8 Things All Ambiverts Can Relate To

Personality tests like the Myers-Briggs and the Enneagram are all the rage — and for good reason. Identifying your personality type can help you understand yourself and how you interact with the world around you, including work, friendships, and romantic relationships. Along the same lines, knowing how you’re hard-wired plays a big role in helping you grow. Personality tests can help you identify your blind spots and overcome what may be holding you back.

But what if you take a personality test and don’t fit neatly into the pre-determined categories? You aren’t the only one, especially if you feel like you could be equal parts extrovert and introvert. Adam Grant, a professor at Wharton University and bestselling author, set out to study how we categorize ourselves as humans and found that two-thirds of people don’t identify strongly as extroverts or introverts.

If you don’t perfectly fit the mold of introvert or extrovert, there’s an alternative. You may be an ambivert, which means you fall smack-dab in the middle of the introvert-extrovert spectrum. Interestingly, Grant claims those with both introvert and extrovert tendencies actually do have an advantage over other personality types. For example, many ambiverts, he found, have an easier time adjusting to people of various personalities because they don’t lean too far in either direction. And since ambiverts are typically socially flexible — meaning they can handle and enjoy a broader spectrum of situations — they may possess more emotional intelligence than other personality types.

Does this sound like you? Here are a few ways to know if you have the ambivert advantage.

1. Your personality test results don’t resonate with you. Maybe you’ve taken the MBTI, and you get different results each time. Or perhaps your test results are 50/50, and you don’t know where you really fall. If you don’t feel like you fit in the traditional extrovert/introvert definition, there’s a good chance you fall somewhere in the middle.

2. You love to be social, but you also need alone time. If you are equally energized by being in big groups of people and spending time curled up with a book by yourself, you could be an ambivert. You may also go through phases of craving social interaction or alone time depending on the situation, which is completely normal.

3. You consider yourself flexible and adaptable. Most ambiverts tend to do well in all levels of social interaction. Whether deep heart-to-hearts with a friend or busy parties with a lot of small talk, you thrive in a variety of socially demanding scenarios. You also adapt just as well to quiet nights at home with Netflix or even going to a movie or restaurant by yourself.

4. You think teamwork is fun, but you also like to work by yourself. Another indicator you may be an ambivert is your ability to work with both a group and by yourself. If you’re truly an ambivert, you probably excel at communicating and teamwork in group settings, but you would do just as well taking on a solo project.

5. You’re equal parts playful and deep. You love witty banter and joking around, but you’re also game for meaningful conversations about the deep things in life. If you can’t settle on whether you’re witty or wise (and perhaps you struggle to come up with the perfect social media bio to reflect your personality), chances are you’re both — and you’re an ambivert.

6. You can’t decide if you love or hate social media. Speaking of social media, ambiverts tend to have a love-hate relationship with it. On the one hand, they like interacting with friends and sharing details about their lives, but on the other, they find it exhausting to keep up with everyone and sometimes just want to stay private.

7. Your friends don’t freak out when you go off the grid. If you tend to randomly “go dark” after days of back-and-forth chatter in your group text thread, friends who know you won’t be surprised. Ambiverts also have a love-hate relationship with their phones, blowing their friends up one day and staying quiet the next.

8. You’re a good talker, but also a good listener. Whether you’re in a casual conversation with a coworker at the office or hearing out a longtime friend who’s having a bad day, you know when to dole out advice and when to keep quiet. Ambiverts specialize in being amazing counselors and listeners, which makes them really good friends.

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Apart from the occasional 1,000 yellow daisies, doesn’t it feel like it’s perpetually autumn and winter in Stars Hollow? Not that we’re complaining — we’re totally here for budget-friendly trends and the winter movie lineup. This time of year always makes us want to binge-watch our ride-or-die mother/daughter duo, even if we don't get Gilmore Girls: A Year In The Life season 2. We all have our favorite episodes, favorite boyfriends, and favorite characters — which is why we thought it would be fun (and necessary, obvi) to match up the major Gilmore Girls characters to their zodiac counterparts. Go ahead, refill your coffee cup before you dig in. We’ll wait.

CANCER (JUNE 21-JULY 22)

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Luke: Moody much? While you’re definitely not always as surly as Luke, Cancer, you do share his predilection toward unpredictable mood swings. It’s true — Luke has a tough outer shell just like you, and it takes a lot for him to make himself vulnerable to even his closest friends. You’re both sensitive souls with a nurturing streak a mile long. (How else could Luke take Jess back time and again?)

LEO (JULY 23-AUGUST 22)

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Ms. Patty: It’s your world, and we’re just living in it, Leo (er, and Ms. Patty). You’re a natural performer, and there’s no doubt Ms. Patty also knows how to own the stage. You’re both outgoing and creative with a flair for the dramatic, and we’re willing to wager you’d get along famously (while working hard to become famous, of course).

