Why Mental Health Sick Days Need to Become Part of Our Workplace Conversation

When it comes to mental health, it’s important that all aspects of an individual’s life can help with maintaining health and wellbeing. But what happens when we take the conversation of mental health to the workplace?

As of late, more and more companies are considering the inclusion of mental health days as part of the approved time off that employees can take to address overall health needs that they may have. The idea of mental health days gained major traction this summer when an employee shared an exchange on the topic with her CEO on Twitter, where the CEO took the idea and thanked the employee for bringing light to an incredibly important topic.

Mental health struggles affect a growing number of the population; it’s estimated that one in five American adults (about 40 million) have a mental health condition, which can range from depression and anxiety to suicidality. The number of young people that are beginning to become aware of the effect that mental health plays in their lives is growing as well; the number of youth affected by mental health concerns jumped from eight and a half percent in 2011 to over 11 percent in 2014.

But despite the growing significance of mental health in the lives of everyday people, the heavy stigma and shame of living with mental illness hinder open conversation about mental health management and its impact in our lives. Social media has created a platform for many to begin discussing this, from podcasts to Twitter hashtags and blogs dedicated to the topic, but this issue is too important to be kept out of our offline conversations — or out of the workplace.

From a human resources perspective, mental health days are beneficial for everyone involved. “As far as mental health goes, it’s important that companies accommodate for their employees,” says Sade Walker, who works as an HR coordinator with Healthfirst. “In accordance with the American Disability Act that we follow currently, if a person is diagnosed with mental health issues, accommodations can be made. PTO [paid time off] plans can be used however you need — including mental health days.” Walker adds that ignoring mental health struggles in high-stress work situations can contribute to burnout, which isn’t in anybody’s interest.

Psychiatrists also advocate for the positive effect that mental health days can have on employees. Joy Harden Bradford is a licensed psychologist who publicly advocates for mental health awareness — particularly for Black girls and women, who happen to be among the most underserved populations with regard to mental health care despite research indicating they’re disproportionately vulnerable to mental health issues.

Harden Bradford says, “Just as we have other kinds of doctor appointments, I think being able to take a mental health day, to specifically address your well-being, can help. It encourages affirmation and normalizes mental health, connecting it to other parts of your health like physical health.”

Of course, there is still resistance to the idea of including mental health days as part of care and wellness packages that employees have access to through their jobs. In large part, this stems from the culture of not addressing the impact of mental health, which continues to be falsely perpetuated through harmful stereotypes.

In addition, the nuance of how mental health affects different communities and identities isn’t always adequately addressed. For communities of color and LGBTQ+ individuals, mental health intertwines with a host of other issues that connect directly to their identities as marginalized people. However, because of the assumptions of how these communities should be treated and the systematic oppression against these communities, it remains a challenge to give them the specific care and uplifting that they need.

As a Black woman, and someone who is self-employed, it’s not always easy for me to take a mental health day. But my mental health is part of my overall well-being; having the option to take the day to address an aspect of my health, in the long run, makes me a happier worker, more engaged in my work, and better able to focus on my professional goals. But most importantly, it helps me to see these parts of myself as interconnected; when my mental health is flourishing, so is the likelihood that other aspects of my life are as well.

Including mental health days as part of a company’s policy and benefits package can have a trickle-down effect on employees’ ability to take ownership of their health. It acknowledges the importance of mental health as a part of an individual’s overall well-being; it also shows employees that they are valued for their humanity, and not simply for their productivity.

It’s still largely taboo in American culture to speak on mental health, but it’s too important to ignore. With the growing number of people directly impacted by mental illnesses every day, our inability to give adequate support and care for them in the workplace does a gross injustice to those who want to take care of their health, in all aspects. After all, our health is important — whether it’s physical, mental, or a combination of the two, supporting each other to get the care we need is part of how we foster community and build a more supportive culture.

