hair, makeup, and jewelry allowed her most major accessory to shine here — her bump! This is the first time we've really seen Robbie since her Wimbledon appearance, and it's no surprise that her look absolutely did not disappoint.

Who is Margot Robbie's husband Tom Ackerley?

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Margot Robbie married Tom Ackerley in 2016 after they met on the set of Suite Française in 2013. Tom is an actor (he appeared as an extra on the first three Harry Potter movies), and a film producer. The two also co-founded their production company LuckyChap Entertainment in 2014 and have worked on movies like I, Tonya,Promising Young Woman,Maid, and Saltburn.

What have Tom Ackerley and Margot Robbie said about their relationship?

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Margot Robbie and Tom Ackerley love spending time together, and Tom told The Sunday Times they spend "24 hours a day together."

"It’s seamless," he continues. "We don’t have a toggle on, toggle off. It’s all become one thing.”

“Being married is actually the most fun ever, life got way more fun somehow," Margot told Porter in 2018. "I have a responsibility being someone’s wife, I want to be better."

Margot has also been vocal about how frustrating it is to constantly be asked about children, telling Radio Times in 2019 that, "I'm so angry that there's this social contract," she says. "You're married, now have a baby. Don't presume. I'll do what I'm going to do."

What is Margot Robbie's baby name?

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Margot and Tom haven't officially shared their baby's name yet, but we're all ears should they choose to do so.

How old is Margot Robbie?

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Margot Robbie just celebrated her 34th birthday on July 2. Tom Ackerley turned 34 on June 13, so there's only a one-month age gap between this celeb couple.

We're sending all the best wishes to Margot Robbie and Tom Ackerley! Check out Hilary Duff Officially Gave Birth To Baby #4! for more adorable baby news.

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Black Friday will be here before you know it, with thousands of retailers flaunting their best deals of the year. We're shoppers at heart, so you know we're already scoping out 2024's offerings! Given that the list of stores and brands hosting Black Friday and Cyber Monday sales this year is essentially endless, we're weeding out only the best deals from the places you love to spend (and save).

From beauty faves like Dieux and Kiehl's to home goods from Amazon and Walmart, these are the Black Friday deals you simply can't miss.

What is Black Friday?

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Black Friday is the Friday after Thanksgiving that typically signifies the start of holiday shopping season, though many retailers have started to launch their Black Friday deals earlier year over year. A lot of the deals that stores and brands offer during Black Friday outpace their other sales events (such as Memorial Day and Labor Day) in terms of savings.

When is Black Friday 2024?

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Black Friday will land on November 29, 2024.

What is Cyber Monday?

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Cyber Monday is the Monday after Thanksgiving that highlights savings and deals online as opposed to in-store offers. It's one of the busiest times of year for online shopping.

When is Cyber Monday 2024?

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Cyber Monday will land on December 2, 2024.

When's the best time to shop for holiday gifts?

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We're big believers that it's never too early to start shopping for holiday gifts. The sooner you shop, the better, so you can check everyone off your list ahead of the busy holiday season and have some peace of mind once the real festivities start! Plus, if you're shopping online, starting early gives you ample time to wait for items to be shipped and delivered to your door. If deals and savings are what you're looking for, Black Friday and Cyber Monday offer some really great opportunities.

What's the best thing to shop for during Black Friday and Cyber Monday?

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The best thing to shop for during Black Friday deals and Cyber Monday promotions really depends on what your needs are as well as the items you're scoping out to treat yourself (or the people you're gifting for the holidays). Typically, big-ticket items like home appliances, tech products like earbuds, laptops, TVs, and tablets, and luxury self-care tools are heavily discounted during this time.

Beauty Sales

Amazon

Bliss Bright Idea Vitamin C + Tri-Peptide Collagen Brightening Serum

Bliss

When: November 20-December 17

What: 20-30% off select products

Ulta

Perricone MD High Potency Hyaluronic Intensive Hydrating Serum

Ulta

When: Now-November 23

What: Weekly deals on skincare, makeup, hair care, and fragrance.

IT Cosmetics

IT Cosmetics CC+ Cream Full-Coverage Foundation with SPF 50+

IT Cosmetics

When: November 23-December 3

What: 30% off sitewide (loyalty members get 35% off)

Amazon

Kiehl's Ultra Facial Cream

Kiehl's

When: November 21-December 2

What: 30% off site-wide and 50% off select items on November 26 only

Amazon

Lanolips Baby Baby Balms Set

Lanolips

When: November 29-December 2

What: 30% off at Ulta and 20% off on Amazon

Moroccanoil

Moroccanoil Original Treatment

Moroccanoil

When: November 25-December 3 (rewards members will have early access to the sale on December 2)