VIRGO (AUGUST 23-SEPTEMBER 22)

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Emily: We think Emily is probably the most misunderstood character in Gilmore Girls, which we’re sure is something any Virgo can relate to. You’re both perfectionists who know how to throw a killer dinner party, with every last detail thoughtfully curated. You’ve got no time for inefficiency, and while you’re super-sensitive to criticism yourself, you can sometimes be a little judgy of others. But you both more than make up for it with your dedication to working for causes you believe in.

LIBRA (SEPTEMBER 23-OCTOBER 22)

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Richard: When it comes to family drama, Richard reigns as the perpetual peacekeeper. From Emily and Lorelai’s constant struggle to understand one another to Rory’s infamous boat incident, Richard has that diplomatic Libra spirit to solve a crisis. You’re both even-keeled, thoughtful people who can see both sides of any story. The Gilmores would be beyond lucky to have you!

SCORPIO (OCTOBER 23-NOVEMBER 21)

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Jess: Within the Stars Hollow cosmos, there’s no one more intense than Jess — and the same goes for you, Scorpio. You’re both passionate, complex people who’ve come to appreciate your dark sides. Like you, Jess has incredible emotional depth that fuels a passionate heart. Plus, Jess’s mental/physical/emotional connection to Rory is exactly how you approach your own romantic relationships. Our lives would be so dull without you.

SAGITTARIUS (NOVEMBER 22-DECEMBER 21)

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Lane: With a healthy dose of naiveté that everything’s going to be okay, Lane somehow managed to make her less-than-ideal upbringing totally work for her in the end. It’s this same unflappable optimism that guides you through life, Sag. You and Lane are resilient women who thrive on figuring it out with a smile on your face. You also both have a tendency toward obsessing over things you love, whether it’s obscure ’80s punk records or baking the perfect soufflé.

CAPRICORN (DECEMBER 22-JANUARY 19)

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Paris: Honestly, can you think of anyone more Capricorn-y than Paris Gellar (except for you, of course)? Whether it’s her laser-like focus on future success or her incredible organizational capacities, Paris totally vibes with your serious commitment to reaching your goals (and constant need to prove yourself). You both crave stability in your life and loyalty from your friends and have put structures in place to ensure you get them, no matter where life takes you.

AQUARIUS (JANUARY 20-FEBRUARY 18)

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Lorelai: Emily may have underestimated Lorelai’s free spirit, but we know you totally have her ticket, Aquarius. Whether she’s raising a daughter on her own, going to graduate school, or starting a new business, Lorelai is forever independent, thinking outside the box to make her goals a reality. She’s also got a rebellious streak with an aversion to authority that sounds a lot like someone we both know. Plus, you’re both the kind of people who will say it like it is while still understanding that everyone walks their own path. Where you lead, we’ll totally follow.

PISCES (FEBRUARY 19-MARCH 20)

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Dean: Does anyone really know Dean? He’s got that poetic, head-in-the-clouds thing down pat, which sounds a lot like you, Pisces. You’re both dreamers who prefer poetry to playing sports and have a shared illusory quality that makes you a bit of a chameleon, transforming yourself based on your current circumstances. Remember when he just up and got married all of the sudden?! Who knew!

ARIES (MARCH 21-APRIL 19)

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Logan: Did you know the Life and Death Brigade’s motto, In Omnia Paratus, means “ready for anything”? Of course you did, Aries, because it’s your life’s motto as well. Just as Logan literally leaped into the unknown, you too know how to take major risks and somehow always make them pay off. You’re both independent, strong-willed, action-oriented people who prefer to live boldly, whether that means stealing a boat or running a newspaper (er, but we wouldn’t recommend the former).

TAURUS (APRIL 20-MAY 20)

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Sookie: If you could live outdoors, you would, Taurus, precisely the same way Sookie would live in Jackson’s garden if she could. You’re both super-grounded and delight in sensory experiences that connect you back to the earth. Obviously, Sookie is an amazing chef, and you’re known as being the top foodie among your friend group. Life is all about the earthly pleasures for both of you, and you find peace at home, surrounded by creature comforts (and lots of cake).

GEMINI (MAY 21-JUNE 20)

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Rory: You’re whip-smart with a mind that moves a mile a minute and an interest (and knowledge) in just about everything, Gemini — and that sounds a lot like our girl Rory. You’re both super-curious beings who derive genuine pleasure out of learning new things on the daily. If you could go to school forever, you’d be happy. And we’re pretty sure Rory would be sitting right beside you.

Does your favorite Gilmore Girls character fit with your zodiac sign match? Tweet us @BritandCo to let us know what you think!

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I can totally understand falling for a costar. One scene gazing into each other's eyes, and (as the kids say), I'd be asking, "What are we?" Zendaya & Tom Holland and Ashley Park & Paul Forman both met on the sets of their most famous projects (Spider-Man and Emily in Paris, in case you were wondering), and this year's biggest movie event also features a brand new celebrity couple: Ariana Grande & Ethan Slater.

