How 7 Common Neurodiversity Types Can Shed Light On Your Personality

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What is neurodiversity?

In a sense, we are all neurodiverse. When it comes to what goes on inside our heads, none of us are exactly the same. This was the original meaning of ‘neurodiversity’ when psychologist Judy Singer coined the term back in 1999. However, most people now use the word neurodiversity to say that a person’s mental functioning is in some way different from what society has dictated to be ‘normal’. In the past, the medical model was used with these people; they were seen as suffering from a medical condition or disorder, or from some form of learning deficit or impairment. The concept of neurodiversity replaces this with the idea that there is a range of human characteristics, with some people (the neurotypical) closer to the average of these and others (the neurodiverse or neurodivergent) further from the average.

What are common types of neurodiversity?

There are many different forms of neurodiversity, including for example Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), dyscalculia, dyslexia, dyspraxia (developmental co-ordination disorder) and Tourette's syndrome. Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is also often seen as a form of neurodiversity. Here's a little more on each of these:

  • With Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), people can seem restless, may have trouble with concentration and attention, and/or may act on impulse more than other people. Some people with ADHD are more inattentive (not paying attention to detail, not listening, or paying attention, getting distracted, making mistakes). Some are more hyperactive or impulsive (fidgeting, never staying still, talking too much, interrupting, not staying seated). Many show a combination of the two. While ADHD may affect tasks that involve attention to detail, repetitive tasks, rule following or strict management of time and resources, people with ADHD can be very creative and energetic, and when they are doing a job that they enjoy and find interesting, ‘hyperfocus’, avoiding distractions and producing high-quality and incisive results.

  • With Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), autistic people may act in a different way to other people. They may find it hard to communicate and interact with other people and find it hard to understand how other people think or feel. Some may find things like bright lights or loud noises overwhelming, stressful, or uncomfortable, and get anxious or upset about unfamiliar situations and social events. Some can take longer to understand information while some do or think the same things over and over. Autism represents a spectrum of different behaviors. For most people, not all these issues will apply, and those that do will differ in their impact. Many autistic people can bring a high degree of attention, precision and accuracy to tasks, have in-depth expertise and knowledge in specific areas, and demonstrate a logical, analytical approach.
  • Dyscalculia is a specific and persistent difficulty in understanding numbers which can lead to a diverse range of difficulties with mathematics. Those with dyscalculia may also have trouble understanding shapes, distance, or volume, or have difficulty with time, directions, recalling schedules, sequences of events, or financial planning. People with dyscalculia often see situations in a holistic way, leading to effective strategic decisions and creative problem-solving. They often have a great love of words and a high degree of practical ability.
  • Dyslexia is when people may read and write slowly, confuse the order of letters in words, be confused by letters that look similar, write letters the wrong way round (such as "b" and "d"), and have poor or inconsistent spelling. They may understand information when told verbally but have difficulty with information that is written down. They may, however, have advantages in areas such as big-picture or lateral thinking, visualization, and some forms of creativity.
  • Dyspraxia is a developmental co-ordination disorder affects movement and co-ordination, such as tasks requiring balance, playing sports, or learning to drive a car. Dyspraxia can also affect fine motor skills, such as writing or using small objects. People with dyspraxia have often had to overcome obstacles growing up, leading to a degree of resilience and determination. Having to carry out tasks in different ways means that they can often bring a new and creative view to problems.
  • Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) has historically been seen as a type of anxiety disorder or a form of mental illness, but it is now also often seen as a form of neurodiversity. In obsessive-compulsive disorder, a person has obsessive thoughts and compulsive behaviors. An obsession is an unwanted and unpleasant thought, image, or urge that repeatedly enters a person’s mind, causing feelings of anxiety, disgust, or unease. A compulsion is a repetitive behavior or mental act that they feel compelled to do to temporarily relieve the unpleasant feelings brought on by the obsessive thought, for example cleaning and hand washing, checking and rechecking, counting, or hoarding. The compulsive behavior temporarily relieves the anxiety, but the obsession and anxiety soon return, causing the cycle to begin again.
  • Tourette's syndrome is a condition that causes a person to make involuntary sounds and movements called tics. These may be physical (such as blinking, eye rolling, jerking of the head or limbs, or touching objects and other people) or verbal (such as grunting, coughing, tongue clicking or saying random words and phrases). Although swearing is often depicted as a symptom, only a small percentage of people with Tourette’s syndrome do this.

And it’s important to remember that neurodiverse people are not a tiny minority. It’s estimated that 3 to 4 percent of adults have ADHD, 2 percent have ASD, and up to 15% have dyslexia. If anything, these numbers may be underestimates; many adults might not have had the opportunity for a formal diagnosis, or may feel a pressure not to reveal this about themselves.

Using personality assessments like Myers-Briggs Type Indicator to better understand neurodiversity—a good idea or terrible idea?