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You and your friends have likely spent countless hours together, decoding everything from imaginationships to the best comfort shows to watch when you're sad. You've probably even settled into a designated role within the group. Maybe you're the super adventurous one, always suggesting friend date ideas for the group to try, while someone else always knows how to comfort everyone when life gets rough. But, have you ever wondered if you're the most empathetic friend in the group? That's easy, just ask Brianna Paruolo, LCMCH. She's the founder and clinical director of On Par Therapyso she knows how to recognize signs you're an empath, plus how to take care of yourself!

How To Know If You're An Empath

  • Empathy is when "you feel what others are feeling."
  • There are physical, emotional, social, and mental signs that you're an empath.
  • You may be an empath if you get physically exhausted after being in crowds, feel anxious or overwhelmed in emotionally charged environments, feel responsible for other people's happiness, or you find it hard to distinguish your own feelings from someone else's.

Are there really assigned roles in friend groups or am I just imagining things?

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Like I said before, it can seem like you and your friends unintentionally gravitate toward certain 'roles.' It's not like anyone woke up one day and decided, "I'm going to be the 'mother hen' of the group," but it tends to happen. Why?

Paruolo says, "In my clinical work, I've consistently observed that our friendship roles often mirror our early family dynamics. These patterns show up naturally — think about who in your friend group gets the first crisis call, who plans all the gatherings, or who everyone turns to for emotional support." I'm willing to bet you thought of a name for each scenario — including yours — because I know I did!

"Like in families, we each fall into specific roles that feel familiar to us," Paruolo further explains.

What actually makes someone an empathetic person?

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There's so many definitions for empathy, but I thought it would be wise to ask a licensed professional for her opinion on the matter. "Empathy means to feel what others are feeling. You do not have to have a personal direct experience with something to feel empathy for another person," shares Paruolo.

For example, your friend could call to tell you she has to have fibroid removal surgery and is feeling scared. You may have never had surgery, but you could find yourself feeling the need to comfort her in spite of this. Paruolo says, "The cool thing about our brains is that we have mirror neurons, which means part of our brain is set up to feel what others feel. The ability to attune to others' emotional states comes naturally to some people, while others may need to develop this capacity more consciously."

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To break it down even further, here's signs that Paruolo says point to your empathetic nature.

Physical Signs:

  • Getting physically exhausted after being in crowds
  • Feeling drained after social interactions, even enjoyable ones (OMG I feel so seen!)
  • Needing extra time alone to recharge

Emotional Signs:

  • Absorbing other people's emotions like a sponge
  • Feeling anxious or overwhelmed in emotionally charged environments
  • Finding it hard to watch violence or cruelty in movies/TV

Social Signs:

  • Feeling responsible for others' happiness
  • Having trouble saying "no" to people who need help

Mental Signs:

  • Picking up on subtle changes in others' moods
  • Being highly attuned to body language and tone
  • Finding it hard to distinguish your feelings from others' feelings

It sounds like I'm the empathetic friend, but are there any downsides to this?

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I've been an empath for as long as I can remember and I've found that I have to 'recharge' my social batteries at times. I thought it was because I was trying to be superwoman by fixing others' problems, but it turns out theres more to it than that. Paruolo says, "Empathetic friends and people have an uncanny ability to sense others' emotional states even when unspoken, and frequently need recovery time after intense social interactions. They tend to be deeply affected by others' experiences and naturally consider situations from multiple perspectives."

In the long run, she says it can be "distressing" for some people to always feel the feelings of others. Over time, she says, "it can cause you to shut down and retract." This can look like not being as quick to respond to the funny memes your friends send you or not even answering their phone calls right away.

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But, this doesn't mean you're the only person who tends to go through this. "Many empaths struggle with maintaining boundaries due to their deep emotional attunement," she says. Color me guilty because this sounds so much like me. It got so bad at one point that my sister nicknamed me 'Captain Save-A-Lot,' which is actually the clean version of what she truly meant. Still, empathy fatigue is no laughing matter nor does it mean you're defected. You just have the natural ability to show people their feelings are important to you.

How can I protect my peace as the empathetic friend?

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You know you need to set boundaries, but what does that mean? Paruolo says, "The key is understanding that empathy needs to be balanced with compassion - it's not just about feeling others' emotions but also knowing how to help without depleting yourself."