The co-stars made headlines when they ended their respective marriages and started dating each other, and Ethan Slater finally spoke out on the response to their relationship. Here's what he had to say, and the latest news on this couple.

Keep reading for the latest news on Ariana Grande & Ethan Slater's relationship.

  • Ariana Grande & Ethan Slater met on the set of Wicked, in theaters November 22.
  • The couple made headlines when they started dating the same month they separated from their respective spouses.
  • In a recent interview, Ethan Slater reveals the reaction to their relationship was "really hard."

Ariana Grande & Ethan Slater's Full Relationship Timeline

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Late 2022 — Ariana Grande & Ethan Slater Meet While Filming Wicked

After Ariana and Ethan were both cast in Jon M. Chu's Wicked, the movie began filming in early December. Ariana Grande was cast as Glinda, while Ethan Slater got the role of Boq, one of Glinda's Shiz University classmates.

March 27, 2023 — Ariana Grande & Ethan Slater Were "All Over Each Other"

Ariana and Ethan reportedly could get enough of each other at Michelle Yeoh's Oscars party. A source told The Daily Mail later that summer that "They were seen making out at a pub in Hampstead, and they were all over each other at Michelle Yeoh's Oscar party."

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July 2023 — Ariana Grande & Ethan Slater Split From Their Partners And Start Dating

News of Ariana's split from her then-husband Dalton Gomez broke on July 17, while TMZ also reported Ethan filed for divorce from his wife at the time, Lilly Jay, on July 26. (Ariana and Dalton ended up filing for divorce in September).

After People reported Ariana and Ethan were now in a relationship of their own, Lilly told Page Six that “[Ariana’s] the story, really. Not a girl’s girl. My family is just collateral damage.” However, other sources claim Lilly and Ethan had been separated for a couple months before his relationship with Ariana started.

August 2, 2023 — Ethan Slater & Ariana Grande Are Moving Fast

Ariana Grande and Ethan Slater reportedly fell head over heels so quickly, their friends were telling them to pump the breaks. “Ariana’s been told it’s too soon to go public with him and to take things slower,” said an Us Weekly insider at the time. “She’s very aware of how she’s perceived by her fans, and she’s trying to be mature. [But] if it were up to her, she’d be seen with him tomorrow.”

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September 4, 2023 — Ariana Grande & Ethan Slater Are Learning How To Balance Their Relationship

Sources told People at the beginning of September that the costars and couple are trying to figure out how to balance their relationship with their celebrity.

“While this entire situation has been blown out of proportion, it’s much different than what has been portrayed in public,” a friend of the couple says. “They are just trying to navigate their new relationship in private."

Another reemphasizes that Ariana and Ethan only started dating after they were separated from their spouses, while a third adds, “They are doing their best to balance the fact that they are in the public eye with the desire to be respectful to all parties involved.”

September 2023 — Ethan Slater & Ariana Grande Go To Disney World

Surrounded by their friends and family, the Wicked movie stars headed for a day at the happiest place on earth. "They went with a big group of friends as well her mom and brother," a source told People. The source also said they're "really happy and really good for each other. All of her friends love him."

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October 31, 2023 — Ariana Grande Supports Ethan Slater's Spamalot

Ariana Grande showed up to support her boyfriend for Spamalot's opening night at Broadway's St. James Theater.

December 23, 2023 — Ariana Grande & Ethan Slater Grab Dinner In New York City

To celebrate the holidays, Ariana and Ethan headed out to a nice Italian dinner, reportedly with Ari's dad Ed Butera. "They love to support each other in their work," a source told People. "When she’s done with work, Ariana loves going to the theater when she can."

Considering she's a musical girlie, and has been on Broadway herself, I totally believe Ariana heads to the theatre whenever she gets a chance!

December 28, 2023 — Ariana Grande Says She Feels "Deeply Misunderstood"

“I’ve never felt more at the mercy of and in acceptance of what life was screaming to teach me,” Ariana Grande said in an Instagram story. “I have never felt more pride or joy or love while simultaneously feeling so deeply misunderstood by people who don’t know me, who piece whispers together and make what they want out of me and their assumptions of my life.”

A source also told People that the popstar is “serious with Ethan. She loves being with him."

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January 12, 2024 — Ariana Grande Releases "Yes, And?"

In a line heard 'round the world, Ariana Grande's "Yes, And?" (the lead single from her Eternal Sunshine album) begs the question, "Why do you care so much whose d—k I ride?" The song doesn't mention Ethan by name, but there's a lot of room to infer.Although, when the album releases in March, Ariana also talks about a new "interaction" on “Intro (End of the World)," and wonders "if he’s judgin’ me like I am right now."