Personality assessment had something of a bad press in this area, accused of ‘screening out diversity’. This could be the case when personality assessments are used to screen out job applicants or at other stages of recruitment and selection, though even in this context the research suggests that other hiring practices, such as traditional interviews, can have a more detrimental effect. But when personality questionnaires used as part of development or counseling, as would always be the case with the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) assessment, they can help neurodiverse people in all sorts of ways. Following MBTI feedback, many neurodiverse people report a sense of relief that they now understand themselves better, that they can see how they are different from many other people but that they realize that this difference is OK. For a neurodiverse person, this positive recognition of aspects of their personality and behavior can be extremely empowering. Here are some comments from a recent survey that we carried out:

“I don’t feel as alone”.

“It confirmed that I’m OK”.

“It helped me better understand and manage my intrusive thoughts in relation to my OCD”.

“It was the MBTI assessment that first got me to push for my own diagnosis. There is so much more that I could say here about how powerful the MBTI tool is for helping people with neurodiversity understand themselves and how they can fit into the workplace as themselves and all that they can bring”.

There can be other benefits too. Personality frameworks like the MBTI can help non-neurodiverse people understand the positive benefits of the ways in which others are different, help neurodiverse people understand their behavior and that of other people, and recognize the ways in which they have ‘masked’ their natural behavior. Generally, personality assessment in a developmental context is probably a good idea.

The link between personality and neurodiversity

Can understanding your personality shed light on neurodiversity in other ways too? Well, yes and no. Personality type and the different aspects of neurodiversity are different ways of understanding yourself and other people. Some forms of neurodiversity will not show any relationship with MBTI type at all. Even when research shows that some relationship exists, neither will entirely explain the other. For example, research using the MBTI framework suggests a link between Extraverted Intuition (people with personality type preferences for ENTP and ENFP) and ADHD. However, not all ENTPs and ENFPs will show signs of ADHD, and not all people with ADHD will have preferences for ENTP or ENFP. Personality and neurodiversity are two different ways of helping people to understand themselves, and used together can give a richer picture.

Both our personality type preferences and our neurodiversity contribute to our behavior and to the ways in which we see the world. And there are correlations, overlaps, between these two different ways of understanding ourselves. But it is important to remember that these are general relationships that do not signify cause and effect, and that won’t hold for every person.

Everyone deals with family issues, but some people had more dysfunctional childhoods than others. Are there ways to tell? According to family psychologist Caitlin Slavens of Mamapsychologistsand therapist Rachel D. Miller, Ph.D., LMFT of Hold The Vision Therapy, yes!

Slavens says, "As a family psychologist, I’ve seen how growing up in a dysfunctional family leaves its mark. Sometimes the signs are glaring, like obvious chaos or neglect." However, she said the signs can also be "more subtle" being that they're "things you don’t even realize were 'off' until you’re older." You may even "start noticing patterns in yourself or your relationships" if you've become retrospective, according to her.

Here are all the subtle signs you grew up in a dysfunctional family

1. You're never sure what kind of mood your parents will be in before you walk in the living room or kitchen.

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Let's put this on record: parenting is tough — especially on top of trying to maintain a work-life balance. But, this doesn't mean you're meant to be unsure of what to expect every time you come around your parents. If you have to "'read the room'" a lot "before speaking," Slavens indicates this is one of the more subtle signs of dysfunction.

This is where you may have learned how to become passive-aggressive if that's something you struggle with. The reason for this is because "clear and direct communication is avoided and/or seen as bad or aggressive," according to Dr. Miller.

2. You tend to feel like you're constantly compared to and in competition with your siblings.

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My heart truly wants to believe this isn't intentional behavior from parents, but I can't say I haven't heard people talk about feeling like they'd never measure up to the 'golden child' of their family. You may have felt insecure about your grades, the college you chose to go to, your career goals, or even your physical appearance. Slavens says this "struggle with self-worth or second-guessing yourself constantly" is yet another sign that your family's dynamic wasn't the healthiest.

Also, Dr. Miller says this could've caused you to learn to "shrink yourself in the presence of loved ones." Even worse, you may "feel the need to hide pieces of yourself in order to be loved and accepted."

3. There was constant yelling and screaming during arguments, making you fearful of disagreements or hardships.

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If you grew up in a home where arguments always led to screaming and yelling, chances are you're not a fan of loud voices or hard moments. Honestly, Slavens says it's not hard to believe that "conflict make you anxious, even when it’s minor." Unsurprisingly, you may have become a referee during these arguments and currently find yourself being a mediator in your platonic or romantic relationships. Why?

Dr. Miller says, "You constantly feel the need to manage everyone else’s emotions often at the cost of your own needs and wellbeing." You know, to keep the peace.

Here are some more obvious signs you grew up in a dysfunctional family

4. You had to take on a parental role when one of your parents decided to stop being an adult.

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I imagine that having an emotionally immature parent is one of the most aggravating and stressful things to deal with. Not only that, but you may have had to help keep the household afloat. You may have had to get a job or two to help pay bills, listening to an adult conversation as your mom or dad laid their problems at your young feet, and more!

If you "family roles were flipped" and you "maybe had to parent your own parents," Slavens says this is a form of emotional dysfunction.

