8 Essential Weekend Guest Hosting Tips for Peak Adulting

While enrolling yourself in adulting school may be a somewhat extreme method of getting better at the whole “being a grown up” thing, there are always new ways to empower yourself with skills, ideas, and go-to fixes that make you feel more independent and capable. Finding this feeling of confidence extends to fun things too (it’s not all bills and retirement plans!) — like hosting out-of-town friends for a weekend. We’ve already got our dinner party entertaining on lock and know how to throw an Instagram-worthy outdoor bash, but when it comes to longer-term hosting, we could use a little help. (How much together time is too much, anyway?!) Which is exactly why we put together this list of eight ways for you to easily slay the hosting game.

1.Plan it out. To avoid the “What do you want to do? I don’t care, what do you want to do?” phenomenon, have an (easily adaptable) plan for things to do once your guests arrive. We’re all for tailoring the activities to your friends’ interests while leaving room open for spontaneous adventures and needed downtime. Weekend festivals, art museums, hiking trails, neighborhood restaurants, and outdoor concerts are all awesome ways to give your guests an authentic experience that you’ll enjoy too. To help keep reservations, tickets, and schedules organized, we’re glued to our Brit + Co planners from Target. Since they’re super-customizable with yearly, monthly, and daily calendar pages, dry erase pages, and sticky notes, planning enjoyable events is even more fun.

2. Ensure bathroom amenities abound. There’s nothing worse than starting your period or realizing you forgot deodorant while you’re on vacation in someone else’s home. Help cut down on any potential awkwardness on your guest’s part by having self-care necessities like tampons, a razor, Advil, Tums, and an extra roll of toilet paper on a shelf in the bathroom so they can take care of their body in peace.

3. Stock up on local publications. Keep a current issue of a regional magazine and local newspaper out for your guests to look through while they’re staying with you. It’ll give them some insight into your city and offer suggestions for things to do you might not have otherwise thought of. Most local mags also come out with an annual “best eats” issue, which is always a crowd-pleaser (and will definitely mean less cooking for you!).

4. Snack time is all the time. Even when you tell your guests to “help yourself to whatever’s in the kitchen” a million times, chances are, they just aren’t going to feel comfortable rooting around in your pantry. Leave out a basket of bottled water, crackers, some fruit, and a few granola bars for your guests to grab without guilt. We also like keeping some pre-sliced cucumbers and cherry tomatoes in the fridge next to a tub of hummus for a healthy option that requires zero work.

5. Have fun playing bartender. You’re obvi going to be in major party mode once your friends arrive — so be sure to have the cocktail essentials ready to go. We like keeping tequila, vodka, bourbon, gin, and the accompanying mixers (club soda, ginger ale, tonic) on hand, with assorted glasses, a cocktail shaker, jigger, and ice bucket at the ready. We’ll also keep some fresh juices in the fridge that can double as mixers or breakfast options (or both, if we’re honest).

6. Invest in luxe guest linens. Even if the sheets are going on a blow-up bed, it’s important to give your guests fresh, clean linens — not only is it just polite, but it shows you were preparing for their arrival, which in turn makes them that much more comfortable. And sure, you’re fine with reusing those towels with the bleach stains, but your guests definitely deserve a fresh set!

7. Perfect at least one killer recipe. Whether it’s a perfectly succulent roast chicken or a veggie lasagna that fools even the most dedicated carnivore, having an easy, no-fail recipe to feed a group is essential to your hosting duties. There’s no better feeling than successfully feeding your friends, everyone contented and full because of something you made. We suggest practicing a few times on your own before they arrive (lunch leftovers!) so you can perfect it without pressure.

8. Give ’em space. Of course, you’re all excited to see each other and can’t wait to catch up all weekend long, but everyone needs some down time. We suggest getting up before your guests to get the coffee on and take a seat on the back patio — that way, when they wake up, they can either come out and join you or grab a cup and head back to bed to fully wake up before facing the day. A pre-dinner rest is also another easy (and welcome!) time to give everyone a chance to breathe.

Do you have a tried-and-true hosting tip you love to live by? Tweet us @BritandCo to let us know what works for you!

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Blake Lively is as multifaceted as they come. She's an actress who has starred in titles like Gossip Girl, A Simple Favor, and The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants (plus It Ends With Us). She's the founder of Betty Buzz, which has a variety of non-alcoholic mixers that taste just as good on their own as they do with liquor. And, she's also a mom. Lively has been outspoken about protecting her children from the paparazzi, making rare public appearances with them for events like her husband Ryan Reynolds' Hollywood Walk Of Fame Ceremonyandcozy date nights.

When Lively and Reynolds seemingly announced the birth of their fourth child last year, we melted. Here's everything you need to know about Ryan Reynolds and Blake Lively's kids.

Is Taylor Swift friends with Blake Lively's kids?

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Yes, Taylor Swift loves Blake Lively's kids! The family has shown up to the Eras Tour multiple times, and most recently supported the popstar at her concert in New Orleans, Louisiana. Blake and Ryan were joined by oldest daughter James (who looked amazing in a Reputation-inspired 'fit), and I can't believe how much James and Blake look alike! She's truly her mini-me! At the Philadelphia show of the Eras Tour, which Ryan Reynolds and Blake Lively attended, Taylor said hello from the stage.

One funny detail about Ryan Reynolds' kids that I love is when he mentioned the girls finally realized Taylor Swift was a popstar. "I think what's most exciting for them is that for the longest time they just thought Taylor's just like an aunt, like a friend of Mommy and Daddy that's very, very close, almost family," he tellsThe Jess Cagle Show. "And then they went to a concert one day and were like, 'Ohhhhh, this isn't a hobby.'"