What: 25% off sitewide

NOYZ

NOYZ Love Club Eau De Parfum

NOYZ

When: November 28-30 and December 1-2

What: 25% off sitewide and a free baseball cap on purchases over $55 on November 28-30, 25% off sitewide and a free candle on purchases over $55 on December 1-2

dpHUE

dpHUE Gloss+

dpHUE

When: November 3-15

What: 25% off sitewide

Dieux

Dieux Baptism Gel Cleanser

Dieux

When: November 29-December 2

What: 30% off original price items, 20% off single items, and a free Mini Slugging Kit on orders over $30

ILIA

ILIA Skin Rewind Complexion Stick

ILIA

When: November 25-December 2, VIP members get early access November 24

What: 20% off sitewide, 25% off orders over $125, and 25% off plus a free full-size product for orders over $150

Ogee

Ogee Tinted Lip Set

Ogee

When: November 1-December 3

What: 20% off sitewide with code 'GIFTGLOW20' and receive free deluxe samples with purchases over $200 (November 28-December 3 only)

Amazon

Youth To The People Superfood Facial Cleanser

Youth To The People

When: November 23-December 3 on YTTP.com, November 21-December 2 on Amazon, and December 2 at Sephora

What:

  • YTTP: 30% off sitewide plus a free 3-piece gift with purchases over $85
  • Amazon: 20% off select products through November 27, 30% off select products starting November 28
  • Sephora: 30% off all products in-store and online

Hero

Hero Blemish Bestsellers Kit

Hero

When: November 25-December 2

What: 20% off sitewide

Amazon

Briogeo Don't Despair, Repair! Deep Conditioning Mask

Briogeo

When: November 20-December 2 on Briogeo's site, November 28 at Sephora and Kohl's, November 28-December 2 on Amazon, and December 2 at Ulta and Target

What: up to 30% off products

Ulta

Origins GinZing SPF 40 Energy-Boosting Tinted Moisturizer

Origins

When: November 24-30 at Ulta

What: 40% off moisturizers and 30% off cleansers

Fashion Sales

Amazon

Dream Pairs Genuine Suede Classic Platform Boots

Dream Pairs

When: November 21-December 2

What: 20-40% off select styles on the Dream Pairs site and Amazon

Madewell

Madewell The Essential Bucket Tote

Madewell

When: November 21-27

What: 30% off your purchase, including new arrivals

H&M

H&M Brushed-Finish Jacket

H&M

When: November 28-December 1

What: 30% off online only (November 28), 30% off online and in-store (November 29-30), and up to 50% off (November 30-December 1)

Old Navy

Old Navy '94 Half Zip

Old Navy

When: November 1-December 2

What: 50% off select products online and in-store (November 1-6), 50% off everything online and in-store (November 7-10), and 50% off everything online only and 50% off select products in-store (November 27-December 2)

Land's End

Land's End Medium Canvas Tote Bag

Land's End

When: November 29-December 3

What: 50% off, including customizable canvas totes, sheets, towels, accessories and more.

Showpo

Showpo Jondra Blouse

Showpo

When: November 22-December 3

What:

  • Black Friday early access (November 22-24): 25% off sitewide
  • Black Friday (November 27-29): 25% off sitewide
  • Cyber Weekend (November 30-December 1): 25% off almost everything and 40% off bestsellers
  • Cyber Monday (December 2-3): 25% off almost everything and 40% off bestsellers

Franco Sarto

Franco Sarto Jaxon Mid Calf Boot

Franco Sarto

When: November 23-December 3

What: Up to 70% off + free shipping

Oomiay

Oomiay Havasu Earrings

Oomiay

When: November 28-December 2

What: Free exclusive jewelry pieces (up to 5) with every item purchased on November 28-December 1 and up to 50% off your entire order on December 2 only

Barefoot Dreams

Barefoot Dreams CozyChic Solid Robe

Barefoot Dreams

When: November 27-December 1 (Black Friday VIP access starts November 25) and December 2-3 (for Cyber Monday)

What: 20% off 2 items, 25% off 3 items, and 30% off 4 or more items for Black Friday. The CozyChic Checks & Stripes Sock Set will be just $9.98 (was $45) on Cyber Monday only.

Local Eclectic

Local Eclectic Whimsical Charm Necklace

Local Eclectic

When: November 25-December 2

What: 20% off sitewide

Quince

Quince Italian Wool Classic Single-Breasted Coat

Quince

When: November 27-December 2

What: 40% off select products

Athleta

Athleta Aire Puffer Jacket

Athleta

When: November 27-December 1

What: 30% off sitewide

Home Sales

Revival Rugs

Revival Rugs Gambit Rug

Revival Rugs

When: November 14-December 2

What: Scaled discounts automatically applied at checkout:

  • 15% off $250-500
  • 20% off $500-999
  • 25% off $1,000-1,999
  • 30% off $2000+

Walmart

Samsung 55” Crystal UHD 4K Smart TV

Walmart

When: November 11-December 1

What: Walmart is breaking up their Black Friday and Cyber Monday deals into two events.