5. You weren't allowed to go anywhere with your friends because your parents wanted to keep an eye on you at all times.

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Slavens says boundaries that "didn't exist" or "were rigid and controlling" is a sign your home was a little...interesting. Being concerned about your whereabouts is one thing, but it's another when you're unable to do anything without your parents' eagle-eyes on you. Something as simple as going to the mall with your friends may have become a lecture about the dangers of shoplifting or car wrecks. Again, these are valid concerns but they shouldn't be treated like the verbal form of doom scrolling.

6. You consistently witnessed one of your parents abuse alcohol or drugs at home.

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This is a tough because substance abuse is so prevalent in varies socioeconomic statuses and communities. From the functioning alcoholic to the one who becomes belligerent after they've had too much to drink, it always affects those around them. Slavens says if "there was ongoing neglect, substance abuse, or verbal/physical aggression," your home probably didn't safe.

I recognize some of these signs of a dysfunctional family. But that doesn't mean they're affecting my current relationships, right?

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I hate to break it to you, but it's possible your childhood wounds have shown up before. "Dysfunctional dynamics don’t stay in childhood — they tend to creep into how you connect with others," says Slavens. Similarly, Dr. Miller agrees that "we typically repeat what we learned at home with our families in our other relationships." How?

"This includes the beliefs and rules we follow, often completely subconsciously, about what can and can’t talk about and why, as well as what emotions are allowed to be expressed, who can express them and how, and how we should or must respond to those people and their emotions," explains Dr. Miller.

Another way to look at this is how Slavens has outlined it:

In Platonic Relationships:

  1. Overextending yourself to please others, even at your own expense
  2. Feeling like you have to "earn your friends' affections.
  3. Avoiding vulnerability because it feels unsafe.

In Romantic Relationships:

  1. Struggling to trust your partner or feeling overly suspicious
  2. Repeating patterns like dating people who are emotionally unavailable or controlling.
  3. Feeling overly responsible for your partner's happiness — or relying on them for yours.

OMG! How do I unlearn habits from my dysfunctional family?

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Honestly, everyone has a few bad habits they've carried from their childhood to adulthood. You're not an outlier because some things weren't 100% normal so I don't want you to feel like you're a failure for not having having it all together. "Dysfunction doesn’t have to define your future relationships," Slavens assures. Dr. Miller says you can start to unlearn things "that aren't working for you anymore" by "gathering your family's larger context to gain insight into how and why, for them, the behaviors make sense."

By taking a look at your family's "history and larger social and political contexts" gives you a chance to "see them as whole people with full lives," she says. Once you do that, she believes "you can examine what pieces make sense for you to keep and what parts you'd like to learn to do differently." Her other suggestion? Don't forget you're ability to utilize a "therapist who works systemically, like an LMFT" who "can be a huge support in this process."

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Slavens' tips include the following:

  1. Practice self-awareness: Notice when a response feels automatic — like people-pleasing or shutting down during conflict — and ask yourself, Is this helping me, or is this a leftover habit from the past?
  2. Set boundaries: If your childhood lacked healthy boundaries, learning to say “no” without guilt is a game-changer. Boundaries protect your energy and teach others how to treat you.
  3. Learn healthy conflict skills: If conflict made you feel unsafe growing up, it’s natural to avoid it. But healthy conflict is necessary in relationships. Practice expressing your needs calmly and directly.
  4. Therapy, therapy, therapy: A good therapist can help untangle the messy, “weird” things that got normalized and give you tools to rebuild healthier ways of relating to yourself and others.
  5. Surround yourself with healthier models: Whether it’s friends, mentors, or books/podcasts, seek examples of functional relationships and start observing what feels different.

While you're busy unlearning things, Dr. Miller also wants you to remember something. "Recognize that how your family does something is simply that; how your particular family system figured out and were taught to navigate the world. It isn’t inherently right because you’ve normalized it nor is the way another person or family does it inherently wrong," she says.

Slavens' final thoughts? "It’s not about blaming your family but recognizing how your experiences shaped you — and giving yourself permission to do things differently. You’re allowed to rewrite the script."

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It was the best of times, it was the worst of times. I'm referring to our holiday movie watchlist, of course. The best new Christmas movies always make for a good time. But when it comes to the worst Christmas movies ever? Honestly, sometimes they make for an ever better time (especially when you're really dedicated to hate-watching). See which movies made the list below!

Keep reading to see the 13 worst Christmas movies that are so bad, they made the naughty list.

Our Little Secret (2024) — On Netflix Now

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We're starting off strong with a Rotten Tomatoes rating that made my jaw drop! Despite the fact Lindsay Lohan's new comedy, which follows two exes who realize their partners are siblings, made me laugh out loud, it only got a RT rating of 36 percent and audience rating of 59 percent, as well as an IMDb rating of 5.8 out of 10. Yikes.

Four Christmases (2008) — On Hulu

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In my opinion, Vince Vaughn and Reese Witherspoon are a match made in Heaven in Four Christmases, which follows their characters Brad and Kate as they go through four separate family gatherings on Christmas Day. Unfortunately, it looks like audiences disagree because the movie got a 5.7 out of 10 on IMDb and a 47 percent Rotten Tomatoes audience rating (with only a 25 percent from RT itself!!).