For Super Bowl Sunday in 2024, Blake Lively joined Taylor Swift to support beau (and KC Chiefs tight end) Travis Kelce. "Last week I left my kids for the first time ever," she says on Instagram. "I took pictures upside down and had no clue. I treated a friendship bracelet like a Flat Stanley for my husband like I didn’t realize it wasn’t ‘07. I borrowed more jewelry than the skeleton in the Pirates of the Caribbean ride. And I went clubbing. Now I know what my episode of TheTwilight Zone would look like."

How do Ryan Reynolds and Blake Lively prioritize their kids?

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At the end of September, Ryan Reynolds revealed how different parenting seems to be now than when he was a kid. "Parents today are so different. We're so soft," he said at HubSpot’s INBOUND tech conference (via People). "I don't yell. I grew up with like — it was nuts, it was an improvised militia.”

“Now it's like, I can go look at all my resources for parenting and remind myself how to be perfectly compassionate,” he continued. "Something I love about [conflict resolution], and I know this is not very fancy, but what I love about it is that you can meet somebody where they are, and you don't have to be right or wrong...You can disagree and still connect."

Blake Lively recently joined an episode of her Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants' costar Amber Tamblyn's Further Adoand revealed the one unbreakable rule she made with Ryan Reynolds.

“When Ryan and I got together, we made a rule not to work at the same time,” she says. “So that we could always prioritize our personal life...That takes working really hard when we're not. Just like financial planning and sustaining that; it takes balance.”

I love that Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds are serious about their family life, and that they have identified what works for them and are sticking with it.

What is the name of Blake Lively's 4th baby?

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Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds' fourth baby is named Olin, which he revealed during the July 22 premiere of Deadpool & Wolverine!

Before Ryan chose to reveal the name, he appeared on the Today show and made a cheeky joke about it after the hosts urged him to spill the beans. He said, "We always wait for Taylor to tell us what the child's name will be. We'll say this: we're still waiting."

What are Blake Lively kids ages?

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Blake Lively's kids are all under 10. James is 9 (turning 10 on December 16), Inez is 7 (turning 8 on September 30), Betty is 4 (turning 5 on October 4), and Olin turned 1 in February.

What gender is Ryan and Blake's fourth child?

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On July 26, Ryan Reynolds confirmed that he and Blake Lively's fourth baby, born in February 2023, is a boy in an Instagram video supporting mental health charity Walking 4 Hope. Speaking with founder John Bell, who struggled with suicidal ideation after the 2020 loss of his son Jake, Reynolds says, “I want to share with you that I, too, have a son...Boy, John, if I love him one-tenth as much as you love Jake, I’ll feel like I’ve done a pretty d—mn good job.”

Considering how adorable James, Inez, and Betty are, I can only imagine how cute Blake Lively's son is!

How many children do Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds have?

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Ryan Reynolds and Blake Lively have four kids. They welcomed their third daughter in 2019, making this new addition to the family their fourth child.

Did Blake Lively have a 4th baby?

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Blake Lively posted a pic on Super Bowl Sunday in 2023 showing what appears to be a post-baby body with the caption "Been busy."

Lively confirmed her fourth pregnancy in September 2022 when she arrived at her Forbes event in NYC cradling a baby bump and by posting her own personal photos on Instagramhoping that "the 11 guys waiting outside [her] home for a 🦄 sighting will leave [her] alone."

How old was Blake Lively when she had her first child?

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Blake Lively was 27 when she gave birth to her first daughter, James, in December of 2014.

Why did Blake Lively name her daughter James?

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The couple decided to name their daughter James after Reynolds' late father. While the name connects both James and Reynolds to his father, it also gives Lively the chance to bond with her daughter over having historically male names. "I liked having a boy's name," Lively said on Good Morning Americain 2015. "I thought I'd pass it on."

Their third daughter Betty's name is a tribute to Lively's late father. We didn't know the name of the couple's third baby until Taylor Swift used all three names in her 2020 album folklore. Swift also used James' voice at the beginning of her 2017 track "Gorgeous"! Does that mean we'll hear one of Ryan Reynolds' children in Reputation (Taylor's Version)? I hope so!

What has Ryan Reynolds said about raising their kids?

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In a conversation with Hugh Jackman ahead of Deadpool & Wolverine, Ryan Reynolds opened up about how his family has helped his anxiety. "I think it makes it better because your focus is less on yourself and more on your kids," he says (via People). "I love that I've had anxiety because when I see my kids experiencing some of that, which is probably genetic, I know how to address it in a way that is compassionate, that actually allows them to feel seen. I know that I can't just fix it. And I can communicate all that stuff to them and with them. I'm always grateful for it."

Per People, Ryan Reynolds has also made it clear he and Blake are wholly invested in the kids' daily lives. The doting husband and father enjoys the moments of "walking them to school and walking them back" as it deepens their bond. More than anything, Ryan and Blake's main goal is to make sure they teach their kids how to be introspective with Ryan saying "the thing we sort of hang our hat on the most is self-awareness with our kids."

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However, that doesn't mean Blake and Ryan don't absolutely love being parents. "We're very excited [and] we wouldn't do this four times if we didn't love it," he says in an interview with CNBC's Power Lunch. "Everybody's doing great. Everybody's actually doing fantastic. I think if we hadn't figured it out by now, I think we'd be in deep, deep trouble."

"It's a zoo over here," he jokes. "This is my office here, this is where I'll probably — to be honest, I'll probably spend the rest of my life in here."

We love how much energy Ryan and Blake are pouring into their kids. It's always beautiful when parents are able to be present with their kids and teach them how to be present with themselves. Ryan Reynolds has also mentioned how having daughters "has been such a ride." Since he comes from a family of all boys, having daughters is something that was beyond his wildest dreams! “I love being a girl dad,” Ryan tells Access in 2020. “I have three daughters, which I never in a million years would imagine.”

