Why “You Look So Thin” Isn’t a Compliment

One year ago, I was in an entirely different place mentally and physically. I had recently given birth and going from a size six to a size “large” in maternity clothes had been hard for me to cope with. 12 months and a plethora of sizes later, I know there are many things more important than the numbers on the scale.

But a year ago, I was in a body that felt foreign to me. Pre-pregnancy, I had always been naturally fit — curvy, but still petite. I’d been blessed with an extremely high metabolism and had always eaten what I wanted but maintained a consistent weight. I had no issues loving my body because I was used to it being a certain shape and size, and it was easy for me to associate that shape and size with health.

I expected some level of weight inconsistency once my partner and I found out we were pregnant, but I was excited to share my body with the baby growing inside. However, during pregnancy, things changed.

A pregnant woman smiles at her partner as he embraces her in their yard

“Wow, your boobs are huge!” said a friend of mine upon seeing my baby shower pictures. As others began remarking on how large I’d become in general, I started to feel self-conscious. Suddenly, everyone had an opinion about my weight, and I began to wonder if my pregnancy weight gain was somehow different from the norm.

Sure enough, a routine prenatal appointment would reveal that I had gained 20 pounds in my first trimester. It wasn’t long before my doctor and family became concerned. It had finally hit me that the body I had was not my usual body. I didn’t understand why I was gaining weight so much quicker than “normal.” And just like that, I began hating everything about the way I looked.

Determined to avoid pregnancy-related health conditions that might put myself and my baby at risk, I began limiting how much I ate each day. Miserable, I would avoid food to prevent further scolding from my doctor. After cutting down the amount of food I had daily, I made the decision to see a nutritionist.

When I informed the nutritionist of my pre-pregnancy weight, she made no effort to hide her disgust. I felt ashamed of myself and my body, and I explained that I was there to save my health. But when she checked out my vitals, she realized that despite my weight gain, everything seemed healthy. It became evident that my risk for potential weight-related complications was nearly nonexistent. And then the nutritionist told me what I was really at risk for: long-term body changes.

“If you keep gaining weight, it will be too difficult for you to return to your pre-pregnancy size,” she explained. I was livid. I was in a constant state of hunger and depression because I was told my health was in jeopardy, when the entire time, all the body-shaming I’d been receiving from my doctor was about fat, not fitness.

But that didn’t stop the fear from kicking in, anyway: What if I didn’t go back to “normal?”

By the last two weeks of my pregnancy, I had gained nearly 70 pounds despite my daily walks around the office and my modified eating habits. I needed a plan to avoid carrying this weight forever.

From the day I gave birth, I became obsessed. “Surely they aren’t correct in saying I could never get back to my old size,” I thought to myself. But that would be the least of my worries.

Breastfeeding was a struggle. My son didn’t learn to latch until he was nearly a month old, and I was constantly in a state of fear he didn’t have enough food. Between the normal new mom anxiety and my fears connected to my son’s health issues and pumping milk, I was a wreck.

I was also determined to prove my doctors wrong and return to my pre-pregnancy weight. It helped that I was so stressed from trying to figure out my new sleep schedule that I didn’t make time to eat. I was lucky if I had a full meal and a snack in one day.

“You look so thin,” people around me would gush, ooh-ing and aah-ing over my rapid weight loss. They meant it as a compliment. They had no idea what it was costing me.

Instead of resting to conserve my energy, I continued on the path to self-destruction. From six weeks postpartum to about 10 weeks, I would accompany my friend to the gym six days a week. It didn’t take long before I was exhausted.

In the beginning, I saw it as a good thing — I had lots of fat to spare and missing a few meals wouldn’t hurt anything. Many of the people who had been critical of my weight gain congratulated me on losing weight so quickly. I was excited to have proven the naysayers wrong and spent lots of time in the mirror. But when my milk supply began to decrease and I hardly had the strength to make it down the hallway, it became evident I was doing something wrong.

It was around this time that I noticed the “wow you lost weight so fast” comments were vastly outnumbered by “Are you eating at all? You are starting to look sick.” Something had to change. By that point, I had gotten tired of obsessing over fitting into my pre-pregnancy clothes. More than anything, I was sick of feeling weak.

One of the first steps I took to regain control over my health was to speak to a nutritionist about the importance of three or more high-nutrient meals. Discussing my habits with her made it clear that not eating regularly enough was hurting me. I quit going to the gym and decided to focus on my nutritional health. There is no number on the scale that is worth the energy loss that was beginning to prevent me from enjoying my family.

Recently, I returned to the gym. Instead of being preoccupied with my weight, I work out in spurts of 30 minutes to an hour to improve my overall fitness — it’s for health, not size. These days, I understand that the numbers on the scale aren’t as important as being healthy and strong. What’s more, I’ve learned to never, ever comment on another person’s size ever again.

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Rochaun Meadows-Fernandez is a writer and lifelong learner. She specializes in topics that relate to sociology, health, and parenting. Her work has appeared in Healthline, Yes! Magazine, WhattoExpect, ForHarriet, and many other publications. To read more from her, see her writer’s page on Facebook, follow her on Twitter and check out her website.