I'll Be Home For Christmas (1998) — On Hulu

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In I'll Be Home For Christmas, Jake (Jonathan Taylor Thomas) returns home for the holiday hoping that his estranged dad (Gary Cole) will get him a porsche...but winds up getting left with nothing but a Santa suit in the middle of the desert thanks to the football team. To make matters worse, his GF Allie (Jessica Biel) has no clue what happened to him, and decides to hitchhike with Jake's nemesis Eddie (Adam LaVorgna).

Even though it has a ton of elements that could make for an entertaining movie, this flick only got a 23 percent on Rotten Tomatoes, along with a 41 percent audience rating, and a 5.5 out of 10 on IMDb.

The Christmas Candle (2013) — On Tubi

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Despite the fact historical films like A Christmas Carol are beloved by so many, critics consider The Christmas Candle one of the worst Christmas movies. The story follows a minister (Hans Matheson) in 1800s England who finds himself in a standoff against townspeople (including Samantha Barks) who believe a candle, and an angel's touch, offer a miracle every Christmas Eve.

The movie only got a 22 percent on Rotten Tomatoes (despite the fact it has a 74 percent audience rating), and a 6.3 out of 10 on IMDb.

​Tyler Perry's A Madea Christmas (2013) — On Tubi

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Tyler Perry continues to be a fan favorite, proven by the fact that even though A Madea Christmas got a 21 percent on RT and a 5.1 out of 10 on IMDb, its RT audience score is 70 percent!

The Christmas movie follows Madea (Tyler Perry) and her niece Eileen (Anna Maria Horsford) on a journey to surprise Eileen's daughter Lacey (Tika Sumpter). Turns out, the reason Lacey didn't come home is she eloped! But it's with a character played by Chad Michael Murray, so I'm more than willing to press play on this one.

The Santa Clause 3: The Escape Clause (2006) — On Disney+

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The Santa Clause 3: The Escape Clause was one of my favorite movies as a kid, and apparently the sentiment is not shared. This threequel follows Scott Calvin/Santa Claus (Tim Allen) goes toe-to-toe with Jack Frost (Martin Short) in a battle for the North Pole.

The movie only has a 17 percent RT rating and a 39 percent audience score, plus a 4.8 out of 10. Big yikes.

Deck the Halls (2006) — On Hulu

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This horrible Christmas movie pairs up Matthew Broderick and Kristen Chenoweth three years after their stint in Disney's The Music Man, and follows Steve (Broderick) whose detailed, perfect Christmas is ruffled by Danny's (Danny DeVito) arrival in the neighborhood. One thing leads to another and suddenly Steve and Danny are in a battle to be the best-decorated house on the block. Oh, did I mention Kristin Davis costars?!

Deck the Halls has a startingly low rating of six percent on Rotten Tomatoes alongside its audience rating of 30 percent and a 5.1 out of 10 on IMDb.

A Law For Christmas (2023) — On Tubi

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This new movie might have come just in time for the holidays last year, but viewers are wishing Santa had kept it for himself. The story (which stars Savannah Lathem and Chase Giacomo) follows a young politician who swaps the city for the country, and her job for her true calling.

It sounds romantic, but based on the 1.1 out of 10 rating on IMDb...it's not.

The Star Wars Holiday Special (1978)

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I recently saw this special on air and, I'm sorry, I can totally see how some people consider this one of the worst Christmas movies. Aside from the fact it features OG Star Wars cast members like Mark Hamill, Carrie Fisher, and Harrison Ford, it just doesn't have the same magic as the movies we know and love.

The Star Wars Holiday Special follows Chewbacca and Han Solo as they journey to Kashyyyk (the Wookiee homeworld) for Life Day, and then have to entertain themselves when they're stopped by an Imperial blockade. Nothing says happy holidays like a 2.2 out of 10 IMDb rating and a 25 percent for both critics and audiences on RT. Unfortunately, it looks like this special isn't even available to stream.

Home Alone 3 (1997) — On Disney+

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When are they gonna learn not to mess with originals?! Instead of picking up with Kevin McCallister (Macaulay Culkin), Home Alone 3 introduces us to Alex Pruitt (Alex D. Linz) who has to defend his home from a new set of crooks when he's home sick.

The film has a 35 percent RT score and 27 percent audience rating, which is a far cry from Home Alone's respective 66 and 80 percents! The movie does star a young Scarlett Johansson though, so that's a plus.

Unaccompanied Minors (2006) — On Paramount+

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Being an unaccompanied minor might be every kid's dream but turns out, the movie's a nightmare. The story follows five stranded young adults (Dyllan Christopher, Tyler James Williams, Gia Mantegna, Quinn Shephard, and Brett Kelly) who take the opportunity to run buck wild in an airport (which...is still low-key a dream of mine TBH). Unfortunately their airport official (Lewis Black) and his assistant (Wilmer Valderrama) are not amused.

This bad Christmas movie has a 30 percent on RT with an audience rating of 35 percent, and an IMDb score of 5.4 out of 10.

The Perfect Holiday (2007) — On Peacock

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The Perfect Holiday? Not so perfect. The movie follows divorcée Nancy (Gabrielle Union), whose youngest daughter Emily (Khail Bryant) plots to put a smile back on her mom's face. When she asks a store Santa Benjamin (Morris Chestnut) to give Nancy a compliment, she beings a chain of events that might just bring some Christmas magic back into their lives.