  • Event 1 deals begin online on November 11 at 12 p.m. ET exclusively for paid Walmart+ members and 5 p.m. ET for all customers.
  • Event 1 deals begin in stores on November 15 at 6 a.m. local time.
  • Event 2 deals begin online on November 25 at 12 p.m. ET exclusively for paid Walmart+ members and 5 p.m. ET for all customers.
  • Event 2 deals begin in stores November 29 at 6 a.m. local time.
  • Cyber Monday deals start online on December 1 at 5 p.m. ET exclusively for paid Walmart+ members and 8 p.m. ET for all customers.

Amazon

TheraGun Sense Percussion Massage Gun

Amazon

When: November 29 and December 2 (tentative)

What: Amazon will feature "tons of great deals across all different categories."

Brookstone

Loftie Sunrise Lamp

Brookstone

When: November 25-December 4

What: Up to 76% off select items

Ruggable

Morris & Co. Strawberry Thief Sage & Rose Tufted Rug

Ruggable

When: Starting November 26

What: 25% off sitewide (exclusions apply) with code 'BF24'

Brümate

Brümate Era 40-Ounce Tumbler

Brümate

When: November 26-December 2

What: 20% off coolers and 25% off drinkware with code 'HOLIDAY25'

sproos!

sproos! Lookin Good Handheld Shower System

sproos!

When: November 27-December 2

What: 30% off of the Lookin' Good Bundle on sproos.co and Amazon

Great Jones

Great Jones x Fellow Kettle

Great Jones

When: November 4-December 2 on Great Jones site and November 21-December on Amazon

What: up to 50% off sitewide and 20-33% off select items on Amazon

Amazon

Contigo x Ally Love Stainless Steel Vacuum-Insulated Tumbler

Contigo

When: November 21-December 2

What: 25% off the Contigo x Ally Love Collection

Parachute Home

Parachute Home Percale Sheet Bundle

Parachute Home

When: November 23-December 3

What: 30% off sitewide

Anecdote Candles

Anecdote Candles Holiday Host Bundle

Anecdote Candles

When: November 20-24 and November 29-December 2

What: 25% off everything from November 20-24 and up to 40% off (20% off any order, 25% off orders over $100, 30% off orders over $150, up to 40% off bundles) plus a free wick trimmer with purchases over $90 on November 29-December 2

Fracture

Fracture Large Rectangle Glass Print

Fracture

When: November 14- December 1 and December 2-3

What: 30% off sitewide plus free shipping for orders over $150 on November 14- December 1 and 30% off sitewide plus free shipping for orders over $150 and 35% off orders over $275 on December 2-3

Food + Supplement Sales

Cure

Cure Electrolyte Drink Mix Starter Kit

Cure

When: November 26-December 3

What: 25% off sitewide on all Electrolyte Drink Mixes, Cure Kids, Energy Teas and merch with code 'HELPYOURSELF25'

Ritual

Ritual Essential, Gut & Skin Trio for Women

Ritual

When: November 13-December 2

What: 40% off all products for new customers and 40% off all new subscriptions only

More Sales

Petco

Native Pet Omega 3 Fish Oil For Dog Skin & Coat

Petco

When: November 23-30

What: 50% off select items

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Norman Mailer, I'm pregnant! This might be a memorable line from an equally memorable Gilmore Girls episode, but it's now also a reality for one of the show's stars because Milo Ventimiglia is expecting his first child! The actor married model and entrepreneur Jarah Mariano in the fall of 2023 at a tiny, private ceremony (a move that was very Jess Mariano of him), and on September 29, Jarah announced she's pregnant!

Milo Ventimiglia and Jarah Mariano just showed up at Brian Bowen Smith's ‘Joyride’ exhibit at Studio CT in California, and one source tells People Milo was “sweet and attentive to his wife throughout the whole event.” Duh!!

He “seemed very proud to be with her" while Jarah looked "radiant and glowing," as she always does. “Milo was kissing her and whispering into her ear," the source continues. "They were just genuinely lovely together.”

Is Jarah Mariano pregnant?

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Yes, Jarah Mariano announced her pregnancy with an Instagram post featuring a surf session with Milo Ventimiglia. In the photos, Jarah is sitting on a surfboard wearing a brown bikini top, polka dot bikini bottoms, and a pink lei. "Baby on board!" she says in the caption.

After his time on Gilmore Girls, Milo played patriarch Jack Pearson on NBC's This Is Us, and told US Weekly in 2017 that "I think I’m built to want a strong family unit. “It will happen when it happens. I’m not out seeking it. It’s just kind of, I’m present in the space in my life that when it presents itself and it’s right, I’m sure it will work out.”