We’re total sneaker heads over here, so we’re uber excited for what spring has to offer in the shoe department. It appears spring 2025 is brimming with fresh sneakertrends that embrace all things colorful and retro – a power combo! If you’re looking to step up your ‘fits with something a lil’ bit different on your feet, this season’s kicks are anything but basic.

Scroll on to see the 4 sneaker trends set to dominate spring 2025!

1. Pink Sneakers

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Gola Elan Sneakers

Pink sneakers are popping off this spring, ranging from pastels to bold, hot pink shades. They’re the perfect sneakers to snag if you’re seeking a seasonal pop of color!

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Puma Palermo Sneakers

For a playful feel, wear hot pink kicks with an all-black outfit to make them stand out. For a more femme look, wear some pastel pink sneakers with light-wash jeans and a flowy white top.

2. Retro Track Sneakers

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Onitsuka Tiger Mexico 66 Sneakers

Inspired by vintage running shoes from the ‘70s and ‘80s, retro track sneakers are definitely on the come-up. Brands are continuing to bring a mix of nostalgia and sporty aesthetics to the forefront, and we couldn’t love it more!

Saucony

Saucony Trainer 80 Sneakers

These sneaks are not only stylish, but practical, too! Seek out a comfy pair with some chic suede detailing or bold color blocking. Whether you pair ‘em with wide-leg trousers for a vintage-inspired outfit or biker shorts for a lax weekend look, a good set of bold retro sneakers will undeniably turn heads your way.

3. Hiking Sneaks For The Street

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Keen Jasper Zionic Sneakers

We’re starting to spot hiking-inspired sneakers on the street more and more. Technical shoe brands like Keen and Salomon have styles that are both functional and fashionable!

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Salomon XT-6 Sportstyle Sneakers

With rugged soles, durable materials, and utilitarian designs, these shoes provide unmatched comfort, too. To give your ‘fits a sportier vibe, try hiking sneakers with cargo pants and a fitted tank top. For added contrast, certain styles also look ahh-mazing with mini dresses and denim jackets!

4. Sneaker Charms

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Free People Shoe Charm & Pin Pack

Customizing your look is key in 2025 – so sneaker charms let you infuse your kicks with personality! From pearls and pendants to lace and beads, you can truly find sneaker charms of all kinds… or make your own!

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Dolce Vita Notice Lace Sneakers + Gold Charm Bundle

Shoe charms also work well beyond sneakers. You can easily tack them onto boots or loafers!

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As far as I'm concerned, 2024 was Daisy Edgar-Jones' year. The Normal People actress captured our hearts with her role as Kate in Twisters (as well as her viral Hot Ones interview with Glen Powell and "Apple" TikTok dance). But while Kate led a pretty adventurous life, her risk threshold is nothing compared to Daisy's newest character, Muriel, in On Swift Horses.

Living in post-Korean War California, Muriel's life with her husband Lee is disrupted when Lee's brother Julius arrives in all his addictive, charming glory. The film, based on Shannon Pufahl's 2019 book of the same name, made its world premiere at the Toronto International Film Festival on September 7. Here's everything you need to know.

What is On Swift Horses about?

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On Swift Horses Plot

Muriel begins a new life with her husband Lee when he returns to California from the Korean War. But the life they're building together — and their future — changes forever when Lee's brother Julius, a headstrong gambler, arrives. Julius is attractive, charismatic, and hiding plenty of secrets.

According to the official synopsis, "when Julius takes off in search of the young card cheat he’s fallen for, Muriel’s longing for something more propels her into a secret life of her own, gambling on racehorses and exploring a love she never dreamed possible."

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The story explores LGBTQ+ identity and desire in the 1950s, but does so with a hopeful tone rather than a devastating one. “The first scenes that we filmed were the scenes we had together, so we got all of that done with—when we were apart, we had put the groundwork in,” Daisy tells Vanity Fair of working with Jacob, who adds, "I believe Taylor Swift calls it an invisible string.”

"I loved the connection between gambling and risk-taking, and pushing the boundaries of her desire and what she’s looking for,” Daisy adds. “Muriel’s rebellion throughout the film is quite quiet, in the small ways in which she takes back her power by concealing things. A lot of what’s happening is behind closed doors.”

Who's in the cast of On Swift Horses?

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On Swift Horses Cast

On Swift Horses stars Daisy Edgar-Jones, Jacob Elordi, Will Poulter, Sasha Calle, and Diego Calva.

"It's not hard to make chemistry with Jacob because he's just so charismatic," Daisy said during a Q&A, via People, adding that the script "felt almost like reading poetry and so much of what happens is in the subtext."

"This movie is just about love,” Calle added. “It’s important to just feel that — whoever that might be, where that takes you. It’s important to feel that and to feel safe in it.”

Has On Swift Horses been released?

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On Swift Horses Release Date

On Swift Horses premiered at the Toronto International Film Festival on September 7, and is currently looking for a distributor. Check back here for news on its release date!

