9 Tips to Help You Get Grittier

Alli Hoff Kosik
Jan 25, 2019

From the time we’re kids, we’re taught the value of perseverance. Fall off your bike? Get back on it. Struggle with a spelling test at school? Study harder for the next one. Get into a fight with your BFF on the playground? Come to them the next day ready to try to make things right. If you persevered enough, your parents may have even bought you ice cream. As adults, we’re motivated to power through challenges by other things (though ice cream still works for many of us): success at work, healthy bodies, reciprocal relationships, cozy homes. But that doesn’t make it any easier to stay the course when the going gets tough.

Enter grit, a synonym for perseverance that’s been all the rage in personal development over the last few years. If you’re working on cultivating that stick-to-it attitude, look no further. Nicole Ng of brain training and mental engagement platform Lumosity has nine tips to help you step up your grit game and stay more focused than ever on your goals.

1. Practice. Before you create your specific road map to grittiness, Ng encourages you to wrap your head around a very basic mindset: Grit is a muscle that needs to be exercised. Train your mind to use it and it will feel more natural. Don’t quit on grit just because it feels new to you. That’s what the rest of these tips are for!

2. Make a plan. What kinds of goals do you think will be easier for you to achieve once you’ve achieved more grit? Will you be able to more effectively climb your way to the top of the ladder at work? Will you finally be able to run that half marathon that you’ve been considering for years? Get specific about what you’d like to accomplish with grit on your side. This will encourage you to persevere.

3. Celebrate small wins. With your big goals in mind, it’s time to establish the smaller milestones that will let you know you’re on the right track. Maybe it looks like positive feedback from your supervisor or going for a run without feeling totally out of breath. When you know what small wins you’re looking for, you’ll be more likely to celebrate them, which will inspire you to dig in and keep chipping away at your bigger picture aims.

4. Build your tribe. If you want to be truly gritty, Ng emphasizes the importance of community and accountability. “Be sure to fill your roster with people who share your attitude toward growing and have similar passion but [have] different expertise,” she says. “You can make big strides with teammates who approach problems as opportunities, and just as important, they will make good accountability buddies.” Make a habit of scheduling check-in times with these people so they can see how you’re doing on the path to your goals.

5. Give yourself mental space. “Grit requires passion and long-term effort, but awareness of timing is important,” Ng tells us. “Pushing yourself full-force 100 percent of the time leaves you susceptible to burnout, so identifying when you need to scale back or take a time-out will help keep you on track.” Don’t be afraid to take a hot minute away from the hustle. It doesn’t make you any less gritty — it just makes you aware that your brain needs time to breathe if it’s going to persevere and be successful.

6. Be playful and purposeful. Enjoy the process of pursuing your goals. Cultivating curiosity along the way is key. If you’re chasing that big promotion at work, spend time researching your industry and figuring out what matters to you about your business outside of the specific tasks that cross your desk. If you’re working on becoming a long-distance runner, shake up your route so you can check out new sights or treat yourself to new workout gear so you feel your best at all times.

7. Realize that setbacks are part of the process. Grit is all about establishing a mindset of growth, according to Ng. You may experience challenges along the way, but that doesn’t mean that your goal is out of your reach. It just may not have happened for you yet.

8. Embrace the fail. “People with a growth mindset seek out environments that have adversity built into them, even though environments and situations with novel challenges typically come with setbacks,” Ng says. “It’s important to recognize and value the opportunity that comes with failure: learning.” Stepping out of your comfort zone and putting yourself in situations that make you prone to failure will cultivate grit and make you that much more grateful when you do experience success.

9. Never quit in a valley. It’s tempting to give up at a low point, but it’s not going to gain you any grit points. Working hard at moving past those low points will help you get grittier and will encourage you to develop some coping mechanisms too. “Understand your own way of making it through the valleys,” Ng tells us. “What type of help do you need? Why type of perspective is helpful? How long does it take you to climb out? Practicing moving through failure is a great way to practice grit.”

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6 Subtle (& Obvious) Signs You Grew Up In A "Dysfunctional Family"

Everyone deals with family issues, but some people had more dysfunctional childhoods than others. Are there ways to tell? According to family psychologist Caitlin Slavens of Mamapsychologistsand therapist Rachel D. Miller, Ph.D., LMFT of Hold The Vision Therapy, yes!

Slavens says, "As a family psychologist, I’ve seen how growing up in a dysfunctional family leaves its mark. Sometimes the signs are glaring, like obvious chaos or neglect." However, she said the signs can also be "more subtle" being that they're "things you don’t even realize were 'off' until you’re older." You may even "start noticing patterns in yourself or your relationships" if you've become retrospective, according to her.

Here are all the subtle signs you grew up in a dysfunctional family

1. You're never sure what kind of mood your parents will be in before you walk in the living room or kitchen.

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Let's put this on record: parenting is tough — especially on top of trying to maintain a work-life balance. But, this doesn't mean you're meant to be unsure of what to expect every time you come around your parents. If you have to "'read the room'" a lot "before speaking," Slavens indicates this is one of the more subtle signs of dysfunction.

This is where you may have learned how to become passive-aggressive if that's something you struggle with. The reason for this is because "clear and direct communication is avoided and/or seen as bad or aggressive," according to Dr. Miller.

2. You tend to feel like you're constantly compared to and in competition with your siblings.

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My heart truly wants to believe this isn't intentional behavior from parents, but I can't say I haven't heard people talk about feeling like they'd never measure up to the 'golden child' of their family. You may have felt insecure about your grades, the college you chose to go to, your career goals, or even your physical appearance. Slavens says this "struggle with self-worth or second-guessing yourself constantly" is yet another sign that your family's dynamic wasn't the healthiest.

Also, Dr. Miller says this could've caused you to learn to "shrink yourself in the presence of loved ones." Even worse, you may "feel the need to hide pieces of yourself in order to be loved and accepted."

3. There was constant yelling and screaming during arguments, making you fearful of disagreements or hardships.

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If you grew up in a home where arguments always led to screaming and yelling, chances are you're not a fan of loud voices or hard moments. Honestly, Slavens says it's not hard to believe that "conflict make you anxious, even when it’s minor." Unsurprisingly, you may have become a referee during these arguments and currently find yourself being a mediator in your platonic or romantic relationships. Why?

Dr. Miller says, "You constantly feel the need to manage everyone else’s emotions often at the cost of your own needs and wellbeing." You know, to keep the peace.