September 30, 2024 — Ariana Grande Defends Ethan Slater

In a Vanity Fair cover story, Ariana opened up about the reaction to her relationship with Ethan Slater, revealing that “the most disappointing part was to see so many people believe the worst version of [the story]."

“There couldn’t be a less accurate depiction of a human being than the one that the tabloids spread about him,” she says. “No one on this earth tries harder or spreads themselves thinner to be there for the people that he loves and cares about. There is no one on this earth with a better heart...I’m 31 years old and I’m not a perfect person, but I am definitely deeply good, and I’m proud of who I’m becoming. I will never let disreputable evil tabloids ruin my life or my perception of what is real and good.”

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October 30, 2024 — Ethan Slater Finally Speaks Out About His Relationship With Ariana Grande

Almost two years after meeting Ariana Grande, Ethan Slater finally opened up about their relationship in a new interview with GQ. “Obviously, it was a really super big year and I think there was something that was really difficult about things in your private life being commented on and looked at by the public," he says. "There were a lot of big changes in private lives that were really happening, so it’s really hard to see people who don’t know anything about what’s happening commenting on it and speculating, and then getting things wrong about the people you love. So just to address that part of it, that feels really hard."

But the clouds also came with silver linings. “Of course, it was an amazing year and a really beautiful thing, and I’m just really excited," he continues. "I’m just really, really proud of Ari and the work she’s done on this. She’s poured herself into it. I’m really proud that I got to be there for that part of it, and I’m really excited to be there for this next step of it when the world gets to see the amazing thing that she did.”

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November 3, 2024 — Ariana Grande & Ethan Slater Go Instagram Official

These two took their relationship to the next level in the modern dating age — they put it on the grid. Well, not exactly. In Instagram posts celebrating the Australian premiere of Wicked, Ariana and Ethan both shared a picture of themselves. Is it blurry? Sure. Are their faces in it? No. But does this still count as an Instagram hard launch? Absolutely.

November 5, 2024 — Ethan Slater & Ariana Grande Pack On the PDA During Wicked

And after taking photos for the new Wicked movie in Sydney, Australia, Ethan and Ariana were more than happy, walking with their arms around each other and big smiles on their faces! And during the LA premiere of the film, Ariana was seen fixing Ethan Slater's bow tie.

“He’s always that adorable and he’s so amazing in this film. He’s such an amazing person,” she said in an interview with Entertainment Tonight. “I’m so happy people are getting to know him. My heart is very happy.”

November 11, 2024 — Ethan Slater Praises Ariana Grande's Comedy Acting Chops

In an exclusive interview with Brit + Co, Ethan Slater couldn't stop hyping up Ari's humor. And if you saw her hosting SNL, then you definitely understand. "I cannot wait for like the roll out of everything that Bowen said that isn't in the movie, or Ari, honestly, said that isn't in the movie. Just take after take," he says. "The moments where somebody broke, it was always great. There's one that's seared into my memory of, in Doctor Dillamond's classroom, I don't remember what Ari said but she got Cynthia [Erivo] and it's just the two of them across the way and they're staring at each other and she got her so good. There's something really wonderful about breaking. It's delightful."

He also praised Ariana and Cynthia for how they welcomed the rest of the cast their first days on set. "[They] would hug everyone who came in," he continues. "This huge movie is something that we've been waiting for for 20 years on a big scale with the biggest stars in the world, it could have felt really intimidating and it felt really familial immediately."

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Happiness is often something we think we'll gain down the road once we accomplish X, Y, and Z: a dream job, the perfect partner, a bigger salary, a bigger house. Yet things like fame, goods, success, and validation are the stuff of which the old conception of happiness was made. According to this way of thinking, once we reach one goal, it's time to set another one that will for sure make us happy... yet it never really does. Society has told us that achieving our own personal success will make us happy, but that’s actually a lie, says Stephanie Harrison, founder and creator of The New Happy.

Stephanie developed The New Happy philosophy during her graduate studies at the University of Pennsylvania, where she received a Master's degree in Applied Positive Psychology. What is The New Happy? It comes down to setting compassionate goals rather than self-image goals in which you are trying to win or maintain other people’s approval. We chatted with Stephanie about this new outlook on life that has garnered more than 400K fans of her colorful, data-driven IG.


Why does happiness seem out of reach for so many?

Stephanie: I was fascinated to discover that so many of our beliefs about happiness do not come from within, but from the world around us. These beliefs have a profound impact on our actions and perceptions.

At The New Happy, our philosophy sets up a paradigm distinguishing between ‘Old Happy,’ the definition of happiness that you have been taught by the world around you, and ‘New Happy,’ a new science-backed approach to happiness that not only helps you but helps the world.