One of the things she loves to do is "encourage empaths to set clear boundaries around their emotional availability and make time for regular grounding exercises." As with gratitude journaling, try to focus on an activity that calls for you to be present. Focus on what you can hear, see, touch, taste, and smell.

"Self-care isn't just a luxury; it's essential maintenance for empaths. This might mean scheduling alone time, finding a supportive therapist, or joining communities where you can process your experiences," Paruolo implores.

I know how to be there for others, but how do I ask for emotional support when I need it?

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You may feel like it's impossible to ask others for help since your shoulders are the ones people cry on, but you're only doing yourself a disservice by not speaking up. No one's super resilient or able to handle all of their distressing feelings alone. We're not meant to.

It's the reason Paruolo wants you to speak up about what you need. "The most effective approach I've seen is being direct about your needs rather than hoping others will figure them out," she says. I made this mistake during postpartum and found myself expecting my family & friends to know exactly how I felt, but they're not mind readers. The more I verbally asked for help with little or big tasks, the more my mental and emotional load lightened.

Paruolo wants you to look at "asking for support as strengthening your friendships through trust and vulnerability, instead of waiting until you're overwhelmed." By the time you reach that point, you'll be ready to enter rage or full-blown shut down mode and they're not fun.

Avoid unlocking their proverbial doors by scheduling "regular check-ins with trusted friends," suggests Paruolo. "This creates a sustainable support system and helps prevent emotional crisis points.

We have even more self-care stories for you to dive into if you need a mental and emotional boost!

Austin Butler as Elvis, Selena Gomez as Linda Rondstat, and now Timothée Chalamet as Bob Dylan — there will never be enough biopics for me! (The real question is when are we going to get a Taylor Swift movie?). When pictures from the set of the new Bob Dylan movie, A Complete Unknown, hit Twitter, I had to do a double take because Timothée Chalamet looks so much like the musician I couldn't believe my eyes! You can watch the A Complete Unknown trailer here.

Timothée is going to be joined by Met Gala queen Elle Fanning, as well as Top Gun superstar Monica Barbaro. Here's everything you need to know about the movie — and our favorite Bob Dylan songs to listen to while you wait for its release.

Keep reading to see the latest updates from Timothée Chalamet's Bob Dylan biopic A Complete Unknown.

  • Timothée Chalamet stars in A Complete Unknown, coming to theaters December 25, 2024.
  • He's joined by Elle Fanning and Monica Barbaro.
  • The movie follows Bob Dylan's career in the 1960s as he rises to fame and later shifts from folk to rock'n'roll.

Did Timothée Chalamet take inspiration from Austin Butler’s Elvis?

Timothée Chalamet recently revealed that while he originally wanted to approach A Complete Unknown by taking direct inspiration from Bob Dylan, he quickly changed his tone...so to speak. "Somebody once said to me, you can't make a movie about a painter because it's not interesting to watch paint dry," he says in People's exclusive video. "Bob has that element because he's not one of these forward-facing musicians."

While Timmy saw Natalie Portman a sequence in Jackie "step-for-step exactly what Jackie did," and paid attention to "all this stuff that I saw my good friend Austin Butler crush it with on Elvis," he quickly realized "I gotta do none of this because this is not my style."

"Bob did not have a vocal coach," he continues. "He had two bottles of red wine and four packs of cigarettes. There's no way to impersonate that." One of my favorite things about biopics is seeing how a well-known actor portrays a recognizable figure. And you can see Timothée Chalamet's interpretation of Bob Dylan in theaters December 25!

Monica Barbaro Sings Her Heart Out

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We got a look at Monica Barbaro as singer-songwriter Joan Baez, who was one of the first major artists in the 1960s to record Bob Dylan's music!

I was super impressed to learn Timothée showed up and sang live for the film. "It was important for me to play and sing on set because it was in the spirit of the movie to do it live," he says in a video from People. "Many of the artists through American pop culture that had the balls to turn their back on what was expected of them, that moment started with Bob. His words are relevant; 'Times They are A Changing' ' is relevant, 'Blowin' in the Wind' is relevant."