Sadly the movie only got a 19 percent RT score and 52 percent audience rating alongside an IMDb rating of 4.8 out of 10.

The Nutcracker: The Untold Story (2010) — Rent On Amazon Prime

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And we're rounding out the list with what might be the worst Christmas movie of all; somehow The Nutcracker: The Untold Story got a ZERO PERCENT RATING on Rotten Tomatoes! How is that even possible?!

The movie follows Mary (Elle Fanning), who receives a magical nutcracker from her Uncle Albert (Nathan Lane). When the nutcracker comes to life and transports Mary to a magical land on Christmas night, she has to stand off against the evil Rat King — and rescue the nutcracker when he's kidnapped.

Unfortunately, the inspiring plot did not inspire viewers considering it got a 28 percent RT audience score and 4.1 out of 10 on IMDb.

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It feels like every conversation I have these days involves a complaint about the sun setting super early. It’s me – I’m complaining.

I’m a notorious summer girl, so when daylight savings hit this fall, it literally felt like my energy (and general sense of self) was entirely depleted. I’m truly no stranger to the feeling. As someone with a genetic predisposition to depression, I’ve become familiar with the more intense seasonal depression (AKA seasonal affect disorder, or SAD) that sets in once the sun dips around 4pm, nights get longer, and temperatures get ridiculously colder.

An estimated 10 million Americans experience SAD. Plus, women are 4 times more likely to be diagnosed with SAD than men. SAD can generally manifest in symptoms like having little to no energy for daily tasks, lost motivation for work or hobbies, trouble sleeping (and waking up), and weight gain.

Seasonal depression does not feel good – it’s impacted my relationships, quality of work, and physique – so this year, I decided to do something about it. As opposed to years prior, I came into ‘winter blues’ season with an intention to better my mindset, mental health, and physical wellbeing.

If you’re deep in the blues, too, I’m sharing 8 things I do regularly to feel like a real human being and combat seasonal depression, despite the bleakness of it all.

Meredith Holser

1. Get outside for at least 20 minutes everyday.

My seasonal depression is definitely perpetuated by my work setup – I work remotely full-time, which means a big chunk of my days are spent inside in isolation.

Knowing that being in nature can soothe the tension caused by not only locking in on work tasks for hours at a time, but sitting in the same place for just as long, I’ve been prioritizing getting outside for at least 20 minutes a day. Even just sipping in a breath of fresh air can provide a nice restart to a not-so-great day.

Whether it’s going for a walk, coffee run, or to let your dog out, getting outside for a change of scenery can absolutely improve your mental health.

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2. Engage in exercise that feels good.

I’m lucky to have found a combination of workouts that feel good to my body and mind. Climbing, hot yoga, and outdoor walks have truly kept me sane this far in the season!

Exercising (of any kind) releases dopamine and serotonin, which arecommonly linked to treating depression. It can also improve neuroplasticity, learning, and memory in the long-term, which, to me, sounds like a win-win for everyone.

The key for committing to an exercise routine in the depths of seasonal depression (and beyond) is only engaging in workouts that bring you joy – exercise should not serve as punishment, nor does it have to be painful.

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3. Delete social media when I know it’s impacting my mental health.

This one is huge. I could talk for hours – heck, even days – about how hurtful social media can be for my mental health. To make a long story short, social media (Instagram in particular) degrades my attention span, sense of reality, and self-confidence.

There was a period of time where I had screen time limits on apps like Instagram and TikTok, but I would override them 99% of the time. Now, I'm making an actual conscious effort to delete the apps off my phone entirely when I feel the doomscrolling has gone too far. It’s helped so much: I don’t feel a constant sense of FOMO (which is a massive challenge when 69% of adults use social media), pressure to buy unnecessary things, or distracted from the present moment.

Of course, I’ll still download the apps every once in a while to check in – there’s a delicate balance between wanting to feel simultaneously connected and disconnected – but the biggest part of this is maintaining the boundaries I set for myself.

If you feel like deleting social media apps cold-turkey isn’t quite the step you need to take at the moment, I suggest making use of screen time limits and sticking to them, so you can live and be present in your (real) life!

Meredith Holser

4. Prioritize seeing my friends in person.

As I mentioned, working from home is quite isolating. I know many of my friends feel isolated this time of year, even if they work in-person jobs. I don't have any family members that live very close to me, so my besties have truly become my chosen family.

Speaking from experience, having a friend group (or even just a golden best friend) to turn to in those quiet moments after the workday is the ultimate cure for loneliness, boredom, and depression. In fact,studies like this onehave shown that a positive sense of community is associated with reduced reported symptoms of depression, anxiety, and stress.

So, gather your pals for a movie, craft night, potluck, or even just time to rot on the couch together. A lot of times, your friends may be feeling the exact same way you are.

Meredith Holser

5. Cook nourishing and rewarding meals.

Winter time is comfort👏 food👏 central👏, so there’s no excuse to not whip up a delectable soup or casserole fit for the season. Seasonal depression most certainly takes a toll on my executive function, though, so finding (or rather, making) the time and motivation to cook something for myself can be rough. Don’t even get me started on going to the grocery store.