Here are some more obvious signs you grew up in a dysfunctional family

4. You had to take on a parental role when one of your parents decided to stop being an adult.

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I imagine that having an emotionally immature parent is one of the most aggravating and stressful things to deal with. Not only that, but you may have had to help keep the household afloat. You may have had to get a job or two to help pay bills, listening to an adult conversation as your mom or dad laid their problems at your young feet, and more!

If you "family roles were flipped" and you "maybe had to parent your own parents," Slavens says this is a form of emotional dysfunction.

5. You weren't allowed to go anywhere with your friends because your parents wanted to keep an eye on you at all times.

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Slavens says boundaries that "didn't exist" or "were rigid and controlling" is a sign your home was a little...interesting. Being concerned about your whereabouts is one thing, but it's another when you're unable to do anything without your parents' eagle-eyes on you. Something as simple as going to the mall with your friends may have become a lecture about the dangers of shoplifting or car wrecks. Again, these are valid concerns but they shouldn't be treated like the verbal form of doom scrolling.

6. You consistently witnessed one of your parents abuse alcohol or drugs at home.

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This is a tough because substance abuse is so prevalent in varies socioeconomic statuses and communities. From the functioning alcoholic to the one who becomes belligerent after they've had too much to drink, it always affects those around them. Slavens says if "there was ongoing neglect, substance abuse, or verbal/physical aggression," your home probably didn't safe.

I recognize some of these signs of a dysfunctional family. But that doesn't mean they're affecting my current relationships, right?

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I hate to break it to you, but it's possible your childhood wounds have shown up before. "Dysfunctional dynamics don’t stay in childhood — they tend to creep into how you connect with others," says Slavens. Similarly, Dr. Miller agrees that "we typically repeat what we learned at home with our families in our other relationships." How?

"This includes the beliefs and rules we follow, often completely subconsciously, about what can and can’t talk about and why, as well as what emotions are allowed to be expressed, who can express them and how, and how we should or must respond to those people and their emotions," explains Dr. Miller.

Another way to look at this is how Slavens has outlined it:

In Platonic Relationships:

  1. Overextending yourself to please others, even at your own expense
  2. Feeling like you have to "earn your friends' affections.
  3. Avoiding vulnerability because it feels unsafe.

In Romantic Relationships:

  1. Struggling to trust your partner or feeling overly suspicious
  2. Repeating patterns like dating people who are emotionally unavailable or controlling.
  3. Feeling overly responsible for your partner's happiness — or relying on them for yours.

OMG! How do I unlearn habits from my dysfunctional family?

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Honestly, everyone has a few bad habits they've carried from their childhood to adulthood. You're not an outlier because some things weren't 100% normal so I don't want you to feel like you're a failure for not having having it all together. "Dysfunction doesn’t have to define your future relationships," Slavens assures. Dr. Miller says you can start to unlearn things "that aren't working for you anymore" by "gathering your family's larger context to gain insight into how and why, for them, the behaviors make sense."

By taking a look at your family's "history and larger social and political contexts" gives you a chance to "see them as whole people with full lives," she says. Once you do that, she believes "you can examine what pieces make sense for you to keep and what parts you'd like to learn to do differently." Her other suggestion? Don't forget you're ability to utilize a "therapist who works systemically, like an LMFT" who "can be a huge support in this process."

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Slavens' tips include the following:

  1. Practice self-awareness: Notice when a response feels automatic — like people-pleasing or shutting down during conflict — and ask yourself, Is this helping me, or is this a leftover habit from the past?
  2. Set boundaries: If your childhood lacked healthy boundaries, learning to say “no” without guilt is a game-changer. Boundaries protect your energy and teach others how to treat you.
  3. Learn healthy conflict skills: If conflict made you feel unsafe growing up, it’s natural to avoid it. But healthy conflict is necessary in relationships. Practice expressing your needs calmly and directly.
  4. Therapy, therapy, therapy: A good therapist can help untangle the messy, “weird” things that got normalized and give you tools to rebuild healthier ways of relating to yourself and others.
  5. Surround yourself with healthier models: Whether it’s friends, mentors, or books/podcasts, seek examples of functional relationships and start observing what feels different.

While you're busy unlearning things, Dr. Miller also wants you to remember something. "Recognize that how your family does something is simply that; how your particular family system figured out and were taught to navigate the world. It isn’t inherently right because you’ve normalized it nor is the way another person or family does it inherently wrong," she says.

Slavens' final thoughts? "It’s not about blaming your family but recognizing how your experiences shaped you — and giving yourself permission to do things differently. You’re allowed to rewrite the script."

Visit the top signs to recognize if you have toxic friends on Brit + Co!

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20 Thoughtful Handmade Gifts That'll Wow Your Loved Ones

Brand-new gift sets, foodie gifts, beauty gifts, and the like are sure to bring joy this year, but if you're planning to give something with a personal twist, handmade gifts are *the* way to go. The possibilities are truly endless when you employ your creativity and craft items that your gift recipients have maybe seen (or received) before – hats, cards, coasters, picture holders, and more await.

Check out these entirely homemade gifts that will spark your next holiday idea! Some components of these handmade gifts can even be thrifted, saving you some cash along the way.

Here are the best handmade gift ideas to give your loved ones this holiday season.

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1. Start simple and make them a personalized card.

Nothing communicates your love, time, and effort behind a gift more than personalized cards. Even if you can’t DIY the gift itself, having a handmade card (with a thoughtful message inside) as a prelude to the unwrapping ritual will touch everyone’s heart. Make sure to craft yours on some hardy cardstock so they feel *extra* special. Peep some of these stellar holiday card ideas for inspiration!

@miascozycorner i inadvertently seem to have to fallen into a purple theme?? #christmascrafts#diychristmasdecor#diychristmasornaments#claycreations#tiktokdiy#christmas♬ original sound - mia 🍒

2. Sculpt some cutie gift toppers.

Handmade gift wrapping elements will also step up your holiday game. These darling little gift toppers that @miascozycorner made out of polymer clay are sure to inspire your own designs! Decorate the shapes you make with paint pens and coat them in Liquitex for durability, then attach them to your gift box or bag using some cute ribbon or yarn.

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3. Use air-dry clay to make picture holders.