He mentioned his newest child in June of 2023, when he announced his new series Bedtime Stories. "The idea for a show made to help everyone fall asleep was born the same day as my fourth child," he says on Instagram.

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The Deadpool actor also offered some parenting advice on Amanda Hirsch’s hit podcastNot Skinny But Not Fat. "Embrace the chaos,” he tells Hirsch. "[Blake] always says, ‘They're all under our roof right now. The whole family's under our roof right now. We have them all.’ And that is a fleeting thing. Not an infinite resource, you know?”

While Reynolds understands firsthand how overwhelming parenting can feel, he also doesn't wish away this time with four young kids: “Just say, ‘Think about what you would give in 40 years or 30 years to come back and enjoy this one moment.’"

Besides this, Ryan knows their kids' childhoods don't mirror his or Blake's. However, he's not trying to place a huge emphasis on that because he wants them to have "as normal a life as possible" (via Page Six).

"I try not to impose upon them the difference in their childhood to my childhood or my wife’s childhood," he said (via The Hollywood Reporter). "We both grew up very working class, and I remember when they were very young, I used to say or think, like, ‘Oh God, I would never have had a gift like this when I was a kid,’ or, ‘I never would’ve had this luxury of getting takeout,’ or whatever."

In his eyes, he doesn't feel like it's the kids' responsibility or "bag of rocks to carry" because they're full of "gratitude" and "have a strong sense of empathy." That's how he knows he and Blake are "doing an OK job" as parents.

How has motherhood affected Blake Lively?

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Blake Lively opened up about how Ryan Reynolds and she monitor screen safety for their kids, which is definitely something top-of-mind in 2024. “This is not an ad. I get nothing out of this. I just love @tappityapp,” she said of the STEM-focused educational app. “It’s engaging, informative, fun and they care about safety."

She also jokes that she's learning new things right along with her kids! But, no matter how educational or fun an app is, Blake Lively also emphasizes the importance of engaging with her kids' devices: "I’m always triple checking any kids app constantly for safety because that’s my responsibility not an app’s, but I do LOVE this one.”

Despite its fun and funny moments, the actress has admitted being a mom is hard, but she did it with her signature dry sense of humor. “BettyBooze at your service," she wrote in an Instagram Story announcing the new brand. "These are recipes I’ve been making for loved ones for years. But I have 4 kids now. And I’m tired. So here they are. In a can."

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However, Blake Lively absolutely loves motherhood, and says in a 2022 interview with Forbes that having children has made her feel more comfortable in her own skin. "Once I had children, that just became even more profound because my time was even more precious, but also I think having children for me made me feel so much more in my skin," she says. "I never felt more myself or at ease in my own body or more confident — not to say that there aren't a bevy of insecurities coming at me a million times a day, but I just feel incredibly settled."

Speaking with People in 2021, Lively also explains how important it is that her children see her accomplish things outside the home. "I want to be as present of a mother as humanly possible and I want them to feel my presence, but I also think the best way to be the best mother is to show them that you can have a life and have a passion and have an identity outside of just being a mother," Lively says.

While she acknowledges that motherhood is all-encompassing, and it looks different for everyone, she knows that having your own identity is very important. "Teaching them that they can maintain themselves and that everything is possible [is crucial]," she adds.

When did Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds have their daughters?

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Blake Lively's children were all born in the last 10 years. Blake Lively's daughters are James, Inez, Betty, and her fourth child is named Olin! Their fourth baby's name was announced during the premiere of Deadpool & Wolverine. Blake gave birth to James in 2014, while Inez was born in 2016. Lively gave birth to Betty in 2019 and Olin in February of 2023.

Do Ryan Reynolds and Blake Lively's kids have nannies?

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Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds' children don't have a nanny. "I feel like I could sometimes have a bit of a short fuse, but there's just been this weirdly endless supply of patience," Ryan told GQ in 2015. "I have no problem waking up five times in the middle of the night and changing diapers, and as exhausted as you get, I have this stupid grin on my face all the time."

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New year, new relationship status. At least, that seems to be the rule for our favorite celebrities. While J.Lo and Ben Affleck settled their divorce and Austin Butler and Kaia Gerber split, it looks like Suki Waterhouse and Robert Pattinson might have gotten married! They've been one of our favorite celebrity couples since they started dating in 2018 — and even more so when People confirmed their engagement in 2023. Well, according to one DeuxMoi source, it appears that the couple tied the knot over the holidays.

Here's everything we know about those Suki Waterhouse and Robert Pattinson wedding rumors.

Suki Waterhouse & Robert Pattinson rumored to have a "cute and sweet" wedding.

According to the rumor, it appears Rob and Suki entered 2025 as a married couple. "Robert Pattinson and Suki Waterhouse got married at NYE at the Caribbean resort I work at!!!" the source told DeuxMoi (via Daily Mail). "They were so cute and sweet, their baby was there in a gorgeous little bridesmaids dress."

"Their family was there as well," and the couple proved they're still some of our favorite celebs because they were "so nice" to everyone, according to the source! I didn't doubt it for a moment ;).

Although rumors from InTouch Weekly claim the couple were already married as of June 2024, so we'll have to wait to see if Rob and Suki decide to share with us!

When it comes to their family, Suki Waterhouse recently shared that Robert Pattinson is "the [best] dad I could have hoped for...It’s an actual love story."

"[Having a baby] makes you feel very old and very young," Rob said during Paris Fashion Week. "She's so cute...You know, I'm amazed by how quickly their personality comes. So even at three months, I'm like, 'Oh…I can kinda see who she is already.'"

Suki Waterhouse & Robert Pattinson aren't the only ones with marriage on their minds.

Suki Waterhouse & Robert Pattinson's marriage rumors come after Tom Holland and Zendaya's engagement — and rumors that Rob could wind up in their wedding!