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Elle Fanning totally embodies the late '60s vibe in this fall outfit. The bold maroon blazer, the long straight hair, and the striped turtleneck — I love it all! Elle is starring this Bob Dylan movie as Sylvie Russo, a university student and artist Bob falls for in the '60s.

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Thanks to some onset leaks, we also got a glimpse of the movie's version of The Freewheelin'! Elle Fanning and Timothée Chalamet look incredible as Sylvia Russo and Bob Dylan. I'm a sucker for any kind of recreation, so seeing this new version of the classic record cover is incredible!!

The First Pictures From Timothée Chalamet's Bob Dylan Movie

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Timothée Chalamet has totally transformed into Bob Dylan on the set of A Complete Unknown. And when I saw the pictures of Timothée carrying the guitar my jaw dropped!! He completely engrossed himself in Wonka and Dune 2 and I'm so excited to see him do the same for this Bob Dylan movie.

What is the movie about Bob Dylan called?

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A Complete Unknown Plot

Timothée Chalamet's Bob Dylan movie is called A Complete Unknown. The movie filmed around New York City in the spring of 2024, and James Mangold is serving as director (you might recognize his name from Logan, Girl, Interrupted, and Walk the Line). The movie will cover the period during the 1960s when Bob Dylan shifted from folk to rock'n'roll, changing the face of pop culture (and culture in general, TBH), forever.

"When that movie finally comes out, people are going to be shocked because you're going to think you're hearing Bob Dylan sing," vocal coach Eric Vetro tells PEOPLE. "[Timothée Chalamet] just has this uncanny ability to not impersonate, but really breathe life into it. He's embodying Bob Dylan and what he was like at that age."

Who else is in A Complete Unknown with Timothée Chalamet?

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A Complete Unknown Cast

The A Complete Unknown cast is incredible! Alongside Timothée Chalamet as Bob Dylan, we'll see Top Gun: Maverick's Monica Barbaro as Joan Baez, Elle Fanning as Sylvie Russo, Edward Norton as Pete Seeger, Boyd Holbrook as Johnny Cash, and Nick Offerman as Alan Lomax.

When is the Bob Dylan movie coming out?

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A Complete Unknown Release Date

A Complete Unknown will hit theaters on December 25, 2024. And since Timothée Chalamet has been seen in turtlenecks, hats, and jackets on set, this sounds like the perfect cozy movie to me!

I always need some brand new music to listen to once the weather gets chilly, and I will for sure be listening to anything Timothée records.

What song did Bob Dylan write for a movie?

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Bob Dylan wrote "Things Have Changed" for the 2000 movie Wonder Boys, which starred Michael Douglas, Tobey Maguire, and Katie Holmes. This Bob Dylan song ended up winning the Academy Award for Best Original Songand the Golden Globe Award for Best Original Song!

"Knockin' On Heaven's Door," which is arguably the singer's most popular track, was released two months after the 1973 premiere of Pat Garrett and Billy the Kid as a part of the film's soundtrack.

What are some other Bob Dylan songs to listen to?

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I totally agree that one of the best Bob Dylan songs is "Knockin' On Heaven's Door," but "Blowin' In The Wind" and "The Times They Are A-Changin'" are also great songs to listen to if you're a new Bob Dylan fan. So far, "The Times They Are A-Changin'" is my personal favorite song.

His style is the perfect blend of rock and folk that reminds me of summer picnics and walks in the woods. His sound also reportedly inspired Taylor Swift's Folklore!

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Lately, we've been faced with anxiety everywhere we turn. It's okay if (like us), you don't always know how to deal with the toughest of times, especially when the tough times never seem to end. If you are feeling that way, we're right there with you! Our team has always shared the ways we cope with our personal stressors over the years, and we wanna share these quick and easy tips for how to calm down with you! Keep reading for our recommendations — hopefully they can help the next time you're feeling anxious.

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Intentional Thoughts

I'm someone who has a hard time letting things go; I can agonize over one thought or situation for days! Because of this, I focus a lot on taking thoughts captive, which just means pinpointing anxious thoughts and replacing them with what I know is true.