Clay is your BFF for making handmade gifts. This idea from @rileyrosestudio lets your giftee display pictures, memories, cards, or even recipe cards in the form of their favorite food! Go for a trendier take by sculpting an olive or tomato out of air-dry clay, or opt to craft something as intricate as a burger or pizza slice – no matter what shape it is, they’re sure to love it. Riley usesgesso to prime her air-dry clay pieces, then an acrylic sealant to make sure those lovely designs stay put.

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4. Make an orange garland for them.

A dried orange garland takes an entire day (and sometimes more) to make, so your recipient should definitely feel special knowing you put hours of love into this handmade gift. Though they look intricate, you only need to follow a few steps (and have few materials: orange slices, twine, and a thick yarn needle) to achieve the cozy garland. Luckily, there are tons of citrus garland tutorials on social media to assist in your creation. B+C Creative Assistant, Meredith, tied cutie little pink ribbon bows on her homemade garland.

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5. Craft a candle holder using clay.

You could use a pottery kitlike these convenient ones to make anything, really, but this wavy candelabra from @modeletto.store will make one of the most unique handmade gifts! Don’t forget to *also* gift somecandlesticks alongside it.

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6. Make coasters out of air-dry clay and gift them alongside thrifted glassware.

To make some handmade coasters, roll out some air-dry clay, let it dry, and coat it with gesso before you get to painting! The canvas is yours with this gift idea, but here are a few concepts to get the creative juices flowing: smiley faces, rainbows, spirals, initials, and fruits or vegetables. Ensure that your hard work stays in place with a sealant that’ll repel moisture. Some thrifted glassware pieces to give alongside your handmade coasters would be the absolute cherry on top!

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7. Create a collage out of old magazines.

Magazines are really not hard to come by, and if you're looking for a sustainable gift, you can find some especially unique ones at re-sell bookstores or thrift stores to make your own collage. Some of the best ones to start with are Vogue and National Geographic. There are a lot of different techniques and themes you could run with, so we recommend doing some visual research on Pinterest beforehand to nail down your collage's concept. Maybe it's full of imagery that reminds you of your relationship, or a jumble of words that form a sweet poem – it's really up to you! Just have glue, an X-Acto knife, and a cutting board on-hand for the process. Complete this artsy handmade gift by signing your work and framing the collage in a nifty frame.

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8. Thread a handmade necklace using thrifted or secondhand beads.

Got a necklace you don’t love? Deconstruct that baby using small wire cutters or scissors so that you can use the leftover beads and charms to make something entirely new! If you don’t have them on-hand already, you will need some beading cord, bead clamps, jump rings, clasps, and pliers.

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9. DIY your very own body care line.

Making your own body scrubs or balt salts is *a lot* easier than you’d think. Some recipes only call for ingredients you’d find in your kitchen! Make a range of self-care products at home, then package them up in thrifted jars with ribbon and a handmade tag to really impress.

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10. Repurpose cans and tins by pouring candles into them.

Fish tin candles are in, but you can really use any vessel to pour your own candles in. All you need is some candle wax, wicks, and a scent of your choice to create something super unique! Try your first handmade candle with an empty, clean tinned fish tin, then get adventurous with soda cans or crushed tomato cans to bring out that Tomato Girl energy for your gift recipient.

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11. Make a batch of jam.

If foodie gifts are their thing, then there’s no better item to give than, well, food! We have an amazingly tasty fig jamrecipe, but you can take the reins on what fruity flavor you’ll whip up. This is a convenient handmade gift, too, because the result won’t go bad or spoil before the big day.

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12. Make a batch of spice mix.

In the same vein of shelf-stable foodie-snacky gifts, spice mixes are always a good idea, and really easy to make at home. Mix together some cajun seasoning, all-purpose seasoning, ranch, or everything bagel seasoning in no time before packing it up in small thrifted jars to gift!

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13. Make a batch of chili oil.

Chili oil is very buzzy at the moment, but instead of dropping a bag on a single jar, make your own at home to yield a few! Our recipe uses neutral oil, star anise, cinnamon stick, bay leaves, Sichuan peppercorns, salt, chili flakes, garlic and soy sauce.It only takes a moment to make, but you’ll want the mixture to sit for a week or so, that way the nuanced flavors can all sink in. You could even gift a few recipe cards (like these delectable feta fried eggs) alongside a jar, since chili oil is exceptionally yummy on a ton of dishes.

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14. Knit or crochet a hat, scarf, or another garment you know they’d like.

Having knitting and/or crochet skills is invaluable when it comes to gifting season. You can easily find patterns online for creating beanies, blankets, scarves, leg warmers, balaclavas, mittens, and more, so your giftee can stay stylishly warm beyond the holidays in a bespoke garment that *you* made!

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15. Make magnets out of air-dry clay for their fridge.

Again, air-dry clay rules the world of handmade gifts. For a smaller project, make some fridge decorations by painting on air-dry clay shapes. You can make hearts, stars, foods, faces, animals, and more! To make your designs magnetized, super glue some small magnet tabs on the back of them.

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16. Paint a glass bottle with your own design to gift a plant cutting.

You can easily thrift a glass vessel (or use one you already have), paint a unique design on it using glass paint, then fill it with a little bit of water to gift a small plant cutting! This way, you’re giving them a stylish home decor piece along with a heirloom piece of nature that they’ll admire every day as it grows.

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17. DIY an ornament (or a few) for them.

Tree ornaments are 100% on-theme for the holidays, so if you feel a little lost on what to gift, try DIY-ing some ornaments of varying styles! We have some DIYs for punnyones and minimalistones, but there are also a ton of other tutorials on social media that can guide you in the direction you want to take.

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18. Burn a CD full of tracks they’d like.

It may seem a little old-school now, but the gift idea of burning a CD will appeal to every gift recipient that’s old enough to remember portable CD players. They can play it in their car or through their at-home speaker system to jam out. Just grab a pack of blank CDs that come with covers, and let the nostalgic process take you away.

In addition to making your own playlist to gift, you should definitely consider designing an album cover and tracklist for that personalized touch – platforms like Canva are a great option for doing this. The music-lover in your life will surely appreciate the time you took to craft each and every detail of the CD – and maybe they’ll even discover some new tunes along the way!

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19. Bake them a big batch of cookies.

You just can’t go wrong with sweets during the holidays! Whatever form they come in – vegan, gluten-free, paleo – cookies are sure to satisfy your giftee. We have a ton of recipes you could check out (I highly recommend the Taylor Swift chai cookies), but if you already have a method to your madness, whip up whatever dessert recipe you have in mind. Just make sure they’re fairly fresh when you hand them over.