That’s why I like to turn to recipes that yield big ol’ batches of food, so I can eat on leftovers for a week or so rather than cook something new every single day. Bonus points if the dish is healthy! Maybe the meal preppers are onto something…

You can find tons of delicious, easy, healthy, meal prep-friendly recipes here!

Meredith Holser

6. Be cognizant of my water intake.

As important as eating healthy is, it doesn’t mean much if you’re not hydrated. Drinking adequate amounts of water every day simply sets me right – I notice I have so much more energy than the days my water bottle’s not tied to my hip.

Experts recommend that women drink roughly 11 cups of water daily in order to benefit the body, from your immune system to your mood. I’ve been making the ritual even more enjoyable with a fun water bottle, customized with stickers and all.

Meredith Holser

7. Journal regularly.

Journaling can reduce symptoms of depression, anxiety, and hostility, as well as encourage self-awareness and resilience against the daily grind, which is why I aim to commit a tiny slice of my day to writing (or drawing). Even if there’s nothing “bad” or dramatic going on in my life, journaling about the mundane is super helpful in simply getting to know myself.

To incorporate journaling into your routine, I suggest writing right before bed, right before you wake up, or on a quick break during the day. Even just 5 minutes alone with your thoughts and your pen can transform your mindset.

You can find some really helpful journal prompts for improving your mental health here!

Meredith Holser

8. Go to therapy regularly.

Seeing a therapist on a regular basis has been a huge game-changer for me. When I started to go several years ago, I denounced therapy as a whole, but I started to really love it after a few months worth of sessions.

A good therapist can help you manage depression, stress, anxiety, and other mental health struggles, plus provide effective methods for self regulation, self awareness, communication, problem solving, and a whole lot more.

I’ve found my favorite part about therapy is having a third party to talk to about certain situations in my life – it’s been super beneficial when I want to talk through things I can’t (or don't necessarily want to) tell my close friends or family. Seeing a therapist regularly also helps me keep myself in check in terms of life, mental health, physical health, work, creative goals, and more.

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Gilmore Girls fans can all agree that, despite how much we love the show, Lane Kim (Keiko Agena) deserved WAY better. But Keiko admits that even though Lane's treatment on GG leaves a lot to be desired (starting with the fact that Lane is Korean American and Keiko is Japanese American), it was still a special role.

Keep reading to see which Gilmore Girls costars Keiko Agena talks to the most!

Keiko Agena has a complicated relationship with 'Gilmore Girls' character Lane Kim.

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“I think what [the role] was for people was different than what it was for me,” she tells Juliet Litman on an episode of the Dear Felicity rewatch podcast (via People). “In a weird way, I feel like I want to honor the experience that people had from the show, and what it meant to them, especially young Asian people, because I get that comment a lot, about what it was like for them to see someone like that on screen.”

And it's no surprise that as much as Gilmore Girls viewers love Lane, Keiko "[loves] her too. I can tell, when I meet someone who knows Gilmore Girls or who loves Lane, it's like, I recognize that love. I see that you love that person."

But it's possible to hold two conflicting emotions at the same time, and although Lane Kim was an incredibly special role at the time, there are some things Keiko would do differently today. “The best thing is to have a Korean American writer [and a] Korean American actor,” she says. “I don't think that that role, cast that way, would happen today. But at that time, in 2000, it was such a different time that I definitely know I wouldn't have said no or pulled myself out of that situation at that time...Now it's just a mix of just having gratitude for having gone through that experience and having that experience.”

Keiko Agena also keeps in touch with two very special 'Gilmore Girls' costars!

And one aspect of Gilmore Girls that Keiko Agena is thankful for is her relationship with the Gilmore Girls cast! And there are two costars in particular she frequently keeps in contact with: John Cabrera (who played Brian) and Sean Gunn (who starred as Kirk).

“There is this kind of lovely nostalgia for that time, and yet also we have years since then,” she says. “I [have] gone to both of their weddings. Our friendship is part Gilmore Girls and appreciation for that crazy time, and then part just like a million other things that are just like friends.”

I was totally surprised to learn she keeps in contact with John and Sean (supposedly) more regularly than Alexis Bledel, but it makes sense when you remember Keiko, John, and Sean are all around the same age — and Alexis is 7 years younger. Hopefully we get another Gilmore Girls reunion to see our favorite television BFF's reunite!

Watch Lauren Graham & Scott Patterson's Mini Gilmore Girls Reunion for more Stars Hollow love!

Turn your home gym into your favorite workout spot with these affordable upgrades that maximize functionality and motivation. This article highlights must-have equipment and accessories that can transform any space into a personalized fitness haven without breaking the bank. From versatile resistance bands and adjustable dumbbells to space-saving storage racks and cushioned workout mats, these upgrades are perfect for all fitness levels. Whether you’re just starting your fitness journey or enhancing your current setup, our curated list ensures you’ll find budget-friendly solutions to elevate your home workouts. Get ready to break a sweat and crush your fitness goals in a gym tailored just for you!