And it looks like it worked out at the exact right time.

Does Milo Ventimiglia have a wife?

Yes, Milo Ventimiglia & wife Jarah Mariano got married in the fall of 2023, and Jarah recently posted some new photos from the special day. "Last year I married my best friend," she says. "There aren’t enough words that exist to describe all the special qualities that make him who he is. AlI can say is that I am grateful for the life that we have together and the happiness that we have created🤍 Aloha wau iā 'oe my husband Milo."

"Things are good," Milo told Extra in February 2024. "We've had relationships that have come and have gone and then you get to a point where you kind of meet your match and meet someone that inspires you in a way different than anybody else...I'm grateful for her and I’m happy to have arrived in this moment, so married life is nice."

If you're loving the celeb baby news as much as we are, check out the latest news on Hilary Duff's Baby #4!

After Outer Banks season 3, fans were eager to see what being in a real relationship meant for JJ (Rudy Pankow) and Kiara (Madison Bailey), and thankfully, this season delivers. The latest 10 episodes include some fantastic moments for the new couple, ranging from earlier season callbacks to their first official date and some heartbreaking moments we'll be thinking about for a long time. So, in honor of season 4, here are our top 9 Jiara moments from Outer banks season 4!

Keep reading for the best JJ and Kiara moments from Outer Banks season 4, now streaming on Netflix.

9. In Sync

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JJ and Kiara are so in tune with each other that they're immediately able to clock when something is off. Case in point, Kiara knows Chandler is lying when he says JJ sent him to get the scroll, and JJ knows Chandler's lying when he claims Kiara gave him the scroll. And the fact they echo each other almost exactly by saying they just know the other "wouldn't do that" proves how in sync they are.

8. Kiara Calls Out Luke (Again)

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We know the Pogues know each other better than anyone, and when they learn the town is going to proceed with rezoning The Cut — and bulldozing Pougelandia — she immediately jumps to her feet to try and defend their home. Kiara doesn't mess around when it comes to justice, especially when JJ is directly affected. And when she calls out Luke for betraying JJ's trust (again), it's the perfect follow-up to their car conversation from season 2 (you know, when she asked "Don't you know how special your son is?"). We know how special he is Kie!!!

7. The Porch Talk

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Okay this is such a small moment but I had to include it because Jiara is severely lacking PDA in OBX season 4 part 2. One of the most beautiful parts of this story is how these two communicate. Kiara isn't afraid to ask the serious questions and JJ is finally at a place where he can be vulnerable with her. After JJ admits that he does think Chandler's really his father, Kiara puts her head on his shoulder to comfort him and they sit in silence. These two don't need to talk because IMO, their connection is beyond words.

6. Diver Down

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Let’s be honest, one of the things fans were most excited to see now that JJ and Kiara are together is JJ’s protectiveness over Kiara. We’ve seen it plenty of times in the past, but things are a little different now that he’s her boyfriend, and it’s in full force when they’re attacked underwater and Kiara loses the scuba diving gear providing her oxygen.

From JJ stabbing the guy with a spear gun to him banging on the door of the ship, desperate to get back to Kiara and screaming her name, this sequence delivers. Then, of course, there’s the fact that he immediately gives her his air so she can breathe.

5. An Undercover Date

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When trying to track down the man who attacked them, JJ says their plan is to “detain, extract, investigate,” and sneak up on him as spies would. Kiara likes it, declaring they’re undercover before suggesting they act like they’re on a date – if he knows what that looks like. JJ questions her and she mentions they’ve never been on a date before, challenging him to name just one. He then tells her that they're on a date right now, grabbing her hand so they can do date things together on the pier. What does that include? Snow cones and a dare to jump into the water.

4. “Us Against The Universe.”

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Since they didn’t make their diving safety stop as Pope instructed them to, Kiara and JJ get the bends (bubbles in their blood and tissues), and the Pogues rush them to the hospital, where they have to spend 12 hours in a hyperbaric chamber. With 12 whole hours together, you can imagine where this going. But before that, since this is their first moment to reflect on what happened, JJ comments how she almost died, and says that he never should’ve let her go down there. Naturally, Kiara has a different way of looking at it, saying if she wasn’t there, the attacker would’ve gotten JJ instead.

Moral of the story? They save each other and it’s them against the universe. JJ also makes a cute call back to when he called her a Kook, and we love some good banter.

3. The Turtle Hatch

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Kiara’s pure joy at the sight of a turtle hatch on the beach is a beautiful moment for the character, who's talked about saving the turtles since season 1. However, Ruthie and Topper have other plans for this precious moment and decide to drive their truck directly at the Pogues, who are trying to safely get the turtles to the ocean. Kiara notices and goes in front of the truck, trying to tell them that there’s a hatch and to go around, but they ignore her, running over the area not once but twice.