“As Tom and Zendaya move closer to having a wedding next year, basically living like a husband and wife already, and continuing to book multiple film projects together, Rob is cheering them on,” a source tells Life & Style. "If things keep going in this direction, Rob is going to figure into their wedding as a best man or groomsman and he absolutely wants the new, little families they are starting to be close going forward."

Consider us the leaders of the Suki Waterhouse & Robert Pattinson fan club! For more celeb love stories, check out why Tom Holland Says Working With Zendaya Is The "Best Thing That Ever Happened To Me."

Everyone deals with family issues, but some people had more dysfunctional childhoods than others. Are there ways to tell? According to family psychologist Caitlin Slavens of Mamapsychologistsand therapist Rachel D. Miller, Ph.D., LMFT of Hold The Vision Therapy, yes!

Slavens says, "As a family psychologist, I’ve seen how growing up in a dysfunctional family leaves its mark. Sometimes the signs are glaring, like obvious chaos or neglect." However, she said the signs can also be "more subtle" being that they're "things you don’t even realize were 'off' until you’re older." You may even "start noticing patterns in yourself or your relationships" if you've become retrospective, according to her.

Here are all the subtle signs you grew up in a dysfunctional family

1. You're never sure what kind of mood your parents will be in before you walk in the living room or kitchen.

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Let's put this on record: parenting is tough — especially on top of trying to maintain a work-life balance. But, this doesn't mean you're meant to be unsure of what to expect every time you come around your parents. If you have to "'read the room'" a lot "before speaking," Slavens indicates this is one of the more subtle signs of dysfunction.

This is where you may have learned how to become passive-aggressive if that's something you struggle with. The reason for this is because "clear and direct communication is avoided and/or seen as bad or aggressive," according to Dr. Miller.

2. You tend to feel like you're constantly compared to and in competition with your siblings.

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My heart truly wants to believe this isn't intentional behavior from parents, but I can't say I haven't heard people talk about feeling like they'd never measure up to the 'golden child' of their family. You may have felt insecure about your grades, the college you chose to go to, your career goals, or even your physical appearance. Slavens says this "struggle with self-worth or second-guessing yourself constantly" is yet another sign that your family's dynamic wasn't the healthiest.

Also, Dr. Miller says this could've caused you to learn to "shrink yourself in the presence of loved ones." Even worse, you may "feel the need to hide pieces of yourself in order to be loved and accepted."

3. There was constant yelling and screaming during arguments, making you fearful of disagreements or hardships.

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If you grew up in a home where arguments always led to screaming and yelling, chances are you're not a fan of loud voices or hard moments. Honestly, Slavens says it's not hard to believe that "conflict make you anxious, even when it’s minor." Unsurprisingly, you may have become a referee during these arguments and currently find yourself being a mediator in your platonic or romantic relationships. Why?

Dr. Miller says, "You constantly feel the need to manage everyone else’s emotions often at the cost of your own needs and wellbeing." You know, to keep the peace.

Here are some more obvious signs you grew up in a dysfunctional family

4. You had to take on a parental role when one of your parents decided to stop being an adult.

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I imagine that having an emotionally immature parent is one of the most aggravating and stressful things to deal with. Not only that, but you may have had to help keep the household afloat. You may have had to get a job or two to help pay bills, listening to an adult conversation as your mom or dad laid their problems at your young feet, and more!

If you "family roles were flipped" and you "maybe had to parent your own parents," Slavens says this is a form of emotional dysfunction.

5. You weren't allowed to go anywhere with your friends because your parents wanted to keep an eye on you at all times.

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Slavens says boundaries that "didn't exist" or "were rigid and controlling" is a sign your home was a little...interesting. Being concerned about your whereabouts is one thing, but it's another when you're unable to do anything without your parents' eagle-eyes on you. Something as simple as going to the mall with your friends may have become a lecture about the dangers of shoplifting or car wrecks. Again, these are valid concerns but they shouldn't be treated like the verbal form of doom scrolling.

6. You consistently witnessed one of your parents abuse alcohol or drugs at home.

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This is a tough because substance abuse is so prevalent in varies socioeconomic statuses and communities. From the functioning alcoholic to the one who becomes belligerent after they've had too much to drink, it always affects those around them. Slavens says if "there was ongoing neglect, substance abuse, or verbal/physical aggression," your home probably didn't safe.

I recognize some of these signs of a dysfunctional family. But that doesn't mean they're affecting my current relationships, right?

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I hate to break it to you, but it's possible your childhood wounds have shown up before. "Dysfunctional dynamics don’t stay in childhood — they tend to creep into how you connect with others," says Slavens. Similarly, Dr. Miller agrees that "we typically repeat what we learned at home with our families in our other relationships." How?

"This includes the beliefs and rules we follow, often completely subconsciously, about what can and can’t talk about and why, as well as what emotions are allowed to be expressed, who can express them and how, and how we should or must respond to those people and their emotions," explains Dr. Miller.

Another way to look at this is how Slavens has outlined it:

In Platonic Relationships:

  1. Overextending yourself to please others, even at your own expense
  2. Feeling like you have to "earn your friends' affections.
  3. Avoiding vulnerability because it feels unsafe.

In Romantic Relationships:

  1. Struggling to trust your partner or feeling overly suspicious
  2. Repeating patterns like dating people who are emotionally unavailable or controlling.
  3. Feeling overly responsible for your partner's happiness — or relying on them for yours.

OMG! How do I unlearn habits from my dysfunctional family?

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Honestly, everyone has a few bad habits they've carried from their childhood to adulthood. You're not an outlier because some things weren't 100% normal so I don't want you to feel like you're a failure for not having having it all together. "Dysfunction doesn’t have to define your future relationships," Slavens assures. Dr. Miller says you can start to unlearn things "that aren't working for you anymore" by "gathering your family's larger context to gain insight into how and why, for them, the behaviors make sense."