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Upgrade Your Strength Routine With These Adjustable Dumbbells That Go Up to 24 Pounds

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Lift smart with adjustable dumbbells, the ultimate space-saving solution for strength training. With a magnetic pin mechanism, you can seamlessly switch weights between three and 24 pounds per hand. The ergonomic rubber grip ensures a comfortable and secure hold, so you can focus on crushing your goals worry-free.

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Add Variety to Your Workouts With This Essential Pilates Ring

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Target stubborn areas with this Pilates ring, your go-to tool for toning thighs, arms, hips, and more. Lightweight and portable, it even includes a carrying pouch, making it perfect for at-home or on-the-go workouts.

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Support Your Workouts With Copper-Infused Compression Leggings

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Recover like a pro with these copper-infused compression leggings, designed to boost circulation, reduce inflammation, and support muscle recovery. They're even antimicrobial to keep bacteria at bay, helping you jog back into your fitness routine with confidence and style.

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Expand Your Strength Routine With a Resistance Band Set Complete With Handles

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Get a total-body workout with resistance bands featuring handles, the ultimate at-home fitness essential. Compact, versatile, and travel-friendly, these bands make strength training accessible and effective. Start your home gym journey with these bands and watch your progress soar.

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Sculpt Your Core Anywhere With a Portable Ab Wheel

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Level up your core workouts with the portable and budget-friendly ab wheel, the go-to tool recommended by fitness pros. In just 10–15 minutes, this compact wheel delivers an intense ab burn. Whether you’re at home or sneaking in a quick office session, it’s your ultimate core-crushing companion.

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Enjoy Yoga Anywhere With This Supportive Yoga Mat With a Carrying Strap

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Make floor workouts comfier with this thick yoga mat, offering extra cushioning and nonslip support. Whether you’re planking, stretching, or practicing Pilates, this mat provides the comfort you need, available in multiple colors and complete with a convenient carrying strap.

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Bounce Into Fitness With This Trampoline That Isn't Just for Kids

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Bring the fun back to cardio with a mini trampoline, a low-impact workout tool that’s as entertaining as it is effective. Featuring guided workouts and an LCD monitor to track your progress, this trampoline will have you bouncing your way to better fitness.

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Strengthen Your Core With This Wobble Board for Targeted Abs Workouts

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Challenge your core with the wobble board, the perfect accessory to enhance balance and stability. Whether you’re planking, squatting, or just trying to stay upright, this tool engages your muscles for a fun and functional workout.

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Soothe Your Muscles With an Air Compression Calf Massager

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Soothe tired legs with this calf massager, a portable device that provides air compression therapy for swelling and soreness. With adjustable intensity and a remote control, it’s like having a personal massage therapist on call, anytime, anywhere.

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Perfect Your Crunches With the Ultimate Neck and Back Support Tool

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Upgrade your ab routine with this versatile crunch assistant, designed to boost the effectiveness of crunches while doubling as a tool for push-ups and dips. Compact and easy to use, it’s a must-have for any core-focused workout.

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Hop on This Yoga Wheel

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Do you suffer from back pain? If so, this yoga wheel is exactly what the doctor ordered. It fits perfectly in between your shoulder blades to target muscle relief.

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Channel Your Inner Gymnast With These Durable Rings

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Channel your inner gymnast with gymnastics rings, which are ideal for building upper body strength and improving flexibility. While you might not make it to the Olympics, these rings deliver a full-body workout that’s both challenging and rewarding.

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Keep Your Phone Secure on Runs With This Cell Phone Armband

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Keep your essentials close with this handy armband, perfect for holding your phone, keys, and more during workouts or runs. Lightweight and secure, it’s a practical accessory that won’t hold you back.

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Boost Agility and Coordination With This Agility Ladder

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Boost speed and coordination with the agility ladder, a compact tool favored by athletes for improving footwork and balance. Easy to set up and portable, it’s a game-changer for anyone looking to level up their training routine.

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Enhance Your Workouts With These Wearable Weights for Added Intensity

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Amp up leg day with adjustable ankle weights, perfect for adding resistance to exercises like leg lifts and glute kickbacks. With multiple weight options, these versatile weights help you intensify your workouts and achieve your fitness goals.

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Blow Off Steam With This Heavy-Duty Punching Bag

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Punch out stress with this punching bag, the ultimate way to combine fitness and therapy. Compact and perfect for apartments or small spaces, it helps you release tension while building strength and endurance. Punch your way to both physical and mental health.

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Stay Comfortable While Toning With These Mesh Sneakers

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Step up your footwear game with these slip-on sneakers, combining fashion and function. Featuring cushioned support, breathable mesh, and an easy slip-on design, they keep your feet comfortable while engaging leg muscles for better movement and style.

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Maximize Cardio With a Space-Saving Compact Exercise Bike

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Stay active anywhere with this mini exercise bike, perfect for pedaling under your desk or in front of the TV. With adjustable resistance, anti-slip pedals, and an LCD monitor, it’s a compact way to incorporate movement into your day without leaving your seat.