When I have an anxious thought, I do a creative visualization exercise in which I imagine it's inside a bubble floating over my head. Then I slam an imaginary door over the memory and lock it. Then the bubble explodes and the thought doesn't exist anymore. It's not necessarily pretending like it never happened, but it does allow me to exercise some control over what I allow myself to spend time and energy thinking about.

—Choe Williams, Entertainment Editor

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Breathing Techniques

My mom is a Pre-K teacher and suggested I try the breathing exercises she does with her kids who are just four years old (I'm 31 for context). The first is called Mountain Breathing, which entails holding up your hand and tracing the outline of your fingers. As you climb up the mountain (or your finger), inhale, and as you trace down into the valley between your fingers, exhale. Another breathing visualization she recommends is as you inhale, imagine yourself breathing in to smell the flowers, and exhale to blow out a candle. These little imaginative scenarios help me get out of my head and focus on my breathing when I need a little reset throughout the day.

Hammock Swinging

Whenever I'm feeling super stressed, I head for the hammock I setup in my front yard. Just as rocking can soothe babies, swinging in a hammock is a powerful soother for adults too! I feel super chilled afterwards and am usually getting some Vitamin D while I'm at it for a win-win.

Painting

During the pandemic, I revisited arts and crafts with soft pastels. I started mixing the colors and doing gradient shadings on card stock with my hands, and it proved to be a super meditative way to decompress. The end result is DIY art you can share or pin on your fridge or wall.

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Breathing Techniques

Nothing calms me down quite like alternate-nostril breathing. I first learned about this technique in my yoga classes, but the practice (called Nadi Shodhana in Sanskrit) dates back to the Yoga Sutras of Patanjali, which was thought to be written sometime between 200 BC and 200 CE. Put simply, you sit in a comfortable position, close your eyes, and cover one nostril while you breathe in through the other. Then, you switch which nostril you're holding closed, and breathe out. In modern times, the connection between vagal nerve tone (which is correlated with anxiety and emotional regulation) and alternate-nostril breathing is becoming more and more mainstream, which may eventually help us better understand why this practice is so naturally calming.

Tarot Reading

Tarot can mean a lot of different things to different people. For me, I use tarot cards as a method to help me understand what lessons I'm learning at any given time. This has allowed me to view stressors in my life as learning experiences, which has helped me stay calm in numerous crises. I personally like to light some incense or a scented candle, sit quietly, and pull a card to see what resonates. That said, tarot and its associated images and meanings can be scary or triggering if you don't have a deep and gentle understanding of what the cards mean. I recommend Lindsay Mack's classes and podcasts for anyone who wants to learn about tarot in a non-judgemental, non-predictive, trauma-informed way.

—Maggie McCracken, Former Senior Editor

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Sensory Accessories

My recent ways of coping/de-stressing have primarily been spiky sensory finger rings, which are a huge help when I need to get something done and can't stop my day to destress. I grab one of these guys which I have all over the place (most of my jacket pockets + purses), and it helps to calm me down and reset my focus.

Meditation On The Move

Another thing I do that I am trying to integrate into my daily routine is guided meditation walks. As someone who hasn't mastered sitting meditation I've found some on Headspace that I'm enjoying that are specifically for going on a walk through a city.

—Claire Shadomy, Former Graphic Designer

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Baths...

In times of high stress, or after a long day, my go-to is always a candle-lit bath soak. I put a large scoop of Epsom salts in the tub with a few drops of my favorite essential oil and place tea lights all around the tub. It’s like my secret getaway from the rest of the world. I always make a point to leave my phone in the other room too so I utilize the time to just relax in silence. Water triggers the parasympathetic nervous system, which is responsible for the body's “rest and digest” response. It always gets my heart rate and blood pressure down.

...And Sound Baths

Sound baths are a meditative experience where you’re “bathed” in sound waves. I love to watch them online but you can also create your own experience. I find meditating with a singing bowl so relaxing. It can take a little practice, but once you’ve nailed the hand movement, it’s an interactive way to ease stress and channel your focus elsewhere.