By taking a look at your family's "history and larger social and political contexts" gives you a chance to "see them as whole people with full lives," she says. Once you do that, she believes "you can examine what pieces make sense for you to keep and what parts you'd like to learn to do differently." Her other suggestion? Don't forget you're ability to utilize a "therapist who works systemically, like an LMFT" who "can be a huge support in this process."

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Slavens' tips include the following:

  1. Practice self-awareness: Notice when a response feels automatic — like people-pleasing or shutting down during conflict — and ask yourself, Is this helping me, or is this a leftover habit from the past?
  2. Set boundaries: If your childhood lacked healthy boundaries, learning to say “no” without guilt is a game-changer. Boundaries protect your energy and teach others how to treat you.
  3. Learn healthy conflict skills: If conflict made you feel unsafe growing up, it’s natural to avoid it. But healthy conflict is necessary in relationships. Practice expressing your needs calmly and directly.
  4. Therapy, therapy, therapy: A good therapist can help untangle the messy, “weird” things that got normalized and give you tools to rebuild healthier ways of relating to yourself and others.
  5. Surround yourself with healthier models: Whether it’s friends, mentors, or books/podcasts, seek examples of functional relationships and start observing what feels different.

While you're busy unlearning things, Dr. Miller also wants you to remember something. "Recognize that how your family does something is simply that; how your particular family system figured out and were taught to navigate the world. It isn’t inherently right because you’ve normalized it nor is the way another person or family does it inherently wrong," she says.

Slavens' final thoughts? "It’s not about blaming your family but recognizing how your experiences shaped you — and giving yourself permission to do things differently. You’re allowed to rewrite the script."

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Valentine’s Day is unarguably the cutest holiday of them all – come February 14, everything’s drenched in festive reds and pinks, and, of course, dotted in tons of tiny little hearts. As much as we love decking out our spaces with Valentine’s Day decor and baking up some tasty V-Day desserts, the idea of dressing up for a Valentine’s Day date night is simply so exciting, whether we’re paired up with our S.O.’s or flying solo.

Since we’re constantly stalking Anthropologie’s new arrivals (they’re just too good!), we curated the 17 best finds, all suitable for a fun and flirty Valentine’s Day function.

Scroll on to shop 17 stunning Valentine’s Day styles from Anthropologie!

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Mac Duggal Halter Rosette Satin Maxi Dress

Ooh, so sultry! This satin maxi dress features a cheeky open back design that pairs perfectly with a flattering halter neckline. The big rosette decal on the front recalls Valentine's Day blooms in the cutest way.

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RIXO Ardith Check Midi Slip Skirt

With bits of red and pink, this plaid midi skirt would be so sweet for a more casual V-Day date alongside an oversized sweater and some ballet flats.

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Dolce Vita Linsey Heels

These deep red satin heels with pairs of rosettes on the straps are everything. They'd work well with a mini dress and blazer for a fun V-Day 'fit, though you could also easily wear 'em year-round with dress pants and a formal blouse.

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Lace Rosette Tulle Tights

These floral tights will instantly upgrade any Valentine's Day get-up, especially if you plan on wearing a coordinating mini dress or skirt – they're meant to be seen!

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By Anthropologie Colorblock Column Midi Dress

The bold color blocking on this midi dress is playful enough that you can wear the piece alone. It'll look great whether you dress it up with heels, or down with some comfy sneakers.

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The Giselle Lace Bustier

If you feel like really dressing up this year, this lacy bustier top adds a very sexy-yet-elegant vibe. Pair it with some black slacks or a black skirt, then layer up with a sleek cardigan or jacket.

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The Tilda Maxi Slip Skirt

When it doubt, red it out. The color is V-Day's perfect match, and this comfy maxi slip skirt makes donning it so easy. You can style it however you please – we'd rock it with a tucked-in graphic tee, a denim jacket, and some sneakers.

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Coconuts by Matisse Florence Kitten Heels

Kitten heels will always be a winner in our book. This sleek pair features a tiny heel height, pointed toes, and eye-catching paneling with mixed materials. They'll instantly complete your Valentine's Day outfit!

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Reformation Tancy Midi Dress

Reformation kills it when it comes to dresses. This one's dotted in tiny hearts to fit right in with Valentine's season. The sweetheart neckline is ultimately super flattering, plus the midi length of the piece gives you ample coverage so you can wear it to a variety of plans, from dates to Galentine's parties!

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Endless Rose Sequin Mini Skirt

This fiery and feisty number is a statement piece all on its own. Wear it with a more toned-down black top and some tall black boots to complete the look!

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The Kenna Mid-Rise Heritage Barrel Jeans by Pilcro: Valentine's Day Edition

These ever-trendy barrel jeans are adorned with subtle heart illustrations, so they're a perfect fit for the lovey-dovey holiday.

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ALOHAS Tb.490 Rife Sneakers

Yes, yes, and yes! These pink sneaks detailed with some bits of red practically scream Valentine's Day. The mix of suede on the upper and the rubber soles is so cute.

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The Hannah Seamless Textured Tank

This tank boasts a floral texture that makes it a great base layer for any V-Day 'fits you're planning. The red is the obvious choice for Feb. 14, though you can also shop this piece in 8 more colors!

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Endless Rose Off-The-Shoulder Knit Mini Dress

We looove an off-the-shoulder moment. The knit material on this piece will keep you warm, but the silhouette still allows you to show a lil' skin.

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Beach Riot Monterey Quarter-Zip Sweater

How cutesy is this sweater?! It's the perfect casual V-Day piece if your plans this year are simply to stay in and bake some delicious treats.

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Maeve Bow Lace Turtleneck Top

This top was made for layering. Whether you wear just a bralette or a full-on tank under it, the sheer pattern boasts some adorable bows that feel extremely appropriate for the V-Day season!