If you don’t have a neat cookie tin on-hand, run to your nearest thrift store. It’s guaranteed that you’ll find a cute one to house your cookies!

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20. Decorate a plant pot with pops of color.

If your gift recipient has a green thumb, it’s not a bad idea to gift them a few plant-related things. Luckily, handmade gifts have a stake in this – just grab a terracotta pot (you can easily thrift one or find one for cheap at the dollar store) and some chalk pens, then decorate the exterior however you like.

To get some ideas flowing, you could include illustrated motifs of your relationship with this person, write their name out in bubble letters, or just doodle random designs. Matching their interior design aesthetic is definitely recommended.

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11 Obvious Signs You’re Actually An Empath, According To A Therapist

You and your friends have likely spent countless hours together, decoding everything from imaginationships to the best comfort shows to watch when you're sad. You've probably even settled into a designated role within the group. Maybe you're the super adventurous one, always suggesting friend date ideas for the group to try, while someone else always knows how to comfort everyone when life gets rough. But, have you ever wondered if you're the most empathetic friend in the group? That's easy, just ask Brianna Paruolo, LCMCH. She's the founder and clinical director of On Par Therapyso she knows how to recognize signs you're an empath, plus how to take care of yourself!

How To Know If You're An Empath

  • Empathy is when "you feel what others are feeling."
  • There are physical, emotional, social, and mental signs that you're an empath.
  • You may be an empath if you get physically exhausted after being in crowds, feel anxious or overwhelmed in emotionally charged environments, feel responsible for other people's happiness, or you find it hard to distinguish your own feelings from someone else's.

Are there really assigned roles in friend groups or am I just imagining things?

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Like I said before, it can seem like you and your friends unintentionally gravitate toward certain 'roles.' It's not like anyone woke up one day and decided, "I'm going to be the 'mother hen' of the group," but it tends to happen. Why?

Paruolo says, "In my clinical work, I've consistently observed that our friendship roles often mirror our early family dynamics. These patterns show up naturally — think about who in your friend group gets the first crisis call, who plans all the gatherings, or who everyone turns to for emotional support." I'm willing to bet you thought of a name for each scenario — including yours — because I know I did!

"Like in families, we each fall into specific roles that feel familiar to us," Paruolo further explains.

What actually makes someone an empathetic person?

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There's so many definitions for empathy, but I thought it would be wise to ask a licensed professional for her opinion on the matter. "Empathy means to feel what others are feeling. You do not have to have a personal direct experience with something to feel empathy for another person," shares Paruolo.

For example, your friend could call to tell you she has to have fibroid removal surgery and is feeling scared. You may have never had surgery, but you could find yourself feeling the need to comfort her in spite of this. Paruolo says, "The cool thing about our brains is that we have mirror neurons, which means part of our brain is set up to feel what others feel. The ability to attune to others' emotional states comes naturally to some people, while others may need to develop this capacity more consciously."

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To break it down even further, here's signs that Paruolo says point to your empathetic nature.

Physical Signs:

  • Getting physically exhausted after being in crowds
  • Feeling drained after social interactions, even enjoyable ones (OMG I feel so seen!)
  • Needing extra time alone to recharge

Emotional Signs:

  • Absorbing other people's emotions like a sponge
  • Feeling anxious or overwhelmed in emotionally charged environments
  • Finding it hard to watch violence or cruelty in movies/TV

Social Signs:

  • Feeling responsible for others' happiness
  • Having trouble saying "no" to people who need help

Mental Signs:

  • Picking up on subtle changes in others' moods
  • Being highly attuned to body language and tone
  • Finding it hard to distinguish your feelings from others' feelings

It sounds like I'm the empathetic friend, but are there any downsides to this?

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I've been an empath for as long as I can remember and I've found that I have to 'recharge' my social batteries at times. I thought it was because I was trying to be superwoman by fixing others' problems, but it turns out theres more to it than that. Paruolo says, "Empathetic friends and people have an uncanny ability to sense others' emotional states even when unspoken, and frequently need recovery time after intense social interactions. They tend to be deeply affected by others' experiences and naturally consider situations from multiple perspectives."

In the long run, she says it can be "distressing" for some people to always feel the feelings of others. Over time, she says, "it can cause you to shut down and retract." This can look like not being as quick to respond to the funny memes your friends send you or not even answering their phone calls right away.

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But, this doesn't mean you're the only person who tends to go through this. "Many empaths struggle with maintaining boundaries due to their deep emotional attunement," she says. Color me guilty because this sounds so much like me. It got so bad at one point that my sister nicknamed me 'Captain Save-A-Lot,' which is actually the clean version of what she truly meant. Still, empathy fatigue is no laughing matter nor does it mean you're defected. You just have the natural ability to show people their feelings are important to you.

How can I protect my peace as the empathetic friend?

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You know you need to set boundaries, but what does that mean? Paruolo says, "The key is understanding that empathy needs to be balanced with compassion - it's not just about feeling others' emotions but also knowing how to help without depleting yourself."

One of the things she loves to do is "encourage empaths to set clear boundaries around their emotional availability and make time for regular grounding exercises." As with gratitude journaling, try to focus on an activity that calls for you to be present. Focus on what you can hear, see, touch, taste, and smell.

"Self-care isn't just a luxury; it's essential maintenance for empaths. This might mean scheduling alone time, finding a supportive therapist, or joining communities where you can process your experiences," Paruolo implores.

I know how to be there for others, but how do I ask for emotional support when I need it?

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You may feel like it's impossible to ask others for help since your shoulders are the ones people cry on, but you're only doing yourself a disservice by not speaking up. No one's super resilient or able to handle all of their distressing feelings alone. We're not meant to.

It's the reason Paruolo wants you to speak up about what you need. "The most effective approach I've seen is being direct about your needs rather than hoping others will figure them out," she says. I made this mistake during postpartum and found myself expecting my family & friends to know exactly how I felt, but they're not mind readers. The more I verbally asked for help with little or big tasks, the more my mental and emotional load lightened.

Paruolo wants you to look at "asking for support as strengthening your friendships through trust and vulnerability, instead of waiting until you're overwhelmed." By the time you reach that point, you'll be ready to enter rage or full-blown shut down mode and they're not fun.

Avoid unlocking their proverbial doors by scheduling "regular check-ins with trusted friends," suggests Paruolo. "This creates a sustainable support system and helps prevent emotional crisis points.