—Allison Cimo, Former Social Media Manager

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Take A Hike

Pretty much every day in 2020 I walked the trails near my house and I started to pick up a small rock each time. I'd fidget with it while I cleared my mind and let nature calm my nerves. I would throw the rock back into nature after my hike and it felt like a release for all of my worries.

Bedtime Music

My daughter and I listen to Doze sleep music on Headspace before we go to bed. It calms her late-night zoomies (and mine) and gets her to sleep in minutes!

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Journaling

What I use for my anxiety is the Intelligent Change Five Minute Journal. I have a safe word in place for when I feel myself spiraling or I'm not able to control my thoughts and breathing.

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If you're a rom-com fan who also can't get enough of Jane Austen's books, you've probably seen the Bridget Jones movies. The story (which is loosely based on Pride & Prejudice) follows the titular Bridget Jones, a 30-something who sets out on a mission to improve herself over the course of a year while she looks for a partner. And, in true romantic movie form, she keeps a diary the whole time. Not only can we rewatch the original trilogy as many times as we want, but we're also getting a fourth movie! Here's everything we know about Bridget Jones 4.

Will there be a Bridget Jones 4?

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Yes, Bridget Jones 4 is on its way! Deadline confirmed that the new movie, officially titled Bridget Jones: Mad About the Boy, is on its way. The film will follow Bridget in her early 50s as she juggles motherhood with all the other areas of her life. We don't know much else quite yet, but if it's anything like the rest of the series, Bridget Jones 4 is sure to have plenty of heart and humor.

Hugh Grant recently told Extra he thinks this installment is "the best" yet. "It's the one with the most heart," he says. "It's very moving, but also very funny." But fair warning! He also told BBC the movie is "very, very sad."

When is Bridget Jones 4 coming out?

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Bridget Jones: Mad About the Boy is scheduled to premiere on February 14, 2025. Romantic comedies are always the perfect choice for a Valentine's Day movie night, whether you're with your partner or celebrating with all your Galentines! Even though we have quite a way to go before we can watch the new movie, you can binge all three of the other Bridget Jones movies on Max now!

Is Mark Darcy in Bridget Jones 4?

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There's no word on whether Colin Firth's Mark Darcy will return for Bridget Jones 4, but never say never! We do know that Renée Zellweger will be back as Bridget Jones, and that we'll also see Hugh Grant return as Daniel Cleaver and Emma Thompson as Dr. Rawling. The movie also stars Chiwetel Ejiofor and The White Lotus & One Day star Leo Woodall.

Is there a fourth Bridget Jones book?

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Yes, there's a fourth Bridget Jones book, but it might surprise you to know the order of the titles is different than the order of the movies! Helen Fielding published the Bridget Jones's Diary column in the British newspaper The Independent, then published a novel version in 1996. The first book was followed by The Edge of Reason in 1999, Mad About the Boy in 2013, and Bridget Jones's Baby: The Diaries in 2016.

The film series is made up of Bridget Jones's Diary in 2001, Bridget Jones: The Edge of Reason in 2004, Bridget Jones's Baby in 2016, and Bridget Jones: Mad About the Boy in 2025.

Who was the father of Bridget Jones baby?

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At the end of the Bridget Jones's Babymovie, we learn that Mark Darcy is the father of Bridget Jones's baby, and the couple ends up getting married!

Watch The Official Trailer For 'Mad About The Boy'

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It looks like Bridget Jones is getting a crash course lesson in giving herself permission to live after becoming a widowed single mother!

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If you're unsure what the Vanilla Girl Aesthetic is, it's all about clean lines, neutral colors, cozy vibes, and minimalist style. If you aren't a Vanilla Girl yourself, you've likely got a few of them on your holiday gift list, and this is the ultimate gift guide for them. Calming candles, cozy sweaters, and the cutest, trendiest socks are all on TikToker's top Vanilla Girl lists, so we've made sure to find the best versions of each to curate a well-rounded guide to gifting for your fave Vanilla Girl.

Thanks for reading about our favorite finds from across the internet! FYI: We participate in affiliate programs and may get a share of the revenue from your purchase.