Why this is so high on my list is because of the way JJ stands by her side as she confronts the Kooks for killing a baby turtle. He lets her take charge and say what she needs to, only getting involved when Topper puts his hand on her. JJ's taken the lead in these conversations in the past, and to see the roles reverse like this just proves why they work so well together. Plus, there’s the whole “You come near her, or any of us ever again, and I’ll come back and kill every single one of you.”

2. “He’s Happy.”

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In episode 4x01, one of the scenes that stands out is JJ’s dance celebration when their bait, tackle, and charter shop is finally in business. When Sarah jokingly asks if he’s okay, Kiara answers, “Yeah, he just never really had a home. He’s happy,” and that’s why this moment is number 2 on the list.
With JJ being such a complex character, he needs someone who fully understands him and what he’s been through, and that person is Kiara. She knows he has to learn how to be in a relationship, how to handle money, and how to allow happiness and love into his life. That’s perfectly shown in the way she makes her way over to him, telling JJ that she loves him before the two share their first kiss of the season. JJ's added “We did it" is a sweet sentiment to how he now views the two of them as a team, as well as how far they’ve come. Cheers to Captain Maybank!

1. "I Already Got My Wish"

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There was no way this conversation wasn't coming at number 1. Because while it's one of the saddest TV scenes I've ever seen, it's also such a standout. We all know JJ has been into Kiara since the very beginning (and fans picked up Kiara's supposedly unscripted interest in season 1 when she asked John B. if he told JJ about their kiss). And during the Outer Banks season 4 ending, JJ tells Kiara with his literal dying breath that he doesn't need to wish on the Blue Crown because he already had everything he ever wanted.

There are so many layers to this scene, like the music echoing when Kiara and the Pogues find JJ in the water a couple episodes before (which is its own callback to Kiara rescuing JJ from drowning in season 2), and I couldn't think of any better way to say goodbye to this character than to see him in Kiara's arms. P4L, JJ. P4L.

Outer Banks Season 4 is now streaming on Netflix. Read up on why This Heartbreaking Outer Banks 5 Theory Makes THAT Death Even More Emotional.

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Now that temperatures are slowly dropping with the change of seasons, it's time to get your home feeling oh-so hygge, cozy, and all-around comfortable. However, if you aren't sure where to find such items, that's not a problem, as I've already done all the legwork for you and compiled our findings into this handy list. From fuzzy socks to twinkling fairy lights, don't be surprised if you find yourself tempted to add more than a few of these cozy items to your cart.

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This Scented Candle Made From Eco-Friendly Soy Wax

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Unlike some candles, this is made from eco-friendly soy wax that produces less soot than paraffin. Gentle notes of toasted pecan, butternut squash, and star anise give it an uplifting scent. And with a burn time of up to 80 hours, you won't be stuck having to replace it anytime soon.

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A Poofy Reading Pillow Covered In Bougie Faux Fur

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Consider this pillow a must-have if you enjoy reading while relaxing in bed. The ultra-plush filling supports your back and shoulders, while bolsters on either side give you somewhere to rest your arms. The faux fur exterior also gives it an upscale look that's sure to have guests asking where you found it. One reviewer wrote, "I was not expecting this pillow to be such good quality. It kept its shape great. It’s extremely soft and comfortable."

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The Fuzzy Lounge Set That Comes With A Floor-Length Cardigan

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Just one look at this fuzzy lounge set, and we're ready to snuggle up on the couch for a relaxing evening at home. It comes in a variety of colors — from trendy beige to sky blue — and the high-waisted bottoms are almost guaranteed to look good on just about everybody. Plus, the floor-length cardigan is an undeniably fashionable touch.

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These Socks Are a Luxury for Your Feet

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These fuzzy socks are just the right amount of soft and comfy without being too thick and sweaty. These are great for a day lying around the house but also look great poking out of a pair of boots.

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These Memory Foam Slippers That You Can Wear Outside

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You'll be glad you grabbed these slippers the next time you're scrounging around for a quick pair of slip-on shoes to wear to the mailbox and back. Their rubber soles are nonslip, helping keep you safe on wet mornings — and the memory foam lining also contours to the shape of your feet for added comfort.

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The Perfect Sleep Starts With Pillows

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Good pillows on your bed are essential to a good night's sleep. If you're a side sleeper (as most of us are), you will undoubtedly love this bed pillow set. Even if you sleep on your back or stomach, these are winners.

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This Foot Warmer And Massager Is So Soothing

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Take your spa day to the next level with a heating foot massager. After your relaxing bath, hop in for a deep-kneading foot massage that will leave you feeling less stressed and less tense.

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A Heated Eye Massager for Ultimate Relaxation

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Whether you deal with migraines and headaches or you're just looking for some extra relaxation in your life, this heated eye massager is the answer! It helps reduce eye strain, reduce the dark circles under your eyes, and help to relax your face. It's a great option for settling down and releasing tension after a long day.

