7 Things I Wish I Knew Before Having Twins

Back when I found out I was pregnant with twin girls, I read twin parenting books, asked adult twins what life was like for them (did they hate matchy matchy outfits?), went to an Expecting Twins prenatal and spent weeks trying to find the perfect baby names for twins. But nothing really prepared me for the reality of babies times two. While my husband was stoked to someday dress our girls as The Shiningtwins for Halloween, we were blissfully unaware of how much our lives were going to radically and wonderfully change 180 degrees.

To answer the questions that many people ask me ALWAYS: 1) Twins don’t run in our family; 2) My pregnancy was “all-natural,” as if IVF treatments aren’t also a natural way to conceive a baby; 3) They are fraternal; 4) Yes, it’s hard work, but as first-time parents, my husband and I don’t know anything different.

For any expectant parents who are having multiples, here are seven things I wish I knew beforehand.

1. Sleep when they sleep. EVERYONE tells you this. I can’t tell you how many Facebook comments I got about “sleep when they sleep.” It was crazy annoying. But with two newborns, sometimes one is awake while the other is zonked out. During the rare unicorn moment that they both fall asleep at the same time, I sneak in a nap whenever I can. The struggle with sleep deprivation is real. And it’s not fun.

2. Write *everything* down. We installed a dry erase board in our nursery and it is the only reason we remember anything. We write down when the girls ate, how many times they did tummy time and when we gave them a bath last. When you’re *super* sleep deprived (see #1), you can’t remember what happened 10 minutes ago, let alone when your twins last ate. There are fancy parent apps to track feedings, but honestly, a simple dry-erase board is way easier to look at in the middle of the night when you can’t remember your own name.

3. Color code or label bottles. This was the best tip from my Expecting Twins class. Buy bottles in two different colors. Some bottles come with color bands. Designate baby A as one color and baby B as another. Twins are totally different people so they will eat differently. One might gulp down an entire bottle while the other might leave half. You’ll want to know how much your little ones are eating, and if the bottles are identical, you won’t have a clue.

4. A stay in the NICU is actually okay. NICU stands for neonatal intensive care unit where preemie babies go after birth if they are having health issues. Before their birth, I constantly worried about my girls ending up in the NICU. It seemed so scary to have your babies hooked up to machines and monitored 24/7. But, in reality, when my girls were transported to the NICU soon after they were born, it was the best place for them. The NICU nurses took excellent care of them. I was able to rest. My husband and I learned so much from the NICU nurses (who are amazing, kind, wonderful peeps). It was basically baby boot camp. Our girls were discharged 11 days later and they are healthy and growing.

5. Breastfeeding two babies = patience. Before birth, I had this idyllic vision that I would easily latch my girls onto my breasts and feed them exclusively at the breast. The reality was that they needed formula while I pumped eight times a day and tried to get them to latch. I don’t love giving them formula, but I also had to realize that breastfeeding is a relationship between each of my girls. While one is a fast eater, the other takes her time and can get fussy if the milk isn’t there right away. I only learned that by being patient with the process and learning their separate, distinct personalities was I able to get comfortable breastfeeding them.

6. Baby wearing is a life saver. We had some baby carriers at home, but one of the best things I ever bought is my Solly Baby Wrap ($65). When either of my girls is especially cranky, I wear her, bounce her around and give her kisses. Within minutes, she’s nodding off. Research different types of baby carriers and buy two different kinds. My husband loves the Ergo Baby Carrier ($115+). Plus, it gives you hands-free freedom!

7. Join mom groups for twins. Some of the best tips I’ve ever gotten are from other twin moms. Google “moms of multiples” with your city and find a Facebook group or IRL group to join. It’s so helpful to talk to other parents who have been there, done that and survived. You need the advice that singleton parents won’t ever have to deal with, like how to bottle feed two babies at the same time (hint: Prop them up with two breastfeeding pillows and hold both bottles).

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This edible crescent-roll cornucopia is our way of making a normal cheese boardmore festive — and definitely more fun — during the holiday season. Our go-to this time of year is a massive cheese plate that can stand alone and be the main attraction, or the starter for a larger meal. Press on for the surprisingly easy steps to braid a breaded cornucopia.

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Materials + Tools:

  • 1 roll of tin foil
  • 2 packages of crescent rolls
  • 1 egg (for egg wash before cornucopia goes into the oven), optional

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Instructions:

Start by sculpting tin foil into the shape of a cornucopia (it looks like a cone with an upturned tail). Pro tip: Lightly pack tin foil so it's easier to remove later from your baked cornucopia. Crescent rolls should be buttery enough that this shouldn't be difficult.

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Your tin foil mold should look a little something like this.

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Pop open the crescent rolls and cut the triangles into strips. Pinch together the ends of strips to make strips longer.