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Bibi Lou Bonnie Slingback Buckle Detail Heels

We can't get enough of these eye-catching heels. The bold buckle, block heel, and slingback strap instantly qualify them as a total "it girl" shoe for Valentine's Day.

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Want to get a year-round radiance? Now is the perfect time to upgrade your beauty routine. Whether you are looking to have a glowing base for makeup, help protect and grow your hair, or improve the skin all over your body, these finds are going to be crucial in giving you a radiant look from wintertime to summertime. From luxe facial serums to hair-thickening treatments to splurge-worthy LED masks, this list has a little something for every concern and budget.

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Get Younger-Looking Skin With iRestore LED Face Mask Light Therapy

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How would you like to have firmer and younger-looking skin in six to twelve weeks from now? Completely transform your routine with this iRestore LED face mask light therapy. There are a lot of choices for LED masks out there, but iRestore is an industry leader with 360 LEDs, which is over 2x the number of LEDs compared to other brands. This mask comes with an adjustable fit, enhanced eye protection, and a design that hovers over the face for utmost comfort. Enjoy Red, Infrared, and Blue Light Therapy that targets effective treatment for your skin concerns. You're going to love having this mask in your beauty arsenal.

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Even the Skin With BeautyStat Triple Action One-Step Daily Exfoliating Peel Pad

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If you struggle with uneven skin tone, fine lines, enlarged pores, or textured skin, this is the product for you. This triple action one-step daily exfoliating peel pad from BeautyStat is going to help gently exfoliate your skin. Lactic acid stays on the skin surface to provide immediate radiance, and time-released salicylic acid gently and naturally exfoliates all day, while polyglutamic acid binds water to the skin to prevent dryness.

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Mizani 25 Miracle Nourishing Hair Oil Softens and Add Shines

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Get gorgeous, soft, and shiny hair courtesy of the Mizani 25 miracle nourishing hair oil. This nourishing, lightweight, leave-in oil comes with 25 benefits to leave hair soft, shiny, and easy to style. The hair oil goes a long way; only two drops are needed to blend evenly through the hair. You'll love how this product rejuvenates dull and dry hair, leaving you feeling radiant.

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This Makeup Palette with All Your Beauty Essentials

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This Laura Geller New York palette includes a bronzer, two highlighters, blush, and three eyeshadows, all in stunning neutral tones to give you a pretty, glam finish in one compact package.

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This Pore Mask For Unrecognizable Skin

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Formulated to refine and refresh your pores, this Pore Mask leaves your skin free from impurities with one quick use. Use this mask weekly to transform your skin into a glass-like finish that will become a complexion that you will love.

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This Foundation Can Do It All

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It's time to toss those makeup products that are drying and irritating for your skin and upgrade to K-beauty, which will make a difference in no time. This Foundation not only hydrates your skin but leaves a natural, lightweight finish that will stay on all day and night. The cherry on top is the SPF 50,+ which is a must-have for the warmer seasons ahead.

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Get Your Glow On With This Beauty Wand

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Go ahead and add these e.l.f. cosmetics beauty wands to your cart because they won't last long! With a foolproof cushion tip applicator, this wand makes achieving a glowy, radiant makeup look easier than ever. Get it as a contour, highlighter, or blush – it's the best affordable dupe for the viral Charlotte Tilbury wand. One reviewer says, "These blend out SO easy, and you can make it as sheer or as dark as you want. It's very buildable. I use my fingertips or a brush, and both work beautifully."

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Wake Up Gorgeous With MISSHA Time Revolution Night Repair Face Serum

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This MISSHA time revolution night repair face serum is going to have you waking up with stunning and glowing skin. The serum utilizes an extreme biome complex with 10 probiotics, undergoing triple fermentation for potent rejuvenating powers. Each drop is carefully crafted through high-pressure extraction, ensuring highly concentrated and pure extracts. This moisturizing serum enhances elasticity, radiance, and firmness overnight, initiating skin recovery within 10 hours of use.

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A Mini Travel Kit of Beauty Essentials for Hydrated Skin

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This mini travel kit is a great way to sample products that are sure to give you a hydration boost. The set includes a variety of skincare essentials, from a hyaluronic cream to an avocado cleanser, so it's easier than ever to figure out what works best for you. One reviewer says, "I can tell you 100% these live up to the hype and will buy this again."

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Get Illuminated Skin With Glow Recipe Niacinamide Dew Drops Face Serum

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For a radiant glow at any point in the year, try the Glow Recipe niacinamide dew drops face serum. Containing the holy grail of hydration, hyaluronic acid reveals supple, bouncy, and dewy skin. This hydrating serum has a thin, buildable texture, making it suitable for even the most oily skin types.

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Smooth and Brighten Under Eyes With Womaness Eye Opener Anti Aging Eye Cream

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Do you struggle with dark and puffy under eyes? Try adding this eye opener anti aging eye cream from Womaness to your routine. This brightening and illuminating dark circle eye cream includes the powerfully hydrating HyaClear 7 (hyaluronic acid derivative), and Bakuchiol to help tackle fine lines and wrinkles. You're going to love how this miracle product makes you look refreshed and rejuvenated.

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Glow Up With Lumene Nordic-C Glow Boost Essence Serum

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Get your glow on with the Lumene Nordic-C glow boost essence serum. This serum enhances your skin's natural radiance and provides a hydrating boost for a vibrant, youthful appearance. A triple threat, the serum is enriched with a potent blend of 3 types of hyaluronic acid and polyglutamic acid, providing long-lasting hydration and leaving your skin feeling smooth, refreshed, and revitalized.