I think one of the core problems is that many of us don’t even know that we have a definition of happiness, let alone what it is and how it is affecting us. If we have a completely unrealistic definition of happiness, as Old Happy does, then it will always feel out of reach. In Old Happy, happiness is always one achievement away – it’s always the next one that will finally make you good enough, and then you can stop, take a break, spend time with your loved ones, and be the person you want to be. Starting to notice this pattern in ourselves is a really important way to begin shifting our perspective.

How have we been misinformed about happiness? How is that harming people?

Stephanie: The core belief underpinning the Old Happy paradigm is that you are not good enough as you are, and to remedy this, you must go out and achieve something in the world to become worthy. This belief creates tremendous pain. Feeling like we are only conditionally worthy puts us in a state of constant self-evaluation, judging how we are doing and how close we are to ‘enough’ – an exhausting experience that persistently drains our joy and vitality.

When I look at our collective well-being challenges, like burnout and loneliness, I see Old Happy all over it. We need to broaden our conversation about well-being and happiness to include societal influences, many of which have gone unacknowledged. If we have been taught by our world that happiness comes from achieving more, and that is reinforced by all of our systems, then we will prioritize individual success, and de-prioritize those critically important paths to happiness, like our connections, nature, and helping those in our community and the world around us.

My argument is that there is a far better way to find happiness: through being of service to the world using your authentic gifts. This is what I call your New Happy. To be happy, you need to feel useful. There are so many problems in our world that need help: they need your brain, your heart, your hands, your energy, your voice. There are people who are suffering, and they need exactly what you have to offer. In doing that, you will not only be able to help make our world a better place, but when you are expressing yourself authentically, you will also find purpose, feel frequent joy, and cultivate a stable, lasting sense of well-being. This approach to happiness is underpinned by a sense of compassion for all, a recognition that we are all connected and we need to care for the collective to be happy as individuals. It’s also hopeful: I believe that if we come together, we have what it takes to create a world where every person can experience happiness, just as they deserve.

Can you share some data points that support the New Happy philosophy?

Stephanie: One of the research topics supporting our philosophy is the idea of quieting your ego. This is the process of seeking a sustainable balance between yourself and others that leads to positive growth for all. It is related to personal outcomes like self-esteem and resilience, but also to the actions that you take in the world. Having a quiet ego is strongly connected to setting compassionate goals, which are goals where you are trying to contribute to other people’s well-being. These are contrasted with self-image goals, where you are trying to win or maintain other people’s approval – Old Happy goals. While self-image goals are associated with a decrease in self-esteem and connection, compassionate goals are associated with an increase in self-esteem and connection.

Another important element of our philosophy is the recognition of our interconnectedness. I think it’s really beautiful that the research shows this: When we care for others, we experience personal benefits; when we care for ourselves, we are inspired to and supported in caring for others. Giving increases your own positive emotions, sense of connectedness to others, and sense of meaning. One recent study found that behaving in a more selfless way is associated with greater happiness.

Turning to the research on caring for yourself, we can see the benefits, too. Extending compassion toward yourself predicts a reduction in depression, anxiety and stress symptoms as well as an increase in well-being. One study found that practicing self-affirmation increases feelings of self-compassion, which in turn motivates giving behavior. Every time you care for yourself, you’re supporting your ability to be there for others; every time you care for others, you’re also caring for yourself. It’s all connected.

Are there people who are just born happier, or can you learn to be happier?

Stephanie: There’s some debate about this, but many scholars believe that we have a general ‘happiness set-point,’ which is your base natural level of natural happiness. It is helpful to think of it more like a range, where you can boost yourself up to the top of it based on your daily actions. What you do does matter.

Happiness can be thought of as more than just the emotion that you feel when things go right. It’s about living a happy life, an existence that is aligned with who you are and what matters most to you.

One powerful reframe here is thinking of happiness not as an outcome, which is an Old Happy perspective, but as an action. When you are living your life, being authentically yourself and sharing that self in a way that has a positive benefit upon others, you experience happiness as a byproduct.

What are ways in which we can experience more joy in our lives?

Stephanie: Creating joy in our lives is such a priority. It is an emotion that not only benefits our own well-being, but also contributes to our relationships, our capacity to help and support others, and our resilience. Here are a few strategies.

First, help someone around you. There’s a reason that being of service is at the heart of our philosophy! There are so many studies that show the power of giving: It not only affects our happiness but impacts our physical health, too. It can positively impact your blood pressure, reduce your stress, and even extend your longevity. Do something small right now: Send someone a thank you text, let a loved one know how special they are to you, do a random act of kindness, share your expertise with someone, donate or advocate for a cause that needs you, engage in a warm conversation with a stranger, ask someone how they are doing and really listen. In the longer term, think about how you can use your gifts – the authentic actions that bring you joy – and offer them up to contribute to the world’s collective happiness.

