6 'Gilmore Girls' Moments That Prove Rory Took Lorelai For Granted

She Believes In Second Chances

Lorelai is pretty vocal about how she thinks growing up with Richard and Emily Gilmore left her feeling stifled. So it's no surprise she encourages Rory to make her own decisions based on her own opinions. Does Rory end up making some pretty wild mistakes? Yes. But is Lorelai always there to help Rory figure out what happens next? Also yes.

One of my favorite moments comes from season 6, when Lorelai writes a letter encouraging Rory to give Logan another chance. Even though Lor and Logan don't necessarily get along, Lorelai understands that falling in love is "elusive and all-encompassing," and is a firm believer in second chances.

That's why when Lorelai tells Rory "when you fall under [love's] intoxicating spell, you have little recourse but to live out its devices. If you love this boy, maybe you want to give it another chance?" it's even more impactful.

Lorelai Always Comforts Rory, Even When She Messes Up

Both Gilmore girls are far from perfect, but one of their shining attributes is that, except for The Fight in season 5, they're always there for each other. And that includes when Rory messes up. At the end of season 4, Rory loses her virginity to Dean, who's still married to Lindsay. After a brief fight, Rory runs outside to call Dean, but breaks down in tears when Lindsay answers the phone. Lorelai tries to comfort her and get Rory to come back inside to talk, but Rory's the one who runs away.

Lorelai in no way excuses Rory's behavior, but the fact that she's willing to sideline the disagreement for a moment to make sure Rory's okay shows that her top priority is, and always will be, taking care of her daughter.

She's Confident & Unashamed

We recently broke down all the reasons Lorelai is Brat Summer personified, and her attitude is just another reason to love her. Not only does her perseverance, optimistic hope, and dedication pave the way for professional achievements like The Dragonfly Inn, but it's also a shining light for the whole series.

As someone whose personality is more similar to Rory's, every time I rewatch Gilmore Girls, Lorelai teaches me something new about what it means to be unashamedly myself. She reminds me just how fun it is to celebrate the quirkiest parts of myself, and her confidence makes me feel like I can be more confident.

Lorelai Takes Lane Under Her Wing

We've talked at length about how the Gilmore Girls writers could have done so much better with Lane Kim's storyline. Even creator Amy Sherman-Palladino, who wasn't involved with GG season 7, revealed she would have preferred Lane's story turn out different. But one thing I do love about Lane's story is how much she clicks with Lorelai.

Lorelai loves talking with Lane, and giving her guidance when she asks for it. She's more than happy to spend time together, which I think is all Lane really wants from Mrs. Kim. And just like she talks with Rory about books and schools, Lorelai bonds with Lane over music, giving Lane a space to feel creative and inspired. Plus, she even plans Lane's bachelorette party! (Which also goes to show Rory takes Lane for granted too...)

Rory and Lane are both incredibly independent women, but it never hurts to know someone has your back.

She Knows When To Wallow

Whether you're getting over a breakup or you're just having a bad day, I think it's important to know when to wallow (AKA, when to indulge in your comfort foods & comfort TV shows, and let yourself rest). And Lorelai agrees. Knowing how painful heartbreak can be, Lorelai encourages Rory to take it easy after Dean breaks up with her for the first time...but goes along with Rory's productive Saturday list anyway.

And when Rory's finally ready to wallow with a bucket of ice cream? Lorelai kisses her on the forehead and wraps her arms around her (after ordering a pizza, of course).

She Celebrates Simple Moments

And finally, Loreali's ability to turn ordinary life moments into extraordinary memories might just be the best thing about her. This is something my own mom did a phenomenal job of, whether we were having a grand Thanksgiving sleepover on the living room floor or turning a family night into a sushi extravaganza. Lorelai's version of those moments? Turning the first snowfall of the year into a beautiful celebration, embarking on a grand Harvard road trip, and throwing the most epic Sweet Sixteen. And those moments are just as special for us as they are for Rory.