These Socks Are a Luxury for Your Feet

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These fuzzy socks are just the right amount of soft and comfy without being too thick and sweaty. These are great for a day lying around the house but also look great poking out of a pair of boots.

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Give Them a Smooth Start With This Primer

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This No 7 primer is a brilliant option for your Vanilla Girl. The primer helps to even out skin texture and tone and gives a solid grip for your favorite foundation. It's made to give you that gorgeous, dewy look every time.

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This Blanket Ladder Is a Vanilla Girl Must-Have

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This elegant blanket ladder is a great, Pinterest-beloved way to style and store all your favorite throw blankets. This ladder shows up all over the internet thanks to the effortless style it adds.

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Put Them In the Holiday Mood With This Candle

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Sure, Santa's Workshop might not be real, but this Homesick candle can help you feel like it is. The natural, woodsy smell and the minimalist design make it a great buy for your Vanilla Girl.

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Vanilla Girls Love This Lighter

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If there's one thing a Vanilla Girl loves, it's a candle. This flameless lighter is a dream buy for the candle lover in your life, instantly lighting all their favorite candles with no flame required.

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Embrace Exfoliation With This Sea Salt Scrub

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This amazing coffee salt scrub lets you get deep exfoliation and lasting hydration. The vanilla-scented scrub is a must for really embracing those weekly "everything" showers.

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These Long Socks Are an Essential

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Any Vanilla Girl would love to have these extra-long socks. These cozy socks look fantastic with loafers and a skirt, but they can be styled in all sorts of ways with all sorts of outfits.

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This No 7 Foundation Was Made for the Dewy Look

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This liquid foundation gives incredible coverage that looks and feels natural. You can wear this without worrying about the product settling into fine lines or feeling heavy and chalky.

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This Woven Basket Softens Any Room

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You can use this woven basket as the base of a Vanilla Girl gift basket. Or, you can gift this basket as great storage for their favorite throw blankets; it helps soften up a room and makes it feel cozier.

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These Flannel Sheets Are a Neutral Dream

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Keep the Vanilla Girl on your list warm and toasty with this set of flannel sheets. These are a great way to create the best possible cozy environment for spending time curled up with a good book.

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Relax and Unwind With This Weighted Blanket

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This knit weighted blanket is chunky, elegant, and a great way to relax and unwind when you've had a long day. The neutral color scheme makes it a great buy for the Vanilla Girl aesthetic.

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This Bodywash Is Great for Sensitive Skin

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Smell like vanilla and roses with this gorgeous bodywash made for sensitive skin. The formula is lightly scented, so it won't irritate, and it leaves your skin smelling and feeling amazing.

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Add Natural Radiance With This Illuminator

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Gift your Vanilla Girl this incredible Saie Illuminator and gift them the beautiful, radiant skin they're looking for. Minimal makeup required, minimal effort needed, but gorgeous, dewy results every time.

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This Puffer Bag Was Meant for Chilly Days

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There's something about the puffer style that really works for the winter months. This puffer bag is one of our favorites, giving you all the storage space you need and more than enough style.

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Create a Cozy Atmosphere With This Melter

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This warmer makes a fantastic gift for any friend, but especially for Vanilla Girls. Help them to create the coziest environment with this beautiful, elegant piece that looks good in any room.

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You Can't Go Wrong With an Oversized Sweater

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This cozy sweater is the sort of piece you want to get lost in. Not only is it super comfortable and perfectly oversized, but it also comes in a range of beautifully minimalist and neutral colors.

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These UGG Slippers Have Gone Viral

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TikTok can't get enough of these gorgeous UGG slippers. These are super stylish, look great with anything, and they've got thick soles, so you can wear them around the house or around town.

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Get the Stanley In the Best Neutral Shade

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Did you know the famous Stanley Quencher comes in gorgeous, neutral tones? This white mug has been at the top of the Vanilla Girl gift list for a while now, and it's always sold out, so be sure to snag it while you can.

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These New Balance Shoes Are a Neutral Dream

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Not only are the cream New Balance 237 V1's a perfectly shaded dream, but they're also incredibly comfortable. Customers love how durable and supportive they are, whether they're running errands or running a track.