We have even more self-care stories for you to dive into if you need a mental and emotional boost!

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'The Summer I Turned Pretty' Season 3 Might Not Be The Final Chapter

We don't have word on whether The Summer I Turned Pretty season 3 will be the final installment of the hit Prime Video show, but one Prime Video executive just teased we could be returning to Cousins Beach even after the credits roll on the final season 3 episode. So even though there are only three books in Jenny Han's original series, it looks like we could be getting a whole TSITP universe! Anybody up for The Winter I Turned Pretty? I'm crossing all my fingers and toes that we get to see more of Belly, Jeremiah, and Conradsooner rather than later!

Here's everything we know about Jenny Han's potential The Summer I Turned Pretty spinoff.

Jenny Han & Prime Video are already developing even more 'The Summer I Turned Pretty' stories.

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The Summer I Turned Pretty has become an irreplaceable part of pop culture, and its focus on the relationships between its characters (rather than magic or treasure hunts) helps it stand out among other teen dramas. “This show is going to continue to be a huge centerpiece for us," Vernon Sanders, Amazon and MGM Studios' head of television, told Deadline in September 2023. "We absolutely have plans to continue building it. Jenny’s got great vision for where she wants to go with all of it, but we’re already hard at work developing complementary pieces."

Okay, I'm going to need more info on what "complementary pieces" could mean, like, ASAP! Maybe we'll see what Belly's life looks like after college? Or even what the future looks like after book 3, We'll Always Have Summer, ends? But no matter how Jenny Han expands the universe, I know I'll be tuning in.

"Jenny’s got some exciting surprises," Vernon continues. "So we’re thrilled about a Season 3, and she’s got a vision for more." And you know what, Vernon? We'll take more.

Is there a The Summer I Turned Pretty season 4?

Prime Video hasn't confirmed whether The Summer I Turned Pretty season 3 will be the last season, but Gavin Casalegno did tease that the cast feels like they're wrapping up. "I think everyone is excited for season 3," he told Entertainment Tonight. "To finish the story — at least what Jenny's vision is — I think that'll be super fun."

Does that mean a new visionary could step in for another season? Never say never! Since Jenny has "vision" for a story beyond season 3, I'm hoping we could get a The Summer I Turned Pretty season 4 that tells a whole new story beyond the books.

'The Summer I Turned Pretty' season 3 has already delivered some surprises.

And while we wait for word on the new potential The Summer I Turned Pretty spinoff, I do have good news for you: The Summer I Turned Pretty season 3 is going to have 3 extra episodes! That's right, instead of 7 or 8 episodes like the first two seasons did in 2022 and 2023, season 3 is going to have 11 episodes total.

I miss when TV seasons had 22 episodes, but I will definitely take 11 over 8. And Jenny Han recently teased that every single moment in season 3 will count when she posted on Instagram (via US Weekly), “One thing I’ll say about season 3 of [The Summer I Turned Pretty]…there are no filler episodes.”

That means we'll have to pay attention to every single moment of the series (which I was doing already, TBH) because you won't want to miss a single detail.

Read up on You Know The 3 Beverage Rule. Here's The 3 TV Show Rule. for more pop culture musings.

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Your January 2025 Horoscope Brings Your Luckiest Month Yet

Happy (almost) New Year to you, and may 2025 cultivate your hopes and dreams! We begin January 2025 with punchy-yet-inspiring cosmic events that can help you start your year on the right foot. All thanks to Capricorn Season, we will unearth determination and ambition but take things slow as the motivation planet, Mars, continues its retrograde motion. Burnout will ensue, and this isn’t an ideal period to force your ideas or goals. Take this as an opportunity to practice patience. Slow and steady is a perfect approach. Have trust in the Universe. Let’s explore how the stars will orchestrate our paths this month. Keep reading for extended intel into your sun, moon, and rising signs, and prepare to take on January confidently.

Here's everything you need to know about your January horoscope for 2025!

​What to Expect in Your January Horoscope for 2025

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January starts with the love planet Venus, phasing into the sign of dreamy and ethereal Pisces on January 2. Love will be dreamy—and it can unleash the hopeless romantic in all of us. This can ascend or dissolve your love story as this energy reveals the importance of compassion and mutual understanding in relationships. Selfless acts can only take you so far, and keeping your energy in check would be in your best interest. Any feelings of exhaustion and uncertainty are the sign of observing your relationship. Make room for adjustments as needed. Speaking of relationships, Mars, the other love planet that rules sex, backspins into the sign of Cancer on January 6. Remember that Mars retrograde is still underway, and it's extending lessons that involve patience and steadiness. With Venus and Mars in the water signs, we cannot help but feel aligned with our hearts and souls. Impulsivity and emotional extremities are a no-go. Take a step back and hold space for unresolved feelings. This period is essential for us to find safety and solace in love.

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Luckily, our thoughts and ideas will begin to make sense as Mercury, the messenger planet, enters Capricorn on January 8. Our messages will be clear and concise. So, if you have been feeling a bit misty and unable to form your ideas since last month’s Mercury retrograde, expect the fog to begin to lift. You have the green light to brainstorm ideas or develop plans.

Something magical is about to begin. The North Node (AKA the point of destiny) officially shifts into the sign of watery Pisces on January 11. The last time the north node was in this position was in 2006! Think back to this time in your life and observe your standing that involves healing and self-compassion. For these next 18 months, this will be our chance to begin taking stock of being truthful and understanding of others. It’s time to align with your truth while making peace from the past.

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Mid-month, the Full Moon takes place in the sign of Cancer alongside Mars in a close degree on January 13. This interchange can bring up feelings of impatience and frustration involving stagnant results. Remember that slow and steady wins the race. Full Moons are an incredible outlet for rest and letting go of things beyond your control. This Full Moon will be a wake-up call and a test of your will to be at peace with yourself no matter where you are in your journey.

Expect to feel a breath of fresh air or a burst in your bubble as the Sun enters Aquarius on January 19. Tangible results will shape you as you observe your position in society and friendships. Luckily, Pluto, in alignment with the Sun, will enable you to look at the bigger picture involving your aspirations and how you can optimize your energy for your greater well-being. It's time to either clear out or evolve your connections. The messenger planet, Mercury, then progresses into Aquarius on January 27, building traction with our future goals. Ideas may stir quickly these next few weeks, and you may have difficulty keeping up. Jot your ideas down and look back at your notes later. Your messages will take form once Mars goes direct next month.