Watch The Teaser Trailer For 'On Swift Horses'

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As charming as Julius appears in the teaser trailer, his brother Lee tells Muriel they live differently than he does. "He's just not like us," he says before a scene cuts to Muriel exploring her own "passions." Based on this, On Swift Horses appears to blur the lines of love, lust, secrets, and recognizing one's identity.

Read up on Andrew Garfield and Florence Pugh's We Live In Time, which also premiered at TIFF last year!

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This post has been updated.

The 2000s were a wild time for movies. It was an era of debatable fashion, even more questionable humor, and films that, looking back, we can't believe ever made it past a pitch meeting.

While certain movies from this nostalgic period remain classics, others haven't aged very well. Whether they're filled with problematic tropes or outdated stereotypes, here are the 10 cringey 2000s movies that wouldn't stand a chance in Hollywood today.

Scroll to see all the super cringe 2000s movies we wouldn't see today...

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1. Twilight (2008)

When Twilight premiered in 2008, it became an instant sensation and sparked a cultural obsession with supernatural romance. However, while it left an undeniable mark on pop culture, this film has some major underlying issues.

Once viewed as swoon-worthy, Bella and Edward's relationship feels problematic in hindsight. He was controlling, exhibited stalker-like behavior, and gaslit her into believing that she imagined his supernatural abilities.

Add in the fact that Edward is technically over a century old when Bella is a high schooler, and it's clear why Twilight might not resonate with audiences the same way in 2025.

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2. Knocked Up (2007)

Directed by Judd Apatow, Knocked Up was initially well-received despite heavily leaning on outdated gender stereotypes. The movie follows responsible and career-driven Alison, who is forced to navigate an unplanned pregnancy with slacker Ben.

Even though Knocked Up delivers plenty of laughs, it also portrays women, especially Alison, as rigid and joyless. Katherine Heigl, the lead actress, criticized this, too, saying the film "Paints the women as shrews, as humorless and uptight, and it paints the men as lovable, goofy, fun-loving guys."

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3. Norbit (2007)

This movie might've showcased Eddie Murphy's ability to transform into multiple characters, yet Norbit is still more cringeworthy than comedic. The portrayal of Rasputia, an over-the-top and domineering woman whose character is built around fat-shaming jokes, is particularly offensive.

Moreover, Murphy also plays Mr. Wong, a wildly stereotypical caricature of an elderly Chinese man.

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4. Shallow Hal (2001)

Shallow Hal may have set out to deliver a message about inner beauty, but it really missed the mark. Again, this film relies on fatphobic humor, with Gwyneth Paltrow's character serving as the target of the jokes.

It arguably reinforces stereotypes about weight and attractiveness, and Gwyneth (who wore a fat suit) actually called the movie a "disaster" in 2020.

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5. White Chicks (2004)

Featuring over-the-top humor and absurd disguises, White Chicks was a hit in 2004. Nonetheless, it's a tired portrayal of women as materialistic, shallow, and obsessed with their looks.

The premise involves two FBI agents posing as socialites during a Hamptons weekend, and it was always meant to be ridiculous. Even so, there are certain scenes that are especially questionable, like when an athlete at the club attempts to spike a woman's drink.

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6. Brüno (2009)

Brüno was intended to be a bold satire, Sacha Baron Cohen's specialty, but it crosses the line of edgy humor. He plays an exaggerated, flamboyant Austrian fashion journalist, and the mockumentary was meant to expose homophobia.

Despite that, the movie incorporated a lot of outdated gay stereotypes and might've reinforced the notions as opposed to challenging them. In fact, Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation (GLAAD) representative Rashad Robinson called the work "problematic in many places and outright offensive in others."

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7. Wedding Crashers (2005)

Wedding Crashers revolves around two men who lie their way into weddings to manipulate women into sleeping with them. At its core, the film's plot is unsettling and questionable.

Aside from that, it features gay stereotypes, a racist grandmother, and scenes that blur the lines of consent. All that being said, t's obvious why this movie wouldn't fly today.

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8. The Notebook (2003)

The Notebook is still one of the most favored romance movies of all time, so this may be an unpopular opinion, but some of its most iconic moments are more disturbing than anything.

There's no denying that Noah and Allie's love story is passionate, but his relentless pursuit of her is borderline manipulative. Remember when he threatened to let go of the Ferris wheel if she didn't go on a date with him?

Plus, once they actually get together, their relationship is filled with constant fighting, including scenes when Allie hits Noah. Female-on-male violence has traditionally been glossed over in films, but today, Hollywood is moving away from these problematic depictions.

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9. How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days (2003)

This movie follows advice columnist Andie Anderson, played by Kate Hudson, who wants to write an attention-grabbing piece. She finds Ben Berry, an advertising executive who's arguably creepy and manipulative.

While How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days may be a classic rom-com, it relies on gender stereotypes that can feel more offensive than humorous now.

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10. Mean Girls (2004)

Finally, we can't forget about Mean Girls, one of the most iconic teen comedies of the 2000s. Sure, it's filled with endlessly quotable lines and a sharp take on high school cliques, but it also has relentless body-shaming.

Many of the scenes would hit differently in today's more body-positive era, making Mean Girls a more cringey watch in 2025.

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