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A Universal Tablet Stand With a Soft Pillow Base

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Kindles, iPads, Android phones — this stand's universal design ensures it'll work with just about any gadget. The soft pillow base makes it great for watching videos in bed, and the arm can be adjusted into nearly any position, making it easy to see your screen from every angle. Plus, a small bowl in the center gives you somewhere to stash remotes, charging cables, and more.

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This Thermal Underwear Will Keep You Warm And Dry All Day Long

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Stay warm and comfortable in cold weather with this set of long Thermal Underwear. They're designed to be an extra layer when just one won't do, and they're lightweight, squat-proof, and moisture-wicking, making them perfect for outdoor activities or snuggling on the couch at home.

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These Aromatherapy Shower Steamers Are So Refreshing

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Turn your shower into a spa with these aromatherapy steamers that help boost your mood while clearing congestion. The variety pack comes with 15 steamers in eucalyptus and mint scents.

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Cozy Up Your Tub with this Luxury Bath Pillow

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Nothing beats a relaxing bath to wash away the day's stress, and you can take it up a notch with this Luxury Bath Pillow, which has thick padding for ultimate comfort and support. The suction cups ensure it stays firmly in place, so you can lie and relax without suffering from a sore back or neck.

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An Air Purifier That Runs At a Super-Quiet Level

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A home with low-quality air will always feel less hygge than one with clean air. This purifier powers through pet dander, pollen, and every other airborne pollutant, ensuring that you're breathing the cleanest air possible. And since it runs at a super-quiet level, you can even leave it running overnight without disturbing your sleep.

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The Flannel Sheets With Elasticized Straps Built Into the Fitted Sheet Corners

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Few things are as annoying as having your fitted sheet constantly ride up over your mattress. These microfiber flannel sheets not only feel incredibly soft against the skin, but the fitted sheet also features elastic straps that help keep it firmly in place — no need to worry about it riding up. Choose from 14 colors: teal, pale pink, navy, and more.

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These Oh-So Fuzzy Socks With Thousands Of Positive Reviews

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Step off of those cold floors and slip your feet into these fuzzy socks. A touch of spandex in the knitted weave gives them some comfortable stretch, while the breathable material helps keep your feet from growing sweaty. One reviewer wrote, "They are so lightweight that your ankles and legs don't feel restricted at all, but they keep you warm and cozy."

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A Cup Holder Pillow With Extra Space for Remotes, Snacks, and More

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If you're cozy on the couch, what's the last thing you want to do? Get up! This couch caddy is honestly a genius invention, and we will be promptly also ordering multiple.

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This Cozy AF Throw Blanket Made from Ultra-Soft Flannel Fleece

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Every bedroom or living room needs a cozy throw blanket, so why not take a look at this one? It comes in a variety of colors — from deep purple to light blue — and the flannel fleece material feels undeniably soft against the skin. Plus, the chunky stripes are a classic pattern that won't fall out of style anytime soon.

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These Bath Bombs That Won't Dry Out Your Skin

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Some types of bath bombs can dry out your skin. Thankfully, these are infused with shea and cocoa butter, both of which work to hydrate your skin while you soak. Plus, the individualized packaging helps keep them fresh so that you can take your time using them. Each order includes 12 scents: lavender, black raspberry, melon, rose, and more.

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An Oversized Hoodie That Feels Just Like A Warm, Fuzzy Blanket

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Ever wish you could wear that cozy blanket around your house? Then this hoodie is right up your alley. The microfiber sherpa lining makes it feel just like your favorite winter blanket, while the oversized fit makes it easy to layer on top of whatever you're wearing. "The BEST oversized fleece," raved one reviewer. "Great for sitting at my grandkids' sports games...keeps you warm."

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This Television Backlight That Casts a Warm Inviting Glow

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Adding this backlight to the back of your television is an easy way to make any room feel warm and inviting. The included remote lets you switch between 12 different colors, though the warm white option is probably the best one for creating a hygge vibe in your home. And if you're worried about installation, it's as simple as peeling off the adhesive backing and pressing it right into place on the back of your television.

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A Bedside Lamp That Lights Up In 13 Different Colors

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Don't have a ton of space on your nightstand? Then this lamp is worth a look. Its compact base takes up hardly any space, and you can even adjust its brightness with a few gentle taps on the top. Each order also includes a remote to change its settings from afar. And with 13 different adjustable colors to choose from, setting a cozy vibe after a long day is a total breeze.

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This Extra-Large Heating Pad Covered In Soft, Plush Velvet

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Whether your back, shoulders, or legs are aching, this heating pad can help soothe soreness. The extra-large size helps you target more than one part of your body at the same time without having to move it around. You can also adjust its temperature up to six levels — and the velvet exterior gives it a soft feeling when pressed against the skin.