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These Thick Socks Were Made for Cozy Days

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Add these thick socks to your Vanilla Girl gift basket. You might not think socks make a great gift, but these are so thoughtful, so comfortable, and so trendy that they're going to impress the recipient.

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This Gold Chain Is Beautifully Dainty

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This gorgeous herringbone chain can be styled with absolutely anything in their wardrobe, any day. It makes a great starter for a necklace stack or looks elegant and bold all on its own.

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This Oversized Hoodie Is So Trendy

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The internet can't stop talking about this oversized hoodie. TikTok is full of girlies styling this hoodie with everything from skirts and cute heels or yoga pants and a great pair of fuzzy boots.

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These Silken Pajamas Keep You Elegant While You Snooze

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These gorgeous silky pajamas are stylish, elegant, and they're great for lounging all day. If your Vanilla Girl is all about spending lazy days in bed, they're going to love these thoughtful jammies.

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This Quilted Bag Set Is Stunning and Useful

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Gifting things that can be useful and stylish is the way to go. We love this gorgeous set of quilted makeup bags, and they're even better if you stash a few great Vanilla Girl makeup essentials inside before you wrap them.

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This Candle Helps Them Keep Their Holiday Home Cozy

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We love this stunning soy candle. The cinnamon and vanilla blend turns their space into a warm haven they'll want to spend hours snuggled up in, reading books on a dreary, rainy day.

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This Understated Necklace Is a Must

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You can't go wrong with minimal jewelry, and this understated necklace is one of our favorites. This gold heart adds a touch of sparkle and elegance to any outfit in your Vanilla Girl's wardrobe.

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This Candle Looks and Smells Luxurious

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If you're creating a Vanilla Girl gift basket, this gorgeous matte candle is a great place to start. Both the scent and the look are luxurious and elegant and elevate any room you add it to.

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This Oversized Sweater Looks Great With Jeans

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Honestly, this beautiful knit sweater looks great with anything, but we think it'll go best with jeans or leggings. This makes a really thoughtful gift for the girls in your life who like to keep it cozy wherever they go.

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This Open Front Cardigan Is a Classic

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This cozy cardigan is a great addition to any wardrobe. The jacket looks great pulled over a loungewear set, styled with your work 'fit, or worn with your favorite go-to casual looks.

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This Palette Gives a Soft, Glamorous Look

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This palette from Anastasia Beverly Hills has all the colors needed to create a dreamy, neutral, soft look. The glamorous colors are rich, pigmented, and blend beautifully for smokey looks.

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Your Bed Should Be Dreamy

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This duvet set adds a lovely neutral color, plenty of warmth, and tons of style to your bedroom, making your setup as dreamy and cozy as possible. This is essential for the Vanilla Girl in your life.

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Go for Baroque With This Necklace

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This necklace won't break the bank; it's a beautifully affordable way to add a dash of elevated glamor. This makes a great gift for the holidays and looks good with elegant necklace stacks.

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These Cream Converse Look Just Casual Enough

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The best thing about these cream Converse is that they can be styled with anything in your wardrobe. The shoes are a classic that looks and feels comfortable and casual with your favorite dresses, jeans, and more.

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This Cable Knit Sweater Is So Glamorous

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An oversized sweater is always a good idea, and we're pretty obsessed with this particular sweater. The cable knit makes it look dreamy and vintage, and the oversized fit gives it the boyfriend look.

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This Highlighter Is Light and Bright

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Add a bit of dewy brightness to your makeup look with this Catrice liquid highlighter. This buy is great for adding to your Vanilla Girl gift basket, helping them get a beautiful, natural look in no time.

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We Love This Puffer Jacket

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This gorgeous puffer jacket pairs well with practically anything. Your Vanilla Girl is going to want to live in this jacket; it feels as cozy as the bed they were forced to get out of this morning.

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These Bedside Lamps Look Great in Any Room

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Overhead lighting is the bane of any Vanilla Girls' existence, which is what makes these beautiful little lamps such a great buy. They're elegant and easy to use, and your Vanilla Girl will love them.

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