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This Kopari Marine Clean Purifying Gel Cleanser Is Dual-Action

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Meet your new favorite dual-action cleanser. This Kopari marine clean purifying gel cleanser is a gentle gel-to-foam cleanser. Made with amino acids for hydration, moisture-retaining Vitamin B5, and nourishing marine algae extracts, this is great for all skin types. Designed to replenish the skin instead of stripping the skin barrier, this effortlessly purifies and melts makeup away.

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Plump the Skin With Volition Beauty Celery Green Cream

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Reap the benefits of a lightweight gel moisturizer with the Volition Beauty celery green cream. This cream is made with peptides to visibly firm the skin and reduce the appearance of fine lines, hyaluronic acid to replenish moisture, and celery to help blur and smooth the skin. This is a must-have in your skin routine if you want a radiant glow.

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Support the Skin's Structure With Margaret Dabbs London Pure Exfoliating Hand Wash

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Nourish your hands with this Margaret Dabbs London pure exfoliating hand wash. This beautiful foaming, rich, and indulgent hand wash is packed with botanical extracts that leave the skin cleansed, hydrated, and replenished. Jojoba beads gently exfoliate, nourish, and support the skin’s healthy structure. Calendula cleanses and calms the skin, buriti, and white water-lily hydrate and encourages elasticity and collagen renewal, and turmeric helps maintain skin health.

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Fight Skin Redness With Tower 28 SOS Intensive Rescue Serum

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Sensitive skin is going to love love love the Tower 28 SOS intensive rescue serum. This lightweight serum is made with hypochlorous acid to help calm your skin, support the skin barrier, and keep flare-ups at bay. If you have red and irritated skin, this serum is going to be a serious lifesaver.

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Get Fuller-Looking Hair With NUTRI-OX Starter Kit for Color-Treated Thinning Hair

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Want glamorous, thick, luscious hair? Skip the hassle of extensions and grow your hair naturally with the NUTRI-OX starter kit for color-treated thinning hair. Made specifically for colored hair, this clinically tested kit comes with shampoo, conditioner, and a densifying tonic, all designed to help grow your hair thicker and fuller.

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The Nakery Face Cleanser Resurfaces and Rejuvenates

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A good cleanser is a real game-changer. If you want to resurface and rejuvenate your skin, you're going to want to add this face cleanser from Nakery to your shopping cart. This collagen-infused facial wash is formulated to delicately eliminate impurities and unveil a luminous, youthful complexion.

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Joico Defy Damage Protective Shield Protects From Heat

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Listen, if you're going to be using heat on your hair, you need this Joico defy damage protective shield. This serum shields from heat, UV, and environmental damage. Use just one pump before blow drying to make hair 4x stronger against breakage during styling. Not only does this protect against color fading, but it will leave hair soft, shiny, and healthy-looking.

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Fight Against Signs of Aging With Shiseido Ultimune Power Infusing Concentrate

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This Shiseido ultimate power infusing concentrate helps you fight against signs of aging. This lightweight, potent formula amplifies hydration and boosts radiance in just three days. The serum increases the skin’s capacity to hold water and prevents elastin degradation to help give you plumper and smoother skin.

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Reap the Benefits of a Solawave 4-in-1 Radiant Renewal Facial Wand Bundle

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This Solawave radiant renewal facial wand bundle is going to be one of your new go-to products in your skincare routine. The 4-in-1 wand helps reduce the appearance of fine lines, dark circles, blemishes, and facial puffiness. This bundle also comes with a lightweight, non-greasy serum that deeply hydrates, enhances performance, and delivers powerful anti-aging benefits.

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The SH-RD Protein Cream Is a Must for Dry Hair

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Promote shine and bounciness with this SH-RD protein cream. This leave-in hair conditioner contains easily absorbable protein that works at a molecular level to repair, restore, and revitalize brittle hair. The cream is enriched with rosemary extract for long-lasting moisture and Vitamin B5 to enhance cuticle elasticity. The hydrolyzed silk protein coats the hair, preventing breakage and forming new bonds while providing fortifying protection. Your dry hair is going to be looking happy and healthy.

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Treat Your Skin to Skynn Studio Hydramoist Moisturizer

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Skin can get dry and flaky any season. Don't let your skin suffer; invest in this hydramoist moisturizer from Skynn Studio. This delivers long-lasting hydration with a light formula that absorbs quickly, keeping your skin moisturized and supple throughout the day without feeling greasy. The moisturizer is formulated to protect your skin from harmful environmental radicals, helping maintain a healthy, youthful complexion by neutralizing the effects of pollutants and stressors.

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Enhance Dull Skin With BLITHE Pressed Serum

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Kiss dull skin goodbye. This BLITHE pressed serum is going to leave skin hydrated, moisturized, and glowing. Made with apricot extract and niacinamide, this serum offers radiance and brightening properties. This leaves dull skin looking enhanced and helps correct any dark spots.

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Repair Hands With a Patchology Rosé Fingers Renewing Hand Mask

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Do you have cracked, dry hands? Repair them with the Patchology rosé fingers renewing hand mask. These strawberry-scented hydrating hand mask gloves strengthen the skin’s barrier, leaving hands soft, refreshed, and protected from stressors. Infused with shea butter, resveratrol, and strawberry oil, these hand masks provide intense hydration and anti-aging benefits.

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Moira Butter Bliss Lip Balm Hydrates Lips

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Keep your lips kissable thanks to the Moira butter bliss lip balm. This butter balm in a clear, sparkly shade is going to be the perfect amount of glam. This balm is cruelty-free, vegan, paraben-free, sulfate-free, phthalate-free, and gluten-free, so you can feel good about wearing this on top of looking good.

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ASUTRA Indian Healing Clay Mask Can Be Used on Face and Hair

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A 2-in-1 miracle product? Yes, please. This ASUTRA Indian healing clay mask can be used on both your face and in your hair. This clay can help to minimize the appearance of pores, scars, wrinkles, and acne and helps to soften and tone your skin. It can also help with deep cleaning your scalp and hair, making it a truly multi-use product.