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Braid crescent roll strips. You can make these as fancy as you want. Not a braiding pro? Skip this step and leave those strips alone.

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Wrap tin foil cornucopia with braids/strips. Make sure you cover all the tin foil. Leave a little wiggle room at the opening of the cornucopia, so that when you’re done baking you can pull some of that tin foil out.

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Use any extra dough to cover the bottom of your cornucopia. Pinch the sides and anchor those braids/strips in.

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Brush on egg wash before placing your cornucopia in the oven. Bake at 350 degrees Fahrenheit for 20 minutes. Take out of oven and cover spots of cornucopia that are already golden brown with extra tin foil. Bake for another 20 minutes at 250 degrees Fahrenheit.

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Let it cool down until it’s easy to handle. Remove tin foil.

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Place cornucopia in corner of your cheese plate. Arrange cheese on your serving tray.

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Add crackers — we like to have two or three options.

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Don’t forget to fill up your cornucopia. It's called "the horn of plenty" for a reason. Fill with fresh fruit like grapes, apples, and pears.

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Add nuts like walnuts and pistachios to fill in any empty spaces. Garnish with fresh herbs like rosemary and sage to finish it off.

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Voilà! Invite over your friends, open a bottle of wine, and dig in!

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A cornucopia cheese board will become your new favorite holiday tradition.

Show us your crescent-roll cornucopias on Instagram and check out our baking classes (and our Easy Thanksgiving Desserts piece) for more holiday food inspo!

DIY Production and Styling: Paris Fried

Paris Fried: Paris loves any excuse to celebrate and throw a themed party. She loves experimenting in the kitchen and has a terrible sweet tooth. When she's not crafting in her studio, she's at the farmers' market buying seasonal produce or at her favorite local theater watching double features.

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Though Black Friday is traditionally the official start of the holiday shopping season, we argue that it’s been kicking since mid-October. We know, we know: it still feels extremely early to start thinking about the holidays, but they’ll be here before you know it! Plus, many brands and retailers are already promoting their holiday goodies with plenty of sales and discounts available right now.

If you’re ready to embark on your holiday shopping journey, but still need answers to questions like ‘when’s the best time to shop?’ and ‘where should I shop for gifts?’ and even ‘how the heck do I save money this season?’, you’ve come to the right place. Consider this your go-to guide for holiday shopping in 2024.

Scroll on for our best guidance on navigating this busy time of year and finding the best gifts possible!

When's the best time to do holiday shopping?

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The best time to do holiday shopping really all depends on your personal shopping goals. Do you want to get a jump on items you know will sell out soon? Do you want to save the most money possible? Do you want to focus on handmade, personalized gifts? These factors will undoubtedly influence your holiday shopping schedule.

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Shopping early can be advantageous for all of the aforementioned goals. A lot of retailers start promoting their holiday products early on, giving you ample time to snatch up that limited-time lip kit or fancy water bottle you’ve been eyeing way before the holidays.

Plus, some of the best deals for holiday shopping happen ahead of Black Friday and Cyber Monday – in 2023, Experian observed a surge in early spending in October, thanks to early discounts, a trend likely to continue in 2024.

Finally, shopping early can be especially helpful if your plan is to focus on handmade or personalized gifts, giving the artisan you buy from (or yourself, if you’re DIY-ing your gifts) plenty of time to craft the item with love and care.

Gallup reported in 2023 that one in four shoppers start shopping as early as September, a trend likely to continue in 2024 – so you might already be embarking on your shopping spree!

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If right now is just still too darn early for you to start holiday shopping, Black Friday and Cyber Monday are some of the best times to shop since so many retailers offer their largest discounts of the entire year. Plus, the late November-early December timeline can feel a bit more appropriate for the gifting season opposed to late October-early November, when everyone’s still recovering from Halloween.

The only thing to consider during this time is the shipping timelines for the items you purchase – but most retailers will typically advise their specific shipping schedules, so you don’t risk your goodies arriving late.

Where should I shop for gifts?

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You have three main options when it comes to where to shop for holiday gifts: online, in-store, and via our amazing gift guides. Of course, each method has its advantages and disadvantages.

Shopping in-store offers a tangible experience: the opportunity to hold specific items in your hands and gauge exactly what they’ll be like when you give them as a gift. The pitfall with shopping in-person is that it typically requires a commute and journeys through potentially very busy malls and shopping strips, which can add to the already-stressful holiday experience.

In-store shopping can be more physically exhausting, but it’s all about preference! Sometimes strolling through the stores that get all dolled up for Christmas is the best part of the season.

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Per Google, 65% of those planning to shop for the holidays say they will shop online more. Shopping for gifts online can be super helpful since you can centralize your findings in your browser’s bookmark tab or via virtual cart(s). Plus, shopping online can pose more opportunities for saving some money: lots of retailers typically offer discount codes for online users, especially if you sign up for their digital marketing channels (like email and text) and make a purchase.