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This month concludes with the New Moon in Aquarius, which is in a beautiful alignment with Mercury and Pluto, on January 29. This stellar combination will breathe new life and infinite possibilities involving long-term vision. Witness a strength in your voice and will to step forward in complete confidence. This lunation extends this desired support as you let go of old baggage related to past regret or misunderstanding. Don't you think it's finally time to let go? Begin to manifest your dreams and note what has been holding you back from success in the past. Visualize your future and observe if your current surroundings support this next step in your path.

Key Dates For Your January Horoscope & Capricorn Season In 2025

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  • Jan 2—Venus enters Pisces
  • Jan 6—Mars enters Cancer (retrograde)
  • Jan 8—Mercury enters Capricorn
  • January 11—North Node phases into Pisces
  • Jan 13—Full Moon in Cancer
  • Jan 19—Sun enters Aquarius
  • Jan 27—Mercury enters Aquarius
  • Jan 29—New Moon in Aquarius

​Which Four Zodiac Signs Will Experience Changes This January 2025?

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January 2025 will bring incredible changes for four zodiac signs, each experiencing transformative opportunities. Pisces will feel supportive in love while tapping into healing, especially with Venus entering their sign and the North Node shifting into Pisces. The nodal shift offers 18 months of destined-filled moments in alignment with their personal growth and empowerment. Cancer will navigate deep emotional reflections as Mars retrogrades and the Full Moon illuminates the need to learn patience for their emotional healing. January is a time to restore and rejuvenate Cancers. Aquarius will thrive under the Sun and New Moon in their sign this month, unlocking new possibilities and long-term vision, empowering them to manifest their dreams with renewed confidence. Lastly, Capricorn will see its plans become a sharper focus as Mercury enters their sign, granting clarity and momentum for practical advancements in their goals. These signs are set to experience significant shifts, aligning them with their true path in the year ahead.

​Read Your Sun, Moon, & Rising Signs For Your January Horoscope

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Aries (March 21 – April 20)

Theme: Clear the Air

Aries, you're about to enter a complete awakening in how you identify with family and friends. Reviewing your heart and genuine connections with Venus in the twelfth house this month will be of utmost priority. Love will feel hazy, and to find clarity, you must clear out your subconscious and face the uncertainties head-on. With the other love planet, Mars, retrograding your fourth house of home and family, your inner security begins to shake up, and this may be that time for you to explore uncomfortable discussions with loved ones. Talk to a therapist or a coach to help you find an outlet to clear the air involving past misunderstandings. Your work life will speed up as Mercury enters Capricorn in your tenth house. This period will be crucial for building confidence and certainty in your position with the public or your superiors. Develop your pitch and back it up with thorough research. Present your piece later this month when the New Moon in Aquarius powers up your networking sector. The North Node shifting in your twelfth house brings powerful experiences involving your inner life and dreams. These next 18 months will help you build up to a better version of yourself—your spiritual life will level up. Begin writing or developing a sacred practice involving meditation or art. A masterpiece awaits as you prioritize serenity and a quiet space in your daily life. The Full Moon in Cancer in your fourth house will close a chapter with your inner security and beliefs surrounding your family. Review your place in your domestic life or roots. It may be time to move or begin a home renovation. This lunation will reveal the core of your true happiness and the best approach for your family’s wellbeing. By the end of the month, the Sun, Mercury, and the New Moon in Aquarius in your eleventh house will feel like a breath of fresh air as you feel renewed and optimistic about your long-term aspirations. Attend a networking event or begin a group project—you will experience an a-ha moment. It's an auspicious time to discuss with those rooting for your success.

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Taurus (April 21 – May 21)

Theme: Experience Your Wildest Dreams

Taurus, this month will be filled with infinite opportunities, but it will require you to take a chance. Venus, the planet that rules your sign, will beautify your eleventh house of networking and social connections. If you feel called to go public or begin collaborative ventures, you will start to live your wildest dreams as you share your vision! Mars continuing its backspin in your third house will create a snag with communication—but don’t worry, you're more than equipped to power through this challenge. In matters of engagement or expressing ideas, it has to be heart-centered and meaningful. Go with your gut and let down your guard to get your message across. The messenger planet, Mercury in Capricorn in your ninth house, extends publishing or travel opportunities. These next few weeks are all about taking chances and to dream bigger. Don’t settle. Here is the most exciting part of the month as the North Node in Pisces will reside in your eleventh house for the next 18 months. Friendships and social connections will be the focal point in your journey. It will also be serendipitous as you begin to give back to society. Take part in charitable organizations or begin non-profit work—and you will start to witness your dreams taking form. Mid-month, the Full Moon in Cancer in your third house closes the chapter involving an old skill or idea you once thought was a part of your dream. It's either time to complete this endeavor or make peace with letting go. This lunation can also be an excellent opportunity to have unresolved discussions with siblings or immediate family members—talk it out. For the last half of January, the Sun, Mercury, and the New Moon power up your tenth house of career and public image. This is a period to blossom and begin believing in your long-term goal. Discuss your ideas with superiors or take note of how you wish to live out your future dreams—take charge.

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Gemini (May 22 – June 21)

Theme: Analyze Your Energy

Gemini, this is a month of personal and professional transformation and expansion. Experience a boost in your confidence with Venus in your tenth house of career and public life. You will find luck as you boldly express your worth at work. Present that pitch or launch your passion project. However, with Mars retrograde in your second house of finances, it’s crucial to reassess your financial situation and avoid impulsive spending these next several weeks. Learn how to budget and educate yourself on how you can invest effectively. It's time to build a nest egg. Then, Mercury’s move into your eighth house signals deep introspection around intimacy, shared resources, and personal transformation. It's time to get to the bottom of what holds you back from your desired changes. Investigate and observe your energy around your current situation. You will get answers this month. As the North Node enters Pisces, your career path is illuminated these next 18 months, guiding you toward long-term goals and a more meaningful professional journey. Analyze what makes you feel most elevated. That can put you on the right track. The Full Moon in Cancer brings closure or a shift in your financial situation, helping you let go of outmoded beliefs around money and self-worth. By the end of January, with the Sun, Mercury, and the New Moon entering your ninth house, you’ll be drawn to expand your horizons through travel, higher education, and philosophical pursuits. Mercury’s entry into Aquarius encourages you to communicate your vision for the future. At the same time, the New Moon invites you to set intentions for new beginnings, particularly around your long-term goals. Don't hold back and believe in your vision.