Second, slow down, and look for something beautiful in the world around you. We miss a lot of the good, important stuff because we’re so focused on what we need to do. Decide you are going to look for the good: a wonderful quality in a loved one, something in nature, a moment of kindness. Once you see it, allow yourself to savor it and really soak it in. If you can, tell someone else about it to leverage the additional benefits of social connection. When you share with someone, you are able to extend the moment of goodness beyond the event itself, a ripple effect of joy that touches you and your relationship in a meaningful way.

Third, get outside into the world if it’s accessible for you. Our feelings of loneliness and disconnection are likely to increase when we are stuck inside our homes, as so many of us have been. One study found that spending just twenty minutes in nature lowers cortisol, your stress hormone, up to 20 percent! Nature is also the most reliable place to experience a sense of awe, which can inspire giving and compassionate behavior.

Finally, make joy a shared pursuit. Decide with your family or roommates or friends that you are going to consciously ‘joy-ify’ a regular activity, like making dinner, doing chores, or a regular routine. Ask yourselves, what would make me feel more connected to this activity, this moment, or the people we are sharing it with? There are so many creative ways you might do this. In one of our New Happy Challenges where we taught the skill of joy, participants came up with all sorts of wonderful ideas, including cooking recipes from around the world, doing an end-of-workday dance party, and sharing a moment of gratitude as a family at the end of every day.


How can we support our friends when they're feeling down?

Stephanie: As a society, we’re not very comfortable with pain, suffering, grief, and the difficulties of being a human. There’s so much pressure to appear happy and like you have it all together. No one has it all together, and everyone is going through something, and I think that collectively pretending that this isn’t true is very harmful for all of us.

If someone trusts you enough to open up to you about their pain, this is a powerful opportunity to nurture your connection, share micro-moments of love, and support them. I developed an acronym to help you to be there in these moments: FANAL, which is an old word for a lighthouse or beacon. I love this metaphor because it gives us an idea for how we can be for others: firmly grounded within ourselves, sharing a light that shines upon them and guides them to a safe, secure place.

Here’s how to use it:

  • F: Focus on the person. Give them your full attention and make this moment about them.
  • A: Ask how they are feeling. If they brush you aside or give a standard answer, you might need to gently ask a second time or in a different way to make it clear you really want to know how they are.
  • N: Notice their suffering. Many of us are afraid to look at pain, as though it is embarrassing or contagious. This leaves the person in pain feeling so lonely. Try to really see them and their pain.
  • A: Acknowledge their experience. This pain might be the most palpable thing in their lives right now. Honor that reality. Don’t deny it or try to change their perception of it. Tell them that you see what they are going through, and how painful it is.
  • L: Listen. Just keep listening, asking more questions to invite them to keep sharing. Stay with them until they are ready to change the topic.

This practice will help you to be there for them in a compassionate way.

Thanks Stephanie! You can follow the New Happy @newhappyconewhappyco.

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It's official: John Krasinski is now PEOPLE's Sexiest Man Alive for 2024. If you ask us, John Krasinski will always be Jim from The Office, but I think this new distinction will do just fine, too. Last year Patrick Dempsey won the top spot, giving us silver fox sex appeal, and we love that PEOPLE went in a different direction with our favorite actor-director this time. Here's everything to know about this fine gentleman — including what his wife, Emily Blunt, has to say about it all.

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John Krasinski shares his thoughts on being PEOPLE's Sexiest Man Alive

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No one knows how to do dead-pan humor like John Krasinski (unless your name is Ryan Reynolds, of course 😉). His response to winning was, "Just immediate blackout, actually. Zero thoughts," (via PEOPLE). He followed up with, "That's not how I wake up, thinking, ‘Is this the day that I'll be asked to be Sexiest Man Alive?’ And yet it was the day you guys did it. You guys have really raised the bar for me."

Of course Emily Blunt couldn't resist making a little joke...

We know Emily Blunt has a great sense of humor too, so it comes as no surprise that she had a little something to say to John about his new title. Besides being "very excited" about his win, she apparently told him she'd willingly plaster his face all over their home, wallpaper-style (via PEOPLE). The Jack Ryan actor said, "My children will love that, it won’t be weird at all."

TODAY also reports the actor revealed Emily may pile on the housework given all this newfound attention. "I think it's going to make me do more household chores. After this comes out, she'll be like, ‘All right, that means you’re going to really earn it here at home.'" We don't see a problem with that!

Here's everything Sexiest Man Alive, John Krasinski is working on right now:

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He recently wrote, directed, and starred in this year's IF — a film Ryan Reynolds also appears in — which follows a young girl's introduction to a vast world of imaginary friends. It almost feels like the heartwarming TV show Foster's Home of Imaginary Friends, albeit the young girl is dealing with possibly losing her only living parent.

Next up, fans will get to see John star in Fountain of Youth alongside Natalie Portman, according to Deadline. They'll star as a brother and sister who are determined to claim the actual Fountain of Youth for themselves.

Deadline also reports that he'll take the lead role in the upcoming Jack Ryan film. A premiere date hasn't been announced yet, but we do know Amazon MGM Studios is behind it!