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Protect Floors and Joints With Puzzle Exercise Mats That Interlock Easily

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Transform your home gym with these puzzle exercise mats, providing a cushioned, nonslip surface for safer and more comfortable workouts. Easy to assemble and versatile, they protect your joints and flooring, making them a must-have for any home fitness space.

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Customize Your Strength Training With This Adjustable Fitness Bench Offering 16 Configurations

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Maximize your exercise options with this adjustable fitness bench, offering endless possibilities for targeting muscle groups. From step-ups to bench presses, this height-adjustable bench includes storage space, blending functionality with convenience.

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Build Strength With a Set of Adjustable Dumbbells for Versatility

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Get stronger with these adjustable dumbbells, the ultimate space-saving solution for a full-body workout. Whether you're building strength or toning muscle, these dumbbells adapt to your fitness needs, offering versatility and effectiveness in one compact package.

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Level Up Your Training With This Kettlebell in Various Weights

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Add a cardio and strength-training powerhouse to your routine with this vinyl-coated kettlebell, available in weights from five to 50 pounds. Its smooth handle ensures a secure grip, making it an excellent choice for building endurance and strength.

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Relieve Muscle Tension With a Foam Roller Featuring a Textured Surface

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Roll out muscle tightness with this affordable foam roller, your personal sports masseuse at home. With a high-density textured surface, it’s perfect for relieving tension, increasing circulation, and mimicking gym machine exercises to elevate your recovery and flexibility.

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Add a New Dimension to Your Training With These Egg Weights That Fit Perfectly in Your Palm

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Supercharge your workouts with these small egg weights, the perfect addition for resistance training. These half-pound palm-sized weights are ideal for boxing or adding a challenge to any fitness routine. Lightweight, portable, and easy to grip, these little eggs pack a powerful punch.

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Elevate Your Bodyweight Workouts With This Set of Parallel Bars

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Take your strength training to the next level with parallel bars, a compact solution for dips, pull-ups, and more. Crafted from heavy-duty carbon steel, these bars provide unmatched stability and durability, making them an essential addition to your home gym setup.

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Experience a Full-Body Workout With This Pilates Bar Kit Complete With Accessories

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Bring the Pilates studio home with this portable Pilates bar kit, featuring resistance bands and accessories for balance, coordination, and muscle toning. This space-saving kit fits neatly into a carry bag, making it perfect for both at-home and on-the-go workouts.

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Take Your Home Workouts to New Heights With a Suspension System Featuring Industrial-Strength Straps

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Challenge your entire body with a suspension training system equipped with industrial-strength straps for adjustable exercises. Target your upper and lower body with ease—just find a sturdy anchor point and get ready for a full-body workout experience.

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Enhance Core Strength With This Weighted Medicine Ball

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Enhance core strength with a weighted medicine ball, a versatile tool for building muscle and improving balance. Available in multiple weights, its textured rubber surface ensures a secure grip, making it a staple for dynamic and effective workouts.

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Step Into Fitness With a Step-Up Platform for Sustained Cardio

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Elevate your cardio game with a step-up platform, perfect for heart-pumping exercises and a dose of nostalgia. Featuring a slip-resistant surface and adjustable risers, it’s a customizable, ’80s-inspired fitness essential for any workout routine.

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Add Resistance to Any Routine With a Breathable Weighted Vest

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Push your limits with a weighted vest designed to evenly distribute weight for a safer, joint-friendly workout. Made from breathable neoprene, it’s comfortable and versatile, allowing you to increase intensity while staying cool and focused.

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Get Low-Impact Cardio With This Space-Efficient Rower

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Row your way to full-body fitness with an affordable rowing machine, offering a low-impact, high-reward workout. With a foldable design and an LCD screen to track your progress, it’s the ultimate cardio machine for any fitness level.

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Track Your Progress With the Advanced Apple Watch Health Metrics

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Stay on top of your fitness goals with the Series 8 Apple Watch, your ultimate wrist companion. Packed with features like temperature sensing, blood oxygen monitoring, and ECG tracking, it’s more than a watch—it’s a mini supercomputer dedicated to your health and performance.

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Increase Workout Intensity With a Set of Resistance Bands in 6 Tension Levels

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No room? No problem. These resistance bands are a space-saving powerhouse, perfect for a full-body workout without the need for heavy, bulky equipment. From squats to bicep curls, they adapt to your routine at home or on the go.

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Work Out Anywhere With These Dual-Sided Sliders for Any Surface

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Add intensity to your bodyweight exercises with sliders, the small but mighty upgrade your workouts need. Boost plank variations, enhance lunges, and challenge stability—all without weights. Lightweight and travel-friendly, these sliders are a home gym essential.

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Stay Light on Your Feet With an Adjustable Jump Rope

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Boost your cardio with an adjustable jump rope, designed for full-body engagement. Improve coordination, balance, and stamina with this compact, low-impact workout tool designed for small spaces. Whether you're into fitness or upping your game, this rope delivers.

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Anchor Your Workouts With This Simple Yet Effective Door Anchor for Resistance Bands

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Transform any doorway into a gym with a door anchor and resistance bands. This dynamic duo creates a cable-machine-like setup without the hefty price tag. Affordable, portable, and easy to use, this dynamic duo turns any space into your personal training zone.

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