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The Remote Control Page Turner That's Compatible With Nearly Any Tablet

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You won't have to reach out from underneath that warm throw blanket to turn the pages on your e-reader when you have this remote control. There's no wi-fi necessary in order to get it up and running — simply connect it to your device using Bluetooth and it's ready to start working. Plus, it's compatible with just about any gadget, including Kindles, iPads, Android phones, and more.

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This Quirky Throw Blanket That Looks Just Like a Giant Tortilla

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Ever wonder what it would feel like to be wrapped inside a giant burrito? Grab this throw blanket and find out. The flannel material makes it perfect for chilly nights. And since it's printed to look just like a tortilla on both sides, it doesn't matter which one is facing up. If you aren't into burritos, you can also grab it as a waffle or pizza.

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The Cozy Blanket That’s Designed To Fit Over Your Office Chair

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There's a good chance you've never seen a blanket like this one before. Two sets of elastic straps let you secure it around your desk chair, making it great for chilly offices. The faux fur material also makes it just as cozy as it is soft — and while it's long enough to wrap around your body, it's still short enough that you won't have to worry about it snagging on your chair's castor wheels.

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A Cozy Shawl With Handy Pockets On Both Sides

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Not only is this shawl perfect for lounging around the house, but it also features pockets so that you have somewhere to stash your phone, remotes, and more. Reviewers reported that the oversized fit makes it easy to throw on top of whatever you're already wearing. And if you're worried about how it'll fare in the wash? One happy customer reported that "the stitching is strong, and it remains soft and intact even after multiple washes."

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A Warming Lamp That Lets You "Burn" Candles Without An Open Flame

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Burning candles can be dangerous when you have young children at home. Luckily, this warming lamp is a clever fix. The halogen bulb warms up the wax, gently melting your candles so that you can still enjoy their scent without risking an open flame. Plus, the height can be adjusted to fit candles up to six inches tall.

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The Essential Oil Diffuser That Can Run for Up To 20 Hours

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Not only does this essential oil diffuser feature seven color-changing LED lights to help you set a relaxing mood, but the extra-large reservoir also holds enough water to keep it running for up to 20 hours. The faux wood base makes it stand out from other diffusers made from plain plastic. But if that isn't enough? One reviewer wrote, "This works absolutely wonderful. I can turn off the light when I'm trying to sleep while still getting the wonderful smell of my oils."

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These Essential Oils That Come Packaged In Dark Amber Bottles

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Speaking of essential oils, make sure to grab this set if you just added that diffuser to your cart. Their dark amber bottles help keep the oil inside safe from UV light degradation for years on end — so there's no need to worry about them losing potency over time. Each order comes with six scents: eucalyptus, tea tree, orange, lemongrass, lavender, and peppermint.

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This Weighted Blanket That Can Help Calm Anxious Minds

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Does your mind always race when you're trying to fall asleep? Try snuggling underneath this weighted blanket. The added heft makes it feel like you're being wrapped in a giant hug, helping calm anxiety simply by lying underneath it. And while heavy, it isn't hot — so there's no need to worry about growing uncomfortably warm while you're asleep.

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These Faux Fur Throw Pillow Covers That Come In 9 Colors

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Add a luxurious touch to any couch or bed with these throw pillow covers. They're covered in plush faux fur and feature a hidden zipper that won't snag on hair while laying on them. "I really like these SUPER SOFT decorative pillowcases, and they add a great designer aesthetic to my bed/bedroom!" raved one reviewer. "I'm not kidding when I say they are SO SOFT." Choose from nine colors: gray, pink, white, black, and more.

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An Extra-Wide Office Chair That Lets You Sit Cross-Legged While You Work

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With an ergonomic design that helps reduce pressure on your hips and back, this chair deserves a spot in every home office. The armless design combined with the wide seat means you can comfortably sit cross-legged. And with six colors to choose from (blue, brown, mint, beige, gray, or pink), you shouldn't have any trouble matching it to however you've decorated.

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This Heated Throw Blanket Automatically Shuts Off After 3 Hours

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Forgetting to turn your heated blanket off can be a fire hazard. Luckily, this one has an automatic shut-off function that kicks in after three hours to help keep you safe. Its temperature is also adjustable up to four levels — and if it ever gets dirty, simply remove the controller before tossing it into the wash for a quick clean.

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The Stylishly Knitted Ottoman Made From 100% Cotton

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Consider this knitted ottoman a stylish addition to any room in your home. It's so sturdy that it can hold up to 330 pounds, making it suitable for use as a quick seat for guests in a pinch. The exterior is also made from 100% cotton — no polyester in sight — and the compact size means it'll take up hardly any space no matter where you place it.