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So many gift guides give you general ideas for anyone in your life, but we know that's not a helpful way to prepare for the holiday season. This year, we're prioritizing bringing you high-quality gift guides that help you find what you need for specific people in your life. Right now, we're covering the EveryGirl, who is that one gal in your life who's all about classic, clean lines, minimal but elegant fashion, and quality, everyday essentials that make life easier and more beautiful. We've curated this gifting guide with the EveryGirl in mind, selecting all the buys you need to fill your cart and win the gifting game.

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OUAI Hand Wash & Hand Lotion

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This OUAI Hand Wash and Hand Lotion Set moisturizes and exfoliates daily. It is formulated with jojoba esters, avocado, and rosehip oils, which gently cleanse and leave hands feeling soft and smooth.

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This Soothing Toner Is a Skincare Win for Sensitive Skin

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This alcohol-free toner soothes redness and dryness with every use. Formulated with sensitive skin in mind, the product is gentle but effective, hydrating and cleansing at the same time.

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Exfoliate and Hydrate With This Butter Scrub

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This beautiful milk and honey butter scrub is an easy way to get deep but gentle exfoliation that leaves skin feeling soft and smelling fantastic. It makes a fantastic gift for the skincare-obsessed EveryGirl in your life!

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This Mask Deeply Detoxifies

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This detoxifying mask from Bubble Skincare is a mineral-rich dream. Made with azelaic acid and vitamin E, the mask gently exfoliates while also deeply nourishing and protecting the skin.

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This Puffer Jacket Takes Cozy to the Max

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If you want to keep your EveryGirl cozy and warm throughout the chilly season, this long puffer jacket is a must-have. The jacket is quilted, cozy, and, luckily for everyone, incredibly stylish.

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This Cleansing Device Helps Fight Acne

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The EveryGirl aesthetic is more about quality skincare than heavy makeup, which is why we know they'll love this acne-fighting tool. Give them the gift of clean, fresh, all-natural skin.

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These Yoga Pants Are Comfortable and Stylish

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Whether you've got a friend who loves yoga or just loves comfort, these yoga pants are a great buy. The crossover waistband and wide legs make them super stylish, and the fabric makes them comfortable and flexible.

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This Wooden Bowl Set Adds Warmth to Any Kitchen

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The EveryGirl in your life is going to love this beautiful set of wooden salad bowls. These bowls aren't just a great way to serve tasty salads; they also add timeless elegance and warmth to kitchens.

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Decorate an Entire Home With This Set of Prints

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This gorgeous, classic set of painted prints allows the recipient to decorate their whole house cohesively and simply. The pieces are timeless and stunning and add beauty to any room in the house.

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This Furry Fanny Pack Is Trendy and Useful

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It's great to give someone a trendy gift, but is it a gift they'll actually use? This furry fanny pack is a great example of a gift they'll actually use. The lightweight pouch is ripstop and fade-resistant for longevity.

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These Artifical Plants Are a Breath of Fresh Air

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Of course, these are fake plants, but they still manage to add freshness to any room. The best thing about gifting these plants is that you're not gifting any responsibility, just bright greenery.

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This Puffer Bomber Is So Chic

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Keep your EveryGirl warm and stylish all winter with this beautiful puffer bomber. It comes in a range of classic colors and bright, bold, eye-catching colors so you can find the perfect look.

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Give Their Skin a Wakeup Call With This Serum

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This caffiene serum from TruSkin is a brilliant way to give your skin a boost. The niacinamide, matcha, and ginseng work together to brighten skin and reduce puffiness with every use.

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This Popsockets Case Is MagSafe

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The classic color scheme and fun, aura-style design make this Popsocket case a knockout. Thanks to its timeless beauty, your EveryGirl will love this phone case for years.

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Gift Them a Motivational Sweatshirt

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Giving the people you love a little bit of motivation is always a good idea, but this motivational hoodie is a total win. Your EveryGirl will feel positive, loved, and encouraged every time they wear it.

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Give Them Some Time to Themselves With This Bath Tray

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Sometimes, we need a little encouragement to take some time for ourselves. This bath tray is a great way to give your EveryGirl the push they need to relax, unwind, and care for themself.

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This Button-Up Is a Classic

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The EveryGirl aesthetic is all about classic pieces, and this button-up is a total classic. This is the sort of top that can be worn on its own, pulled on over something, or even as a beachy cover-up.

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These Silky Pajamas Are Elegant and Cozy

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The best thing about these silky PJs is that your EveryGirl is going to wear them all the time. These are cozy, breathable, and also incredibly stylish. They make a great gift alone or as a bigger gift basket.

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This Collage Kit Makes Decorating Easy

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Give your EveryGirl the easiest way to decorate their entire home with this collage kit. The kit has gorgeous, bright, clean pieces that they can mix and match and manipulate to fit their style perfectly.