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Cancer (June 22 – July 22)

Theme: Choose Your Path

Cancer, January brings a time of personal growth, relationship reflections, and expansive opportunities. With Venus entering your ninth house, your interconnectedness to life will level up. Broaden your horizons by traveling or exploring new methodologies. Seek new experiences that will open your heart and mind while deepening your sense of purpose. Remember, Mars retrograde in your first house beckons you to pause and reflect on your personal goals and how you present yourself to the world. You may experience delays or rethink your direction in life, which could signal a period of self-discovery and reinvention. Relationships will undergo review as Mercury’s move into your seventh house of relationships highlights communication within your partnerships, especially with close friends, your love partner, or business associates. It’s a good time to clear the air, engage in meaningful conversations, and strengthen connections. The North Node shifting into your ninth house sets the stage for growth and possibilities in the next 18 months. This shift will encourage you to explore new ideas, travel, or pursue higher learning. The Full Moon in your sign brings a decisive moment of personal culmination in your first house, illuminating your identity. Self-reflection and designating a quiet time will help you realize what no longer aligns with your well-being. As the Sun and Mercury enter your eighth house later in the month, your focus pivots to deeper, more transformative areas of life, such as intimacy, shared resources, and emotional healing. The New Moon in Aquarius invites you to set intentions around letting go of old emotional baggage and embracing transformation, particularly in your closest relationships. This lunation will allow you to set a new intention to attract powerful changes--take a chance and visualize your desired outcome.

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Leo (July 23 – August 22)

Theme: Clear Yourself

Leo, this month brings a strong focus on how you prioritize your inner needs and relationships. With Venus entering your eighth house of intimacy, shared resources, and transformation, expect to feel a deepened emotional connection or a shift in your approach to intimacy. Nurture your most significant relationships and explore the hidden aspects of yourself and your partnerships. However, with Mars retrograde in your twelfth house, there’s a strong pull toward inner reflection and revisiting past emotional issues or hidden fears. This period encourages you to confront unresolved emotions and heal old wounds, setting the stage for you to do some soul-searching. Mercury’s move into your sixth house brings attention to your daily life and well-being. It’s a great time to organize your work life, improve your health habits, and focus on being more productive. Clear your workspace or start a health detox to get yourself on track. The North Node’s shift into your eighth house brings a long-term focus on vulnerability, your hidden self, and letting go of old patterns that no longer serve you. These next 18 months, you’ll be inspired to explore deeper emotional connections and make necessary changes in your approach to money. The Full Moon shines a light on your twelfth house, bringing closure to a personal or emotional matter lurking in the background. Release work or cord-cutting from unresolved dealings will help you make room for something better. As the Sun, Mercury, and the New Moon move into your seventh house, your attention turns to relationships. This is an ideal time to focus on your closest connections, whether romantic, professional, or personal, and to work on improving communication and balance within them. The New Moon invites you to set intentions for new beginnings in your relationships and to cultivate more meaningful connections.

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Virgo (August 23 – September 21)

Theme: Find Your Center

Virgo, are you ready to witness a complete revelation? January is a month focused on relationships, creativity, and personal growth. With Venus entering your seventh house of partnerships, a desire for harmony and connection in your close relationships (romantic or professional) are in the works. Aligning with your heart by nurturing someone else will power up your purpose. You can begin by engaging in meaningful, heart-centered communication. Mars retrograde in your eleventh house prompts a reassessment of your social networks, friendships, and aspirations. You may encounter delays or disruptions in group dynamics, encouraging you to reflect on which connections support your growth and which no longer align with your ambitions. Mercury in your fifth house brings a boost to your creativity and self-expression. Whether through art, hobbies, or romance, you’ll be encouraged to explore your passions and embrace a lighter, more playful side of yourself. The North Node shifting into your seventh house emphasizes the importance of partnerships in the next 18 months, guiding you toward relationships that manifest deeper connections. The Full Moon in Cancer shines a light on your eleventh house, cultivating a turning point related to your friendships or collective goals. This is a time to let go of outdated connections or redefine your place within a group. As the Sun, Mercury, and the New Moon enter your sixth house of health and work, your focus shifts to improving daily routines, health habits, and overall productivity. This is a great time to reorganize your schedule, set new goals for your well-being, and streamline your work life. The New Moon in Aquarius invites you to set intentions for fresh starts in managing your day-to-day activities and taking better care of yourself.

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Libra (September 22 – October 22)

Theme: Treat Your Body Like A Temple

Time to level up your health, work, and personal creativity, Libra. With Venus, your ruler planet, entering your sixth house of daily routines, health, and work, you’ll strongly desire to bring more beauty and balance into your everyday life. It will be a game changer as you focus on improving your well-being, beautifying your workspace, and creating healthier habits. With Mars continuing its retrograde in your tenth house of career and status, you may experience setbacks or delays in your professional life. Give yourself permission to pause and assess your long-term goals and approach to success, especially in your career and public endeavors. Mercury’s move into your fourth house highlights communication within your home and family life. Addressing any unresolved matters at home or making important decisions regarding your living situation would be ideal. The North Node shifting into your sixth house emphasizes the need to adjust your daily routines, health, and work life over the next 18 months. Focus on making practical and realistic changes that promote balance for your long-term well-being. The Full Moon in Cancer brings a moment of culmination in your tenth house, offering answers to where you stand with your career and its direction. This is a time to reflect on your career achievements and assess whether you’re on the right path. As the Sun, Mercury, and the New Moon illuminate in your fifth house of romance and self-expression, your attention shifts to play, passion, and enjoying life’s pleasures. As the New Moon in Aquarius lights up your romantic sector, it will set the stage for you to begin a new chapter in your love story while igniting your creativity. Book a date night or start a new passion project--the creativity will flow as you prioritize your happiness.