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A Himalayan Salt Lamp Carved To Look Like a Gorgeous Flower

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Not only is this lamp made from real pink salt mined from the Himalayas, but it's also been carved to look just like a gorgeous flower bud. It emits a warm, cozy glow, making it great for setting a relaxing vibe after a long day of work. And unlike some lamps, this one comes with an attached dimmer switch.

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These LED Candles That Flicker Just Like the Real Thing

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Are you tired of always having to buy new candles? Then these LED ones are worth a look. The bulbs flicker like real flames, giving them an incredibly realistic look regardless of how far away they may be. Each order also includes a remote so you can turn them on and off without getting up from the couch.

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This Reed Diffuser That Looks Just As Good As It Smells

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This reed diffuser is one of those rare items that looks just as good as it works. The scented oil that comes with every order features notes of lavender, juniper, and eucalyptus, all of which come together to leave your home smelling oh-so-refreshed. The best part? The oil is so potent that it'll stay smelling good for up to 60 days.

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The LED Night Light That Won't Block the Second Outlet

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Whereas some night lights are so bulky that they block the second outlet, this one features a square shape that takes up minimal space, ensuring that the second outlet stays open for use. But if that isn't enough? The dusk-to-dawn sensor prevents it from turning on when it's still light out. Choose from seven colors: blue, purple, soft white, and more.

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This Wax Melter With A Cozy, Flame-Free Fireplace

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Not a fan of scented candles? Then this wax melter is a solid alternative that'll still fill your home with uplifting scents. The temperature is adjustable up to three levels, making it easy to control how quickly your wax melts — and the flame-free fireplace in the front is an undeniably hygge touch.

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These Scented Wax Melts That Come In Six Scents

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Don't forget to grab these wax melts if you added that melter to your cart. They come in six different Yankee Candle scents: home sweet home, midsummer's night, balsam and cedar, pink sands, sage and citrus, and white strawberry bellini. And with 18 melts in every order, you won't have to go out and buy another pack anytime soon.

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The Sunset Lamp That Casts a Cozy Glow Inside Any Room

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Creating a cozy vibe inside your home is as easy as turning on this sunset lamp. It features 21 different adjustable colors, all of which can be accessed using the convenient smartphone app — though that's just the start. You can also use the app to control its brightness, set it on a timer, as well as sync it with music so that it changes colors depending on what song you're playing. One reviewer wrote, "It was really easy to set up, and the app is really easy to get around."

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A Dinosaur Chicken Nugget Pillow That's Just Plain Fun

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This dinosaur chicken nugget pillow comes in a variety of shapes — from brontosaurus to stegosaurus — and the plush filling doesn't fall flat easily when you're using it to relax. Plus, many reviewers found it to be a total hit when used as a gift.

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This Faux Reindeer Hide That Makes Your Couch Look So Expensive

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We're huge fans of this faux reindeer hide. It adds a luxurious touch to your couch, and customers love the realistic look, the quality craftsmanship, and the value for the money. Plus, it creates the perfect cozy spot for a pet to lounge on.

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A Bundle Of Dried Eucalyptus That Makes Any Shower Feel Like a Spa

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Hang this dried eucalyptus inside your tub, and it'll fill your bathroom with its uplifting scent anytime you shower. Each branch has undergone a specialized preservation process to ensure they look fresh rather than old. Plus, there are even a few bits of lavender mixed in with the eucalyptus to help keep the smell from being overpowering.

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The Fairy Curtain Lights That Feature 8 Lighting Modes

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Slow fade, twinkle, waves — with eight different lighting modes to choose from, these fairy curtain lights can be used to set any sort of mood you like. At almost 10 feet long, they're suitable for windows, both large and small. One reviewer wrote, "These lights look exactly like the advertisement. They were easy to put up and gave a great ambiance. Highly recommend!"

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A Memory Foam Bed Topper That Breathes New Life Into Tired Mattresses

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Your bedroom can only be so cozy if your bed is uncomfortable — which is only part of the reason why we're a fan of this bed topper. It's made from soft memory foam that contours to the shape of your body, giving your head, neck, shoulders, back, and more support where you need it. And unlike some toppers, this one is infused with cooling gel to help keep you comfortable throughout the night.

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These LED Branches Are Great for Illuminating Dark Corners

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Can't figure out how to decorate that dark, dreary corner in your home? Then these LED branches are worth a look. Putting them inside a vase is all you need to do in order to get them looking good — and the brown bark texture gives them an incredibly realistic look, even when up close. "I use these as an accent in a tall vase, and it looks magnificent," wrote one reviewer. "My lights are still working after a year, and I use them weekly."

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Elegant Curtain Net for Your You Space

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Make your bedroom your ultimate oasis with the elegant curtain net for around your bed. Your room should look like a dream, and this adds a mystical quality to it for spending time in your happy place.

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