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This Rib Knit Top Is an Elevated Staple

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A t-shirt is a staple, but your EveryGirl is going to want a t-shirt that's a little more elevated, like this beautiful rib knit top. The color block makes it fun, and the slim fit makes it feel elegant and classic.

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This Phone Case Is a Beautiful Reminder

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A phone case makes a great gift, but an even better gift is a phone case that gives the recipient a kind, important reminder. This case reminds your EveryGirl that it's important to "smile every day."

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These Aviators Are a Classic Essential

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These sunglasses are a classic option that your EveryGirl is going to reach for daily. The shape and the color mean they'll go with everything in anyone's wardrobe and will work all year long.

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These Cargo Pants Are All the Rage

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The internet can't stop talking about these cargo pants, and we know your EveryGirl is going to love them. These can be worn with button-ups, tank tops, sweaters, and all your other favorite tops.

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This Lip Product Plumps and Adds a Splash of Color

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Tint your lips and give them just a bit of plumpness with this product. This tint is a great grab for your EveryGirl, giving them the sort of makeup they're going to use every day for a casual glow.

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This Framed Print Is Trendy But Classic

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The EveryGirl you love is going to instantly fall in love with this beautiful print. The newspaper-style art piece and beautiful frame give a classic touch of elegance to any room in their home.

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Enhance Their Glow With the Glotion

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The Lumi Glotion is a great product for every Girl. It gives a natural glow and a bit of shine. You can wear the Glotion on its own or under your favorite foundation for a complete look.

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These Pillow Covers Are Clean and Classic

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It's usually a safe bet to gift home decor, but we know these throw pillow covers are more than a safe bet. The soft corduroy style and the neutral colors of these covers make them an instant hit.

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This Satin Button-Down Is a Timeless Addition to Any Closet

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From work to drinks with the girls, this gorgeous satin blouse looks fantastic. Gift this beautiful top to the EveryGirl in your life who's looking to boost their wardrobe with a few more staple pieces.

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Add Light With This Arched Mirror

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Mirrors are a brilliant way to add light and the illusion of space to any room. This arched mirror is a fan-favorite, and it's easy to see why. The classic silhouette looks elegant anywhere.

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TikTok Loves This Artificial Olive Tree

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TikTokers have been raving about this faux tree for months now. The gorgeous piece brings a bit of "life" to a space and there's something about the color and shape that just feels timeless.

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You've Got to Have a Quality Blazer

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This beautiful blazer is an essential in any wardrobe. The silhouette of this beautiful piece adds so much elegance to any outfit, and the fit manages to be both timeless and modern.

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These Vases Add a Modern Touch

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Whether you fill them with flowers or just gift these vases, they're going to be a total hit. Their fun, modern shape and style bring a flair of style to any room.

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These Loafers Are Comfortable and Stylish

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A pair of loafers is an essential in any wardrobe. These gorgeous shoes are from LifeStride, which means they're just as comfortable as they are timeless, making them the perfect gift for your EveryGirl.

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This Slouchy Hobo Bag Goes With Anything

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A leather bag like this one is at the top of any EveryGirl's wishlist. The bag has a great shape but has just enough slouch in it to make it look and feel effortlessly cool with any outfit.

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Brighten Those Under Eyes With This Catrice Cream

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Packed with hyaluronic acid, this cream is a brilliant way to hydrate, cover, and nourish the skin under your eyes all at once. It's the perfect no-makeup makeup find for the EveryGirl.

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Lounge for Hours in This Trendy Set

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This loungewear set is a great way to embrace rest and relaxation. The set is elegant, fun, comfortable, and really stylish. It's a great gift for the casual EveryGirl who prioritizes comfort.

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Curate the Best Environment With This Reed Diffuser

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This gorgeous reed diffuser instantly elevates a room. The relaxing scent fills the room and adds a bit of sophistication and a whole lot of pleasant smells that your EveryGirl will fall in love with.

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This Cardigan Is a Dream

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Having a few high-quality cardigans in your wardrobe is a must and this striped cardigan is one of the best. The silhouette is classic and elegant and it styles with anything from jeans to shirts to dresses.

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These Lee Pants Are Elegant and Comfortable

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If you want to gift your EveryGirl with something she'll wear all the time, these pants are a great find. The cut is classic and elegant and the fabric is comfortable and just stretchy enough.

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Gift Them Radiant Skin With This Moisturizer

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This hydrogel cream from Honest Beauty is made with jojoba, squalene, and hyaluronic acid to offer oil-free, lightweight, lasting moisturization and radiance for any skin type, even sensitive!

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This Ribbed Sweater Is a Great Blend of Casual and Elegant

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This causal knitted top can be styled up or down, depending on the situation. The top is a great find for your EveryGirl, giving them a timeless piece they'll reach for all the time.

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