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Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

Theme: Explore Your Inner Child

Expect something new to emerge, Scorpio. January allows you to explore creative expression, personal growth, and home-focused reflection. Luckily, Venus enters your fifth house of love and joyful excursions--and you will feel a second wind to indulge your inner child. Let your hair down and set aside self-criticism no matter where you are in your journey. This is a great time to pursue creative hobbies, self-care, or deepen romantic connections. As Mars continues its backspin in your ninth house of higher learning and personal beliefs, it will bring delays in making sense of the bigger picture. You could find yourself overthinking everything. Just be and take note of what truly inspires you. Mercury's move into your third house brings attention to how you're conveying your message, learning, and your local environment. Engage in small talk, network with neighbors, or focus on local connections while learning something new. You will experience a breakthrough and understanding in time. Something more exciting is in store for you as the North Node’s shift into your fifth house opens doors to explore creativity, self-expression, and your love life these next 18 months. You’ll be drawn to explore your passions and feel things at a deeper yet joyful level. The Full Moon in Cancer highlights your ninth house and turns the tides in matters related to travel, education, or belief systems. You may gain clarity or conclude a long-term goal or pursuit. It's okay to let go and take a different path. As the Sun, Mercury, and the New Moon enter your fourth house of home and family, your attention shifts to your emotional foundations. This is a time to focus on your living situation and find tangible solutions to improve it. The New Moon in Aquarius invites you to set intentions for creating a more stable, nurturing home environment or making changes that support your emotional well-being.

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Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

Theme: Time to Master Adulting

Things are about to get serious this month, Sagittarius. You're ready to fine-tune dealings involving your home life, values, and self-worth. With the love planet Venus entering your fourth house of home and family, you will create a more harmonious, beautiful, and nurturing living space for you and your loved ones. This is an excellent time to make your home feel more comfortable and emotionally sound, whether through redecorating, spending quality time with family, or strengthening your emotional connections. Mars continuing its backspin in your eighth house of merged resources, intimacy, and hidden realms of life will help you check off what you can do to improve these matters. There could be delays or unfinished business related to joint finances, inheritances, or emotional bonds. Hold still and reassess, especially in your intimate connections. Mercury’s move into your second house of money encourages you to focus on your finances, possessions, and what you value most. Work with a financial advisor or learn ways to increase your material security. The North Node shifting into your fourth house emphasizes a long-term focus on your home, family, and emotional well-being over the next 18 months. Stability and taking charge of future investment opportunities in your personal life will be your priority. The Full Moon in Cancer highlights your eighth house, closing a chapter in intimacy-related matters while attracting transformative experiences. Release old emotional baggage or address financial matters that require closure. As the Sun, Mercury, and the New Moon enter your third house of communication, set intentions that involve expanding your mind and engaging more actively with your local environment to attract your soul tribe.

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Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

Theme: Getting Close and Personal

How comfortable are you expressing your feelings, Capricorn? This month, you're in for major changes in your relationships, and talking will be your superpower or kryptonite. With Venus entering your third house of communication, learning, and social connections, you cannot help but be charming and will begin to connect with others on a deeper level. It’s a great time to engage in meaningful conversations, nurture relationships with siblings or neighbors, and explore new ideas. Mars retrograde in your seventh house of partnerships helps you slow down and reflect on your close connections, both personal and professional. You may go through misunderstandings or delays in these areas. Make things right if any blunders occur. Mercury’s move into your first house shines a spotlight on your confidence and ability to share your ideas. Focus on your desires and goals and express your intentions to the world--you got this! The North Node shifting into your third house these next 18 months will empower your voice and ability to grasp new ideas. Becoming comfortable with developing a new skill, learning opportunity, or project. The Full Moon in Cancer brings clarity to your seventh house of relationships. Let go of the past or unhealthy dynamics in your partnerships. It's time to decide whether to stay or go. As the Sun, Mercury, and New Moon enter your second house of finances and personal values, your intentions for fresh starts in your financial situation or approach to building long-term stability will be your central focus. This is your opportunity to cross off any lingering doubts and gain traction for your next steps.

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Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

Theme: Building From the Ground Up

It's time to pay close attention to your foundations, Aquarius. What makes you feel safe? It's a month of financial reflection and self-discovery. With money-attractor Venus entering your second house of finances, values, and self-worth, your material resources and livelihood will improve. Beginning an abundance practice will lead to results, but it starts with you reflecting on your relationship with money and your long-term financial goals. Mars continuing its backspin in your 6th house of health, work, and daily routines will help you observe areas that need improvement. You might find yourself revisiting old work projects or reconsidering your health habits, especially those that have been put on the back burner. Mercury’s move into your twelfth house lights up your subconscious mind and inner world. This is a period for deep reflection, spiritual exploration, and addressing hidden matters that need healing. The North Node’s shift into your second house emphasizes a long-term focus on building financial goals and discovering what truly matters to you over the next 18 months. This is a time to embrace your values and make practical decisions that support your future growth. The Full Moon in Cancer highlights your sixth house, closing a chapter with your work life or daily responsibilities. It's either time to ask for help or to say no if you cannot handle every task. Release old habits and prioritize self-care practices. As the Sun, Mercury, and the New Moon enter your first house of identity, expect your energy to pick up and confidence! It will be a powerful time to set personal goals and embrace a fresh sense of purpose. Set intentions for new beginnings, whether in how you present yourself to the world or your aspirations.

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Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

Theme: Be the Artist of Your Life

Are you ready to live out your full potential, Pisces? January will be magical, with infinite possibilities and creative promise. You are a magnet as Venus enters your first house of identity and personal appearance. You are a living art as you express your unique self. Nurture and beautify yourself--book a hair appointment or update your makeup palette. Venus brings charm and magnetism, making it a great time to shine in social settings and attract positive attention. Mars retrograde in your fifth house of creativity, romance, and self-expression encourages you to revisit past creative projects, hobbies, or relationships. You may experience sluggishness or need to reassess your approach to love and artistic endeavors. Take your time, and don't rush the process. The social networks will energize Mercury’s move into your eleventh house of friendships, goals, and long-term aspirations. Engage more with your community, revisit past goals, or network to further your dreams. The North Node’s shift into your first house creates big changes in personal growth and self-discovery over the next 18 months. It's a time to step into your true identity while igniting the changes that will help you align more with your authentic path. It's your time to shine. The Full Moon in Cancer shines a light on your fifth house of creativity and romance, bringing closure or acceptance to past dealings. You may experience a creative breakthrough or make an important decision about a romantic connection or artistic endeavor. Trust as you let go. As the Sun, Mercury, and New Moon enter your 12th house of spirituality and dreams, your focus shifts inward and stimulates even more inspiration. Try dream journaling or meditation. Remember to rest. Quiet reflection, spiritual growth, and inner work will be medicinal for your energy. Set intentions for a new phase of self-discovery by planting a seed of your dream life. Your manifestation levels up as you let go of the past.

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