Shopping online isn’t just shopping, either. The internet can be a stellar research tool to help you vet whether certain products are worth it, where they can be bought, and when they’ll be available. In fact, Google reported that more than half of U.S. holiday shoppers who went into a store last year say they looked up product reviews online and/or located an item in-store by checking it online.

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Last but not least, scrolling gift guides has to be our favorite place to shop for gifts – and not just because we write and publish them.

At their very core, gift guides help streamline the holiday shopping process, alleviating the stress that bubbles up when you’re wondering what the heck to shop for in the first place. Our gift guides are backed by real people, real experiences, and real opinions from our editorial team. We only promote products that we really love and believe in, oftentimes ones we’ve tested and reviewed ourselves.

We have gift guides for just about everyone on your list, with more on the way! Check ‘em out:

What are the best kinds of gifts to give?

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The best kinds of gifts to give are thoughtful gifts that consider the giftee’s interests, wants, and needs. These gifts can be sentimental, practical, or both simultaneously. What matters most in a gift is that it’ll be meaningful to them past just the holiday season, whether it’s helping them get through daily tasks, reminding them of a memorable trip or event, or giving them small doses of joy.

“Shoppers are increasingly looking for personalized and unique gifts that reflect the recipient's personality and interests,” says Mia Anderson, Owner of ChicSew. “With the rise of online shopping, many consumers are opting for curated gift boxes or experiences that add a special touch.”

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Gift boxes, personalized items, books of interest, self-care goodies, and even gift cards can all be thoughtful gifts depending on the recipient. If you have no clue what your giftee is into, it’s not a bad idea to ask them what they want the most!

“My idea of a great gift is something that is in tandem with the recipient's interest and offers something new to the person, be it learning a new skill, enjoying a calming activity, or simply spending quality time with the family,” says Alfred Christ, Sales Manager & Marketer at Robotime. “This season, we encourage shoppers to shift their focus on quality and the memories their gifts will create and not just merely material aspects.”

When is Black Friday?

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Black Friday is always the Friday after Thanksgiving. This year, Black Friday lands on November 29.

When is Cyber Monday?

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Cyber Monday is typcally the Monday after Thanksgiving. This year, Cyber Monday will land on December 2. Oftentimes, retailers and brands extend their online offers through the week (coined Cyber Week) after the event. Salesforce reported that 67% of shoppers in 2024 plan on shopping during Cyber Week!

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The holidays at Starbucks are creeping up on us, people! Peppermint Mocha season will return on November 7. If you’re a die-hard Starbucks fan, you know Red Cup Day is a whole holiday in itself – the frenzy for a free reusable cup is truly no joke. There’s even an entire website dedicated to counting down the madness! Even though there’s no official word on when Red Cup Day 2024 will be, there are several clues that cue us into the annual event. Scroll on for details!

What is Red Cup Day?

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Red Cup Day is Starbucks’ highly-awaited annual event that marks the start of holiday beverage season at the coffee chain. For one day only (and while supplies last), customers who order any of Starbucks’ holiday drinks will receive a reusable red cup that features a bespoke design for the respective year.

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Here’s a list of all the drinks rumored to be available on the Starbucks holiday menu starting November 7:

  • Peppermint Mocha
  • Peppermint White Chocolate Mocha
  • Caramel Brûlée Latte
  • Sugar Cookie Almondmilk Latte
  • Chestnut Praline Latte
  • Salted Pecan Crunch Cold Brew
  • Iced Gingerbread Oatmilk Chai

What do the red cups look like for 2024?

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Starbucks hasn’t officially announced when Red Cup Day will be for 2024, let alone what the famed red cups will look like this go-around. The one obvious point is that the cups will be red! They’ll also likely feature some festive motifs that echo the holiday season. Last year’s red cups boasted playful white and green stars and ornament-like shapes.

Why should I participate in Red Cup Day?

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Red Cup Day = freebies, which can feel really rewarding if you’re really into receiving free goodies. Plus, it’s just a fun way to lean into the holiday spirit. The red reusable cup keeps giving beyond Red Cup Day, though! Every time you use the reusable cup for future Starbucks orders, you get a 10-cent discount as well as 25 bonus stars toward your Starbucks Rewards account to save up for more discounts on drinks, food, and merchandise.

When is Starbucks' Red Cup Day 2024?

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Again, Starbucks hasn’t alerted us on when Red Cup Day will be for 2024, but based on previous Red Cup Days, we can infer it’ll land on the third Thursday of November. In 2022, Red Cup Day happened on November 17, and for 2023, it was November 16. The third Thursday of November in 2024 hits on November 21, so mark your calendars, everyone!

Additionally, check back here for official info as Red Cup Day approaches.

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