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Replenish Skin Moisture With SiO Beauty Eye and Smile Lift Anti-Wrinkle Patches

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Stop aging in its tracks. If you want to diminish the look of fine lines and wrinkles, you'll want to try these SiO Beauty eye and smile lift anti-wrinkle patches. These innovative silicone patches offer a dual-action treatment that moisturizes and rejuvenates your skin overnight. The unique blend of compression and hydration technology revives tired skin, revealing a firmer, more youthful complexion with consistent use.

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Remove Impurities With DIME Beauty Gentle Jelly Cleanser

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Give your skin a deep cleanse with this DIME Beauty gentle jelly cleanser. Made to gently cleanse and nourish skin, this cleanser face wash hydrates and soothes as it delicately removes excess oil, dirt, impurities, and makeup. The unique formula contains a blend of naturally-derived surfactants like coconut, Vitamin E, and lycopene, which nourish skin and help fight free radicals.

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Thinning Hair Needs divi Scalp Serum

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Want to help promote a healthy scalp and get fuller-looking hair? You're going to need this scalp serum from divi. This is designed to nourish your scalp and promote a fuller, healthier-looking head of hair. In a 12-week study, 90% of participants saw improvement in hair fullness, and 87% noticed increased hair density. The serum is formulated with powerful ingredients like amino acids, caffeine, peptides, and rosemary oil.

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This Alpyn Super Peptide & Ghostberry Moisturizer Is Barrier-Boosting

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Restore your skin barrier with this Alpyn super peptide & ghostberry moisturizer. This super cream helps snap skin back to a more youthful appearance. Ghostberry, ceramides, and hyaluronic acid help replenish and restore the look of a dry, compromised barrier. A mix of 14 peptides, including snap 8, helps to visibly relax the appearance of lines and wrinkles.

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Get Smoother Skin Overnight With Olay Retinol 24 Face Moisturizer

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How would you like to wake up looking younger? This Olay retinol 24 face moisturizer will have you waking up with smooth, bright skin. This fragrance-free, hydrating, and clean gel formula feels smooth and absorbs quickly with no sticky or tacky feeling.

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Get Healthy Skin With the House of Grō Touch Hydrating Body Serum

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Treat your whole body to the House of Grō touch hydrating body serum. This one-of-a-kind body serum is going to nourish your skin. The adaptogenic power duo Chaga and Snow Mushroom join forces to deeply nourish, smooth, and hydrate skin while the roller applicator promotes circulation.

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Protect From Color Fading With Pureology Color Fanatic Leave-in Conditioner

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Dying your hair is expensive, so protect your hair against color fading with this Pureology color fanatic leave-in conditioner. This leave-in spray detangles, protects, and adds shine to dry, damaged, frizzy, and color-treated hair with key ingredients: camelina, coconut, and olive oils.

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Use This Stream2Sea Hydrate Lip Balm Set Daily

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If you want to keep your lips hydrated, be sure to wear this Stream2Sea hydrate lip balm set on a daily basis. A set of three, this lip balm set is infused with coconut oil and aloe vera extract to nourish and moisturize lips in the harshest of conditions. This is perfect to use year-round.

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Get Daily Hydration From the VT COSMETICS Daily Soothing Mask

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Watch your skin transform in just 30 days when you use this VT COSMETICS daily soothing mask every day for a month. This non-sticky ampoule essence is a daily hydrating formula with nutrient-rich essential ingredients that are absorbed quickly, leaving your combination skin refreshed, nourished, and glowing.

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Glow On With the Sunday Riley C.E.O. Glow

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It is time for you to get your glow on. This Sunday Riley C.E.O. glow is going to have your skin looking more radiant than ever. This face oil is infused with pure Vitamin C and calming turmeric to deliver cold-pressed, nutrient-rich extracts into your skin for a brighter-looking, glowing complexion.

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Get Silky Skin With Naturium The Smoother Glycolic Acid Exfoliating Body Wash

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How would you like to have silky smooth skin all over, all year long? You're going to want to add Naturium, the glycolic acid exfoliating body wash to your shower routine. Formulated with an AHA blend including glycolic, lactic, pyruvic, and tartaric acids, this cleanser sloughs off dead skin cells while red algae hydrate for softer, smoother, and more supple-looking skin.

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erborian Skin Therapy Multi-Perfecting Bi-Phase Night Oil-Serum Is Super-Charged

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Super-charge your skin with this super-charged skin therapy multi-perfecting bi-phase night oil-serum from Erborian. The powerful ingredients work to deliver seven benefits by helping in the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles, luminosity, skin texture, complexion evenness, suppleness, plumpness, and nourishment.

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Get Glass Skin With COSRX Snail Mucin Sheet Mask

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Do you want to achieve the gorgeous look of glass skin? Try to incorporate the COSRX snail mucin sheet mask into your routine. It might sound weird, but snail mucin is a miracle worker for enhancing moisture and instantly soothing damaged skin. Infused with 35,000 ppm of snail mucin, this has a 7x higher concentration than other snail mucin facial masks on the market, making it the perfect choice if you want glowing skin.

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This BYOMA Hydrating Milky Toner Makes Skin Dewy

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Get dewy skin with this BYOMA hydrating milky toner as part of your arsenal. This ultra-soothing face toner works to quench dry skin while restoring sensitized and sensitive skin barriers. Skin is instantly transformed, looking and feeling soft, supple, dewy, and radiant all day long.

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Even Your Skin With Beauty of Joseon Glow Serum

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Uneven skin tone can really diminish your radiance. If you want a stunning glow and even skin tone, you're going to need this Beauty of Joseon glow serum. Made of 60% propolis, 2% niacinamide elixir, the energy of propolis, and the revitalizing essence of niacinamide, this will keep your skin strong and hydrated.

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